shlomobo Archive

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1	What exactly is 'The Game' ? The Game is as a book and also pickup slang for the skills of a guy. Like „he got game“. He is successful with women. It‘s also like „rizz“ as used by younger generations.	/r/seduction	31/01/26 01:12 PM
5	Has anyone tried being mean on purpose? Usually done by insecure and unsympathetic tryhards. Just being mean does not take you anywhere. Being self-confident and having boundaries is not mean.	/r/seduction	31/01/26 01:04 PM
2	How Dating Works Like Venture Capital Awesome!	/r/seduction	31/01/26 11:29 AM
1	What if you hate social gatherings? I think there is a difference in social gatherings. As an introvert it might be easier to join events / groups with people you know. And you can avoid events with a lot of strangers involved. So bars, clubs etc. with a lot of strangers aren‘t the best places for you and that‘s fine. If you join club where you‘ll always meet the same people it will be easier for you. Of course at the beginning you don‘t know them but you‘ll get to know them soon and it can become less draining for your social bat…	/r/seduction	31/01/26 04:17 AM
5	How Phone Calls Completely Changed My Dating Life (And Why Texting Was Killing My Conversions) Thank you for this post!	/r/seduction	30/01/26 08:09 AM
2	Self-centered men just can't handle the change that comes with having kids Damn you have a lot of anger inside you. All of my friends are very caring fathers and do aaaaaa lot. No one expects a woman to be sex slave. But if you are a co-parent couple without any intimacy after three years - yes, something is wrong. You have a child but you are a couple as well. It‘s not only the man‘s fault. If a relationship ends it‘s the fault of both sides.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 10:14 AM
3	Don't tell people about PUA/cold-approach/seduction frameworks - Let normies be normies Why should I know some dudes? I‘ve never paid for coaching courses. It‘s about going out and practice not sitting at home and read and stay theoretical. You think you know some names and some history and now you have a clue about pickup … it‘s insane. It‘s like some dude that reads books about riding a bike but never actually did it in practice and now claims he knows about biking. You have a lot of negative assumptions about people that practice pickup. Going to Thailand because you don‘t have …	/r/seduction	26/01/26 09:09 AM
0	Don't tell people about PUA/cold-approach/seduction frameworks - Let normies be normies Mate, you saw some book and tell me some names of PUAs I never have heard of and now you think you are the pick up expert. Pickup is about facing your insecurities, going out and actually doing. Btw: PickUp is not a club. It‘s an idea or a theory that you can prove right or wrong for yourself. If it doesn‘t work for you, it‘s fine. For other guys it works. Just accept it and stop being miserable about it.	/r/seduction	26/01/26 07:42 AM
1	Don't tell people about PUA/cold-approach/seduction frameworks - Let normies be normies I talked about the dynamics in a seducation process that are usually the same that do work most of the time. Like being playful, having fun and enjoying the process, having an opinion, be brave enough to actually ask a girl out, touch them in a pleasant and positive way during the date and later kiss her. PickUp is not some magic that you only can do if you know about it. PickUp describes basic seduction behavior and social skills that a lot of guys naturally and intuitively do.	/r/seduction	26/01/26 07:25 AM
3	Don't tell people about PUA/cold-approach/seduction frameworks - Let normies be normies You don‘t need PickUp to be successful with women. PickUp itself in my opinion describes dating / behavioral dynamics. PickUp is not about some books and not about a holy grail. If you claim it is like this it clearly shows that you have never looked into it in depth. If you look at the dynamics it‘s always about the same patterns that do work and pickup just copies those dynamics and describes them in a logical way. PickUp did not create those dynamics. Pickup is so much more than some dumb gam…	/r/seduction	25/01/26 09:07 PM
2	Don't tell people about PUA/cold-approach/seduction frameworks - Let normies be normies Exactly! I am happy for you that you found your path. I know how hard it was (and is). We cannot rescue everyone.	/r/seduction	25/01/26 02:12 PM
