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I don’t understand why you would choose. Just keep a healthy balance of both. Casual sex isn’t for everyone, and shouldn’t be presented as like a one size fits all thing, but for some people casual sex can absolutely be a healthy aspect of single life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 08:39 AM
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🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 08:07 AM
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Okay, so you’re saying that you dislike people’s actions. Aren’t actions a reflection of who a person is?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 08:05 AM
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The chocolate metaphor isn’t really shedding any light for me. Not only do people definitely like chocolate for things like look, texture, shape, etc, but taste is more like personality than action. You’re saying you have equal chance of liking or disliking every person in the world, and who they are has no bearing on that likelihood?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 08:03 AM
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That’s ridiculous. Of course people like or dislike each other. Not all personalities are compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 08:46 AM
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This isn’t going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 06:41 AM
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Get to the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 11:42 AM
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It’s important that we can hang with each other friends groups where neither of us embarrasses the other, but it’s good to have your own friends. Having couple friends where you both like them is nice though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 12:08 PM
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A couple million. No LDR though. Clean break.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 11:30 AM
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No. I would try and destroy it. Canada needs other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 04:33 AM
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Like to a woman or to a man? My female friends always have tampons on them, they help me braid my hair, they give me honest feedback on my outfits, there’s a sense of camaraderie that comes from shared experiences, you can have easy physical contact without it getting too sexy or crossing a line, they smell nice. Lots of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 03:44 AM
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Honestly, same.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 03:34 AM
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My husband is a teeny tiny 6’1 and I fuck him all the time. You’re welcome men!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 03:24 AM
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It’s definitely a varied group. I can’t think of any other community or group I participate in with an many opinions and backgrounds and experiences as we have here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 12:50 AM
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An effective president should accomplish the things he ran on. Where’s your fucking wall?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 12:31 AM
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Its the men in this sub who are obsessed with height. Ask them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 12:29 AM
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What is iar?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 12:19 AM
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I’m not talking about ranking, im talking about relevancy. This post is not about old black people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:52 PM
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That’s harsh but I respect your feelings. All I can hope is that this exchange will at least give you pause in the future, and ask yourself is this really about me? There aren’t as many vocal Asian and Latina women and it would be nice to hear from them. See you around.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:51 PM
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No, everyone one in awhile you say something interesting or relevant. I stick around for those rare gems. It just takes some digging.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:47 PM
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I don’t think I’ve ever called you a bitch? I don’t have an alt. No, just you. Usually I try and just ignore you but this was like particularly egregious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:44 PM
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Asian women age way better than white women. In my city they also dress way cooler. I’ve actually been trying to emulate it. They have this long skirt, shirt sweater combo that’s really cute. This has nothing to do with race superiority. It’s about asking you to make a little space for other POC. And also to just be a little less annoying in general. There are other reasons people might dislike you besides race. Have you ever considered that? Do you think that’s possible?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:35 PM
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Yes you are. You’re taking the attention from them. You’ve hijacked it. That’s a shame. Especially considering there are so many posts and comments where your experience is actually relevant. This just isn’t one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:24 PM
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When David Tennant was a sweater-wearing predator in Criminal, I could barely contain myself. Just fucking wow. Give me a tall slim white man with dark hair, big nose and a beard, and I am a happy camper. Luckily for me they are a dime a dozen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:22 PM
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This a debate sub during purge week. Unless I’m breaking the site wide rules, I can say whatever I want to you. Come on, is it really so hard to let Asian and Latina women have just one thing to themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:17 PM
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Do women really talk a lot about eating ass in this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:14 PM
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Plays lacrosse Blonde Loves basic beer
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:12 PM
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It’s not that you bring it up. It’s good to have a mix up people here. It’s that you bring it up constantly, all the time, every third comment, incessantly. And that you come across as so defensive towards a comment that has literally nothing to do with you. Not every exchange needs to be about being black. This one is for other people. Let the Latina’s and asians have at least a minute or two before you bring it back to black people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:10 PM
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Yeah and I think we’re going to genetically merge with bats and learn how to fly. It’s a prediction. It has merit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:04 PM
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Ew. Did you end up seeing it in time or did it move out of the way? Possums are little creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:03 PM
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Yeah, that’s not the kind of impact I’m talking about then lol. Hollywood has never been interested by middle America or in telling their stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:02 PM
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Lots of alcohol and wind.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:59 PM
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British accents (various iterations) are like the sexiest most charming sounds in the world. Hillbilly America just can’t compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:58 PM
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Are you talking about television becoming more liberal as a direct reaction to trump?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:57 PM
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Poppy needs to let everyone know at all times that she is old and she is black. It needs to be inserted into every exchange. But this truly had nothing to do with her. A white person talking about Asians and latinas. That involves poppy in no way whatsoever. They’re “mad at her” because she’s annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:55 PM
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No, trump is not the media. I very explicitly said I was talking about film, television, Hollywood.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:53 PM
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Well that’s it, that’s the whole sub. Incels and smug marrieds.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:52 PM
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If you’ve never had sex or dated, you have no business talking about sexual dynamics. You’re just an observer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:49 PM
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White rural America already has zero effect of any kind on the media, so that’s kind a moot point. Same with my social circle. If you’re not talking about the sexual attitudes of Muslim/Indian immigrants, then I think you might have misread the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:48 PM
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You’re neither Asian nor Latina, no? What does this have to do with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:46 PM
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The Canadian prairies doesn’t have Latina women, and the asians only talk to each other. I’m not worried.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:44 PM
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I think we might be nice for the purge, this won’t work if we have to keep saying we’re joking!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:42 PM
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I laid out three specific contexts: the media, politics/laws, and my own personal social circle. In 30 years do you think any of that will change wildly based on immigrants sexual attitudes?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:41 PM
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“Humour”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:36 PM
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Who has predicted that in 30 years the existing Hollywood liberal message will be replaced by a Muslim one? Is there any evidence of any kind to support this now? Anyone can make a prediction but it means nothing if it’s just been pulled out of your ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:36 PM
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Stop clinging to the past and trying to desperately police language around you. The world has moved past you, get over it. Try and foster more of a “could care less” attitude and it might help your stress levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:34 PM
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At what point? I haven’t seen any of this yet in Canada or in Australia.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:32 PM
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Would you all do it at the same time? That sounds like a fuckinfn epic disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:31 PM
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Which part?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:29 PM
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Ugh this is so obnoxious. Language is ever evolving. If you understand what someone means by a turn of phrase, why pretend you don’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:28 PM
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So where are you from? And your parents?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:27 PM
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What exactly do you mean by “culture”? Like media? White liberals are still going to be the ones making movies and television. Do you mean politically or legally? In Canada the Conservative party is still largely older white people. Our only brown political leader is pretty far left. Or do you mean like my personal social circle? Because while the country may be getting more diverse, my circle really isn’t. We’re all mostly middle class white people. Please define the “culture” that will be affe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:26 PM
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I like to compliment things like clothing or a new haircut. They’re less likely to think I’m hitting on them. At music festivals I pretty much compliment everyone I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:50 AM
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That depends, was the baby laughing with you at you? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:47 AM
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I think they’re similar in that some people can really make it work for them, and pull it off in a way that might actually make them more attractive. Like growing a great beard or maintaining a good hip/waist/tit ratio. A piece of unsolicited advice - if you’re going bald don’t try and hide it with a combover. Just shave it and cultivate a big beard. It can be a great look.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:45 AM
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Fuck drugs baby, just shower me in compliments. Love me that natural high.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 09:07 AM
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I’ve never personally gotten the appeal of younger men before, but I was hanging out with this kid at a festival this weekend and he was an absolute breath of fresh air. He literally looked cleaner each day, somehow, and was so eager to compliment. When we asked him how old we looked, he said 21 and winked. Then he drove off into the heat in his dope van.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 11:32 AM
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That’s one thing Brisbane has going for it. Never stays cloudy for long. I think I’d go stir crazy! Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 01:01 PM
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How are the temperatures? Mostly mild?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 12:56 PM
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Yes... it’s hot in the summer, that’s right. And the winter it’s cold and gets dark early. And I always associated the winter blues with the cold, but it’s definitely from the dark.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 12:54 PM
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The sun could rise at 2am and it wouldn’t help me lol. It needs to be up when I am. It’s just weird to me, being in a place that’s warm but dark. It’s so different than where I grew up. In Winnipeg when it’s hot the sun is out until like 830.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 12:49 PM
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Hmm maybe I’ll try taking vitamin D3. I’ll have to look into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 12:39 PM
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The sun sets before 6pm most of the year. I could get some more sun if I woke up really early, but I’m already up by 630am. And I am not a morning person. I miss my long Winnipeg summer nights.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 12:36 PM
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I’m not crazy about the heat but I definitely need the sun. It just feels so late by 8pm.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 11:37 AM
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I get it. Your wedding day is supposed to be the most beautiful, wonderful, amazing you’ve ever looked in your life. There will always be hiccups though. I got my period the night before. Trying to change a tampon in a fucking near ballgown was not exactly glamourous. I also didn’t notice until like a year later that I had bought a $150 jewelled belt and then just completely forgot to wear it. I’m sure you looked beautiful!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 11:36 AM
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I used to think the winter blues were mostly because it wasn’t so cold, but it’s definitely the lack of sun. I don’t know how people live in Brisbane for years and years like this. Every day I get home from work and by the time I get settled the sun is already down. So depressing. Thank god I have a festival coming up this weekend where I can just lounge in the sun for three days straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 09:58 AM
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My husband freaked out the other day because I was bending my middle toe up instead of down and he thought I was going to hurt myself. It’s just always done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 09:56 AM
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Fuck those pictures. Concentrate on the other angles, your smiling face and silhouette and front of your body. The best photos show your face anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 09:48 AM
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Lol I do cardio and yoga but I’m not “strong” by most measures.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 09:40 PM
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Why do women even need physical strength? In 30 years, I’ve done fine without it. Life tip for everyone: if you can’t open a jar, use a bottle opener to release the seal and it’s much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 09:34 PM
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Hmm, songs for living. These ones always make me happy: Closing Time - Leonard Cohen Can’t Keep a Good Man Down - Kevin Quain (or really anything from Hangover Honeymoon album) Because - Elliot Smith All of My Friends - LCD Soundsystem Aaaaaand my favourite song of all time: Common People - William Shatner. No joke, his version of this son is amazing. I could listen to it every day. The energy is so good. Of course, your flair is an amazing song too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 08:49 AM
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I have one of those nylon bags that folds up very small and I just carry it in my purse. It’s so easy. I used to be that girl that always forgot her reusables at home but now there’s no excuse. I carry a metal straw with me, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 08:12 AM
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I want Strangers to play at my funeral. Such a beautiful song.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 08:10 AM
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Hmmm men in porn are almost universally ugly. Not into the combo of hairlessness, big round body parts, and tribal tattoos. It’s hard for me to picture a man I would find attractive in that occupation - it’s difficult to separate. I did find James Deen really attractive before the rape accusations. I guess if a guy looked like him, wasn’t in porn anymore, and wasn’t so famous that family members could easily stumble upon him, then yeah, I’d date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 08:00 AM
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Did you feel something changed overnight?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 11:30 AM
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We’ve been together for close to 12 years and married just over one. I guess what’s surprised me is that nothing feels different at all. I was never too fussed about marriage and would have been fine if we never did it. But I thought maybe something would be different. Things are great, but the same as when we were dating. I guess it’s added a new joke to our repertoire - threatening divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 07:05 AM
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What a banger
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 11:15 AM
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I think that’s a great idea. I don’t think any young person should spend too much time on here - it can be awfully toxic. Are you still in high school?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 05:20 AM
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I can’t take this kind of thing seriously. To think that women view 80% of men as subhuman is just so melodramatic. You guys would be a lot happier if you just chilled out a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 02:19 AM
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God this is such a tired response.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 12:40 AM
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Can’t those men just think about it in practical terms and try and take the emotional sting out of it? Like I know that there are women out there who are much better looking than I am, and that they experiences benefits from this that I don’t. There are things that I can do that help make up for it. I am cheerful, easy going, work hard at my job and treat my friends and family well. Would I have to be so nice and work so hard if I were drop dead gorgeous? No, I don’t think so. But this doesn’t s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 12:38 AM
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While it might be beneficial for some kids, overall I don’t think it’s very healthy to separate the genders like that. You’re going to view the other group like some alien species, and have difficulty interacting with them. Mixed friendship groups are ideal for being a socially well adjusted person. The older you are before you try and get that, the harder it will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 11:38 PM
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No, I would not. If there were no actual benefit to me, I wouldn’t want to take something away from someone strictly in the name of fairness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 02:54 AM
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Yes, that one makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 11:38 AM
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Yes, I most definitely said “who would want” that kind of relationship. It was like the entirety of my comment. People in dead bedrooms don’t want to be there. So it was a pretty sally response to my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 11:37 AM
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I’ve heard about those but never actually met any.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 08:26 AM
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Thanks, this is my first day here. Do you think people want to be in a dead bedroom?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 08:26 AM
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Why would anyone be in a relationship where they didn’t have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:41 AM
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That’s why I asked you if men actually want to use the women’s washroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:40 AM
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Like the individual bathroom has both a toilet and a urinal in it? In Australia the public toilets are gender neutral and men just pee in the toilet. Seems to work fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:30 AM
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You just said you were only bothered by the fairness of it. If you’re at a place where the men’s bathroom is shut down, yes I think you should be able to use the women’s. If you just don’t want to go to another floor, suck it up (same with women). Honestly I just think they should all be gender neutral. But if the only reason you care is because of some sense of unfairness, that’s silly to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:28 AM
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I don’t understand why those kind of bathrooms are even gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:24 AM
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So there wouldn’t actually be any benefit to you if you could use the women’s washroom. You just don’t want women to have that “benefit”. I don’t understand this obsession people have with fairness for fairness sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:20 AM
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I wouldn’t use the men’s washroom. Do men want to use the women’s washroom or are you just bothered by it because of the “fairness” of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:18 AM
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Interesting. Obviously my main social circle is like that to some stent, but most people I know seem to like just chilling at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 08:55 AM
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I pick at my skin too, but I’m grateful it’s concentrated on my scalp and soles of my feet where people don’t usually see it. I’ve been growing out my nails the past few years and that’s really helped curb it (along with a general reduction in anxiety).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 06:53 AM
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Oh man, I was the opposite. I quit drinking and I feel things much less intensely. It’s been a good thing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 06:51 AM
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I’m an alcoholic and compulsive liar. I’ll lie about small things that aren’t even really a big deal because it just seems easier sometimes. I’m a people pleaser and will go out of my way to do things for people, and if they then begin relying on me I’ll resent them for it. I’m extroverted and get very bored and boring if I have nothing going on. I like to go out 4-5 times a week. I’m much healthier and happier than I used to be though. I quit drinking 3 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 06:49 AM
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Then what is your comment in regards to?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 06:40 AM
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What exactly do you think the difference is?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 06:35 AM
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He’s a very interesting performer to watch. Very animated, lots of movement. Saw the Punch Brothers earlier this year and it was one of the best live shows I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 04:27 AM
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Long fingers, knobby wrists and a nice watch is such an attractive combo.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 12:27 PM
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I haven’t because my partner would never. But I’d consider it. Not a completely open relationship, but the odd threesome, swap or one night stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:04 AM
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I like tall slim men with dark hair, scruffy facial hair, bright eyes and large hands. Think David Tennant, Hugo Lloris, Chris Thile and Jeff Goldblum. My husband fulfils this type. Celebrities that don’t fit this type but I still find really attractive are Oscar Isaac and Alfie Allan. I want men to look angular, not round. Get too muscular and you almost look soft. Everything looks a bit like a boob. Arnie and Dolph have goofy looking faces too. Not into the big jaws. The truth is that you’re n…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 09:19 AM
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Let’s say my husband died last year and I was looking to start dating. I would date the really hot guy, and I wouldn’t marry either of them. I’d just want to have some fun. If he were like a server or a bartender or some other grown up job (not McDonald’s), that would be fine. As long as he could afford to take care of himself, because I certainly don’t make enough for two people. He would fit in better with my primary social circle because a lot of them are heavy drinkers with flexible schedule…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 11:14 AM
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But that’s irrelevant to the comment chain. I’m saying I wouldn’t want to date a 30 year old virgin and you jumped in by saying it’s because women demand someone better. No, it’s because a 30 year old virgin is a weirdo. Straightforward. Personally, my husband is better at certain things than I am, and I’m better than him in some ways. I’m having a hard time thinking of a couple I know where the man is better in every way. Is that really how you see most relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 07:24 AM
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I married someone “at my level”, and our sexual experience was essentially identical. I don’t feel lucky to be with him, just happy. A 30 year old virgin is undeniably abnormal. How could you argue with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 05:16 AM
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OK now I can't help but notice your double standard in calling out "off topic" pet peeves. You’re using “double standard” incorrectly. She didn’t saying anything remotely similar to the myth that looks don’t matter. The user I responded to already admitted to just shit posting. There’s nothing to defend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 05:10 AM
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Don’t aim to be as bad as everyone else. Aim to be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 04:57 AM
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I’ve said it many times on this sub. White lies make the world go round.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 04:54 AM
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I am so bored of these posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 03:45 AM
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I would be the cool rich aunt who travels a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 10:54 PM
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Yep, it was very recent.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 10:53 PM
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I didn’t think so. You have a skewed sample. I’ve posted every day for like three years. I don’t mean this like “do you know who I am” bullshit. I just mean that I think your information is only based on like five people. This would be an interesting thing to look at but I think it would take a ton of work to calculate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 01:38 PM
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Do you know where I live?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 01:34 PM
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How did you calculate this? ETA I think everyone with an office job just posts at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 01:00 PM
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I would strongly encourage a man who wants a healthy sex life to avoid 30 year old virgins as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 04:41 AM
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He just wants to be h o n e s t. Something this sub seems to value above all else. To their detriment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 01:50 AM
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IMO the issue here is that nobody is talking about looks at all, but a user still managed to shoehorn this into the conversation. I can understand why it can be confusing for young men to hear women say that looks aren’t everything, and misinterpret that. Young people are not known for their nuance and subtlety. Black and white thinking is quite common. But this is a sub devoted to debating sex and dating. This kind of nonsense should get left at the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 01:47 AM
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I believe that you believe that women have said that to you. You even see it in this post somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 12:34 AM
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I have literally never told my male friends that looks don’t matter lol. My friends are also all fully grown men so this wouldn’t be like shocking news to them. This whole “looks don’t matter” thing only ever comes up on reddit and from grandmas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 12:31 AM
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I do care. This myth that women pretend looks don’t matter is a pet peeve of mine. It’s like a verbal tic men on this sub have, but not something I’ve ever heard an actual woman say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 12:27 AM
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How did your comment relate to this post/thread? Was it just like an automatic response? No one is talking about looks here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 12:23 AM
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There is quite literally not a single comment in this thread where someone says they don’t care about looks. It amazes me the way you guys can continually see this message where it doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 12:17 AM
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Absolutely - why is he telling her this before they’ve even met??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 12:12 AM
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Yeah, I have a few friends who took awhile to come out of the closet, too. I’m being glib, but if a man has little to no interest in sex or women, of course that will be a turn off for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 12:04 AM
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Sure I guess if she directly asks you online and you can’t finesse your way around it, you should lie. She’s commuted a social faux pas, give it right back to her. I don’t understand why a woman would ask this online. It’s so gross to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 10:06 PM
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You don’t even have to outright lie. Just don’t spill all your secrets before you’ve even met in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:59 PM
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I have trouble imagining a man my age that I would find attractive who would have such little experience. Either he’s physically unattractive, or socially something is off, or he has made a conscious choice not to have much sex. But I feel the first two would become apparent before we got to the point of dating. The third isn’t a turn off, but we would be massively incompatible. Seems like he has a sexual hangup. How could someone be college-educated, funny, emotionally intelligent and attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:58 PM
4

