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shadowycoder/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:06 PM
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shadowycoder/r/askMRP06/08/18 06:57 PM
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I brought it up that I had some interviews booked and it didn't go well, but I passed the test in the end. There's a lesson in there I need to dig out and it's got something to do with owning my own shit and not giving her more to worry about.
/r/askMRP07/08/18 03:45 AM
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Oh it would definitely be an elaborate trip. Don't own a house, haha. But point made. It's all very much in the exploration stage so I'll wait until something actually comes along that I plan on taking seriously.
/r/askMRP06/08/18 10:34 PM
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Not in this case. Specifically looking for in-coty or remote work. But good call-out.
/r/askMRP06/08/18 08:34 PM
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Thanks for confirming. Makes perfect sense. Same as any of my other goals.
/r/askMRP06/08/18 07:14 PM
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OYS #5 Physical 32 y/o 144lbs 5'6" ~18% BF from bioimpedance 165 squat 65 OHP 170 DL I've been using my apartment gym but I'm about to say fuck it and go join a real gym nearby. It's a battle getting the only rack in out gym that serves probably 300 apartments. It's always stupid busy and it's frustrating waiting 30 minutes just to do squats or anything with the bar. So, that's on my list for when I get paid. Weights are progressively moving up and I'm making progress here. I bought a pull-up ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/18 03:07 PM
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Yeah... But you're getting married when you're already in a shitty relationship it sounds like. I'm sure I'm not the only who can say it's only uphill from the moment you sign the papers.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 02:53 AM
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That line of thinking has helped me out a lot the last few weeks. If she's gonna be angry anyway, I might as well just do what I want and shrug off whatever 'consequences' she has lined up for the day. Ah well, the kids and I love having fun. Nice work, man.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 12:43 AM
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Thanks for the recommendation. I'll check that out. Coming up with my vision is something I haven't spent a lot of time on yet. One more thing I need to actually just buck up and figure out. I'm actually going to edit my post and set that as a goal to have some organized thoughts around that by next week's OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 07:35 PM
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I don't have anything to add, but just want to say thanks for sharing. Your section on shit tests is exactly what I'm experiencing right now. Pure frustration at the constant testing and a feeling of 'fuck this' every time it happens. I'm absolutely in her frame and as best I try and hide it, it shows me just how much work I have left to do. Back to the gym and sidebar then.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 04:22 PM
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OYS #4 Background 32, 143lbs, 5'6" married for 7 years with 2 young kids. Squat 150 BP 80 Deadlift 150 Slowly going through SL 5x5, but started adding some accessory work for focusing on things I want to work on. I've added 1.5" to my arms since beginning, which is exciting. I've really started noticing a difference in my body the last week and I think others are noticing as well. I've had several good interactions with women in the last 2 weeks and I've noticed women starting to eye me and caug…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 03:51 PM
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Ha, I had no idea. I've been doing 5x5 for a couple months and have always been doing ass to grass. Doubt I'll change that, but good to know I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 08:45 PM
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OYS #4 Stats 142lbs 32 years old 5'6" Squat 155 BP 90 DL 150 Health and fitness This was kind of a shit week for lifting. Had some things come up in the evenings and didn't get a chance to go lift more than twice. Conflicting work schedules between my wife and I don't help that. I want to start working out in the mornings, but I'm already up at 5:30 with the youngest kid, so that's out for the time being. I did make it to another boxing class though and made sure to schedule it during a time whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 07:47 PM
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Damn that's good. That's pretty much how I've been framing things, but didn't have a good way to put it. That really helps solidify that. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 12:58 AM
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5'6". So, yes. Short.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 11:48 AM
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Just do it. I've been doing it for a few months and while my weight has remained about the same (lost about 30lbs via keto prior to lifting) I have gotten stronger, I actually have some muscles that you can see. My numbers aren't anywhere near what others have, especially on the bench press, but I'm working my way up. In the end though, even though progress is slow, all sorts of things are improving. In general, I feel SO much better the day after a lift. On my 2 day rest period, that 2nd day I …
/r/askMRP27/06/18 02:44 AM
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Lol yeah, definitely not at that point yet. I've definitely noticed women talking to me more now that I've lost 30lbs and added some muscle, but I don't think I'd consider it IOIs or anything of the sort yet haha
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 02:25 AM
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It literally has changed everything for me. Been lifting a bit more than 3 months and there's been so many positive changes from just that short time. So apparently there's a reason it's so often repeated!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 12:38 AM
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OYS #3 Physical 142lbs 15.4% body fat (bioimpedance) Squat 145 BP 100lbs Deadlift 155 Still slowly working my way up the weights via 5x5. Had kind of a rough week with lifting motivation and my back has been killing me lately (standard programmer's back issues) so I've been doing some LISS on my off days to kind of keep things up. Went for a 3 mile jog the other night, then walked uphill on the ridiculously steeps hills here for a mile another night. I've just been using the gym at my apartment,…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 02:44 PM
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Just a quick update: Followed the cavemanning advice and it worked beautifully. I got the sex I wanted and she was incredibly happy after and then all day today. We spent the whole day together without the kids today and we had a great time. Had a mix of her plans and mine, and it was a fantastic day.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/18 02:09 AM
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This has been one of the biggest lessons I've learned recently. Her emotions are not my problem to fix. Let her have her feelz and keep on chugging along.
