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Hope you don’t mind me joining the conversation — I’m genuinely curious about a man’s perspective here. When it comes to household chores, what do you think women typically expect or hope for? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:28 AM
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Every time I hear the phrase, “the bar is in hell,” it’s actually in reference to basic care/safety. Not how handsome or successful a man is. For example, instead of expecting a man to pay for the date, they’ll just hope he expects them to split it — as opposed to asking HER to pay. Or, instead of asking her to a date in the park, he takes her to a museum — still very cheap, if not free in many areas — as opposed to asking to “netflix and chill,” the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:48 PM
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So, that is why I don’t like men who enjoy anime. Haha, I’m only half joking. I don’t care for the sexual content in most anime and I find the men who do are not the type of men I want to entertain. My current partner has no interest in anime but does love a good romantic comedy. And I do not think he would consider himself a “Chad.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:43 PM
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Wait, do men not have an aversion to spiders and snakes, haha? Many of the men I have dated were very afraid of them! Though, my current partner is more of a, “aw, look at him,” when we find a bug in the house… It is sweet he takes them outside instead of killing them but, I could never do that. Overall, though, I firmly agree with you. I had one partner who I was trying to get to do laundry. Well, not do laundry — but put his clothes in the hamper. Simple, right? No. And the fact he refused but…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:40 PM
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I’ve been in that kind of age gap before. And to speak bluntly, I’ve come to regret it — not because of any silly modern obsession with power dynamics, but because many men drawn to significantly younger women often prove immature, undisciplined, and poor spiritual leaders in the long run. No one ever saw us as “inappropriate,” not in church, nor outside of it. The issue was all interpersonal. A man who is responsible, intelligent, and God-loving can be a worthy suitor at any age. It’s not about…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 04:07 AM
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Sigh. I don’t care what you want — but you obviously have no interest in a conversation — just vulgarities and insults. I’m going to block you now because of that. I do hope you figure out why you behave this way to strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 05:28 AM
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Oh, you’re trying to start a fight, haha. I am nowhere near 35 and I am happily taken. I hope you find peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 05:23 AM
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I honestly have no idea what you’re talking about. I don’t think we are in the same category of people but I wish you the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 05:19 AM
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No one serious is saying that. You’re speaking of a caricature — not an actual worldview. I’m not a feminist by any stretch of the imagination, but I do understand some of the fundamentals. One of them is this: Women do not need men. Men do not need women. Partnership is meant to be a choice, not a rescue mission. Mutual want, not mutual dependency. Now, are women often cautious around men? Statistically, yes — and with reason. Men commit the overwhelming majority of violent crimes. That fact do…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:58 AM
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Oh, really? That doesn’t surprise me at all. Truly, unless the man is making what the top 1% make, I do not know why they would prefer a woman have no career. Why make it harder for yourself? For your children?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:51 PM
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I’ve never understood the obsession with finding a woman who “puts her man before her career.” In a long-term covenant, yes — sacrifice and order are essential. But at the start? Why should any woman discard her livelihood, her discipline, or the family she supports… for a man she barely knows? If he’s dissuaded by her having economically sound priorities, that’s not a signal of her failure — it’s a mirror of his insecurity. And I grieve for the women who are quietly hoping a man will propose… w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:43 PM
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I am RedPill but I imagine you may have only met men? I’m unsure. In any case, I’d love to answer with this from the Bible: “…a woman of the city, who was a sinner… stood behind at his feet weeping… Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven — for she loved much.” If he (as I am straight) repented, God would forgive him, so, as would I. Because who am I to withhold what even Christ gave freely?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 02:21 AM
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Sorry, that isn’t how it has been for me — I’ve met any significant other I’ve had through mutual hobbies or activities. It’s important to have things in common, don’t you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 11:05 PM
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Why not engage in online or offline hobbies that are social?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 10:57 PM
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I understand the concern. But equity — when rightly curated — isn’t wrong but simply fair. At church, I volunteer to help with children who have special needs. If we treated them identically, some would be left behind, completely confused by the Bible. True care demands we meet people where they are. In regard to women and feminism, I imagine it is more about opportunities — for example, one of the local schools has started a great club/program centered on young girls and robotics. You may ask, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 03:21 PM
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So… the very quality that makes dating easier — charm and charisma — is off the table for this discussion? That’s like asking, “Assuming we exclude everyone who’s good at music, how hard is it to become a musician?” Well… very hard, obviously! Haha. Of course women are drawn to charismatic men. Just like men are drawn to charismatic women. It’s not magic or anything such as that. My partner, for instance, is quite charismatic — a little too much, honestly. There’s something almost eerie about it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:13 PM