I probed a bit and asked if he had any girls wanting him now or if he was trying to improve his looks by hitting the gym. A woman said this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:51 PM
1

I wasn’t feeling it when I first heard of it but the final trailer is actually really intriguing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 08:49 AM
1

102 minutes that changed America, or something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 07:42 AM
2

I feel like you’ve been resurrected just to see the new Joker movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 07:41 AM
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No, you’re getting defensive because you didn’t read the linked material and so your initial response is completely off base. “Never phone the cops on strangers” is an indefensible position, unless you support full anarchy or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 08:45 PM
3

This was a white dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 08:42 PM
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I don’t really understand. Both of your relationships ended because you left. You get crushes on women but don’t pursue them, and by all accounts your colleagues like and respect you. Are you sure relationships aren’t for you? It seems like you haven’t given them a chance. That’s not to say that you need women and relationships to be happy. But your loneliness seems like it might be a problem you’re having inside, not one based on your external circumstances. Have you heard “wherever you go, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 09:41 PM
3

I remember at thanksgiving at my grandmas cabin my cousin made a sand mermaid and then they lit her tits on fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 12:22 PM
3

I love eggplant stir fried in black bean sauce with zucchini and onion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 12:19 PM
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This is always the “strategy” I’ve seen work best. Be the life of the party and eventually women will want to have sex with you. Especially party girls who just want the night to keep going. Always go the after party.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 12:17 PM
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Im going to put aside “entitled”, and say that it’s not even healthy or beneficial to know absolutely everything. I feel like for the people who don’t really give a shit, it’s not going to be a positive. And for the people who very much give a shit, knowing every sex act your partner engaged in every time, it’s going to fuck with you head. Share the broad strokes with your partner to gauge compatibility, but don’t get down to the nitty gritty (unless that’s something you both get off on, I guess…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 12:14 PM
4

Scottish accents (when I can understand them) are hot as hell to me. Sounds very playful and flirty.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 07:29 AM
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This is how the bureau of labour defines it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 11:28 AM
1

My husband got a job offer so we decided, why not? It wasn’t really something we sought out, it fell into our laps. For one thing we’re in a bigger city, so that’s cool. Lots to do. Less visible homeless people and drug problems - but the ones who are running around visibly high seem extra crazy. City is cleaner, a lot more green space. A lot more open racism though, and socially backwards when it comes to things like abortion, drug testing, etc. Their values don’t really line up with mine so I …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 09:43 PM
3

