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shinesunshine/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 08:14 PM
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shinesunshine/r/RedPillWomen30/06/14 09:07 PM
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I tutor for two evenings a week (6 hours) which I don't really need to do but It helps pad our savings accounts a little :) And, we don't use shampoo in our house, I don't wear much make up or have much of a beauty regime apart from plucking eyebrows and smiling...
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 08:25 PM
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I would have said exactly the same before kids but life changes.... Of course I do plenty for self care, I encourage him to as well - we do things he loves on weekends. A stretch of time without real adult company from 7:30 AM to midnight is just a prospect that fills me with dread. Before baby I'd be like 'yay I can tidy up and catch up on some girlie TV and sort out my emails...' It's just different now...
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 06:23 PM
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This is totally me sometimes. I try to encourage him to go out but man when he comes home after I've been home all day with the toddler I just want him -not only to help out but mostly his company. I do find it difficult when he goes out - I think it changes a lot when you have kids and feeling this resentment is a lot more commonplace...
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 06:04 PM
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Not really - because I'm a SAHM I try to ensure our weekends are mostly things he likes to do so I think I know him pretty well. He'd be happy with sex, beer, being outside and food. I have a health condition that means I am in pain quite often so I try to get outside as much as I am able to with him and for the rest of the weekend I like him to go on cycle rides, see friends etc. I guess what I'm saying is valentines isn't much different to a normal weekend only I've pencilled it in so I don't …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 11:20 AM
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In the spirit of 'there is no one size fits all' RPW - My husband is Irish and loves walking and being outdoors. I'm making him an Ulster Fry (cooked Irish breakfast) and then we are continuing our long costal path we hope to complete this year... I'll pack us Irish coffee and sandwiches too...
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 10:56 AM
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I use a day planner to set up my day before I go to sleep. I try to get out of the house every day for my sanity. I get up before my husband for some me time and try to do some cardio exercise evey day, even if that's just dancing with the baby in my arms... As for the attitude thing, remember he has been hard at work all day and you don't know what he's gone through. Make him a drink before he gets in and ask how his day was, being prepared to totally listen. Helps if dinner is in the crock pot…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 05:09 PM
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Good - I think I amfinally coming out of the low I've been in since my grandma passed away. I am going to the gym, using my Fitbit, have tonnes more energy and am able to get up with my husband in the morning. Bad - I might have taken on too much work. My mum also just sent me a ton of Reeses Pieces in the mail...
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 09:11 PM
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The good: typical Stepford wife behaviour, clean house, fresh cakes, bread, pizza dough, pancakes, ice cream, all from scratch. Frugal living, plenty of fruit and veg, healthy diet. Pinterest toddler activities galore, potty training him well, going to the gym often The bad: Man I'm grouchy and keep doing the whole 'well I did ask you to do it x time ago' which I hate, we had an argument this morning (which never happens). I hate myself for it. He has a chronic health condition which is getting …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 03:52 PM
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I am having the same problem and am considering aFitbit as it has a vibrating alarm feature so son and husband won't wake up and I can get up earlier...
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 09:29 AM
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I have a kid and we have an amazing relationship which has only got better since having the kid. I'd say we put our kid first if for example we were all drowning and he could only save one of us, he'd save the kid in a heartbeat and vice versa. We out each other first though in every day life - making time for each other, even turning things like cleaning out our kitchen pipes together into fun in the evening :) we have a 'chore' night, a 'reading' night, a 'board game' night, an 'early' night e…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 03:13 PM
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I have a kid and we have an amazing relationship which has only got better since having the kid. I'd say we put our kid first if for example we were all drowning and he could only save one of us, he'd save the kid in a heartbeat and vice versa. We out each other first though in every day life - making time for each other, even turning things like cleaning out our kitchen pipes together into fun in the evening :) we have a 'chore' night, a 'reading' night, a 'board game' night, an 'early' night e…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 03:13 PM
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If he's askimg your advice, it's because he wants and values it. Two heads are better than one, especially when the decision affects the both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 09:18 AM
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Do you share a bank account? Could maybe you both put a set amount into a shared account each month from which the bills, food shop etc comes out of and then what is left you can both do with as you please? Also, if you are so concerned about money, is there any reason you only work very part time? If you want to ensure there is enough cash by the end of the month, maybe you could work a couple of extra shifts if that's possible?
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/15 07:51 PM
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Bring along a flask of alcoholic hot chocolate? Or put dinner in a slow cooker ready for when you get back in? :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/15 08:13 AM
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http://titlisbusykitchen.com/recipe/turkish-delight I use one like this one, the key is to just keep whisking out the cornflour lumps which can take aages and I'm seriously impatient (!)