51	Don't tell people about PUA/cold-approach/seduction frameworks - Let normies be normies It was like this 15 years ago when I got into the pick up community and it‘s still like this. People don‘t want to hear that they are responsible for themselves and need to actually do something. It‘s easier to complain about women and shittalk about guys that are successful with women. Women and nice guys will not admit and never accept that a lot of this pick up bullshit actually works. And it‘s ok. Let women think it doesn‘t work while it works nearly all the time. Let nice guys think that th…	/r/seduction	25/01/26 01:23 PM
3	Guys that never got girls in a club setting, what changes did you make to get lucky? If you want to connect with women in clubs you need to feel comfortable in clubs first. A few people here already mentioned to have fun and a positive energy. If you only go out to pick up a woman you‘ll likely be too desperate. Approaching in clubs and approaching in settings like on the street or during grocery shopping is completely different because in clubs it‘s all about attention and social games. In clubs you need to be „fun“ and exciting to gain and hold the attention of a woman. And ap…	/r/seduction	24/01/26 05:43 AM
22	Why most Indian guys come off desperate and thirsty when flirting I have worked as a bartender at restaurant in Germany. In Germany the hospitality industry is full of Indian-born-and-raised students, mostly doing kitchen jobs but some are also bartenders. There was an extremely strong sense of solidarity among the Indian men, which I thought was really cool. But only a few of them had anything to do with the rest of the team. Otherwise, the Indians kept to themselves. There was never more than a “hello” even if I tried to start a chat. I think the cultural di…	/r/seduction	11/01/26 08:34 PM
5	Why most Indian guys come off desperate and thirsty when flirting Western Tech Nerds are also made fun of, it doesn‘t depend where they are from.	/r/seduction	11/01/26 08:24 PM
1	Why most Indian guys come off desperate and thirsty when flirting Thanks for the insights. This explains a lot.	/r/seduction	11/01/26 08:23 PM
2	My first cold approch (24M) Congratulations mate! Happy to hear you‘ve made a positive experience.	/r/seduction	06/01/26 03:13 PM
0	Women objectify and reduce men to metrics but in a different way. What kind of women do you date? Where do you meet women like this? How has this become the common stereotype? I‘ve had the most success with women when I was a student and working as a bartender. No money, just social skills and an environment where I would constantly met women. Go to locations where millionaires hang out. Yes, they are surrounded with women - mainly prostitutes and escort ladies. Sooo many successful men around 30 struggle to find a women. Yes, there are materialistic women. Bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 10:15 AM
3	Men, how the hell do I know when to make a move while on a date with a woman? When you feel that you want to make a move it‘s the right time. But don‘t kiss her out of the blue. Initiate some kind of physical touch before and see how she responds like taking her hand, putting your arm around her etc. If she is not attracted she will try to escape from your physical touch as soon as possible. If she‘s fine with it - it‘s your sign.	/r/seduction	05/01/26 02:41 PM
2	I feel so jealous of all the guys women choose to have sex with Yes, go for the job as bartender. It will change your whole social game because you will have a of social contact to other people and especially beautiful women. You will realize that women are humans like you and me. And you will become more and more secure in social interactions. In my experience your environment is one of the most important factors if you want to meet women. The feelings you‘re experiencing are ok and a lot of guys feel like this. But it‘s not your destiny to stay like this f…	/r/seduction	04/01/26 09:32 PM
78	In your experience how often do girls sleep with multiple guys at once? If I met her at a dating app I would always assume that she‘s seeing other guys but I do live in a big city. At the end as long it‘s casual it‘s modern dating in the West I think.	/r/seduction	06/09/25 11:52 AM
5	Men who have sex with lots of (attractive) women, how did you do it? It hurts now and will for a while, but you will get back on track. I believe in you and I am sending you a bro-hug.	/r/seduction	05/09/25 01:02 PM
20	Men who have sex with lots of (attractive) women, how did you do it? I feel you, bro. I also think it‘s normal to become calmer after 30. Happened to me as well although I was very extroverted in my twenties. Sometimes humans in a relationship develop in different directions. Don‘t blame yourself. But I want to add that I have never been a „natural“. I worked my ass off with personal development like you to become successful with women.	/r/seduction	05/09/25 09:01 AM