I, a woman, may not have the understanding of women’s only gyms that you, a man, do. Suuuure.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 08:33 PM
1

Winnipeg but I don’t live there right now. I’ve been in Australia.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 06:38 AM
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That’s a pretty poor argument IMO. It doesn’t address why yoga pants wouldn’t be functional for working out (how is stretchy fabric a detriment?), it doesn’t take into account the benefit of progress (change can be good), and it ignores the fact that western yoga is a far cry from what’s practiced in India.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 06:37 AM
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Yeah don’t tell women that. Inexperience is unattractive to most women. They don’t want to teach you the ropes of dating. They want to hold hands, not hold your hand if you see what I’m saying. Honesty is not the best policy. Especially when you’re trying to make a first impression. You can reveal that stuff down the road once she’s already invested a little. If ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 04:29 AM
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That’s what I wear. Love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 04:14 AM
1

As someone who has been to both women’s only gyms and mixed gyms, I can assure you the clothing is pretty much the same. How can you be so confident about something you have no way of knowing the truth about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 04:12 AM
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Insecurity I assume. It’s not really socially acceptable for men to walk around with the outline of their balls on display. When you look at sports/activities where clothing can get in the way, you do see men wear form fitting clothing. Look at swimming, wrestling, competitive cycling, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 04:11 AM
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I do not. I’ve done yoga in baggy loose pants and I’ve done yoga in leggings. Leggings have always been the preferable option. When you’re doing a lot of quick movements, form fitting clothing doesn’t get in your way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 04:08 AM
2

Yes, you can literally see the shirt hanging down and touching his face.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 04:06 AM
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You know how men work. Go to an all woman gym and they dress the same as in a mixed gym. It’s obviously not (just) for male attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 11:47 PM
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And it didn’t bother you having the shirt hang down into your face?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 11:46 PM
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I think you're really pushing on how much "hot yoga" drives female athletic clothes. It is a massive influence. It’s undeniable. That dude looks uncomfortable. You can see where the shirt is brushing against his face - and it’s actually a pretty tight fitting shirt! I’m asking if you personally have ever worn loose clothing while doing yoga. I want to know if you understand what I’m talking about or if you’re just trying to imagine what it would be like.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 09:41 PM
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I’ll try a third time. How are yoga pants not functional for working out? I don’t care what your one buddy on Canada does. Canada is a massive country, and to say some sweeping generalization about the weather is ridiculous, and honestly kind of damages your credibility as an authority on women’s clothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 09:39 PM
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Saying “other clothing is functional, too” is not an answer. You said men wear clothing for function, women wear clothing for social interaction. How are yoga pants not functional is working out? (like how there is no reason to use a light skirt or dress in places like Canada, yet they do it Canada is the second biggest country in the world. Do you have any idea how much the climate and temperatures can vary from place to place and season to season? It regularly hits the 30s in my city - why on …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 09:16 PM
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I’ve never seen a man wear a shirt in hot yoga. Yoga’s been popular for decades, and before yoga there was aerobics. Hugely popular among women and an exercise that require clothing that didn’t move much. That trickled down to exercise clothing as a whole. Seriously have you ever down downward dog in loose clothing? How did you tolerate it??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 09:04 PM
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How are yoga pants not functional for working out?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 08:47 PM
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Because a lot of workouts that are primarily done by women require clothing that won’t move around. If you’ve ever done yoga, barre or Pilates in basketball shorts and a baggy T-shirt, you’d know how distracting it is. Downward dog in loose clothing means a T-shirt hanging in your face, or your knees getting caught in your own shorts when you’re moving into warrior. If you want to see men’s skin, go to a hot yoga class. I’m sure for some women there’s an element of attention seeking, but my yoga…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 08:39 PM
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That’s very silly to me. If a man welcomes a woman’s advances or touching, I don’t see a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 02:48 AM
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“Harassment” is “okay” is the man doesn’t feel bothered by it. If he welcomes it. If two people enjoy an interaction, why would a third party want to police it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 12:21 AM
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This does not address my question. Why would an attractive heterosexual man want to beat up an attractive woman for making a sexual advance? Basically my question is are men actually bothered by these advances the same way women are? All we seem to be hearing from is men reacting to hypothetical advances. I’d like to hear from the men who actually experience this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 12:20 AM
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Go up the chain a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 10:14 PM
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Whatever suggestion was made by the poster about physical violence as a retaliation for harassment, I am not arguing the point. Then please get out of this comment chain. That’s the matter we’re discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 10:08 PM
1

I told him I’d watch Rush Hour next week so hoping I’ve salvaged it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 09:55 PM
1

Were talking about whether or not a man should beat up someone who touches him. Anna Kendrick didn’t touch Ryan Gosling. I’m asking you why would Chris Evans beat up Hayley Atwell?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 09:45 PM
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No. I’m a human being, not a right winger’s cartoon boogeyman. I didn’t say anything about criminal judgment. If a woman touches a man, and he’s not bothered or actually enjoys it, what’s the issue? Is it just about Fairness for its own sake? Why would a man want to beat up a woman over something that didn’t bother him? That’s ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 09:42 PM
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Every example you listed is a hot woman. If a guys not bothered, what’s the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 12:57 PM
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Why would a straight man beat up an attractive woman for touching him or making a sexual advance?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 12:49 PM
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People still make sexual comments and jokes about women all the time. You’re just so used to it you don’t notice it. Remember the glory hole joke on Countdown? So funny. And miraculously no outcry, no lost jobs, so lynchings of any kind!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 12:43 PM
2

Dragged my husband to see Solaris today. Wow, I know pacing has changed over the years but that movie is sloooow. The theatre was so quiet we had to dissolve the popcorn in our mouths and I could hear someone’s stomach growling. I think I’d prefer the book.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 09:30 AM
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Yuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 07:07 AM
1

Yep. You can’t control what you think, but you can control what you say and do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 12:47 AM
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I would be uncomfortable, give him a regular tip, and never go back to that restaurant because of the shit customer service.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 12:11 AM
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If you know you don’t like their haircut, then telling them you’re not sure about it is a white lie. If directly asked about a meal you dislike, withholding that is a white lie. Direct honesty is hurtful, because sometimes human beings have negative thoughts about other people. Filtering your thoughts to soften the blow to those around you is a form of lying. That’s life. You’re either a liar or an asshole. Some other people are both but no one is neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 12:09 AM
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So you’re telling me that you look people you love in the eye and say things like “actually your new haircut doesn’t look good”, “yes, I did notice the steak was a little burnt and it’s kind of gross”, “your laugh is annoying the hell out of me today”? I just don’t understand the benefit in saying hurtful things to loved ones that don’t really matter in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 09:39 PM
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A lot of the people on the internet seem to say this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 02:13 PM
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People are lying to you every day. You love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 12:21 PM
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Honesty is just contingent on attraction. What do you mean by this?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 02:31 AM
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I’d be single. I’d have no friends. My relationship with my family would go up in smoke. Real bummer all around. White lies make world go round.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 02:27 AM
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I’m ENTP and my husband if ISTJ. We’ve been together over 12 years. It works because we have separate lives - different hobbies, interests, friends, etc - and we’re happy with it. I like that he’s so different. It makes things interesting. It would seem so boring to me if we did everything together.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 02:25 AM
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Abortions are waaaaaay cheaper than kids. But you’re right, the government does pay for a ton of things. And in the past, people gotta really sick of paying for unwanted kids. So they found a solution. I guess if enough people decide they’re willing to pay for other people’s kids again, they’ll go back to letting dad’s off the hook.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 10:43 AM
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Except for the taxpayers who didn’t have unprotected sex but now have to pay for someone else’s kid in the form of welfare. I’d be fine with contributing financially to unwanted children, but many people are not. It’s why the government started chasing bio dads in the first place. People were sick of a welfare state.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 10:35 AM
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No, OP has said he’d rather it be banned than it be unfair. He explicitly said fairness matters to him above all else.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 10:27 AM
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I’ve made my position clear all over this thread. Men can’t have abortions because they cannot get pregnant. That is not a valid reason to ban abortions, as OP has suggested multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 09:07 AM
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I’m against the idea that abortions should be banned simply because men can’t have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 09:04 AM
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Chris O’Dowd is over 6 feet tall, has a cute face and an Irish accent. We should all be so lucky as to get stuck with a dud like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:51 AM
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🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:47 AM
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I will not reconsider. Blanket universal fairness and tit for tat for its own sake is not something I will support.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:39 AM
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Sigh, we’ve gone over this before. Yes, she can use birth control. And she has a second choice unavailable to men because they do not carry the fetus: abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:38 AM
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That’s life, baby. Men and women are inherently different.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:10 AM
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And he ejaculated in a woman. An important step on the road to pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:08 AM
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I’m fine with the things are, personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:04 AM
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They’d have to get pregnant first. I’m sure that if men could get pregnant, they’d be allowed to get abortions, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:00 AM
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Of course women could be forced to pay child support. Like in a divorce where the father is the primary caregiver.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 07:57 AM
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Soooo I feel like you missed a very important word in my comment. I said outlawing slavery had many positive benefits. For one thing, people were no longer slaves. My statement had nothing to do with economics. While there are zero positive benefits IMO to forcing couples who do not want children to carry a baby to term.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 07:55 AM
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Technically child support has nothing to do with biology either. The laws aren’t gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 07:45 AM
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Whatever word captures that sick, disgusting, nauseating hypocrisy is the word I was looking for I believe the word you’re looking for is “biology”. Men and women’s bodies are just built differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 07:39 AM
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I’m not talking about what you wish the world were like - I’m talking about how it actually is. Abortion exists and it’s an option women exercise every day. That is agency.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 07:01 AM
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Here’s the thing about pregnancy: only women can experience it. So while it may not be “fair” that men’s options do not include abortion, unless we make some insane scientific progress, that’s life. So yes, women can make the guy wear a condom. But they can also get an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 06:55 AM
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They have the agency to get an abortion. Abortions already exist. You’re acting like they aren’t an option. Unfortunately as men can’t carry children, this is not an option to them. How is a woman having an abortion not an exercise in agency?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 06:53 AM
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Outlawing slavery had many positive benefits for many people. Unwanted babies do not. You’re trying to make an emotional plea by comparing apples and oranges. What is the positive impact of forcing women to bring babies to term that they don’t want, and the fathers don’t want?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 06:44 AM
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So your proposal is to just go back and forth between two options you already know men won’t be happy with. Why bother changing it at all then. Why so much needless work to change from one form of unhappiness to another? Nah, might as well just go with starvation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 04:49 AM
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If men go back to that same world - massive welfare state - they’ll just want to change it back to how it is now. Mass starvation is the only real solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 04:44 AM
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No, there’s this new horror movie that came out earlier in the summer about a cult in Sweden. From the same guy who directed Hereditary. Really gruesome and beautiful. What is Midsommar Murders? It sounds a bit like miss marple, Agatha Christie territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 04:42 AM
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And you’re living in a fantasy world where these children will just starve to death on the streets and no one will notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 04:38 AM
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For what reason should abortion be banned beyond general fairness?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 04:36 AM
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It’s about the right to choose. Like how feminism can advocate for both access to abortion and paid mat leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 04:35 AM
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Lol yeah let’s see. Dave Chappelle for president.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 04:33 AM
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It takes place in Sweden.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 04:32 AM
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They did the same thing with his last special. How many lives did that one change?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 03:50 AM
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Fairness for its own sake has never appealed to me. There should be a tangible benefit to doing something. What you’re recommending will have only negative consequences, for both men and women. FYI the standup saturation on Netflix is crazy. This special isn’t going to start any wars. Dave Chappelle isn’t going to win over any hearts and minds with this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 03:23 AM
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Banning abortion will only increase the number of unwanted babies the rest of us will have to pay for. There is zero benefit to bringing a baby to term when neither the mother nor the father want it. Arbitrary “fairness” is not a benefit IMO. Life’s not fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 03:13 AM
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The only alternative is increased welfare. The rest of us will have to pay for the poor decisions of a few.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 03:07 AM
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A tide pod.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 03:00 AM
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“Spicy meatball”. Does she look like Snooki lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 12:04 AM
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This illustrates how people can say the same thing and mean something else entirely. When I call someone handsome, I mean it like cold and objectively. Like Brad Pitt is undeniably handsome, but I don’t spend any time thinking of how I’d like to bone brad Pitt. If I call someone cute, I mean I personally see the appeal. And if I call him hot, watch out. I think that’s universal though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 12:02 AM
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I don’t think “beautiful” is necessarily gendered, it’s just not very sexy. Like your grandma will tell you you’re looking beautiful, or you might describe a golden retriever that way. It’s not like calling someone pretty, which IMO is primarily used for women. Having said that, I can’t imagine my husband getting offended because I called him beautiful. There’s nothing remotely negative about it. Just make sure you also throw in some sexier compliments every one in awhile. It’s not backhanded, l…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 11:58 PM
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It’s honestly hard to tell in this sub sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 11:52 PM
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It’s never even crossed my mind. If someone’s “inferiority” isn’t turning me off, then it’s not a problem. The only exception would be a high likelihood of passing on a difficult illness to a child. Even then it’s not really about morality, it’s about my personal feelings on raising that child.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 10:57 PM
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It’s a 666 reference. Number of the beast.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 10:51 PM
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Yes, but only because we were both virgins when we met. Which would have clearly been obvious on both sides once we had sex, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 08:57 PM
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I don’t really have advice, just good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 11:58 AM
1

