shewhogoesthere Archive

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1	How much communication before a date? Yes, some texting is a good idea. You're going through the process of getting to know each other and you want to build some anticipation/momentum before your date. You dont need to have long detailed conversations, just exchange a few texts a day.	/r/seduction	10/07/14 04:50 PM
2	What style do you think gets better results with younger girls (under 25) this. young women like status symbols. If you have money and can treat her to things her other friends dont get with their young boyfriends she'll be putty in your hands.	/r/seduction	19/06/14 06:23 PM
2	Why are women all of the sudden interested in you if they see you with another girl Thats true too. If too many people want what you like it can have the opposite repelling effect definitely.	/r/seduction	18/06/14 01:04 AM
5	Why are women all of the sudden interested in you if they see you with another girl Subconsciously it raises your status. The same thing happens with men. Knowing other people desire someone raises their value. If multiple other people like or are attracted to someone you believe in their appeal just by having multiple people verify it.	/r/seduction	17/06/14 06:53 PM
1	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. I feel bad for you, I know how much it must suck to struggle and not have success even after trying so hard. But you realize that by treating women the same way you'll perpetuate the problem in a way. You wont get any closer to being happy yourself and you'll create women who are just as bitter and angry at men as you are at women...who will in turn hurt more men like yourself and so on. I think you can definitely find women who are just up for sex, just hang out around closing time at the bars …	/r/seduction	13/05/14 02:11 PM
1	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. Thats fine, but you need to find the girls who are also ONLY looking for sex and/or hookers. Its not justifiable for you to be pissed off and frustrated to a point where you think that makes it okay for you to go use a woman for sex when she might want more. And yes I think your plan is a good one, to take a long break and learn to live without dating/women for awhile. You need to remove it from your priority list in your mind in order to gain a better perspective on things and get away from the…	/r/seduction	12/05/14 07:25 PM
3	Can guys and girls be "just" friends? Im a girl and I say generally no. Its possible but its rare. In any male/female interaction there is always that underlying question. Even if you know that you're not attracted to Jim, a small part of your brain questions Jim's behaviour and body language towards you and tries to filter it for flirting and sexual meaning. And that questioning and uncertainty always complicates the idea of a purely platonic friendship.	/r/seduction	08/05/14 08:25 PM
3	You CAN'T just "be more confident" I agree that you cant make confidence. But I think for most people 'fake it till you make it' just teaches you to cover up the problem, instead of actually building confidence. Possibly over time and numerous positive experiences (if they are positive experiences) you can earn some confidence from that, but for most people that insecurity still lays deep inside. If you really want to get more confident and better, I suggest spending time on yourself first. Once you learn to love yourself, TRULY,…	/r/seduction	28/04/14 06:37 PM
-1	Where To Start If You’re Lost With Women, Part 4: The “Why” Of Female Attraction Another 'full of it' article. If women were all subconsciously attracted to the same things then why wouldnt every woman be equally attracted to say, all the 'hot' male actors. They're all perceived as attractive men, all have money, power, status, are "alpha" males. Yet each woman might be attracted to only 1-2 different ones among them and repelled by a good number of them.	/r/seduction	27/04/14 03:21 PM
5	Scientific evidence - EYE CONTACT Thats interesting. Ive never been much of an eye contact person but I could really see that being a correlation.	/r/seduction	11/04/14 05:46 PM
4	Scientific evidence - EYE CONTACT Interesting, thanks for the title. I want to read this, I struggle with reading body language.	/r/seduction	11/04/14 05:46 PM
1	Logistics of Revealing a Deal Breaker Id just bring it up during the middle of a normal date. Say "so I wanted to mention something to you just so you know about it - I have been married before..." then continue with the story the way you explained it here. Answer any questions she has and be as honest as possible. I dont know if this would be a dealbreaker unless she's VERY conservative about the sanctity of marriage but she might feel intimidated by it, so try to convince her it wasnt a real marriage by any means, i.e. you werent …	/r/seduction	11/04/14 05:06 PM
1	How to break down the aloof barrier? Id agree with that, but elaborate that competition is a double edged sword. I think having a lot of women interested in a guy is a positive for his attraction. Having a guy interested in a lot of women is a big negative. Thats the discrepancy. A woman wants to be chosen as 'wow you are better than all those other girls who like me' NOT 'Okay girls line up, I'll date all of you because you're all decent enough to test ride'. See the difference? The girl feels special and like she won something in…	/r/seduction	04/04/14 02:40 PM
