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Basic Questionshes_got_the_jack_/r/askMRP05/08/17 01:15 PM
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I am curious to see which way she goes. I had considered the possibility of her going through a bought of hysterical bonding, but also knew it would be short lived. Initial thoughts were to ignore it, if it happened, but I may consider other options.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 07:55 PM
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I was a day early, I got a bit scattered briefly over the last week. I'm 6"6' so the 245 means I look better in clothes than naked but still better than most guys my age and many younger ones too. Telling her turned the wife from indifference to hate. I doubt she is coming back and I don't see myself ever taking her back. I told her I wanted out for a reason. The guys have been understanding about it but I didn't think they should have to be. I gave my friends up years ago for the wife pre-pill …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 04:51 PM
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46 years old; 245lbs; 16%BF I went out on New Year's Eve with the new girl and the STBX asked if I was going out with a woman. I said yes. Don't ask questions you don't want the answers too. She has now lost her shit and the seperation will proceed quickly but she has become way more adversarial. I have maintained my calm despite the rage and shitty comments and will continue to do so. I think if it wasn't the other woman it would have been something else that she choose to rage over. It was pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/19 02:09 PM
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This is something I have absolutely struggled with in the past and is something that I have been working on now. It was something she resisted as I improved as I think she was already checked out when I started this journey. Right now I am only fucking one woman as I navigate the exit but it is something that I have been bringing to the new oner a lot better. I will read the linked article to see where I can improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/18 10:31 PM
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The FMOFY was in there in my summary, but happened a few months ago. Not a fan of them, too much like negotiation, but I told her one night simply that I would not tolerate the current level of sex. Hamster said I was pressuring her and she maintained that to the end despite it being the only thing I said about it in 6 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/18 11:57 PM
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Thanks. I will check out Tom Torero as I am reading a lot right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/18 04:11 PM
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I am not sure what if anything I missed or did. Having said that, comfort is a weak point of mine, at least with her it was. Mainly recognizing when it's required and providing too much in general. It was like a switch though, so I took it to be she figured I was going to stay, and didn't have to anymore. She tried to string me along and either start a fight or shame any attempts to be with her, and based on past experience she probably figured that was going to be enough. I don't think I will e…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/18 04:06 PM
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To quote her "I decided I wasn't going to have sex unless I wanted too". It quickly became apparent that what she wanted was never. The great sex we had been having seemed to point to some attraction on a gutteral level but I think she had lost her emotional connection and rebelled against the idea that she had to fuck me to keep me. She has always been one to cut off her nose to spite her face.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 03:27 AM
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46 years old, 6"6', 242lbs, 16% BF Lifts are going well. Doing a push/pull with some strength. Shoulder injury has held back bench but DL is well past 300 now and I am hitting 526 on the leg press. Will be working on flexibility in the new year as I attempt to squat again. Weigh is up a bit after a few months of travel but back on track. The last post I made here was a success story of sorts. Wife was respecting me, fucking like a champ and things were turning around. I dropped off here to focus…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 07:45 PM
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I haven't completed any yet. Just started researching and reading. But I have found a local class on getting started and some kits that seem to be best for total noobs like me. Planning on starting there and seeing how it goes then moving on to some whole grain kits and ultimately perhaps my own recipes.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 01:32 PM
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Thanks for that and the gold!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 12:24 PM
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Thanks. Patience was hard for me at first as it is with a lot of guys. But remembering that it took me 22 years to fuck it up, I figured I could certainly take a month per year to see what I could change.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 06:19 PM
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Thanks. I think it literally did in my case, I was very close a few times, and being there for my son was the only thing that pulled me back each time. Who knows if the next time he would have.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 06:14 PM
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Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:24 PM
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Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:21 PM
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Definately.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:20 PM
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Best shape of my life physically as well and that feeds the confidence and overall attitude. It continues to have an effect on the wife and she is starting to feel the muscles and notice them.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:16 PM
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One Year OYS I have been a part of this sub for a year now. It seems like just yesterday I was a sniveling little pussy that wondered why his wife was always berating him and wouldn't fuck him. I have been taking a break from the sub for the last few weeks to focus on what I need to do, and will continue to do so for a while. I was focusing too much on the discussing, what others thought of my path, reading and the theoretical too much and the break has allowed to me shift focus. This is going t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 01:57 PM