Finally saw Midsommar. I feel like with some minor tweaks I could really thrive in that community.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 11:57 AM
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I think it only makes men gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 04:15 AM
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Nah, mostly trashy suburban noir mysteries. Sometimes I actually feel dumber afterwards. Some good ones though. Just started one about the Mount Everest disaster of 2006.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 04:14 AM
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I just finished annihilation and I really enjoyed it. Great slow burn science fiction. Fever Dream by Samanta Schweblin was also really good. Weird little book.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 08:33 PM
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Set a goal to read 24 books this year and I just finished my 17th. Two ahead of schedule!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 12:50 PM
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Fairly popular normie engineering student who loves football and video games. Upper middle class, worked at a supermarket. Cute and tall but never had sex before. We had sex in my moms basement before my shift at McDonalds.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 12:46 PM
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It’s a little different in long term relationships. Like if you’re living together or married it’s unlikely they’re gonna take off just because you brought up an issue. Every long term couple will have discussed a problem at some point. You just need to decide what’s worth bringing up. No one wants to be with someone they perceive as constantly whining.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 06:58 AM
2

What was your longest relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 05:50 AM
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Thanks, this perfectly illustrated to me how men are being sold into sexual slavery. I feel enlightened, moved, open to new ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 05:48 AM
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What does it say about this sub that I have no idea if you’re being sarcastic or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 07:02 AM
1

Why would a person choose to compete in something they’re awful at when they could just run in the park?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 04:03 AM
5

Why would a grown man with no athletic prowess get into fights or compete in matches and races?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 08:35 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 08:32 PM
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Aw that’s sad. I don’t think I know anyone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 10:48 AM
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Got my first tattoo a couple weeks ago. Really happy with the design and how it turned out. Hard to take a good photo but the placement looks really good IRL. Already planning my next one. Want to get another by the same artist before I move back to Canada.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 10:46 AM
2

Congrats! Do you like the guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 10:30 AM
2

Khhv?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 10:27 AM
2

I’m curious as to why only one of the creators is coming back.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 10:25 AM
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One mans “morally reprehensible” is another man’s Friday night.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 12:38 PM
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It sounds like she’s asking for your perspective. Do you, personally, think of “morally upright” when you hear “good personality”?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 07:21 AM
1

I’m not really into emojis.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 04:16 AM
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No, it’s boring if you find that kind of restrictive lifestyle boring. It’s subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 04:16 AM
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That’s great, we’d obviously be an awful match lol. Boring is in the eye of the beholder. You asked for women’s opinions, I’ve given you mine. No sugar and cheat meals a couple times a month? Sounds absolutely unbearable. Don’t take it personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 11:26 AM
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As a health buff I watch out about every stuff that enters my body (taking highest quality multivitamins , homegrown food , no sugars , cut out bad carbs and only a cheat day every 2 weeks while also training competitively). This sounds like a real buzzkill. It’s not the performance enhancing drugs themselves that bother me - it’s the incredibly boring lifestyle that goes with it. Not for me. I don’t think I know anyone who uses PEDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 10:13 AM
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Oh no, I hope you don’t have to stop commenting here!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 10:09 AM
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Because maybe they’re 80% and you need to make the final moves correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 10:42 PM
3

We talk about family and work and tv and weather and news. I don’t think I’ve ever asked for relationship advice, and she rarely gives it unsolicited. She once told me I shouldn’t settle down so quickly, that I should date around. That’s the only advice I remember getting in my adult life (and I was only 18).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 08:48 PM
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Absolutely the second option. I’d rather have a partner and a loving family than a super child. I don’t care if my kid is average. I’m hardly a genius myself. If you are raising a child with the explicit purpose of them being extremely successful, that seems like a pressure cooker and a recipe for disaster. Especially when I’m pretty average myself. I’d hate to devote my life to living through another person. I’d hope I could provide them with the support to life their own lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 03:10 AM
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Time to buy an Eagles record.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:40 PM
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I’m asking you if your personal experience with a long term relationship is hypothetical, or if it’s an actual lived experience? Have you had these little implications directed at you from a partner, or is it just how you imagine it would be?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:03 AM
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Have you ever been in a long term relationship, or is this largely hypothetical?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 06:37 AM
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Oh I’m sorry to hear that. That makes sense to me. Sometimes the matriarch is so fundamentally in charge that it leaves a huge vacuum when they’re gone. You see families where one person does everything, and while it’s great while it lasts, it really cements the roles so 35 year old people haven’t taken on anymore responsibility since they were 15. My sister and I are trying to avoid that happening in our family by taking turns hosting, even though my stepmom is still young and healthy. Just to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 01:12 AM
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Wow that’s crazy to me. At all the barbecues I go to the men do a lot of the grilling but the women do all the prep and sides and desserts, etc. I don’t think my social group is particularly unique in this regard but I could be wrong. Why do you guys tolerate it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 12:58 AM
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When you go to dinners and events at other peoples houses, are you saying that the women don’t do any of the cooking or hosting? Is it that the men do all of it, or do people have to make their own meals?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 10:47 PM
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Sure that’s fine - but the target demographic is young people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 01:09 PM
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Yeah he enjoys it. I like hearing about it sometimes and it’s nice to see him to involved and competent in something, but personally I have no real interest in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 11:39 AM
1

Nocturnal Animals. Lots to say about hypergamy and masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 06:45 AM
2

Just because something is icky doesn’t mean it needs to be illegal. I think people who text in movie theatres are the scum of the earth, but it doesn’t mean I think they should get thrown in jail. The answer to everything you dislike shouldn’t be “lock em up!”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 06:43 AM
1

For me a big change was just making an effort to check in regularly. If you want to go to the movies after work you have to give them a heads up even if they don’t care and you have no plans together. If you make a snack at 5pm you have to let them know in case they want dinner at 6pm. If I want to stay out all night with a friend it needs to be planned in advance or it looks like I just got too wasted to come home. And we don’t even spend that much time together. It’s not like we’re chatting al…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 06:39 AM
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You’re talking about individual people in real relationships and asking them to take their personal feelings out of it. That’s pretty much impossible. Imagine a husband telling his wife he wants a paternity test just in case she was secretly raped and didn’t tell him about it. That sounds crazy to me. Of course he could actually be thinking that, but unless she’s been raped she’s going to assume he thinks she’s cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 10:56 PM
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This music is not directed at you. Don’t take offence as I’m older than you, but you are no longer part of the “cool hip” demographic. You’re just a bystander taking in the message. Billie Eilish is meant for teenagers and people under 22, and is meant to influence them to have sex with each other. Not old people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 10:53 PM
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Why don’t men just secretly get a mail away paternity test after the kid is born? They get the peace of mind and no one gets insulted. How can you not see the connection between infidelity and paternity? How could she be having someone else’s baby if not due to infidelity? Surely you can see why from the woman’s perspective why these are not totally separate conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 09:48 PM
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Has anyone in this sub ever seen Billie Eilish? She dresses almost exclusively in basketball shorts and technicolor garbage bags. What a weird example to use. She has stated in interviews that she dresses like that to avoid sexualization and critique of her body. Just because one teenager, who has an entire money-making team behind her, sings about sex, doesn’t mean it’s going to be socially acceptable to hit on some kid in your neighbourhood. If you want to fantasize in your head, by all means …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 09:41 PM
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It’s literally how it’s described in the subs sidebar. It’s not a uniquely female definition of blue pill, it’s also PPDs definition of blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 08:44 PM
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Blue pill just means I don’t believe red pill theory is based in reality or applies to most women. It’s a not it’s own set of beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 08:36 PM
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My husband is a civil engineer, so lots of traffic/parking studies, city planning, roadwork, etc. All transportation based. I’m sure some aspects are interesting but overall it’s far from exciting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 12:36 PM
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Anything creative is interesting - music, art, advertising, etc. Any profession kindergarteners love is interesting - firefighter, teacher, pilot, zookeeper. Most jobs are boring, including mine and my husbands (insurance and engineering). TBH I’m having a hard time thinking of any job that’s “hot”. Seeing a man perform is hot, so I guess professional musician. Job doesn’t really matter to me though, as long as they make decent money and our schedules are compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 11:36 AM
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As long as you’re not crossing a legal line or bothering anyone to the point security gets involved, yeah, go ahead and keep asking. Not sure what the point would be though. If the girls not interest, find someone who is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 04:12 AM
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Lol you don’t owe honesty to a total stranger, especially when the lie is harmless.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 09:54 PM
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Have different interests and do some activities separate from each other. This way you’ll always be learning new things from and about your partner. Having your lives keeps you interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 07:05 AM
1

