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It probably is going to influence a judge less than you might think. Your lawyer might be able to subpoena this, though I doubt it would be easy or cheap or ultimately worth it. Ethics aside, your best bet to obtain it is to follow or friend her with a fake profile. But again it is probably not the smoking gun you think it is. Family court judges see a lot of crap and this is pretty small potatoes. Just tell your lawyer what you want to achieve, pay up, and follow their advice.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/21 10:36 AM
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I came home from work and she had her phone inside a coffee cup (ghetto speakers) with some terrible pop song blaring. I picked up the phone to turn off the music and saw a text from her friend if she was going to tell me tonight. Tell me what? I don’t say anything and put it back. Anyway she tells me she’s going out with her girlfriends, something she’s been doing a lot. I put our two year old son to bed and go to sleep myself before she comes in blitzed at maybe 1-2 am. She passes out in bed. …
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/21 05:17 AM
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I think this is a really good angle to take. 50-50 really frees both parents up to decompress on off weeks, get errands and work done, and overall it just makes you a better parent, as you can be more mentally present in the weeks you have the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/21 02:50 PM
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Avoid putting things in writing you wouldn't want a judge to see. Particularly if custody is involved, begin creating facts on the ground immediately. Do not allow your stbx to establish a routine you would not be ok with being established permanently, because that is likely what will happen. This is difficult to hear if you were wronged in some way, but if you can settle at anywhere remotely acceptable financial terms, you should. The sooner this is over, the sooner you can truly rebuild.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/20 06:54 PM
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Rather than having to pay her off, which will be a continuing tie between you two and maybe a source of conflict, why not as part of a divorce settlement sell the house, split the proceeds, and start totally fresh without that obligation to weigh you down? The good thing about the kids being young is you can make all these changes and they’ll hopefully have little or no memory of them down the road.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/20 02:35 PM
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Well, they're also not the only two lawyers in existence. If you're not 100 percent comfortable with either of them, why not do some more consults?
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/20 01:12 PM
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Well, you had a lawyer who was honest with you, even though it wasn’t what you wanted to hear, and you had a lawyer who advised you to do something unethical (from the perspective of legal ethics). I work in the area of financial crime and the one thing I have learned to be true, possibly in my entire life, is no underhanded financial dealing will remain secret in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/20 05:39 AM
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I guess it's a matter of opinion. The mediator will probably be a lawyer. Then I brought my own lawyer to the mediation for advice. Again, you're spending money up front to avoid spending money later. (If you end up paying $1,500 a month in alimony and child support over ten years... how much does that ultimately cost?) So a lawyer would not not be necessary, but possibly helpful. Retaining a lawyer is only expensive if you make it expensive. Emails, calls, etc. It's more about knowing what you …
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/20 04:59 PM
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You or your attorney (or her attorney) will file a petition for equitable distribution. This will require you both to split the value of the house, which will involve either selling it and dividing the proceeds or her making arrangements to compensate you for your half the equity in exchange for getting the house. Given that she has no job, I imagine selling is more practical for her. You could also stay in the house and buy her out. It's negotiable. You guys might want to try retaining lawyers …
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/20 04:21 PM
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I got divorced in NC, my spouse committed adultery, and adultery may be a bar against having to pay spousal support. It was in my case, where even though I make over twice what she does, I do not have to pay alimony. It's a very important exception to the "no fault divorce" law in NC. Definitely talk to your lawyer about it. Reference: " The Adultery statute in NC outlines the situations in which the court awards alimony. First, the party moving for alimony must establish that they are the depen…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/20 04:04 PM
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I experienced something similar after being married 6 years. I was stressed out over financial problems we were having, largely resulting from her spending, and had been working a lot, but also honestly, when I was sitting there at my desk I was also often just playing games as an escape. And then when she wanted to "go out with her girlfriends," it increasingly was not a big deal for me to stay in and watch our infant son. So she started having an affair with a guy I knew, this hipster musician…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/20 05:20 AM
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You have the responsibility to manage your costs by thinking about the consequences of your actions and decisions. Calls, emails, motions, hearings- none of these things are free.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/20 06:41 AM
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First of all, in many jurisdictions 50/50 custody is now the default arrangement. For your wife to get more than that you would either have to agree to it or she would have to prove you were somehow unfit (and we're talking substance abuse problems, constantly absent, etc). So the burden is really on her. You don't have to prove anything. I totally agree with your argument about how turning a parent into a visitor is an inherently unstable situation. Children ultimately benefit from seeing both …
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/20 05:02 PM
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I have 50/50 custody of my son and my child support payment includes "work related childcare" (basically his preschool) and I also pay for his medical insurance separately. According to our child support agreement, we split medical and extra-curricular expenses 50-50, although in practice she's never reimbursed me for anything (camps, museum memberships, doctor visits, etc). I've found it easier to just buy my own clothes for him and my ex wife does the same, even though the child support guidel…
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/20 04:25 PM
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I was divorced in North Carolina (final September 2019). Here are some important points that I'm sure others have covered here. The first one is VERY important. NC is a no fault divorce state, with one very important stipulation. In NC COMMITTING ADULTERY BARS A SPOUSE FROM RECEIVING SPOUSAL SUPPORT PAYMENTS. Thank god. You should probably make sure you have some proof or she admits it though. You are going to need to be separated for an entire calendar year before you can receive the divorce. N…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/20 03:13 AM
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Most likely didn't pay the attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/20 06:39 AM
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Getting a lawyer is the best investment you will ever make. Get stuck with a bad custody arrangement, maximum child support, and alimony, and that will cost you more in the long run. Worst case scenario, things get dirty and you could be facing a restraining order with possible criminal implications. This can escalate quickly. Get a lawyer and protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/19 02:03 PM
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Not a lawyer, but from my divorce... if any money from you went into paying for that house or its upkeep, it may be marital property. Obviously talk to a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/19 01:25 PM
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