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Every time I hear the phrase, “the bar is in hell,” it’s actually in reference to basic care/safety. Not how handsome or successful a man is. For example, instead of expecting a man to pay for the date, they’ll just hope he expects them to split it — as opposed to asking HER to pay. Or, instead of asking her to a date in the park, he takes her to a museum — still very cheap, if not free in many areas — as opposed to asking to “netflix and chill,” the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:48 PM
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So, that is why I don’t like men who enjoy anime. Haha, I’m only half joking. I don’t care for the sexual content in most anime and I find the men who do are not the type of men I want to entertain. My current partner has no interest in anime but does love a good romantic comedy. And I do not think he would consider himself a “Chad.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:43 PM
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Wait, do men not have an aversion to spiders and snakes, haha? Many of the men I have dated were very afraid of them! Though, my current partner is more of a, “aw, look at him,” when we find a bug in the house… It is sweet he takes them outside instead of killing them but, I could never do that. Overall, though, I firmly agree with you. I had one partner who I was trying to get to do laundry. Well, not do laundry — but put his clothes in the hamper. Simple, right? No. And the fact he refused but…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:40 PM
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I’ve been in that kind of age gap before. And to speak bluntly, I’ve come to regret it — not because of any silly modern obsession with power dynamics, but because many men drawn to significantly younger women often prove immature, undisciplined, and poor spiritual leaders in the long run. No one ever saw us as “inappropriate,” not in church, nor outside of it. The issue was all interpersonal. A man who is responsible, intelligent, and God-loving can be a worthy suitor at any age. It’s not about…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 04:07 AM
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Oh, you’re trying to start a fight, haha. I am nowhere near 35 and I am happily taken. I hope you find peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 05:23 AM
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I honestly have no idea what you’re talking about. I don’t think we are in the same category of people but I wish you the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 05:19 AM
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No one serious is saying that. You’re speaking of a caricature — not an actual worldview. I’m not a feminist by any stretch of the imagination, but I do understand some of the fundamentals. One of them is this: Women do not need men. Men do not need women. Partnership is meant to be a choice, not a rescue mission. Mutual want, not mutual dependency. Now, are women often cautious around men? Statistically, yes — and with reason. Men commit the overwhelming majority of violent crimes. That fact do…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:58 AM
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Oh, really? That doesn’t surprise me at all. Truly, unless the man is making what the top 1% make, I do not know why they would prefer a woman have no career. Why make it harder for yourself? For your children?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:51 PM
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I’ve never understood the obsession with finding a woman who “puts her man before her career.” In a long-term covenant, yes — sacrifice and order are essential. But at the start? Why should any woman discard her livelihood, her discipline, or the family she supports… for a man she barely knows? If he’s dissuaded by her having economically sound priorities, that’s not a signal of her failure — it’s a mirror of his insecurity. And I grieve for the women who are quietly hoping a man will propose… w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:43 PM
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I am RedPill but I imagine you may have only met men? I’m unsure. In any case, I’d love to answer with this from the Bible: “…a woman of the city, who was a sinner… stood behind at his feet weeping… Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven — for she loved much.” If he (as I am straight) repented, God would forgive him, so, as would I. Because who am I to withhold what even Christ gave freely?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 02:21 AM
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Why not engage in online or offline hobbies that are social?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 10:57 PM
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No, I do think implying someone wanting to do OF is a character flaw and why she’s having trouble finding a man is an insult. It’s needless. She’s having trouble and it’s good she reached out. Insulting her character is an insult.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/25 02:45 PM
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I would agree — I suppose I just feel rude continuously asking questions! I try not to do that too much. So, you begin dating these women, in an exclusive relationship, I imagine, and you find they don’t defer to you or follow your lead? I suppose I would have to call it incompatibility… No one would call me submissive — in fact, my own partner remarks how assertive yet kind I can be with resolving issues. But, that being said, I generally allow him to lead because there is trust. You simply can…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:42 PM
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Can you define what you mean by submissive? Or what you been by egalitarianism outside of dating? Sorry, I know I’m awfully nosy, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:03 PM
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This is such a common issue, and I do get it. But, attraction isn’t merit-based. It never has been. And no woman chooses while thinking, “Who matches me exactly on paper?” We’re drawn to presence, not just your resume. I imagine men are similar, from how I have heard some men speak about seeing their wives for the first time or speaking with them. If you feel invisible, it’s not just because you’re lacking in any specific area. It may be because you’re seeking recognition from people who don’t s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:43 AM
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Oh, the typical — care for the household and children. Things of that nature, for women. What were you thinking of?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:29 AM
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I know plenty of young women who like Trump. The women who would openly have a sexual encounter with him do not really overlap…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:26 AM
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Is that so? I ask since I am heavily involved in my local church and it does seem women are very happy to fulfill their roles. Can you tell me what you are experiencing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:22 AM
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Protect you? May I ask in what way? Are these women older?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:16 AM
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This was difficult to read — not because I disagree with you, but because of how thoroughly you seem to have built a case for your own lack of worth. ”For though a righteous man falls seven times, he will rise again…” — Proverbs 24:16 You’re not hopeless. You’re just lost. There’s a difference. And although I just gave you a quote from the bible, I am not prescribing religion — I’m prescribing a move away from self hatred. Self-hatred feels honest, but it’s just another comfort. A way to avoid t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:14 AM
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Hm, if I may ask — what is your “female equivalent”?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 03:49 AM