I only really remember masks and nudity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 11:15 AM
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In an ideal world, everything you do would benefit both yourself and the people around you - even people you don’t know yet. But in the real world, sometimes the things that benefit you are purely selfish acts. They might make your future partner uncomfortable or hurt their feelings. The idea that prioritizing your own pleasure or well-being over a hypothetical spouse makes you an ass is ludicrous to me. Where do you personally draw the line? When do you have to start placing a hypothetical pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 11:12 AM
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Why not address the actual post you’re commenting in?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 04:07 AM
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If the human in question wants to have a spouse but does not care about being the best partner, does not care about making decisions that will benefit their future spouse then that person is an ass (IMO). This seems like such an extreme position to me - prioritizing a person you haven’t met yet above all else. Where do you draw the line? At what point would you encourage someone to put themselves first?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 04:06 AM
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When I worked in a big office with mostly women there was some flirting but nothing too overt. Some people would date, and it seemed to happen more often after one or the other would quit. Personally I think it’s a bit of harmless fun but not really for me. I’m pretty boring at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 09:03 AM
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The idea of someone in the western world in 2019 not having sex before marriage is mind-blowing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 10:03 AM
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Teenage boys need to lessons in hygiene so I’d start there. I’d also encourage him to go out and have fun. Go to parties, have a few drinks, enjoy yourself. Have a mixed friend group. If you’re not good at sports, learn the guitar. Beyond that I wouldn’t get too involved. Kids learn about best about socialization from other kids, not their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 10:01 AM
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I don’t think I’d look. I don’t want to know every little thing about my partners life. What he says on reddit to other people is his business.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 12:52 PM
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I’m a 2. I’ve had sexual encounters with women but I prefer men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/19 05:10 AM
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Being perfectly honest? I’d have to say the noise cancelling headphones he got me this past Christmas. I use them literally every day. They are so good and nothing I would every but for myself as I suspect they were quite expensive. Not very romantic, but oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 04:06 AM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 08:38 AM
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Definitely not. I can’t imagine how awful it would feel to spend 9 months growing a life instead you while you watch the father die. And he has to watch you experience pregnancy while knowing he’ll never be able to parent that child. Death is hard. Newborns are hard. Dealing with both at the same time is a nightmare. He’ll just have to live on through his friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 05:20 AM
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I actually enjoy the FSM. I really like being liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 06:47 AM
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Dr Death was so good. It hooked me immediately. Do you listen to Casefile? It’s my favourite. I feel like it has the most empathy for the victims and paints the most vivid picture of what happened. Excellent production value.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 11:28 PM
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Come on, don’t give up now. I believe you had a real point when you made this post, you just haven’t made it very clear. How did you porn addiction manifest? What sort of detrimental effect were you afraid horror movies would have on your relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 10:02 PM
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Okay, so the only connection you’re making between porn and horror movies is that they are both forms of media. You could easily swap in soap operas or Saturday morning cartoons and your question would be the same. If this is incorrect, you’ll need to make the clear explicit connection between porn and true crime/horror as you’ve failed to draw a real connection to them so far. Have you ever been critical of the media you consume in order to understand its effects? Yes, my degree is in film theo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 09:43 PM
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You’ve managed to write an awful lot of words while failing to address anything I said in my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 08:36 PM
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If you’re married, then the way your partner looks and lives is absolutely your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 12:46 PM
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Yeah the only real effect it has on my relationship is that I have to wear headphones when I watch horror movies so it doesn’t “disturb” him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 11:52 AM
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I don’t see the connection you’re making. I listen to true crime podcasts all the time and I love horror movies. I find them fascinating and extremely entertaining - I wrote about Saw for one of my film classes. It has zero connection to my relationship. It doesn’t take away time from my partner, it doesn’t change the way I view sex or marriage, and it’s not arousing in any way for me. It’s just a hobby - the same way I watch makeup videos or watch documentaries about mountain climbing. Why do y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 11:51 AM
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Men just want a virgin who can’t drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 09:26 PM
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Absolutely not. Isolating a person from their social network is a major red flag. I’m not some insta thot. I post pictures of our hikes and our activities - my husband is in most of my posts. Almost all of my Instagram interaction is with other women. Social media is also a great way to stay in touch with long distance friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 08:37 PM
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Id be curious to see how many men who are anti-marriage are currently in long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 06:33 AM
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Also because tall men are more physically attractive and masculine looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 09:37 PM
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Because they were attracted to you and staying friends was either painful or just counterproductive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 09:35 PM
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Are you blue pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 10:28 PM
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For scenarios 1 & 2 I would lose respect if he physically fought the guy. Just walk away. IMO there is no good reason for a grown man to physically fight someone just because he threw a couple verbal insults out. We’re in our 30s, for God’s sake. I would honestly find it such a turn off if he engaged with the guy at all. 4 I don’t think I’d lose respect if he tried to physically fight him, but it would be stupid. The only time I would want him to physically defend me is scenario 3, where I’m alr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 09:22 PM
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So you don’t really recognize that other men are prioritizing something that you don’t personally value? They could easily look at you with pity, and think you’re missing out on something that’s very important. I don’t understand the need to see someone else’s choices and values as “less than” as opposed to just “different”.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 01:47 PM
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Good-looking and socially suave like Ed Kemper? Jesus Christ, the fucking men in this sub sometimes. You really have no idea, do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 10:23 AM
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A little when I was younger but not anymore. A big chunk of my peer group is married or in long term relationships. Dating doesn’t look so fun for the single ones. Out of sight, out of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 10:14 AM
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Okay but you could also say “normal”. Do you mean for your position to sound like one is superior to the other? That’s how it comes across to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 04:45 AM
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My impression of AskWomen is that’s primarily intended to be a community where women ask questions of each other. It’s not that they “hate men”, it’s that they’re bored of the question and it’s not what they perceive their sub to be for.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 11:33 PM
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AskWomen has a bad reputation, but there are a ton of posts that are just like what’s your favourite movie, what’s your job, what’s your morning routine. Boring, light stuff that has no toxicity, no drama. It’s pretty easy to filter out the negativity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 11:26 PM
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But the dynamic is the same, no? Two people flirting and escalating and engaging with each other. Regardless of the end goal. I don’t think you can glean any of this from my experience. We were drunk, we made out all night, I never expected we would start dating. It turned it to that anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 11:19 PM
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Slut Walks are against rape culture, and if you’ve ever attended one you can see there is a heavy emphasis on personal choice. You think Amber Rose is preaching against casual sex? Why do you think the fourth wave is anti-sex? Can you reference which feminist writers you’re referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:50 PM
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You’re making a different argument than Smurf. You’re saying intention doesn’t matter, the end result is the same. And that’s fine, that’s a valid point. But she’s talking about men on this sub who will tell women they are either lying about their intentions, or they don’t know that their intention is. Its about men who believe they know more about a woman’s interior thought process, preference, and motivation than the woman herself, and that this is especially annoying when it comes to topics 9…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:42 PM
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I don’t think it’s any different tbh. People who are just going to hook up are still flirting with each other and actively showing interest. The difference is the content of the flirting, not the fact that it exists. Maybe I’m not getting what you’re saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:37 PM
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You honestly think that the wave that introduced the slut walk can’t have casual sex? You’re out to lunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:33 PM
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Yes, I think that’s how it works for “normal” people. It’s not one person pursuing a passive object. It’s two people engaging and escalating with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:08 PM
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The third wave started in the early 1990s. It introduced intersectionality but also sex positivity. It was very splintered. The fourth wave started in the 2010s. There was nothing about third wave feminism which said a feminist could not have casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:04 PM
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The second wave was the angry man-hating one. Can you explain which era you think each wave existed in? Like the years?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:19 PM
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You are misinformed. Third wave feminism absolutely introduced theories of sex positivity to the movement. There is no reason a feminist couldn’t have casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:12 PM
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I understand what you’re saying - there’s nothing wrong or inferior with valuing casual sex over an LTR. It’s strange then that you don’t give people who prefer a monogamous LTR the same understanding you’re asking for. Rather than just say that different people have different goals, you’re using negative language like “mediocre” to describe the other sides value set. Maybe I’m misreading your post though. Do you mean “average” to read like a judgement? It has a negative connotation when describ…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:03 PM
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Did you mean to add something to this? You just repeated what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:52 PM
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We met through mutual friends but we weren’t friends. He was at my high school grad and we made out all night. I did the classic clueless high schooler move of stealing with his hat - that was how I flirted lol. I don’t remember the specifics of who made what moves. We both flirted with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:52 PM
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Because I really like sex, I’m a little boy crazy, I have no issues with n counts, and I run in a crowd where that’s rampant.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:48 PM
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Both of us have an n count of one. We started dating when I had just turned 18 and he was a few months shy of 21. We’ve been together over 12 years now. He’s a smart, stable, caring man. I never intended to marry the first guy I dated though. That seemed crazy to me, but it’s how it worked out. If we hadn’t met or if we had broke up for some reason I’d be pretty slutty, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 01:02 PM
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Sure Alanis.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 11:09 AM
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Okay - if that’s the only thing you disagree on, I could get behind that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:03 AM
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Hmm I’m not sure I really understand - are you saying you think the order different for each individual woman as to why they wear makeup?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:00 AM
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Okay, so out of the four things she listed: for herself, for random men, for other women, for the activity - how would you order them for single women? Men do give shit about looks, while looks are dependent on all the stuff you mentioned. Yes, men are gonna judge less harshly, but still. A cut crease is not really about looks at all. You don’t look prettier or younger with a cut crease. It’s about technique. IME men actively dislike really bright lips or sparkly eyes or intense contour. I’ve he…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:52 AM
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But if they want to fit in with women, they’ll try and gain women’s approval, making it a higher priority. Men don’t care about the intricacies of makeup. They just want to see a woman look fresh and like she has good skin. Any woman wearing things like eyeshadow, bright colours, lipstick, lots of highlighter, structured brows, etc, is 9/10 doing it for themselves or to impress other women. Men don’t give a shit about a cut crease.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:37 AM
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Why do you think this?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:19 AM
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That’s what you think, not why you think it. Why do you think single women wear makeup primarily for men, and not for other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:06 AM
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I wouldn’t tell the children I’m cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:25 AM
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Exactly. Your partner serves as a reflection of who you are. If he’s low status, you are too. It’s truly a partnership in that sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 07:42 AM
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How does this relate to the examples Smurf provided about makeup and sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 07:36 AM
1

Why do you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 07:34 AM
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Probably 6 months before I’d cheat. It would be different if he were sick or something, but if he just doesn’t want to have sex anymore - probably 6 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 04:58 AM
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You’ve misunderstood me. I’m not saying that wanting a tall man says nothing about your values. I’m saying that being a tall man says nothing about your values. You’ve also used “moralized”, “ironic” and “autistic” incorrectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 04:56 AM
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The user is pointing out that your attitude towards casual sex is indicative of your values in a way that having a dick or being tall is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 02:47 AM
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If by prince of Persia you mean Jake Gyllenhaal, then sure. There are exceptions to every rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 10:34 AM
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30 years young, baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 10:31 AM
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I swear I’m not a nazi.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 09:57 AM
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It's a debate sub, you're not here to appear as best as possible. And what exactly are you looking to debate here?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 08:47 AM
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I guess I’d consider high to be 20+. 100+ I could overlook. 400+ is a no go.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 08:14 AM
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Eh, it can look good. I’m pretty flexible with facial hair lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 07:33 AM
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No, to me they have nothing to do with each other. Big dick doesn’t even cross my mind as a thing I want my partner to have. I would never think of it. Beard, charm, nice fitting clothes, open attitude to psychedelics: these would all top my list before big dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 06:18 AM
2

