shalafi1978 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Q4Women: Why shouldn't men view women's offer of "friendship" like a second-place trophy/consolation prize following a rejection? Friendship should never be a consolation prize. Friendship (for me) should be a natural relationship between people who have respect for each other's boundaries and the expectation that all actions towards each other are unconditional, unbiased and/or honest. I want my friends to be brutally honest towards me when it counts and that I can trust their advice without an ulterior motive nor do I don’t want them to get the impression they’re only good for <insert task here>. I have about 8 very clos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/20 04:28 PM
1	Q4Women: Why shouldn't men view women's offer of "friendship" like a second-place trophy/consolation prize following a rejection? I believe you can’t (still) be friends with somebody who crossed the line (or boundary) of friendship after he or she stated his or her romantic feelings towards you and you’re not receptive towards his or her feelings. Therefore the idea that friendship should even be considered a consolation prize (as in: you should be glad I offer friendship or I’m willing to stay friends and don’t distance myself from you or cut you out of my life for asking me on a date and/or telling me you have romantic f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/20 11:29 AM
2	CMV: Men here ought to focus on not being in the bottom 20% before they focus on being in the top 20% Everybody screws up and sh*t happens, it’s part of the adult life. The only thing you should ask yourself is: what are you going to do about it? So Yes. You might be a victim of a situation that’s outside of your control. But you still have control over your own actions, how you handle a situation, to take action (or not to take action) and/or to resolve that situation. That responsibility and its consequence is always yours and yours alone. Stop having excuses, playing the victim card, expect o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/20 04:00 PM
1	CMV: Men here ought to focus on not being in the bottom 20% before they focus on being in the top 20% Men should work on themselves for improving themselves and not for the sole purpose to improve their "datability" or "fuckability" in the first place. The aspects of “datability” or “fuckability” are something you don’t have (full) control over - it’s more a byproduct of their road to self improvement - and it will lead to disappointment, frustration and resentment because you base the results and your identity on external validation and what other people think of you. Don’t victimize yourself a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/20 08:09 AM
1	So - is the men’s fault for objectifying women in bikinis or is it the fault of women for putting themselves in objectifying situations? It’s human nature to “objectify” certain physical traits as well as looks and state that the other person looks sexy and attractive; this goes for both women and men. And honestly, I don’t give a flying f*ck. I got eyes and not blind, I’m allowed to look and the same goes for my wife.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/20 08:40 AM
2	What percentage of married women do you believe are truly, sexually attracted to their husbands? I couldn't say what percentage is the norm, it also depends on things like culture, relgion, location, age, etc. When it comes to sexual attraction between me (40+, Western Europe, not religious) and my wife (40, Southern Europe, religious) , we both still have frequent lust for each other where we both initiate and flirt with each other while taking care of each other's needs and wants in the bedroom. She likes to dress up in sexy lingerie for me and surprise me while I flirt a lot with her dur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/20 10:08 AM
2	For Those Who Think Women "Should Care About Men's Dating Struggles", What Would That Look Like? Both women and men should not care about the dating struggles of the opposite sex. It's their problem and their problem to handle. Instead of playing the victim-card (read: post about dating struggles and expect others to feel sorry for them, which IMHO is not attractive and/or sexy) go find out what you can do yourself to fix it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/20 08:13 AM
1	Are relationship checkups beta? From my perspective this is nothing more than a scheduled comfort test; you shouldn’t need these kinds of reviews or checkups unless you have issues communication or sticking to and/or don't have healthy boundaries, you're insecure, need validation and/or have serious issues with listening to overt and/or covert communication.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/20 01:22 PM
2	If everything around you smells like shit, it's time to check your shoes The biggest issue is that people think that attraction is solely based upon physical nature (get a sixpack and you'll get laid garantees) while being attracted to somebody is just not about looks (especially if your goal is a LTR). It’s a combination of looks, qualities, compatibility on values, (having/defending your) boundaries which loosely translates to basically being a f*cking adult, by being responsible and taking responsibility for your life and having your shit together while being sexu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/20 11:37 AM
1	Why do you blame women for your own failures to get a date? She's right. Don't blame women for your own (lack of) actions, failures, problems or she doesn’t want to date you and/or have sex with you. Simple fact is you're just not attractive to her or other women. So become attractive both physically and in qualities, take responsibility and get your sh*t in order.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/20 08:57 AM
2	The Pillosphere Needs To Be Split Into Western and Non-Western Cultural differences and/or values are not just Western and Non-Western based; there's a huge difference in culture and/or values between US and Western-Europe for example, not to mention between Western-Europe and East-Europe. To create a sub for every part of the world or segment is not going to help in my oppinion.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/20 07:53 AM
