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Im not arguing that they aren’t different. You can be against financial abortions, I don’t agree they should be a thing either. I’m saying that if your argument is “that men should have kept it in their pants” but you don’t hold women to the same standard you’re a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 12:34 PM
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A woman can just give custody to the father and choose to pay child support though? The mental gymnastics required to convince yourself that you’re not being hypocritical by having complete different standards for different sexes in the exact same situation is mind boggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 12:23 PM
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Your child being born is parent hood.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 12:12 PM
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Forced gestation is the same as forced parent hood. You can’t be for one sex being able to opt out of parent hood at will while telling the other “they should have kept it in their pants” without being a massive hypocrite
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 12:03 PM
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That’s nonsense
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 10:09 AM
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So how do you feel about the argument women shouldn’t have access to abortions because they shouldn’t have had unprotected sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 09:46 AM
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I think it’s a reasonable topic to debate. The whole thing with liberal/left wing people being whole heartedly in favour of women getting abortions for whatever reason they like while telling men who want to opt out of financially supporting a child that “they should have kept in in their pants” is the definition of hypocrisy and is the exact same thing they hate being levelled at women by right wing conservatives. Ultimately though I’ll never be in favour of supporting anyone being allowed to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 09:38 AM
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Anyone who isn’t Gary Cooper
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 02:40 AM
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There’s no doubt Simone Biles is more successful than Jonathan Owens. She is the greatest female gymnast of all time while he is a borderline practice squad player. Owens thinks he’s the “catch” in the relationship because he could be dating a woman far better looking than Simone Biles. It’s pretty funny that he’s getting so much criticism when if the shoe was on the other foot and it was a less successful female athlete being disrespectfully asked “How in the hell did you pull this guy” and she…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 10:55 PM
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Tinder wouldn’t be a very good platform to be cheating though, it is the most commonly used dating app and there is no way to send photos to people without uploading them to your publicly viewable profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:09 PM
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You lost me at the “tiny minority of single moms are single because they got left by their husbands” which is your first paragraph. The percentage of single moms that are divorced or separated would be massive and would account for at least 1/3 of single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 12:34 PM
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Because they don’t want to see their girlfriend getting fucked by other men obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:21 AM
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I don’t think it’s really ignorance to not want a detailed visual account of every instance your partner got fucked before they met you. Most normal people understand that their partner had a sex life before they met and just don’t want to hear the details.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:07 AM
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Im married but only wear my wedding ring occasionally. Haven’t noticed a single difference in how women interact with me whether I have it on or not. I actually do believe in “pre selection” but any single person thinking about wearing a fake wedding ring to get women should understand that that is weird as fuck and also unlikely to help you get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:23 PM
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I agree that most men on here aren’t actually red pilled, if you just take red pilled ideas like the wall, female hypergamy etc but you don’t actually use them to try get women it’s not TRP. I think this sub is actually just full of black pill and MGTOW people tbh. That said I don’t think you have a great grasp on what the red pill actually is. Being Red Pilled was never about being strong or an alpha male.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:42 AM
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Straight to GULAG
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:53 PM
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I don’t care
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:02 AM
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Well that’s what I said. I’ve never met a guy stringing multiple girls along and the women all think they are in a committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 08:55 AM
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I don’t care what women do. You can sleep with a handful of men, have 100 one night stands, stay a virgin I really don’t care. I’m just pointing out that the majority of men don’t want to marry a girl who has a reputation for being easy so you can do whatever you want with that information.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:02 PM
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Ok so I’ll change that from “I don’t think you know what paradoxical means” to “im positive you don’t know what paradoxical means”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 08:29 AM
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How would you not if you have an active social life with a partner who also has one?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 08:13 AM
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Same but I’ve never said that good looking guys aren’t stringing along multiple women. I’ve never met a guy that has multiple women all thinking they are in a committed relationship though which is what people are implying when citing this study.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 06:59 AM
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I don’t think you know what paradoxical means to be honest. A paradox is a statement that contradicts itself, wanting to sleep around but marry a partner who hasn’t is hypocritical not paradoxical.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 05:06 AM
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Thanks for that. Am I missing the 70/30 part though? The only thing that I can see is that in the 18-29 age bracket that 51% of men reported they were single compared with 32% of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:42 AM
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Can someone actually link the study that this has been taken from? Incels are loving it because it reinforces their wet dream of chad and his harem but it’s not what I see in every day life either and I’d imagine it has something to do with details on how that study was conducted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:13 AM
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No it isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:09 AM
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How does this idiotic question keep coming up? Men want to fuck women. Men don’t want to marry a woman who has fucked everyone else. The end.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:04 AM
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I think you’re overthinking slightly to be honest. Humans are social and tribal animals so it’s just human nature to forge relationships with people we feel in some way socially connected to over random strangers approaching us. Despite the cliche “opposites attract” studies show that we are generally more attracted to people who are familiar to us, remind us of friends or family or share a similar background and upbringing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 12:43 AM
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I’m not red pilled at all but this post is way off the mark. Red pilled ideology appeals to a lot of angry and disenfranchised young men but you don’t need to be either to believe there is truth in red pilled ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:42 AM
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that’s what I mean really. I’ve never really noticed it. I do think there is something to mate choice copying as in I think people get more interested in people when they think others are interested in them but just don’t think the wedding ring thing is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 07:48 AM
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I don’t really know for sure, OP just said “I’m sure everyone is familiar with the wedding ring effect” I assume he meant the idea that women are more interested in guys that are married as some form of “mate choice copying”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 05:30 AM
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I think women who want kids look at a single father and think that a man looking after kids is attractive but also don’t find the idea of getting into a relationship with that person attractive. Also I’d love to hear other peoples opinions on the “wedding ring effect” as I’ve never actually seen or heard it being a thing outside of movies and TV shows. I literally never notice whether a woman is wearing a ring or not plus I’m married, wear my ring on and off and haven’t noticed any difference to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:15 PM