447	Men who have sex with lots of (attractive) women, how did you do it? I think the environment is everything. It‘s always easier if you organically meet new women. I wasn‘t muscular and best times with cool women I have had when I had a belly. I went to university where I met tons of women and partied a lot (but rarely drank alcohol) where I also approached a lot of women. And I worked as a bartender where it was super easy to talk to women. If you are surrounded by beautiful women it becomes normal and easy for you. And if you are permanently socialising it also b…	/r/seduction	05/09/25 07:56 AM
2	Day Game results – Am I doing something wrong or is this normal? The age thing is tricky. I have no solution for you. It will happen that you approach women outside your age target group. If you wanna be safe avoid approaching women that look young or too old - as dumb as it sounds. When you approach 27 women without any date I recommend to check your approaching style but also your current mood. On some days it‘s just cursed, on other days you can do a socialise warmup before and that shifts your mood into a positive mood. How do you approach? Can you mainta…	/r/seduction	03/09/25 06:34 AM
1	The "Tactical Wake-up" Seduction Method I remember that in the biggest German pick-up forum there were some people who wrote something like that and actually meant it. 😂😂😂	/r/seduction	24/08/25 03:02 AM
2	The Wolf of Wall Street Taught Me More About Dating Than Any Coach I get what you wanna say and again, that might be true for some people. But people tend dig deep into theory without actually taking action because their anxiety does not magically go away just because they have a script in their mind. So no, in real life it is not exact the opposite as you claim. And holding a presentation about climate change infront of an audience is not comparable to simply say „Hello“. You are using MMA fights and presentations to compare. Like seriously? You cannot compare…	/r/seduction	21/08/25 06:26 AM
7	The Wolf of Wall Street Taught Me More About Dating Than Any Coach Oh nice, mate! Happy to hear that!	/r/seduction	20/08/25 06:39 PM
3	The Wolf of Wall Street Taught Me More About Dating Than Any Coach I agree that for some guys scripts in their head will help them. I am not saying that reading some theory is wrong. Absolutely not. I was reading a lot of theory while I practiced socialising. But at the end it‘s about action and doing. And better I approach a women and do not know what to say instead of having a script in my head and being to anxious to approach.	/r/seduction	20/08/25 06:37 PM
8	The Wolf of Wall Street Taught Me More About Dating Than Any Coach I agree that learning the theory is a good basic but the fastest you'll learn social dynamics is to actually practice socialising. Yes, at the beginning you'll be awkward. But no one learns social intelligence through reading books. Having a chat with a stranger is completely different than having a mma fight. If you lack something you need to practice. A guy that goes out socialising will always be better as someone who stays at home and reads books about socialsing. Learning theory first and p…	/r/seduction	20/08/25 02:38 PM
3	The Wolf of Wall Street Taught Me More About Dating Than Any Coach Well said! Agree 100%, thank you for the reminder.	/r/seduction	20/08/25 12:42 PM
63	The Wolf of Wall Street Taught Me More About Dating Than Any Coach If it‘s like this you just have to practice. Unless you autistic or neurodivergent- don‘t tell yourself the excuse that you can‘t. You just need to practice. And you will learn and your social intelligence will grow.	/r/seduction	20/08/25 12:42 PM
1	To all the players I have never talked about heading to my or her place. I recommend to start to change location. At first, move to another dance floor with her. Then have some food outside and so on. Works especially well if you're living somewhere near to the location.	/r/seduction	20/08/25 10:57 AM
80	Why liberals get more casual sex I kinda agree but the guys I know that are judgemental use judging as an excuse because deeply inside they know (or better think) they cannot get the women. So it‘s easier to say „I don‘t want her“ instead of „She doesn‘t want me“	/r/seduction	20/08/25 10:08 AM
21	How is it that I got most of my best girls while unemployed? Truth hurts but needs to be called out. Well said.	/r/seduction	18/08/25 01:59 PM