I’m generally attracted to guys around 6ft but there have been notable exceptions who are around 5’7. I’m just over 5’4.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 04:16 AM
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Yeah it’s almost like individuals investing into society increases the quality of living for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:15 PM
2

I feel sad about it and if it happens too often we have to have an Important Conversation (again) about the importance of frequency and consistency. I have the higher libido. It sucks but it’s something you deal with. The way you handled it - leaving her angrily and sleeping on the couch - is not something I would tolerate too often.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 09:37 PM
1

Yeah that’s a probably a good indicator.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 01:18 PM
1

Wow, watched the first two episodes of The Act and this is some real body horror shit. The bit with the teeth - nooooo. I’m just sitting here eating a bowl of yogurt getting sick to my stomach. Very effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:47 AM
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We did win the last battle with you guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:34 AM
2

This study says Finland and Uganda are the fittest countries in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:30 AM
2

I live in Australia now and it’s a weird mix up people making America the butt of the joke vs aussies literally wearing MAGA hats. IMO that’s pretty pathetic - idolizing some other country’s president. Where’s your national pride?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:27 AM
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Why are you arguing with me and not OP? This is a CMV post. You can make a top level response as it appears you also disagree with OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:17 AM
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You already agreed that there is a visceral, primal component to judging women who engage in casual sex. Honestly it seems like you’re disagreeing just to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:11 AM
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And prior to that you indicated that men should be praised for doing it. You’re inconsistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:09 AM
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I’m sure men are using “loaded words” when they talk about their dislike for sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:00 AM
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OP is explicitly saying there is no double standard. I am taking apart his argument. I don’t have a point beyond “OP is wrong”. Double standards are fine and unavoidable and universal. You’re not disagreeing with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:59 AM
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If casual sex is an objectively bad thing, why praise men for getting a lot of it? You’re basically saying casual sex is good for men and bad for women. That’s a double standard, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:56 AM
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No worries mate 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:54 AM
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I assume part of it is because it just plain old hurts their feelings, no? Like if someone told me brunettes were ugly. That would bum me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:53 AM
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Thank you, you are proving my point. People see women having casual sex differently than they see men having casual sex. It stems from disgust, not a cold measured reaction based on how hard men work for it. There is a double standard at play.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:46 AM
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I’m not trying to be argumentative. I’m telling you I don’t think a guy who goes on Relationships to ask for advice about his slutty girlfriend is going to find a welcoming community - isn’t that your point? That people aren’t receptive to it? Buddy we’re agreeing lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:43 AM
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The relationships sub is a cesspool - why would any man post there about his secretly slutty girlfriend and expect sympathy? I assumed you meant male dominated subs because that’s the only place that makes sense to me to expect sympathy and understanding in that situation. Asking Relationships to listen to you complain about sluts is like asking a vegan sub what to put on your hamburger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:33 AM
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Hmm I don’t really go on male dominant subs where’d you see those kind of complaints I guess. Unfortunately like in most things, the assholes are the loudest.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:23 AM
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I still think if you loudly go around talking about your preferences unprompted, people are going to dislike it. I don’t think reddit is a great example, because a lot of the time reddit users are not coldly stating a personal preference - they are shaming strangers for their sex lives. Especially guys who have been burned in the past. They’re angry. The slut shaming seems to be loudest from the incels. I don’t think it’s a preference for them, it’s bitterness and disgust.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:12 AM
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Everybody has preferences but IRL nobody really wants to hear about it. Unless it’s some neutral or morally “good” trait like “must love dogs!”, talking about your preferences is distasteful. Like I only really like tall guys, but I get why short guys don’t want to hear me talk about it. I’ll just quietly be attracted to tall men instead. Edit: I didn’t downvote anyone. I’m at 3 upvotes right now, indicating other people are following our exchange.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 09:52 AM
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That doesn’t address my point at all - you’re just reiterating the part I already said I understand. Why would you shame somebody for doing something that comes easily to them? Why is having casual sex a bad thing for women, rather than a neutral thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 09:40 AM
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I know a couple that stopped having sex, and he eventually divorced her. She was shocked when it happened, and didn’t seem to think the sexlessness had much to do with it. I couldn’t believe that - of course it’s related. I think that they just became too comfy and lazy with each other and she took it for granted that he would stick around. He tried to bring it up before but she didn’t take it seriously. I love her but honestly good for him. Life is too short not to fuck. I’m 99% my mom and her …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 08:52 AM
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Honest question here - how do you know? Like do your parents confide in you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 08:46 AM
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I can understand the logic behind praising a man for getting laid because it might be a more difficult task for him. But why would you shame a woman for doing something just because it’s not hard? People do things that are easy every day. We don’t shame people who are naturally funny for making people laugh. If someone is naturally good at sales, we don’t shame them for pursuing a sales career. And so on and so on. Clearly there is something about the act of sex itself that people think is diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 08:41 AM
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Don’t you know real people? Are they not getting married?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 07:26 AM
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No. Banter is fine, but I’m never going to go out with a customer or client so I’d prefer flirting never get to that point. If women can hit on us in our workplace, why shouldn't we be able to return the favor? You can. You just can’t make them like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 09:48 PM
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Yeah no shit lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 08:34 PM
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Lol no one can speak for all women. They make up fucking half the population. I’m speaking broadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 08:33 PM
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People do things that serve themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 12:36 PM
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Women don’t make the first move because they don’t want rejection, and they can afford to wait for men to come to them. Every time I would complain about something as a little kid (it’s not faaaaair) my mom would respond with “life’s not fair”. I think this is a lesson more people should teach their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 07:45 AM
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My husband does most of the cleaning. I do the cooking and bulk of the shopping and social coordination. It plays zero role in our sex life or desire for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 07:39 AM
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If you met them on tinder and have never interacted in person, it essentially is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 04:06 AM
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I initially read that as meme meme meme meme lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 07:08 AM
2

Ah that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 01:39 AM
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So it’s a gotcha post 🙄 not meant to be interpreted in good faith. How fun for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 01:24 AM
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Interesting. I don’t think I’ve ever met a cokehead who eschewed casual sex in favour of “traditional” dating. Maybe the secret cokeheads who are in denial about their drug use lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 01:17 AM
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So then why are you asking? If you’re asking how to do things a specific way, there should be some discernible benefit to doing it that way. The only benefit I see is that bloops will approve of who you fuck. What do you need that for?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 01:14 AM
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Hmm, I guess that’s where we differ. I can be civil and do things with someone I don’t like, but it’s certainly not a situation I actively seek out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 11:14 PM
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It really wouldn’t bother you at all to be stuck for hours in the woods with a person who actively dislike?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 11:09 PM
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Why do you care if they’re emotionally healthy if it’s no strings attached? What’s the downside to fucking a “low quality” woman? If the women are causing you issues afterwards, rather than change the kind of woman I would recommend downgrading them from FWBs to ONS. I would tell you to go after party girls and get into the party drug scene, but people on this sub are such stick-in-the-muds they’re probably tell you drug use alone makes you mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 11:05 PM
3

All the law students I know are cokeheads who party.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 11:00 PM
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Nobody cares. This is a post about dating for women. There are countless other PPD posts where you can go cry about hard dating is for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 10:59 PM
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What if you don’t like them? A hike is a big time commitment. You could be stuck with them for hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 10:56 PM
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He’s talking about giving up his own life to parent his niece. He’s not a jerk for not wanting to do that. Uncles are supposed to buy kids dangerous toys their moms don’t want them to have, tell kids boisterous stories, and sneak them a beer when they’re 16. That’s the social expectation of uncles in western society.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 10:54 PM
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Didn't this sort of blase, self-interested attitude cause her to lose her dad in the first place? You’re her uncle. You are in no way under the same obligation her father is. I don’t think it’s weird that your mom asks if you want to come help babysit. What’s weird is that you feel this immense guilt when you say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 10:36 PM
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Not only do you have no legal obligation to support your niece, I would argue you have no social obligation either. There is no general expectation that you have to help your sister parent her child. Depending on the family, there be an expectation that you help, but that’s between you and your own parents and your sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 09:52 PM
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“Respect” is pretty commonly seen differently by men and women in this sub. Women generally say “respect” to mean common decency you show towards your fellow human. Men generally say “respect” to mean something that is earned and not just thrown around. Both are correct definitions, but cause major confusion in this sub. Words that are blatantly used incorrectly: lots of pseudo legalese. Fraud, affirmative consent, the “crime” of “sexual harassment”, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 12:27 PM
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Many men will fuck anything that moves. Women won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 12:25 PM
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The shortest man I remember seeing in recent memory lives next door. He has a tiny little girlfriend who’s the same height. They’re so cute coming back with their groceries and being afraid of me in the elevator.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:53 AM
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Of course it matters. Money makes life easier. Especially in a long term relationship you’re going to want to be with someone who makes life easier and more fulfilling - money is part of that. It’s not the be all, end all though. Like looks, personality, status, class etc it’s one part of the whole picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:44 AM
2

Is this your first time on this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 08:39 PM
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It’s a good idea but I just took a look and those guys aren’t really for me. Too hairless and boyish. Focusing on the man is good though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 08:44 AM
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That’s bizarre to me. So after two years you had no idea she was a feminist so presumably this had no impact on your relationship. Why dump her immediately for something her mom said?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 08:43 PM
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I’m nice but I’m not a spineless weirdo who can’t read social cues. I’m nice in that I make an effort to be friendly with everyone and make them feel comfortable and welcome (even the losers), and I try and mediate and keep a positive vibe in group settings. That’s the kind of nice I like to see in other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 11:23 AM
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Yeah smooth all over, hard but rounded everywhere, ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 09:45 PM
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Female. I usually like nonconsenual porn with some aspect of embarrassment - not violent, more like coerced. It has zero relation to my real life sex life, and I have no interest in combining them. I don’t even know how that would work. I’m not fantasizing about myself in those situations. Physically there are almost zero attractive men in porn. They all look like giant shoulders. If I’m going to consume vanilla porn, i much prefer audio over video. Then you can picture an attractive man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 06:15 AM
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Just let them jerk each other off. It’s easier for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 03:11 AM
2