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I know reading is hard but try reading my original comment again. All those guys are dating or have dated women +10 years younger than them. As for your list how many of those relationships started when the woman was younger than 30 and how many of them started before the man became high value?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:45 AM
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You mean like Leo DiCaprio, Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Johnnie Depp, Elon Musk, Eddie Murphy, Harrison Ford, Jeff Goldbloom, Jim Carey, Al Pacino, Sean Penn, Chris Pratt, Mel Gibson, P Diddy, Joaquin Phoenix and Donald Trump? Not in the same league as Alex Volkanovski I know
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:26 AM
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I kind of don’t know what this list proves other than you found a bunch of celebrities who are married to women a similar age to them? I can’t be bothered doing it but I’m sure you could make a similar list of celebrities dating women over ten years younger than them. I also don’t understand this subs obsession with using celebrities as examples when talking about modern day dating dynamics for everyday people. There’s literally no relevance.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:50 AM
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I’d normally assume that it was deliberate with that amount of a gap. Also depends on your age really. A 35 year old man telling me he met a 19 year old girl and they are dating but neither of them were actually looking for an older/younger partner seems far fetched. A 40 year old dating a 56 year old doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 02:14 AM
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How big does the gap need to be to be defined as an age gap relationship? I think the larger the age gap the more likelihood that one of the partners was specifically looking for an older/younger partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 01:58 AM
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I don’t think this is really controversial. Men’s attractiveness isn’t as dependant on looking youthful as women’s is and society as a whole is more accepting of signs of aging in men (grey hairs, wrinkles etc) than they are for women. That said that whole phenomenon doesn’t really make dating any easier for the average or below average man as you age. The dating pool gets smaller and if you weren’t much to write home about at 25 there’s 99.9% chance you won’t be much to write home about at 35, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:44 PM
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You still go through customs though. I don’t know how you would explain several hundred thousand in cold hard cash to customs when you arrive at your destination.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:50 AM
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I don’t have the same aversion to being a step dad but there’s something not wholesome about that meme. Don’t know if it’s because it sounds like someone experienced manipulating someone who is very inexperienced or that anon seems to be pussy struck and way too in love and committed after only 2 months or that this chick seems to be introducing her kid to new “dads” way too quickly but something about it makes me not find it very heartwarming. Could definitely see him getting the “you’re a grea…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:19 AM
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The idea on this sub that men who are attractive don’t have to approach women isn’t really true. The more attractive you are the higher your standards are going to be and the competition for those more attractive women is other men who are as attractive as you. If you’re a man and want to date someone as attractive or slightly more attractive than you you’re going to have to always make the first move. Attractive women who are in your league aren’t throwing themselves at you unless you’re very r…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 12:28 AM
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I don’t think that’s my first assumption at all. My first assumption is that they are either or a combination of below average looking, socially awkward, low on confidence or broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 09:56 PM
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You take children out on dates and pay for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 09:50 PM
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I don’t know what people call “alphas” but by my understanding of the term I would say it’s very difficult to become an “alpha” if you aren’t one naturally. For example I’m a leader in my profession, I was the captain of the football team in high school, I’m confident and have good people skills but I still wouldn’t call myself an alpha male, I just don’t think it’s something that’s done easily, especially if you’re a guy who needs an online program to learn how to become one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 05:47 AM
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Don’t think it’s being a child but it’s for sure hypocrisy if you’re a feminist who also believes men should pay for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 05:39 AM
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Who’s jealous and bitter about women doing sex work? I feel more disgust and even pity than jealousy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 05:23 AM
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It doesn’t matter that Queen Victoria brought it back into fashion, the original meaning and the modern interpretation is that a white dress signifies virtue and purity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 11:57 AM
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“So when and where did the white wedding dress originate? As a curator at The Ohio State University’s Historic Costumes and Textiles Collection, I have often been asked this question, and my research included the search for an answer. The practice likely traces back more than 2,000 years, with roots in the Roman Republic (509 B.C. - 27 B.C.) when brides wore a white tunic. The color white represented purity, symbolizing both a woman’s chastity and her transition to a married Roman matron. It was…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 11:43 AM
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Because society doesn’t really give a shit about white = virginity anymore. A wedding dress is just a dress women wear to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:38 AM
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Easier for women to achieve base line attractiveness but less effort is required for a man to reach peak attractiveness if he is naturally gifted. If you’re a man with a handsome face, tall and fit you’re already there and don’t need to perfect anything. Competition at the very top for women is more difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 01:47 AM
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That’s just ridiculous sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 02:01 PM
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Why should those procedures require approval from a third party though? What other procedure requires approval for a third party for an adult? I’m 100% in favour of doctors being able to decline performing tubal ligation or vasectomies on patients. You can’t force a doctor to perform an invasive unnecessary procedure against their will but saying you think an adult should need approval from a third party to get a procedure like that done is just insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 01:57 PM
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I don’t think you know what that word means.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 11:37 AM
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That’s a lot of words to not say anything of value. No one is forcing women to take the pill, there are many different types of contraception and all of them have different downsides or risks. Women don’t “have” to take the pill, they choose to take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 10:35 AM
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They don’t “have” to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 09:47 AM
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Don’t fuck with your hormones kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:51 AM
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Yeh well I think men have more demands on them these days for sure. Increased cost of living has made being a provider more difficult and women have less need for men than they used to so they don’t need to just settle down. At the end of the day nothing is going to correct this on a societal level so it’s up to men to adapt or be left out.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 09:04 AM
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Boring, vanilla and straight edged are all very different but yes I think that due to society being more accepting of women’s sexual and romantic freedom, demands/competitiveness around dating for men have increased. I don’t see it as a negative or a positive but it’s up to men who want to get laid or find a girlfriend to adapt to the change
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 08:40 AM
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Well I’m an American married to an Australian so that’s not what I’m saying at all. If you use a website or app to specifically find a girlfriend from another country or travel to a country specifically to find a girlfriend that’s being a passport bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:27 AM
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Yeh I’d like to say I don’t judge anyone negatively for it but there is a small part of me that does.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:23 AM
