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Shit, girl! You got me good there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/23 07:37 PM
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Thank you very much! Steal away, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/22 12:32 AM
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Funny (but not surprising) when it is him getting choked it is still HIM benefitting, right!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/22 12:31 PM
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I have heard way too many people try to justify a fetish as a "necessity" in order for said person to get off or even want sex. They truly believe it is unchangeable, almost biological... It ain't biological it's PATHOLOGICAL. The only reason they can't change it is because they don't want to, Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/22 12:28 PM
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Yeah spot on - have to experience one to be able to learn how to spot them (unfortunately)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:12 PM
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Unfortunately, psychopaths are incredibly skilled at displaying all these traits and can keep it up for as long as it takes to trick someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:41 PM
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And especially when you throw a ton of “scientific” evidence at them to try and prove your point, it only makes you seem more bitter
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:58 PM
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Are the more violent criminals now wearing ID tags or signs or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:55 PM
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Yeah I was just thinking that’s kinda what we been asking for all along; it might be born out of bitterness but we fine wit dat
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:47 PM
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Yep! There’s PLENTY of scientific articles about that, too!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:45 PM
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And the use of “pseudo-sciences” like “evolutionary biology” 😒 …that first article proves nothing, has no scientific merit, it’s just a review of the literature (by three men) and a “proposed hypothesis” about women’s evolutionary reasons for having higher disgust
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:43 PM
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He’s even bad at faking an apology
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 12:50 PM
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Like trying to barter with nothing at all to offer…!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:35 PM
8