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I have been watching what she does, and there are lots of things that do not add up to her wanting one, but others that do. I agree that sex two nights in a row after that bomb suggests otherwise and really confused the fuck out of me. Having said that she threw it out there and I want to be prepared with at least a cursory discussion with a lawyer. No direct benefit to telling her, but she has ties to most if not all the law firms in the area so I may as well be upfront about it. Also, I have n…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 07:12 PM
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No direct benefit, but she works in a law firm and has possible ties to one of the girls at the office I am going to use as well as pretty much every other one in the area. I may as well be upfront about it, not like I have anything to hide anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 07:06 PM
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Feb 6th 45 years old; 6'6"; 243 pounds; BF 17.7%. Body fat has dropped a bit this week, and weight is trending down. Missed a day at the gym last week, at least it was leg day I missed. Friday night we were hanging out talking in the kitchen having a couple drinks, when she asked why I was smirking at her. Just smiling, in a good mood I says (as I was). She then proceeded to get annoyed because I wasn't taking her anger at me smiling seriously since I was still smiling as she got more angry. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 04:16 PM
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A lot of the conflict is over basic stuff, come down stairs, brush your teeth, pick up type things. I expect it to be done when I ask and he will say no, then dig a trench and return fire without compromising whatever position he picked. Part of this is me wondering if I am being too mad/demanding when he doesn't comply and starts yelling that he wont do that. As Man_in_the_world mentioned I might do better with more AM and I likely combine that with going back to a tactic I have used before, wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 11:06 PM
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I am very consistent with the AM on his I hate you stuff, I don't worry about that. I was trying to see if it was more of an indicator of my being too much of a hardass with him. I will try and add more AM to the encounters overall and see if I can diffuse the situation earlier.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 11:00 PM
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I have fallen into the reason trap a couple of times but I do my best to check myself if I try as I know that is a lost battle before it even begins.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 10:55 PM
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Jan 30th Weight - 243lbs, 17% BF. Deadlifts went down when I wasn't doing them due to the injuries but they are going back up now. I am comfortable at 225 now but I will be back at 270 in a few weeks. Bench has really dropped at 145, but with a spotter I am hoping to get it back up. I was pumped that I had reached 500 pounds in incline leg presses last week, but realized I had an extra 25 pounds in the calculation due to an incorrect sled weight, so I am back to 475 and pushing for 500 in the ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 01:48 PM
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Jan 23rd Weight 244lbs / 18% BF. Gym on point, switched heavy bench back into rotation as I missed them and I have a spotter now. Macros better last week, I have added more protein naturally but still want more so I will be looking at a supplement. For the last week I have been focusing on calling her out on things in both a serious, and teasing tone depending on the situation. I have been making sure it comes out in a timely manner, in the moment if possible, and as soon as I see her next if th…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 02:13 PM
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Jan 16th Physical good last week, meeting calories, gym and cardio time. Weight down to 246 and BF at 18%. Macros are ok, but I do need more protien so I will be adding some either suplementally or through different food choices. u/Man_In_The_World called me out on a few items in last weeks OYS, most notably that I was doing the dancing monkey attraction plan, and there was some lingering ego and covert expectations. I have been, and I am dedicted to getting rid of the covert expectations and al…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 07:44 PM
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Damn you and your cutting and insightful comments. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/18 03:28 PM
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I travel for work sometimes and that time alone has always benefited me greatly. Maybe you are right and I need to consider overnight lone trips if I am not away for work.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 11:45 PM
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Jan 9th Physical is good this past week, started losing weight again and have met my gym goals. I am liking the new high rep program but miss some of the heavy lifts. I threw in a couple DL's today at about 30 or 40 pounds lighter than I was lifting before I hurt my back and my ankle, and I did ok with my back so they will be back in the rotation. A bet with a buddy has revitalized my weight loss and motivated me a little extra through some competition. Last week in my OYS I, quite deseverdly, g…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 08:23 PM
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Thanks for a well written and well thought out reply. I had a long drive by myself for work the day you posted this so I was able to think about a lot of it on the way. It also brought to my attention that I do not sit quietly and introspectively enough in my daily life. I need to add this. There are small things that I consider basic adulting, not talking about mopping or sweeping or any of those types of things that can be covered by a cleaning service, that are being missed. I have suggested …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 04:01 PM
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I can only surmise she did at one time but that was a lifetime ago. I think she likes the new me on some level but just before I started to improve something snapped in her and she was done with my bullshit or something along that line. Looking back I don't blame her in the least. We still have fun sometimes, still co-parent well, still fuck when she has been drinking, but it all feels roomatey. Am I a fun guy? With her, sometimes yes, but the lack of responsibility she shows towards the house a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 01:36 AM
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I don't really grasp the concept of OI OI means you try to have sex without caring about the outcome of the initiation. You want to have sex, but if you do or don't have sex, either way its good. If she says no, you can move onto something else without a worry in the world. I'm reasonably sure I COULD do well if I was back on the market Part of abundance is testing the waters, especially for those of us who were afraid to talk to other women and were all wrapped up in the one we have, but its up…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 04:22 PM
