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Unsure where it came from. A guys in my men’s group dropped it on me like a ton of bricks.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 09:15 PM
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Awesome, thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 09:13 PM
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When men get hold of someone hotter and fitter than themselves, are they happy and comfortable? Gents chime in!
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 08:57 PM
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“Beauty is temporary tyranny”
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 08:56 PM
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HIGHLY recommend Dr. Psychmom!! (M50, 2nd divorce starting…I wish I knew everything she’s says 30 years ago…)
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 08:55 PM
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Ok, yikes, but who appealed to you? …and tell me more about Australia…that sounds like a cool trip.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 11:07 PM
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Hey brother I’ve been through this ringer twice now, 13 years each. Did you say 4 times with 26years in this one? That’s a really, really, long-ass commitment.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 02:13 AM
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Yes, a friend of mine and his ex have condos in the same complex. Their daughter can walk back and forth. This is 300-400 m apart though, not sharing walls. And they are dating after divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 02:40 AM
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50M 1st divorce: promiscuous acting out, desperate to reattach, no reflection on myself, triathlons. 2nd current separation: journaling, counseling, regular church for first time in 10 years, weightlifting. No promiscuity, no desire to move on. Focus on fatherhood. It can depend on the internal tools and wounds you have available at that time in your life, no matter what gender you are.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 01:55 PM
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You’re asking for advice about not wanting advice? lol! Seriously though I feel you. I’m separated for the second time. Your experience needs to be expressed, HEARD, and validated. This shit blows. Indeed they are expressing care for you, but maybe without enough of the listening step. It’s one thing if they say “when this happened to me…” versus “that never happened to me because I’m better than you” or some equivalent. My grandmother was not an emotional person, married once for 60+ years. She…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 01:46 AM
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I’m with you, the “victim” of some sort of affair I’m only beginning to understand. But, there were a few years of complacency before that. Like keeping gasoline oily rags right by the furnace. This podcast changed my perspective about fault. At first I only saw her in the behavior it describes. Later I saw myself, too. It doesn’t change how wrong it was, but it changes my understanding of how we got there. Future state is still undetermined, it’s only been a few weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 11:50 PM
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This is the wrong place to ask. There are massive benefits. It is correct that the purpose is to join property, make a family, and connect extended families, not just because love. It takes work, like anything else worth having. It should be harder to enter, but also hard to quit.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 11:15 PM
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See the northern lights, Iceland, New Zealand, Antarctica. Starting out local, ride mountain bike trails within a 90 minute drive.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 01:41 AM
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Yes! Also good: r/nmmng r/separation. In my professional communities (other profile) the Reddit subs are waaay better than LinkedIn or the professional association chat room that I pay for.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 12:47 AM
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What is just may be different than understanding what led to this. Let’s learn and practice empathy, not condemnation. I’ve got 2 marriages collapsed, zero cheating, so I’m not about to throw stones.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 04:08 AM
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Yet…aren’t you only as needy as your unmet needs?
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 03:59 AM
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Hell yeah
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:57 AM
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Hey, no, seeing psychiatrists and therapists is a STRONG move. Facing yourself and your own faults takes brass balls. You’re injured, wounded, so own it. If you broke a bone or tore your shoulder (ahem) would you go to the ER and later physical therapy? Yes. So say yes now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 03:29 AM
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Those of us in a certain part of the military have experienced this…temporary hair thinning or hairline loss over the course of a deployment that came back when we were home. (Think…live in a metal box, no sunlight, and never sleep longer than 4 hours.) When I first realized I was headed for a separation the palms of my hands broke out with small itchy bumps for 2 weeks. Then they disappeared, then it peeled. Ew! (I don’t have allergies or health problems.)
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/24 10:00 PM
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That good (if I can call it good), thank you
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 02:35 PM
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Yikes, that tracks with my experience and stuff I've been reading about the transition from "romantic love" to long-term committed mature love. I'm a science type...so...got references you can share?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 01:58 AM
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Can you repeat what the studies said? I didn’t understand that properly.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/24 10:39 PM
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Ha! Are you quoting As Good As It Gets? "How do you write women so well?" "I think of a man...and I take away reason and accountability." https://youtube.com/shorts/flQVxON79vk?si=1E0SGg1A0JwhbjhC
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 07:19 PM
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My throwaway, so…upstate-ish
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 01:15 AM
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You’re so right. “Until death do us part ” is a weird death cult oath. It’s not “until I consistently feel differently for a few weeks.”
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 05:40 PM
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Well spoken!
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 03:10 AM
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I’m with you, an anxious attachment man with a dismissive avoidant wife, 12 year old daughter, big house, 3 dogs, in the Carolinas. Supposedly I’m moving out Monday, but we keeping punting on telling daughter the plan. I have been eating up every podcast these ladies make. They have made more difference to me than counseling or my doctor: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-attachments/id1474270352 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bo…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 03:04 AM
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