Omg this poor girl I was sobbing reading that last part about the affirmation words she wanted to hear. I’m sure you weren’t really meaning to be nasty towards her by calling her cringy or worse than a pickme, but it came across a little bit mean if I’m honest... This is the kind of girl that we as her sisters should be picking up and loving, until she understands her worth and goes to therapy… no woman should ever have to feel that alone and worthless.. Poor darlin!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 07:55 PM
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Yep and I LOVE how he’s staying for the children …modelling how to be an alcoholic ‘victim’. Cos that benefits them in no way whatsoever (except for them hopefully being turned off drinking after watching their dad do it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 07:00 PM
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…because how many times have we been right all along when we’ve had a gut feeling??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:55 PM
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True. The note should go inside the lid of her hairspray or something …secret agent style!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:52 PM
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The complaints from LVM about their dead bedroom Is so often just putting down his wife it’s disgusting… but it gets WAY worse when you do a quick scroll through their profile content… SO many have nsfw warnings (surprise surprise), they are ogling random naked women, looking at all sorts of weird shit I can almost GUARANTEE their wife has no idea about and posting in hookup subs. Then in the next breath they complain about how “loyal” they’ve been to a wife that gives them no sex, and how much …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:15 PM
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Omg yes! AND relying on a “diagnosis” to be a big piece of shit! Like, NO. Here’s the REAL diagnosis: “asshole”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:22 PM
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And what gets me is that the symptoms of adult adhd aren’t really so relationship-impacting (like say, a personality disorder is…) it’s more stuff that effects ability to work efficiently, or study, or pay bills on time… the risk-taking or impulsivity could be a symptom that could potentially effect relationships, but other than that it’s just forgetfulness and being distracted which may be annoying but isn’t the end of the world, so I don’t even know why they pick adhd. It’s also one of the mos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:58 PM
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That van looks like it reeks of hipster body odour. He can’t even fold up the shit in the back for a photo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:13 PM
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And the more women that come here for support the better… because it’s rare to find a place you can share your feelings and be lifted up and supported instead of being made to feel like crap about being with a loser …cos we’ve all been there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:53 AM
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Holey-moley what a jackass! He must have been scraping the barrel to try and find something wrong with you haha what a loser!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:54 PM
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( It’s not easy but you gotta persist with grey rocking at ALL costs. Zero emotional reaction no matter what. Don’t argue back, don’t get upset, and don’t bother trying to defend yourself or fight their crap. When they are ranting at you literally stop listening, start thinking about stuff you need to get done or something, just let your mind wander and stare blankly at them. I used to give myself a pep talk when he’d get particularly nasty… I’d tell myself that my non-reaction is going to be wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:17 AM
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I just realised your comment was in reply to mine! I thought it was a coincidence haha 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:07 PM
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My abusive ex lit the fire (of course), but it wasn’t him that led me to decenter men from my life. It was being exposed to his overt abuse tactics, manipulation, gaslighting and persistent lying for so long. I didn’t know it was possible to be so uncaring and entitled with no remorse whatsoever. His abuse hurt me enough to become hyper-vigilant and much more self-aware. Now, I notice his patterns of behaviour in almost every man I come across. At first I’d question my gut feeling because I know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 09:26 PM
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YES! I just read your comment after I posted mine and it confirms what I said exactly…! Rape porn…! YUCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 09:18 AM
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Yep. Porn literally conditions their minds to accept rape myths as truth, and the more porn they watch, the more they feel their partner is below their level (they deserve someone hotter despite being a complete loser with no potential or looks). This conditioning is reinforced every time they see porn where a woman is abused/raped (35-45% of porn) and the woman is sexually aroused as a result of the abuse (almost all, bar around 5% show the woman aroused by being raped). They think porn is harm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 09:16 AM
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Yeah true, I definitely know that is the more appropriate action to take, and I do feel pretty crappy that I tolerate it… :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:40 AM
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Oooh! I LIKE that!! Thank you for the idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:05 AM
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I know right! I hear the circus music in my head when I read how delusional this clown is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:26 PM
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Omg THIS!! Sexual jokes and innuendoes men use to try and steer the conversation towards sex absolutely make me see red. I am a beauty therapist and I have male clients (which has given me an intense resentment towards men in general) and the number of men that will try this when I’ve given absolutely no indication of anything except professional interest in them makes my stomach turn. One attempt is enough to turn me sour, I could probably forgive it if happened once and never again. But it alm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:24 PM
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…and you think that’s going to get her to drop her pants saying that?! Why don’t ya try negging her “slutty” dresses in her profile, surely that’s gunna help right?! Is it just ignorance or plain stupidity…? He can’t seriously be so oblivious, right?! (Saying this knowing it’s very possible he’s just that stupid)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 08:45 PM
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Yeah I found this most frightening… what a delusional, self-centered creep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 08:41 PM
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Omg the need for them to air their dirty laundry astounds me! I don’t know why think it makes them look good… putting down your wife to the whole world for something she isn’t at fault for is NOT an attractive quality. Not to mention the plethora of nsfw content sitting right there in your profile history for anyone to click on… Life must be pretty easy in imagination-land!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 07:17 PM
