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| 17 | 1 Year in the Review: How I completely transformed my life and mind, and became successful with women and friends. [x-post faimprovement] SUPER LONG | shakedown_st | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 01:16 AM | |
| 15 | Just tried this ice breaker at a party that went really well. Thought I'd share it [x-post faimprovement] | shakedown_st | /r/seduction | 13/05/12 06:17 AM |
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| 1 | Q4Men: You find out that your girlfriend was ugly 3 years ago. She shows you an old picture of herself and tells you “you wouldn’t have liked me back then, I wasn’t pretty”. How do you react? Additional questions inside.I'd show her an old, ugly picture of myself and then compliment how each of us worked to improve ourselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/18 02:44 AM |
| 15 | Is it my personality? Or how I interact with people? 19 FTruth be told, you should probably cut down to 150 lbs. With a proper diet and exercise, you could probably hit that goal in 7 to 8 months. | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 04:44 AM |
| 8 | CMV: It is far more difficult for a man to be sexually attractive to women than it is for women to be sexually attractive to men.A woman being attracted to you does not equate with wanting to initiate a conversation. They may very well be attracted to you, but are hoping you make the first move. Now whether it is fair or not that men are expected to make the first move is an entirely different matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/16 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Considering how women have to spend much more time, energy, pain, and money on their appearance for dates (sources inside), it's absolutely fair & equal that men pay for food & entertainment on dates.This is the dumbest thing I ever read. If I wanted "pleasurable nucleus accumbens" -- whatever that is -- I can save the money by staying home and going to /r/gentlemanboners. When I take a girl on a date, I am seeing if she is qualified to date me long term. I owe her nothing but my time and courtesy. Buying her $5 chai latte is of no consequence (I will never take a girl to a fancy dinner on the first 1-3 dates). There are a lot of pretty girls out there.. Beauty is common. So the fact that so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/16 01:41 PM |
| 0 | The real difference between red and blue, and the perfect demonstration of the redpill's blind spots.Man this is thread is the perfect example of why both red and blue pills annoy the shit out of me. Trying to dissect the intent of a statement like this is completely pointless. Whether she was trying to be dominant, neg, insulting, motherly, flirty, or whatever other bullshit has been thrown around in this thread is irrelevant. The response to this is the same regardless of her intent (agree and amplify): "Yeah, could be true. I've never even seen boobies before [obvious sarcasm]" It's that sim… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/16 10:29 PM |
| 6 | redpillers: Doesn't the redpill help women improve on their shit testing skills?It doesn't matter how good the shit tests are, every shit test can be defeated by simply not caring what she says. You can say the most mean spirited and insulting thing towards me and I would just laugh in your face because it means nothing. Shit tests are effective because it weeds out men who have no confidence, are overly sensitive, and care too much about what others think of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/15 07:26 PM |
| 2 | FR: Manipulative ex fails to reorbit meI agree, the only reason OP contacted her was so that he can boost his own ego now. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/08/15 03:16 PM |
| 17 | Is Blue Pill advice really bad ?The advice described is not bad in and of itself, but it is completely unhelpful to a beta male who is trying to become successful with women. It's more helpful to someone who has become self-actualized...But if someone is self-actualized they already know the advice internally so the point is moot Here's why the advice is unhelpful to a beta: Be yourself -- a beta already thinks they are being themselves. They are generally shy, quiet people, who just want everyone else to like them. They're af… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/15 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Do you generally believe that women should be free to make her own choices?Who's going to tell me what books to read? You? No thanks. I for one am thankful for what little freedom I have left. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/15 02:33 AM |
| 10 | RPW Girl Game on an Index CardHmm, here's a few I think. Be feminine Work hard on maintaining a feminine and attractive physique Be a great caretaker (mother/girlfriend/etc) Don't nag / give your SO space when he needs it Support your SO in public / disagree with him only in private Don't emasculate your SO | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/14 07:09 PM |
| 2 | How I buy drinks and get resultsWhy spend anything at all if you can get the same result without paying? | /r/TheRedPill | 23/12/14 05:04 AM |