1	The issue isn't buying things for your girl. The issue is that you feel ENTITLED that I buy YOU things BECAUSE you're my girl. You want a better partner? First have healthy boundaries and healthy values yourself. Afterwards make sure you screen his boundaries, his goals (past and future), his values, that you have a compatible lifestyle and you both are on the same page when it comes to having a relationship and if you’re sexually compatible. All of this doesn’t require any expensive dinnerdates or gifts. FYI: If my date would state that she required that I should treat her like a queen and should lavish her with dinner…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/20 12:15 PM
1	The issue isn't buying things for your girl. The issue is that you feel ENTITLED that I buy YOU things BECAUSE you're my girl. She does and I quote her saying this: If a man (my man, for example) wouldn't treat me extremely well and care for me like his queen; he's dead weight. Why would you hold onto dead weight? I would rather be alone all by myself, than be with a guy who doesn't spoil me/takes care of me. Because than I will spoil and take care of me all by myself, which is just as much fun! I'm a fun young girl, I know my time and presence have value and I value myself. She explicitly states the condition: treat me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/20 07:38 AM
3	The issue isn't buying things for your girl. The issue is that you feel ENTITLED that I buy YOU things BECAUSE you're my girl. You might’ve put a shiny wrapper on it: Yeah, you did and I applaud you for being honest and embracing Female Hypergamy. I'm all for having standards in selecting your (future) male spouse so that he has the means to provide stability, commitment and security. I got standards as well and considering our incompatibility on morals and values and that I’ve never gone on 2nd dates with women who think they were entitled to anything, you probably would’ve never passed my vetting stage ;)	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/20 02:54 PM
1	The issue isn't buying things for your girl. The issue is that you feel ENTITLED that I buy YOU things BECAUSE you're my girl. Which you will only "provide" if he's spoiling you and giving you gifts. So you will only love, care (for) and respect him based upon the materialistic items he can provide. In other words, a conditional relationship. Yeah, that’s really a mature and a good foundation for a long and successful LTR or marriage. :D	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/20 02:13 PM
3	The issue isn't buying things for your girl. The issue is that you feel ENTITLED that I buy YOU things BECAUSE you're my girl. Besides your time and your gender: how do you spoil him and what are your gifts towards him?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/20 01:07 PM
3	The issue isn't buying things for your girl. The issue is that you feel ENTITLED that I buy YOU things BECAUSE you're my girl. Well, if this isn’t proof of Female Hypergamy I don’t know what is... No, you’re not entitled to anything and you don't deserve to be spoiled or get gifts solely because of your gender.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/20 12:22 PM
1	A relationship isn't only about sex, or maybe a relationship isn't something for you? I'm my case she was going through stress, but was also dealing with loss of NRE, which is a big issue, and she held some fixed views about sex, and stopped enjoying sex. Everybody has to deal with stress in some way or another (both men and women); it's part of life and - depression, medication or other medical/mental issues not withstanding - it shouldn't be used as a root cause to withhold sex on a long and regular basis so that it evolves to a dead bedroom situation. Now, loss of NRE (and exp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/20 06:27 PM
2	Cmv: it isn’t the “friendzone” men should worry about but the “romance zone “ That's incorrect. The concept of the Friendzone has been around since the early 90's and the current RP rebrand are Beta Orbiters and/or Betabux. And in my opinion being in the friendzone (or becoming a Beta Orbiter / Betabux) is always the result of the guys own actions, Mr. Nice Guy approach and/or because he’s not attractive for the woman in question, you can't blame a woman for any of this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/20 11:09 AM
1	A relationship isn't only about sex, or maybe a relationship isn't something for you? I know that from a TRP standpoint marriage or a LTR is considered a bad choice and you should opt primarily for casual sex with no strings attached and to have a lot of plates. If you happen to be in a marriage or a LTR, most guys will acknowledge that both the quality and quantity off sex is important and that a lot of men - me included (I'm a guy, 40+ and married btw) - will state that a LTR without sex - medical situations not withstanding - is basically a friendship and my wife knows my opin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/20 09:43 AM
1	A relationship isn't only about sex, or maybe a relationship isn't something for you? Call it routine, rut or whatever but most women lose interest in sex during a LTR because she feels that her partner is not attractive anymore. Attraction can be both physical and/or in his behaviour: it's upon the guy to take responsibility for that, to take action and to take care of himself; in a LTR MRP can help a guy on this journey to self improvement and to make himself attractive again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/20 03:12 PM
0	How males may evolve due to hypergamy How's being a SIMP, Mr Nice Guy and/or a Blue Pill type of man working out so far while at the same time women still embrace their basic instincts through hypergamy in practical sense? These kind of men are not an evolution in masculanity, it's nothing more than a crappy strategy to adapt to the practical state of womenhood where women have adapted embracing their (new) freedoms (because of women/equality rights) while they still hold on their basic instinct on how to select their partners. So g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/20 09:01 AM
2	Why do few women whop disagree with TRP offer alternatives to it? I do not think TRP is perfect in terms of its theoretical description of gender and gender-based mating patterns. In fact, there is no single TRP canon, and some proponents do get more than a little too hate-filled and make erroneous statements in their anger. Even though that TRP (I also include MRP in this) from a theoretical standpoint has more than enough practical evidence that it "works" - both from practical journeys as well as published researched evidence - it's primary goal is to take …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/20 04:08 PM