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/15 08:13 AM
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I have always been sort of the same so I find going in there with an 'I will do something' attitude works well. You could make some truffles maybe, or peanut butter cups, or Turkish delight? These are my staples and always go down well at my family gatherings :) if not then maybe a homemade pickle or chutney for the table? NB I'm British so have little idea of what actually goes into a Thanksgiving meal...
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/15 07:35 PM
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Find something that needs doing, don't ask - just do. Or at least, if you do ask, ask with a purpose - not 'can I help?' but 'Where is the tea towel, I'm going to wash the dishes' or 'are you okay if I wipe down this counter now?'. Also I tend to say things like 'it would bless me if I could help out' or 'please sit down and I will make you a cup of tea while I'm washing up'. To demonstrate you want to help out, be the first up from the table, bring homemade foods along (or can you offer to make…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/15 07:19 PM
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Maybe but with a young baby and health problems on both our sides, often it doesn't. Keeping it once a week gives us something to look forward to .^
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/15 06:44 PM
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Blowjob Tuesdays. Try to find nice things to do on weekends together as a family. Also go on long walks in the evenings, often I meet him at work with a coffee and we walk home together and talk.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/15 06:06 PM
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This is fascinating. The only religious people I know over this side of the pond who avoid anything are Muslims...
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 09:06 PM
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Aah I'm British so we have two full drawers of tea. Mostly herbal but maybe five kinds of black tea too... What else do Mormons have to stay away from, out of interest? :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 02:16 PM
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Weirdly, on my iPad they are working fine but the introduction section isn't 0.o
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 07:35 AM
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In his defence, it's not working at the moment...
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 07:32 AM
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We provide for each other. What he does is more obvious financially but I don't think you can put a price on either. He comes back from work for lunch to a warm drink, home cooked meal, fresh artisian bread from the oven, a slice of warm cake to take with him back to his desk. He comes back after work and I get to have a warm bath to rest while he reads to our son. I guess when you are married to the right person, it feels like a pleasure and a joy every minute, not a trap. It feels like you're …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 06:40 AM
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Oh this is perfect. I am so guilty of this and this is such a positive way to deal with my feelings gracefully. Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 08:31 PM
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This. Source: chocolate cake freshly baked and it's 9:30 AM here. A big teapot of herbal tea to share with my husband in the morning always makes me feel festive. Also we have a 'nature table' which is a Steiner School thing but we just pick up bits of nature and have them on display- holly, Yule log, fir branches, pine cones etc.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 09:30 AM
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The only counterpoint I could possibly make is that when I was pregnant (and now I'm breastfeeding), nutrition was my top priority and so I never denied myself anything healthy whenever I craved it. If she's just like 'yah I won't change my spending habits for you', fine - but if she's saying 'I'm craving X and need to eat it' or if she's bulk buying because she's nesting then I'd be more inclined to side with her. I mean generally she sounds nutso and not a person I would want to dare but pregn…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 09:24 AM
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Our washing machine has been broken for 9 weeks now and our landlord keeps stalling. This is like salt into open wounds (!) however I love love love the concept and have just sent it to my husband. I am so often at the end of my tether when he comes home and although he always gets a meal and a hot drink, I feel I need to work at being cheerful and a soft place to land rather than a tirade of complaints.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 10:53 AM
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I can imagine you are scared. I can imagine how terrifying it is, but there are many positives. If you got a super awesome job abroad everyone would be congratulating you, not saying 'what if you get fired?' 'What if you don't get paid enough?' - this is just the same. Also bear in mind you can't work for this period but you can still treat it like work and learn a new skill, do housework, grow your own veg etc etc. Anyway, have you talked about finances after the move? Would you have a joint ac…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 08:29 PM
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Can I make some goals for next week seeing as I've never done this before? :) Make every day special for my son and husband. I'm working on it, but I've been ill for some time and I've slacked a bit. Earlier nights for my husband (he wants this too!) and me, earlier mornings and sharing the mornings together rather than me lying in. Less Internet. I'd love StayFocusd for my iPad as its all I have at the moment and I miss it. Usually I just ask my husband to take it to work with him but sometimes…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 03:37 PM
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Radical homemakers is on my to-read list, it's not exactly RP but it is about the value in making a home and caring for your family.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 05:34 PM
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Dating when I was 21, I was pregnant when I was 23 engaged and married when I was 24, now I'm 25. I think my family just think I'm a bit archaic and most of my friends think I'm 'lucky' that I stay at home. Mate, it's a lot of effort!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 05:33 PM
