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STRATEGYshadowlillium/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:00 PM
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You don’t know this person very well, a month can feel like a long time but it isn’t compared to the people in your life that have been there much longer. I say always be in a point of vetting, even if married, never get so attached to the point you put up with bad behavior and just put up with it. It’s okay to have feelings, but vetting is seeing if these strangers are treating you the way you want to be treated and if they aren’t- leave. Cause they don’t know you and you don’t know someone com…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 01:24 PM
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Talk about a red flag parade. You have the right to leave the house any day or time you want. Isolation and being forced to stay at home is a form of abuse. Leave this person, you don’t need a jailer for a future husband
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 06:03 AM
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Run. Sexual talk is just testing waters to see if you are down for it. Kinda like flirting but desperate
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 12:29 PM
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Compatibility issue/different boundaries. Move on, find someone who wants the same things in life you do. There will be someone who is more willing to settle down sooner
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 12:02 PM
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My thoughts are - Don’t try to talk yourself into a relationship. It’s okay to not be feeling it, don’t force yourself to “choose”, cause you will resent them one way or another if you don’t like them and think you can do better/be with someone you do like
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 01:42 AM
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This can be broken down into 2 steps: 1) Let him pay 2) If he doesn’t- I pay for mine, thank him for the meet up, leave asap. Block, delete, and never see him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 08:50 PM
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This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:20 PM
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Toss out lukewarm bath water
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:01 PM
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Awesome! Thank you! Been wondering about this for days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:09 PM
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Question for getting married: what is FDS stance on budgets for house utilities bills and mortgage and food? Should the husband pay all of it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 07:59 PM
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The most hilariously awful one on here is “slow dancing in a parking lot” I can’t even imagine it being anything less than horrible and tacky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:21 PM
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I love this. I tried it once and the guy didn’t know how to cook, and got his meals mostly from his mother. Was a quick way to vet that he pretty much lived at home with mom and wanted a wife who would be like his mom. Thankfully me saying I didn’t know how to cook kinda foiled his plans too 😌 gotta bless these vetting tips
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 07:14 AM
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A good portion of online dating profiles for women on dating websites are dead accounts/inactive, and some straight up fake statistic bots, so statistically- women are leaving Online dating sites
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:50 AM
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Sounds like it is the old dishwasher trick. If they do not want to, they will do such a bad job at washing the dishes, they hope you won’t ask them to do it again. In this case it is gifts. Both cases: Run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:47 AM
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Come from Spanish background that doesn’t do name changes, and I have a book with my name on it. I wouldn’t mind informally using hubbys last name but legally? Nawwwh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 06:30 AM
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I would date someone divorced if they do not have kids but wants them, but it all depends on the reason of the divorce. Honestly though, I rather not. Never married and prefer never married, so much less complicated vetting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 05:21 PM
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A cheater was always a cheater, and will do it again. Men, women. Don’t matter. Faithfulness is a character trait that is defined by actions and proven with history, it is not a default setting for everyone. That’s why vetting is important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:28 AM
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There is a new trend that ladies are doing where you can gauge the No response by not accepting the first location for a date but offering a different but equal location or event. Reason for doing this is cause it goes against the PUA guide and the dudes will react very poorly cause you are suppose to accept the first location and to appear “submissive”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:57 PM
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“He is my God” ...Do...do we need to send out a cult wellness check? Are they okay? They don’t sound okay... that is so concerning 😬😬😬 🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:44 PM
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Most of those hater studios are owned by Disney, so seems kinda funny in hindsight due to what LVM message Disney often projects in story telling and pickmesha heroines. No wonder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:59 AM
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This. Dating in the 18-25 age bracket was awful, no one was looking in the long term/serious and often heard “I’m waiting to settle down in my 30s”, so best to focus on yourself and skip that drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:38 PM
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Yup, this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:31 PM
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Eh, I’ve experienced worse from the supposedly “attractive” men too 🤷‍♀️though they sure aren’t attractive the moment they open their mouth so maybe the point still stands?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:28 PM