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Feb 2nd Weight was static over the holidays, which was expected, back on it this week. I got lazy with my form and didn't take my time last week coming back into the DL's. I did my first warm up set no problem, put on another 45 pounder for the second warm up set and quickly did a single lift. I felt something in my back go pop or something, and dropped the weights and ended my DL's for the day and for another week or two to come at least. I believe I pulled a muscle so I have been taking care o…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 03:40 PM
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I had not expected any sex that night and wasn't actively working towards it since shark week had just started. Neither of us really care one way or the other about that, but usually in the first few days she is not in the mood, so I had no intentions for that evening. It made the lack of interest a little more perplexing for me since I wasn't trying for anything, she basically started it, and then went hand over the face not into this fairly quickly. I have done the caveman in the past, and did…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/17 01:23 PM
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I had a good hold but I could only really control the forward and lateral movements not the way she arched her back a bit and brought the hips down along with her ass. I was thinking I would try verbal commands next time to better direct things. It is an area I need to improve in anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 01:18 AM
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Definitely one of her subtle ways of initiating, but it was late at night and there wasn't any time for me to flirt and be fun with it, more of a down to business thing, thus my confusion with her lack of interest in it. In the past I definitely obsessed over sex, is possibly linked to my previous porn issues, and the blue me wrong hole shit was me being a giant pussy and afraid. The two incidents in question from last week were not complicated though, I was giving her a pounding from behind and…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 11:15 PM
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I was definately cognizant of the high volume of she in there. There is no question who the improving is for. Rereading that comment I don't know why I added it as there isn't value there for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 11:31 PM
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Dec 26th Mixed bag of a week, weight is 246, BF at 18%, and I did all my workouts. Ankle held up for the leg workout, so they are back in. Food tracking partially suspended for Christmas week and eating sensibly instead. I was in a really foul mood last week, and I let some of it spill out into the family. I will read more on stoicism this week and next. Two nights ago she basically put herself in a spot so that I would initiate. I did and she really wasn't into it, hand over her face, which is …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 01:53 PM
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Dec 19th I felt like previous weeks have been focusing too much on where I am winning without a good look at where I am not. I am keeping the free format, but trying to refocus on improvement and where I am not doing well. Last week I had no gym time except for one day. Got a stomach something early in the week, which took me out of commission for the rest of the week. Back in the gym this week and weight is still down, BF is just into 18%. Ankle is almost completely better so I will be happy to…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 08:02 PM
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throw your wife a bone and let her have her FB feelz and validation, which is incidentally all about YOU. she has the trophy (YOU) and you're not letting her show off to all the other hens Thanks for this, it got me thinking. Mine recently told me, "you know, you could post that picture of us on your phone I like on FB if you wanted to, or whatever, you don't have to". I kind of blew it off because I don't normally post anything on Facebook, and it was really a half-assed request from my origina…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 09:17 PM
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Maybe I am missing something, but this sounds more like some harmless flirting to me and nothing much to worry about. It does not sound even remotely like an emotional affair based on the information you have set out here. Everyone will be attracted to someone else while married, you and her included , and you are right it is what they do with that. Any woman that is not a complete troll is going to be flirted with, and will enjoy the validation it brings. Her hamster will provide reasons why it…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 08:55 PM
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Excellent breakdown. I would throw tracking her cycle in here as well. I found when I was starting I would wait for opportune times according to the cycle calendar but was missing out on other opportunities because it wasn't a 'good time'.
/r/askMRP15/12/17 06:43 PM
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Just going through this as well and the bulk of my previous frustration and initiation were nothing more than mode B validation seeking. Now that it is mostly gone I am left with either I am not as horny as I thought I was or I am not as horny as I thought I was for my wife. It is probably a little of both when it comes down to it. I have been slowly accepting my own requirements for sex are my own, they fluctuate, and that they don't have to meet some artificial minimum set by anyone else. What…
/r/askMRP15/12/17 06:37 PM
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You will probably get lots of next her if she is having one comments, but I think it depends on the man and the situation. For me, I felt that my wife wandering into that territory was a direct result of my actions and I was willing to own it, move on from it, and ultimately it drove change in me and helped me get out of the anger and resentment I feel like you might be mired in right now. That was driven by some insightful comments amongst the ghost her, and next her stuff that most seemed to f…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 06:01 PM
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I want to have my family but I also want a wife who wants to fuck me. Guess I have to choose which I want the most... You are no where near making that choice. You are focusing too much on fucking her, you are still caught up in the validation you receive from her, you are deep in her frame and worried about what she thinks and does way too much, and you are still trying find that Disneyesque marriage with her. Did you notice a lot of her in there when I talked about your focus? You are not focu…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 03:20 PM