1	How to break down the aloof barrier? Im only speaking from my experience. There might be some girls who prefer to have smaller details complimented but Id wager a lot want to be recognized for the area they try hard to excel at. Its about where you think she tries the hardest, you can usually tell when a girl puts a lot of effort into having her clothes put together well, that means its important to her, more important than say, having pretty eyes. But a girl with well done eye makeup, well maybe she loves her eyes and wants them n…	/r/seduction	03/04/14 11:14 PM
2	How to break down the aloof barrier? Id go for mystery. Keep her wondering 'what if?' Be friendly, but dont go out of your way to socialize. When you run into her be casual with just a tinge of flirty, the odd 'looking good' or 'cant stay away from me can you?' type comment every once in awhile to let her know you're still attracted. I wouldnt hold my breath waiting for something to develop but no harm in keeping the back burner warm just in case.	/r/seduction	03/04/14 06:34 PM
1	How to break down the aloof barrier? Telling her why you chose to come over and talk to her is a good place to start. Try to suss out what her pride is centered around - is she very pretty? Is she very stylish? Smart? Whatever you can pinpoint that she has more of than other girls (it has to be at least somewhat true, its not going to work telling a 5 that she's the hottest girl you've seen here).	/r/seduction	03/04/14 06:29 PM
1	How to break down the aloof barrier? IDK that this is so much about being aloof. It sounds more like her guilt. She's in a relationship, so Im sure this is mostly connected to that. Because its long distance she was tempted by you and is likely attracted to you and so she gave in to it but now shes trying to step back as she probably feels bad betraying her girlfriend and regrets complicating things.	/r/seduction	03/04/14 06:22 PM
1	How to break down the aloof barrier? Sure	/r/seduction	03/04/14 05:19 PM
3	How to break down the aloof barrier? As a girl I'll give you my take. This is what women do when they pick up on the fact that you probably hit on a lot of women. Either you're using game-like lines and techniques that say you do this a lot, or you have too much confidence/cockiness that suggests you've had a lot of success with women. It makes them put up their guard and become threatened, no woman wants to be pursued as just 1 in the 100s of girls you'd be willing to give it a try with. She doesnt feel special or singled out anym…	/r/seduction	03/04/14 04:17 PM
2	How do I learn not to give a shit about what people say? I mean how specifically. Absolutely agree. Focus a lot of your efforts on self esteem and self confidence. Once you have the assurance that you know yourself best, are proud of your strengths and own your weaknesses...not much anyone else says will have an impact because you already know it and you arent ashamed of the choices you've made.	/r/seduction	30/03/14 05:17 PM
1	I don't believe there is such a thing as "rejection." Respectfully but confidently. If you're really "alpha" or confident in yourself as a masculine leader you'd have the self assurance that many other women will want you and this one rejection is no reflection of your desirability. You can happily say 'thats okay no problem' and walk away with your confidence intact. Even if that one woman doesnt want to date you, she'll still have a good impression of you as a strong, decent man and you never know when that reputation might come back to help you.	/r/seduction	28/03/14 02:28 PM
4	I don't believe there is such a thing as "rejection." Sorry, as a woman I can tell you most of your ideas about women are formed on stereotypes. Are some women emotional messes who change their minds all the time? Sure. There are flaky and scatterbrained men too. A lot of women are visual and rational and know pretty clearly what they like and dont like. There are ranges of rejection for everyone. Some people are rejecting outright based on looks - and its never going to happen no matter what. Sometimes its fuzzier...maybe your clothing/style/attit…	/r/seduction	27/03/14 05:41 PM
4	How to turn girls down and not be a dick? No dont do that! No girl wants to hear 'someone else is better than you'. You keep it as neutral as possible, and to a scenario everyone understands. "Ive had a great time getting to know you, but I feel we just dont have enough compatibility for a relationship, Im sorry and I wish you nothing but the best". It is much easier to accept rejection when its about chemistry/compatibility because we all know what its like to not feel that even though the person is attractive and nice - its not anyone…	/r/seduction	12/03/14 04:39 PM
1	How do you navigate through the social expectations of women to be less sexual than men? I think that belief is getting less and less common, if anything women are now under a lot of equal pressure to enjoy sex and have a fairly high sex drive in a relationship. Nevertheless, human sexuality exists on a spectrum. Some men have lower/higher/average sex drives. Some women have low/high/average sex drives. These drives are also variable based on age, current situation, hormones, external stimuli etc. So it all comes down to navigating the unique dynamics that you and your current partn…	/r/seduction	26/02/14 10:03 PM
3	Question: Reasons a Person Lose interest There are infinite reasons. Ive been there before and tried to overanalyze every single thing I said, what I wore, what I did...and none of it ever gets me closer to knowing their reason.	/r/seduction	20/02/14 05:43 PM