/r/askMRP14/06/18 05:50 PM
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Thanks. Someone said something to this effect in my askMRP post as well. It's so obvious. I'll go read that post now and get back to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 02:07 PM
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That's actually a good frame. I still come at it with a 'gotta please her' mindset instead of doing it for myself. That sounds fucking stupid now that I say it, but that's what it is and it's utterly obvious what the solution is now.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 06:51 PM
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Thanks. I used my fitness pal religiously when doing keto, need to start tracking more now as well. But yeah, fitness is kind of my priority right now. I've never been in shape before so seeing the progress is really motivating and makes it easier. Definitely need to set some actual goals for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 03:47 PM
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OYS #2 Stats DL 145 Squat 115 BP 70 5'5" 142 lbs Like 20% body fat (mixed readings from scale/calipers) Physical Went to my first boxing class yesterday. Kicked my ass completely. I have next to no edurance, so I need to work on that. Did the whole hour and it was hard, but made it through in one piece. It felt good to hit the bags. I'll definitely be doing it again. Likely once a week for a while and maybe more once I can handle it. It's already hard to find a time to go work out, so adding the…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 02:20 PM
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Aaaand done. Thanks for another kick in the balls. Time to use that energy in the gym and other places.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 09:14 PM
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I did do a great job of playing it off today, for once. Details don't matter, but she was still giggling after and had zero hints of the usual snappiness, so I must have done something right, even if it wasn't fucking her.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 09:13 PM
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Not nearly as much as I used to. Maybe once a week or less now. I found that I just didn't have the sex drive so I cut way back (used to be almost every night since I wasn't getting any anyway) but I still do "help myself" a couple times a week, which I should also cut back on if she's gonna start responding to my initiating. Didn't even think of that but its so damn obvious
/r/askMRP11/06/18 09:05 PM
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Makes sense. I really enjoyed keto, and honestly haven't been a huge fan of adding carbs back in. It's a lot harder to stay on track if I've got any of that in my system it seems. I had no trouble after the first couple weeks with keto.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 09:03 PM
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You're right. Dead on. I've got some mental issues around this to work through at the same time. Thanks for the kick in the ass.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:54 PM
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That makes sense. I honestly have no idea which it is yet, but I'm just gonna keep working on me until she decides she's into it (or not)
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:51 PM
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That was kind of the initial reason I started with the recommended weight actually. I'm still finding places where my form is all fucked up. Struggled like crazy when 100lb dead lift came up and then realized before my next workout that I was doing it all wrong. Turns out I can deadlift my body weight with a lot more ease when I've got the proper form. Who'da thunk it.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:50 PM
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Thanks. I had amazing results from keto before I started red pill, so I may have to go back to that to get the rest of the way down.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:33 PM
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Cause I'm a weak ass man. Doing 5x5, which ups it by 5lbs every workout so I've just been following that. It's still not insanely hard, so I could probably go up but I've been trying to stick to the program until this actually becomes a way of life for me and not just a chore I have to do.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:32 PM
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Easiest answers ever ;) thanks.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:23 PM
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No? I'm still a total newb to all this, but the way I understood it is eat clean at a deficit and lift heavy to lower BF. So, your suggestion would be eat at maintenance?
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:23 PM
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Yep. Then I guess I should ask a secondary question: should I even bother initiating when I know all I'm going to get is someone who could care less. Cause it's not attractive and it just feels like a waste of time and a fucking huge DLV when I can't keep it up. Pretty sure I just answered my own question, but yeah.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:15 PM
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I've been doing 5x5 for the last twoish months and I'm really enjoying it. Seeing lots of really positive changes in my body without any cardio and almost no accessory work. I'll get to those eventually, but still just enjoying the 5x5 progress.
/r/askMRP08/06/18 05:39 AM
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Yeah, I absolutely have done that on far too many occasions. I've been leaving her presence when we have spats lately though and it's working beautifully. I can just go do what I need/want to do and that's it. Yes, I still have a lot of those angry and upset feelings, but just leaving her to mope or be angry has calmed me down a lot over the last couple weeks. I can kind of see it slowly being internalized as I'm not as affected as I was, but there's still a lot of emotions involved when I do th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 07:57 PM
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No, you're spot on with all that. She's never really contributed much to the household, and admitting that to myself has been difficult but I just keep seeing reminders of that lately. Of course right now I don't WANT to leave, but it needs to be an option im willing to take for me to really be comfortable, I think. For SMV, on the physical side I think I'm getting close to her. She's always had extra weight since she had our kids and has never really seriously worked to get rid of it. I look go…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 07:31 PM
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Not acting out is my specialty. Been keeping those feelings bottled up my entire life haha. For real though, thanks for the thoughts on that. I'm getting better at remembered STFU in the moment, so dealing with these kind of tests properly should become easier as time goes on. Thanks again.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 07:27 PM
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Not yet okay. I'm very much faking it until I make it right now. But I realize that that's something I need to be okay with and have as an option, if I decide I need to use it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 05:48 PM
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OYS first post 32 yo 140lbs 5'5" 23% body fat from my first time with calipers, but the scale says I'm at 15%, so somewhere in that large range Squat 110lbs Deadlift 140lbs Bench press 85lbs OHP 55lbs Sidebar Working through WISNIFG, it's a slog. I've read it once years ago, but remember none of it. Breezed through MMSLP. That's been a tremendous help. I really need to spend more time reading, but I've been playing catch up with the house the last month and end up just crashing in bed by the tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 04:29 AM
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