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People have been getting wives from overseas for decades. I think I’ve met 4-5 older men who are married to younger women who were born overseas. No idea whether they met through a dating app and then flew them over here or actually travelled to that country to find them but the idea is the same. It’s still a pretty small minority and not entirely socially accepted though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:33 PM
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I think a lot men on here are black pilled doomsayers who just want to talk about how bad women are. Which isn’t the point of this sub. I tell myself I stay here because I think as someone who believes there is a lot of truth to TRP ideas but think they lack nuance or are over exaggerated that I offer some kind of balanced perspective on things discussed here. Mostly it’s just because I travel away from home for work a lot and I get bored though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 10:15 AM
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Not really as anyone who doesn’t care about height isn’t going to buying a bumble subscription to filter for height. It’s really just showing that of the very small percentage of women who are paying for bumble a lot them are doing so to filter out men under a certain height.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:48 PM
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I’m not disagreeing with anything you’re implying, I’m just saying the first study you used as “proof” is completely pointless because it’s taken from women with a premium bumble account which would be less than 1% of women under 35. It’s also very biased because one of if not the biggest reason a woman would buy a premium bumble subscription would be to filter by height. Which means all that survey shows is that women who care enough about height to pay for bumble filter out short men. Total sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:42 PM
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Yeh but that study is from bumble, which is why I said bumble. To filter by height on hinge you need a premium subscription as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 06:30 PM
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Yeh right and you can swipe left for any number of reasons but that study is talking about actually filtering by height which isn’t available to anyone who doesn’t pay for the app. Women don’t need to pay for premium subscriptions to dating apps so the actual number of women using a height filter is so small it makes the study pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 06:29 PM
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That stat is pretty misleading because you can only filter by height on bumble when you have a premium subscription, which 99% of women using online dating won’t have. I think everyone understands women prefer taller men but the actual number of women using a height filter on a dating app is so small it’s not worth talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 06:14 PM
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Sounds like that guy was attractive and charismatic, got her to sleep with him and then bounced. Don’t know if there’s much to learn from this other than some guys can do this and this is why women are told to not sleep with a guy on the first date. Some guys just want to fuck so unless that’s what your looking for as wel you should wait before you sleep with a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:11 AM
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This hasn’t really been my experience to be honest. I’ve always found the hardest part is getting the first date over the line and then women have been very open to a second as long as is wasn’t plainly obvious you were completely incompatible. I’m a man but If I think back to every time I haven’t wanted a second date with a girl it’s either that I saw enough from that first date to think that we weren’t compatible or that she just didn’t look as attractive IRL than her dating profile photos. I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:40 AM
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The best bit is they follow it up by just saying “man” and not male man
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:12 AM
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I’m not trying to justify anything. I don’t give a flying fuck who any of y’all want to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 05:58 AM
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That’s the biggest load of nonsense. Like I feel bad you married married someone who can’t wipe his ass properly but women’s controlling behaviour is more than just nagging about personal hygiene and picking things up off the floor. You’ve never heard of women trying to change the way her husband dresses, his haircut or who he hangs out with and how often?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:23 PM
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This is a weird post because nothing you said in the body of it matched with the title. Like you didn’t even explain why you don’t like them you just went on a rant humble bragging about yourself. I don’t like coffee first dates either because I think they are low effort. I like to get things started on the right foot and devote time that is important to me like my Friday and Saturday night. I also like to have an alcoholic drink to get conversation flowing a bit easier and think that drinks at …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:51 AM
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I don’t think the general populace cares about TRP or any debate around it to be honest. For sure there are people on here who may have been red pilled, still didn’t have success with girls and then became disenfranchised with it but I think the biggest reason this sub has gone more black pill is that there has been an influx of incel and MGTOW people who came here after their subs got shut down while red pillers have mostly left because there is no dating/getting laid advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:37 AM
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It’s pretty funny that you don’t see the distinction between someone having a legal obligation to pay alimony and someone choosing to pay for their exs phone bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:05 AM
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I never said I’m against anyone going overseas and getting a wife, as a man why would I be against it? I’m saying I don’t think women care that much that men are doing that. No I don’t think attractive men who can date attractive women in their own country are travelling overseas to find wives. Not the vast majority anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:03 AM
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Sorry bro I don’t follow that sub. It’s simple logic. Men who are getting laid aren’t going to SE Asia to get a wife, men who aren’t getting laid are. Why would women care that dudes they didn’t want to date are going to overseas to get a wife? It would be like the NBA getting mad that washed up players and guys that weren’t good enough to play in the league are going to china to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 01:00 AM
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I never said they were broke, obviously you need some amount of money to travel overseas to get a wife. I think they are some combination of ugly, socially awkward, old or in someway unattractive. If they were attractive they would be getting laid in their own country and wouldn’t need to resort to travelling halfway around the word just to find a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 12:53 AM
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I think you’re getting a bit confused about what the red pill actually is and what actually passes for TRP discussion on this sub these days. TRP was initially just exposing men to the harsh reality of dating. This is what women find attractive, this is what they look for, this is how they think etc and then gave men advice on how to exploit that in order to get laid and that’s basically it. On the this sub now there is a lot of people who bring up ideas from TRP (n count, hypergamy, the wall et…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 12:48 AM
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Passport bro’ing isn’t dating a person who is a different race, it’s literally going to other countries looking for a girlfriend. A wealthy Jewish guy dating an Asian girl he goes to university with isn’t being a passport bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 12:35 AM
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It’s just a bunch of threads about exs paying or not paying money back to each other. Also just because something has happened before somewhere in the world doesn’t mean it’s a normal thing like OP is implying and doesn’t change the fact I haven’t actually met someone financially supporting their ex which is what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:35 PM
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Because I’m not paying any of exes phone bills?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 10:51 PM
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I think that depends on where you live and how far apart your political persuasion is. If you’re in America I find it hard to picture a right wing voting person being able to maintain a relationship with a left wing voting person. The differences in policies is just too big and a lot of the issues that divide those two groups aren’t just political issues they are differences in your core beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 07:31 PM
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I don’t think women give a shit about passport bros to be honest. High value men that they want to date aren’t doing it, it’s only the men they don’t want to date anyway are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:58 PM