| 12 | How does RP explain the BP attraction?I don't think anyone says there aren't exceptions to the rule. Of course there are women out there who prefer beta men. If an RP man thinks his reality is the way it is 100% of the time, that'd be foolish. In my experience it's 80/20. Where 80% of the women I meet prefer a man who with those leadership qualities that RP promotes. Then there's that 20% where the women prefer the men be more submissive. And that's totally okay. I'm not even saying that's bad. If that's what works well for them, by… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/14 05:26 AM |
| 4 | What are the motives of TRP?You don't know anything about me. As if the fact that I posted my message means I treat people like objects. Like I said, you want it to be true so badly so it affirms your beliefs. Truth is I don't treat them like objects. I don't make them insecure artificially. Regarding the "annoyance" part, that is strange because I don't think I would ever get into a relationship with a girl I find annoying. Would you? I live a great life and I love people. All people. I have great friends, men and women a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/14 12:39 PM |
| 8 | What are the motives of TRP?The motives depend on the individual. Anyone who comes to these subs can take what they find valuable apply it to their goals. What those goals are depend on the man. Some just want to get laid, some want to understand women better, some want to understand themselves better. Many don't want to let other people walk all over them and to take control of their own lives -- to set healthy boundaries with women and their relationships. But for most, I believe, it's about understanding the reality tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/14 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Beginner here. Just got shit tested tonight. Feels good really, need some advice thoStandard ignore or agree/amplify is best with shit-tests. So you should have either A) Just ignored her completely when she made that statement. Continue doing what you're doing as if she never said anything. B) Agree and amplify, "Yeah you're totally right. I've never met a girl before in my life. What are girls like?" a drawn out "wowww", while strange is still a hell of a lot better than "oh you need someone to take you home?" ...no don't say that. | /r/seduction | 10/07/14 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Some of TRP believe it is about nothing more than self-realization and self-improvement. Is there anything misogynistic with TRP in these terms?I've seen these things mentioned outside of TRP. Well it's certainly not popular because my first exposure to this advice wasn't until I turned 23 when it occurred to me that I should re-discover my masculinity. What does this mean? Honestly, this seems like it would be that "context" I was referring to...that you can't take the common sense without the context that TRP puts it in, which is usually a skewed understanding of women. Too big for a single thread. But I'll concede that there are non-… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/14 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Some of TRP believe it is about nothing more than self-realization and self-improvement. Is there anything misogynistic with TRP in these terms?I can't speak for OP. I don't care much for the actual TRP community itself -- I find many of them bitter and resentful, but I read it every day because it is one of the very few places a man can go that is mostly void of feminist interests. Besides the basic self improvement such as lifting, confidence, being social, etc, there are other very important points that are frequently discussed that you actually won't find beyond TRP, similar subs, and choice books. Holding frame no matter what Putti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/14 12:36 PM |
| 3 | Red Pillers, do you view TRP as an absolute truth or a different lens through which you view the world, and how open are you to listening to other points of view?Yes exactly. I went on my own self improvement journey and after a year of hard work, my world view shifted (this is all before red pill existed) and I came to many of the same conclusions about social and gender dynamics that red pill spouts now. So, really, I had to be open minded to have such a shift in the first place. Having said that, I don't really identify with the redpill community itself because there's a lot of bitterness over there and people who take themselves way too seriously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/14 01:10 PM |
| 0 | I have realised that I'm a slut. Now what?Live your life the way you want to live it. Don't listen to red pill or blue pill or anyone here. Do what you want and be free. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/14 03:38 AM |
| 15 | Dread Game?Great post. I don't understand Dread Game because if you are an awesome, super social, self-assured, and confident man, this so-called "dread-game" is already happening because your SO knows you have options already. If you have to contrive a fear of loss in her unnaturally, then you're not really in top form as a man anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/14 08:03 PM |