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I have been playing around a little with the neck the last few months depending on where she is in her cycle, mostly light stuff like you mentioned. I was trying to be facetious with that over the top response, but I forgot where I am where that is a legit response that someone might give. It was likely worry over the bloopers getting a hold of this and running with it, I know it is a sore spot for them. I will edit the original for clarity. I took both opportunities and enjoyed the fuck out of …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 11:14 PM
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December 12th Tracking food consistently and adjusted my french fry goggles, so weight has dropped to below where it was when I stalled and BF is back to 19%. I will keep this momentum up through the holidays. Only got two workouts in last week as the ankle is still swollen but it was expected. Back in the gym today for the second week of my new program and really liking it. Going to ease into legs this week. Friday night was my work Christmas party and the wife got a little tipsy, no problem it…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 08:53 PM
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The thing that really got me was the 30 or so minutes of her being angry because I told her a BJ (still no idea why this sent her over the edge but I suspect it was never about that) and the crying and general crazy that led to this statement. There was a great lesson there for me. I think it reenforces that it doesn't mean your not getting laid just because she is [insert emotion]. I briefly slipped to my old ways and worried about saying I wasn't satisfied with our sex life, but snapped back a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 12:51 PM
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we co-sleep with kids and she breastfeeds in the night) although in the same bed, so any attempts at escalation was impossible. Here I am thinking about some strategy to improve this, Why not get a bassinet that goes right beside your bed and keeps the kid close for her, granted she has to move to get it to latch, but it is right there. Think about just buying it and setting it up, telling her you want the bed back and the kid can sleep there? For me, my bed is mine, no kid, no dogs, nothing. Ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 04:32 PM
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You are right, at least in my case, I have not been successful in having the occasional fries etc. and need to cut it all out completely and go clean again. Recently I had I Aint No Nice Guy by Motorhead playing, and she commented that I was a nice guy as I had just done something for her at that moment...I was glad to be called an asshole the other night as I was worried I was moving in the wrong direction. I have taken her out of the enemy category, she was definitely there for a while during …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 03:45 PM
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Not impossible, that is true, but it can vary wildly in calorie content so I stopped adding it... or more likely I am fooling myself and that is just an excuse to eat like an idiot.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 07:12 PM
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I have been and can be very much in control of my eating. I chose to be a little less of a control freak at this time, but I do I measure all my food and record everything. I try to allow a few beers here and an eating out there but it's impossible to record restaurant food. That is the slippery slope as I try to not be a complete food control freak, have some fun as well as meet my goals. Clearly not working as there has been a lot of exceptions lately. I have already put a plan in place to hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 06:32 PM
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December 5th Weight has been static, long weekend away, and giving license to have a few beers and some french fries went a little south. Trying to find a balance between the extremes when it comes to eating, and I have swung to far back in the other direction. I have done no leg work or deadlifts since last week when I turned my ankle in the most un-heroic bicycle incident ever, but I have kept up my upper body routine. Swelling is down and ankle is getting better, so I hope to add the legs and…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 02:21 PM
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There was no fear or shyness or anything like that in the covering, we were already fucking at that point and I think it was more of a power game for her. She wanted me to pin her down and take them so I did and damn I enjoyed it. I was trying to be a practical thinking about the safe word but I just made the connection. Many months ago before I started my journey she alluded to some shitty sex we had as rapey. This is almost certainly the core of this hesitation on my part and why I questioned …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/17 01:56 AM
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I thought it would be weird to do it if you had already agreed no sex as well, but might she just be on autopilot and doing what she usually does to shut it down preemptively without thinking about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 08:47 PM
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Is the date night drama her way of ensuring you won't be having sex later? Especially if it is a pattern? I suspect I get this from mine more than I thought initially. I wanted to put it all into the shit test category but the more I see, the more I am able to seperate the two and sometimes she is just doing her best to make it so I won't initiate, or if I do, she has plausible deniabilty in her anger. We can't I'm mad at you!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 02:15 PM
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Nov 28th Diet has been off still and as a consequence the weight is maintaining, a few extra social outings with guys, plus a christmas party and those are times I allow a couple beers and some less than great food choices. Christmas party was a good, talked with quite a few of the wifes co-workers and for the first time at one these functions, left her to her thing while I talked to other women. She actually commented the next day that at some point that one of her friends asked her where her h…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 07:51 PM
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The use of the term porn addiction always bothered me personally, it screams victim to me. Poor me, I can't quit because I have a disease. Maybe making it an addiction is a license to fail for you? If it is an addiction, when you slip you don't have to take responsibility for it...you can say it was just my addiction flaring up again. I sure wish there was a cure for it. My wife used to watch her food intake tightly and even the smallest amount over her unreasonable daily limit would send her in…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 03:17 PM
