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Out here asking the REAL important questions! Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:17 PM
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Block posts are the worst thing about Reddit. If it looks like a brick, it hits like a brick. 👏🏻 USE 👏🏻 PARAGRAPH 👏🏻 BREAKS 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 03:50 PM
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Wow that is so depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 11:19 PM
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“Straight people don’t need better rules for sex. Men need to stop assaulting women.” Amen to that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 07:58 PM
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Please stop using ableist terms such as “delusional,” “unhinged,” “deranged,” “crazy,” “psycho,” “insane,” etc to describe people you don’t like. Mental illness is a real struggle for many people and the stigma that goes with it is real. Please don’t add more fuel to an already large fire by insulting and degrading other people this way. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:06 PM
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It’s never an accident. He meant to send you that. Don’t give him the benefit of the doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 10:14 PM
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A Dic Pic? Is that like a dubbed Sailor Moon gif?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:29 PM
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Oedipus complex. They’re worried about accidentally jerking off to their mothers without knowing. Especially scary since they all start watching violent rape porn at 9 years old these days…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:18 PM
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Like making a movie without her consent about her sex tape that was also released without her consent? Yeah, I agree, that is pretty shitty. That’s why I won’t watch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 08:30 PM
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I’ve been talking up Promising Young Woman and how important that film is to our culture. Just so refreshing to finally see that experience fully realized and represented. It’s so relatable. Thank god someone is finally addressing rape culture, you know? They take off faster than The Flash. Lol. Thanks for weeding yourself out, potential rapist/friend of rapist. No time wasted. Date smarter, not harder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:35 PM
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I knew they were too perfect to be true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 09:26 PM
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We are not allowed to just exist in any state. Go all natural and dress comfy? Wrong. Get dressed up with heels and makeup? Wrong. Shave our heads and sport a variety of wigs? Wrong. Be feminine? Wrong. Be masculine? Wrong. Be somewhere in between? Wrong. Literally do anything? Wrong. Men can do whatever they want though. Rape and murder? Oh, it’s fine! He was just a misunderstood nice guy! It’s all these whores’ fault for not sleeping with him. Neg neg neg. Bitch bitch bitch. That’s all these g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 06:31 PM
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It doesn’t matter. I like to dress up, wear heels, and do my hair/makeup for myself. But because I live in bumfuck nowhere, that makes men (and women) SO angry. I am constantly getting negged for “dressing up too much.” Yet if I were to wear a hoodie with leggings back where I came from, I would be shamed for dressing down. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. So just do whatever the fuck you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 10:20 AM
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“I’m sorry you feel that way” is another classic response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 05:40 PM
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I got a message somewhat similar to this last week. Different account, different subject. Asking for me to expand on a random comment I made. It gave me weird vibes. I ignored it. I wonder if this is a thing now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 05:19 PM
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Mistakes were made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 08:28 PM
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Totally agree with leaning into the villain thing. My particular outlet for this is to go all out with my fashion aesthetic. Lots of black and burgundy, fur coats, snakeskin boots, smokey eye, purple lipstick. I want people to look at me and say, “She’s fabulous, but she’s evil.” Always be giving Regina George / Miranda Priestly / New Cruella vibes. They love to hate it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:46 AM
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Yeah, like did you check the content of said “fantasy” and ask yourself why this person is fantasizing about raping a family member?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:14 AM
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Sounds like a future serial killer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:29 PM
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Men be like, “Your family just died in a horrific freak accident. How can I make this about me and my penis?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 09:37 PM
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I am attending several virtual events on leadership and career development for women. Knowledge is power. Level up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 06:56 PM
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That second panel gave me the ick. That’s what I say to my old sick dog when he’s having a bad day, lol. Miss me with the mommy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 01:19 PM
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Agreed. I have relatively little experience with weddings compared to others my age. I think I’ve been to maybe three in my adult life? Also never been anywhere close to discussing marriage with anyone. All I have for reference are the nonstop obnoxious reminders on Facebook that I have hundreds of fake friends who never invite me to their weddings. I no longer have Facebook for this specific reason. Anyway, fuck whatever is happening here. It still wouldn’t make sense even if I had been to a hu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:51 AM
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Most likely. Also, if it’s a “spiritual” marriage, isn’t that still “technically” a legally binding contract? Or does it not count if you just throw a party and don’t fill out any of the paperwork? Isn’t there an actual process you have to go through involving a marriage license? Did they just skip that part completely? Furthermore, what kind of “spirituality” are we talking about here? Is this religiously based or like, some obscure, made-up hippie thing? Who did they get to marry them? Was it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:05 PM
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I’m confused about this so-called “spiritual marriage.” So you invited everyone you know to a fake wedding? Am I reading that right? You threw yourselves a fake wedding and didn’t really get married? Why? Sorry but I’m laughing at this right now. I just can’t wrap my head around the arrogance of throwing a fake wedding and calling yourselves “spiritually married.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:32 PM
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HA HA HA! It’s funny because it’s true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:36 PM
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Same. It’s amazing how women’s intuition is literally screamed down into silence and subdued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:26 AM
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Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:37 AM
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The absolutely bizarre insistence that women do not poop. I’ve encountered this more than once. I don’t even know what to say to that, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:41 AM
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Again, the amount of energy it requires to wear a mask like that… I feel exhausted and overwhelmed just reading your description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:19 AM
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Yes, this “Nice” culture is very deceptive if you have never dealt with it before. It took me way longer than it should have to figure out that it wasn’t actually my fault that the “nice” people I was trying to befriend weren’t as nice as they pretended to be. It’s literally just how the culture is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:00 AM
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You’ve just described the place I live perfectly. It’s so weird. I call it the Cult of Nice. Everyone always talks about how NICE they are, but I rarely see it. I do overhear A LOT of mean-spirited gossip though. Usually about whoever it was they were just being so NICE to. It’s… exhausting. Idk how anyone has the energy to live like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 11:50 PM
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This is exactly what I’ve needed to read for approximately five years. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:53 PM
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Thank you! You just made my day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:45 PM
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Thank you for your beautiful comment. I totally lost my writing mojo for awhile. The positive response I’ve been getting from this community is so uplifting. I finally feel like it’s okay to start writing again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:37 PM
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It’s a good idea in theory. Your intentions are good. That doesn’t mean theirs are. In my experience, men can’t be friends with women. They just get weird. I’ve tried and I just can’t do it anymore. I’d rather seek out friendships with HVW. But where do I find them, and how?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 10:48 PM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 10:27 PM
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Okay I didn’t want to dox him/myself but then I was like… whatever I don’t care. Call him out. He sucks. As with all things, it came in a series of threes: He bought a brand new car and found it keyed to shit in his parking lot very shortly after. He SAYS he doesn’t know who did it. He claims it was just so random because it happened only a few days after he moved to a new town. Again, definitely lying. I have no reason to believe him after he cheated on me with a billion girls. My theory is tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:41 PM
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You’re welcome! I refuse to give Reddit money, so fake awards are where it’s at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:15 PM
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Am I the only person who was taught to never pop pimples? Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:55 PM
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Came back to add that this reminds me of the chick my ex from college was cheating on me with. Well, technically he was cheating on both of us with each other, as well as 2 or 3 girls from his hometown. Honestly, he stuck his dick in so many randos, it’s hard to say who he was actually “dating.” Either way, she fought REALLY hard to be the “Facebook Official Girlfriend,” while doing his laundry, paying for his online gaming habits, and buying him whatever he wanted. And what happened when she di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:51 PM
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lol wut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:41 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:21 PM
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As a person who briefly lived abroad and had to figure out how to grocery shop in an entirely different language and dietary culture, it blows my mind that men act like they can’t pick up three things from the grocery store. It’s not hard. If you have a question, LOOK IT UP ON THE TINY HANDHELD COMPUTER YOU CARRY EVERYWHERE IN YOUR POCKET. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:37 PM
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I like how you put the threesome and the back waxing in the same sentence. It makes it sound like getting rid of his back hair requires a team of carefully-selected specialists. I believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:47 PM
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I agree with you. I find the content way too triggering as a survivor based on reading the discussions alone. I’ll read them all day, but I’m not going to watch the show. I absolutely refuse to consume any media that contains rape or sexual violence against women (or men, for that matter, not that it’s common). I’ve also never been obsessed with drugs, so yeah. Not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:36 PM
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Lol at “fembots.” This guy wishes he had a Stepford-esque fembot. Maybe he should go get one and leave real women alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:07 AM
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This is honestly so depressing and scary. I can’t believe she gave him all that money. She will regret that in the future. This makes me never want to date ever again. So unsettling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:34 PM
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A year is nothing. I haven’t had sex since before Covid. I don’t miss it. I usually don’t even like or enjoy it because the average man is selfish and lazy. I see it as a chore, which is why I stopped dating altogether. There’s no point. Literally none. What do I get out of it? Nothing. Literally nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 06:08 AM
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My opinion is that I would rather have some female characters than no female characters. I am a huge advocate of Hallmark, Lifetime, Netflix, Harlequin, romance publishers, romcoms in all forms, Shondaland, etc for giving female voices a platform. Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Rag On Female-Centric Media: -Have I ever actually consumed and engaged with any content from this platform in a meaningful way? -Exactly WHEN was the last time I watched or read anything written for women by women?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 04:28 AM
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I found something that works for me. That’s what matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:01 PM
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That sounds very expensive and time consuming, especially in a remote area with extremely limited resources. A trip to the library is much more convenient for me. Hopefully your advice will help someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:53 PM
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Same. Talk therapy is not for everyone. Some of us have to go at it on our own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:33 PM
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Anna is not a Robin Hood in any sense of the word. She was a nobody running her scam so she could build an elite, exclusive, expensive social club in NYC. That’s hardly a charity project intended to make the world a better place. We’re in a pretty sad state if all these people are somehow equating that with giving back money to people in need. Throwing hundreds at hotel staff does not a Robin Hood make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 12:43 PM
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Super jelly, obvs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 06:48 PM
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Toxic femininity? Is that the one where women act like subservient cool girls who only exists to please their boyfriends and supposed “love” getting choked out in bed? If so, miss me with that shit. Been there, done that. You know where it got me? FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 02:56 PM
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Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:03 AM
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What’s with all these 30-something guys dating teenagers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 09:03 PM
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Had a friend from HS who I stayed in touch with and visited many times over the years. She always had a lot of issues, but so did I. Sometimes it’s nice to just hang out with someone just as messy. I would say our friendship was solid in spite of that. I could always rely on her to be there when I came back to town. She got into a relationship with a guy who was… just… ugh. I hated him the instant I saw his stupid face on social media. He was even worse in person. Just so spoiled and out-of-touc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:26 AM
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This is a great example of someone you should immediately stop wasting time on. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 02:08 AM
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They have lots of fancy displays lining the queue. Some guys pick up random shiny stuff and throw it in with the gift card. Source: Worked there for the holiday season once upon a time. Do not recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 02:04 AM
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I always shout “THANKS, ASSHOLE!” after I walk through the door behind them. Gets them to stop and turn around every single time. They always look surprised that someone called them out on their rudeness. I do it to both men and women. I also call out people who cut in front of me in line and make a scene. Don’t be a dick. I always hold the door open for people. It’s a basic politeness. Lately I’ve noticed that if I hold the door open for a guy and there’s another door ahead of us, he’ll rush ah…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:57 PM
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Porn will do that to you. Their brains are just melted Swiss cheese now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:48 PM
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Could also be a gift card or lip gloss. Extra low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:41 PM
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That’s actually bullshit. Sometimes your job does wake up one day and decides it doesn’t love you anymore. “Job security” is about as much of a joke as “relationship security.” Neither of those things exist in today’s world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:33 PM
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They’re definitely at the bar. I’ve met a lot of these guys recently. They all travel for work, they’re all just passing through, and they’ve already met a million women like me. Luckily, I’ve already met a million of them. They’re all the same. I don’t even have to try anymore. I go out once in a blue moon, I sit by myself, one of them inevitably approaches me, we chat for awhile, I get my drinks/appetizers paid for, I go home, they text me some vague thing about how much they’re looking forwar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:02 PM
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Agreed. I (unfortunately) watched Leaving Las Vegas a few years ago. I could barely pay attention to Nic Cage because the escort’s story was so horrible and intense. Like when she gets beaten and gang-raped by a group of teenaged boys, slut-shamed on her way home, and kicked out of her apartment. That scene stuck with me for way, way, way too long. Every time I see someone talking about how “empowering” sex work is, that’s the scene that comes to mind. How is that glamorous or desirable in any w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:50 PM
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Okay but does he mean fat as in carrying excess weight, or “phat” like the 90’s slangs equivalent of “cool”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:47 PM
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Family Guy is the ultimate example of low value, low-brow humor designed for the lowest common denominator of society. Every guy I’ve ever known who thought Family Guy was funny was an uneducated idiot. I consider it a massive red flag if a guy likes this show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:14 PM
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I can’t keep track either, tbh. Every time I get on the sub, there’s a new crazy headline. It’s like… okay, everybody update me on what I missed in the last five hours, lol. Keeping Up with the Kardashians is, in fact, a full time job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:07 PM
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It’s not a scandal because it’s part of a bigger scandal. It was news two weeks ago, but way more has happened since, so it got left in the dust. Kanye has been on social media going after all sorts of people — mainly his ex-wife Kim and her new boy toy Pete. He’s clearly in the middle of a meltdown that will probably end with either him getting forcibly committed or him committing some kind of violent act. Check the KUWTK sub for details. We’re all over it. There’s actually some pretty great di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 04:23 PM
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No, they don’t want that. Try getting on a dating app and saying you’re just looking for a hookup. Nothing. But if you say you want a relationship, you’ll get all the guys who just want hookups. If you try to define the relationship as just a hookup when it’s obviously just a hookup, the guy will melt down. It’s not about sex. It’s about the power of deceit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 04:17 PM
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Meh. If I remember correctly, the attraction between them was evident throughout the series. The stakes of the romance are high due to his widower status, her employee status, and the fact that the children absolutely love Fran and would be devastated to lose her. They choose to remain professional for the sake of the children. Both date other people. They come together a few times throughout the series and then pull apart again for the aforementioned reasons. Their biggest moment is when they t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 10:39 PM
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That’s called an addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 06:26 PM
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I also refuse to get any kind of DNA test for similar reasons. Where is that information going? Who is getting that and how are they using it? My family has kept good records of our history. The risk just isn’t worth it to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 08:25 PM
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I feel like there are several telenovelas where this plot line is addressed in very dramatic ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:44 PM
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This is a soap opera plot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:17 PM
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I think you’re right about how common abuse is. FDS has shown me that a lot of these guys are using the same scripts and behaviors on women. They seem to enjoy breaking down strong women. It’s like a game to them. Sad, depressing, and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:41 AM
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Have a fake award. Your comment is about to help me through the entirety of the next week. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:31 AM
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That was the first of many red flags in my situation. He was unhinged, his wife divorced him while I was working there, and the restaurant closed shortly after. He will forever remain in the Top 3 of my “Worst Bosses of All Time” list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:20 PM
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I hate it when they do that. I like to pull the classic line, “Well professor, I would have studied if I had known there would be a test.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:16 PM
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Why do I always get stuck talking to dbags like that instead of awesome fans like you? Where are you hiding? Why is it so easy to find other female SW fans online but not in real life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:15 PM
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Drum and Bass in the morning is such an unpleasant thought. It’s like listening to trance music on Sundays. Why? I used to have a boss who blare Blink-182 in the kitchen every morning at the restaurant I worked in. I like that band, but every single morning for months on end? Oh my god. Make it stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:12 PM
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I remember thinking a lot about how my beliefs about men, women, and dating had changed after all of my bad experiences. In the days leading up to my discovery, I remember wondering if I really was alone in thinking and feeling the things I did. I was constantly being gaslighted and screamed at by everyone around me. I was incredibly isolated. Then I got on Reddit. I don’t remember what sub or the topic or anything. I just remember seeing it ranted about as being crazy and toxic and evil. I reme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 11:09 PM
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My current hobbies are dance, languages, art, journaling, theatre, film, fashion, beauty, travel, world history, horseback riding, and home organizing/decor/DIY. Someday in the future I would like to improve my kitchen skills, pick up piano again (I took classes as a child but it’s been a long time), and learn ballroom dance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:47 PM
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Guys named Jordan = red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:44 PM
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The Sequels Trilogy is actual flaming garbage in a dumpster fire in just about every way. There’s nothing good to say about it. It was a total waste of every single resource they were handed on a silver platter. I’m still mad about it. I haven’t even watched the third one. I couldn’t even get that far. I am a lifelong Star Wars fan, btw. I take it seriously, but not in a crazy gate-keeping way like men do. You can trust my expert opinion on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:53 AM
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A simple “lol” would have sufficed. It would still be block-worthy, but that HAHAHAHA is unnecessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:40 AM
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I’d be more impressive if he’d said it in a different language. C’est un chat. Le chat parle français (somehow). Le chat dit « Le Mew. » That being said, I’d still be like… Uhh… okay. Good for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:32 PM
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Don’t forget the cannibalism part. It’s totally fine to be raped, murdered, raped again in corpse form, chopped up, cooked, served on a silver platter, and eaten with a side of fava beans and a nice Chianti! You know, as long as everyone is consenting! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:56 PM
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This is exactly why I dipped out of the fanfiction community. It got WAY too weird and uncomfortable for me to participate in. That was over a decade ago. There is no doubt in mind it’s gotten worse and that makes me really sad. I got into fanfic when I was 11/12. I shudder to think of someone that age accidentally stumbling on some of that disturbing shit. No wonder these Gen Z kids are so weird. They’ve all been looking at porn and kinkfic since they were 10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:54 PM
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Yeah that’s off my list forever. I don’t need to consume any triggering media like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:32 PM
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You are so right. I edited my comment to change it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:31 PM
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Yeah I had a guy read my palm too. That post annoyed me. Like, I managed to save one tiny little micro memory of cute incident with a guy and now that’s ruined too. Are men even real at this point? It seems like they’re all just robot clones of each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:28 PM
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I can’t believe STRANGULATION is so normalized. That is sick. That is literally domestic violence and attempted murder. Literally. And all these people just think it’s a normal sex thing! These kids are so fucking clueless. It makes me sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:11 PM
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You mean it’s not normal to have webbed toes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:46 PM
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I don’t even know what that means. He used the completely wrong word. Completely. It makes absolutely no sense in this context. At all. It’s like he saw a Big Word somewhere and decided to throw it in there for spice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:44 PM
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That’s a lot of words for “I’m gay.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:42 PM
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Just a side note, but I literally hear the sound of nails scraping against a chalkboard when someone uses the phrase “I am a female.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 12:54 PM
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Phoenix Marie sounds like an AOL Instant Messenger screen name. Specifically written as ~ * ~ xPHeoNyxXx MaRiE x69x ~ * ~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 12:37 PM
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I’ve never understood this. Why is saying “Hey I really like you!” considered the CRAZIEST thing one can say to a man? It makes no sense. I spent so many years wondering why until I found FDS. Now I know the answer to this is, “You’re right. I am crazy for liking you. You’re a disgusting fucking pig and I deserve better. Have a great life.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:46 PM
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You’ve only dated one? Lucky. I have several in line for that cliff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:47 PM
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Sending you a virtual hug. I’m sorry you had to go through that. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:44 AM
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The dinosaurs never died out. They just evolved into birds and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:54 PM
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History indicates Shakespeare’s wife was out of the picture. They didn’t get along so he left her for the theatre and never returned. Kind of a minor detail at best. If they had been allowed to get divorced, they would have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:27 PM
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Imagining this scene playing out in front of me makes me want to print out little cards with the FDS url on them and hand them to women in these situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:27 PM
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I’ve never felt safe at an AA meeting. I tried to go at several different points in my life, but I just couldn’t get past the discomfort I felt at every level. You’ve put into words exactly why. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 03:00 PM
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As her bestie Kourtney K would say, “That is so embarrassing for your life and your soul.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:15 PM
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I find that men everywhere lie about wanting relationships when they really mean sex. It gets old. Why lie when you can just find someone who also wants a hook up? Why do you have to waste someone’s time and hurt them to get your dick wet? This is my least favourite thing about men. They will look for any excuse to hit on you and drag you into a fake relationship so they can get sex. I’m over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 02:30 PM
10