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It depends on what they mean. Sometimes, with partners, I have communicated extensively — in fact, with one partner, I remember rearranging my words several times in order to communicate. It was met with a resounding, “I don’t understand,” each time. But beyond that, non-verbal communication is highly used by women, myself included. Is that what they’re referring to in this instance?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:45 AM
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Just to clarify — what group were you speaking about, then? “Many men” implies a specific demographic, even if unconsciously. Are these men average or above average? Are they swiping endlessly or being swiped on? And on your second point: do men with genuine options actually spend time on women without comparable options? I hear this claim often, but it rarely plays out in practice. If a man can effortlessly access women who are 8s, why would he invest in a 5? Are you saying even highly coveted …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 10:07 PM
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Well, aren’t most of the men here looking for any kind of relationship? The demographic here is quite different. Can you elaborate on what you mean by a “certain caliber” of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 09:58 PM
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True — but most of that attention doesn’t translate into relationships. Dating apps aren’t designed to encourage monogamy; if anything, a committed user is a lost user. If you’re serious about something long-term, you’re better off hopping off the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 09:22 PM
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They’re still young. Three years feels long, but the fact that they remain unsure tells me they’re not done becoming who they need to be. Whether they do that apart or together isn’t the point, though. It sounds like they may need to separate.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/25 09:19 PM
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For men, it is lower on the hierarchy than looks or youth, but given two otherwise identical women? Most will prefer the one who brings more comfort and status. That is my point. I do not understand what you don’t understand. It’s not a screening metric — it’s a tiebreaker. And that’s all I said. Trying to reframe that as controversial feels like you’re arguing for the sake of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:41 PM
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I’m not sure why you’re responding as if I’m critiquing your specific taste. I’m speaking in general terms: all else being equal, wealth is a desirable trait in a partner, for everyone. That’s not controversial, is it? You’re downgrading a basic social observation into “don’t be in debt,” as if I said people are screening bank statements on the first date. I didn’t say that. You’re arguing with a smaller version of what I actually said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:36 PM
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Perhaps it’s regional, but where I’m from, asking what someone does is standard early small talk — it’s not interrogation; it’s just how we speak. And I never claimed men actively screen for wealth. I said they’d prefer it when all else is equal. A beautiful woman who’s also rich is simply more appealing than a beautiful woman who isn’t. That’s not a straw man. That’s just reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:26 PM
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To be fair, everyone prefers a wealthy spouse, no? Would a man truly reject a beautiful woman because she comes from money? No? Haha. Sounds right to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:22 PM
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Love your username! And photo, of course.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/25 04:19 PM
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That’s not diminishing the argument. I am simply completing it. Yes, we can talk about labor. But labor is never just labor — especially not in at work, let alone in the home. To say someone’s work does not deserve a certain type of pay? That is a matter of respect. A man who lives off his wife’s care and then debates whether her work “deserves” compensation is already showing where he stands. “The laborer deserves his wages.” —Luke 10:7 If the work feeds you, clothes you, holds your household t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:55 PM
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That’s not what a straw man is. A straw man reduces an argument into something easier to attack. I’m not doing that — I’m extending the logic. You’re debating whether her labor deserves payment, and I’m pointing out how easily that slides into disrespect. Ironically, I’m strengthening your position by treating it as more than a silly argument over analogies. Words mean things — don’t toss them around just to sound intelligent. As for “payment” in the form of clothes, hair, or lunch? Grooming isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:51 PM
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No one’s claiming she’s a professional chef. She’s making a comparison. The point is: she cooked, you ate, and now you’re debating whether her labor deserved less respect because of how it was framed. It’s a distraction. If the analogy bothers you, toss it out — the principle remains. Even a cook at McDonald’s gets paid. A wife often doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:42 PM
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I’m not OP, but — what do you think would make men “more desirable?”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:20 AM
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I’m aware this doesn’t fit the usual “red pill” narrative, but I choose work — not just for myself, but alongside my partner. In this economy, independence in labor is the sharpest weapon, even if, say, you both clear over $200k. It’s about discipline — not just entitlement. My earnings serve for daily grace and indulgences — pleasure, travel, small and big luxuries. His resources, however, hold the foundation — bills, housing, insurance, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:09 AM
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I do not entertain friendships with men I desire — sexually, romantically, or otherwise. It is a simple discipline, not a repression. My closest male friend of seven years has never once been a temptation, nor I to him. If anything, I’ve played the occasional wingman. Those who cannot engage in true platonic friendship often reveal more about their impulses than their intentions. In most cases, it’s not chemistry — it’s a lack of chastity, in the spiritual sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:47 PM
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How are men responding to this? This isn’t explicitly described in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 09:44 PM
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I’ll admit — if my partner and I had relied on an online dating app, we never would have met. Even when we did meet in person, there was no lightning strike, no movie magic moment where time stood still. We probably wouldn’t have spoken again if I hadn’t had a glass too many and decided to be a little cheeky. So I’ll always advocate for staying open — to people, to moments you didn’t plan. It took a bit of red wine I didn’t even like to get me to sit cross-legged on the floor with a man I barely…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:15 PM
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I don’t know exactly what you mean by “lust over,” but I can share what’s made me feel that way in my own relationship. It’s not really about looks, at least not entirely. What draws that kind of raw desire out of me is a very specific kind of presence. My partner makes me feel claimed, but never owned. There’s a soft dominance to him — a kind of grounded masculinity that doesn’t need to posture. He makes space for me to relax into my own femininity, which I don’t even typically care for. But mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:51 PM
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You didn’t overreact — you under-protected yourself. Not every man deserves your grace. You gave him a chance. What he did with it told you everything. You have no need to second guess yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/25 04:40 PM
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