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Omg you hot the mail on the head!! YES! I’ve been so bloody confused by this entire thing and his fucked up attitude but now it all makes sense! He’s not pissed off his wife is putting out, he’s pissed off that she’s made it difficult for him to justify being a creepy lying predator behind her back! I mean, he already is doing that but now he will be in the wrong if he gets sprung… You’ve saved my sanity today, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 06:44 PM
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I’m glad I’m not the only one that’s intrigued by this! It seems to be an indicator of a far more widespread issue in my opinion… googling about deadbedrooms brings up heaps of sympathy blogs, there’s plenty of people on their side supporting their delusional beliefs that it’s SO unfair… and these men lap it up like they could do no wrong. and I absolutely guarantee that smug attitude would be directed at his wife… when the real reason she doesn’t want to fuck him really is just because he’s a P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 06:40 PM
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Oh, wow. The bar is well and truly below hell! He genuinely believed it was his RIGHT to have sex with her… just wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 05:00 PM
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…cuts to a scene with rain pouring down and the kid sitting on his own in the soccer field after practice cos dad forgot about him again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:55 PM
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I mean I got wet just reading that. Why isn’t she?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:54 PM
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I keep imagining she’s this little fierce woman that’s been patiently biding her time, giving him what he wants for now while she slowly plans to destroy his entire life in the meantime… let’s hope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:53 PM
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Oh don’t worry, he also made sure she knew if she didn’t put out she’d be out on her ass as he would be getting a divorce. “No way, I didn’t coerce her! She decided this ok her own it’s what SHE wants!” What a pig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:51 PM
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I think you’re absolutely spot on. I lurk these idiot’s profiles (because it’s like some fascinating calamity I can’t look away from) and I kid you not, at least half these men are commenting on nsfw posts and link subs… ogling woman after woman AND other men, and trying to hook up with anyone and everyone. They make no effort to hide it, either! Then profess what a dedicated husband they are in the next sentence, and offer advice to other men about their deadbedrooms! It’s DISGUSTING!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:49 PM
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So true…!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:42 PM
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It’s funny you mention that because I also noticed him posting to ask about a vibrator for his wife, for their newfound “adventures”… my first thought was he’s gone gun-ho on making his poor wife peg him… but maybe it’s because he’s inadequate… he did specify it must be a small size, probably worried it will replace him Frankly she’d be far better off with a tiny vibrator instead of him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:41 PM
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Oh YES! This is amazing! That woman is incredible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:11 PM
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I hope I did it properly this time… I could have added so much more here this guy just does. not. stop. a literal train headed for hypocro-city! His poor poor wife. Edit: missing here - his Enquiry into “open marriage”, pondering if this might be the sexual salvation he deserves in life. …I thought you said you were loyal??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:03 PM
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Sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:36 PM
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I had to cut out so much just to condense it to this much… so many commenters were trying to give good advice and were being super delicate about it (because clearly he is a fragile flower) but he dismisses everyone, no shame! He says somewhere his wife can read his posts “whenever” she wants but I smell bullshit! I wish we could save her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:17 PM
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And not just a basic chart, it’s a bloody plotted graph with a fancy colour scheme. #hobbygoals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:14 PM
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Oh crap I didn’t realise the subreddit as well as usernames… I think I missed some usernames too though! oops! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:10 PM
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I hope I didn’t stuff this post up, please let me know if I did! I can’t help lurking deadbedrooms right now, the insane levels of hypocrisy are mind-boggling. This woman is doing EVERYTHING to give him the sex he wants and she clearly DOESNT want. But it’s not good enough for him, still. Oh and of course he’s been the perfect, loyal husband (who posts about open marriage consideration…) He also is an ex-porn addict (apparently) and openly admits to being an asshole when he didn’t get sex but sp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:06 PM
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Omg wow. That’s low. Unfortunately not surprising, though. If it weren’t for this sub I think I would have lost all faith in women alongside men! Sorry you had to go through that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 01:53 PM
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Married women literally suffer through their entire marriage, trying to please a man that only ever thinks about pleasing himself. It’s not fair and it’s so infuriating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 01:23 PM
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omg glad you said this cos I was honestly reading this wondering if this woman was joking about her being nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:16 AM
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Its baffling that someone could say “purple mushroom head” and expect that to translate to “beautiful” in ANYONE’S mind. My mind imagines a poisonous forest mushroom that’s been trampled on so many times it’s purple and deformed …so maybe it’s an accurate description for what he’s got!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 08:24 PM
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He knows he isn’t capable of servicing a woman, so she “must know foreplay” so she can do it all herself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 03:29 PM
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As Ronan Keating said.. “you say it best …when you say nothing at all…”. Couldn’t be more true, I agree with you 110%! It does nothing to complain and most men will enjoy upsetting us anyway, silence is so much more dignified
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:59 AM
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Oh, yep! I 100% agree with you! …My heart sank when this sub suddenly dropped off the face of the earth and “went private” (I’m sure I wasn’t the only one!) the couple of days waiting to see if I’d be granted access I was fretting! A definite “pickme” moment, for sure! But I’d much rather do a pickme dance for this subreddit than any man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 10:01 PM