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I do not, as before, immediately fold when she mentions she is unhappy with something. Six months ago, if she would have mentioned the floors are dirty, my response would have been "Ok, I can take some time to clean a bit tonight then". My wife used to lead me with those types of comments as well, trying to get me to do whatever cleaning was bothering her at the moment, and yes like a chump I did. Lots of us have been there. I don t really see a boundary to set here in the sense of drawing a lin…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 02:51 PM
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On point.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 05:50 PM
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I am thinking of going higher reps as I come out of 5x5 into a new program, and trying to keep the volume, but either way I will keep the OHP in the rotation for sure. I started with the home gym and found I needed to get out and away from it all....I do miss the way she would walk by and check me out mid-workout though.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 05:49 PM
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They only have one power rack and it is generally being used for squatting most of the time, with no benches near. I haven'' t stopped benching, just stopped adding weight past where I am comfortable so I am atleast still moving forward, just slower than if I had a spotter. I had originally tried to get more real kisses, and went the same way you have eventually, just pulled back and let her come to me. Still just pecks from her right now, but I am getting closer to trying to push the real ones …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 05:01 PM
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The desire for it to be shit to make it easier on poor little me line of thinking is the path of least resistance, and not one I am proud of, but I felt I needed to acknowledge it, so I can work on getting past it. For me paralysis by analysis has always been a real problem, one I have been working on. I can analyze the choices ad-infinitum, seeing both sides and never having a clear winner, and sometimes I think I need more information to make a clear choice so I just get stuck in a loop. The f…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 03:50 PM
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Nov 21st 6 foot 6 inches, 248 pounds, 19% BF Going a little more freeform this week on my OYS to get some shit out of my head. I don't currently have a gym partner so I have been nervous lately with the bigger bench lifts without a spot and I find that I will fail, AKA give up, much sooner than I would with someone to spot. I have asked random guys when there is someone around, but there isn't always and they tend to stick for only one set and I don't want to interupt their routine too much. How…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 02:49 PM
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Poetic. I lost some discipline in my eating and was slow to come back around, there was never any question as to why.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 09:39 PM
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Nov 14th Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 248 pounds, 20% BF Calculated 1RM - Bench 180lbs; OP 140lbs; Incline Leg Press 520lbs; DL 260lbs Good - I have been tracking food and cardio is back in the regular rotation. Added lift metrics; I have been embarassed by them, but fuck it, I am owning them as they are. Squat form/pain is still an issue so I have stuck with the leg presses as deep as I can go. Bad - My weight was static. Minor knee pain from leg presses, noticed knee was not tracking prope…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 04:02 PM
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A lot of she, and not a lot of I in this post, along with a lot of I need and no I will. You swallowed nothing, you are either a troll or have not been putting in any work. You suddenly went back to completely dependant man-child, and a complete pussy while she was gone for 5 weeks? You can't even laundry when she is gone? I call bullshit on your previous work. Despite all that, I am going to comment on the phone as it was my pet peeve in my before time. Think about why her going on the phone up…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 02:24 PM
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Nov 7th Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 248 pounds, 20% BF Good - I have not done any cardio in a while, but I am getting back on the bike and the trainer to compliment my gym time and ensure I am in shape for both mountain bike trips I am planning next summer. Bad - Weight is static from last week, but hasn't gone down. The BF calculation is not good. Shitty eating and no cardio with no one to blame but myself. Action - Continue to track food this week and meet my numbers. Get back into my car…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 03:24 PM
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I was planning on taking the first weekend course offered in the spring. I definately won't purchase anything until after that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 01:25 PM
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You are right on both accounts. For me in this case happiness is not intended to come from the thing but from the freedom of letting myself be me and enjoying something I want and that is a world of difference. Maybe happiness was the wrong word, enjoyment perhaps? I do not intend for this to change me to a happy person. I am a happy person for the most part these days and that comes from within, this is not intended to fill that hole.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 07:58 PM
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I think she would approve of the motorcycle, at least the spirit of why I am getting it. She lived life her way and always said it's too short to spend it unhappy, so this was my own way of honoring that outlook and her. The motorcycle is something I always wanted but never got because it wasn't what everyone around me thought I should do. Right now I feel it will make me happy but maybe it wont, I can't honestly say. I won't be buying anything until the spring so I will toss it around some more…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 05:39 PM
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Oct 31st Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 248 pounds, 18% BF Bad - Weight has crept up since I have not been watching my intake, I have already started tracking calories this week so no new action. I have not ridden my bike in a long time, so I need start training for a a few longer rides I have planned next year. Action - Continue to track food this week and meet my numbers. Consider trying to get in to see my doctor and have my T checked. Social/Dress Good - Dressing better for work now, and p…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 02:17 PM