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They wouldn’t but I don’t know a single woman who’s getting their bills paid either.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:57 PM
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I honestly think sometimes I must live in a different world to users on here. I’ve never met a single man who is paying his exes phone bill, streaming bills or doing anything for them at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 04:21 PM
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I don’t think they have influenced dating trends at all. Most MGTOW men were undesirable to women anyway so the majority of women who are single now, would still prefer to be single than date them even if they didn’t opt out of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 03:24 PM
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It’s just another thing that people have found somewhere on the internet and are making it seem like it’s a common thing. I’ve never met one either
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 09:26 AM
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I like high waisted jeans. Eventuates the butt and hips and makes the waist look smaller. It’s way better than “boyfriend cut jeans” that are really unflattering.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 09:25 AM
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So Christians are muslins or Jewish because they believe in the family unit?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 08:15 AM
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Increased immigration and more interracial babies. Places like Scandinavia, Western Europe, Australia and North America are never going to struggle to find people willing to immigrate. Western countries will just use immigration to counter balance dropping birth rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 06:41 AM
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I don’t think Jesus ever taught his disciples to looks max and spin plates. The definition of being religious is a strong belief in a god, if you don’t have that you’re not religious. Just because TRP has some values in common with traditional conservatives who are normally religious it doesn’t make it religious. This is honestly a very stupid post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 06:38 AM
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I think I’ve only been actually “cock blocked” by a woman’s friend against the friends will twice. 9/10 when you think the ugly friend is cock blocking you it’s really just the girl you’re hitting on using her friends to reject you. The idea that groups of women have a hive mind of what they find attractive and actively try to stop a friend from hooking up with someone the rest of them don’t find attractive is also massively overstated on this sub and isn’t something I see IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:47 PM
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How attractive are they though? If you dropped me into a room with 100 lingerie models I’d probably struggle to get one date. If you dropped me into a room with 100 average to ugly women I could get 90.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:03 PM
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What I mean is how is either of these questions a right or wrong question? It’s like asking if it’s wrong to prefer German Shepherds to Border collies. They aren’t moral or ethical questions that have a right or wrong answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:01 PM
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Why would someone being attracted to another adult be right or wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:33 PM
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Hypergamous because of procreation 100%. It’s literally the only reason a woman would prefer a wealthy high status man over a more attractive poorer man. Women want the best for their kids so they favour wealth, status and genetic gifts like height and natural attractiveness over things like being ripped.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:15 AM
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What would be the basis for shaming a man for dating a younger woman though?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:58 AM
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You’re an Aussie married to a yank? Haha Yeh I’d agree with that, though I’m probably more like an Australian in that regard. The marriage thing is a bit different, I work with a guy who has two kids with a woman, shares a mortgage with her and still doesn’t want to get married. What does your husband miss about the US?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 12:07 AM
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I guess so, cold approaching isn’t really a thing here, the norm is meeting people when you’re drunk at a bar, online dating or through some mutual connection though I wouldn’t say cold approaching was big in the US either. I’m a guy so I’m probably not the best to judge about how often girls get asked out. I live in Melbourne and people here are a bit “alternative” but I wouldn’t say it’s any different to a large east coast city in the US. The only difference is that 50% of your population live…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:54 PM
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Cool story bro. Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:47 PM
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Women in Australia would say they are feminists but are actually not that extreme about it like women who identify as feminists in the us. I doubt you have ever left Australia to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:33 PM
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Yeh that would still be a pass. Which women would be doing the deciding and why would they be better at picking my photos than me? I doubt any attractive women I’m trying to date would be the moderators.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:51 PM
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I think it’s justifiable if they have cousins they are close to and see often but I agree. Kids should have one sibling, it’s crazy how close you are to your siblings when you are kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:49 PM
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r/iamthemaincharacter
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:46 PM
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I don’t know any either but this sub has always been obsessed with hating things they see online but are actually super rare IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:44 PM
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No No N/A I can differentiate good pictures from bad ones without women choosing them for me plus the more specific and weird you make dating apps the less women are going to use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:41 PM
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I don’t think the majority of men want a truly submissive woman. I like the fact that my wife treats me like the man of the house while she takes on a traditional womanly role but let’s be honest that’s all just an illusion that we both like taking part in. Pretty much every large decision we make as a couple is a 50/50 decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:07 PM
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There was a guy on there recently who was ok looking but had a really fucked up eye and was getting rated 8s and 9s but every 8 or 9 woman who posts there gets a 5. That sub is just a bunch of weirdos that like to take conventionally attractive women down a peg. I don’t know why anyone would post there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:02 PM
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I’m American but moved to Australia about 8 years ago. Dating issues are more or less similar but probably just less intense than the US. Generally speaking there isn’t as big of a gap between the have and have nots here, skilled workers earn more and social services are better so there is less of an emphasis on money and status here as there is in the US where you’re either a member of the middle class who can afford a house, education, healthcare etc or you’re working class, poor and struggle …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 07:54 PM
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This post is about having a poor dating life and OP is blaming that on having a two parent household. The definition of being accountable is the willingness to accept responsibilities for one’s own actions. Saying “I suck at dating because my parents stayed together” is the exact opposite of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 05:08 AM
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Yes but blaming said upbringing is the opposite of taking accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:54 AM
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Lads on this sub “Women never have any accountability for their actions” Also lads on this sub “is my mum or society more to blame for my lack of dating success?”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:36 AM
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What do you mean? Children who get abandoned by both parents? Also I don’t think casually including abortion to this discussion is really appropriate or necessary as it’s a discussion about child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 08:46 AM
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Did you even read that? That’s your child being eligible for a payment if you can prove you’re broke enough that you can’t afford to pay child support. It also requires the other parent to be relatively broke as well. Where I live you can pay zero child support if you can prove you earn under a certain amount as well. That isn’t government funded child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 02:35 AM