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I’m not tone policing. Being disrespectful is being disrespectful. If calling it out is bad, but insulting people is fine, I think people need to take a look in the mirror and recognize that just because you give it a reason doesn’t mean it’s okay to be unkind mind to someone asking for help. I agree with the values. I don’t agree with the culture that pretends unkindness is okay because you look down on someone. That is disgusting behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/25 03:11 PM
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She will be judged is not the same as she should be. That is what you are missing — believing others should be unkind because others are is… not good. Quite terrible, really. She came here for help. Advice aims to lift. What you’re doing is pushing someone down and calling it honesty. If the random men and women she meets will judge her harshly, that’s all well and good. But I firmly believe, one should actually attempt to help those who ask instead of harm them. Perhaps I’m just old fashioned.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/25 03:09 PM
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Quoting Nietzsche while lecturing a struggling girl on her character? You must be joking. Intent isn’t the only thing that makes something an insult. Tone, timing, and tact all matter. You/the other posters weren’t giving measured advice. You were implying her difficulties are because she’s morally lacking — not just situationally struggling. That’s not realism. That’s contempt. If you were to give actual advice, you would suggest how she should act to change her character. Not beat her while sh…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/25 03:05 PM
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And? Plenty of people won’t give money to the homeless or volunteer in their communities — maybe you’re one of them. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t right to do your part. The fact that others might be harsh or indifferent doesn’t justify becoming harsh yourself. It just makes your decency more important.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/25 02:52 PM
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No — just because you don’t curse doesn’t mean it’s not an insult. I have a feeling you’re the kind of person who thinks a Southern woman saying, “bless your heart” is just being sweet and neutral. You weren’t stating a neutral fact. You were assigning moral failure to someone trying to survive. That’s the insult. That is disrespectful. Let’s try and keep it respectful. Thank you. Have a lovely morning.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/25 02:50 PM
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No, I do think implying someone wanting to do OF is a character flaw and why she’s having trouble finding a man is an insult. It’s needless. She’s having trouble and it’s good she reached out. Insulting her character is an insult.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/25 02:45 PM
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There’s no need to insult her — she’s young and it seems like she’s in a poor financial situation. It’s good she’s reaching out in order to find guidance — insulting her for sharing is how people become afraid to speak and get the advice they need. Otherwise, I do agree.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/25 02:16 PM
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Oh, I know you! Hello, we spoke a few days or so ago. I hope you’re doing well. That’s a shame — you seem well spoken and intelligent. I am also neurodivergent, though and although my experiences are different as a woman, I have always felt a little uncomfortable sharing it with men or doing “odd” things. I can see where you’re coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:46 PM
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I would agree — I suppose I just feel rude continuously asking questions! I try not to do that too much. So, you begin dating these women, in an exclusive relationship, I imagine, and you find they don’t defer to you or follow your lead? I suppose I would have to call it incompatibility… No one would call me submissive — in fact, my own partner remarks how assertive yet kind I can be with resolving issues. But, that being said, I generally allow him to lead because there is trust. You simply can…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:42 PM
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Can you define what you mean by submissive? Or what you been by egalitarianism outside of dating? Sorry, I know I’m awfully nosy, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:03 PM
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This is such a common issue, and I do get it. But, attraction isn’t merit-based. It never has been. And no woman chooses while thinking, “Who matches me exactly on paper?” We’re drawn to presence, not just your resume. I imagine men are similar, from how I have heard some men speak about seeing their wives for the first time or speaking with them. If you feel invisible, it’s not just because you’re lacking in any specific area. It may be because you’re seeking recognition from people who don’t s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:43 AM
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Oh, the typical — care for the household and children. Things of that nature, for women. What were you thinking of?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:29 AM
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I know plenty of young women who like Trump. The women who would openly have a sexual encounter with him do not really overlap…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:26 AM
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Is that so? I ask since I am heavily involved in my local church and it does seem women are very happy to fulfill their roles. Can you tell me what you are experiencing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:22 AM
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Protect you? May I ask in what way? Are these women older?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:16 AM
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This was difficult to read — not because I disagree with you, but because of how thoroughly you seem to have built a case for your own lack of worth. ”For though a righteous man falls seven times, he will rise again…” — Proverbs 24:16 You’re not hopeless. You’re just lost. There’s a difference. And although I just gave you a quote from the bible, I am not prescribing religion — I’m prescribing a move away from self hatred. Self-hatred feels honest, but it’s just another comfort. A way to avoid t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:14 AM
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Hm, if I may ask — what is your “female equivalent”?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 03:49 AM
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It depends on what they mean. Sometimes, with partners, I have communicated extensively — in fact, with one partner, I remember rearranging my words several times in order to communicate. It was met with a resounding, “I don’t understand,” each time. But beyond that, non-verbal communication is highly used by women, myself included. Is that what they’re referring to in this instance?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:45 AM