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I know it is a problem and there absolutely has been a lack of leadership on my part in this area. This past Sunday I instituted a no drinking during the week rule and will lead by example. I used to have one or two a night, but that needed to stop as well both for me and as an example to her. I have also let her do her thing in the past and not intervene when she gets started but I will be more assertive when she needs to stop and not let it get out of control. I will no longer stop and get som…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 01:49 PM
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Borderline alcoholic. She has used alcohol to escape my weak ass over the last few years and it has become a problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 01:40 PM
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Oct 24th Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 244 pounds, 18% BF Good - While overseas, kept the gym up to the same level as home. Was on a deload due to a almost 2 week break before the trip so back up to previous weights now. Bad - Beer, so much beer. Was out of the country for two weeks and did not eat or drink great, but I knew going in there would be a lack of options and was prepared for it. Gained about 2 pounds which was within acceptable limits for me. Felt today like I have been not giving…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 06:52 PM
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Oct 3rd Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 242 pounds, 18% BF Good - Away for vacation for a week and I did not gain any weight. Bad - Beer. Skipped the gym while on vacation, I was outside a lot and got lots of cardio. Back in the gym today. Have not lost any weight in a while due to travel for work and fun, I haven't gained any either so it is not as bad as it could be. Back to logging food and while away I will be concious of my food choices. Social/Dress Good - Getting more natural at talking …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 02:33 PM
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Pre-amble I took a break from reading and posting here while I tried to get my shit together internally. I wanted to find out where I stood, where I really stood on things, without letting random internet strangers making my mind up for me. My anxiety and my worries about her cheating were all symptoms of my weak ass frame, but were being magnified but all that I read here. I have returned with a new way of looking things and a better understanding of what I want. Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 03:04 PM
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240 pounds, 20% BF, gym and nutrition on point. Squat continues to be a problem so I am still working with the incline press, and I struggle with deadlifts without the blocks as there are none at the gym I am visiting while away. Been a long week and I am late so this OYS is going to be more stream of conscious. I posted in AskMRP earlier after finding my wife had sent a lot of texts to a male friend of hers. Many helpful comments and thoughts got my head back on straight. I had slipped and my b…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 11:58 AM
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I mulled it over travelling and I want a little more of a smoking gun. I am going to play it close to the chest for now.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 11:59 PM
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I kept thinking as I found the pill "if I'd have known she was dealing from the bottom of the deck I'd have dealt her back."
/r/askMRP05/08/17 11:51 PM
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Part of what I was trying to accomplish here was to calibrate my response. I did not want to go in with both guns blazing if there was a more subtle approach. If it leads to a nuke, it does but I did not want to come in with that, and that was where my anger and butthurt was directing me.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 05:16 PM
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I actually was checking data usage as we have been over a couple of months and I got a huge bill, when I came across the original instance of this .
/r/askMRP05/08/17 05:13 PM
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Thanks, this is basically where I am going with it right now.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 05:11 PM
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Something I have had for years. Breaking out of it, but I have no doubt it is not completely gone.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 05:00 PM
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I did not see the hamster in that, point taken. I was assuming he wanted to fuck her at this point, and is she setting him up either for some fucks on the side or a branch swing. I didn't think the marriage was complete shit, it was improving to me, but here we are. I may have gone Rambo in some areas, but was still a bitch in other areas. I have been thinking a lot on owning this, and my frame and how I will handle it, I definitely want to ensure this is a boundary and not me being a jealous as…
/r/askMRP05/08/17 04:55 PM
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He is a bit of a chad, fairly well dressed, very aloof and charismatic, he has some game but doesn't know it I don't think. There have always been a lot of women after him, but I can't always see the why. He checks some of the Alpha stuff but is a complete bitch in other areas. His wife just had a miscarriage about a month ago, and he might be turning to my wife for comfort as well. In retrospect, that was a very important point I should have mentioned.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 02:49 PM
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There is 100% no question in my mind over unacceptable it is. I have been getting better, but still struggling with the comfort tests, mostly with identifying them from her, so my response in that arena is not optimal.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 02:33 PM
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I will not let it go unchecked, that is for certain but what is not certain (to me at least) is how to proceed. I have some cracks in my frame, she hasn't adjusted well, and as /u/Sepean correctly surmised, I have likely gone a little too far on the STFU and withdrawing. I don't want to use a nuke if I can nip in the bud.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 02:11 PM
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Excellent thoughts, and precisely what I needed right now. You are probably on the money with how hard I have gone on STFU and withdrawing. It does change it for me at least some. My comfort giving has been low lately, she was being pissy for a few days before I left on business so I had withdrawn a bit, and I have given what little comfort I could remotely but it isn't much. I work 12 hour days when I am away and I don't update her as much as I used to. With the anxiety from her convinced I am …
/r/askMRP05/08/17 02:03 PM