David Tennant but if he seemed like he does drugs. A little less square. Must have his beard in place.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 07:31 AM
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I guess the last time I felt uncomfortable was a couple weeks ago when I worked late and caught the train at a nearly empty station. Some very obnoxious dudes rolled through and put me on edge. I would say that’s the usual situation in which I’m uncomfortable - it’s less about actively being in danger and more about heightened awareness of my surroundings when I’m in an isolated place. To keep myself safe I keep my phone near and keep an eye out. I pointedly ignore people around me so they won’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 06:41 AM
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No, now I didn’t give a shit who my friends go home with. Since I quit binge drinking a few years ago, ive made it clear to my friends that they’re responsible for themselves. You want to get wastes and wander off with some dude, well good luck to you lol. At festivals and things I actually like when my friends hook up with randos. You get the fun of hanging out with new dudes with none of the obligation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 06:34 AM
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I used to cockblock a friend so I wouldn’t have to find her later or pick her up from some dudes. Usually we arrived together, and when I was 18 and poor I didn’t want to pay for a cab ride myself. It was mostly just for practical purposes. Or maybe it was early in the night and I didn’t want her to ditch me. If she really wanted to go home with a guy I couldn’t stop her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 11:48 AM
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Or maybe I’m just humble bragging about how well I navigate the female social matrix. Who’s to say? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 11:45 AM
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There are too many people in this world and too many definitions of ethics and morality to answer this question. Anyone who gives you a definitive answer is just expressing whether they’re Team Man or Team Woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 04:16 AM
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If a person has pissed me off or I don’t like them, rather than make it clear I’ll just subtly undermine them in social circles or make backhanded comments that insult them in a way where they can’t defend themselves without looking like the asshole. This kind of sneaky pettiness is more closely associated with femininity than masculinity. I’m also a fan of the goss on the occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 04:13 AM
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She literally said it’s a flaw lol. She knows it’s a double standard. That’s the point of her comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 04:06 AM
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What are you talking about? If you are pregnant against your will, it’s not a decision and is irrelevant to this post. OP is talking about regular women choosing to have babies with their partners. The trolling is tired.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 09:52 AM
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I quit drinking a couple months before I discovered reddit. It was like trading one compulsion for another but I’ve pretty much backed off both. I’ll have a pint of beer now every once in awhile. My partner and I moved to another country a year ago where we don’t really know anyone so it’s been easy to devote a lot of time to him. I’ll have to try and do the same when I get back. It doesn’t help that he is an introverted homebody and I’m the opposite. What did you think I was like?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 09:31 AM
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That’s true, experiences like that will give you a better understanding of yourself and cool stories to tell other people when you finally venture out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 08:14 AM
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I watched Backcountry a couple weeks ago where a couple gets attacked by a bear in the woods. Not a fantastic movie but the scene where the bear is right outside their tent in the bright morning is effective. Just remember: if it’s black, fight back. If it’s brown, lie down.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 08:12 AM
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How is saying “I have a boyfriend” some sort of devastating rejection? Sounds like she went pretty easy on you. How would you prefer to be rejected?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 07:53 AM
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Killing yourself, killing others, joining a cult, chopping off a limb, dating an abusive partner, buying a dog and falling in love with it then watching it die, heroin. There are a shit ton of things worse than getting pregnant and having a kid. Here’s a novel idea. If you don’t want to have a baby, don’t have a baby. Leave motherhood to those who inherently understand its appeal. So you don’t like people. Big whoop, go live in the forest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 07:51 AM
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I lie almost compulsively. Things like what money I’ve spent recently or what hour I left a friends. Stupid things where the act of lying itself looks far more suspicious than the actual thing I’m lying about. I do not make it easy to trust me. I’m selfish and I have to struggle not to prioritize my friends over my partner. I just really like my friends, and there are a lot of them so it can be easy to fill my calendar up. Used to be a flaw before I quit, but I had a big problem with binge drink…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 07:46 AM
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His face couldn’t possibly have changed that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 01:22 AM
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Ha, I didn’t get it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 08:12 AM
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That’s what happens after you’re already dating for awhile. It’s the natural progression of things. You don’t start there though. You need to show you’re fun and exciting so you can rope her in before the the truth comes out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/19 03:13 AM
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We’ve only been married a year. If I were worrying about divorce already, that would not bode well. I believe that every person has the right to get a prenup and would never fault anyone for pushing for one. But if you spend any significant amount of time worrying about divorce I’m not sure marriage is right for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/19 02:27 AM
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Eh, I almost always find it boring. I hate logging on and seeing there’s only one topic to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 02:54 PM
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I don’t understand why she doesn’t just go argue with the people she disagrees with. There is no reason for this post when the post she’s referencing is still active.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 01:32 PM
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It happens every time there’s a remotely novel or popular post. Rather than respond in the thread, people will just make a bunch of copycat posts. You can basically guarantee that every time there’s a post that says “but what about the men???”, “what about the women???” (or vice versa) will quickly follow. It has nothing to do with some fat lady invasion. It just reflects the lack of imagination this sub has in general. See Slut Week or Abortion Week preciously.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 01:14 PM
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I ask this without malice: who cares about you and your body and how does it relate to purple pill debate? This sub is not your diary.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 12:55 PM
1

Your SO is your teammate in a way a friend is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 08:25 AM
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So less than one approach per decade of your life on earth. Whelp, what can I say, you’re right. There’s literally nothing more you can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 07:12 AM
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I would be more picky now. I wasn’t picky at all when I was 17 and met my husband. Nobody really showed interest in me in high school so I was just happy someone was paying attention. We ended up being a good match but that’s partially because we grew up together. If I met him now I’m not sure I’d be interested (still physically attracted to him, but maybe not personality or values compatible). Then again if we hadn’t stayed together, who knows where I’d be now. Probably a really slutty drug add…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 07:08 AM
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They don’t in downtown Winnipeg lol. Maybe up north. I think you’re thinking of rocky and bullwinkle haha
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 01:43 PM
1

Oh my god I would looove normie PPD. We’d have to do a entry test - if you’ve ever used the term degenerate unironically, you’re out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 12:57 PM
1

Someone else can shoot them and I’ll take a bite.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 12:54 PM
2

Tons of medium earners work 40 hours, 9-5. Not all office jobs are CEO.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 12:53 PM
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When would you even find the time to fall in love? I’d peace out way before love happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 12:51 PM
1

Hmm I guess when I lived at the edge of the city I’d see horses on the highway sometimes. Deer more often. Now those are beautiful creatures.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 12:50 PM
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I see possums and bats sometimes. That’s about it. The occasional bin chicken.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 12:49 PM
1

Red pillers, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 12:13 PM
1

I’m not expecting a serious answer. I’m responding to his comment in the same spirit in which it was posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 12:07 PM
1

Why would you be a bad person if you wanted to work the same shift as your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 11:57 AM
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I’m so confused that anyone in this post is saying they’d be down for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 11:21 AM
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No. That sounds awful. Whenever I hear about couples who work opposing schedules and never see each other, I wonder how they make it work. I don’t really understand this question. Who would want this? Am I missing something?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 10:53 AM
1

You could definitely read this melodically.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 10:41 AM
1

How often are you seeing horses trot by??
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 10:09 AM
2

Yes, things like that for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 05:01 AM
2

Eh, I think in most relationships over 5 years both partners will have cried at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 04:46 AM
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Why? It’s basically the same as everyone else’s lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 04:35 AM
2

Hmm
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 04:32 AM
3

I think it’s a little different to initiate sex when you’ve already boned before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 12:15 AM
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This is what happens when your title doesn’t match the body of your post. People are going to respond to actual sexual liberation instead of whatever it is you’re actually talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 10:33 PM
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“Sexually liberated” is much worse. Especially when you basically say right at the beginning of the post that being sexually liberated in and of itself is not a problem. You could have said Tumblr feminist or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 10:32 PM
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They are not synonymous terms. Your issues are clearly with a specific ideology, not with sexual liberation. Leftist women may be sexually liberated, but not all sexually liberated women are leftist feminist. Use the terms you’re actually talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 10:23 PM
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So it’s a bait and switch? You are purposefully misrepresenting your argument by swapping out one term for another. Why would anyone where think you’re going to debate in good faith if you’re pulling this right off the bat?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 10:18 PM
3

Are those random stranger women, or re they women you’ve had sexual contact with?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 10:13 PM
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It’s very confusing to me that you are using the phrase “sexually liberated” and then defining it has something entirely different. Why not just say “leftist extreme feminist” if that’s what you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 10:10 PM
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I made my husband cry once, back when we were dating. I did not lose respect for him - it kind of brought us closer together because it showed me that he really cared. It wasn’t a shit test. It’s not like I set out trying to make him cry.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 10:03 PM
2

Does your workplace really cover affirmative consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 08:52 PM
2

For my sisters 21st birthday we went to Chippendales in Vegas with my stepmom and aunt. It was a lot of fun, but it’s not something I’m like clamouring to do again.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 08:44 PM
4

The men in your OP - you literally used the term “terrified”.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 09:24 AM
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I know, it’s bizarre. All these men fixated on the flaws of an institution they’re under no obligation to participate in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 09:08 AM
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No, you’re right, that is the goal. We’re talking about human beings though. Nobody’s perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 08:27 AM
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I’m saying there is no surefire 100% guarantee. There are only steps you can take. One of those includes marrying out of love, not fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 07:32 AM
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Wow I’m surprised to hear that the percentage of couples where only the man works is so close to where neither of them do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 06:13 AM
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Or circumstances changed over years of being together...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 06:12 AM
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If the only reason your wife is marrying you is because she wants your money, well buddy she’s probably going to cheat on you anyways. Don’t marry someone who doesn’t like you. I’m sure this is shocking to learn, but many many spouses actually like each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 06:02 AM
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Because a lot of men have limited opportunity to have casual sex so they don’t feel they’re in a position to throw it away willy nilly. They trust that the women know their bodies better than they do, so if she doesn’t want to have sex, why is she still here? Empathy doesn’t come naturally to a lot of people. Especially when they’re going to uncover something they don’t want to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 04:22 AM
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I think it’s a combo of what others have said: people date within their social circle (and there are a lot more unattractive men in Hollywood than women), women are attracted to more than just physical looks (yes, this can include status and wealth), and ultimately celebrities operate in their own world so you can’t infer too much (teehee what does infer mean? Why so rude? If you want a fruitful discussion, why start by being an asshole). I also think a lot of men here have no idea what women fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 04:17 AM
2

So her being busy and stressed actually isn’t the problem here? It’s why she’s busy and stressed?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 10:30 PM
1

Nurse seems like an odd counterpoint to CEO. Every nurse I know works weird long hours in a stressful environment. It’s not some cushy 9-3 like the OP seems to imply.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 08:51 PM
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Why do you think a nurse wouldn’t be busy or stressed? Every nurse I know works an awful schedule.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 08:48 PM
5

The gut feeling of guys who have never had sex seems to suffice on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 12:51 PM
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My SO’s opinion matters in that I’ll wear certain things or do my hair in a way I know he likes. I see it as a positive thing. I’m sure there are things about me he doesn’t like but that’s his business. He can keep that to himself. I don’t understand why anyone would point out their partners flaws or issues if they’re genuinely okay with them. And if you’re not actually okay with how your partner looks, why are you with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 10:03 PM
2

?? There is no problem. That’s my point. It’s just fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 03:08 PM
2

Because it’s a fun way to engage with other people. We’re all stuck here. Can’t we enjoy it a little?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 02:33 PM
1

Does Keanu taking pictures truly warrant two posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 08:36 PM
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I believe he’s referring to the shocking and controversial notion that men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 03:54 AM
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If you agreed with me, why keep arguing back? Sometimes a simple “yes” will suffice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 03:52 AM
2

He moved a woman’s clothing to the side to get a better look at her tattoo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 03:38 AM
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Yes, but as I said, this is something many people think, they just aren’t telling you because of the social repercussions, and because there are socially acceptable reasons not to be attracted to disabled people so there’s no need to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 03:26 AM
0

You think this is causing a substantial hardship to Keanu? I doubt it’s really that much easier to the point where we need to worry about it on his behalf.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 02:14 AM
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That makes me think you have very little experience with people with disabilities. Amputees, being bedridden, little control over bodily functions - people absolutely get disgusted over these things. I think you’re a little naive tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 02:13 AM
2

Don’t you think it’s likely that people do feel digits for some disabilities, they’re just not telling you about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 09:54 PM
2