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Just to clarify — what group were you speaking about, then? “Many men” implies a specific demographic, even if unconsciously. Are these men average or above average? Are they swiping endlessly or being swiped on? And on your second point: do men with genuine options actually spend time on women without comparable options? I hear this claim often, but it rarely plays out in practice. If a man can effortlessly access women who are 8s, why would he invest in a 5? Are you saying even highly coveted …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 10:07 PM
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Well, aren’t most of the men here looking for any kind of relationship? The demographic here is quite different. Can you elaborate on what you mean by a “certain caliber” of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 09:58 PM
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True — but most of that attention doesn’t translate into relationships. Dating apps aren’t designed to encourage monogamy; if anything, a committed user is a lost user. If you’re serious about something long-term, you’re better off hopping off the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 09:22 PM
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They’re still young. Three years feels long, but the fact that they remain unsure tells me they’re not done becoming who they need to be. Whether they do that apart or together isn’t the point, though. It sounds like they may need to separate.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/25 09:19 PM
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You keep trying to turn this into a personal back-and-forth, but I’m simply reasserting the original claim in clearer terms — because your responses seem determined dodge the point. Saying, “all else being equal, people prefer wealth over lack” is not controversial. You’ve offered qualifiers, not contradictions. I get it — you want to be angry at women’s preferences and my bringing up that everyone has that preference is problematic. But this is rather silly, don’t you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:46 PM
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Yes, exactly — and I’m not saying most people are actively screening for wealth. I’m saying: all else being equal, a partner with resources or wealth is more desirable than one without. No one turns down beauty, kindness, or compatibility because it comes with money. So the preference is there, even if it’s not top of mind. But people will, as the very person I’m talking to points out, disqualify based on current debt, regardless of beauty, kindness, or compatibility. It seems like two sides of …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:44 PM
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For men, it is lower on the hierarchy than looks or youth, but given two otherwise identical women? Most will prefer the one who brings more comfort and status. That is my point. I do not understand what you don’t understand. It’s not a screening metric — it’s a tiebreaker. And that’s all I said. Trying to reframe that as controversial feels like you’re arguing for the sake of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:41 PM
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I’m not sure why you’re responding as if I’m critiquing your specific taste. I’m speaking in general terms: all else being equal, wealth is a desirable trait in a partner, for everyone. That’s not controversial, is it? You’re downgrading a basic social observation into “don’t be in debt,” as if I said people are screening bank statements on the first date. I didn’t say that. You’re arguing with a smaller version of what I actually said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:36 PM
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Perhaps it’s regional, but where I’m from, asking what someone does is standard early small talk — it’s not interrogation; it’s just how we speak. And I never claimed men actively screen for wealth. I said they’d prefer it when all else is equal. A beautiful woman who’s also rich is simply more appealing than a beautiful woman who isn’t. That’s not a straw man. That’s just reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:26 PM
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To be fair, everyone prefers a wealthy spouse, no? Would a man truly reject a beautiful woman because she comes from money? No? Haha. Sounds right to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:22 PM
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Love your username! And photo, of course.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/25 04:19 PM
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Oh, I see. You’re not actually interested in the bible — you’re trying to weaponize it selectively to shut down women’s voices. Let’s be clear: quoting the Bible doesn’t make you righteous if you’re only using it to reinforce male convenience. That’s not faith. That’s manipulation dressed as theology. Also — I’m wearing a cotton blend shirt today. Should we stone me or start with shellfish? Let’s not play games with the bible. It’s unbecoming.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:57 PM
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That’s not diminishing the argument. I am simply completing it. Yes, we can talk about labor. But labor is never just labor — especially not in at work, let alone in the home. To say someone’s work does not deserve a certain type of pay? That is a matter of respect. A man who lives off his wife’s care and then debates whether her work “deserves” compensation is already showing where he stands. “The laborer deserves his wages.” —Luke 10:7 If the work feeds you, clothes you, holds your household t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:55 PM
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That’s not what a straw man is. A straw man reduces an argument into something easier to attack. I’m not doing that — I’m extending the logic. You’re debating whether her labor deserves payment, and I’m pointing out how easily that slides into disrespect. Ironically, I’m strengthening your position by treating it as more than a silly argument over analogies. Words mean things — don’t toss them around just to sound intelligent. As for “payment” in the form of clothes, hair, or lunch? Grooming isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:51 PM
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No one’s claiming she’s a professional chef. She’s making a comparison. The point is: she cooked, you ate, and now you’re debating whether her labor deserved less respect because of how it was framed. It’s a distraction. If the analogy bothers you, toss it out — the principle remains. Even a cook at McDonald’s gets paid. A wife often doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:42 PM