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Thanks, I have been reading through some of his stuff, and the comments, and we have a lot of the same things going on. When I started, I never got that there were two types of drunk captains and just started owning everything I wasn't already, which wasn't much. Similar to /u/resolution316 did, I started backing off on doing the dishes and left them for her for the most part, and dropped the cat litter as I hate the damn thing (still working on this as I have to mention it to her, as she will a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 02:10 AM
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I'm your height and 105 kg and my DL is about 90kg right now. Here's what I am doing for DL: As mentioned. Alan Thrall Try sumo dead lifts See if your gym has blocks or mats to raise the weight. This has helped me immensely Move to the big plates quickly if you haven't. The 45 pounds are higher. See if your gym has the rubber weights for DL they are slightly larger. I am planning on a deload soon and going no blocks and standard DL then working back up.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 09:19 PM
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That was one of the first things I did. I like it clean, I am keeping it clean because that is the way I want it. There has been little or no butthurt from me in that area for a while now. Looking at it, there was a bit of a covert contract there, with me expecting her to start picking up some slack as I have improved. I will ponder switching to doing just mine. She has been getting a free ride for a long time, as I was the captain that did everything to try and make sure she was happy so I migh…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 06:04 PM
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Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 243 pounds, 20% BF Good - Away last week for business and weight was static, which with restaurant food is not too bad. Away again this week, so will do better eating. Gym on track, starting to fail on some of the 5x5 sets but still making good progress. Squat problems remain so still using the incline leg press. Social/Dress Bad - I have been working too much and really haven't had much social time. Frame Good - I have been fairly steady lately and managed to ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 04:36 PM
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July 25th Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 243 pounds, 20% BF Good - Away for the weekend and did fairly well with eating, didn't track it but kept it in line and came out of the week down. Deadlifts continue to be good. Leg pain seems to have improved, gym tonight so I will see if I can get a set of squats in. Squats were a no go, so have been using the incline leg press. Had to do some dead lifts without the blocks last night and I am now flexible enough to do a sumo deadlift, but not strong e…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 11:53 AM
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Thanks, I never felt like I could get the form right so I think I am going to stay with the barbells, and maybe add in some other machine work.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/17 06:14 PM
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July 18th Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 244 pounds, 20% BF Good - Weight, dropped. Deadlifts continue to be good. Bad - Ongoing trouble with rows and squats. Rows keep tweaking my back, substituted bent over dumbell rows today as I was short on time, but I will deload and revisit form next time. Squats were causing pain up front near my hip where the muscles and tendons would connect I think. I did not squat today to give it a rest, and last gym visit I used the incline machine instead. I don…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 03:31 PM
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July 11th Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 245 pounds, 20% BF Good - Weight, waist size and body fat dropped. Deadlifts continue to be good, but rows are causing back issues. Knee is doing much better and I am watching my squat form closely. Social/Dress Good - I have been practicing some light game on the HR manager at work, she is late 40s and not something I would pursue but she has a solid body for her age. I won't shit where I eat, but she has been here a little while and I think has always…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 07:00 PM
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I am working hard on detaching from the overthinking and guesswork that has plagued me all my life. Two steps forward, one back, but it's progress in the end. You are right, and I can't continue down this route. I was definitely looking, almost hoping to see the penguin was facing south.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:46 PM
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I have always chalked it up to her mother who is the same and a semi-absent father figure when she was young, but I see a drunk captain in my FIL and a MIL that is the captain and doesn't want to be, so maybe both the MIL and wife have just shutdown as they captained. In the end, it doesn't matter why she is like she is; the stay plan is the same as the go plan. I have a plan, I need to remember it, give her some time, and not get on these tangents.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:40 PM
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She is definitely not one for touching or being touched by anyone ever. I can touch her arm etc briefly but she won't linger after a hug and usually doesn't even want one. I will get the stiff board, arms down, no interaction hug if I go in for one most times. If I remember correctly this is how shes always been, drunk captain or not, and it applies to everyone not just me. There is also the possibility that I have created this monster or at the very least amplified her nature through my shitty …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 01:49 PM
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Because I dismissed touch during some sex down time, I had clearly associated it directly with sex in my mind. It was not something I did consciously, and I didn't realize it at the time. Because of that direct correlation I had made, I think I also took the downtime on her part as allowing me to coast for a bit and not put in the effort. This is of course, not the right approach, but it is good that I was able to see it through the comments here, and can now correct it, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 11:11 PM
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Initially I was looking at the phone snooping as straight up dread, but I suspected on this last snoop that she left the apps open on purpose to see if I would notice, which lead me to think it was either a shit test or she was testing my boundaries. This is something she would definitely do on purpose but I wasn't certain. The lack of interest is recent, as in the last week or so. I have struggled a bit since the wife goggles came off but she is attractive to me and I had no issues getting it d…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 06:43 PM