The way it was written made it sound like he was calling himself an “aspiring thinker.” Meaning he hasn’t had a good thought yet, but he’s trying really hard because he knows he’ll achieve his goal someday if he puts the work in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:23 AM
34

Daddy Issues is 100% a male projection. How many movies have you seen and stories have you read about men and their absent, disappointing fathers? I can name three characters from popular action films right now who have major Daddy Issues: Luke Skywalker, Indiana Jones, Killmonger from Black Panther. I bet you can think of so many more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:55 PM
8

HP marathons are practically a mainstream holiday tradition at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:08 PM
1

💀💀💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 08:36 PM
3

I would 100% watch the shit out of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 08:20 PM
5

They’ve always been this terrible. I dated gamer guys from 2005-2009. Never again. Never, ever again. All they would do was scream profanities into the headset, constantly make misogynist jokes, and compare women to porn. This was before smart phones and streaming. It is what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 07:46 PM
228

Why do I need FDS? Because I’ve already had these conversations with men a million times. They don’t want to listen or learn anything about the female experience. They just want to gaslight, derail, deflect, argue, and waste my fucking time. I don’t need that shit, Jeremy. I’m a rape victim. Yes, I said VICTIM. Get madder about it and condescendingly lecture me some more so I can run the fuck away from you. Yeah, I’m tired of being told I’m lying and making it up for attention and that I’m just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:14 PM
5

How did you navigate the career transition while recovering from the previous abusive/toxic environment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 12:00 PM
2

I don’t think that’s true but I also haven’t taken the time to research it beyond The Symposium. I could be wrong. I don’t know. I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about the history of men having sex with each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:15 PM
5

Well maybe if men showered more often and used real beauty products instead of 12-in-1s, brushed their teeth, wiped their asses, and dressed in fashionable clothes, they would be soft too. Oh wait, that So GaY, yOu GuYs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:03 AM
2

I see you’ve met Tristan “Third Trimester” Thompson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:57 PM
5

The scene from Keeping Up with the Kardashians where Scott asks for anal and Kourtney chases him around the house wearing a strap-on comes to mind. Look it up if you haven’t seen it. It’s a classic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:43 PM
4

Tbh, the Ancient Greeks were onto something. They saw sex with women for the sole purpose of making babies and fucked other, usually significantly younger, men for pleasure. If men want anal so much, they SHOULD fuck each other. After all, according to Plato’s Symposium, the only REAL love that exists in the universe is between an old man and the teenage boy he rapes for his own selfish sexual pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:41 PM
4

Wow! You saw TWO whole attractive men? I saw 0. You’re probably leading us all right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:38 PM
4

Girl, same. It’s so depressing. My new FDS-inspired phrase for vetting men forever is, “Bring on the sexbots!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:32 PM
16

Let’s all collectively laugh together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:46 PM
14

Yeah imagine my surprise when I thought my first time would be the special prom date fantasy episode and instead it was rape and coercion by my own boyfriend who didn’t care how many boundaries he pushed or how he affected me psychologically because getting his dick wet was more important than the actual human being in front of him. Turns out, all of them are like that! They don’t care! At all! So yeah, bring on the sexbots and leave us the fuck alone already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:45 PM
97

Yes yes yes! To add on, the guys the characters dated were based on REAL MEN the writers had dated IRL. One of the male writers was inspired to write “He’s Just Not That Into You” because of it. Was he right? Most of the time, yes. Was he also misogynist AF? Also yes. All of these things can be true at once. We just can’t win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:41 PM
200

I’m rewatching the OG Sex in the City right now and this rant reminded me of some of the guys Miranda dated. Specifically the guy who couldn’t have sex without porn and the guy who she had to fake orgasms with every time in spite of the fact that she tried to teach him how to do it properly. The show gets a lot of hate, but rewatching the first two seasons with an FDS lens is epic. Miranda and Charlotte know what’s up. I also recognize all the guys from OLD in the episodes. That shit is real. Pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:12 PM
300

For the love of god, please take your sex robots and leave us the fuck alone. I’m so over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:54 PM
33

I personally cannot even imagine the concept of “owning a male sex slave.” Like, what? I don’t need that. I have a vibrator that gives me multiple orgasms every single time. What would I even do with a slave? I don’t know! The entire concept of forcing a human being into a life of servitude against their will is 100% against everything I believe in. Okay, yeah, sure, maybe I’d let him clean the house if he really wanted to, but do we even have the same standards of cleanliness? Frankly, I’d much…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:48 PM
16

Girl, I know a field where you can take that projector, put it on a big screen, and host a wholeass drive-in theatrical experience. Maybe these scrotes can even bring their nests to watch from. 🙃🙃🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:37 PM
7

You spelled “mansplaining” wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:36 PM
44

Every time I hear the phrase “female incels,” I think about the time I walked to the pub down the street in Pajama pants, fuzzy socks, and moccasins to pick up my takeout and ended up taking home the hottest guy at the bar as a bonus. Wasn’t even trying. It just happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:20 PM
52

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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:08 PM
5

It’s so bizarre. How and why are so many of them so scarily similar? It’s like there’s a set of douchey character scripts in circulation that they choose from to reenact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:43 AM
10

Tristan? Is that you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:52 AM
31

I’m sorry you had to go through that. Sending love. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:54 PM
42

Absolutely goddamn NOTHING!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 07:01 PM
14

Yeah, that last one is definitely me. Too real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:37 AM
82

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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 07:14 PM
115

Literally Reddit in a nutshell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:33 PM
2

We don’t HAVE to do anything. We do it because we WANT to. I’m on your sister’s side with this one. I love dressing up. I live in a place where being fashionable is not the norm, so I actually get punished socially for dressing the way that I do. I don’t care. I’m only leaving the house once this week to run errands, so this is it for me. I’m going all out. I don’t care if people stare at me because I’m walking through the grocery store in high heels. These boots are too fabulous to collect dust…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:39 AM
20

JLo needs to stop living in the past and find herself a new man. Wishing her the best as she is fabulous and deserves so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:43 AM
51

I’m giving out fake awards for clever zingers today and you just got one! Congrats! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 06:04 PM
3

I actually see a lot of “upper class” women doing “safe” sex work such as camming, OF, chat/phone services, etc. They’re usually the ones pushing the “sex work is work!” and “it’s my CHOICE!” narratives the loudest. Meanwhile they have college degrees and live in houses their parents paid for. It’s weird. They are so sheltered from the actual realities 90% of sex workers on this planet face. A lot of it seems to stem from a desire for validation that they’re just not getting anywhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:46 AM
3

Yes. I went through all of this and I definitely reached the point where I was considering sex work because at least money would be involved. I did not follow through for many reasons, one of which was the fact that I visited a local strip club and saw the reality behind the online glamorization. Not for me. I’m glad I didn’t do it. I’d rather be broke than put myself through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:27 AM
6

I too reported my abuser and found myself shunned by all of my so-called “friends.” I also got the fun bonus of being gaslighted and ignored by my own family. People suck. They just fucking suck. Not much else to say, lol. All we can do now is be the woman who supports another woman when she comes forward with her story. Don’t be that same asshole who fucked you over when you needed a friend the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 06:34 AM
3

You’re welcome. I’m glad you can relate. I often find myself seeking out stories of perps getting their just desserts too. I just have to be super careful to avoid the graphic content. That’s why I loved Promising Young Woman so much. All the revenge with none of the gratuitous rape scenes. Someday I hope I can recover from my issues and write stories like that. I have a character like that developed already but… idk. She scared me too much so I stopped. Then I saw that movie and wondered to mys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 06:09 AM
30

Research confirms that too much exposure to porn causes literal brain damage. That combined with all the STDs they got by casually raw-dogging (and whatever drugs they were on while doing it) means their brains are literally full of holes. The long-term effects of untreated Syphilis in particular have been likened to giving the brain more holes than a lump of Swiss cheese. So yes, you are right. There is definitely something wrong with their brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:55 AM
7

I got this too! I logged 179 hours this year on FDS and I have no regrets whatsoever about how many bananas I scrolled through. Thanks for being my favorite place on the internet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:49 AM
9

I watched it a lot when I was a teenager because Olivia Benson is a badass motherfucker. Then I had terrible boyfriends who did terrible things to me and now I can no longer engage with any content that portrays violence against women, especially rape. It’s way too triggering for me personally, but I understand people deal with their trauma in different ways. It could be a way of protecting themselves, but it could also be the desire to feel seen/heard/understood. They want to know they’re not a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:46 AM
3

100% agree with this point. There are levels. Not every Pick Me is the next Ghislaine Maxwell. Some people on this sub act that way and it really bugs me. Like, no, your annoying friend with the shitty boyfriend who she constantly complains about is not an evil, manipulative villain trying to destroy all the women around her. She probably has a fuckton of issues stemming from all sorts of stuff in her past. Please stop equating the two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:31 AM
6

Yes, agree 100% on the acting. They played them together so of course I had to find out what happened. Worst night ever. Great acting, great writing, 100% not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 04:44 AM
19

Ugh, this reminded me of a Law & Order: SVU episode where Benson gets kidnapped by a handsome serial killer who explains in gruesome detail about how his dad raped and killed his babysitter in front of him when he was a child. I usually do not watch that show because it triggers the shit out of me, but I was at a hotel and it was on TV when I came out of the shower. It’s burned into my mind forever because it was so horrifying. It also reminded me to never watch that fucking show ever again. But…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 04:10 AM
3

I hate this. The worst one in recent memory was the guy who came onto me after I lost my job. I was working in a restaurant that I loved and he was one of my customers. I was fired in a sudden, terrible, unexpected way by my unhinged manager who had recently started doing meth again. I was so distraught. Still to this day, I cannot express how much it hurt me to lose that job. Maybe this guy understood that and that’s he felt it was appropriate to ask me out the next day. I would have turned him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 07:28 PM
3

You are not alone. I experienced something similar in college. Met this guy right off the bat and became “best friends” with him. He was there for me during a difficult time, so when he was going through a really difficult time, I wanted to be there for him. You can already see where this is going. Trouble is, this guy didn’t want help. He wanted to drink a bottle of whiskey by himself. So one night when he was drunk, he texted me saying he ReAlLy NeEdEd someone. I let him come to my apartment. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 06:14 PM
14

I’m more of a Venus Fly Trap, myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 05:41 PM
8

I’ve deleted multiple people over this. First of all, no one needs to know all the graphic, intimate details of your sex life, especially not random people you went to high school with. Second, wtf? Your body is designed to have multiple shaking orgasms and you’re giving that up to get strangled by some freak who wants you to dress up like a little girl and pretend he’s raping you? And you’re calling that empowerment? Miss me with that crazy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:53 PM
3

Jane Got A Gun starring Natalie Portman is the closest I’ve seen to your last point. Check it out and see how you feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:59 PM
2

It seems like you’ve already made up your mind, so idk why you’re here asking for advice. You clearly don’t need it. I’m sorry that not everyone is as perfect as you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:20 PM
3

Maybe instead of judging these women and distancing yourself, you could try being a better friend. What you are talking about here is the societal brainwashing that all of us endure. Stop treating other women like “lost causes” for engaging in these bad behaviors that we have all been conditioned to do. No, it’s not a case of “You’re either a HVW or NOT!” It takes time to unlearn this programming. It’s easy to get sucked back in when you don’t have a lot of support around you. It sounds like you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 03:35 PM
2

I once lived in a house like this. I was such a cool girl in college, you guys. I was the COOLEST! Until I moved into that house. Suddenly, my roommates stopped treated me like a friend and started treating me like a maid. We had a dishwasher and one refused to use it. He really expected me to put his dirty dishes in the fucking dishwasher solely because I was a woman!!! I refused to clean up after that. I would only clean my room and the bathroom I used (which was reserved for me, their GF’s, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 03:11 PM
1

Unpopular Opinion: Marlon Brando was not actually hot when he played Stanley because Stanley is a fucking Rapist. There is also the story about him and the director of Last Tango in Paris conspiring to “surprise” his female co-star by actually raping her so they could get an “authentic reaction.” Karma. Plain and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:04 AM
4

We “tried”? So you’re just going to give up? Really? I don’t see any guillotines anywhere. Doesn’t seem like we’ve exhausted our options yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:02 PM
8

Agreed. If men want to take us back into the past, then we deserve to channel that epic Amazonian energy from Antiquity and make our own country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:39 PM
18

Chrishell was on Dancing with the Stars last year so that’s part of the reason for her glow up. She gained a noticeable amount of confidence during her time on the show. I could tell it was very therapeutic for her. Her Cinderella Waltz was one of the most beautiful dances I’ve ever seen on the show. That moment was when she really came into her own. It was beautiful to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:23 PM
84

Did my ex write this? Because he used to speak down to me this way whenever I confronted him about his rampant community dick problem. He’s looooooooong gone now, thank god. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 05:44 PM
14

Agree, but I make an exception for Black Panther because it’s so badass and the women characters are excellent. The car chase through Seoul is one of my favourite action sequences because it shows a male hero who can’t work alone. The women in his life are the ones doing the heavy lifting for him. He’s just the figurehead in the suit they rally behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:58 PM
3

As a curly girl, I would have done the same thing. I need my microfiber towel, dammit. Don’t fuck with my hair routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:00 PM
8

Why are these conversations always described as “numerous, honest and tearful?” I always see this phrase used. Are you really having honest conversations or are you just crying while he’s nodding his head pretending to listen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:27 AM
30

Trolls like him do flourish best in wet, damp, dark environments like their mom’s basement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 05:15 PM
30

💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 04:14 PM
17

I used to buy cute lingerie for men. Then I realized they are all ungrateful assholes who don’t care about anything or anyone. So I burned it all and replaced it with comfy stuff that no one ever gets to see. Best decision ever. Fuck the male gaze!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 03:04 AM
2

What options?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 07:59 PM
7

I recently unsubscribed to that sub because I got tired of reading stories about women being randomly choked out by men without permission and being told to JuSt CoMmUnIcAtE that not wanting to be strangled is totally normal! I couldn’t take it anymore. I hate this sicko clown world we’re living in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 10:19 AM
6

That’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 10:46 AM
8

There is exactly one woman in the film and she is not written to be sane, stable, or likable. Her personality doesn’t really make any sense. She’s just generically “crazy” with no back story or personal details given. I think it’s mostly the Narrator projecting his own mental illnesses onto her. Still not sure if she’s actually real or if she’s just another one of his alt-self hallucinations. This could be debated for days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:58 PM
3

This is the first time I’ve seen this concept described. I’m thrilled to see it because this is how I’ve been feeling for the last few weeks about a situation I’m in. Now I understand. I’m in the Gaga-World. Thank you. So grateful for this community every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 02:50 AM
2

Had me rolling with the wife line. All of this is true, btw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 12:28 AM
3

Love your point about burning out on LV people in general. I’m having having that experience right now. It’s so, so, so disillusioning to know I’m trying everything to make friends and find dates only to constantly come up against a wall of Low Value Behaviors no matter what. I’m trying not to let it interfere with my perception of the world because I do live in a small town in an area that is not known for being welcoming to outsiders. There are real environmental factors at play here. I just t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 03:33 PM
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I could not care less. I say this as a person who mainly posts here and on the KUWTK sub. It’s being shoved in my face constantly and I just don’t care. I don’t care! Also, it’s kinda gross. Do something relevant aside from just constantly make out in public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:56 AM
3

I volunteer as tribute. I mean, mod.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:26 PM
4

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:08 PM
2

This sounds more like advice for raising children, or perhaps even training a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:07 PM
6

Feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeemaaaaaalez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:51 PM
19

Someone needs to convince me that Seth Rogan is actually straight and that Superbad isn’t just a love story about two closeted gay men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:33 PM
12

Haha, zing! I might borrow that for future use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:17 PM
40

“ArE yOu GoInG tO wRiTe A sToRy AbOuT mE?” 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:28 PM
25

Don’t worry, they will still find a way to neg you if you do decide to start a blog. My favourite was, “Wow I feel like I have to complete a homework assignment before I even talk to you.” Nothing is ever good enough. We can never win. Don’t even waste your time worrying about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:27 PM
2

Same. Thanks for the break in tension. I needed that laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:26 PM
11

Ughhh they done called me out with this post. Guilty as charged. I know. I’m the worst. All I can do is try to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:19 AM
544

Hard agree. I’m so sick of living in a culture that tells me I’m a prude for not wanting to dress up in a leather bikini, get spanked with a cane, and choked out by some guy I just met 5 minutes ago. Please explain to me how any of the above isn’t performative, self-harming crap designed for the male gaze? Why am I a prude for wanting to make love to a man who knows how to give me multiple orgasms? Why am I prude because I want to ENJOY sex with someone I love instead of fuck multiple people and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:13 AM
2

Welcome back! So grateful to have you here, as always. Thank you for the hard work you do. All of us here right now appreciate the safe space you provide. I felt like a piece of myself was missing while you were away. Glad to see you back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 02:00 PM
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Amen, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:07 PM
2

Meditation, deep breathing, yoga. The more I intentionally set aside time to connect with my mind and body, the stronger my intuition became. I also recommend tarot cards. They don’t give answers as much as insights. I find when I ask a question, there’s usually a voice inside telling me the answer before I turn over the card. The cards usually agree with whatever I was thinking. It takes practice but if you stick with it for the long haul, it’s possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:50 PM
1

Oh, have I noticed it. I could write a book about that shit. Oh that’s right, I did. Coming soon to a kindle near you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 05:04 AM
6

Oh, so I’m not the only person who does this. Very good to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:06 AM
44

Can confirm. FDS fills the void the Jezebel comment section left behind once the website turned into a total trash rag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:57 AM
4

This sounds like a weird male fantasy. How did the neighbor get their recordings if all this stuff was happening in the bedroom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:26 PM
5

For me, it’s the specification of “your attire must be 80% casual, 20% formal, but be into wearing costumes in bed.” Okay. Wow. How do I even begin to break down this sentence? Is this so-called “attire” for specific events or is that the general ratio of my entire closet? I didn’t even see the last part coming after the fractions got involved, so the costumes were definitely a surprise. Was that what he was going for? I’m confused about the attire-to-costume ratio here. Should he be able to ope…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:08 AM
5

As a millennial, this is probably one of the more depressing comments I’ve read about my generation online, mostly because it’s true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:21 PM
18

Thank you for being there for her. Your presence alone means a lot. I endured a similar online harassment campaign after writing an article about college rape culture. I felt very isolated and alone throughout the entire thing. I would have been grateful to have friends like you. Thank you. 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:12 AM
1

It definitely depends on the couple. The couple I know are HS drop outs in a low-income bracket with three kids. She’s a waitress at a small town café, he doesn’t work at all. He just buys cheap, random crap from the local thrift store and upsells it on eBay. That’s his “full-time business” that he came up with after several weeks researching work from home ideas on YouTube. Really. Guess who pays all the bills with her income, yet does all the packaging and financial stuff for his “business” on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:45 AM
14

I’ve been rejected by three guys in the last few years who I later saw on dates with other women. Each time it felt like I was seeing what I definitely wasn’t missing. One had the personality of paint drying on the wall. Another was straight-up shitfaced and yelling obnoxious things so everyone around could hear. The last one turned out to be diseased community dick who feared my feminist ways would land him in prison due to a “false rape accusation.” Really. I’m grateful they rejected me. I’m n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:47 PM
5

This list is true and real and that’s why it’s so embarrassing for my life and my soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:14 AM
5