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I know we don’t do 50/50 for a real date, but if I want a clean fast escape, I pay my way out of it. If they aren’t absolutely horrible but I can’t stand being there another minute, I be like “this was a lovely date but I just ain’t feeling it. I’ll pay my way and get going. Thanks for meeting up” If they are horrible and need to escape ASAP, I fumble with phone saying I got a call and need to go. I’ll get my side of the meal. If they are a decent person and it is a nice date, but not feeling ro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:27 AM
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Ditto this, I want someone with similar values so that we raise children on those similar beliefs. Last thing you need is to fight constantly on those basic foundational beliefs and not able to agree on anything or share those deeper talks
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 07:34 PM
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It’s cause red pill is teaching men that they are the prize 😂 that’s how you can spot a red piller a mile away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:06 PM
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You don’t need these “until”- treat a woman right, periodt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:31 PM
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A 10$ hooker? Hope they left
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:14 PM
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Always avoid the folks who want “Open Minded”, their version of it is always in relation to some gross kink that they will try to reverse uno you as “close minded” for their deprivaty, it’s never about meaning morals or social justice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:52 AM
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Sounds like most Latin American machismo culture. Hard pass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:39 PM
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Spanish and don’t do it either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:33 AM
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Parents tried to set me up with a church dude older than me and with no social skills cause they were hoping for me to settle down and have kids around 24. He sent a very shitty(misogynistic poem in it) card while I was sick on my birthday and it drew me into a rage so much so that I never went back to that church for years. I had my boundaries then, and I have my boundaries now, where if you are able to trigger me so early with terrible behavior, I have no problem cutting you outta my life(no d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:11 PM
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Sounds like her issue is that she needs to take the trash out. Throw that man and his mates away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:27 AM
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I dare say: Don’t let courtship ever end. Why does courting stop the moment you go official and/or married, etc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:06 AM
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Or even the countryside: everything is a walk and too far to not drive 30 minutes in all direction. Why would I drive 30+ minutes just to go for a walk? No way is that a date idea that would get me wanting to go to through the time and gas for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:19 PM
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Sitting on everything naked with poopy butt means skid marks everywhere 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:10 PM
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I like to think that the person you are waiting for is someone who is in the same boat as you/similar life experience. They aren’t all taken, just like all of the women aren’t all taken at a certain age. Just haven’t met them yet :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:32 AM
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That’s what I did, and honestly best choice I ever could have made. Only downside is there is just rare few HVM, and that they are pretty hard to find. Major luck/fate of meeting em, it’s always through friends of friends rare meetups
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:13 AM
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“I own expensive this and this and this”: three meanings- 1: I am lying. 2: I own things I can’t afford/in debt unless I got a trust fund. 3: I don’t know how to hold a conversation or have a personality so let me impress you with money instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:46 PM
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Thank you 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:49 AM
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What’s DSM-6 stands for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:44 AM
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Hi from the 30s party. You are not missing a dang thing in your 20s. Most the guys your age group are already swearing off marriage till 30s and acting as terrible to dates as possible, but never develop a personality by 30. I’ve heard it from waaay too many dude when I was in my late 20s. When they hit 30, then they are scared to be alone so they are floundering about the dating pool but being shitty dates but trying to settle/accepting anyone who might slightly fit the bill but put Zero effort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:26 AM
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If you’re wondering how they got shit n piss in their face hairs, it’s because most men do not wash their hands. There was a study that had 2/10 men using public restrooms had washed their hands 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:31 PM
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Apple phones got a feature called Find My app that let you stalk multiple ppl when originally was meant to find your personal Apple device if lost or stolen, but in truth it also allowed friends, family, and acquaintances to see your device/your location at all times without needing to notify you. Make sure to have that app disabled, some phones have it auto enabled and auto share. It’s on purpose hard to fully disable it, or makes you think it’s disabled but not completely, so make sure you do …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:12 AM
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If the guys with “dad bod” think women should like that, then they better be accepting of the “mom bod” rather than thinking they are going to get the opposite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:45 PM
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Only solution I see is throw the man away and buy that house 30mins from parents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:26 PM