2	Approaching/dating when mental health isn't great Ok I am from Europe so I have absolutely no clue about dating in East Asia, but I anyway wish you the best and hope someone can help you here.	/r/seduction	16/08/25 06:06 PM
1	Approaching/dating when mental health isn't great How is your experience in dating so far? And in what culture do you live in?	/r/seduction	16/08/25 05:51 PM
1	Approaching/dating when mental health isn't great If you just want to be part of the hook-up culture, go for it. But if you want a real relationship fix yourself first. You cannot meet and attract mental sane women if you are not mentally sane.	/r/seduction	16/08/25 03:45 PM
1	Sexual vs Romantic Attraction is a Game Changer in Seduction Ah I got you. It‘s easier than creating romantic attraction, yes. But of course it‘s not easy in general for everyone to create sexual attraction. If you have a new friendship with a women, you haven‘t build sexual nor romantic attraction.	/r/seduction	12/08/25 06:19 PM
8	How to leave the game? I completely understand your situation. I have been there as well. It‘s easy to stay in a relationship if you have no options. But with your mindset you surely have a lot of options. I can recommend to build a deeper connection with yourself. I built my whole life around dating women and had multiple dates each week - over many years. At some point I asked myself: „That‘s it?“ Hooking up with new women is nice, but every guy reaches a state where he realizes that there might be something more. A…	/r/seduction	12/08/25 06:02 PM
2	Sexual vs Romantic Attraction is a Game Changer in Seduction That‘s what I said, isn‘t it? That you first need to build sexual attraction.	/r/seduction	12/08/25 03:56 PM
12	Sexual vs Romantic Attraction is a Game Changer in Seduction Well said! I think creating sexual attraction is way more easy than actually creating romantic attraction. Because sexual attraction is in the heat of the moment, can be faked with seduction techniques. Romantic attraction requires an actual deeper connection to a woman, which is harder to fake and something that - as you said - a lot of PUAs fail. It is nice to get sexually intimate with woman but at some point it is unsatisfying to only be involved sexually and not being able to build deeper c…	/r/seduction	12/08/25 04:02 AM
2	WHAT EXPERIENCE PROMPTED YOU TO OVERCOME MR. NICE GUY SYNDROME? It was a German page, that doesn‘t exist anymore and a German book, that‘s not available in English.	/r/seduction	11/08/25 11:08 AM
13	WHAT EXPERIENCE PROMPTED YOU TO OVERCOME MR. NICE GUY SYNDROME? I was 20 and at a club and come out of a toxic relationshio. I saw a guy that looked so damn average, he had a belly, was like 10cm smaller than me and in general wasn‘t a guy I would call handsome. While I tried to dance with a women and got rejected, this dude I saw was talking continuously to groups of women, had fun and got telephone numbers and even made out with a cute woman. He later actually approached me at the smoking area and asked me how my evening is going. I told him how I failed w…	/r/seduction	11/08/25 03:45 AM
1	Is there a "right time" in life to have a hoe phase as a guy? That's cool, mate! Definitely go on, wish you the best.	/r/seduction	10/08/25 07:22 PM
4	Is there a "right time" in life to have a hoe phase as a guy? I think that there is a right time everyone, but it‘s very subjective. Some guys experience this phase when they are younger and some after a 15-year marriage. Both is fine. Not every guy at 22 is the same. Some guys are already married with kids and absolutely happy. Then there are 22 y/o that are virgins or currently experiencing their hoe phase. While I am very happy that I had my hoe phase (always when I was single between my relationships) I don‘t think every man needs it. You can be succes…	/r/seduction	10/08/25 08:26 AM
1	Can you transform yourself from a man with zero success to a man with many successes? It is definitely possible! I think a lot of guys that are interested in seduction and successful with women started years ago as guys with low success in dating. It‘s hard work and it takes time but it‘s worth it. You‘ll have to face a lot of your own anxieties and insecurities. I recommend to not focus on sex so hard because it makes you desperate. Rather develop a genuine interest in people. Be able to hold a chat with other guys and with women you‘re not interested in. And practice to feel co…	/r/seduction	10/08/25 06:37 AM