| 9 | How much stock do you put in red pill field reports?When I was first starting out a couple years back, I put a lot of stock into them. I was socially clueless when it came to women so I had no frame of reference to begin with. The field reports gave me some highlights on what to expect so I took them seriously. After three years and my life becoming completely different, all the knowledge I have now is based on my own experiences. I have no need to read other people's field reports and I don't put much, if any, stock in them at all now. A lot of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/14 07:32 PM |
| 1 | RP/BP men, does a woman's attractiveness impact the sort of behavior you'll tolerate from her in a relationship?It's an interesting question. When I was more of a blue pill, beta type of guy who believed that I needed to hold on to any chance I could get with an attractive girl, it probably wouldn't have mattered what the girl did. She is hot and I am lucky to have her and I will tolerate her bad behavior, mood swings, and cater to her every need anyway. I think this is the common the case. Since becoming a self-assured, self-aware, and very confident man, I have a backbone. A girl's attractiveness level … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/14 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Best self-improvement books?Thanks a lot. After reading countless self improvement books and what not, I just got in the habit of reading and kept running with it | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 11:50 PM |
| 8 | Best self-improvement books?Here's a full list I compiled | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 11:33 PM |
| 1 | What does the blue pill have to offer to the average, sexless college age male?shameless plug for /r/faimprovement -- been around for 2 years and I just discovered these pill subs a couple months ago | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/14 12:27 PM |
| 0 | Rules on Dating and AgeYeah I always thought the divide by 2, add 7 rule was pretty excellent | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/14 04:01 AM |
| 1 | An AFC's Guide to TextingSo I talk to a girl for 20 minutes, get her number, ask her out on a date, and now I have to be selfless, go out of my way, show empathy, and "making sure she succeeds" before I even really get to know her? No. In fact, I would say this is kind of creepy. I have to echo all the other comments in this thread in that this is a bad approach for girls you meet. A girl you are in a relationship with? Maybe then. | /r/seduction | 22/03/14 03:23 PM |
| 31 | Afraid to kiss. Not because of fear of rejection but because of fear of not good enoughThe best advice I ever got about kissing is this. Match whatever they are doing. If they are crazy passionate and eat your face, you eat their face. If they are soft and reserved, you be soft and reserved. Also, when you first go for it -- kiss one lip at a time. That's it, really. | /r/seduction | 27/10/13 04:50 PM |
| 11 | How do you find out what makes girls attracted to you?You got it backwards. If you are constantly wondering "why are these girls attracted to me?" or "what makes me attractive to them?" then you consider your self-worth based on what other people think of you. This translates to low confidence when you're out socializing. Instead, your thought patterns should resemble, "I know I'm awesome. I know I'm confident. It is obvious that these girls are attracted to me. How could they not be?" In this case, you are a rock in who you are and complements (or… | /r/seduction | 23/08/13 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Would you all be interested in a self improvement vlog coming from a "Beta" looking to build himself into an "Alpha"? Looking for all advice/suggestions.I did this kinda. http://www.shakedownlab.com/category/social-skills/stories/ ...if you go all the way to the beginning, stay in the "stories" category and start there you an see my transition over the last year and a half or so. If you don't want to read all 26 posts, I did a summary post at the one year mark http://www.shakedownlab.com/2012/10/04/how-i-completely-transformed-my-life-and-mind-and-became-successful-with-women-and-friends-in-one-year/ | /r/seduction | 14/08/13 02:47 AM |
| 7 | A sample conversation of picking up girls?Hasn't failed me once 0 for 0 | /r/seduction | 14/08/13 02:26 AM |
| 3 | What are some of seddit's most recomended books?I compiled a list of all the books I've read and recommend. | /r/seduction | 04/08/13 07:18 PM |
| 12 | response to a shit testA few things I have learned over time that have worked for me. Again, for me. Can't speak for everyone here. Never criticize a person's taste in music. Some people genuinely take offense if you poke fun at their music. Tease her, yes. Offend her, no. And I have come to learn that teasing about music is off limits. I was never a big fan of the "you and I would never work" line. It tells her that the prospect of a relationship has been on your mind and I feel like this does more harm than good. Li… | /r/seduction | 02/07/13 01:15 PM |
