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This is super normal. I always love to keep texting what I’m up to (when I feel like it). I would recommend next time aligning on expectations for communications prior to the conference. It’ll put you at ease and relax the pressure for both of uou
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/26 03:54 PM
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This is great. Thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/26 02:48 PM
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If you check my post history, you’ll see I was fearing the same thing until I talked directly to my partner about it. Have check-in’s. Share how happy you are. Talk about the future. Empower your partner to make that choice. Trust that they will stand by their word, but also be aware if they are pushing you off
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 08:14 PM
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I am for cohabiting before marriage, but definitely have a conversation on your expectations of engagement post moving in. I wish I would have had that conversation with my partner prior to moving in. Edit: Let me add that I have LOVED the last year of living with my partner. We are “on track” for engagement. We have a very equal setup in our household and I have loved building a home for us!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 05:55 PM
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You have a post saying he had a relationship with another woman while you were broken up and now you post this? You shouldn’t be living with someone who you were broken up with 100 days ago.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 02:31 PM
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We aligned. I asked about the 6 years thing. He apologized if he ever said that while tense. He said “I would never make you wait that long for a ring!”. It was a very productive and exciting conversation. We are on the same timeline, and I am so happy I talked to him about it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 04:25 PM
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Thank you all for your encouragement and advice! Talking to him tonight about this
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 01:36 AM
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What? You think these men don’t want to commit to you because of ‘lack of schooling or attractiveness’? I’m going to be blunt-most ‘successful’ men do not want insecure women. You are coming across insecure, and imo are refusing to look at that as the core of the problem. I’m sorry if you’ve had experiences with men that dismissed you because of your education. Having a Bachelors is an accomplishment. I’d take a deep look and figure out what is best for you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 11:57 PM
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I use to struggle with this with my partner. He pays for all of our meals, gifts me things all the time, flowers etc. Now we live together, and he pays most of the bills, groceries, etc. The biggest way to reciprocate is make sure you thank them! I always make sure (for gifts + flowers) to thank, and then thank again later. For example, he bought me running shoes the other week. I thanked him in the moment, and then a week later I took a picture of me wearing them and thanked him again. Another …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/23 04:17 PM
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This is something I’ve been thinking of a LOT lately with my partner! I am also guilty of being silly before intiating intimate time (as well as my partner) but it really does take me longer to get fully in the mood bc of it!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 02:36 AM
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My long term partner is a true HVM. Is independently wealthy, healthy/active, respectful, has strong morals-he’s quite literally the complete package. ((Also have to mention you do not have to be wealthy to be a HVM)) He was a serial dater who was looking for a committed life partner. I am one of two women he seriously has dated (he’s committed to others, but you get the idea). From my perspective, I think he committed to me quickly because I possessed many/most of the qualities he wanted in a l…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 04:33 AM
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This helps a lot! Each time I react this way and I chose the route of introspection, I feel better and understand I’m bringing some baggage to the relationship from a past one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 04:25 AM
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This is so true. My reaction is the issue, not what he does I found that moving past it requires some introspection and activities outside of negative thinking spiraling
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 04:24 AM
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I agree. Thanks for validating that they can be a bit hard sometimes. I chose to be introspective, write down my feelings and occupy my time with things other than thinking negative!
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 04:23 AM
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I’m in a larger age gap relationship than I ever thought (he’s 13 years older) and I love it. I always casually dated older, and preferred a 5-8 year gap for serious relationships. I never found younger men attractive, but I assume that’s because men in their early twenties typically are not the best catch hahaha. Once I met my partner, everything was so aligned/amazing the age gap was not a worry. I seek out healthy relationships with men, and don’t let age stand in the way.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 04:20 AM
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I totally should’ve. He has offered to show me the prenup they had before. I should’ve taken him up on that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 08:41 PM
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That’s what I’m struggling with! He’s also older, so we do have an age gap to deal with which I’m navigating as well. It’s like striking the balance of wanting it, but not discussing it for pressure reasons. Also I’m so fucking young so I’m like… why am I even wanting it? But I do, and it’s always been a core pillar to me.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 08:03 PM
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I think his hesitation has to deal with a few things. His ex fiancé was very dependent on him. Friends, employment (financially I guess as well). I am a high earner with my own career, so I’m confident I am not dependent on him. Also have my own friends. He also I think is a bit rattled from the experience. They ended about 2-3 years ago. He had to go through the prenup experience which he has said is the “most unromantic thing” ever. They ended due to a misalignment on kids, both parties unwill…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 08:01 PM
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