1	How should I approach girls at university? I have approached women at the library and on the campus. It‘s actually quite easy because you have stuff in common (studying). And guys rarely cold approach on the campus so it‘s quite unique. The women that rejected me sometimes I became some kind of friends with. It was fun and I got a lot of dates. Definitely go for it! :-)	/r/seduction	07/08/25 12:02 PM
1	How do you approach women when you have that fear of doing it? I see your point. In my perspective shyness is some kind of fear. And leaving your comfort zone also requires bravery, so to deal with your fear. But of course fear is a survival thing and not bad in general.	/r/seduction	07/08/25 11:06 AM
7	How do you approach women when you have that fear of doing it? You are assuming that a hot girl has a boyfriend. But you don't know it. Big mistake in the way you think and how you perceive women. Stop assuming, start to find out. If she has a boyfriend and rejects you - who cares? You will be proud of yourself that you talked to a cute woman. And she can take it as a compliment. No one dislikes compliments. Maybe you'll make her day a bit better and you'll feel better as well.	/r/seduction	06/08/25 06:15 AM
3	How do you approach women when you have that fear of doing it? Being afraid is annoying, I agree. I recommend a different perspective on fear. It holds us back from growing. Perhaps fear is a kind of guide in life for growth. I have approached like thousends of women when I was younger. Most times I felt some kind of fear or I was excited. It's always there but you can learn to handle your fear and become more comfortable. Maybe sometimes it is just mistaken excitement. Fear holds us back to travel, to move to another location, to get the new job, to approa…	/r/seduction	06/08/25 06:05 AM
1	Cold Approach does it work? I think it‘s one of the best ways to meet women. It needs practice and you have to face your insecurities and anxieties. But you‘ll grow as fuck and become a magnet.	/r/seduction	06/08/25 05:33 AM
0	Can Someone Please Explain The Point Of Negging….. Playful and funny negging can definitely be flirty. It goes hand in hand	/r/seduction	05/08/25 08:04 PM
10	Can Someone Please Explain The Point Of Negging….. The guys that overcompensate usually don't get the ladies. :D I think the concept of negging has two sides. You can either make her feel bad or you're just doing a bolt, playful and funny joke. I think the second one is the more succesful one.	/r/seduction	05/08/25 09:51 AM
2	Being nice or kind doesn't get you far in life honestly As if an attractive guys has never been challenged in life. I started as a guy with zero success in women and eventually became very very successful with women. I had so many challenges. I have faced up to the challenges and have grown and become more attractive as a result. You‘re currently having an incel mindset and you have way other problems than not getting women. Face them und stop blaming women for you inner bullshit you‘re avoiding.	/r/seduction	05/08/25 04:28 AM
19	Why is night game so difficult? Nightgame is different because the attention span is lower. You need to be more „entertaining“ and have a feeling for social constellations. Plus: You need to have actual social skills, especially when approaching groups and women with friends around. On the other side it‘s way easier because most people are social and introducing a little chat is easy. Someone already asked if you like being in an club. You said no, so that is the problem. If you do not feel comfortable in a location you will h…	/r/seduction	03/08/25 07:10 AM
3	For you guys doing cold approaches: how do you review and improve? I never had an Excel-List and I never wrote field reports. Usually I reflected instantly after every approach - what went good / wrong, what do I need to improve. No matter what the outcome of the approach was. You definitely need some kind of reflection about approaching imo.	/r/seduction	02/08/25 05:34 AM
1	Pickup with depression. Is it possible? Damn mate, 100% this!	/r/seduction	31/07/25 04:07 AM
4	Building My Future, But Missing Out on Life I strongly disagree with the „grind only attitude“ in your 20s. I mean, of course go for the grind but also live your life. You don‘t need that much money when you‘re young. And „all the women will come when I am wealthy“ is a lie. I have met dozens of successful men over thirty that had very low success with women and felt that they „missed“ something in their 20s. The reality is that it‘s way easier for a lot of men to go for the grind than talking to women and they use this as an excuse to po…	/r/seduction	30/07/25 09:36 AM