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Omg yes…! It’s the most frustrating thing to go through… and even more frustrating when you realise it’s still affecting you long after!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:31 AM
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Oh, wow. Thank you! I’ve been struggling with writing essays for uni lately… like I will write a paragraph then literally cannot figure out if it makes any sense or says what I was trying to say... But now I think about it, maybe it’s a result of being with an asshole like this! Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:40 PM
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Thank you! I frickin LOVE these studies! If my ex ever contacts me I’m sending him this before blocking his sorry ass again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 02:22 PM
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Oh bloody hell man, I went for a closer look at the link, and the gif that some idiot replied with just proves the dick pic theory… just wow dude, seeing your dick is the least appealing of all these unappealing images… NO woman is keen to see it! Maybe show your mates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:16 AM
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Finally… someone explains the real reason dick pics exist! THANK YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:06 AM
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A full-grown man child in all his glory…! How depressing, you poor thing…!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 11:27 AM
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Oh, yes. Every move is a dead end, yet NO move is also a dead end. There is literally no winning, walking away or even diffusing a circular argument with a delusional ranting manipulator… it is like literal psychological torture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 11:24 AM
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And clearly that putrid “husband” of hers is making her feel less than. Poor woman, she’s unable to see her self-worth anymore. So very sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 09:59 PM
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I agree with you 100%. And I refuse to ever be “friends” with an ex (that I don’t share a child with) for the simple fact that I refuse to be used as potential triangulation material for any new undeserving women, and refuse to be a piece of his cake when he wants to have his cake and eat it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 09:13 PM
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It also works in reverse, too, I always say if someone has to tell you they are a “good person” upfront it’s because they know you won’t be able to draw the same conclusions from their behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 09:01 PM
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My first trick was I stopped trying to prove myself to him when he was saying I’d done this or that, and instead focused my energy on what he was saying so I could write it down later… this also helped me “grey rock” before I even knew what that term meant. I kept notes or screenshots of EVERYTHING. But I also kept them completely hidden, and he never knew I was doing it. When things got worse I started secretly voice recording everything. All the notes and recordings I kept were not so I could …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 08:43 PM
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“Neggytubby”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 08:33 PM
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Yep. I just read an interesting article that explains it further: each time a man masturbates it positively reinforces whatever he’s fantasising about at the time, gradually conditioning his mind to associate sexual satisfaction with whatever porn is in front of him. Like a dog learns to sit when you give them a treat! Over time the association just grows and distorts their entire mind to seek out only that positive reinforcement and subconsciously ignore anything that doesn’t suit it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 08:04 PM
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This made me cry. How beautiful. Thank you for being you I’m with you too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 07:59 PM
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Too. Many. Women…. This happens to too many of us. Men can stomp around and say “me too” til they’re blue in the face but the reality is that they are far less vulnerable than us, especially physically… We need to teach people how insidious this kind of abuse is, how easily it can trap someone. Because the sad reality is that most people even though they truly mean well and genuinely care in most cases… they still believe deep down that there’s something wrong with a woman when she doesn’t leave…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 07:54 PM
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I'm with you... I'd pick pie over getting laid ANY day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 07:20 PM
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Sunk cost theory... especially if they've spent money on women in the past to try and have sex but it didn't work out, it can literally rewire them to become determined to get what they think they are entitled to...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 06:52 PM
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Yep. Much easier to guilt a wife into having sex with you than it is to put the effort into wooing a woman into hooking up for uncommitted sex...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 06:47 PM
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Oh yes, the hands… just reminded me of the most disgraceful, creepy tattoo I’ve ever seen… it belonged to my ex’s hand. It said “RIP amber” terribly tattooed all over his hand, his very own handiwork. A “tribute” to his dead girlfriend, who committed suicide while in a relationship with him… she 100% died because he is that much of an asshole, I don’t doubt it for a second. And he felt like a faded jail-quality tattoo with her name all over his hand was a fitting tribute to her lost life. So fri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 07:33 AM
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That’s one of the creepiest things I’ve heard! Bloody weird!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 07:26 AM
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Or in prison
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 07:25 AM
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“And if you equate me “wanting” to do something with the likelihood of me actually following through on it, that’s definitely on you. So really, you deserved it!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 07:18 AM
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I wouldn’t be surprised if this is the actual message that the therapist gave him! There’s not a chance he didn’t spin whatever he was told to suit his own agenda (if he even went to therapy in the first place… I’ve lost all faith that someone like that is capable of being honest at all)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:11 PM
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Haha! the fact he waited two whole years before having another go gives me the sense that your thumbs up really got to him… definitely would have burnt hard when you turned down his coffee offer! Love that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 08:52 PM