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No, not humans in general. More in relation to the original question of if Bill is meeting FDS standards and that he isn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:26 PM
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There is a difference between being rich and a person being able to provide and add to a relationship. If a man cannot provide for himself with his own money, then he cannot bring anything to the relationship. Doesn’t matter if life put them there, he isn’t at that moment ready to be in a relationship if he can’t provide for himself let alone provide for dates and a life style a HVW would want. That’s my distinction between money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:07 PM
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Very LVM. Being rich doesn’t instantly make you HVM, having money is what all ppl who are hv should have but it doesn’t mean having a ton of money makes you better person- shit ppl can have money too. Most of his real world actions have been pretty shitty in terms of relationships. I think they would have divorced sooner if it wasn’t for the huge amount of money and legal work involved; it was a prolonged time coming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:04 PM
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This the funniest and best video that I can unfortunately say I’ve thought like this before about dates in my pickmeisha days. Now it is mostly “French fries” and “is he the zodiac killer”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:19 AM
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I think it’s the fact that if we wake up more women, then they won’t have anyone else to fall for their sub standard shenanigans and that scares nvm who won’t have any tricks or fall back plans to use
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:23 AM
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Remember to always avoid someone who says they are “loyal”, odds are < they aren’t. Same for ppl asking you to trust them. Do not. Both aren’t something just given blindly, they have to be vetted for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:43 PM
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Having a cute pupper in my life is all I “need” and everyday they make me happy 😄 not missing out on anything~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:56 PM
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He had me riled at the first part ngl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:44 PM
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As the saying goes “Even bad press is still press”, if more ppl get here and actually read the content and make their own opinions, they might learn what high value people are actually like. I have a feeling he was presenting this subreddit in a way that would actually get another dude to read it(like he could secretly be agreeing with us, but knows who his target audience is like so needs to present it in a way so that “heeey there is this crazy X place, but their advice actually works”, so no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:40 PM
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TLDR/TLDW: it isn’t so much porn being wrong/portrayed, but the kind of porn being portrayed which majority is either violent or underaged. This type of porn needs to be banned and we all should take steps to decrying it the same way we decry racism and banning racist content
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:44 PM
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It’s like replacing beer/bar dates with coffee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:27 PM
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Another good FDS song would be No Scrubs https://youtu.be/0bY_TYPBUZk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:06 PM
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For real! I can totally imagine, which is ludicrous to me to even offer. Some places I’ve driven to are even an hour and a half or 2 hrs to meet and for going to nicer places to go on nice dates, which is why my standards are just common sense. No way on This planet would I ever drive that long for a darn COFFEE, or a “walk”. That’s why I find it so crazy that these are even classified as a date, which helps make me think very highly that dates are not of convenience but my valuable time. No mat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:46 PM
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Sounds like she needs to get rid of the bf and go to the country of her choosing with her cat at her feet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:33 PM
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I’m really am surprised by how LVM keep offering coffee dates and walks. Though there is a perk of being in the country side, it’s such a long drive that it would literally be insulting to ask ppl to meet up for coffee. So even the LVM cannot get away with these pathetic excuses for dates, but unfortunately, too many surprise you with the going Dutch. Though that makes the dates a very easy filter on who you have only 1 date with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:19 PM
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When men talk nasty like that, you gotta say something at the very start or they will do it again. I would also file a complaint if he continues after speaking with him, though HR is not always your friend so be careful if they don’t do anything or even get retaliation(illegal but it doesn’t stop everyone from trying)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:48 PM
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All I can think of is “Who is this person thinking their opinion matters more above my own?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:02 PM
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Deleted and reminded myself of all the horrible dates I’ve been on and laughed myself back to sanity of only sticking to IRL dating. I legit have not had a single good OLD experience. Can’t “miss out” on something that you never had
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:54 PM
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Best thing to do is to already start planning for fun things to keep you busy. Time will heal these wounds and when you are back to being your amazing/slaying self, you will find a less lonely world full of new people and new adventures to fill life with. These current feelings will pass, and when you look at it not as a loss but a gain and celebration of freedom and a healthier/happier you, it will help you so much more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:48 PM