Yes, yes, I remember this meme now! Thank you! I need to save this for future QAnon encounters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:48 AM
6

Wow, all of this right now. Closet and bookshelf checks are REAL. So grateful I’ve finally found my people!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:47 AM
3

No wonder she looked like a straight-up clown in her maternity photos. Google them if you haven’t seen them. It’s so much trashier than anything you’ve ever seen on Facebook. Now you know the reason why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:39 AM
23

Now that’s a quote I haven’t seen in years. Where is that from again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:00 PM
89

Hard agree. That was ultimately the reason I deleted OLD. It’s like buying a new pack of Pokémon cards but all you get are the same five energy cards that you’ve already collected dozens of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:56 PM
160

They get hot and bothered by greasy photos of women in bikinis standing next to trucks holding fish, so they think we do too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:51 PM
122

And the beer is always an IPA because they have the palate of a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:50 PM
4

Ancient sources claim the Amazons lived in modern-day Turkey, so I got a 2-for-1 on that joke. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:49 PM
3

Ummm… if you’re going to Vegas by yourself and handling it well, you can go anywhere. I travel all the time and one of my worst travel experiences was in Vegas. I had a creepy old man follow me around my hotel because he thought that as a woman sitting alone at a bar, I clearly must be a prostitute!!!! Obviously! Why else would I want to stay in the Paris, aside from the fact that I’m totally obsessed with Paris? It must be to whore myself out to old men!!!! OBVIOUSLY! Idk if he wanted to buy me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:17 PM
2

Don’t be! Solo travel is the best! Just be smart, use common sense, stay on guard, and be aware of your surroundings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:52 PM
4

You could try Themyscira.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:50 PM
14

$10 says none of them left a tip for the server either. When I was a server, I almost never got tips from large groups of men. I hated serving them because I was expected to put up with nonstop harassment for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:39 PM
58

So glad you escaped from that psychopath! Sending you good vibes on your journey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 06:57 PM
21

Just think, you spent all that money and put in all that effort just for some grody, unwashed loser to show up in cargo shorts expecting to get laid in return for a second-rate meal. Sigh. Guess that’s just what dating is now. So depressing. Why even bother anymore?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:13 AM
16

The rib thing gets me every time. Even as a child I knew it was weird male fanfiction. Like, that doesn’t even make sense. At all. A rib? Really? What? How? Why? Seriously, WTF. I literally cannot even with that right now, you guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:52 AM
2

Somehow that makes it even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:59 PM
1

Ohhhh, that’s what that is. Explains a lot. Okay. Yeah. Definitely dealing with that right now. Thanks for the info!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:12 PM
2

Okay, crazy. Someone report this shit to the FBI.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:24 PM
5

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:18 PM
6

Thank you for the vote of confidence! I need it, lol. We all do. Love this community. 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:52 PM
29

I want to respond to this, but I’ve already written several drafts of a book about this and I need to get paid for publishing it. It’s not flattering. It’s horrible. But clearly we’re all in this together. Thank you for showing me that my stories have meaning and other women can relate to them. I’ve already put some stuff out there and I’ve been torn down, gaslighted, shamed, blamed, labeled “crazy,” called a liar, gossiped about, backstabbed, retaliated against, screamed at, swatted, sabotaged,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 08:28 PM
11

Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 08:25 PM
3

You mean the declarative sentence that isn’t elaborated on at all? Okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 08:14 PM
3

Maybe in your mind it is, but you should still find a way to properly articulate your opinion via the written word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:27 PM
3

Then why not just say that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:08 PM
97

Getting followers on Twitter/Insta/TikTok is exciting. Getting followers on Reddit gives me “someone is plotting to murder me now” vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:34 PM
53

They went private on Sep 1 & 2 for clean-up and updates. It’s probably leftover from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:25 PM
5

I’m actually not married or actively dating, but okay. As much as I would love to never interact with men, that’s just not possible or realistic in a normal everyday setting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:23 PM
10

I would’ve said “walking carpet” but that would’ve been offensive to Chewbacca. I love Star Wars too much to do him like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:22 PM
5

I stand with the women of Texas and vow to abstain from sex until this horrific legislation is reversed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:53 AM
2

I once knew someone who became her new boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend. She obsessively stalked her social media, became another version of her, then started re-enacting all the stuff they used to do together. She also conveniently changed all of her interests to match his so they could do everything together all the time. They’re married now. It’s… yeah. We don’t talk anymore. I was upset about it for awhile but in hindsight… yikes. Very happy she’s no longer in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:37 AM
1

Wow, that’s crazy. Thank god you got away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:23 AM
2

I also took a class like that in college! It was super cool at the time but now I really question some of the stuff I was learning. I also question the fact that my professor made us read Plato’s Symposium but refused to discuss that whole aspect where women are just for baby-making and that “true love” can only exist between an old man and a 15-year-old boy in peak athletic shape. Wouldn’t discuss homosexuality in Ancient Greece at all. Mmmhmmmm. Side-eyes for days. We also had to read an obnox…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:13 AM
2

He drilled a tiny dick-sized hole through the center so his would fit perfectly. Jk I have no idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:08 AM
4

I’m sitting in a room full of men right now and I can confirm just by looking around that none of them are superior to me in any way, shape, or form. They’re all gross, fat, and dressed like slobs. None of them can hold an intelligent conversation. I wouldn’t fuck anyone in this room right now. Yet they are somehow superior to the fabulous women who are here. Lol, what a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:06 AM
34

So we can lock Mexicans up in shoddy prisons at border but we can’t do anything about pedophiles trafficking in child brides from Afghanistan. Priorities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:00 AM
17

There’s a study saying that someone walking ahead of their partner means they’re not interested. You definitely made the right call by ditching out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:32 PM
22

I hate that uniform. If you say anything about it, they’ll have a meltdown and start attacking fashion as frivolous and girly. Because anything girly is bad, of course, because women are bad unless they’re a string of headless, faceless naked bodies online. So they say they are the most Visual Creatures on earth, but when it comes to actual visual culture like fashion, art, and decor, they have no interest at all. These types will also complain endlessly if you try to take them to a museum or ga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:30 PM
28

I just woke up to a text a guy sent me at 7am this morning saying, “Hey, I know this is last minute, but I’m about to go on a sunrise walk at the river and was wondering if you’d like to join.” Bro, are you fucking kidding me right now? It’s 7am on a Saturday morning! A Saturday morning!!!! WTF! I received this text several hours later, when I actually woke up. I just rolled my eyes and put down the phone. I didn’t even respond. It was just… ugh. No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:09 PM
20

You’re my hero today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:06 PM
45

THIS! This is one of the most annoying things about men. They’re “visual creatures” when it comes to women, but when it comes to their own homes they’re incompetent. If they’re not disgusting messes like in the video posted here a few days ago, the decor is subpar at best. They also can’t put together a real outfit if their lives depended on it. They all look like clones of each other: fat, ugly, unwashed, underdressed slobs with shitty decorating schemes. Yet somehow they are just, like, so VIS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:52 PM
9

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:42 PM
128

I started letting mine grow out when I became an art model. I realized it looked childish to have none and these artists were supposed to be drawing a fully-grown adult woman. I let it grow out, I keep it trim, and I discovered that keeping it where it’s supposed to be actually makes me feel EmPoWeReD. Prior to that, I had dated an awful, awful, horrible guy in high school who absolutely insisted that I needed to be completely hairless to please him. Meanwhile, he was hairy all over. Legs, arms,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:52 PM
25

That sounds like a nightmare. I’m glad he’s your ex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:33 PM
2

He did actually say that, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:40 AM
7

Everything in the video that was posted earlier. That is so embarrassing for their lives and their souls. Gross. No hand soap No toilet paper No sheets Mattress on the floor 7-in-1 shower “stuff” No loofah / sponge / washcloth No / old toothbrush Dishes in the sink Trash on the floor Stained carpets, especially if they have pets Piles of dirty laundry Re-wears the same socks several days in a row Expired food in the fridge Just plain NASTY, stinky, smelly, ick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/21 02:52 AM
1

And you KNOW they never wash those pans. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 03:18 PM
9

I suggest the French TV series “Call My Agent” on Netflix. It’s about an entertainment agency set in Paris and explores the world behind the scenes of the French film industry. They get all sorts of famous French actors to come on the show and play the clients. The first episode specifically deals with an aging actress who wants to do an American film but they’ll only cast her if she gets Botox to make her look younger. The episode follows her as she struggles with the request and weighs her car…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:31 AM
3

Will also confirm. This comment makes me think of the meme that spells “DUMP HIM” out in the cards, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:20 AM
2

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:03 AM
14

Love this post! This is everything I’m doing right now. I learned my lesson the hard way after dating one too many unhealthy men. I’m happy to report things have gotten better after a year of focusing on my Level Up journey, but I’m ready to take another year away from dating so I can continue bettering myself. I do want to find love in the future. I understand now that I have to be my best self before I can do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:46 AM
5

Once again, I am not victim-blaming. I experienced this myself. This guy found me by going through my social media and putting two and two together. It was creepy and wrong. There’s no question about that. But I also take responsibility for the fact that I was giving away info about my location, which put me in danger. Saying, “Hey, if someone stalked you and found you through social media, maybe be more careful about what you put out there.” is not victim-blaming. It’s just common sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:24 AM
5

Weird how autism isn’t sexy or fuckable, but bipolar and “borderline” are. Men LOVE bragging about “sticking their dicks in crazy” and saying shit like “the hotter a woman is, the crazier she is.” They love hunting for emotionally vulnerable women who they can fuck, discard, and vilify for “being psycho.” It’s so sick and disgusting. I am so tired of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:33 PM
9

The kind of shit people come up with in creative writing classes these days is wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:40 PM
51

Passively scrolling through social media is one thing. You put that shit out there for the public to see. Don’t be surprised when the public takes a look. That’s why you should be careful of what you post. I’m saying this because I learned that lesson the hard way. I had an incident a few years ago with a guy who totally creeped me out by tracking me down. Apparently I sat next to him in a class almost a decade ago. I didn’t remember him at all, but he was apparently obsessed with me. He was so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:07 PM
35

This right here. This is why I stopped dating. I’m so tired of this game. I fell for it when I was young, but not anymore. Everything has to be about playing games and manipulation. You can’t just say what you want and get it. Looking for a relationship? Get ready to be strung along, used, and abused. Looking for a casual hookup or FWB? Men will run away as fast as they can. Why? Because it’s not really about sex. It’s about power and control. That’s all men care about. I’m so over it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:50 PM
17

Official petition to create a Pikachu constellation to look down on scrotes everywhere and judge them. Your move, NASA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:36 PM
3

I just watched this doc the other day and loved it. I had read the stats before, but seeing them presented in that context really drove the point home. I too make an attempt to consume as much women-centered media as possible. Netflix is really stepping up in this particular aspect with its original content. I’m happy to report that it’s been awhile since I watched anything centered around a man. Progress is slow but it’s happening! Unfortunately, the last male-focused thing I saw was horrifying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:01 AM
13

First off, don’t worry about it. We’re all former PickMes here. Some people like to judge and be mean, but don’t worry about it. We’ve all been there. Second, any time you find yourself worrying about what men think, just remember that men will literally have sex with a pie. And they won’t just do that, oh no. They’ll make an entire movie series dedicated to having sex with pies and call it “the greatest teen comedy ever made.” Spoiler Alert: It’s not. I know it sounds silly at first, but it wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:50 PM
16

This is so stupid. My university held a “What I Was Wearing” art exhibit where anonymous survivors submitted their written stories describing what they were wearing when they were raped. The artists found similar outfits to put on the mannequins. There outfits featured everything from sweats and pajamas to cute “night out with the girls” styles to dresses for toddlers and children. I was so overwhelmed by it that I sat down in there and cried for an hour. I was raped in my own bed by someone who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:39 PM
8

This response is epic. You are my personal heroine today. Thank you for sharing your story. 🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:34 PM
2

Same. I used to be a server and I would judge adults who ordered chicken fingers, especially on dates. One of the places I worked was a pretty upscale dinner joint and it was especially bad there. Like, wow, you have all these amazing entrees to pick from and you’re choosing to get chicken fingers. Like a child. Agree with the person who said, “Grow up.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:08 PM
5

Spoiler Alert for a TV Show that is now almost two decades old To be extra fair, Orson literally murdered Bree’s first husband so he could be with her. He wasn’t exactly a stand-up guy to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:00 PM
2

Yeah I’m pretty confused about that movement too. I feel like I just woke up one day and suddenly all the liberals I know were saying prisons shouldn’t exist and ex-cons should have the right to vote. I was like… ummm… okay, so no. For-profit prisons? Yeah, definitely a problem. Using inmates as cheap/free labour? Problem. Sending innocent people to prison because they can’t get a good lawyer? Problem. Letting off rich guys who are 100% guilty because they have a good lawyer? Problem. Extreme ov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 01:08 PM
2

This reminds me of Cosmo’s infamous “There’s a safe way to have a cannibalism fetish” article. Maybe the writer went to this party too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:58 PM
2

Star Wars is for boys ONLY! NO GIRLS ALLOWED!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:28 PM
3

But if you are actually a super fan and know more trivia than they do, they throw a tantrum and storm out. Star Wars fans are particularly terrible about this. Pretty much ruined the fandom for me, tbh. Like, chill out, bro. We can assemble the Lego Star Destroyer together, as a team. Instead you’re sitting there hogging all the pieces and keeping them for yourself. You’re lame and this is the least fun I’ve ever had on a date, so I’m leaving now. Looking forward to seeing your whiny posts on Re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 05:08 AM
3

I love taking myself out on dates! I have so much more fun than when I go out with men, lol. Here are my fav date nights: -Get dressed up for a fancy dinner with wine and dessert -Catch a late-night movie or matinee. I prefer the late-night shows myself but matinees can be fun too. If you go at the right time, you basically have the theatre all to yourself. It’s super fun! Not nearly as anxiety-inducing as you would think since you’re one of maybe 3 people there. -Do a home spa night: CBD bubble…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:46 AM
2

There’s a GREAT scene in the 4th episode of Reservation Dogs where Bear’s mom meets a white guy with a Native American “fetish.” It’s hilarious! Check out the show on Hulu if you haven’t already seen it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:21 AM
2

Are these “friends” his actual, real friends or just the “content creators” he subscribes to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:12 AM
6

I heard Regina George also has man shoulders. She can’t wear halter tops because of it. It’s a tragedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 01:08 AM
9

Couldn’t be me. Packing fruit snacks is the ultimate mom shit. Vomit. You know what I’m not attracted to? Men with Oedipus complexes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 12:03 AM
6

Agreed. I’m so tired of people constantly coming after me and trying to invalidate all of my lived experiences. It’s exhausting and demeaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:19 PM
4

Agreed, but it’s also really comforting. Thank god I’m not alone! I made this comment and got hundreds of upvotes instead of gaslighted and torn apart. Definitely not used to THAT kind of reaction!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:42 PM
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Meanwhile, if you actually go to a doctor seeking treatment for anxiety, you will be told that you’re imagining things and nothing more than a drug-seeking pill addict. There’s no winning! Yay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 06:10 AM
6

I wrote you a response about why I was reacting this way, but Reddit flagged it for “hate speech” which is just…. 🙄🙄🙄. I think I might know the issue with it so I’ll try posting it again: I don’t like to discuss my former relationships on here because it would dox me, but for the sake of this story, I will share one detail that I have not shared with anybody before: I once dated a guy who held a knife to my throat, held me down, bit me until I bruised/bled, and regularly told me he was planning …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:42 AM
10

I’m not talking about her. I’m talking about the guy. Obviously. I don’t focus my attention on tearing down other women, unlike other people here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:35 PM
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It’s not A Thing. It’s something a psychotic pedophile made up to groom his victim(s) into believing torture is okay. This guy should be in prison. This is why we need FDS. Little girls should not grow up believing that they need to put up with rape and torture from evil men in order to feel “loved.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 04:56 PM
13

Feel free to DM me whatever resources you have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 04:34 PM
65

Someone who should be in jail. When I read stuff like this, I am strongly reminded of the crimes against women and children that happen in war zones. I was researching the civil wars in various West African countries earlier this year and that’s what this post makes me think of. It’s not sex. It’s Rape. It’s emotional terrorism. It’s about power and fear. This girl needs to read about armies of drugged-up men and CHILDREN roaming the countryside, raping women and girls, sticking their guns insid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 04:17 PM
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“Fear play”?! I’m sorry. Did I just read that correctly? What the fuck is “fear play?” That’s called rape and assault. Get the fuck out of here with this “fear play” shit. What is WRONG with people these days? As I said in my last comment, it’s just Freaks on Parade at this point. Kinkshame them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 03:53 PM
30

Freaks on parade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 03:49 PM
1

Do you have a preferred method of releasing your anger? Asking for a friend. That friend is me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:07 AM
2

THANK YOU. I hate the Bennifer “nostalgia.” Ben Affleck has lost all the “status” he had when they were together the first time. He went from hot movie star to loser alcoholic with an embarrassing tattoo who cheated on his perfect wife with the nanny while being besties with Harvey Weinstein. I can’t even tell you the names of any movies he’s been in recently! Like, girl, no. Just no. You’re J.Lo! Drop the LVM and focus on getting your career back on track!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:19 AM
1

I see I’m not alone in this. That’s weirdly validating but also sad. Thanks though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:05 AM
2

This is so true. I hate the “don’t be a VICTIM!” bs. Like, hellooooo, I am a victim! I’m a victim of rape, assault, harassment, doxxing, and multiple smear campaigns aimed at destroying my reputation so the shitty men who hurt me can look better. Calling myself a “survivor” and posting inspirational quotes doesn’t make me feel better. At all. I’m a victim and I need time to work through my trauma. I can’t “just get over it.” I’m trying and I can’t. Therapy helps but it doesn’t change or fix the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:55 AM
1

Blake was the WORST.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 12:50 AM
2

Epic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:18 PM
1

Hard agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:17 PM
2

Wow. Where was this post when I needed it for the last decade? Thank you so much for writing this. You just explained my brain, feelings, and recent negative experiences with other people to me in a way that actually makes sense. I sincerely cannot thank you enough for validating my existence and personhood today. I can’t cry because I’m in public, but I’m totally going to break down in tears when I get home. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:33 PM
21

Username checks out 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:58 PM
31

“And leave each other alone most of the time.” I really dislike the normalization of people making plans/forming relationships only to ghost/flake/disappear for weeks at a time. Then they justify their shitty behavior with memes saying, “I’m the kind of friend who drops off the face of the earth for six months and magically expects you to still be there for me when I come back.” or “I made plans and cancelled them last minute so I could stay in bed and watch Netflix.” It’s so commonplace now. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:37 PM
55

Kim, there’s people that are dying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:25 PM
7

☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:08 PM
5

Thank you. You are my hero today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:00 PM
11

“Halloween is the one night a year when a girl can dress like a slut and none of the other girls can say anything bad about her.” Couldn’t resist, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:31 PM
1

Yes! I also had this experience. Not the most attractive when I was younger. Changed my style, my attitude, and my hair. I went from brunette to blonde. When I was a brunette, men ignored me and treated me like the weird nerdy girl who they were oh-so-intimidated by because I was “too smart for them.” When I’m blonde, men either treat me like a goddess or speak down to me like I’m stupid. It’s weird to be treated like I’m either too smart or too stupid just because of my hair color. And yes, the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:06 PM
1

I love this so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:51 PM
14

Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:00 PM
2

This is a real thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:58 PM
6

Agreed. Sometimes I read through posts like this and think to myself, “We have all dated/married the same guys. Are they coming out of a clone factory, or what?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:37 PM
1

Wow. This post literally just changed my life. I am looking at a situation in my life a whole new way. Thank you. I don’t give Reddit money so here’s five stars: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:29 PM
6

Also knew a guy like this. You could practically see the insecurity dripping off him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:09 PM
20

