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So the pretty woman only passes down her pretty genes to her female offspring?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 01:23 PM
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Genuine question...what is the appeal of being an Alpha Fucks type of man if not the ability to just have lots of sex with lots of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 03:17 PM
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I agree that OLD and cold approaching are probably not the best way to meet people. I think that having a social circle beats everything. I don't think you're doomed if you find yourself within a social circle where all the women are already paired off. Each and everyone in that group (men and women) have other people in their social circles and this could be a great opportunity to meet people who you wouldn't otherwise have been exposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 03:14 PM
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What's your biggest issue/problem with dating? Meeting women? Progressing past a few dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 02:28 PM
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I kept reading the OP waiting for the other shoe to drop. Of course it makes sense for women to want to experience pleasure during sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/20 01:39 PM
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Same is true for anyone really
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 09:02 PM
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No
/r/ExRedPill17/11/20 06:07 PM
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I didn’t insinuate that she did
/r/ExRedPill17/11/20 03:43 PM
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All the time. This is why I maintain that ideologies like RP are unhelpful. It’ll only successfully attract women who have really low self esteem and self worth so of course it’s easy to spin those kinds of people as ‘plates’. RP always breaks down once a man actually finds a woman he really likes and she leaves because she realises he’s a dick. Asktrp sub is full of men trying to figure out what they did wrong to push away some girl they were considering making things official with even though …
/r/ExRedPill17/11/20 12:35 PM
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Surely you’d think he’d be happy that she would be earning the same as him. Aren’t rp men always complaining about women bringing nothing to the table except vagina? Together they could’ve been building generational wealth. What a twat. She’s lucky she got away when she did.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/20 12:30 PM
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You'd have to go out and talk to them. What I offer is different from what the next woman offers, much like it is with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 09:41 PM
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Spoken like a person who get zero vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 09:03 PM
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And these women will complain that they don’t have any choices when it comes to finding partners who want relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 05:06 PM
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So are all of men’s dating woes down to their poor choices too?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 04:34 PM
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Hence why they run away from you. Who wants to just be used for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 03:10 PM
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Errr no...if she'd had sex with a lot of them (or compromised on any of her values) repeatedly then yes that would have been worrying. But she did everything correctly. She never spent more than a month with any of them and some didn't make it past the first date so I'd say her filtering skills were really good. Most people are not going to find the right person for them in the first couple of tries.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 03:09 PM
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Of course they do! Go on r/dating r/relationships and any sub related to dating and you'll find legions of women discussing their dating issues. Most women's issues seem to stem around men not committing or losing interest/ghosting after sex though
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 03:06 PM
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Take what you read here with a truckload of salt. It is not representative of the general dating pool/views. This is one of the reasons why I'm highly skeptical of using OLD apps as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 02:14 PM
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Thank you! I'm inclined to think that a lot of the men who complain about women's supposed high n-counts have never been in a real adult relationship before.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 02:12 PM
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You're right but I fear that for a sizeable population of the manosphere who have never had meaningful relationships with women and are growing bitter because of it, their last seeming hope is to treat it all like a game or a set of absolute rules to make their pain slightly more tolerable. It's inconceivable to these types that women with high n-counts, who don't fit western beauty ideals, and aren't a US size 2 are getting married everyday and that men who don't look like Chads, aren't rich, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 02:09 PM
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Exactly. And finding both of these in one person is difficult enough without adding all sorts of caveats about not taking them seriously because they happen to have six prior sexual partners
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 09:28 AM
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Some of the commenters here are speaking as though it’s easy to figure out a woman’s n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 09:25 AM
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We need to stop conflating attractiveness with good looks. Do good looks contribute to someone being attractive? Yes, but it’s often not the whole story. Attractiveness encompasses an array of attributes that extend beyond physical looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 04:35 PM
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Only works if all the women *only* care about money to the exclusion of all other attributes which might make a man attractive for them. But of course, if you want a relationship that is purely transactional, then yes, this can work for both parties for a short while.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 01:25 PM
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And the men don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 11:34 AM
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RP is really full of incels who believe they should have sexual access to 16 year old girls when they are 35. It's sick.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 11:34 AM
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I don’t ‘need’ a man that’s 7 inches taller. I have no idea why you’re all getting your knickers in a twist over this tbh. By saying 5’9 - 5’10 is good for me, I mean that that’s the upper limit I’m most comfortable with. Would I turn down a man because he’s 5’11? Not if there are other attributes about him that I like and which are far more important than height anyway. Likewise with a man who happens to be 5’8. I do believe men who are > 6’0 are taller than I’d generally go for but again, if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 09:35 AM
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I don’t live in the US
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 09:25 AM
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Only? Do you know the meaning of the word 'substantially'? Or is it not the same English language that we are speaking?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 11:13 PM
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That works too. It depends on the woman is the most correct answer, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 10:25 PM
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And it works wonderfully for me so I guess I can be choosy. Do you know how rare it is for me to meet men below 5'8?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 10:24 PM
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I think most women just want a man that is substantially taller than them. I am 5'2 so I'm very happy with a man who is 5'9/5'10. If they're >= 6'0 then I do start to think that's too tall for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 09:37 PM
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Good luck in life and love to them then! haha
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 07:30 PM
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Dump her if you find her behaviour unacceptable but I would also dump the friend. He was too quick to rape the girl and probably would have had you not intervened.