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I think you could be struggling with your own empathy possibly? cos leaving him suddenly is going to feel horrible, as you wouldn’t want to treat someone how you wouldn’t want to be treated yourself… those feelings will go away, trust me your resentment will keep building (like it already is now), and one day you won’t care and you’ll wonder how you ever did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 08:06 PM
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If only he was capable of creating a spark that could attract anything to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:23 AM
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…also the audacity of him just randomly telling you his story, like where did he think that was going to get him?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 06:00 AM
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“Woe”, there! Yeah, that got me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:59 PM
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No no, wait, he’s a “student” at self employed. So he’s in training, he might get there one day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:53 PM
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Yeah, I’d say it also corresponds with his requirement for a “fairly” clean partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:51 PM
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their menu of depravity only really exists in imaginationland, anyway… cos what woman in their right mind would be swayed by their “offers” haha nope! Won’t stop them whining about women being too fussy when they don’t get their way, however… we can’t win
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:58 PM
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My ex would buy bunches of flowers for his platonic “girlfriends” whenever he invited them over, to go all-out; cooking amazing meals for, and spoiling them… I know he wasn’t sleeping with them, because he knew it would burn just that bit more for me to see him treat these platonic “friendships” better than he treated me (don’t worry, I’m not delusional, he definitely cheated on me with many other people, just not them - I’m sure not for a lack of trying, either). He’d come back from the shops w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:25 PM
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Someone’s a bit butthurt
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:33 AM
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But not quite busy enough to prevent you commenting on reddit about how it doesn’t bother you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:22 AM
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Isn’t it disgusting?! It’s almost as if he resents his daughter enough to destroy her psychologically because he hated his wife THAT much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:09 AM
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Wow. The bar is now so low it’s collapsed in on itself and turned into a black hole, and it seems to be sucking in to it what’s left of my faith in humanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:03 AM
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Yeah exactly, that’s why I say “need” we all know it’s a want but they harp on like it’s life or death
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:05 PM
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It’s actually ideal for him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:00 AM
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The whole concept is just so unappealing! They make no effort whatsoever to make it exciting and enticing for us to sleep with them, yet they are the ones claiming that sex is a basic “need” for them… like food is also a basic need, if someone didn’t have any they’d go to extraordinary efforts to get it, like if they were stuck in the wilderness and had to hunt or something, you’d do whatever you have to do to fulfil that need. So why aren’t they going to extraordinary lengths to get from us wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:57 AM
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I think them being “stiff” for that long might be a a bit of an obstacle here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:24 PM
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Oh, and “I have every right to air our dirty laundry to these female friends because I literally have nobody in the world that I can talk about my emotions with (because of you)...!! If I say something about you that you don’t like, it doesn’t matter if it’s true or not! What matters is you invading my privacy and trying to control my friendships!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:13 PM
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I called my last boyfriend my “partner” because I was embarrassed of him… like; “I’m here to collect my partner, I believe he’s been arrested…” 🤦🏼‍♀️ I think the word partner helped me feel more distant from him, like people might assume I’m his case worker and not romantically involved, voluntarily. NEVER again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:34 PM
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…”and if you’re still here that means I can get away with it again. Now I won’t feel bad doing it because you deserve it for being weak and putting up with being mistreated”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:17 PM
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Oh, yes I 100% agree! I used to think “snooping” was a bad thing but I truly believe that just about any woman that looks through their partner’s phone is doing so because they already know something’s up (or they have been burnt so much in the past their ability to trust has been completely eroded!). But now I believe that once you lie and cheat on your partner you no longer have the right to privacy and you definitely don’t deserve it! And women need to stop feeling bad about it because it can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:30 PM
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Disgusting! I can’t believe this dribble is posted on a major psychology site!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:32 PM
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I think this happens when they know they will never be able to pull it off in real life... cos they know they aren’t anything exciting, and nobody will actually ever want to fuck them. So they live in imagination-land instead, by talking to women online... keeps their delusional grandiosity alive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:39 AM
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Great advice thank you for sharing! Just wanted to add that with the last couple of points about telling them how you feel I think it’s a good idea, but I also know how it feels being confronted by people in that way (when i was in in a violent relationship), my self esteem was so low that I isolated myself from anyone the second I felt like I was a burden, and just pretended that I was fine. Got so frightening at times because I literally didn’t want to reach out for help when I was in serious …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:23 AM
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Haha! The language barrier is totally real! I assumed everyone was on the eftpos train bah haha we are so isolated here! I think it’s sweet you googled it though I feel kinda special for the effort you made! thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:48 AM
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Hang on. When she says “I handed him the card” does that mean she’s giving him her eftpos card to pay for the meals? Or am I off in the land downunder? Cos people keep mentioning coupons is the “card” a coupon?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:35 AM
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I hope the cheesecake is good because she’s eatin for two! Oh! Sorry! I mean PAYING for two
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:06 AM
59