4	Are Successful Women Intimidated by Successful Men? I have made similar experiences with successful women (and men) that they tend to talk a lot about their career. It‘s part of their identity and they think, it makes them attractive / lovable and „worthy“. I don‘t know if successful women are intimidated by successful men. But if a person needs to brag about herself / himself it‘s usually a huge red flag for major self worth problems. My girlfriend is very successful in career, I was as well in the past and we both never talked about our jobs.	/r/seduction	29/07/25 05:57 AM
12	Does having a reputation as a fuckboy/horny man with a high bodycount work for or against you I think there is no need to talk about it. She knows within 30 seconds if you are able to attract women. They way you act, talk, your body language. You either have the vibe or not. I was meeting a lot of women when I was younger and I never talked about it. Same goes for other successful in dating-guys I know / knew. So I think a fuckboy reputation does not play a major role. Neither positive nor negative.	/r/seduction	29/07/25 03:19 AM
3	How come for some guys dating and relationships are easy while others struggle ? There are some guys that were born with this „skillset“. But a lof men that are successful with women actually started as guys with no success with women. They faced their own bullshit, overcame their (social) anxieties and most importantly: They started to do instead of hesitating.	/r/seduction	27/07/25 07:40 PM
2	Mental fatigue from going to bars and clubs alone because friends are either unavailable or don’t have that much social energy As already mentioned maybe the environment of bars and clubs is not yours anymore or is currently not yours. I have experienced this with bars and clubs as I got older. When I was 22 clubs and bars felt like home, I could have stayed 24/7 at those locations. But: For some people it‘s cool to regularly meet new people and have superficial connections. I was like this when I was younger. Maybe it‘s time for you to build some deeper connections outside of bars and clubs and hang out with them more …	/r/seduction	19/07/25 08:16 PM
7	Sex with older man You insulted op as „young and dumb“ just because she‘s attracted to an older guy? You know nothing about her. She is 20 years old and not some little victim. Relax.	/r/seduction	18/07/25 01:01 PM
13	Sex with older man Sounds a little bit bitter and very generalized, mate.	/r/seduction	18/07/25 11:41 AM
20	Sex with older man A lot of older men go for younger women and a lot of younger women like older men. If it‘s something casual just go have sex with whomever you want. There‘s no need to feel bad about it if you feel attracted to him. A lot of my female friends in the past had affairs with older men - sometimes with guys being 20 years older. If a serious relationship is possible with this age gap - the time will show if it will workout. I am mid 30 and in a relationship with a women at my age. But before I used t…	/r/seduction	18/07/25 11:37 AM
8	How to deal with men using physical force and threats of violence to cockblock you: Women with ex boyfriends like this are never worth the drama. The ex will constantly be a topic. Often those women go on entertaining the drama of their ex boyfriends and it‘s a huge red flag. And you seriously wanna kill a guy because of a woman? That sounds really desperate. I don‘t know where you live but carrying a knife at an event and having a gun in your car sounds very unhealthy. You seem to have the same energy like those crazy ex boyfriends. Maybe that‘s why you „attract“ them.	/r/seduction	12/07/25 09:02 PM
1	Sweet guy vs confident guy: results I think it really depends on the type of women you are dating. Of course I don‘t know her. Your description of her sounds really awful. She seems like a low-level women with her behavior and I wonder why you want to entertain this woman. She clearly behaved disrespectful while you acted nice and gentle. This does not work out and no low-level woman will respect that. A person that treats you bad needs to be treated bad as well. If you want to treat a person with respect this person first needs t…	/r/seduction	12/07/25 05:45 AM
3	For 40s Men I can absolutely understand why you are interested in sex with younger women. Go for it. But for a family and a relationship - what do you want with a 20 year old girl as a 40 year old guy? I mean where are similarities besides sex? You wanna talk and as a 40 year old maybe someone who has her shit together. This is rarely possible with this age gap. Maybe it‘s better to focus on a woman you actually like and that meets your vibe instead of focus on younger age if you wanna start a family.	/r/seduction	11/07/25 06:54 PM