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I don't know, my grandma washed all her nappies by hand, couldn't afford any gadgets like a Hoover - okay I think they had a fridge but she would walk 4 miles everyday, to the shops and back, uphill on the way back with three kids and all the shopping. I think those times were hard - for example here in the UK there was still rationing, they had no central heating so she'd be up every morning lighting fires and her kids would have to choose between having a hot water bottle on their feet or unde…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 05:11 PM
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http://www.snopes.com/history/document/goodwife.asp ... This article was not from the fifties.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 09:58 AM
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Rather than giving classes, could you make it fun? Like find jokes in the foreign language and tell them to him, or watch movies in the language with subtitles together, or go to a restaurant of that cuisine (if possible of course)... I'm not sure where he's struggling but whenever I'm learning a foreign language I find immersing myself in it easier so watching films, listening to the radio, having newspapers etc around - could you order him some books maybe? I've learned a lot too by listening …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 10:37 PM
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Many good points have been raised already but I will say that no man wants a wife who will stay at home and 'do philanthropy' which to me sounds like spending his hard earned money. Being a SAHM/housewife will require hard graft and you want to show a man you are willing to do that, to spend time on your knees cleaning, not just arranging flowers and looking pretty. I worry you may be looking for a life of leisure, not a life of hard work to maintain a household and happy children. Really think …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 07:15 PM
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If at six months in you feel like your relationship is in a big of a mess I'd strongly suggest you are in the wrong relationship. This is your honeymoon period - not a time for him to not be thankful whenever you do anything that contributes towards the house, to berate you for relaxing or working on your own thing, or to have jaded feelings for one another. It seems like whatever you do is wrong and this is really sad. I understand he is depressed and this must be difficult for both of you but …
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 07:20 PM
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I was thinking about this one so thanks for your review. I've drawn up my 'ideal' planner and I think I might just print it and add to a folder and make my own. I'm surprised there isn't an online shop where, like with photo books, you can move all the bits and make a journal just the way you want it... There would totally be a market for that I think.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 09:54 AM
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I'm a lurker too who's only just got round to posting properly :) this looks amazing, I wish I'd learned about this when I was at uni!
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 09:52 AM
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Thank you so much for your insight.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 09:30 PM
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You're right of course. It just sucks when you know to get better you need to rest and you're watching the one you love taking time off work to do everything as well as getting up at 5AM with the baby and staying up late to clean :( thanks for the kind words, I needed to hear them right now.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 09:08 PM
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This is beautiful, advice to live by. Right now I'm failing as I'm very ill in bed and my husband is doing EVERYTHING. :(
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 08:15 PM
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I have a physics degree. I stay home with my children. I'm happier than I've ever been...
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 01:26 PM
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I have a lot of my grandmother's stuff - her Kenwood, kitchenware, card making equipment, hell even her iPad! My favourite is her maslin pan though, as it reminds me of all the hours we used to spend making jam together.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 03:36 PM
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Poly, by definition, means 'many loves' so I think what you mean is swinging? A large problem with many poly relationships is the ease with women can form new relationships compared to men. Usually there is a large disparity between people interested in a poly lady as compared to a man - which often causes upset in relationships. I can see poly working in terms of 'sister wives' and I can also see that adding other people to the bedroom for threesomes etc may appeal to RP couples, but I do not p…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 07:08 AM
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Oh Gosh I'm in the UK - here it's 18! Either way, you get the gist - a magazine, cake, chocolate bar, posh shaving stuff - just ways to show you're always thinking of him wherever you are :) Good luck with your move x
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/15 06:14 PM
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A silly tip but whenever I go past a nice alcohol shop I pick up a few bottles of fancy craft beer for my OH. He really really appreciates it (and I'm getting much better about picking out 'good' ones) and it's something nice he gets to come home to and shows I think about him all day. Also I really recommend meal planning as it means you don't end up spending loads of food out while you're at uni - so when we were both at uni I made big portions and we both had leftovers for lunch.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/15 12:55 PM
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He washes up after dinner quite a lot of the time. He takes the baby and runs me a bath with my favorite bath bombs in most evenings. He appreciates everything I do and make for him. He gives me his coat when it rains. He carries all the bags if we go shopping together. He gives me a lie in most mornings when the baby has kept me up for a lot of the night. He cuddles me every night. We have sex most nights. He holds my hand and listens to me when I'm upset. He works five days a week so I don't n…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/15 05:42 PM
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Keep learning the two languages I'm learning. Spend the whole year making seasonal things (I started when my job finished this summer but want to go round the whole year foraging and making jams, chutneys and preserving things. It made our Christmas shopping minimal this year! Listen more when OH talks about work. Make time in the evening for adult conversation more and not just talking about the baby/my day. More sex.
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