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https://www.norden.org/en/info-norden/child-support-sweden#:~:text=Maintenance%20support,-Maintenance%20support%20(underh%C3%A5llsst%C3%B6d&text=The%20amount%20depends%20on%20the,child%20must%20pay%20to%20F%C3%B6rs%C3%A4kringskassan. How can you be so confidently incorrect?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 01:48 AM
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No they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 01:17 AM
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Do you understand how taxes work and how many kids are brought up in single parent households? Where is all this money going to come from? Never mind the fact you’re literally removing the only thing that would discourage a person from having and then abandoning as many kids as they want. There is a reason that no country, even ones with huge social safety nets don’t have government funded child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 01:14 AM
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Why the hell would anyone want child support payed for by the government?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 12:09 AM
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One thing that never gets talked about on here is using dating apps to meet people you already know or have some connection to IRL. I find that when there is some connection no matter how small people are way less flakey and put in more effort because it feels like more a natural connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 08:46 PM
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They haven’t really gone anywhere, my wife tried to set up one of my friends with a girl she worked with like a year ago. They are just less common because people would rather use OLD than get set up on a blind date, not sure how anyone can bring something back that people don’t really want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 02:29 AM
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This is pretty delusional, life isn’t an episode of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:45 PM
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A lot of people on here really don’t understand what the wall means.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:59 AM
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I think you can be unsuccessful with dating apps and it not be your fault. I live in a large city (5m population) but I also work in a regional small city/large town (about 60k population) when I was single I had no problems getting matches and dates in the city but could go through the whole of tinder or hinge within 50 miles when in the smaller city and get one or two matches. There’s not much people can do if there is just no attractive women on dating apps where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 08:04 AM
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It’s always a bit strange when this sub focuses on obesity in women rising when men are getting fatter at a similar rate. If both sexes are just slightly heavier than they were 20 years ago it’s not going to effect anything in the dating world. I think it’s also important to remember that if you’re just focusing purely on weight and BMI that more people (men and women) than ever are weight training and are more muscular than past generations. im not saying people aren’t getting fatter but I woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:18 PM
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Who exactly in society is responsible for informing you about your future sexual preferences before you even know about them? You can blame whoever you want for whatever you want but society can tell you to kick rocks. The situation you find yourself in is a direct consequence of actions you took so you have no one else to blame but yourself. You decided to play the field, you’re the one who doesn’t want to date girls who have had a few sexual partners. It’s all you pal man up and take some resp…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 08:43 AM
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Surely at some point you have to stop blaming everyone else and take some responsibility. What did you think was going to happen when you got older? That all attractive women would just stop fucking until you got around to marrying them?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:57 AM
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No you mind your own business.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 07:46 AM
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Men are just less needy in a relationship than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:09 AM
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I agree with the overall idea that modern independent women shouldn’t expect equal everything but still not pay anything on a date but someone who won’t pay for one lousy drink and even got her to transfer him money because the bar wouldn’t seperate one drink from his is fucking weird. Also she doesn’t really even sound that upset, she’s just asking if he sounds interested in her because he made such a big deal out of buying her one drink but also said he had a great time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:56 PM
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Do you wear a shirt?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 10:06 PM
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If your man is going out clubbing shirtless by himself I think you have bigger problems than him being approached by other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:14 AM
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You don’t have to believe me. I automatically assume at least 50% of the posters on here are exaggerating or flat out lying to prove points but you could always just go out into the real world and go to places where people would go out for a date and see for yourself that there’s plenty of men under 6’ are dating objectively attractive women. 90% of the posters on here don’t do that though and seem to get all their perspective of dating from comment sections of online spaces that aren’t represen…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:59 AM
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Never forget plenty of women who are obese have convinced themselves they are curvy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:05 PM
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That last sentence is absolute nonsense. Couples where the man is shorter stand out from a mile away because of how unusual it looks. If people in your life are pretending that they don’t notice you’re significantly taller than you’re husband they are just being polite and you’re incredibly naive or you’re just delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:55 PM
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I think the number is still pretty small, like I’d guarantee at least 90% of the girls I’ve dated would say I would be more attractive if I was a couple of inches taller if they answered honestly. There’s still a lot of women who don’t have being over 6’ as a deal breaker though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:16 AM
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I think the women who absolutely don’t care at all about height is extremely small. I’m under 6’ and never had a problem getting dates/hook ups but I think the vast majority of women would prefer their partner to be taller than them at a minimum. There’s always a tonne of women on here who say they don’t care but I just don’t see it IRL. I can count on one hand the amount of women taller than me that I’ve ever hooked up with or who have shown interest in me and if I think about people I know I o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:53 AM
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I’m not saying this gets discussed on here but isn’t women getting with a man and them trying to change them the oldest cliche in the book?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 09:54 AM
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Commented*
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:25 AM
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I’m trying real hard to give a fuck about Jonah Hill and some random woman I didn’t know existed until a few days ago but just can’t
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 04:48 AM
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Title - “Friend zone doesn’t exist” Second paragraph - “friend zone exists” Sounds like you changed your own view mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 06:25 PM
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Most of the animal kingdom is a handful of bird species now?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 12:57 AM
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Yeh right
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 05:15 PM
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I honestly don’t know what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:45 PM
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Yeh I’ll call bullshit on both counts sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:44 PM
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Ah sorry?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:38 PM
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Unless you live like a modern day Jesus who lives off the bare minimum and gives away all your money to feed the homeless and starving you’re just as complicit as trad wives in taking advantage of your social position. Also wtf does feminism have to do with economic justice? I don’t have a problem with feminism but a woman being a feminist is the definition of self serving.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:32 PM
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Men should control their emotions around women. Especially around women who aren’t committed to them. If you meet the right person and you’re in an actual committed relationship you can be more free to express your emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:20 AM