Guys like this are one of the many reasons I quit the service industry forever. I just can’t. I’m out here busting my ass, running around like a crazy person trying to make sure all of my tables get their extra sides of honey mustard, and there’s always some douche who feels the need to stop me and distract me for way too long. They waste my time and don’t leave a tip. I learned to identify them eventually so I wouldn’t waste anymore time or energy on them. But yeah, the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:05 PM
6

Lol thanks I love it. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:17 AM
1

I just roll my eyes and walk away. I have no patience for these types of conversations anymore. I am not responsible for educating the masses when they have the whole world’s history of knowledge at their fingertips. Like, go read a fucking book, bro. Literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:17 PM
2

Wow. Imagine being so pathetic you get turned on by a fake cartoon ass made of digital pixels. 🙄 On the upside, I have a feeling the overpopulation problem will be sorting itself out in a generation or two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:13 PM
2

This post doesn’t include my favourite, which is CRAZY! What is the lamest thing you’ve ever been called crazy for? Setting boundaries? Standing up for yourself? Having The Nerve to simply exist in the void? I should make this a post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:12 PM
1

Exactly! We’re supposed to be emotionless fembots who serve our masters without speaking a word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:10 PM
1

That sounds like a lot of work I’m not interested in doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:01 PM
6

I am aware. Source: Am Professional Writer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:09 PM
16

The screenplay for Mean Girls was written by Tina Fey. The screenplay is loosely based on the nonfiction book “Queen Bees and Wannabes” by Rosalind Wiseman. I agree that men are worse than the characters, but this movie is not the hill you want to die on to make that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:30 PM
5

Sounds about right. I was taken on similar “dates” around that age. Don’t feel too bad about it. We’ve all been there. These guys are really out here texting us lie after lie before taking us on fake dates. It’s a mess. Don’t be too hard on yourself. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:09 AM
6

I’m going to be optimistic and guess that you dated a house flipper?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:50 AM
4

This is a nightmare. Dare I ask how old you were?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:35 AM
27

To the left, to the left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:31 PM
47

That is so tacky. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:32 PM
3

Bonus points if they say they only listen to “intelligent rap.” 9 times out of 10, that’s a dog whistle for racism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:53 AM
2

You should feel lucky. That is so rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:25 AM
4

Can confirm. Midwest Nice is not nice. It’s passive-aggressive and backstabby. So if that’s your thing, by all means...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:52 AM
5

In Paris!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:11 AM
2

Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:24 PM
5

I HATE guys like this. Entitled little shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:13 PM
2

Paris is a great solo destination for women, especially if you are a creative person and/or lover of history. My first big solo trip to Paris was so empowering. I was proud of the fact that I could navigate a foreign country on my own. I booked a charming little attic flat in Montmartre for a week. It was near a Metro station so I just bought a carnet of tickets and went all over the city. I had picnics in the parks and by the river. I went to museums and historic monuments. I wrote in cafes and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:43 PM
2

Thank you for your service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:24 PM
5

“Winners practice, losers whine.” Thank for this Hump Day Lift. Bringing this energy into the rest of the week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:07 PM
6

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:22 PM
20

The older I get, the more and more I hate that stupid fucking song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:15 PM
2

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:45 PM
2

You would be shocked by the amount of people who feel entitled to creative work for free because art is supposedly a labor of love and therefore no one should get paid to make it, or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:13 AM
1

I’ve had two guys say this to me. One was an alcoholic who raped me when we were drunk. The other was a crazed narcissist who threw me into a wall. If you hear this phrase, run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:43 AM
3

This is exactly why it’s a good idea to use OLD as practice. How can you know what you’re getting for if you don’t know what’s out there? I think of it like the fish meme. OLD is like taking a class in icthyology (the study of fish) and memorizing all the species on the flash cards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:31 PM
5

Seriously. The only walk I want to take on a date is from the restaurant to the theater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:24 PM
4

I also used to use OLD for practice. Sometimes I still do. There’s nothing wrong with it. Generally I just got tired and disillusioned after awhile. I’d rather meet someone in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:32 PM
7

Not drinking. Biggest one. So hard to kick. Fun Fact: Dating too many LVM will lead to alcoholism. That’s a straight go to jail, do not pass Go, do not collect $200 card. Wish me luck! Started taking dance classes online again. I’ve been taking 5-6 every week and I feel AMAZING. Starting an intensive 2-month workshop tomorrow. Wish me luck, again. Taking online courses to level up my skillset so I can pivot to the wonderful world or remote work. Eating healthier, drinking water, meditating, walk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:00 PM
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That’s gonna be a hard Nope for me. I hear that shit all the time and I’m like... no. It’s not going to happen. I’ve tried, but It’s Not A Thing my brain is capable of doing. I recommend making a list of everyone who has ever wronged you and writing stories about humiliating them in public, torturing them, or subjecting them to something extremely shocking. Eventually you make your way down the list and realize yeah, it actually did make you feel better NOT to forgive any of these people and giv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:50 PM
4

French pastries from my favourite Parisian café. J’adore! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:38 PM
9

I don’t advise going to any male doctor, let alone a male psychiatrist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:34 PM
1

Feeeeeeeemalez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:37 AM
1

Wow wasn’t expecting to see an actual photo of myself on here today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:44 PM
8

I get the meltdowns a lot. People are assholes. I thought it was me for the longest time. I’ve recently realized it’s not. I’m having a justifiable emotional reaction to the shitty way I’m being treated by other people. That shit gets old. After awhile it’s like, okay, go ahead and have your meltdown. Get it over with so I can kick you out of my life forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:58 PM
17

I get the meltdowns a lot. People are assholes. I thought it was me for the longest time. I’ve recently realized it’s not. I’m having a justifiable emotional reaction to the shitty way I’m being treated by other people. That shit gets old. After awhile it’s like, okay, go ahead and have your meltdown. Get it over with so I can kick you out of my life forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:58 PM
1

Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:01 PM
3

Yeah, you’d definitely be surprised at who they let into creative writing programs. It’s a lot of rich white males, lol. I’m a writer myself and I gotta say... the process for applying to CW MFAs is definitely not anything like people on this thread are making it out to be. Most schools don’t offer funding because they view it as a “rich people willing to pay full tuition” or “free gubmint loan money” deal. It’s much harder to get into a fully-funded program. Based on his description of the scho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:00 PM
7

Just stood up and clapped at this post in the middle of a restaurant. Slay, my fellow History Queen. Slay! My only beef with this post is that she forgot to mention Empress Theodora of the Byzantine Empire. Theodora was herself a slave/prostitute/“actress” who was so amazing that Future Emperor Justinian changed the law so he could marry her. She then went on to outlaw prostitution and set up communes for freed women who escaped the clutches of prostitution. She was also known to go to the slave…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:49 PM
2

Just to clear this misconception up, most CW programs don’t require the GRE. Just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:40 PM
1

This is literally the dumbest thing ever. I’ve worked in bars/restaurants and in retail. NOBODY ON THIS DAMN PLANET has a legible signature. No one. You would be shocked by the amount of people who just draw a line or put a smiley face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:54 PM
6

I’m sorry that happened to you. Men are so creepy sometimes. Good thing you got away when you did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:10 PM
2

How did you find out about the barnyard animal porn stash? Did you find it or catch him? How did the confrontation go down? A decade or so ago, friend found her boyfriend’s doggy porn stash and was understandably upset. She didn’t know how to confront him so the relationship dragged on for at least six more months. Maybe your story could help others get out of bad situations sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:50 PM
10

💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:15 AM
27

This never works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:32 AM
3

Just remind yourself that there is an entire movie series based on the premise of teen boys masturbating with pies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:58 PM
2

You’ve described it so perfectly. People forget that public figures are human. They treat us like objects, like punching bags. They forget there’s someone on the other end with feelings, who is dealing with the 200th attack of the day, who is having a breakdown alone in their room because they just can’t take it anymore. I’ve always felt like Lucky was the song/ video that showed us the real Britney. That was the real person behind the scenes. The woman who had it all but still cried alone at ni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:53 PM
5

Yeah that sounds like mine. He’s definitely a malignant narcissist. They’ll knock you on your ass every time. The good news is, you can always get back up. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:56 PM
6

Sounds like he’s the crazy one to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:46 PM
4

Does the D stand for “Dinky Little Dick?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:45 PM
14

I know exactly what you are talking about. I have done it and I advise against it. Defining the concept of social class is problematic, but I’ll do the best I can: I grew up in a wealthy suburb outside of a major city. I went to private school. I learned two other languages. I attended cultural events. I was surrounded by everyone from around the world. I celebrated all the holidays. I went to high class functions in the city. My parents had parties where they rubbed shoulders with important peo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:36 PM
11

They were “showing us the real world so we could get some perspective.” Oh, did I ever get some perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:15 PM
5

This guy. I seriously thought I was the only person who had ever been yelled at for the way I twirl my pasta. Could it possibly be the same brokeass scrote? Maybe! FDS strikes again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:12 PM
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This post is everything to me. I have a whole group of men trying to discredit me and derail my writing career with this shit. I’m over it. We need to start talking about this issue and never stop until all the women who have been mislabeled as “mentally ill” for having normal reactions to abuse are vindicated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:56 PM
7

Oh look, it’s my mother. How do I get a divorce from her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:26 PM
1

Girl, I feel you. Journaling really helped me. Get yourself a nice one with a fancy cover. Maybe even a selection of fancy colorful pens. Write in it in every day. Draw in it. Paint it. Decorate it. Whatever. Just let it all out. List your regrets, your hopes, your dreams. Replace all the negative ideas with positive ones. You’ll start feeling better about your life soon enough. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:51 AM
3

I suppose you might call me “sober curious,” which is a term I find... odd. My history of drinking is a bad one. This post and all of the comments resonate with me deeply. I don’t particularly care to go into my personal history now, but I will say I’ve enjoyed being sober lately. For me, it’s not waking up with a hangover that’s really doing it for me. I love having energy when I wake up. I actually want to get out of bed. I recommend following @noboozebabes on Instagram. I recently replaced my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:01 AM
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Just relax and see where it goes for now. He keeps pursuing you so let him continue for awhile. If anything major comes up, then you can let it go. For now, just let him come to you. I’m encouraging you because I still believe in love. I’ve been burned so many times before, but I still believe he’s out there somewhere. I hope this situation turns out well for you. Bon chance! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:48 PM
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I can’t even with that shit. That happens once and then it never happens again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:04 AM
1

I’m not disagreeing with you. I’m just saying I don’t think being silent in any situation helps. Yes, people do use it against you in personal situations. So fight back. Don’t be friends with those people. Don’t date those guys. They’re hurting you because they probably experienced it themselves and now they need someone else to hurt so they feel better. That is their problem. Don’t shrink yourself and be silent just to avoid getting hurt. People who care will be there for you. People who don’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:26 PM
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:35 PM
3

14/10, would watch this revenge movie on Netflix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:32 PM
2

So I’ve actually experienced this first-hand. I wrote about my experiences and there was a significant backlash. It sucked, but I don’t think the solution is to stay quiet. People lash out because they know it’s a common experience for women and they want to silence us. Don’t play the game. Don’t be silent. Speak out. By speaking out, it gives others the confidence to come forward and speak out. The more people who come forward, the more likely things are to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:24 PM
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By getting up and leaving. Men these days are fucking crazy. No respect for anything but their dicks and weird perversions. I just can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:03 PM
18

They all seem very proud of that fact, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:38 PM
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I’m 32 and men always, ALWAYS guess 22. I LOVE the shocked look on their faces when I say I’m 32. They’re always like, “But Uh what huhhhhhhhhh durrrrrrr you just look so young for your age.” I just say, “I know, so weird right? I thought WoMeN hIt ThE wAlL aT 30. Yeah, turns out ‘the wall’ doesn’t really exist.” Faces melting off. Faces melting off everywhere. I love to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:37 PM
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I live in the middle of nowhere. They are just like barnyard animals with their dicks flapping in the wind here. Literally. Not even sure why they have farm houses when they would be just as comfortable sleeping in a sty with the other pigs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:28 PM
4

Excellent. Also using this to get out of everything in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:21 PM
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Take all of the stars I have to give. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:17 PM
29

They don’t want real women. They want to watch cartoon characters get raped and tortured by octopi. It’s a fucking freak show out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:41 PM
13

This is so, so, so important. I find the mask usually slips within 3 months. They can only hold the act for so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:21 PM
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:46 PM
3

Didn’t make it past the first sentence. I don’t care. This is just men bitching about problems they created for themselves by using too much porn. You think I want to be slapped, choked, and spat on? No. I want to be desired too. Do men care? NOPE!!!!! They just want to use me like an object and throw me away when they are done. Fuck this whinyass bullshit. Treat people how you want to be treated, asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:51 PM
3

Spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:13 PM
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:44 PM
5

MuH BiOLoGy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:37 PM
1

Really, it’s the audacity for me. “Hey girl, how’d you like to inspire your own episode of Law & Order: SVU? Hop in my rape van and it could happen today!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:34 PM
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Agreed. Bad things about him came out years later. I definitely dodged a bullet on that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:00 AM
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I briefly dated a guy when I was 26 who was 21. He seemed mature and wise beyond his years at first. Then we went on a trip together. I had to plan everything, pay for most of it, and use my car to drive out to CO so we could pick up his crashed motorcycle that had been sitting in the shop for two months. He fed me all this crap about being an expert camper and super spiritual and knowing his way around. It was all a lie. He was just straight-up incompetent. I distinctly remember the moment I lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:18 PM
9

Can confirm. I’ve experienced this recently. It’s insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:04 PM
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I feel very grateful to have found this community. I endured so much abuse on so many levels and everyone around me has been gaslighting me about it for most of my life. FDS helped me recognize that what I experienced is, in fact, wrong, and that it’s commonplace for men to abuse women like this. I love not being alone in my experiences, but I do feel a heavy sadness in my heart that what I went through is not unique. No one should ever be made to feel how I was made to feel by the people I thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:58 PM
14

Great summary of Jaws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:01 AM
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Armpit porn? As I said two comments ago, these guys need to go outside and build a damn birdhouse. Get the fuck outta here with that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:40 PM
7

Really? You got propositioned to get into some guy’s rape van? The audacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:22 PM
20

That’s crazy. These guys need to go outside and build a birdhouse or something. They are living in a delusional fantasy world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:44 PM
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Be on the lookout for this in any man you meet, even if you’re not dating. Any man. Even family. Here’s my horror story: I was recently invited to stay with a distant cousin and his wife for a few months. Cousin appeared to be a HVM at first. Promised to help me find a job, a new place, and set up a new life. About a month in, we all went to FL and literally within 48 hours his mask dropped — hard. Turns out he was a raging alcoholic who would go on lengthy benders and totally lose his mind. Wif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:01 PM
11

Literally the only place. I hate those edits. Thank you for giving us a space!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:11 AM
5

We do care. We see you, we hear you, we learn from you, we are grateful for you, and we won’t let you down. Thank you for your service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:49 PM
2

Wow, really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:56 PM
7

Just gonna write that one down real quick. How high karma do you need? Give me a number. I need the cash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:27 PM
2

D U M P H I M
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:56 PM
15

I hate, hate, HATE men who try to control my fashion choices. Fashion is my hobby. There is nothing that makes me happier than walking into a thrift store and tearing it up in search of the perfect $10 dress that retailed for $200 and still has the tags on it. It gives me life. I love to get all dressed up for ME because I feel good when I look good. Then I go out in public and these guys think they can just walk up to me and demand to know why I’m so “dressed up.” They just neg, criticize, atta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:54 PM
9

The phrase bothers me because the term “chattel” comes from “cattle.” It’s the idea that women and cows can be reasonably compared because both are pieces of property that can be bought, traded, used, sold, and killed when its convenient. Neither have thoughts or feelings. They are just objects to be used by men until they have no worth/value anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:25 PM
4

Where is this from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:05 PM
1

I’ve gotten a few of these mystery followers lately and I always block them. They’re always 0-karma accounts with like one or two posts from a few years ago. Idk who it could be so I just block all of them to be safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:38 PM
1

I wish I could upvote this comment more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:03 PM
1

Oh, so that’s what that feeling was. Now it makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:02 PM
3

🖐🏻👀🤚🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 10:57 PM
2

Yes! Exactly! As long as it remains “tradition” to just leave if you disagree, nothing will ever change. Nothing gets fixed for the next generation. That’s the problem. I hate that this “if you don’t like it, just leave” attitude is so rampant right now, especially because there are real problems this country (US) has to face up to and change. I also find it weird that this state, in particular, has such an insular culture that they hate anything or anyone from the outside. It doesn’t matter wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 09:01 PM
2

You’re a good mom! It’s hard to fight that male social conditioning. Keep it up! Yes, I’ve dealt with this in real life. I live in a small town in a completely different part of the country than where I grew up. People out here are very conservative and most of the people who aren’t leave. If they manage to escape the conservative brainwashing, they swing so far in the opposite direction that they’re just as nasty to anyone who disagrees with them. Either way, they’re a nightmare to deal with be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:29 PM
2

Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:10 PM
2

Are you me? Because it feels like this is all I deal with when it comes to the people around me. I’ve written about this stuff publicly and the backlash is literally unhinged. People get crazy. I’ve experienced so many personal attacks and screaming meltdowns. Meanwhile these same people call ME “deranged and delusional” for speaking up. Umm... I’m not the one having a screaming meltdown right now, Meredith. Take a look in the mirror. I agree, it is lonely and hurtful. If you say that, they just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:07 PM
3

Spot on! Especially with the FeMaLeZ and random capitalization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:44 PM
2

Why did Karen have to lose its original meaning? It was a perfect term just the way it was. The entitled asshole customer is real. This situation is not that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:31 PM
3

I recently heard about a study that says this behavior means the guy isn’t attracted to the woman at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:28 PM
3

I had the opposite problem with lingerie for a long time and didn’t realize it. I had it engrained in me that I always had to wear a wired push-up and skimpy panties as an every day look. After all, I have small boobs and a big ass, so I need to play up those features to attract men! I finally realized I’d been brainwashed from an early age when I worked at Victoria’s Secret for a season. I recently invested in wireless bralettes made of softer, comfier materials and “granny panties” that actual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:14 PM
2

YES. This needs to be talked about more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:52 PM
3

Love this. Totally spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:39 PM
3

Can confirm. The screaming meltdowns are real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:24 PM
2

💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:11 PM
5

“He’s just one more white man who messed up the world and left it worse than he found it.” chef’s kiss Beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:46 PM
6

This just gave me an image of a Bootcamp for porn addicts and bad husbands who want to reform themselves. It’s just six solid weeks of deep cleaning, cooking, laundry, and various other household chores while a drill sergeant stands over them calling them worthless maggots. I’ll make millions. Millions I tell you. Millions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:39 PM
5

Ok Cousin It.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:41 PM
13

It’s actually best to carry both a paper map and a phone. Google maps isn’t always reliable and the service could be questionable in the woods. It’s a good idea to carry a paper map just in case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:39 AM
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HBO’s Rome series does a good job portraying Cleopatra as cunning and intelligent. She is always shown to be plotting something and manipulating the men around her. The other female characters on the show are pretty badass as well. The writers researched a lot of Roman primary sources. Changes were made (a lot of them), but I thought the way they wrote Cleopatra was good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:35 PM
1

The power to make their dicks hard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:34 PM
2

They sound plenty “trained” to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:53 PM
1

I’ll never forget the day I realized most male-centered media is about Daddy issues. Movies, books, music, art. You name it, it’s got daddy issues. So depressing. I mainly focus on women-centered media now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:33 PM
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Some tips for helping you become comfortable with your body again: Meditation. I suggest Lillian Eden on YouTube. She starts her meditations by opening the chakras, which requires you to do a mental body scan and identify weak/pain points in need of healing. I used to dissociate a lot after I was raped. Meditation grounded me back in my body and helped me reconnect to it. Some kind of light physical activity that requires you to focus on your body. Something like yoga, Pilates, barre, martial ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:07 PM
4