| 1 | R/Seduction What are your favorite books regarding seduction and why?I made a list of my favorite books here | /r/seduction | 14/06/13 01:16 AM |
| 2 | 3 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Drink When You Go OutI am on a workout and health binge, so I don't drink alcohol at all. I find that many girls are actually impressed with the fact that I don't drink and it leads to great conversation. Especially when I'm out having a great time, dancing, and doing a whole bunch of things that other people "need alcohol" in order to do. I've been preaching the "go out sober" thing for like 6 months now, but people can't understand it. The benefits are enormous. | /r/seduction | 05/11/12 01:33 PM |
| 7 | So I've never had a girl tell me to beg her to come over before...You got it all backwards. OP is actually supposed to beg the girl to come over? That's really embarrassing and emasculating. In this situation, the girl is the one playing games and OP is the one that shut down the game playing. | /r/seduction | 10/10/12 09:37 PM |
| 1 | 1 Year in the Review: How I completely transformed my life and mind, and became successful with women and friends. [x-post faimprovement] SUPER LONGThought my clarification that seddit was quite different a year ago would be sufficient. Oh well then, thanks anyway. | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 02:24 PM |
| 2 | 1 Year in the Review: How I completely transformed my life and mind, and became successful with women and friends. [x-post faimprovement] SUPER LONGIt's like you didn't read my post at all. Korbidon is completely right here. The only one stopping you is your mentality. You have a failure and self-pity mentality instead of a giving 0 fucks mentality. | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 12:13 PM |
| 2 | 1 Year in the Review: How I completely transformed my life and mind, and became successful with women and friends. [x-post faimprovement] SUPER LONGThe post is super long, but that's because I really want to illustrate the change in mindset that I had over the course of the year. Going from super depressed and lonely Forever Alone, to a very confident and social man. I knock seddit a little bit in the middle of the story, but this place was different in late 2011. I think the mods here have made a concerted effort to direct content towards inner game which I am a strong proponent of. | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 01:20 AM |
| 2 | How to Learn Pick-Up from the Internet - Lesson #1 (response to blackhatseduction's post)We've had that over at /r/faimprovement for a while now. Here's a direct link to the program I created. It's been refined and made better over the last 6 months based on the feedback I've received. I'm always looking for more feedback, suggestions, and guest bloggers though. In 2 weeks I'm going to write a post about how I completely changed my life in 1 year. | /r/seduction | 19/09/12 12:05 AM |
| 1 | I don't like kissing until I know the girl...is this weird?No, it isn't. This line of thinking is just going to hold you back and cause self-doubt. You are a man and kissing a woman is a completely normal thing to do. By making it more than it is, you are doing yourself a disservice. | /r/seduction | 14/09/12 09:55 PM |
| 1 | I don't like kissing until I know the girl...is this weird?Every kiss is special. No need to wait. | /r/seduction | 14/09/12 09:41 PM |
| 0 | Why so much hate for r/seduction?This is the first time I've ever heard in my life that the term "female" is now politically incorrect. Seriously? I use the term "male" just as often, but that's completely ok? What has happened to this world? | /r/seduction | 01/08/12 09:38 PM |
| 13 | Shit test help - are you interested in [girl name]?In my experience, there is no right way to answer these questions. So I always turn these questions around on them with a question of my own. "Why do you ask?" It can help reveal their true motives for asking. Here are other examples. | /r/seduction | 26/07/12 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Approached more than 50 women, but still no results...Have you tried non-direct openers? There's various ways of starting conversations. I would start fresh from beginning again. Just start small, asking for directions. Then start approaching women asking them for suggestions for restaurants. Just engage in conversation and see where it goes. | /r/seduction | 18/06/12 06:10 PM |
| 18 | What are your hail mary texts or plays?I read this here on seddit but can't remember where, "Hey [name], we need to talk. I think I'm pregnant." | /r/seduction | 01/06/12 01:55 PM |
| 2 | 22 year old, haven't even had my first kiss yet. halp?No one is going to give you an adequate answer to this question in a Reddit reply. Honestly, you need to spend the next six months of your life working on yourself, reading a dozen books, and going out and approach women. No one can hold your hand and tell you what to do every step of the way. | /r/seduction | 30/05/12 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Need help on picking up signals.Exactly. OP should be asking girls out -- not trying to find ones that are interested in him. Some girls can get attracted to a guy who simply have the courage and confidence to ask them out in the first place. | /r/seduction | 26/05/12 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Is it good or bad to compliment girls?Totally agree. Sometimes I'll throw out a "You're adorable, you know that?" but it's extremely rare. | /r/seduction | 26/05/12 02:01 PM |