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Glad I am not the only one getting that line. I have even gotten the quick line and then midway, hey take it easy, not so fast I wanna go to.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 05:55 PM
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Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 247 pounds, 21% BF Good - Now using My Fitness Pal to track calories and using the progress picture function. Deadlift form is improved, I started using the blocks that the gym had available to raise the weight up, and I switched over to the big plates last workout so I was able to get my form dialed in a bit better. I tried both a sumo and conventional deadlift and the sumo still seems to be the best for me. I haven't had to deload yet on any of my 5x5 progressi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 01:14 PM
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Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 248 pounds, 21% BF Good - Got my deadlift form down a bit better today. Had to use two blocks under the weight and a sumo lift so I could keep my back straight but I managed to keep it mostly straight and didn't seem to tweak the lower back. Went back in for a conventional deadlift and pulled it off but it was slightly more awkward. Hip and ankle flexibility is contributing to this along with the arm/torso proportions. Back to no porn after last weeks slip. Fap i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 08:05 PM
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Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 248 pounds, 21% BF Good - Weekly calculated body fat drop, even if it isn't much. I look thinner and more defined in the mirror. I found myself wishing I had started doing weekly photos, I will start taking them for a point of reference since the scale has not been moving too much lately. This also requires a look at my caloric intake as I have stalled a bit on weight loss, and I dropped the tracking of my food as I have done it off and on for years and have a pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 11:21 PM
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I thought that it might be an indicator of me moving in something of the right direction, so I am glad to get a bit of confirmation. It also amazed me how deep the blue programming goes as initially my mind started to come up with reasons why I fucked it up, but it was 100% on her and I knew it, so I snapped out of it quick, but the fact it even occurred to me was sobering and a grim reminder from where I came.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 04:54 PM
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Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 248 pounds, 22% BF Dropped my caliper purchase, Navy method is sufficient, and my ego was just getting in the way and insisting I really wasn't over 22%. Accepted it and moving on. Good - Dropped my own modified workout routine and I am doing 5x5 now in full and have been lifting 3 times a week with 2 mountain bike rides minimum for cardio. Revisited my form as part of starting the 5x5 and found my form was complete shit for bench presses and pushups which was li…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 04:40 PM
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Definitely agree on the exaggerated expectations and how quick they are to defer if I have any presence . Shoulders slumped forward head down walking pussy didnt get much but it is returning quickly. I am definitely starting to own it and use it!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 08:20 PM
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I am a numbers and data guy, and as such I like as much data as I can have. The goal and the current number is something that helps drive me so I use it to my advantage. Having said that, you have a valid point, and I can certainly appreciate not focusing on the number in of itself as it is a trap I have fallen into before in other areas of training. I am finally, after all these years, starting to be ok as the biggest fucking guy in the place and just owning it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 10:12 PM
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Physical/Health 6 foot 6 inches, 248 pounds, 22% BF To Do - Need to get calipers for an alternate body fat measurement as the Navy method does not seem to do well in the higher percentiles of height and for my body type. It isn't too far off, but based on a quick dive into it, I am probably more in the 18% to 20% range and not 21% to 23%, so I would like an alternate view. Trying not to get caught up in the numbers but still wanting an accurate look at current levels and how they relate to my go…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 02:01 PM
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I tried for mornig fucks many a time over the years and has always had a hard no, even when I still had minor alpha leanings and might have actually pulled it off. I might have to add that as a minor fun goal after I get further along. She was receptive tonight but that might have to do with ovulation starting today. I was a mess in my head over the last few attempts, and my imerssion was low, along with a covert contract I had going today (just realized) thinking because ovulation was starting …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 02:30 AM
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I keep ending up with these long winded responses, but they are helping me get my head around some things, so thanks. The hint was delivered in my best flirting over the top, cocky funny voice with no expectation. It was actually one of the first effortless ones for me (with her)...always had to be conscious of the OI and how I was speaking before. I keep thinking at the time I was turning it down I was in my own frame, there was no her or she in my head, just what I wanted, or in this case what…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 07:43 PM
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Thanks for the response. I have been doing nothing but free weights as I never liked the machines. I haven't lifted in many years but it is starting to come back. I have been doing compound exercises (bench and standing overhead presses) along with 100+ push-ups on most days for my upper body with isolation ones thrown in. Like I said I had avoided the lower body as I did not want to mess with riding but that was an excuse so I am going to start bringing in some lower body compound stuff and dea…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 02:40 PM
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First OYS, so a brief background. I am 44, she is 40, together for 22 years and we have one son that is 4 years old. I have been mostly a beta with a few small bits of alpha throughout my life. I was on the 6 or 7 times a year plan by the time my son hit 4, and that is how I found my way to Deadbedrooms, them started to read NMMNG, and shortly after I found this sub. I lurked for a month in Febuary with a bad case of fuckarounditis and thiscantbetrue, but finally created a map and began the proc…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 07:23 PM
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