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Men will talk shit about another man they don’t like behind their back don’t get me wrong but if you define gossip as just talking about other peoples personal lives then it’s really not debatable. Women are just more interested in other people and social relationships than men and will talk about that stuff more often then men will. My partner can talk to her friends or mom for over 30 minutes and half the conversation will be about people they know, it’s not necessarily negative but it’s still…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:33 AM
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I don’t think there is a single person who grew up with their parents who can honestly say their parents haven’t influenced the way they view dating or relationships in some way. Doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative the way they interact and get along is going to either consciously or subconsciously influence what future would you want or doesn’t want in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 05:16 AM
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Probably disagree. When I was using tinder it was for anything really. One night stand, casual dating and if the right person came along I’d be open to a starting a relationship. I know plenty of people who have had actual relationships start from an online dating app so I’d say I don’t think I’m in the minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:21 AM
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I don’t think any couple is just going to suddenly find themselves in this situation assuming you aren’t including pregnancy. My wife would probably be lucky to weigh 60kg so I don’t think we would be waiting for her to be halfway toward doubling in weight before we had a conversation about it For argument sake though I think we would split up. I look after myself, watch what I eat and am not attracted to overweight people. I really don’t see myself staying fit for a partner who doesn’t care abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:40 AM
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This sub is awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:06 PM
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Disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:39 PM
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This is all some pretty backward logic. Shouldn’t an adult woman know how to dress appropriately? If you need a man to regulate what you’re wearing because without his instruction you would dress like a slut then you’re not the girl for me. Also are we covering our women up so they don’t invoke impure thoughts in men now? That’s some sharia law shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 04:54 PM
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Nobody who hasn’t completely let themselves go should be “aged out” by 25 most women I went to school with are still attractive and in their early 30s I’m not sure that that’s what TRP is actually saying though. The idea of “The Wall” isn’t about women over 25 being automatically unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 05:36 PM
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I’m not one of these weirdos who needs a virgin or super low body count but I wouldn’t date a woman who had a similar sexual history as me. There’s a tonne of double standards in dating, women have height, wealth, experience standards they apply to men that they don’t meet themselves so I don’t see why women are confused when a double standard is used the other way. Men don’t value your ability to sleep with a tonne of other men because it doesn’t take any skill it just requires you to make your…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:55 PM
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Define ok? I’d probably just rather go stag, let everyone know I’m single and try to talk to single women there. Taking an escort to a social function where there would be single women to try and become more attractive to these women for a later social function seems unnecessarily complicated. If you take an escort who is way too attractive for you, doesn’t know anything about you or isn’t great at making your interactions look natural people are going to suspect somethings off about your date
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:39 PM
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Probably you’re just seeing more of it because there is just more idiotic content about it. I often think the world is getting stupider by the year but it’s probably just more random idiots having a platform that increases not the actual stupidity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:55 AM
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This goes without saying doesn’t it? Like people can empathise with people who can’t get a relationship or empathise with a homeless person but still doesn’t mean they will date the lonely guy or let the homeless person live in their house. I think it’s a Louis CK but where he says it’s the one way we are all equally mean… nobody fucks down we all fuck up or across…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:29 PM
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Yeh I’m at that age that my partner shares everything not sexual with her mom. I’m 99.9% sure she didn’t do that when she was 17.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:44 AM
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I think the same can be said for Moms as well. Teenage girls are rarely going to discuss everything in their life with their parents, it’s only later in life girls share everything with their mom. In my experience anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:35 AM
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My girlfriend asked if he’s wearing eye liner haha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:52 AM
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Probably disagree. If anything I think women on here overrate their money/financial independence and marginalise how important youth is to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:50 AM
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Treating an ex girlfriend poorly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:45 AM
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As in their youth or men’s youth?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:40 AM
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This seems to be an online issue and isn’t anything I’ve seen in real life. I’ve always dated younger women and never felt any negative judgement from anyone about it. If I’d have to guess I’d say that it comes down to the fact that women still want to “date across or up” but they have more money and status than ever before so there are less men who are attractive enough that also meet their money/status standards so they get indignant about men the same age as them basically passing them over f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:36 AM
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I think this is just an age/location thing. I don’t think I know a single woman who is into K-Pop or would prefer to date non masculine Asian dudes. Also growing up my sister had posters of Hansen, Jonathan Taylor Thomas, Justin Timberlake and Nick Carter on her wall. I don’t think young girls liking young, less traditionally masculine boys is exactly a new trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:45 AM
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Mutual attraction, having similar values/morals and actually wanting to make compromises and sacrifices for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:33 PM
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I was watching a rugby league game a few days ago and saw a dude who my first thought was that is one pretty mother fucker and it was this guy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:06 PM
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Men don’t want older career women because they don’t care about your career and your advanced age is a negative. Men would rather date a younger more attractive secretary than an older less attractive lawyer. You can tell yourself that that’s because men are insecure if it makes you feel better but the reality is that the older woman with a career just has less of what a man values in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 06:38 PM
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I don’t hate them I just don’t respect them enough to ever get in a relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 06:23 PM
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Maybe if you’re in top .01% of status like pro athletes, music stars and actors this would be the case. You’re not a rapper, not an athlete, not an actor and not Lionel Messi, you’re never going to have the level of status that trumps your attractiveness. Go out in the real world and tell me the amount of times you see a good looking woman go home from a bar with an ugly awkward dude who makes 6 figures over a handsome charming guy who makes half that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 07:03 PM
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I actually agree it isn’t that hard but I don’t think you have a grasp on what it’s like approaching women as a man just because you’re a bisexual woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:32 AM
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Man these posts that excessively focus on your own burdens while minimising the burdens of the opposite sex are pretty tiresome.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:53 PM
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Just not being able to get 10% of the sex you want doesn’t make you an incel. I don’t earn 10% of the money I want to earn but that doesn’t make me broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:48 PM
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Yeh I’m gonna disagree, I’m a man and I’d tell people I’m single until I’m in a exclusive relationship. I don’t think there is any difference in what men and women define as single and in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:44 PM