That was what made me quit OLD. Some guy messaged me out of nowhere and led with, “Do you like pegging?” No hello, no conversation, no nothing. Like, bro, wtf. In that moment, I was just... done. Deleted forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:28 PM
2

Literally this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:01 PM
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A+
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:20 AM
4

This sub has grown by 100k members since I joined last summer. We love to see it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:17 PM
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It’s worth noting that Ewan McGregor looks just as good as ever at 50. He got sober in his 20’s. It’s like night and day compared to these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:30 PM
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His dick, obviously!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:28 PM
9

Well we all know if he was charged with sexual assault, nothing would happen to him. Wildlife trafficking carries a much-longer prison sentence. It’s something!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:11 PM
7

I consider myself a “nerd”/intellectual. It is very hard to find a guy who can have an actual conversation with me on my level. They are either too dumb, or they act like they are of superior intellect to me by virtue of being male alone. Neither lends itself to a healthy discussion about the various philosophical points of the movie at dinner after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:03 AM
26

I have some good news for you... Doc Antle Charged With Wildlife Trafficking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:49 AM
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And they wrote entire books philosophizing about how the only “true love” is between an old man and teenaged boy! Talking about The Symposium, of course, which was really just Plato transcribing every drunk thought Socrates had at a dinner party/man orgy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:08 PM
3

Personally, I think it does. People have a lot of weird ideas and stereotypes about blondes. I didn’t realize that until I bleached my hair and everyone started being 100x nicer. I don’t have any academic resources to prove this, but I can recommend the film Legally Blonde for further exploration on this theory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:55 PM
2

The worst thing about video games is the headset. I dated multiple guys who would just get on the headset and scream racist/sexist/homophobic slurs at each other for hours. Total turn off. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:32 PM
4

[Insert Favorite Misandry Gif Here]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:14 PM
4

I quit because I had hundreds of matches but none of them ever went anywhere. Eventually I ran out of people due to the small population where I live. It became a chore to keep up chats with guys who were never going to get off their ass. But if you really want to try... here are the tactics I used to get hundreds of matches: Cute profile pics. Nothing revealing or sexy. I used a mix of selfies and body shots. Some casual, some nice. I tried to show off my personality a bit: glam selfie, nice dr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:03 PM
5

I seriously don’t understand future-faking. Why lie to someone and string them along for years when you can just be single and use the apps to find women who actually do just want to hook up? It’s not about sex. It’s about manipulation and control. All they do is play these games and lie. Why bother when you can just be upfront and ask for what you want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:49 PM
57

I hate this “intimidating” thing. Men tell me I’m intimidating all the time like it’s supposed to be a compliment. I don’t get it. It’s because I read, think critically, and engage with the world around me on an intellectual level. I speak my mind and state my opinions confidently, often without being asked. I am simply unapologetically Me. This bothers them. It bothers them even more because I dress classy on top of it. It’s like their brains cannot compute. I don’t get it. I’ve noticed it’s a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:37 PM
130

They say they want that, but they don’t. I never had good luck approaching men and being upfront about what I want. It’s insane. I’ve literally said, “Hey I’m just looking for a fuck buddy, nothing serious” to guys who say they want nothing serious and they just lose their shit. They would rather play games and string you along so they can feel like they’re in control. It’s not even about getting sex. It’s about tearing down women for an ego boost. I just gave up on them forever and went back to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:29 PM
9

Love this song and video. So cathartic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:42 AM
4

Yeah, that probably wasn’t fake. Horrible. Either that or he was talking about the movie 8MM, but I’m pretty sure the woman did actually die in that film.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:16 AM
3

I think about this all the time. It infuriates me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:18 PM
8

Disappointed not to see meltdowns/mantrums listed here. You don’t even get a chance to say anything because he just blows up and starts screaming at you over nothing. I get that one a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:04 AM
2

Feeeeemales 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:55 AM
4

I didn’t say anyone called me that? I literally said I don’t listen to her music and I have no idea who those other people are. You seem weirdly defensive over this. I’m done with this conversation now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:35 PM
22

This. Is it really that empowering when it’s basically expected for young starlets to strip down once they’re “legal”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:56 AM
33

Honey, I was a nude model in college for the art department. I’m not a “prude.” I just think it’s boring and predictable that she turned 18 and now she’s having a “sexy phase.” Snooze. Do something different already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:55 AM
47

I thought the photos were weird. She looks like a cartoon character version of herself. I don’t listen to her but I hear all these young girls talk about how they love her because she’s “different.” Now it’s just more of the same. It’s boring. There’s officially nothing unique or special about her anymore. She’s just another sex object pinup doll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:22 AM
2

I too suffered from this addiction. It led me down a dark path. One of them got me as a teenager and just ruined me. I kept making the same mistakes over and over with the same types of bad guys all through my 20’s. It led to worse addictions; specifically alcohol. Now I’m single and free in my early 30’s and I’m ready to finally live my dream of traveling the world. It IS possible to overcome the LVM addiction and become the person you want to be! Don’t let the past hold you back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:20 PM
3

I’ve only been banned from Feminism as far as I know. I don’t really care now that I know it’s modded by men. Reddit isn’t real life. I’m not going to let a website that allows people to freely post child porn tell me what feminism is. I’m just not. Otherwise, I haven’t really had a problem, but I tend to lurk more often than post. No one cares about your dating preferences on the travel, job, and remote work subs I’ve joined. Shocker, I know. The biggest argument I found myself in about FDS was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:09 PM
3

Yeah I don’t understand that one. It seems like WGTOW is the natural progression from FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:00 PM
1

I hate this shit so much. I see it every day and I am over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:49 PM
37

Some Like It Hot comes to mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:24 PM
1

I’m talking about my personal experience with gossip, which has been lies and negativity directed at me. I get the “philosophical concept” behind the video. It just doesn’t translate that way into my real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:42 PM
3

The new trilogy was poorly-written, incoherent trash. I say this as a lifelong Star Wars fan. There were some great female characters but all of the potential was squandered with the embarrassingly shitty writing. I literally cannot understand how anyone could watch any of those movies and think, “Wow that was great!” No. No it was not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:00 PM
10

This one is the worst. I can’t believe he still has a career. It’s infuriating. Glad we finally took down R. Kelly though. I thought that was NEVER gonna happen. Maybe there’s still hope we can cancel Chris Brown!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:49 PM
3

Congratulations! You played yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:34 PM
1

My ultimate dealbreaker is bad style or no sense of style whatsoever. I love fashion so it’s very important to me to stand next to someone who also cares how they dress. I’ve dated guys with no style before and it’s straight-up embarrassing to be seen in public with someone wearing cargo shorts and a t-shirt while I’m wearing a dress and heels. I won’t do it anymore. The other reason this is my biggest concern is because I find that if men know how to dress, they usually know how to groom themse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:03 PM
8

I blame 50 Shades for romanticizing this bullshit. This poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:25 PM
4

Living for these nicknames! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:57 PM
3

I’ve gone through this. You’re not alone. I didn’t realize until very recently that the reason I had so much social anxiety and always felt so miserable in social situations was because I was hanging out with the wrong people. I realized I was giving up everything I valued and loved to fit in with people I didn’t even really like. It’s hard to be alone after you walk away from situations like that. I struggle with loneliness all the time. But I can fix my loneliness with a movie or a good book. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:36 PM
-7

I can’t stand gossip. Sitting around talking shit about people is boring and hurtful to those you’re talking about. My only experience with it has been negativity and lies. I’m not here for this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:04 PM
18

Working on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:11 PM
4

I absolutely despise the “Oppression Olympics.” It’s just another form of divide and conquer. It keeps oppressed groups busy fighting amongst themselves so we never move forward, accomplish anything, or create meaningful change. Thanks for being real about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:19 AM
6

Sounds like someone I’m dealing with right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:57 PM
8

I know a couple like this. They met at 18 and got married at 21/22. A year later, he told he wanted an “open relationship.” I heard her crying about how he didn’t want to sleep with her anymore. He immediately went out and got a glow up. Went to the gym, started dressing better, went to law school, got a better job. She gained a bunch of weight, followed him to every job, and looks increasingly more unhappy every time I see her. Naturally, one of her favourite past times in shitting all over oth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:11 PM
4

Couldn’t be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:50 PM
18

I remember when Che Guevara graphic tees were in style. My history teacher that year would stand in the hall between classes and stop anyone he saw wearing one to ask them if they knew who he was. Only a small percentage said yes. He used every no as an opportunity to teach someone a little history without being condescending. I thought it was badass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:58 AM
63

Just find an etiquette class on YouTube. Table manners can be learned quite easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:26 AM
3

They are literally like this and I have no idea why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:42 AM
6

Except for a psych major who dropped out of college with three classes left and thinks he knows more than “real” psychologists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:48 AM
12

👻👻👻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:34 AM
3

I see we are the same person. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:51 PM
14

You have no idea how much this post means to me today. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:50 PM
6

I break out the active bitch face (as opposed to resting), stare them down, and ask “Why is that funny?” Sometimes I’ll repeat what they said with the genders switched. Cue the meltdowns and accusing me of being “sexist towards men.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:37 PM
5

I’m so grateful I found this community. I knew it was bad, but I didn’t realize HOW bad. I thought it was me for so long. Too long. Sending virtual hugs to everyone else who has endured this insane level of mistreatment and abuse. There is hope for the future. You will be okay. We’ll all be okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:28 PM
14

I don’t do texting or chat conversations anymore. Guys can barely hold a proper conversation in real life. 9/10 times I feel like I’m just having a conversation with myself because they have nothing to contribute except negativity. They have no hobbies, no interests, no culture, no opinions, no intelligence. It’s just a waste of time for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:18 PM
29

Yep. Exactly. That’s why I don’t date anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:27 AM
9

I see you’ve also read Lying Liars and the Lies They Tell by Al Franken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:07 AM
130

Welp, that was basically a checklist of personality traits possessed by every guy I’ve ever dated. Fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:00 AM
17

[Grumpy Cat Face] Good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:33 PM
50

Can confirm this works. I was in LA once and this random homeless dude on drugs ran out from an alleyway and tried to grab me in broad daylight. I screamed really loud, “DON’T FUCKING TOUCH ME! GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME, YOU DISGUSTING PIECE OF SHIT!” Everyone on the sidewalk near me stopped to see what was going on. At least three women started walking towards us with their phones out ready to record. One had pepper spray. He looked around and quickly ran back into his alleyway. Do not be afrai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:00 PM
2

In the Midwest, they will give you a lecture about how they are so “nice and friendly and treat strangers like family” but drive by and completely ignore you when you’re broken down on the side of the road. Then they will laugh at you behind your back because you don’t know how to fix your own car. ... I miss being at home on the East Coast. Get me out of here, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:01 AM
3

I too am frustrated by the fact that wealthy white women push sex work as empowering while ignoring the fact that the majority of “sex workers” are actual slaves. I recently watched a documentary about the post-war conditions of the worst slum in Monrovia, Liberia by FDS fav VICE (lol). This dudebro went into the slum with a camera crew to show how terrible the living conditions were. No plumbing, sub-par housing, streets covered in garbage and excrement. It was horrible. Then they went to a bro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:54 PM
10

That lyric pissed me off so much. First of all, who actually believes Beyoncé, a 40something married billionaire superstar with three kids, would start an OnlyFans? Second, why is she pushing this idea on her fans? I thought I lost all respect for her when she stayed with Jay-Z for the money, but after that lyric she lost me completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:18 PM
9

This reminds me of the “Why did we stop putting men on the moon?” meme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 10:20 PM
15

I am a writer so I feel you with the nail struggle. I bite my nails so bad that I have to get fake ones just to stop. I hate acrylics. Instead I get a gel dip set cut super short. They look natural and they don’t get in the way when I type. Perfect compromise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:53 PM
4

Old or new version?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:33 PM
14

Men aren’t funny. They’re just assholes. I stayed with a male family member who would constantly make “jokes” that I never, ever laughed at. I would just stare him down and ask, “Why is that funny?” He would have a meltdown every single time. I finally got out of there. It was a bad situation all around. I blocked him and I sincerely hope we never speak again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:23 PM
9

Girl, do NOT get me started on the History Channel and its blatant anti-historical agenda. When I think about all of the things they could be making historical documentaries about instead of Hitler, conspiracy theories, and “Ancient Aliens” (which is just straight-up racism tbh).... I just... burn... somewhere deep down inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:50 AM
9

I’ve heard the phrase “Hitler was a great man” too many damn times in my life. Like, wtf? Really? You really think murdering 10 million people in gas chambers and labor camps is “great?” Delete me. Forever. Better yet, you’re blocked for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:35 AM
25

They want to be them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:58 PM
12

A+
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:37 AM
3

Slampig?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:48 AM
3

It felt like it was okay to disagree though. Like they put out the article as food for thought and then everyone just said what they said about it. Sometimes there were heated arguments that held my interest because I wasn’t sure what to think. This environment invited in a wider variety of perspectives, many of which I never had exposure to before. I think FDS can be lacking when it comes to allowing that kind of discussion, but I still learn a lot just by being here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:10 PM
6

Yeah it definitely lost steam after the whole Gawker incident. I was always iffy on the articles but I loved the discussions in the comments. There just wasn’t anywhere else like it online. Then it went downhill and everything got stupid. The last time i looked at it, I didn’t even recognize it anymore. The discussions disappeared altogether. Everyone just left. Luckily, I found FDS last year so it became my replacement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:32 PM
20

That’s an alarmingly common one. I was watching tv the other day and a movie called “Vacation” came on. The first five minutes featured a “joke” about an airline pilot falling into a woman and grabbing her breasts because of airplane turbulence. I turned it off after that. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:48 PM
9

I also stopped reading Jezebel. What finally did it for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:43 PM
51

That sounds like a man wrote this for men and changed the genders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:39 PM
12

A “Halloween Sex Tips Based On Your Zodiac Sign” article suggested that I should put a bunch of sex toys in a bag, carry it around a Halloween party, and get my crush to reach his hand in the bag and try to identify what they were. You know, like when you go into a haunted house and the “bowl of eyeballs” you touch are really just peeled grapes. Yeah. Still laughing at that one 10 years later. Not sure if it’s funny or just creepy, tbh. Edit: Bonus points if you’re into astrology and correctly g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:38 PM
13

This guys writes like he’s trying to be Hemingway and it’s not working for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:18 PM
0

Yes, I gathered that. I’m just saying there’s more to said lifestyle than just “living in a van.” There are plenty of other comments talking about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:31 PM
18

I know, right? Like, I’m not “getting” or “keeping” a man because I don’t want one. It’s a win!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:31 PM
2

I have no idea who Kevin Samuels is. I’ve never heard this name in my life. I thought it sounded familiar, but then I was thinking of Aaron Samuels from Mean Girls. I was so confused for a minute there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:11 AM
8

I studied English and History at university and I feel this in my soul. I’m so sick of men. Men men men. Men everywhere all the time making everything about them. Sigh. Over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:59 AM
2

Wow I really needed to hear this today. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:38 AM
3

side-eyes Khloe Kardashian
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:47 PM
17

This is so true. I wrote about my shitty experiences with men and there were temper tantrums left and right. From both the men and PickMe cool girl women. I’m so over it. Just admit you’re a piece of shit and apologize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:44 PM
15

I once had a co-worker with a story like this. I call it the Chipotle Soap Opera. He was the manager of a local Chipotle. 30ish. Married with a kid. Cheated on her with a 17-year-old co-worker. The wife rightfully left. Dude married the teenager when she turned 18. Now it’s a few years later and they have a kid together. I finally saw her when she came in to see him at work. Somehow, she was even trashier than I’d imagined. Really super catty and mean too. Didn’t tip me because she obviously did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:05 PM
82

Omg, this. I’ve noticed this a lot with people in general lately. As in, turning something minor they like or experienced into their entire identities. It doesn’t just happen with sexuality. I think it might be some weird side effect of individualism. Maybe I’m just overthinking it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:52 PM
96

Not currently dating but I agree to go for guys who keep themselves busy with a variety of different activities. The more time outdoors, the better. They’ll be more likely to actually go out with you, if you know what I mean. As Elle Woods says, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands!” Or in this case, girlfriends/wives. I’m saying this because I’ve mostly dated gamers and... well... you know how they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:46 PM
2

Both of these posts are why I stopped participating in fandom. It has become such a toxic space. Thanks for speaking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:48 AM
2

Who says they weren’t?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:26 AM
7

This sounds like it was written by a Slytherin. 🐍🐍🐍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:39 AM
1

Do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:38 AM
5

Yeah, I know exactly what you’re talking about. They post all day and night about how woke they are on Facebook, but they don’t give a shit about women. They will always fall all over themselves to defend men. They don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:23 PM
6

☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:59 PM
1

Straight into the FDS Hall of Shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:20 PM
2

Tbh, I just feel like being a dominatrix would be so time consuming. Like yeah maybe it looks appealing on video where everyone is professionally done up and there’s an elaborate set behind them (eg; Fifty Shades of Gray), but think about how it actually is in reality. First you have to get everything out and set it up. You know, all 200 types of handcuffs and canes and whips. Of course all of this is on your dime because you’re the professional so you have to pay for your own supplies. Then you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:18 PM
1

Wow, that sounds exactly like the perfect guy I can’t find! Yet they always fail the picture test, aren’t well-groomed, and are dressed like a child whose mom picked his clothes out ten years ago. Pretty bold of them to be making demands like this when they can’t even meet the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:49 PM
1

Missy Elliott’s One Minute Man will now be stuck in my head for the rest of the afternoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:06 PM
3

Just stood up and clapped for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:08 PM
7

Okay, this is is so weird and random, but I met a woman at a bar in Long Island during covid who was obsessed with this guy and wouldn’t stop talking about him. Apparently he killed himself recently. So weird to see his name in this context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:52 AM
16

This is an actual nightmare come to life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:19 PM
5

Validated —- I dated a lot of trash guys in my 20’s. Shitty, abusive, douchebag addicts. I knew there was something wrong with Men as a whole, but of course, everyone around me blamed me for what happened. Eventually I stopped dating altogether. I found FDS last year after coming out of a low point in life. I read hundreds of other stories like mine and discovered I was not alone. No, it is not me. These men are just... sick. Uplifted —- I felt isolated from other women. They always took the guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:50 PM
4

⬆️This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:37 PM
3

Are you me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:30 PM
19

I was a history major in college so I would also like to sign up for this flare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:42 AM
18

It truly amazes me how they will fall all over themselves to lie and cover up for each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:07 AM
17

I cannot even tell you how many times I’ve dealt with this in my life. Recently had it happen again with a male family member. I refuse to work with men now. If I have to, I keep them at a distance. Of course, this pisses them off even more, so the cycle really never ends. It’s sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:04 AM
5

Hey, I think I know that guy! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:11 PM
32

WOW same. I have a piece of jewelry from Tiffany’s my parents gave me for my 18th birthday. I wore it on a date once and the guy wouldn’t stop asking me where I got it from. He literally did not believe me when I told him it was a gift from my parents. It was weird. Glad to hear this is a “thing.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:26 AM
25

Can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:19 AM
9

I realized I wasn’t. OLD just became a chore. I didn’t want to deal with it. I just figured the right person would eventually show up IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:42 PM
35

I’ve never told anyone this until today. When I was studying abroad in France, a friend of mine and I were walking through the park across the street from campus. I heard this weird whistling noise, looked over to where it was coming from, and literally saw a naked man standing in the bushes shaking his dick at us. It was horrifying. I felt so disgusted and violated. I didn’t tell my friend because her English wasn’t great, both our French was iffy, I did not speak a word of Farsi, and I didn’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:33 PM
63

I check this sub every day and I’ve never seen this. Why are men so delusional?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:02 AM
82