/r/askTRP14/11/20 02:37 PM
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Those who subscribe to TRP will tell you you need to look for a husband who is at least 15 years older than you because he's in his 'prime'...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 01:59 PM
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In an ideal world, yes. But I do think that what people want is constantly changing. For me, I am hardly ever all that interested in any man that approaches me. If he makes a decent effort and passes some basic criteria then I'll agree to go on a date with him. As I get to know more about him, I may begin to develop feelings and feel as though this is someone I want to date seriously. But I never really start any initial dating period thinking or 'knowing' that I absolutely want to date this man…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 01:49 PM
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Yeah that's not ghosting and I think that as many women do it to men as the other way around. Although the ideal would be to let the other person know that you're not feeling them in that way, at this stage I think people think it's just a bit awkward to vocalise they're not interested since it was only one date and in all honesty, neither party should be overly invested emotionally after such a short amount of time for it to cause too much harm. It might sting a little for the person being let …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 01:47 PM
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Sorry this happened to you. In your case you were definitely ghosted. I had a friend in a similar situation to you though she'd only been dating a guy for 7 months. It took her a year of therapy to undo the damage his ghosting did on her feelings of self-worth. I hope you feel better now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 01:40 PM
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The word 'ghosting' has been appropriated to refer to a lot of situations that I don't think should be classed as ghosting. For a lot of men on apps, they refer to any instance of a woman they exchanged a few texts with on a dating app ignoring, unmatching, or blocking them as 'ghosting'. I think this is ridiculous. A well-adjusted adult shouldn't be so quick to develop feelings for someone they've only been texting for a short while and haven't yet met, let alone had a phone conversation with. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 01:37 PM
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Very true! I wonder why the same is not true for men. Men on this sub and over all the internet act as though marriage primarily benefits women and that men do not really have a desire to marry and do it mostly to appease women. However, men are more likely to remarry after a divorce and seem, on the whole, to fare better when married.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 01:21 PM
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I've known many a woman who refuses to get married after getting divorced. They'll date but refuse to marry again
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 11:58 PM
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Meh...the only people who will stick by someone who is constantly avoidant is probable quite insecure and has low self-esteem which is a very quick attraction killer. Anyone who keeps people like that around as partners does it for the power play more than genuine feelings of love and respect. If the partner is secure, they'll just leave
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 11:54 PM
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I can appreciate that. But I think for her (and the people around her) the conversation probably always revolves around 'when will you get married' - especially if she has a traditional family. Having been together that long, you both really should have discussed a timeline for marriage. All the people I know that are married pretty much set a date for the wedding within weeks/a few months of the engagement. Usually it's not seen as promising when a man proposes and then either never mentions an…
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:47 PM
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Thanks for your concern...I am :)
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:43 PM
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It's legally a child
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:42 PM
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Is this a serious question?
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:42 PM
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Danny DeVito is rich
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:40 PM
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She wanted to have sex, got it, and bounced.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:39 PM
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Going behind your back to date the other guy was a really shitty move from her and based on that alone I wouldn't get back with her. She's shown you just how disposable she thinks you are and that even after all these years together (longer than many a people's marriages) she didn't even feel you were worth a conversation to officialise a breakup. On the other hand, I do feel like you pushed her away somewhat with the 'I don't know where we'll end up after the results' and she worried that the e…
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:35 PM
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You made her wait 8 years???
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:29 PM
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You were very attractive in 2004 but you have let yourself go! Your looks are not your problem. The way you dress now, your posture all signal lack of confidence. You need to find joy in doing something and get your mental health back on track. Also, what are you like personality-wise? Do you have sisters, female cousins or close female friends? Now may not be the best time for it but go out with them for lunch, dinner and practice going on dates and holding conversations with women. People have…
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:25 PM
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If you'd found this out when you initially started dating and it gave you pause then I would understand you not wanting to take it further. But you've been with this girl for the past three years and by your accounts she's been an exemplary girlfriend so why would you punish her and yourself for something she did as a child?
/r/askTRP13/11/20 11:09 PM
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You'd think that was common sense...
/r/askTRP13/11/20 10:58 PM
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If she has any self-worth she will leave you and you deserve it.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 10:56 PM
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Agreed with TRP being a defensive strategy mixed with wild fantasy. Honestly, I feel as though a lot of online dating advice is doing this. The problem is that people can only keep up the avoidant/uncaring charade for so long and will inevitably end up getting hurt when they meet a person they develop deep genuine feelings for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 10:51 PM
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How many matches are you expecting to get?
/r/askTRP13/11/20 10:42 PM
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I think OP's ideal would be for those precious 20 year old women to be married off to 40 year old men who missed out on having 'fun' in their 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 10:29 PM
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This doesn't happen anywhere near the scale many on here imagine. Also what is impressive to a young woman may not be to a woman closer in age to any given 'successful' man. It's quite easy for a 32 year old man with a decent job and his own place to appear successful to an 18 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 10:27 PM
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I have had similar conversations with my mother. And now that I'm an adult I can see how she pretty much carried the household. My dad is great in his own way but he is incredibly traditional so all the cooking, cleaning, getting kids ready for school, buying the kids' clothes, dentist appointments, EVERYTHING was left to my mum. And BOTH of them worked!! I could always see it I guess but I appreciate it so much more now that I'm an adult. I can't imagine working full time and not having any dow…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 10:14 PM
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50-year-olds spinning plates on the scale suggested by those who subscribe to TRP is mostly fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 12:30 PM
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Jay Z cheated on Beyonce and on looks alone he doesn't even begin to compare. However, attraction and value assigned to a person does not lie solely on how they look - at least it shouldn't for well-adjusted people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 02:53 PM
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Agreed! Attraction goes beyond just 'looks'. The whole idea of looksmatch doesn't take into account a lot of the nuances that determine attraction levels. Basing your choice in potential partners based on some notion of looksmatch is very risky if what you're searching for is a meaningful ltr
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 02:47 PM
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