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How am I not defending my assertion? If she did less of those things she would probably be less attractive, if she did nothing to look after herself she would probably be unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:56 AM
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It’s a stupid question. Would I be attracted to her if she didn’t diet, didn’t exercise, didn’t stay slim, didn’t look after her skin etc Of course not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:44 AM
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This is what I mean though, the answer has to be yes I’d find her attractive or no I absolutely wouldn’t but that’s not how real life works. So in your hypothetical she’s just a slob who doesn’t do anything to maintain her appearance? Of course I wouldn’t find her attractive what kind of question is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:41 AM
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I don’t really understand what you’re trying to say. You asked what benefits there are to being a traditional woman then provided relationship examples of situations that aren’t traditional relationships/roles. Your beef isn’t with traditional relationships and gender roles it’s with people who misunderstand what those terms mean and want everything working to their benefit which I can totally understand but the benefit of an actual traditional relationship is that you get to raise your kids, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:37 AM
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This sub has a weird obsession with hypothetical questions where the answer needs to be at extreme ends of a spectrum. No I wouldn’t find my wife as attractive if she didn’t maintain her appearance. What kind of question is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:27 AM
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It is relevant because it’s all things we both did to be attractive before dating as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 11:25 PM
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Having a full time job and still doing most of the housework and child rearing isn’t being a traditional relationship though so I don’t know why that example is included here. That’s just called getting the worst of both a trad relationship and a new age one. The biggest benefit to having a traditional relationship where you stay at home 24/7 or work minimally is you get to actually raise your kids which is one of the most important things in a parent and their kids lives. I think you’re somewha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 10:24 PM
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These overly whiny “effort” posts are just out of touch with reality and always overstate how much effort a man has to put into being attractive and minimises women’s efforts to look attractive to a level that makes me think you have never spent any time with women. If you compared my effort expended to be/stay attractive with my wife’s she would win by a landslide. I don’t meticulously take care of every little part of my body (nails, hair, skin etc) like she does, I haven’t had my body hair la…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 09:36 PM
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I find interesting jobs interesting the wage is irrelevant. I’d much rather have a conversation about teaching or nursing than some high paying desk job. Women just like their partner to have a high paying job, they wouldn’t find listening to someone talk about corporate finance any more interesting than someone talk about working on cars but the finance guy makes 200k a year and the mechanic makes 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:40 AM
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It’s pretty funny that all the jobs women find “interesting” are all high paying jobs. If you payed the garbage man 200k a year women would all of a sudden find picking up trash cans interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 02:17 AM
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Yes but your scenario doesn’t sound like that’s what’s going on. Where I’m from the norm for greeting a woman that you are friends/very familiar with is a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Doesn’t matter if it’s an ex girlfriend, relative, friends wife or a single girl, that greeting is always platonic for me. Obviously I don’t know the guy but if you have rejected his advances multiple times over the last couple of years and is still making you uncomfortable by demanding physical contact I don’t thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 11:33 PM
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Because most women don’t find inexperience or immaturity attractive. Most women are attracted to more than just youth and beauty. Also I disagree that >25s are more attractive than 25<.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:33 PM
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Overrated by some underrated by others. I’d put physical attractiveness and charisma/people skills as more important seen as 99.9% of the population will achieve a high enough level of status that will automatically attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:21 PM
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Because being single with no family after 40 is sad as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 06:23 AM
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I think it’s almost the opposite. The sub was actually made to debate TRP (and blue) but I rarely see much discussion about the actual pills and the sub seems to have devolved into never ending negative posts about why men have it harder and age gaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 12:16 AM
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I thought TRP was anti marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 09:48 PM
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The main talking point of TRP is that if you work on yourself you can be objectively more attractive in your 30s than you were in your 20s. Which I mostly agree with as women find things like maturity, financial stability and experience attractive and a man is going to have more of those traits in his 30s than he did in his 20s. Men on the other hand don’t value those traits as highly in women so women don’t benefit as much from traits that improve with age. I don’t agree with people who think t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 05:18 PM
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I’m not into plus sized girls and wouldn’t sleep with her but that girl isn’t ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 04:46 PM
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I don’t think anyone honestly thinks men get better with age while women get worse. We all age, we all get wrinkles, we all get grey hairs etc. Due to things like fertility and differences in societies expectations around signs of aging I think that first part of ageing 30-50 is tougher on women than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 04:21 PM
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I think you made the bit about lesbians and gay men up. I don’t know many gay people but that doesn’t sound right at all. It’s gender. One thing TRP is right about is why people traditionally value men who sleep around while shame women. Men place a lot of importance of getting laid, we view it as something worthy of effort and sex with an attractive woman is a conquest and we understand that women withhold having sex with a man unless she thinks he is worthy of it. So a man who a lot of attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 04:11 PM
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The only con is dealing with face to face rejection, which sucks but I agree it’s less problematic than asking out/dating within your own social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:44 PM
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I’ll take things that never happened for $500 Alex
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 07:47 PM
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It’s morally wrong if you’re leading her to believe you’re interested in a LTR while just casually banging her until something better comes along. Morally right would be telling her you don’t think she’s good enough for a LTR but you would like to keep banging her. Let me know how that conversation goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 07:34 PM
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I don’t see how the two scenarios are really relevant to one another to be honest. People who have a problem with the old guy/young girl relationship are implying that he is preying on her and that he is doing something morally wrong. Red Pillers problem with women isn’t that it’s morally wrong, just that women who do that have low value to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 07:07 PM
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Haha what dude? Being anti monogamy until you find the right woman is just called dating and not settling down young. You just made a gigantic post about being anti monogamy and you’re actually pro monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 04:33 PM
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So you’re argument is monogamy is stupid because if you’re non monogamous you have more opportunities to find monogamous relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 04:22 PM
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None of these points matter to people who are in or want monogamous relationships though. Is staying single and banging random women until I’m too old and unattractive to do it anymore some kind of life win?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 04:16 PM