Don’t ask men out. It’s a waste of time. They say they want it, but they don’t. Once they reject you, they will go around telling everyone you’re a crazy stalker who is obsessed with them. Ask me how I know as a former Cool Girl EmPoWeReD libfem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:14 PM
3

Sex workers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:11 PM
5

Idk did you see the thread on here today about the woman whose fiancé wanted her to fart in his face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:07 PM
9

I write it out. I also scream and punch pillows. Sometimes I will buy a carton of eggs and smash them against a tree one by one while ranting about the people I hate. Also, yoga. And weed. Nothing kills the rage faster than a fatty boom batty blunt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:40 PM
13

Women’s feelings don’t matter! Haven’t you figured this out yet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:58 PM
3

I will check her out for sure. I’ve been reading up on narcs for a few months now. I’ve learned you can never be armed with too much information. Thanks for the tip! The good news is that I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere, so there’s still a chance for me to succeed in life once I finally get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:54 PM
9

I heavily advise against farting in a man’s face due to the fact that he might get off on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:49 PM
20

Ugh. I’m sorry but I just can’t hop on this train. As many other posters have pointed out, Harry is LV AF. He wanted an out and he got one. Meghan gives off major narc vibes. I don’t like either of them. I especially find it disgusting that they are still rich and whining to Oprah about how hard their life is during a pandemic. A pandemic that has financially fucked over most people in the US. People are losing their jobs, their businesses, their homes, their families, and here come Harry and Me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:44 PM
30

Sadly, I can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:19 PM
81

This is why you never see men in their 30’s dating women in their 30’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:00 PM
3

I’m sure I am but confirmation from others helps. Everyone around here worships him so they can’t see it. Sigh. I remain the villain and outcast. Oh well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:57 PM
4

Weird, I have the reverse. Whenever I see a man speaking, I assume he’s going to say something stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 10:28 PM
12

Maybe this is just a writer thing, but I never read blocks of text without paragraph spacing. If they can’t hit return twice every 4-6 sentences to make their point, their point isn’t worth making.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:36 PM
2

You forgot the mattress on the floor with no sheets and lack of soap/TP in every bathroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:55 PM
2

Wow, these posts are so validating for an experience I had a couple weeks ago. I was sitting in a local sports bar watching basketball alone and looking at Twitter on my iPad. This isn’t unusual for me. I am at every local university basketball game and frequent this bar during basketball season. Never had a problem in the last four years. So imagine my surprise when this random middle-aged woman just walked right up to me and demanded to know why I was sitting at a bar alone reading. Like... it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:47 PM
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Yeah I couldn’t even find this case because there were too many others like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:41 PM
6

Red Flags I Go By: Anything that contains graphic rape and torture scenes. Leaving Las Vegas, A Clockwork Orange, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, and Game of Thrones are great examples. Dumb bro comedies such as Napoleon Dynamite, Stepbrothers, Old School, Animal House. I would also include garbage cartoons like Family Guy. This crap is for the lowest common denominator. Every guy I’ve ever met who LOVES Family Guy has been a fucking idiot who tried to drag me down to his level of stupidity. Qu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:09 PM
3

Meh. I think it’s pretty easy to be Team No One in that situation. Don’t like the Royal Family, don’t like the paparazzi or tabloids, don’t like MM. They all suck. Team No One.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:00 PM
6

LISTEN TO THAT FEELING. Whenever I get a weird vibe about a person, place, or situation, I get out as fast as possible. There is always a reason for it. There have been times when I haven’t listened and I regret it. Now I listen to it. It could be butterflies in my stomach, a full-on panic attack, a little voice in the back of my mind, a screaming voice at the front of my mind, or just a weird feeling. It’s never wrong. Listen to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:59 PM
2

I do often wonder what I would find out about him. Maybe that’s why I don’t look. There is no doubt in my mind he’s going to get Me Too’d one day, I know that. I also know he is crazy controlling, a master manipulator, a gaslighter extraordinaire, and the most blatantly dishonest person I’ve ever met. He has a screaming meltdown every time someone challenges him about anything, even small stuff. He is just... unhinged. I’ve seen his wife’s car parked outside a therapist’s recently, so clearly I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:06 PM
3

God, this is so true. I’ve been subjected to bitching from MRAs for ten years and all I’ve seen any of them do is attack, threaten, and murder women. They’re not focusing on mental health. They’re not advocating for “rights” in the legal system. They’re not building shelters for men. They’re just bitching about how much they hate women. It’s like... just put up or shut up, bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:13 PM
3

OMG I used to hear this all the time. Wow, you mean women can be smart AND attractive? Cannot compute. Herp derp derp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:11 AM
7

How? Was he sticking his dick in the gas tank? Or just jerking off all over the seats?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:07 PM
39

That outfit tho. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:56 PM
17

This. I have someone working very hard to destroy my career potential right now. I haven’t stayed silent. I get shit for it, but I have to stand up for myself. I’m not the person he says I am and it’s not fair that he’s trying to ruin my life. He has everything. Money, power, a wife and kids. Yet he’s doing everything he can to ensure some broke writer is isolated from her community. It’s pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:51 PM
12

Is there a specific script these guys are downloading to use in their smear campaigns? I’ve gotten the exact same labels for different reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:46 PM
2

Oh my god. Girl, you just validated something from a deep, dark, distant past for me. Thank you. Btw, did we date the same guy? 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:32 PM
5

I am so glad to see someone else writing about this. I grew up when the internet was still new (2002-2007) and fanfiction was totally different. For one, it was vanilla AF. Two, it was mostly elaborations on the characters’ backstories, side adventures, or stories about new characters. I stopped writing it in 2005, but I tried to start back up in 2009-10. Everything had changed. The landscape was totally different. Instead of self-insert action/adventure stories, all I could find was smut. It wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:22 PM
16

[insert gif of Darth Vader’s super dramatic NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO here]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:36 PM
33

Yeah, an addiction to fetishizing Asian women. Cannot even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:35 PM
162

“He WaS jUsT hAvInG a BaD dAy.” I’m screaming. Not in a good way. I’m just so fucking sick and tired of this shit. Like, oh, wow, you mean this bro (who CLEARLY came straight outta reddit) was brainwashed by pornto believe women are objects to be used and abused? And then he ended up killing women because of it? I am shocked. SHOCKED! And now we’re supposed to just excuse it because porn use is “normal.” No. Just no. Straight death penalty. Zero fucks given. He should be made into an example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:33 PM
6

OMG. No offense, but if you really believe Ron Swanson is a HVM, the bar is truly in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:08 PM
15

You’re my inspiration today. I’d give you an award, but I refuse to give any part of my sweet gubmint check to a misogynist platform like Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:45 PM
18

Thank you for sharing your story. Oftentimes we drink to fill the bottomless hole created in our being when other people hurt us. I’m glad to hear you’re doing better. 💚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:02 PM
3

On Netflix: Call My Agent (France) Girls From Ipanema (Brazil)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:19 PM
28

“No worries fam, I’m good,” she says as she sips on a green beer at 2:30 in the afternoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:29 PM
74

Can confirm my alcoholism does indeed stem from years of trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:57 PM
3

This is what I hate about modern mental healthcare. Everything is blamed on the individual’s brain chemistry. Almost nothing about environmental factors is ever mentioned. They want to push pills so they blame the victim instead of trying to paint a holistic picture of the issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:18 PM
5

Wow, you are 100% right and now everything in my life finally makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:09 AM
18

I will write this treatment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:20 PM
32

I’m very public about supporting FDS on social media and she did not contact me. She knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:17 AM
14

Ummm... are we even reading the same sub right now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:00 AM
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It’s not only three shows, dude. I gave you three off the top of my head. I’m not going to sit down and write out a list of 100 films for you to watch when I’m in the middle of a virtual conference. Do your own research. Whether you approve of the content or not, Netflix gives a platform to filmmakers who spent decades getting rejected by the mainstream movie industry because their characters weren’t white males. I see leading characters from every background now. That’s how it should be. Whethe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:45 PM
1

I think you’re confusing “making excuses for” those women and “forgiving them for their questionable pasts.” I think if a woman comes here, it’s because she knows she’s made mistakes in the past with men and wants to change. A lot of those mistakes stem from pickmeism. Personally, I think it’s better to treat them in a forgiving, non-judgmental manner rather than pile on insults. It’s better to uplift other women than tear them down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:03 PM
4

Right off the top of my head: -Call My Agent (France) -Girls from Ipanema (Brazil) -Seriously Single (South Africa)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 08:55 PM
2

You’re missing out on the good woman-centric content they do have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:56 AM
3

I know, it was shocking to me as well. I was a big fan because of the research I did on the American Indian Movement. But walk onto the Yankton Rez and you will hear him referred to as a “rapist” over and over again. I did some digging and there were multiple accusations. Yes, he did great things for Indian Country as a whole, but I would also take him with a grain of salt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:46 PM
1

I’d look up Russell Means before making that statement with confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:31 PM
3

Fun Fact about Russell Means: He was an accused rapist and involved with some super shady shit in his American Indian Movement days. Just throwing that out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:31 PM
8

Wow, big spender!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:55 PM
9

This is my favourite comment I’ve seen all week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:49 PM
3

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:43 PM
1

I don’t think I even want to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:28 PM
3

On Netflix: Girls From Ipanema (tv) - story of a woman who starts a jazz club after her husband leaves her with nothing. Set in Rio in the 1950’s. Great female leads. Addresses both the sexism and racism of the time period. Amazing fashion! Call My Agent (tv) - Follows a talent agency in Paris, features many guest stars. Very feminist. Addresses issue of ageism, racism, and sexism in the film industry. Watch the Sigourney Weaver episode! She fights for her male lead to be played by a hot guy hal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:40 AM
6

LOVED the episode of Dix Pour Cent (Call My Agent on Netflix) on season 4 where she guest stars. The entire episode is about her taking on a role because she thought her love interest would be a 35-year-old man and showing up the director when he says she’s wrong. She does the lindy hop with a bartender! I love it so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:54 AM
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This is so true! I’m back in school taking marketing classes right now and I study a lot of influencers/bloggers in my free time. It’s painful sometimes. I’m so angry I’m not them, lol. I found the best way to handle it is to transform that jealousy into motivation. Like, I’m mad I’m not them, but I’m also working my ass off to be like them. That’s something I don’t understand about some people. They use their jealousy to tear the other person down instead of asking “What actions can I take to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:34 AM
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First of all, Mark Zuckerberg is evil. Anyone who aspires to be anything like him is trash. Second, you can win beer pong in a skirt. I’ve done it before. It’s not an impeding factor. Just wear what you want and wear it confidently. Be yourself. If they give you shit, tell them to fuck off. Take your experience and move on to a new job with a higher salary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:49 PM
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I get this a lot too. People are constantly attacking me for the way I dress. Honestly, who cares? Why does it bother you so much that I have a thrifting addiction? Why do you care if I wear dresses and heels? Why do you care if I carry a designer bag? Why do you care if a wear a massive fur coat in -10F weather because it’s basically like wearing a giant blanket? Why. Do. You. Care? I don’t get it. I’ve never gotten it. I’ll never get it. I’m also from a city and live in a rural area, so people…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:59 PM
47

Is this considered the “safe” way to have a cannibalism fetish?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:45 PM
3

Don’t forget constantly being labeled a lesbian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:11 AM
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-Someone who endlessly criticizes you and your life choices but never looks at herself or hers. -The “ride or die chick” who destroys herself to please men. -People who use you when they need you but never do anything for you. -Constant shit-talking about other people behind their backs. You’re included. -Expressing jealousy of any kind. -Negging/talking down to you/treating you like you and your problems don’t matter. -Defending men left and right while constantly shitting all over women. -Any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:09 AM
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Nailed it! 13/10, would read this comment again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:20 PM
2

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:20 PM
2

Really? Does it, Gerald? Does it really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:18 PM
1

Bye Felicia!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:14 PM
2

Bold of you to assume a man can tell the difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:13 PM
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I’ve realized the reason for this is because they’re equating “sex work” with what they see in media, ie Pretty Woman. Julia Roberts is a sympathetic, attractive woman who gets her fairytale ending with handsome rich guy Richard Gere. That’s the fantasy that plays in their heads when they say it’s a “choice.” They do not think about the very real realities of sex work and the lives of actual sex workers who are abused and exploited. They’re not thinking about the orphaned children in Thailand wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:54 PM
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-“Disappearing” for significant lengths of time -Doesn’t ask for consent -Ignores boundaries -Requests “unusual/uncomfortable” things in bed (you’ll usually get that icky feeling in your gut) -Secretive about phone/internet use -Makes lots of “jokes” about porn/sex -Sexualizes everything for no apparent reason I’m sure other ladies can jump in with their personal experiences. This is just what popped into my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:57 PM
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I’m with you on the Bridgerton thing. I couldn’t understand the backlash. Like... literally NO ONE TOLD HER HOW BABIES ARE MADE. No one! Can we talk about that part first? No? We can’t? We can’t talk about how a naive woman who wanted a family was tricked into marriage with a guy who just wanted to get his rocks off? And then she had to spend five extra episodes “fixing” his daddy issues so she can have kids? So it’s bad that she made him cum in her but Game of Thrones has “strong, empowered” fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:37 AM
2

I’m just trying to imagine this concept visually and just cannot even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:06 AM
4

You forgot the part where he jumps out of a random closet and startles you so bad that you drop everything you were carrying and have to spend extra time cleaning up the mess on the floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:05 AM
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Disappointed that this story doesn’t involve a sparkly bow tied around his dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:11 AM
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“It’s like Candy Crush but with sex.” Wtf does that even mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:09 AM
2

I actually met someone once with a “necrophilia fetish.” She was a 14-year-old heroin addict who did a fuck ton of drugs, dressed up like Lolita, and fucked her way, way older drug dealers in graveyards. She constantly self-harmed and made “art” with her blood. She carried around a picture of a rotting corpse. She was not well. It’s not really a thing sane, healthy people do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:18 PM
3

Next Cosmo Feature: There’s a SAFE way to have sex with dead bodies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:59 AM
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Damn, we got BOTH Larry Flynt AND Rush Limbaugh in one week! How lucky is that, eh? It’s almost too good to be true! What a great time to be a woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:28 AM
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Have you ever seen the show “Girls From Ipanema” on Netflix? First of all, it’s fucking amazing feminist content so watch is ASAP if you haven’t. Second, there is a scene addressing this exact issue. One of the main characters is the only female reporter writing for a women’s magazine. She is surrounded by men giving women “advice.” She goes off on a long rant about it. It’s amazing. Granted, it’s set in Rio in the 1950’s, but the issue remains the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:31 PM
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Good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:49 PM
8

You are not alone. I’ve had a lot of similar experiences. I didn’t want to give up on men. I truly, genuinely believed in my heart that someday I would meet a decent man who was kind, loving, and generous. Now I realize it’s a fantasy. Men aren’t like that. All they care about are video games and porn. Focus on yourself, girl. You’ll be much happier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:19 PM
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I was already on the fence when I came here, but this sub pushed me off the deep end. I kept asking myself why I was putting so much time and effort into dating when all I was catching were weirdos with creepy sexual fetishes. It’s not like my list of demands in a partner was outrageous. In fact, I spent extra time making sure my list of desired qualities was “realistic.” I really thought it was just me!!! Then I magically found this sub because some man was ranting about how it was “destroying …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:12 PM
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The only way to get an orgasm on demand is with a vibrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:57 PM
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I was also incredibly disturbed to see this article. Like, really? I mean, really? I read those texts from Armie Hammer. If a dude sent shit like that to me, I’d call the police and slap him with a restraining order. I can’t believe women are teaching other women that this kind of crap is okay. What’s next, Cosmo? An article suggesting beastiality is okay as long as the goat is consenting? An article about “necro-play”? How will they normalize violence against women next? This kind of shit is wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:55 PM
7

Well, that ruined my morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:38 PM
14

I’m conflicted about this phrase only because mine are painful, physically debilitating, and emotionally destructive. The violence is internal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:47 AM
4

No one wants to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:00 AM
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“Do i go with the candlestick in the study or the rope in the kitchen?” Lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:57 AM
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I understand this flare as: This person has controversial opinions (true) This person has a tendency to argue those opinions (also true) This person made such bad choices in the past that they deserve to be publicly shamed (guilty as charged) I personally don’t care for it, but it also makes me think a lot. It’s true, in the past I was the pickiest of pickmes, but who among us can really say we weren’t guilty of the same? Let she among us who is free from sin cast the first stone! Oh look, it’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:52 AM
2

Tell us your secrets, oh wise one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:38 AM
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I have no idea how I got my flare. Maybe for saying we should give women who made mistakes a second chance? Idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:23 AM
1

YES to the Jane Eyre thing. I’m like “Why are we romanticizing a guy who LOCKED. HIS. WIFE. IN. THE. ATTIC?????????” I can’t. It’s the worst. I love the movie Definitely, Maybe, but it’s always been weird to me that April’s obsession with Jane Eyre because it’s the last book her dad gave her before he died is the special thing that makes her so quirky and interesting. Like, what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:55 PM
1

Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:41 PM
2

Wow, that’s actually one of the worst things I’ve ever seen on Reddit. Disturbing. Uhhh.... thanks for the warning, I guess?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:35 PM
5

Wow, seriously? I just can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:12 PM
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SOOOOOO offended. It’s like, “I’m literally talking to you the way you’ve been talking to me. Why is it a problem NOW?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:57 PM
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This is my biggest dealbreaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:33 PM
1

THANK YOU! Finally, someone with some sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:07 AM
3

THEY WEREN’T EVEN MARRIED! She was just his forever gf who he used to live in France!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:06 AM
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“You will live in a mansion with approx 15-20 other girls and will be trained on how to be successful on only fans or social media.” Sooo... a brothel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:54 AM
3

They need to level up on their flare. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:58 PM
1

Girl, you gotta go to Mardi Gras/Carnival. All your dreams will come true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:34 AM
3

That’s good to know. I was also wondering about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:25 AM
2

Definitely read this in a British accent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:56 PM
3

This hasn’t been my experience with men in the workplace at all. They are just as catty, mean, and manipulative, if not more so. They actively target women and push them out. I’ve lost so many jobs because of catty male coworkers. Where are you working that you don’t have this problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 06:31 PM
6

Ahhh... so simple and yet so impossible at the same time, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:27 PM
18

Adding this to the FDS Hall of Shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:10 AM
2

Adding this to my running list of “FDS Hall of Shame” posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:50 PM
1

That’s too bad! This is a great one! 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:00 PM
1

Wow, you just called me the fuck out and I needed to hear it. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:54 PM
1

https://ifunny.co/picture/when-you-see-mariah-carey-is-charging-her-ex-an-UXbcFvmR4
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:39 AM
2

My favourite part of this story is that she called it an “inconvenience fee.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:49 AM
2

I recently had a man who described himself as a “failed writer” mansplain how to be a “good” writer to me. I stopped listening after he said “failed.” All of his advice was bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:42 PM
3

Bustle is calling it a “non-consensual sex scene.” Barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:18 AM
10

You are right. $1500 is NOT that much, especially with that budget. That’s more than enough for a dress, veil, undergarments, shoes, and accessories. It’s not just the dress included in that price! So ridiculous. She won by walking away, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:12 PM
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Speaking as a former wedding dress stylist, I’m glad she dumped him. The dress is EVERYTHING! It’s her time to shine and be a real Princess for a day. And he’s asking her to get a dress off WISH? LMFAO! I can’t. She deserves so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:58 PM
2

You are not alone. Some days I get so angry about stuff that happened in the past, I feel like I’m going to explode. I do the best I can to sit with it until it passes or write it out. My biggest challenge is not drinking on those days. I want to try to numb the rage but the alcohol magnifies it and makes it so much worse. I feel bad about myself because everyone around me tells me I need to just magically get over it, just like that! As you can imagine, hearing that makes me even angrier. If I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:24 AM
1