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No one’s claiming she’s a five-star chef. But if you sit at her table, eat her food, and return for more — you’ve already shown what it’s worth to you. You don’t walk into a McDonald’s, finish your meal, and then scoff that it wasn’t gourmet. You made a choice. You were fed. This isn’t about market rates. It’s about honor. If a man accepts the labor of his wife — her cooking, her care, her quiet endurance — then turns around to say she didn’t “earn” it? That’s not discernment. That’s ingratitude…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:39 PM
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Well, one could argue that if one makes a different choice, they don’t feel the same. But that ignores how people can grow and change over time. I think that is what people are missing. People grow. I’ve made reckless decisions in the past — not because I loved more deeply, but because I understood less. I really think the heart of OOP’s complaint is that a lot of men just want what everyone else wants — men and women alike, regardless of their sexuality — to feel like they’re “the one.” To feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 02:57 PM
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I’m not OP, but — what do you think would make men “more desirable?”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:20 AM
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If this isn’t too personal to ask — about how old are you? I am curious about the demographics of men having trouble dating. And about you, of course. The classes idea is also quite interesting. What do you think you would want to learn in those classes?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:18 AM
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How curious — I hadn’t heard of this before. Thank you for taking the time to share it. It sounds beautifully aligned with my own thoughts, for the most part. That said, I do believe one of those decisions is best left to the couple, regardless of who carries which name. I’m referring to who gets whose last name, actually. I say this because I have a dear male friend whose surname is… regrettable. He’s about to marry a woman he adores — he speaks of her like she’s something sacred — and he’s gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:16 AM
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I’m aware this doesn’t fit the usual “red pill” narrative, but I choose work — not just for myself, but alongside my partner. In this economy, independence in labor is the sharpest weapon, even if, say, you both clear over $200k. It’s about discipline — not just entitlement. My earnings serve for daily grace and indulgences — pleasure, travel, small and big luxuries. His resources, however, hold the foundation — bills, housing, insurance, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:09 AM
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I generally agree, though I’d add that even those who date consistently can remain single for quite some time — often for reasons more complex than availability. A close male friend of mine, for instance, has never struggled with attracting partners. But what he truly seeks is an emotional connection with depth and alignment, and that has proven far more elusive. Desire is common. Compatibility, rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 04:14 PM
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I believe buying sex is the greater sin. I understand that selling it often comes from desperation — poverty, addiction, what have you. In many cases, it is not a choice but a last resort in a world that has offered them no mercy. That breaks my heart. But paying for sex? I have little sympathy. To be lonely, and instead of turning to God or self-examination, you reach for your credit card? You bribe someone for intimacy and call it relief? That is not emotional depth. It is spiritual and emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:56 PM
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I do not entertain friendships with men I desire — sexually, romantically, or otherwise. It is a simple discipline, not a repression. My closest male friend of seven years has never once been a temptation, nor I to him. If anything, I’ve played the occasional wingman. Those who cannot engage in true platonic friendship often reveal more about their impulses than their intentions. In most cases, it’s not chemistry — it’s a lack of chastity, in the spiritual sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:47 PM
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Q: How plausible is the kind of man you want? He exists. Mine does since I am with him now. So my view is undoubtedly biased. But if he hadn’t appeared, I would have continued as I was — waiting. I have no interest in finding a man. I believe in being found. Q: Are men more psychologically resilient to rejection? If not, why are they expected to initiate? They aren’t more resilient. But I am attracted to the traits a man that pursuit must have — a man so incensed with you that hes willing to tas…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:20 AM
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I agree with this. While I recognize some truths in redpill ideology, I don’t date men who openly subscribe to it — because, quite honestly, it’s one of the most reliable markers for men who see women as expendable. The men who are deep into any “pill” tend to be obsessed with managing women — not loving them. They don’t want a relationship; they want control, a rotation, or revenge on a past lover. I would avoid any man who mentions it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 03:34 PM
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How are men responding to this? This isn’t explicitly described in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 09:44 PM
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I’ll admit — if my partner and I had relied on an online dating app, we never would have met. Even when we did meet in person, there was no lightning strike, no movie magic moment where time stood still. We probably wouldn’t have spoken again if I hadn’t had a glass too many and decided to be a little cheeky. So I’ll always advocate for staying open — to people, to moments you didn’t plan. It took a bit of red wine I didn’t even like to get me to sit cross-legged on the floor with a man I barely…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:15 PM
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I don’t know exactly what you mean by “lust over,” but I can share what’s made me feel that way in my own relationship. It’s not really about looks, at least not entirely. What draws that kind of raw desire out of me is a very specific kind of presence. My partner makes me feel claimed, but never owned. There’s a soft dominance to him — a kind of grounded masculinity that doesn’t need to posture. He makes space for me to relax into my own femininity, which I don’t even typically care for. But mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:51 PM
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You didn’t overreact — you under-protected yourself. Not every man deserves your grace. You gave him a chance. What he did with it told you everything. You have no need to second guess yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/25 04:40 PM
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