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I find it funny that there is the “Upgrade Now” button in all this chaos. No amount of upgrade can save the OLD sphere 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:51 PM
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Ah sorry, I didn’t read it that way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:48 PM
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This post is forgetting that we don’t do coffee or walk “dates”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:43 PM
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The example your friend gave, is the whole reason why the term himbo exists. Just the male version of bimbo. Someone who is pretty but not exactly someone you want long term(multiple reasons for incompatibility could be intelligence, morals/beliefs, or just not compatible in general). It isn’t so much lowering of standards, when both parties know what they want or getting into, and could just be ‘horny and this person will do.’ Some ppl could just be that lucky person chosen for that crave and n…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 06:17 AM
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So true, the LVM come flocking even more when you are doing well. They are drawn to happiness like a month to the flame, but looking to extinguish the flame that drew them in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:17 AM
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From one woman in tech to another, you will need to go where the other wealthier ppl are and find their communities that you share similar interests. If you are religious, find the wealthy ppl church. If you know a gym or country club in a rich neighborhood, go there. If you know some online Meetup communities that are of similar interests or skills you want to learn for fun, check for the groups in the wealthier areas. Looking for men who make a lot less than you will not help you find a partne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:04 AM
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Step 1: Giving a damn about their partner as a person, partner’s well being, and partner’s desires
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:27 PM
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Way I heard it: “You are paying for my time, presence, my presentation(makeup/clothes/hair products/perfume), and opportunity to interview for potential husband. Paying for the date is the least he can offer.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:57 AM
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This one 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:15 AM
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Pends on where you live at. But the ppl doing online are on Hinge or Bagel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:55 AM
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Yes, like all of them are ugly or give off creepy vibes(if a pic could give off a creepy vibe). This is why I’ve stopped online dating entirely, only in person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:52 AM
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Your number 3 😩feeling ya on that bar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:57 PM
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That I am enough and should be quicker to cut things off. They know what they are doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:53 PM
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She’s right to be upset, because if he can afford it and loves her, he should be doing everything he can to please her instead of trying to justify her to just accept the scraps and she is “marrying” a catch. A clueless dude but still something of value, would have the “oh sh!t,” moment if she was displeased at the symbol of their marriage and take her out immediately to go pick out a ring she would like and offer a redo of the proposal later. Instead this dude is just like “I gave her something…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:52 AM
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This may be silly but I have not dated in a long time, but how do you research the guys when dating to find out these things?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:30 AM
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Why does a woman need to “raise up a man beside her”? Does he need stilts? Miracle Grow? Why he not already standing on his own and doing just fine beside her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:12 AM
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When the man is a literal cannibal and the pickmes are still defending him... smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:51 AM
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These aren’t even friends with benefits, they are looking for free prostitution at that point. There is no “friends” there 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:01 PM
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Had this happen with dudes and I wasn’t even dating them. Sick bastards even said “make sure to be humble” as if to implant the idea that I wasn’t due to my success in an industry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:13 PM
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I want to see more HVM success stories. Like where did you find your HVM? How did y’all meet? What cute topics did you discuss that made you think “Maybe he is a HVM?” I’d like to hear more positive dating strategies now that I know what to avoid and not want, I’d like to hear what is the good stuff to look forward to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:15 AM
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The worst is the family and friends trying to vouch and guilt for their terrible behavior like “They had a bad childhood. They never had a date. They don’t understand how to talk to women, but you can fix them. Maybe the x spiritual being/religious figure is going to work things out.” Me: Hold on, dialing into repair shop. Repair shop closed. I need a fully functioning adult in this relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:59 AM
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This is so inspiring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:46 PM
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Why does he have 2 phones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:47 PM
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Heard a recent story like this about a guy telling his girlfriend she stinks even tho she showers and does everything possible to stay clean and smells great. Eventually she asked friends for confirmation of BO, and they said she smelled great. Went to bf to confront him and he admitted he was trying to lower her self esteem so she’d never leave him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:14 PM
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