I’m in Australia and only know of the Cheesecake Factory through TV sitcoms, I imagine them having coupons! And her armed with a wad of them but her boyfriend (using her card) tells her off for being cheap and she is too embarrassed to use them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:03 AM
59

Bah hahaha you literally took the words out of my thoughts! Bless!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:59 AM
7

Guarantee that his family he has helping him out do 95% of the work for him anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:22 PM
8

Yep, and he’s clearly upset that she’s not in his life, “i haven’t seen her in over a year” like it was his right to see her ever again?! What a sad delusional idiot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:15 PM
12

Yeah that’s some next level projection there what a delusional crackpot he just contradicts himself over and over! It’s actually laughable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:22 AM
10

Just beautiful! Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad she knocked on your door as well. Love hearing how something good came out of what happened to you - I think previous victims of abuse are invaluable when it comes to helping others going through abuse... because you know first-hand exactly what would have helped when you were going through it yourself! I hope she does well and is safe now. Good on you for supporting a sister in need
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:43 PM
3

Oh, wow. That’s just so wrong, these idiots are so bloody entitled! I don’t get it it’s disturbing how oblivious they are to themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 12:02 AM
16

Oh yeah, problem solved right?! Mine used to scream at me and threaten me, then demand that I stop being scared! Just wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:54 PM
24

I know right! Putrid! It’s like leaving a wad of toilet paper in your buttcrack because you can’t be bothered to wipe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:40 PM
11

At least the banana peel and rotten coconut would make for more interesting company than the dude would
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:26 AM
10

I don’t get it, why do they make out like it is their most important NEED, like can’t breathe without it... yet don’t bother putting in ANY work to make sure they get it? I know if I want something I gotta work for it, it’s not going to just magically appear... but they sit on their ass and think their spouse should be motivated to please them under the threat of their impending infidelity... I’m sure they will pull out all the stops to impress the ‘other woman’ when they eventually end up cheat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:08 AM
3

Chicken’s got standards! Understandable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:34 AM
7

And I’m sure that Mcchicken would decline that offer if it had the choice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:32 AM
3

Omg yes! ...Oops there goes the birthday cake I made for myself, happy birthday to me! Let me clean that before you throw a tantrum about me taking too long to acknowledge the “gift” you got me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:08 AM
10

I think they get so excited that they can’t stop themselves... like, “if I don’t say something creepy right this second I might not get another chance!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:46 PM
20

It seriously baffles me how they can behave so stupidly and think it’s actually going to get them anywhere... you’d think seeing a beautiful woman like yourself, they might go out of their way to try and impress her? “Nah, I’ll be an entitled idiot surely she will go for that” my faith in men is on a very downhill slope at the moment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:36 PM
8

What a cheap, tacky asshole! Well, HE wore them in the end so I guess he tops both of us bah haha! Love to hear of a happy ending when there are so many unhappy ones, very happy for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:12 AM
20

They just want their Mummyyyyyyyy ...and they say all women have daddy issues, yet can’t even wipe their own asses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:51 AM
49

Ugh. Yuck. How do they not see that being repulsive isn’t going to help them get what they want, and they’ve just crippled any slight chance they might have had before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:52 AM
2

I actually had the thought that it was him that hacked her, and the fact he’s harping on about it publicly and in text makes it look like he’s just creating fake proof to deny he did it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:04 AM
17

I hope you didn’t wear it for him bloody jerk! I hope it was new lingerie though, Mine tried to give me pieces he stole from other women. he was determined to get me into them it really pissed him off that I refused to touch them. What planet are these men on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:45 AM
23

Haha I’m imagining seeing that and just saying “oh. Is that it?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:38 AM
72

And it perpetuates the abuse cycle, destroying that confidence she once had because she now feels worthless for enduring his abuse. It’s so wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:30 AM
79

Pure gold!! And well done I bet you wish you coulda had an epidural to block some of the blood sweat and tears spent finishing that! Very inspiring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:26 AM
248

I mean what woman wouldn’t want a man that refuses to give them any details about themselves?? It says he’s shady at the very least... or possibly a deadly predator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:38 AM
7

“Men get serious with whomever we happen to be dating when we're finally ready to settle down” Really?? Or do you just settle down out of desperation when you realise you aren’t god’s gift to women and you can’t get them all into bed like you thought you could?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:49 PM
6

Gaslighting about gaslighting ...hilarious! At least they tried
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:40 PM
8

I know, right?! Dr Ramani would be such a wonderful therapist to have, she’s so empathetic and caring and she really gets what it’s like to be with an abusive man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:27 PM
12

It’s definitely the state of men with mummy issues... “where’s mummy?! I need my bottom wipeddddd waaaaaah”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:33 AM
25