Tbh I love getting carded. It gives me a random confidence boost!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:04 AM
1

No one can convince me the main characters of Superbad aren’t closeted gay men. No one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:58 AM
5

That whole relationship was so weird. It really comes off as Natasha pushing Darcy into a relationship he doesn’t want. She’s really the Ultimate PickMe. She basically tells everyone they know they’re an item while he tells everyone she’s just his partner at the law firm. It’s sad for her character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:56 AM
2

Seriously Single on Netflix is one of my favs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:12 AM
4

In my experience, no. Sex has always been a massive waste of time. Ditch the man and buy a vibrator. There’s no point in trying otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 02:04 AM
6

Reston Town Center is lame AF. You dodged a bullet. Hold out for someone who will take you on a real date in DC proper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:59 AM
8

Signed and shared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:16 AM
2

Honestly, I’m glad to hear you’ve never heard of him. It means his cultural relevance has been lost sometime in the last 12 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 11:12 PM
2

I’ve also noticed this is a recent thing. I took myself out of the dating pool and went celibate for several years. I came back and the first guy I hooked up with tried to choke me without my consent. I kicked him out immediately, deleted all my dating apps, and went back to being celibate. I thought he was just a psycho. Then I found FDS and was SHOCKED by how normal it is! What the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:46 AM
2

Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:23 AM
1

Don’t waste your time. It’s just dude bro lifestyle porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:18 AM
2

Also thrilled to find my fellow Rochester-Haters. Dude literally LOCKED HIS WIFE IN AN ATTIC. I just can’t. I love the movie Definitely, Maybe, but it’s always annoyed me how April has an obsession with Jane Eyre. She collects copies and it’s supposed to be “quirky” and “cute.” Also has ties to her dead father. I get what they’re going for, but they should’ve picked a different book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:14 AM
3

Wow, thank you for writing this comment. This is the comment I didn’t know I needed to read today. I had a “rage burst” (as I’m calling them now) this week over something from the distant past. So many people tell me I need to “just get over it” and “move on” and invalidate my feelings. It’s like... if I could just magically get over it, I would’ve gotten over it. But I haven’t. I do the best I can with leveling up and working on myself, but sometimes that anger resurfaces and it suddenly just t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:07 AM
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Can’t believe I haven’t seen Tucker Max mentioned ONCE! The holy grail of gross NVM. I Hope They Serve Beer is one of the most misogynist pieces of trash I’ve ever read. If you see that in his house, run as far away as fast as you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:47 PM
1

My faith in men is so low that I think he literally wanted you to eat the chicken nugget. Lol that is the craziest thing I’ve ever heard. It went straight to the top of my FDS Hall of Shame list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:36 PM
3

New FDS Motto: Don’t date a Gollum when you can get an Aragorn. Or Faramir! Faramir is a decent second choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:35 PM
1

Lol yeah he really got me in the mood when he phrased it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:39 AM
1

He wanted you to dip a CHICKEN NUGGET in his semen?! LOL!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT!!!! Hahahaha! It’s like simultaneously gross and hilarious all at once. No one would ever do that. That’s so nasty. Lol! Hahahahahaha! Wow. Just wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:23 AM
1

Officially adding “the guy who ate poisonous berries and got sick to prove he was intellectually superior to his gf” to The FDS Hall of Shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:35 PM
1

Was he a libertarian by chance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:31 PM
6

I’m envisioning the closet full of puzzle-themed costumes already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:43 PM
3

They are so annoying. I hate the Royals (we had a damn revolution for a reason, people. Ugh!) but Harry and Megan are just plain insufferable. I just can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:50 PM
2

As a former bartender, I would’ve laughed at this guy and walked away. He’s probably not tipping either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:10 PM
1

I have been keeping a list and this is definitely on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:04 PM
2

MALE LOGIC LMFAO!!!! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:54 PM
1

I would also ghost this guy. 👻👻👻 Bye, Felicia!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:39 PM
12

Contrary Opinion: You should call yourself The Puzzler because it sounds badass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:28 PM
21

Gamers are actually the worst. They put their games before E V E R Y T H I N G: basic hygiene, cleaning, cooking, self-care, social life, girlfriend time, family time, etc. Asking them to leave their basements to go out into the sunlight is like pulling teeth. It’s an addiction for many and they won’t admit it. Never again. No, but seriously, I really mean it. NEVER. AGAIN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:25 PM
7

Pretty much all of my relationships were like that. I never understood how anyone could enjoy sex and what everyone was always going on about. Eventually I just gave up on dating altogether and bought a vibrator. WOW! I had no idea I could ever feel that good from anything sexual. It’s really hard to trade that in for a sexually-coercive douchebag who can barely get it up and can’t even finish because he watches too much porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:45 PM
3

I have the same problem. I’m intelligent, attractive, and dress well. I’m also extremely dedicated to my passion for writing and not afraid to tell people to fuck off (especially men). As you can imagine, all of this translates into “crazy” and “dangerous.” Sigh. It gets so old after awhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:36 PM
62

Nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:23 PM
4

Lemonade was powerful and cathartic at first, but became significantly less so over time, especially after she stayed. Those songs just don’t hit the same anymore. It’s sad. I loved that album when it first came out. I was getting vibes something was wrong with their relationship for awhile (even before the elevator incident). Lemonade blew that theory wide open. Suddenly, everything made sense. Then she stayed and made that godawful video where she ran around the fucking Louvre bragging about h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:09 AM
2

I see nothing has changed in several decades. #Tradition
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:09 AM
8

Mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:17 AM
2

Try House Hunters International instead. Tons of singles and oddballs on all sorts of journeys. I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:39 AM
1

I just finished watching Seriously Single on Netflix for the second time. It’s a South African film starring two black women. I felt it was very FDS. The main character (Dineo) goes through the journey from PickMe to Happily Single while the best friend (Noni) starts off as happily single FDS Queen and ends up accidentally finding the right guy in an unexpected place. Highly recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 11:23 PM
10

I can’t with anyone who watches GOT. It’s such low-hanging fruit. I can usually gauge how smart someone is by how they react to GOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:58 PM
19

*Except for New Orleans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:51 PM
7

God I hate that book. That shit set us back 60 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:20 PM
7

Do we know the same guy? Girl, run. He’s crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:29 AM
17

Get away from those people ASAP. That sounds like a narcissist using his flying monkeys to run a smear campaign. I just escaped something similar myself. If the professionals tell you you’re not crazy, listen. He is clearly demonstrating numerous signs of NPD and possibly ASPD. He is the crazy one. Run away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:49 AM
3

You forgot the flannel shirts and beanie caps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:49 AM
8

I’m with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:28 PM
86

Unpopular Opinion: MTV should just play music videos and music-related shows. Signed, a person born in the 80’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:05 PM
1

Because the restaurant industry is full of degenerate trash that never figured out how to do what they actually wanted to do in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:39 AM
17

Yeah I’ve noticed that too. “Women” are minors and “girls” are fully-grown, adult women. I can’t even with that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:16 AM
121

I also feel like I’m taking crazy pills. I know FDS doesn’t like age gaps, but I’ve dated two men now with multiple decades on me and neither of them were into this kind of sick, pornographic shit. Meanwhile, all the guys my age, or slightly older/younger were. I blame porn, 100%. This is nature weeding out the weak to decrease the population, I just know it. Frankly, I’m fine with it. These guys do not need to procreate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:12 AM
35

I’m in my early 30’s and I still cannot believe this kind of shit is considered “normal” now. 🤮🤮🤮 What is wrong with these guys, seriously?! JFC, and here I thought men would get BETTER as I got older. LOL! So fucking disgusting. Girl, run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:09 AM
3

Tall women are bad, which is why you have to be 5’8” with no curves to be a fashion model. Okay, men. Whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 10:45 PM
1

God that article was depressing. Glad to see we’re living in Brave New World. 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:00 AM
46

I’m ready to read this romance novel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:16 AM
1

Wow, you’ve missed a lot. He left his baby mama for a significantly younger woman, who he physically abused while drunk and high on drugs. Look up the case. It’s a mess. #TeamAmber
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:04 AM
1

It’s not really. Why would a woman be having a gangbang in a bathroom at a party unless she was drugged? Come on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:02 AM
1

Thank you. It won’t stop me. It can’t now. I let too much bullshit hold me back for too long. Thank god I found FDS. It’s really helping me deprogram a lot of the toxic shit I’ve internalized over the years. It’s helpful to know I’m not alone in what I’ve been through. Guys who make Rape “jokes” are trash. When it comes to men, it’s safe to say anything they’re “joking” about is how they really feel. Women aren’t people to them. We are objects to be used up and thrown away. It is what it is. Tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:00 AM
12

Liking Lolita is pretty much always a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:32 AM
2

Are ya’ll really making a joke out of a potential assault right now? Come on. Do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:38 AM
2

I had the same phone addiction problem until I got a tablet. I moved all of my apps off of my phone and onto said tablet. Best decision I ever made, seriously. Now I use my phone for calls, texts, pictures, and directions. I am so much more engaged with my surroundings now. It really helped cull my social media/smart phone/internet addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:07 AM
0

Ah yes, Johnny Depp. Yet another man we thought was HV only to reveal himself to be NV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:56 AM
2

Lol! That’s a good one! Love your username too. Somehow it matches the sass. 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:54 AM
1

50 Shades is such trash. I hate those books. I had to defend my hatred to all the PickMes around who loved it for the ChArAcTeR dEvEloPmEnT. I could never express what it was that rubbed me the wrong way until FDS. Now I KNOW why I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:46 AM
3

I agree with you on the branding thing. I cannot comprehend how Dream is the only one who ended up with the name Kardashian. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:13 AM
1

RUN, FORREST, RUN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:11 AM
2

I feel like FDS is more like the lady who was arrested for driving her scooter through Walmart while drinking boxed wine out of a Pringles can. She was just living her life! It’s a stretch, I know, but if we’re comparing FDS to Walmartians, I want to be that lady, lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:03 AM
4

Yeah we’ve gotta beat them off with a stick, lol. Anyone else have a box full of random guys’ cards and numbers they’ll never use? 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:57 AM
3

Same. As soon as I saw the first description of FDS as an evil, toxic cesspool of feminazism and male hatred, I was like, “Why do I have a feeling I’m about to find my people?” SPOILER ALERT: I did. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:56 AM
2

I’m sorry to tell you, but this is nothing new. They have been this way for awhile. I am a millennial (early 30’s) and they were like this in my teens and in college. I don’t know about the older men. I can tell you that I suspect the Internet (especially reddit), porn,and video games have a lot to do with it. I’m sorry you had to go through that. If it’s any consolation, I’ve been through similar things. I was once the face of rape jokes on my college campus after I wrote an article in the news…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:44 AM
4

I admire her for her choices but I’m also sick of hearing about her CONSTANTLY! Let her live, dammit! She’s never getting back together with Brad Pitt! Ugh!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:33 AM
1

Good riddance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:26 AM
11

You can also say you’ve been traveling. Some people love that shit. They want to know about where you’ve been!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:20 AM
2

“Repeal the 19th” is new. The word “thot” is new. The rest sounds about the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:17 AM
3

Maybe they’re both actors and it’s a fun game for them. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:15 AM
5

You comment about holding hands is so on-point. I actually teared up reading it. There is something so beautiful and romantic about the simple intimacy of holding hands. These guys will never know that. They just go straight for the chokehold. 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:09 AM
5

It was horrible half a lifetime ago when I was a teen. I can’t imagine what it’s like now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:05 AM
2

Completely agree with this statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:04 AM
7

Dating during a pandemic? I don’t think so. I’m using this time to level up and start my own business. Forget men. Date yourself until it’s safe out there again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:18 PM
8

Porn stars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:32 AM
1

You are in for a treat. Bridget is so relatable. I love the fact that she isn’t perfect and never even comes close to getting there. She is still one of my favourites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:15 PM
2

They’re British so it’s “Tarts and vicars.” They change the theme last minute so Bridget is one of three people who show up in costume. She is dressed as a Playboy Bunny, of course. Tbh, it’s been my favourite movie for like 20 years and I still love that scene. I can just feel the secondhand shame. So relatable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:49 AM
2

I’m in the same boat. I wish you the best of luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:23 AM
3

Men cause so much drama. The more men in a room, the more likely there is to be drama. But, of course, it’s always the woman’s fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:38 AM
4

De rien. I had to stand up for my beloved Paris! I can’t believe Netflix did my city so dirty like that. I’ll write my own version called “Sylvie in Paris: A Guide to Effortless Perfection for Stupid, Arrogant Americans.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:53 PM
2

Yes yes yes! I ignored my gut about a guy once and he threw me into a wall. My “friends” at the time know he sucks but they still bend over backwards to call me a liar and say I made it up for attention. Then they post “Believe women when they say they were assaulted! Hashtag Feminism” memes on Facebook. They’re not my friends anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:31 PM
4

As a former server/bartender, the answer to all customers and co-workers asking me out on dates is “No.” Don’t so it, ladies. That is a line you will regret crossing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:07 PM
7

Merci beaucoup !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:17 PM
31

I didn’t even try it. Why bother when you can just go to the grocery store or stand at a crosswalk waiting for the light to change or waltz down the street and get hit on by randos left and right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:16 AM
42

Here’s my beef (or should I say... mon bœuf): She had a boyfriend at the beginning who dumped her. I think he was the only boyfriend she ever had, therefore it was un désastre! This event sets a definite tone. I feel like many American women fall into the hook-up culture after their first heartbreak. If men feel nothing, why can’t we? The problem is... WE DON’T FEEL ANYTHING! She stopped a commercial shoot to lecture a Frenchmen about Feminism and Sexism. This act alone was unprofessional and di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:13 AM
1

Sounds like my Muse. He ain’t getting SHIT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:56 AM
3

Don’t let them get you down. Keep fighting. We need a woman’s perspective in every facet of society, ESPECIALLY STEM. Don’t let them derail you. Just remember who you’re fighting for. You can always come here to find support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:55 AM
2

I just left a comment asking what I need to do to get it right and this comment resonates with me so much. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:53 AM
1

I am only just now learning this technique. So many haters on Facebook. God I hate it. I hate it so much. How do I just get rid of all these ridiculous people and use it as a tool?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:51 AM
1

It was written in the subtext.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:48 AM
1

WeLl AcTuAlLy, BaCk In ShAkEsPeArE’s DaY, aLl ThE wOmEn WeRe PlAyEd By MeN. Therefore, it’s easy for a man to just put on a dress and play a woman, or something. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:43 AM
1

I was eating at an outdoor restaurant this summer (prior to the outbreak in that particular area) where chipmunks/ground squirrels boldly approached the tables begging for scraps. I joked to my friend that one could tell which one was male and female. The females took the scraps and ran back into the bushes to feed the babies while the males sat there, devoured them by themselves, and waited for more. ~It’S bIoLoGy.~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:35 AM
1

u/LevelTurbulent Now’s your chance to shine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:28 AM
5

“Used to”? Try “still do.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:21 AM
2

This is exactly what I was going to respond with. Know your Loves, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:13 AM
1

WHY DO PEOPLE GIVE OUT THEIR PASSWORDS TO ANYTHING?! YOU ARE JUST ASKING FOR TROUBLE! JFC I have NEVER understood this, even back in ye olde middle school days when people were giving out their locker combos. Ya know, a full decade before smart phones were even A Thing and the Internet was still ancient. Don’t do it, people. Just say no. Source: A Scorpio who likes to keep her damn secrets secret, thank you very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:06 AM
3

Had this last year. It was ideal. The only problem was that he was a raging alcoholic — and so was I. Sadly, it didn’t work out. I got so close though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:02 AM
16

Right, and once the power goes out, it doesn’t exist anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:54 AM
1

Thank you for inadvertently validating my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:38 AM
3

I see what you’re saying, but has he ever casually wandered outside without a shirt on while you were out on a casual horseback ride?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:37 AM
2

I think we know the same married guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:36 AM
2

Makes sense. Ya know, since he’s a big fat baby and all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:35 AM
1

Lorena Bobbit for President.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:32 AM
-6

Your first mistake was treating a sacred Indigenous ceremony as a “wellness retreat” you felt entitled to as a foreign tourist. Just saying. Maybe think about what kind of bad vibes you’re inviting in by attending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:19 AM
6

Reminds me of AIM chatrooms back in the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:16 AM
44

You mean the concept of imaginary money wasn’t enough for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:12 AM
1

My vibrator vehemently disagrees with this assessment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:34 AM
-17

The overlining on her upper lip is really distracting me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:04 PM
3

A+
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:06 AM
2

All of his "friends" live on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:02 AM
1

And not a single bottle of hand soap as far as the eye can see!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:00 AM
1

Glad to hear I am not alone in running out of options in my area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:58 AM
3

I approve of this message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:54 AM
1

Start saving for retirement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:51 AM
3

HAHAHAHAHA!!!!! A+
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:51 AM
2

Can confirm it is the worst. Dead deer. Dead deer everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:49 AM
1

Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:38 AM
1

Dear Trash, Thanks for taking yourself out. We really appreciate it! Sincerely, FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:36 AM
1

That's a nice way to look at the Tower. Every time I see it, it's come to fuck up my day. I've tried to look at it from every positive angle possible. Unfortunately, it never means anything good for me. Like, yeah, sure, I'll rise from the ashes like a phoenix, but DAMN DOES THAT SHIT EVER FUCK UP MY DAY WHEN IT SHOWS UP!!!! Ughhhhhh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:40 AM
2

The XBOX goes to whoever wins Call of Duty at the funeral.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:34 AM
1

No woman in that situation is thinking about the wife. The wife is not usually discussed. It's like she doesn't even exist because she and the guy are living in their own little fantasy world. He is also lying to her, making promises he can't keep, telling her he loves her, etc. You act like she's going home and laughing evilly at causing harm to another woman, when in reality she probably feels empty and sad because she's in love with someone she can't be with. If you want to judge people based…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:15 PM
1

I don't get it either. Maybe I should hit her up and recommend FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:16 AM
2

You do you. I still don't agree with you. Evil is a strong word. You're assuming a lot. Maybe the woman in question has deep-seated psychological issues and is desperately seeking validation she can't find anywhere else. Maybe she's been raised in an environment where cheating in marriage is so common that it seems normal. Maybe she's easily manipulated because she is young and naive. Maybe she discovers FDS by chance and eventually realizes the error of her ways. You don't know. We're not suppo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:55 AM
5

Useful resource to avoid sharing posts like this: https://blog.mozilla.org/internetcitizen/2018/01/08/irl-how-to-spot-a-bot/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:53 AM
50

Are you me? I am so fucking tired of doing everything I can to better myself and still getting called "crazy." Men are the crazy ones. I just can't. I'm tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:41 AM
9

Honestly, goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:30 AM
5

I don't disagree with you, but I do disagree with your choice to use the word slut. If we want men to stop calling us sluts and whores, we have to stop calling other women sluts and whores. Just say "PickMe." Don't perpetuate the use of a word designed by men to denigrate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:26 AM
1

I had a friend like this. The only time she called me was to bitch about how much her boyfriend sucked. Anytime I offered a solution, no matter what it was she was complaining about, she would shoot me down and make excuse after excuse after excuse -- EVEN WHEN IT WAS 100% CLEAR HIS INTENTIONS WERE NEVER GOING TO ALIGN WITH HERS. It was so annoying! She wanted to travel -- he didn't. She wanted to move to a different state -- he didn't. He wanted kids -- she didn't. He was out getting wasted at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:02 AM
3

Gen Z is fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:30 PM
30

They're saying that because they are literal pedophiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:04 PM
4

I still think you're giving the woman too much credit for "breaking up a family." As FDS says, "If he wanted to, he would." If he wants to break up his own family, he will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:53 PM
26

I don't know who Sharpie Neck Lady from TikTok is, but I approve of this descriptive name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:45 PM
4