1	What is Vulnerability? I think it just means openness. We all have our outer facades that we use in public - hiding our flaws, behaving in a way that is socially acceptable, putting ourselves in our best light. To reveal things that are behind that risks hurt because its the real us being shown.	/r/seduction	19/02/14 01:46 AM
2	How do you remain authentic when a girl asks you about picking up other girls? Its a fine line. Girls can like knowing that you're a catch - a little feeling of competition and being able to compete or beat the competition makes things interesting. But right now whats going on in her head is...how many girls does he pick up in stores? Am I just another number in a string of nameless females? Every girl wants to feel special and like you selected her because she really stood out and is better than other girls...not be made to feel like you have low standards and try your lu…	/r/seduction	10/02/14 04:19 PM
8	How to avoid the feelings of inferiority when getting shot down? Just try to think of times when you've rejected perfectly attractive desirable women. Sometimes they just remind you of someone you didnt like or they seem too different from you, even though they're hot and awesome - just not for you. I think thats the least damaging way to look at it.	/r/seduction	08/02/14 11:03 PM
1	I'm only attracted to girls that are out of reach This explains it pretty well. I am the same way, but as a girl. I like the chase, the fantasy...then if I actually 'win' I get bored as heck. Nobody is ever as awesome as we imagine them to be, even ourselves in that future situation.	/r/seduction	05/02/14 03:59 PM
3	A woman explains why women likes assholes Sorry, this girl is just speaking about herself and from a bias of her own experiences. I have no doubt there are some girls who definitely think and feel this way, there are girls who loooove the bad boys. But to think that this will work on girls in general is totally wrong....no one theory will ever apply to everyone enough to rely on it as a fact.	/r/seduction	04/02/14 03:25 PM
4	I thought being a Barista would help me with the ladies...Help! Friendly and slightly flirty. Lots of smiles, lots of eye contact...the odd witty comment when you can manage it. Pay extra attention to the girls. Even though girls may not want to be hit on, most wont be averse to having attention paid or some fun flirting. The best opportunity for actually meeting girls will come from return customers though, if you see them again and again it gives you a window to open to extra conversation and possibly grow something from there...it is hard to say much to a…	/r/seduction	01/02/14 10:16 PM
10	Text game: don't force conversation This is true of men and women. Im a girl and I would do the exact same thing. If you're giving me one word answers IM OUTTA THERE. Im not staying around to be doing all the work and there are tons of guys who also suck at conversation - not expanding on answers, not coming up with anything new...and I hate it. But I agree with the general advice, if you're texting anyone and not getting met halfway, stop talking to them.	/r/seduction	01/02/14 07:15 PM
1	Helping her overcome insecurities with her body/ be naked in front of you? Hey, I am pretty happy with my body (I have no problem stripping down) but during actual sex I prefer the dark, too many ugly facial expressions etc. But anyways, you could start with some candles or just something with a little more light and progressively work upwards if she gets more comfortable. Going from pitch black to bright sunny morning daylight is a big jump! Also, it might help if you make her feel comfortable by pointing out some of your own body insecurities or 'flaws', so she feels…	/r/seduction	01/02/14 06:12 PM
2	How do YOU provide value to a conversation? Yep. Conversation always takes two people to sustain. I can lead and make it easier for people who struggle but if you're getting nothing effort-wise out of the other person there is no point in trying to continue. It ends up being like an interview, and a waste of your time.	/r/seduction	31/01/14 07:16 PM
-2	How do YOU provide value to a conversation? Im awesome at talking and coming up with discussions to keep conversation going, so long as the other person is receptive I can talk to almost anyone about anything with enthusiasm and interest.	/r/seduction	31/01/14 06:45 PM
1	Ever get that feeling during conversations that people don't really want to be talking to you? If that was true nobody would ever have friendships or relationships - we'd all just be walking around taking what we want with no concern for anyone else. Surely you enjoy talking to your friends? You care about their feelings and are interested in what they do and say? Thats what I was getting at, there ARE lots of people who genuinely are interested in others, thats how we make acquaintances and friends to begin with.	/r/seduction	31/01/14 05:16 PM
1	Ever get that feeling during conversations that people don't really want to be talking to you? True but I dont want to be talking about people who have absolutely no interest in me either. It should be a mutual thing, I ask about your life, you reciprocate and ask about mine. If someone is so self absorbed that they really have no interest in other people I think they're better off being left alone.	/r/seduction	31/01/14 03:36 PM