| 9 | Can we stop trying to help foreveralone now?I have some more thoughts I want to share. The issue for people in /r/foreveralone isn't that they "made up their minds about PUA". Deep down they know that this works and works for good reason. The issue is that they are comfortable. Yes, you will see dozens of posts a day in /r/foreveralone about how depressed these people are, but the key is that they are so comfortable in their depression, that actively changing and becoming a better, more socialized individual, is too scary for them. To bec… | /r/seduction | 07/04/12 09:49 PM |
| 8 | Can we stop trying to help foreveralone now?I created /r/faimprovement 3 months ago. There's about 360 subscribers and it's for FAs who no longer want to be FA. I've charted my progress of the last 6 months of my life in that subreddit and how far I've come from starting with nothing to now having a girlfriend. There will obviously be some people who disagree with some of the material I've posted there, and that's fine. But I've written everything from an FA point of view because I used to be one. My transformation has been nothing short … | /r/seduction | 07/04/12 09:36 PM |
| 1 | [FR] 14 Rejections in One Night, and Not a Single Fuck Was GivenIf you need a woman's approval to feel good about yourself, rejection hurts. If you derive your happiness from within, rejection doesn't hurt. Couldn't have said it better myself. | /r/seduction | 13/02/12 07:35 PM |
| 3 | How to continue a conversation after the approach?I, too, had trouble transitioning from my opener to a regular conversation. Then I realized that it's not rocket science. If I opened two girls I just say, "So how do you two know each other?" ...Their responses are usually enough to start a number of threads to continue the conversation for a while until I can isolate the one I'm interested in. | /r/seduction | 12/02/12 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Just found this subreddit, it is great - Would you guys be interested in an iOS app?You could get MonoTouch and program it in C# and use standard .NET libraries. Then most, if not all the code would be re-usable for iPhone and Android. You have to buy a license though. Having said that, for something like this, a mobile web app would be more convenient. | /r/seduction | 02/02/12 03:16 AM |
| 2 | Cheat sheet for newer readers...Yeah, I felt the same way when I started reading all of this stuff a couple months back. The information can be overwhelming - and it's kind of a culture shock in a way. I used to be FA, so I created /r/faimprovement that kind of simplifies and organizes everything so that it is easier to absorb. I'm not saying my way is the right way at all, but it's definitely helpful for those just starting out. If anything, it helps people get motivated to find their own path which is the most important aspe… | /r/seduction | 31/01/12 02:57 PM |
| 4 | Dear men of Seddit, can you tell me the meaning of this:Ah then, yes. Eye contact + smile = big win. As a side note for women in general, I think a lot of women can benefit from inner game. I feel like the default thought process for women if they have strong eye contact and smile and the guy doesn't approach is that it is a fault of their appearance. When in reality, it can be any arbitrary reason -- mostly a fault on the guy's fear of approach. | /r/seduction | 28/01/12 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Dear men of Seddit, can you tell me the meaning of this:Logic doesn't add up. If he thought you were unattractive, then he wouldn't have had a crush on you. | /r/seduction | 28/01/12 06:43 PM |
| 2 | How do i get rid of reaction seeking mentality? What is the best way to start with?I think it just takes time and getting used to it..Just being more aware of it. I find myself saying reaction seeking things sometimes right after I say them and I think to myself, "shit, I wish I could take that back. stop doing that damn it!" But it's happening less and less as the weeks go by. One thing that did help me, was that I noticed a pattern of when I would most frequently use reaction seeking communication -- it's mostly when I feel like I need to say something to keep the conversati… | /r/seduction | 28/01/12 04:00 PM |
| 7 | Interesting thread going on over at TxoXChromosomes about negging.I was at a club last weekend and told a girl she danced like Elaine Benes from Seinfeld. I made the 'little kicks' gesture. I had a big grin and was obvious I was joking. She was actually an excellent dancer and she knew it...She smiled, laughed, gave me a playful tap on the shoulder, and negged me right back. At the end of the night I got a k-close. There's a fine line between insulting someone and playful teasing. If you're going to neg, then you have to do it right. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Very fast Attraction Building techniquensfw dude | /r/seduction | 17/07/11 07:30 PM |
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