The thing that bothers me the most about this is that it's normalizing "teen/barely legal" porn and promiscuous sexual activity among minors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:41 PM
11

I would argue the husband is the slut for sleeping with multiple people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:23 PM
5

SAME!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:27 AM
5

I think the cesspools are at the top of that list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:41 PM
3

No, he cheated on her and she took him back for the money/status.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:33 PM
3

I also have a similar fantasy. When an island is inhabited entirely by women, it’s Themyscira. When an island is inhabited entirely by men (or should I say, boys), it’s Lord of the Flies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:13 AM
6

*Except for her own husband. Low blow, I know. I’m just ready to see her living her life like 7/11 and Lemonade FOREVER!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:40 AM
3

The fact that “couples therapy” has become A Normal Thing for twenty-something’s who have only been together a few years is definitely a result of this. I still can’t believe how frequently I see that shit. It’s like... you’re 27, Sharon. Stop wasting your money, dump him, and move on with your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:35 AM
2

SAME! Then again, I have zero confidence in my cooking/baking skills. I’m terrified to even go near a kitchen. Your post has inspired me to A, start baking, and B, figure out how to make said baked goods into cute animal shapes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:45 AM
6

Omg, do NOT waste your time OLD. I tried every site and all of them were the same. I’ve had better luck meeting guys IRL in real life (but still not the best). OLD got to be a chore. All the guys started to look and sound the same. I was sick of talking to a screen. It’s easier to “read” them when they’re sitting right in front of you. Once you know the tells, it becomes easier to figure out who is worth your time. EDITED TO ADD: I know this sub doesn’t always approve of age gaps, but I have rec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:34 AM
14

[cut to shot of a skeleton still waiting a hundred years later...]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:21 AM
2

Thanks to FDS, I finally found the community I’ve been looking for all along. I am not crazy, overly emotional, irrational, or anything else anyone has said about me. My feelings are valid. My thoughts and opinions matter. I deserve better than what I was allowing myself in life. I wasn’t just surrounded by Low Value Men, I was surrounded by Low Value People. People who did everything they could to tear me down and invalidate everything I said, did, and felt. I’ve recently relocated and I’ve bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:09 AM
3

I knew what they were when you originally posted this, but I’m still slightly disappointed they aren’t shaped like actual turtles. 🐢🐢🐢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:46 AM
1

Thank you! This is a new term to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:07 PM
2

What does this word mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:24 PM
1

Just let him break his dick. He’ll figure it out eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:44 PM
18

LOL! I seriously thought I was the only person this has ever happened to! STORY TIME: I was seeing this guy on and off even though I knew he wasn’t real relationship material. He was, however, excellent “character” material, and I’m a writer, so there I was running around with him like a god damn fool. Never again. Anyway, this one time, I stayed the night at his house after my late-night work shift was over. He offered to drive me home the next morning. Instead, he “kidnapped” me (🚩🚩🚩) and took…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:02 AM
14

Ewwwwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:54 PM
3

Malala is my Hero!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:54 PM
6

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:52 PM
6

I was too. I was THE WORST when I was 19/20. Forgive yourself. I’m 31 now and I learned all of my lessons the hard way. There’s nowhere to go from here but up, up, up and away!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:58 PM
6

You forgot smoke weed and drink tons of cheap beer and/or Mountain Dew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:53 PM
3

Unlike those women who don’t give blowjobs, I support our troops. Fuck the Haters! LMFAO!!!! 😂🤣😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:42 PM
154

LOL IT LITERALLY SAYS IPSY RIGHT THERE!!! 😂😭🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:48 AM
22

Taking her to a field is right up there with the guy who wanted to take a woman to the top of the tallest building and put his hands over her eyes while she shivers. Serial killers in the making right there...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:57 AM
9

Jizzing in his sister’s underwear? Are you fucking kidding me right now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:39 AM
7

You just gave me a terrible flashback. Going for another glass of wine. Nevertheless, I persisted in catching up on this sub for the night. Not letting The Guy Who Ruined My Life ruin my perfectly lovely night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:27 AM
1

Why is he your ex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:24 AM
1

Yeah, I have a lot of questions about this photo. What’s going on here? Is it Photoshop? Lighting? Makeup? Bleaching? Surgery? I need answers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:12 AM
5

Been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:57 AM
2

I personally blame 50 Shades of Shit for this. Set us back 50 fucking years. And the writing is just plain garbage. “BuT tHe ChArAcTeR dEvElOpMeNt.” No. Just plain no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:51 AM
2

I just moved to a new city and discovered FDS around the same time. I cannot stop thinking about how easy it would be to arrange an FDS meetup in this city. I am ready to meet some likeminded women and work towards real change! Also, just straight-up make new friends. Making friends as an adult is hard. Reddit is simply a middle man (literally) at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:42 AM
14

She needs FDS! Also, Tyga is creepy AF in hindsight. He clearly groomed Kylie. This should be talked about more! He’s probably still going after teens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:08 PM
22

Yeah I’m not sure what Blac Chyna (who is looking pretty white-washed in that photo) thought she was going to get out of the entire relationship? Revenge? Money? Fame? To become a Kardashian? Idk. I watched Rob & Chyna (I am shamelessly obsessed with the Kardashians) and all I saw was a MESS. Both of them were ridiculous and terrible. The whole saga was just crazy. I am firmly Team No One.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:33 PM
27

Don’t forget running around the fucking Louvre bragging about being a billionaire. She carried that entire song and video, yet gave Jay-Z half the credit for standing around looking checked out, stiff, and sounding TIRED. Like “Hi, yes, I’m doped out on Xanax and weed. I’m also only here for the money. I’m a business man at heart and believe me when I say this marriage is ALL business at this point.” 🤮🤮🤮 YES, I am still bitter because Lemonade was my post-abusive relationship, single-and-loving-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:25 PM
49

The women are loaded. Rob is the ultimate NVM. He doesn’t have SHIT. Why would any of the women who worked for their money contribute to his messiness?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:50 PM
48

Exactly. Can we please stop pretending that Beyoncé is a feminist role model after taking back her trash LVM husband? I’m so over it!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:34 PM
1

Yeah, it’s a bad one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:26 AM
1

Research crows and you will change your mind fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:07 PM
10

It comes from the novella The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde by Robert Louis Stevenson. It is about a kind doctor who drinks a potion and turns into a monster. It’s a quick read. I highly recommend it to any FDSer. You might see an ex-boyfriend or two in the character. You can read it for free on Project Gutenberg: http://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/42
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:52 PM
33

MADE MY DAY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:21 PM
17

I find Gemini men to be very much like Jekyll and Hyde. You never know which personality you’re going to get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:45 AM
7

Hahahahaha this is halfway between comedy gold and nightmare fuel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:31 AM
5

As I recall, both of them were lying about their “intimidating” professions. They guy was just pissed that SHE lied as well. Still no way to win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:35 PM
8

Lol wow. These people are real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:42 PM
3

I posted ONCE on feminism and got banned. What did I post that was so offensive, you ask? I responded to a thread asking what societal expectation of female behavior I hate the most with: “I hate the expectation that I’m always supposed to be nice, even when I am feeling uncomfortable. Fuck being nice. Get the fuck out of my face, asshole!” Really. It’s worth noting I was on the train at the time and had just told off some creeper who tried to harass me on my commute. I explained that to the mod…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:19 PM
2

Working on one dedicated to FDS right now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:12 PM
7

Seconded. If she comes here and finds this thread, I would like her to know many of us are here for her and support her. I was also groomed to tolerate what I now realize was rape. I did not understand that was what he was doing to me because I was a teenager and the people around me shamed me for saying I didn’t want it. She is not alone. We will not judge her. We support her choice to leave. I feel for her and I’m sending her good vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:31 PM
49

“Anyway I am rambling...” 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:13 PM
1

Same. Between this and the “child-play” post, Imma head outside for the rest of the day. Think I need a shower first, tbh. I just feel gross now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:47 PM
11

😱😱😱😱😱🤢🤮😖😳😡🤬🤯🤯🤯🤯😱😱😱😱 EDIT: What. The. Fuck. Did I just read. That was so fucking gross and disturbing. HE IS MY AGE!!!! vomits everywhere I literally just cannot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:26 PM
17

Small towns are THE WORST! They absolutely HATE women. As a person who just escaped that toxic environment, I am sending you good vibes. I hope you get out soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:52 PM
3

You forgot the part where they want to open-carry AK-47s in the street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:45 PM
5

Agreed. I saw a post earlier about what fanfiction has turned into based on porn and I was like 😱😱😱. I remember when it was just rewriting stuff that made no sense in the original or inserting yourself into the narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:06 AM
1

That is distribution of child pornography and 100% illegal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:47 PM
1

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:01 PM
7

Bad writing. Bad writing everywhere. I see it all the time in mainstream film. Meanwhile, talented writers are left out in the cold. Why spend millions of dollars on a big-budget action film if they’re not even going to write a high quality story about fully-developed characters to go with it? They need to stop blowing their budget on CGI and hire ONE good writer. Just one! Then maybe, just maybe, I will consider paying $30 to stream their film at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:40 PM
2

Good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:31 PM
10

The most recent reviews I read described her as being perfect and powerful right from the get-go, no guidance needed. That alone ruins it for me. The whole point of her character arc is that she is a nobody who had to struggle and eventually became the unlikely hero. Take that away and what have you got?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:26 PM
4

Lemonade was the FDS anthem we needed. I LOVED that album. Still do. Unfortunately, I lost pretty much all my respect for Beyoncé when she stayed with Jay-Z after the fact. The worst part was that she released a song bragging about how rich they are, depicted herself as a saint/martyr/Virgin Mary-type, and released an ad campaign for their tour of her hovering behind him with that creepy stare. Then Jay-Z’s next album was basically just a public therapy session. All of this while everyone around…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:22 PM
2

This is seriously my biggest pet peeve. I’m sick of seeing adult men dressed like teenagers. It’s even worse meeting up with them for dates. Grow the fuck up and buy some real clothing. I literally have a rule about male fashion now because it pisses me off so much. If he’s not dressed properly, I’m walking away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:12 PM
10

It was definitely reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:55 PM
3

Karma for many men is watching so much porn their dicks don’t work anymore. Thanks for sorting yourselves out of the gene pool! 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:39 PM
2

Gender reveals are the fucking worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:31 PM
6

As a fellow 30something, I agree. I know multiple women who are divorcing the guys they married in their early 20’s and women who are sick of dating LVM after wasting their 20’s. They are all happily single and focusing on themselves. I can’t think of any Pickmeishas off the top of my head. Most of us are just living life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:16 PM
4

Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:05 PM
16

Scavengers are nature’s recycling bins. They have a very important purpose. Without them, there would be dead carcasses just lying about the place. To compare them to NVM/LVM is an insult to the animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:18 PM
22

Where do they learn this shit?! ... she asks as she mindlessly scrolls through reddit. 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:16 PM
51

Same. I am so tired of guys attacking EVERYTHING I say. I just want to chill with my girls now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:13 PM
32

The more I read about this film, the worse it sounds. Did they even watch the original? Wtf kind of remake is this? Signed, a thirtysomething woman who watches the original Mulan at least 10-15x per year in both English and French because she is my heroine and I still want to be like her even though I am a grown-ass adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:08 PM
2

Mood x1000. All I can really say is... thank god I found FDS!!! I feel so much less alone now that I’ve found this community. I wish I could have all 96,000+ of you over for a dinner party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:33 PM
8

This reminds me of the movie Down With Love! A must-watch for any FDS follower! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:28 PM
2

You didn’t “mess up” anything. A HVM will love and accept you as you are, trauma and all. You don’t need to “earn back” anything, especially not him. His LV behavior is the fact that he is picking up women in their early 20’s when he’s in his early 40’s. There are so many single, HV, fully-developed women closer to him in age who he is actively ignoring in order to date young, naive (no offense) women who he can “help.” Try reminding yourself of this fact alone. Here’s an article on breaking out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:54 PM
2

He’s a 42-year-old man who still lives with his brother, dates women in their early 20’s, and then tells them they need therapy for being physically attracted to him. What about that scenario screams “High Value Male” to you? It’s not just about paying for dates. It’s about how he treats you as a human being. He’s not treating you like a woman. He’s treating you like a child. You deserve better. Ask yourself, “Why isn’t he dating women his own age?” Probably because none of them want to put up w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:14 PM
3

Oh, you know... just about as often as I run across a wild unicorn prancing through a field.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:13 AM
2

I can’t even judge you because I’ve also dated more than one future serial killer. I’m just happy to hear you got away safely. Let your example teach others to RUN, FORREST, RUN! once they hear this kind of shit. Anyone justifying the harm of animals and/or children is not playing devil’s advocate. They are telling on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:03 PM
3

Please tell me you dumped him immediately after this phone call. He sounds like a fucking serial killer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:47 PM
10

*Raped. FIFY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:38 PM
4

Glad to see I’ve fulfilled my community service hours for the weekend. 😜😂😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:10 PM
13

I tried to explain that Nick was a LVM to my friends before I knew the term and they would go on and on about how hot he was. Spoiler Alert: They ended up with LVM boyfriends and I am still happily single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:46 PM
8

😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:45 PM
2

Personally, I find the fact that they would rather masturbate than have sex reassuring. It means their sub-species of human-troll hybrid will soon be going extinct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:26 PM
10

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:20 PM
2

It’s especially gross because “Asian” (generic term) women are “supposed” to be subservient to men and do whatever they ask without question. That’s why they are so pissed off at the fact that she has basic standards. They’ve been brainwashed to believe Asian women have none except “Serve whoever picks me.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:19 PM
3

Ahhh, now I see. I didn’t notice them because they were buried under all the trash and dirty laundry! It’s all coming together now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:08 PM
11

I did not know this but I am intrigued! Do you have a source where I can read more?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:03 PM
2

Probably because it started as an advice column and grew into a movement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:00 PM
6

Serious question: What is the general age range of men using piss bottles? I’m in my early 30’s and I’ve seen a lot of gross behavior, but I have yet to encounter this. Maybe I just got lucky? .... “Lucky” translating to “I’ve been beaten up and raped, but I haven’t seen any piss bottles. That would just be one step too far.” 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:59 PM
5

That is so fucking gross. I’m glad you got out of there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:00 PM
2

That’s usually code for “I’ve been watching barely legal teen babysitter porn.” They don’t want a nanny. They want a live-in sex slave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:48 PM
8

Tom Brady is absolutely NOT a HVM. He left his pregnant girlfriend (actress Bridget Moynahan) for Gisele. All the recent articles about Gisele and Tom have discussed “how they saved their marriage” from his laziness at home. Bridget is the one who is thriving now that Tom is gone. https://www.harpersbazaar.com/celebrity/latest/a27206252/bridget-moynahan-working-through-tom-brady-breakup/ https://www.harpersbazaar.com/celebrity/latest/a32083784/tom-brady-gisele-bundchen-marriage-counseling/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:32 PM
2

I was picturing the Alien myself. His “seeds” are gonna bust straight out the stomach, Sigourney Weaver-style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:25 PM
19

And when the kids aren’t enough, they move onto animals. Then eventually dead bodies...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:21 AM
8

Hey, you never know! There could be a writer lurking around this forum working on granting your wish. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:28 AM
7

This is also a great metaphor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:58 AM
32

One could argue men are committing mass genocide on themselves by jerking off to porn until their dicks don’t work anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:35 PM
2

Thank you for your encouragement. I find LinkedIn so frustrating. I honestly think it has more to do with social anxiety than anything else. I will take your advice and see what happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:15 AM
1

Ohhhh nooooooooo 😳🤯😱🤮😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:27 AM
2

Goals!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:05 AM
2

“Struggling to be one step above banana slugs.” 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:03 PM
2

He’s not HV. RUN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:11 PM
2

I just got out of the Midwest and went back to the East Coast. The Midwest is a shithole full of gross men who refuse to take care of themselves or dress well. Love being back East and seeing guys who know how to dress and have hobbies other than murdering deer for trophies. Get the hell out of there ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:52 PM
1

That’s great advice for someone who is currently employed. I will keep that in mind for the future if/when I ever find a job and need a new one. EDIT: I apologize if that comes off snarky and rude. I just ran away to start my life over on the other side of the country so previous job/university/area connections don’t mean shit. Based on your advice, I just need to get more comfortable with cold calls/messages. Thank you for taking the time to respond and offering your advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:24 AM
2

I’m admittedly not very good at LinkedIn. I have no idea how to even begin making professional connections. Maybe that’s why my profile is a target for creepers. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:09 AM
2

Find an activity that comes with some kind of reward/achievement at the end, such as watching the AFI Top 100 Films or reading the Harvard Classics. I also personally advocate for organizing projects à la Marie Kondo because it’s the best and most productive I’ve felt in years. I find if the activity/hobby comes with a particular end goal, I get a lot more satisfaction from it. Once I achieve the goal, I’m motivated to find another hobby that gives me the same feeling. This keeps me away from bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:49 PM
2

Good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:38 PM
1

Anytime someone calls me intimidating, I give them the Grumpy Cat face and say “Good.” They just made life easier by sorting themselves out of the potential dating pool for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:05 PM
3

IKR?! I joined recently and so far the only messages I’ve received have been from random guys saying “Hey.” That’s it. Nothing else. Just “Hey.” It’s just like a OLD app. Disappointing. It’s definitely put me off using LinkedIn for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:45 PM
1

LMFAO!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:16 AM
2

Pretty bold of you to assume he even owns a large pot in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:14 AM
21

Thank you for introducing me to the term “manslate.” My life is forever changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:33 AM
4

I regret that I only have but one upvote to give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:43 AM
8

Love this. Thank you so much. I tried to post on one of the other dating subs the other day and immediately got shat all over by men. I ran back here as fast as I could. I am SO TIRED of men CONSTANTLY invalidating every thought, feeling, and experience I have. I am so grateful I finally found a place where women can talk about these issues without getting screamed at. You’re doing the world a great service. Thank you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:39 AM
1

Thanks for the nightmare fuel. :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:49 AM
9

I’ve been thinking this exact same thing all day. It’s so disillusioning and depressing. I have no solution to offer. I’m just here to say you’re not alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:10 AM
18

Did he work at Red Lobster? We might know the same guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:02 AM
23

I’ve encountered this exact set-up far too often. No frame is bad, no sheets are worse, and the bed existing as an island surrounded by trash and dirty clothes is the worst. But again, far too common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:01 AM
10

I’ve been seeing a guy this year who is really big on the gift giving as his love language. It can be really intense sometimes because I’m not used to positive attention from men. Still, I appreciate it. The best was when he just showed up at my apartment with four fully-assembled shelving units to help me organize my stuff. They are seriously the gift that keeps on giving. I was struggling to organize my stuff after moving so much in recent years. The shelves made all of my Pinterest fantasies …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 06:45 AM
2

Feminism is not about giving men credit for anything. It never has been and it never will be. It is about uplifting women and securing equality in a system designed to keep us down. Stop circlejerking on reddit in general, go to the library, and read an actual book. Show me you can understand feminism as a philosophy completely independent from yourself. Don’t do it to win an argument on reddit. Do it for your own personal enlightenment. Then maybe I’ll take your argument seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/20 06:03 AM
4

I’ve used the loud screaming tactic to chase away multiple creepers while traveling. It works the same way it would if you encountered a bear in the forest. You’re essentially making yourself bigger by projecting your voice. It also gets other people’s attention, so they run away pretty fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:17 PM
1

LOL WOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:39 AM
2

Seriously, bro? It’s the 100th anniversary of the 19th amendment. Do five minutes of research on what feminism actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 07:17 AM
0

I love how it has never once occurred to you that sexual trauma may play a part in this issue. Grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 07:15 AM
29

Both are about underachieving losers with depression who believe a Manic Pixie Dream Girl will save them from their mediocrity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:02 PM
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