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When did OP say “traditional women who wait for sex before marriage”? A traditional woman is just a woman who wants a traditional relationship and is happy to take on more traditional gender roles within a relationship. If your definition for traditional woman has to include that they are saving themselves for marriage then I disagree with the statement that there are plenty of beautiful traditional women around because that would eliminate 90% of the female population.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:53 AM
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“Why would a beautiful traditional woman like a man with a high notch count?” I’ve literally never been asked by a girl I’m dating how many other women I have slept with. Not saying women don’t care at all about how many other girls I’ve slept with but they seem more than happy to remain oblivious to the actual number.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 08:03 PM
1

The idea of men being able to financially opt out of a baby they don’t want has some logical merit. A woman needing the fathers permission to have an abortion doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:32 PM
3

I’ve lived in Stockholm and I agree interracial relationships are more normalised then any place I’ve travelled but I disagree in the sense that being from a different culture is a net positive in the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 07:13 AM
2

Haha pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 06:09 AM
2

I feel like you’re not understanding the difference between being a foreigner in the US from a western country that is actually very culturally similar to the US like Australia and being from an actual different culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 04:48 AM
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I’m not 100% on what you’re asking but I’m just saying that most of the time just being from a different culture isn’t going to help you get more dates and is probably more likely to hinder you. I couldn’t imagine Chinese and Indian immigrants are more attractive to American women than they are to women in their home countries for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 04:26 AM
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As an Australian who lived in Canada and the US I can say that I definitely got laid easier there because I had an accent and seemed more interesting just because I was somewhere else but it’s more the exception than the rule. You have to be from a culture that women consider interesting but close enough to their own culture that its safe and be considered conventionally attractive by the standards of her culture. I’d imagine an conventionally attractive Australian or Swedish guy would have vast…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 04:11 AM
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I agree shared interests are overrated but you need some things in common. I love sports, anything outdoors and being active but hate things that involve large crowds shopping and spending too much time inside If I meet a girl who likes hanging out at the mall, going to music festivals and gaming but hates sports and the outdoors we are literally never going to have fun spending time together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:07 AM
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Not sure what to tell you if you think going to university for four years to study communications or advertising makes you more intelligent.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:17 PM
2

Well that makes a bit more sense including trade schools but sometimes all a degree reflects is student load debt.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:14 AM
7

Not judging you for your preferences but what’s so good about having a degree?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 07:33 AM
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No kids, active, certain degree of health and fitness, well groomed, attractive, a nice person, not an idiot, interesting to me, wants kids, non smoker, similar values and goals in life, optimistic and positive with a certain level of class plus compatible in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 07:22 AM
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How else would the dynamic change? You don’t judge a persons attractiveness in relation to the opposite sex you judge it in relation to people of the same sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 06:02 AM
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Do you think men would just go gay if every woman became slightly less attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:42 AM
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I’d define a SAHM as just a mom who doesn’t work, they don’t have to have a set of values that tell them they should be staying at home raising kids they could just be doing it for logical reasons. I’d call a trad wife someone with traditional conservative ideals who is also more than likely a stay at home mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 08:22 AM
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Taking people who are extreme outliers and then thinking less about what you see IRL because you’re comparing everything to these extreme outliers instead of what’s around you is exactly what I mean by having a distorted view of reality. You’re like a 6’5 dude who doesn’t think he’s tall because he watches the NBA.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:39 AM
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I agree with the sex drive thing, my question was more the other way. Like I don’t know why a woman having regular sex with one partner would be seen as more of a negative than a girl having less sex with more partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:20 AM
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So the best looking men you see IRL are 7/10s? And that apparently includes men who have been voted sexiest man alive? I see your point that sounds completely reasonable and not out of touch with reality at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:11 AM
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It might be accurate to you if you live your life online and don’t have a sense of what people IRL look like. You’ve got People magazines sexiest man alive of 2022 (Chris Evans) as a 7/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 02:51 AM
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That list is completely whack and perfectly sums up the warped perspective on attractiveness a lot of you seem to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 02:24 AM
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Why? I don’t mean amount of different partners I mean just the amount of times a woman has had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:08 AM
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Is the actual amount of sex a woman has had in the past a legitimate concern for anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 11:52 PM
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Sounds like your perception of reality is just warped from consuming too much social media content. Moderately good looking women don’t have hundreds of thousands of followers or rich men flying them to Dubai. Get away from the screen, you’re looking at social media posts from the 0.1% and thinking that it’s normal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 11:47 PM
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Yes. I don’t understand how people have just accepted that things like land and shelter should be things owned by rich people and that some people should just never be able to ever afford.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 06:42 PM
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If you’re not doing basic things to appear more attractive like keeping fit, making an effort with your clothes or grooming habits and not making an effort to actually talk to women you aren’t trying hard enough. The reality is that everyone is capped at how attractive they can become through effort, if you’re a 5/10 nice clothes and a six pack isn’t going to get you a 9/10 woman but I have no time for people who do nothing and then complain attractive women aren’t throwing themselves at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:00 AM
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Well I think you’re in the extreme minority. I’d much rather be seen as smart, capable and be respected than just be seen as a sex object.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:37 AM
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What makes you think men don’t care about being respected?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 12:10 AM
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I read the body of your post. I don’t know why you’re getting your back up about comments that are 100% relevant to your post. You didn’t literally say that but you’re implying men in their 20s are doomed because they can’t compete with older men. I’m saying that I don’t think they need to compete with older men because most people don’t like dating too far from their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:40 AM
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The title of your post is “young men can’t compete with older men for females”. I’m just pointing out that they aren’t really in competition as their target demographics don’t really overlap. Most Women in their teens and early 20s don’t have any interest in men over 30, most men over 30 would prefer to date women in their mid 20s and over and most women in their 20s don’t like dating younger men. You’re direct competition for women barring a few outliers is going to be men around your own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:25 AM
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As a 30-35 year old male this post is great for my ego but doesn’t really reflect reality. Your physical and attractiveness peak is probably more like late 20s and guys in their 30s are either more likely to be married or more interested in girls in their mid 20s and up than dating girls in their late teens and early 20s and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 11:42 PM
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