2	Guys around 40 and older, how are you doing? A lot of people on Reddit will tell you that it‘s a red flag if a guy is lying about his age. Maybe it is maybe it is not. I have been doing this since I was 20. If a woman would ask me stuff about age I always asked: „What do you think / assume?“ She would say a number and I would always reply like „Oh wow, good call“ and add maybe one year. She wants you to be as old as she thinks you are. If you are just looking for casual stuff there is no need to be completely honest. No one is. Whenever I …	/r/seduction	03/07/25 09:14 AM
5	Can a nice guy actually become a bad/confident guy? You can change a lot about your personality. You just have to be patient. It takes a lot of time. In your case it might take years. First: Seek therapy. It will definitely help you. You have been raised with a toxic construct of „love“ and self worth. This is not something you can easily change by yourself. Then seek for an environment and people that will help you to become what you want to be. Go to a larger city and hang out with people that go out and meet women. Practice approaching women o…	/r/seduction	28/06/25 02:38 PM
6	Have yall ever recovered from an L What do you mean by „acted emotionally“? So to understand your post: You got a number while nothing happened like a date or something, texted, she wasn‘t interested while you already where attached?	/r/seduction	26/06/25 11:07 AM
4	She attempted to ghost me after two great dates. But why? Hej mate, I am sorry to hear. There might be 1000 reasons why she changed her opinion about you. It might be because of something you did or not. What I can observe from your text: You seem way toooo attached to a woman you‘ve only had two dates with. She might have liked your attention but it wasn’t about sexual attraction. She‘s a player and she exactly told you what you wanted to hear. If she is on an dating app chances are very low you‘re the first guy she kissed in a year of being single. A…	/r/seduction	16/06/25 05:03 PM
1	The reason why you're not getting women is because you undervalue and overvalue yourself simultaneously Well said, thank you for this post!	/r/seduction	28/05/25 06:39 AM
17	It's not a woman's job to tell you when and where to go on a date Agree and good metaphor with gardens and butterflies.	/r/seduction	26/05/25 01:06 PM
14	How come some guys become less cool as soon as they get a gf I think for the majority of guys the seduction and adventure part finishes when they are in a relationship. Usually, women hang out with their friends when in a relationship, but a lot of men stop hanging out with friends when they have a girlfriend. This might be the reason men become uninteresting for their girlfriends. But to be fair, dealing with a full-time job is advanced and can cost a lot of energy plus investing time in the relationship is energy consuming as well and if you have a kid …	/r/seduction	25/05/25 05:02 AM
1	Do most pickup artists struggle to form deep connections beyond hookups? I was really into PickUp in my twenties and I would say that it was hard for me to maintain long lasting connections with women. In my opinion a lot of relationships do „work“ because people don‘t have options. Especially men tend to stay in unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships just because they think that they will not get another women if they leave. So yes, if you have options your perception of the dating world changes. But it is more than just that. A lot of PUAs come from broken famili…	/r/seduction	06/05/25 04:33 AM
2	Why do so many dating coaches "retire" early I don‘t know about other countries but in Germany it‘s becoming more and more socially unacceptable to be a male coach for dating. I think this pressure is something not everyone wants to deal with. Furthermore, I guess that online dating has changed the whole process how people meet and classical pick up approaching is not as requested as in the past anymore.	/r/seduction	25/04/25 05:26 PM
7	He’s handsome, in shape, has a good job—but women don’t stick around You do not seem like a nice guy. You seem genuinely kind. This is a huge difference. A nice guy is actually not that „nice“. He treats women „nice“ often in a submissive way like paying for everything, accepting every behavior of her and do not have any boundaries, agreeing with everything she says and having no own opinion. But the nice guy does not act like this because he is genuinely kind. He acts like this because he wants sex in return. He thinks the woman owes him sex just because he is n…	/r/seduction	20/03/25 05:19 AM