AND... do you know what to do with these things after using them? Ie how to flush the toilet ?? Lint in the bin ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:01 AM
71

Could call him by that name, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:57 AM
80

Yet us ladies still feel a sense of guilt when we choose to take our lives back and leave these idiots. When they hurt us they didn’t care, they most likely enjoyed it! But we second guess hurting them because we aren’t heartless monsters, and it’s really not right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:43 AM
1

Completely agree - sounds like she might be suffering a bit of Stockholm syndrome... hate saying it because I know how it feels to be judged by others when going through it, but it just seems like her vague denial of abuse and unwillingness to speak about it any further are more his words than hers... poor girl, just wanna give her a hug
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:57 PM
19

And maybe, when we share our stories - as hard and embarrassing as it might be... they might help a lonely sister out of a dark place, or help keep her from making similar bad choices... and that’s also a big win
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:26 PM
1

Yeah I think definitely it’s a deliberate attempt to assert themselves as all-powerful and deserving of our devoted slavery, and entitlement to us cleaning up after them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:52 PM
1

Oof... and also don’t get me started on the times I’ve found beard trimmings all over the sink (from shaving his face). Not only all over the sink, they’d also be scattered across the ENTIRE bathroom - how does one even get bits of hair on every inch of a bathroom like that?! You seriously couldn’t miss it -dark beard hair would be literally everywhere! It really got to me that he thought it was okay to leave the bathroom covered in his disgusting hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:08 PM
3

Thank you!! Yes! If something was that important to me and I NEEDED it in my life, I’d put in the WORK to get it. AND continue doing whatever I needed to do to KEEP it. If it was that important to me I’d stop at nothing to maintain it... I don’t know how men can sit on their asses claiming sex is such an important basic need for them (knowing that most women don’t regard it in the same way) and expect US to put in the effort to keep them happy! Like NO. If you want sex then do the work to make s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:50 PM
5

Bah hahaha YES! Then the pickmeisha in the last stall that pampers him... “ohh... it’s ok, let me show you how everything works down there!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:24 PM
2

Omg yes! I know nothing about the stock market but crypto is so easy to dip toes into... and the feeling of watching that little bit of money go up and up and up is SO satisfying, its encouraging me to want to manage my money better in general, too (which is a definite bonus cos I’ve been terrible at saving)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:17 PM
4

If only every girl thought about this we’d become an actual sisterhood instead of being suspicious and critical of each other as is so common in women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:05 AM
1

Thanks for posting this! I’ve got to give evidence against my ex/mostly ex (who’s trying desperately to cling on and not let me go because he’s in prison and has no one) in 2 separate cases tomorrow (police requirement not my choice), I’m honestly freaking the hell out about it and been thinking I really don’t want to give evidence against him. I’ve been feeling guilty that my testimony will have bad consequences (for him) and thinking I shouldn’t say anything. But, fuck that. I didn’t assault m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:11 AM
21

And sadly I wouldn’t be surprised one little bit if she ends up following suit herself, and ends up in the sex industry too.. maybe he’s actually got a thing for sex workers and will slowly wear her down and condition her into it you just never know what his real intentions could be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:52 AM
3

It’s pretty beautiful of you to be worried about her, after what you went through. Good on you, sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:17 AM
1

I’ve heard that sadistic psychopaths get off on turning women down when they want sex, especially if they are hot - that it gets them off MORE than actually getting sex. Sounds like he could be somewhere on that spectrum. Gross. You poor thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:11 AM
1

I’m a waxer, and do men’s Brazilians... and I’ve had more than a few creeps ask for my opinion on their size, because they “know it’s small and won’t be offended” etc etc ...I NEVER say anything that validates it for them because they are fishing for it. They literally WANT me to make fun of their dick - yuck. I’d love to say “yeah, actually, your dick is about as big as my opinion of you is now” but I refuse to respond. It’s like you can’t win, because their only aim is to make you uncomfortabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:59 AM
3

Oooooh yes feel the burrrrrrrrn! What a legend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:20 AM
2

Spot on! And being called ‘stupid’ for not leaving is one of the most debilitating things you can hear about yourself. These men prey on intelligent, caring women. And believe me, you already feel completely stupid for not leaving at the very the first red flag. Each time you are called stupid for not leaving it makes you want to isolate yourself more and hide your reality from the entire world, because you already know you’re stupid. He’s been making you feel that way by abusing you and the opi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:38 PM
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