People on this sub use words based on how those words make them feel, not for their actual definitions. You see it all the time, especially when it comes to red pill terminology.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 09:01 PM
5

If you’re in your early twenties you’re generation z, not a millennial.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 08:57 PM
8

Weird to me that so many people here assume Keanu must really want to touch these strangers in photos and it’s something important and meaningful that’s being denied to him. I wouldn’t get too bent out of shape about it. I’m sure Keanu gets touched plenty in his private life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 08:55 PM
1

I wasn’t responding to the OP, I was responding to Salty’s interpretation of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 04:28 AM
9

In the context of this post “selfish” just means women who have sex because they personally want to have it, with people they’re physically attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 12:03 PM
8

I don’t think she means she’s having sex with her single friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/19 11:00 PM
1

How do you not look at words when you’re reading something?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 04:26 AM
1

I’ve never been attracted to someone shorter than me. I’m 5’4. I would say 5’6 is the min.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 12:29 PM
1

The point of the automod is so that things like circlejerking or irrelevant answers are not crowding the top of the page. Upvoting the automod circumvents that. You don’t see this?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 12:28 PM
3

If OP wanted to hear from your perspective, they wouldn’t have tagged is as Q4Women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 10:37 AM
5

If you have good points, enter a top level response. If your point is to circlejerk with the OP or answer a question not intended to you, it’s very rare your point is that great to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 10:28 AM
2

Maybe, but it’s not the point of the post. If a user wants to know what a woman thinks, they wouldn’t tag it as Q4Men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 10:23 AM
1

That doesn’t explain why you’d upvote the automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 10:21 AM
3

That defeats the point of automod. It’s a place for circlejerking and answering questions when you’re not the target audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 10:21 AM
2

Brooch bouquets are so pretty. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 09:42 AM
1

Remember when he played a priest or whatever on American horror story? Loved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 09:39 AM
6

That never stops men from answering anyways lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 09:37 AM
2

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 09:37 AM
12

I think big dick energy just means you display confidence for reasons that are not immediately apparent. It’s exhibited when a normal looking dude walks around like he owns the place with nothing to prove. Like, that guy must have a big dick because otherwise what reason would he have to be so confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 09:32 AM
4

Steve Buscemi - specifically in Reservoir Dogs (and Airheads to an extent). He was funny, cool, professional, and there was something about his physicality I found very attractive. He’s so smirky.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 08:52 AM
1

Personally yes, I prefer tall guys. Anytime someone hugs me and their chin can rest on my head, it’s a good feeling. Having said that, one of the men I’ve felt the most instant raw physical attraction to is only 5’6. It just depends. I’m 5’4ish, and I’ve never been attracted to a guy shorter than me as far as I can remember. Can’t really think of many guys that short.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 08:44 AM
3

That’s insane to me. There are huge swaths of the population with low n counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 12:40 PM
2

That’s the thinking of someone who watches too much porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 09:26 AM
2

There are not going to be millions of women in porn hiding from spouses who are anti-porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 08:32 AM
2

Who are with men who have zero inkling? Not that many.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 08:21 AM
1

From .5% to .45% lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 06:33 AM
0

I don’t think that’s a real concern either tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 08:38 PM
2

Considering what a large portion of our user base have never even had sex, I’m not sure it’s something they need to be wasting their mental energy on.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 08:37 PM
4

This is not a concern for the vast majority of people. How many people are honestly marrying porn stars when they don’t want to. This is super silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 11:28 AM
4

Is this really enough of a concern? Like are there that many man accidentally marrying porn stars? Seems like a niche target audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 11:23 AM
1

😂😂 my bad
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 04:59 AM
1

She didn’t steal Trent from Lane, ewwww.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 08:37 PM
1

You shouldn’t be participating in a red pill debate sub if you don’t really know about red pill theory. Making a post that just points out something in the sidebar is lazy. There’s nothing to debate. Which is clear based on how dead the conversation is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 08:34 PM
1

Ahhh when that guy got sent to the top to look in - I thought about that scene all night.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 04:07 AM
1

I would love to go. Haven’t been out to Eastern Europe yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 04:07 AM
8

I’m saying that just saying it exists is not worthy of a post in a debate sub. There’s nothing to discuss here, he’s just saying hey look, did you know TRP has a sidebar?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 08:35 PM
2

Watched the first episode of Chernobyl. Absolutely loved it. All I want to do is a deep dive into radiation poisoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 11:48 AM
1

Ugh I can definitely relate to that. “Emotional hangover”.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 11:47 AM
1

The movie is sooo funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 11:46 AM
2

You’ve never seen it before? I remember we watched it in middle school.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 11:45 AM
5

Honey, you are more than your ringworm. Your fungal infection is not your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 11:37 AM
3

It’s not just about being weird lol, it’s about being gross. Never tell a hot guy you have a highly communicable skin fungal infection.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 11:35 AM
10

Why are you acting like red pill sidebar material is some kind-blowing thing? You shouldn’t be allowed to participate here if you don’t have at least name recognition with the sidebar. What do you want to debate here? What’s the question exactly? This is just a red pill ad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 11:26 AM
3

Not the person you asked, but yes, I think some men who beat up their wives would say they still love her. Love is a personal experience. You can’t really tell someone they’re not experiencing it because it’s entirely subjective and you have no idea what’s going on in their interior. But by no means are you obligated to stay with someone just because they love you. It doesn’t matter how someone feels about you if those feelings don’t manifest in a way that makes you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 07:27 AM
2

Who cares if some stranger feels guilty about something? I can understand wanting revenge on someone who cheated on you, but I don’t understand wanting vengeance on some random cheater you’re not in a relationship with. Life is not fair. Live according to your own moral standings and stay out of peoples business.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 07:24 AM
2

I think you’re reading emotion into places it isn’t there. Just because someone disagrees with you doesn’t mean they’re full of anger and hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 08:34 PM
8

Wow, those happily married women are shaking in their boots.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 09:37 AM
4

Yes, I agree to a point. Some people are very unnerved when others speak plainly or coldly about something they’ve always thought of in grand romantic terms. These are the kinds of people who hear “I value the positive feelings my partner gives me” and think that means someone is being used. When really it’s just another way of describing friendship or love.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 07:54 AM
5

Women don’t hit on men the way they expect men to hit on women. Traditionally men are the pursuers. Giving out IOIs is making a move, for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 07:42 AM
5

How does feminism make criminal scumbags commit? How does that play out?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 05:24 AM
26

They’re insulting you to cover their own embarrassment at being rejected (even if they haven’t actually made an explicit move).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 05:18 AM
28

There are lots of people on this sub who talk about their happy relationships with people they love and respect. Why are you only paying attention to the negative side Also, keep in mind that a lot of the vitriol towards relationships comes from people who have never been in one, and so have little insight into how they work.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 01:18 AM
-1

This post is stupid unless you define what slut means.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 03:51 AM
2

I’m curious as to why these statements ring true for you. Is it because of your personal relationships with women, or observes from afar.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 10:57 AM
3

Are you close friends with many women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 09:48 AM
10

I wouldn’t call 2-3 times a week low libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 04:06 AM
2

4-5 times a week. So about 4-5 times more often than I’m having it now. I have the high libido in our relationship. My husband is very attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 04:06 AM
2

Good, I hope you remain too chickenshit. We don’t always agree, but I appreciate your perspective and especially your non-debate comments on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 01:11 PM
3

Uh yeah that’s my entire point. Glad to see you’ve gotten here eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 11:24 AM
2

Whew, that took a positive turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 11:23 AM
5

Best of luck - I hope everything is okay and this is just a scary false alarm.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 11:22 AM
1

Did you read my link? It’s a fairly common practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 11:14 AM
5

Sorry man, there are plenty of recreational fishermen for whom the fish are secondary to the act of fishing itself. The metaphor is shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 11:06 AM
2

You’ve never heard of catch and release?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:59 AM
1

I’ll try not to cry myself to sleep tonight knowing you disapprove.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:55 AM
2

You are wrong in many cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:55 AM
2

I think you’re trolling. Either that or you’re an incel who doesn’t belong here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:49 AM
2

If I have zero interaction with them, they have no value to me. What value could they possibly have? A stranger on the other side of the world?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:48 AM
5

What the fuck? A shit ton of fishermen enjoy fishing itself. I feel like you’re lacking firsthand experience in both fishing and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:27 AM
2

Most men want to be in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:26 AM
1

Not reading all that, but no, it is not perfect because fish do not want to be caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:13 AM
1

Why would anyone be proud to be a human? Like they feel pride over squirrels and horses and stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 08:31 AM
1

Women as a whole provide no “value” to me, that’s right. Some people are great, some people are shit, the vast majority of people I will never interact with and will have no impact on my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 08:28 AM
2

I like and value individual men. Some of my funnest and funniest friends are men. I would not be as happy or as successful as I am without the help, company and influence of men in my life. Men as a whole though? There’s simply too many of you to make any sort of definitive statement about your value.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 02:40 AM
3

Haha that part cracked me up - what could possibly be in that folder to prove someone was a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 04:15 AM
2

Gross. Hiding such a huge red flag would seriously affect the way I looked at him. That someone would lie to me about such a huge part of his life, and then document this lie in a way I could easily find out - I would be angry and embarrassed. I have a hard time imagining that he could keep that secret that long. I feel like once you’re in the bedroom, you can tell if a guys never been in a vagina before or he no skills. I can’t see us getting too much further than the first attempt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 04:10 AM
2

Probably because I don’t really care about animals and I like to talk about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 10:56 AM
4

Green pill is the mod designation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 10:44 AM
2

Red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 02:40 AM
3

I believe you, but I have never heard of this myself. Different crowds I would assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 02:36 AM
3

Normal RP men have become a rare breed on this sub haha
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 08:32 PM
1

Good!!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 10:16 AM
1

As a craft beer swigging hipster myself, we’ll have to agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 10:01 AM
2

For me it is lol. Give me a craft beer swigging hipster with a guitar any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 12:50 PM
1

Who knows. Could be both shitty lawyers and shitty police officers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 12:36 PM
1

I know which comment you’re talking about. I don’t remember them mentioning search histories.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 12:35 PM
1

I don’t think either of us know enough about this to say definitively one way or the other if checking an alleged victims search history is standard procedure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 12:22 PM
1

I don’t think their client knew about the evidence. It was a text between the accuser and a third party.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 12:20 PM
1

Yes, I’ve said elsewhere that I think there needs to be disclosure reform to avoid exactly this happening - police sitting on evidence. I wasn’t sure though if the defence lawyers had any idea this kind of evidence exists in that case and just couldn’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 12:05 PM
2

I have little to no interest in doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 11:53 AM
2

No need to be snippy. I do not believe that it is standard procedure for police to look at someone’s search history unless they are a suspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 11:50 AM
4

I can’t think of any cars that would be a positive. Driving a big truck would be a negative though. You’re either a country boy, or worse, a city boy who drives a big truck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 11:43 AM
6

He’s a weirdo. That’s a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 07:48 AM
5

Does he live out of it? That’s usually a negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 01:16 AM
2

Yes you’re correct, the alleged rapist is treated differently than the alleged victim. That is the case for all criminal investigations.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 12:45 AM
1

Is that not how it’s always worked? That the judge reviews evidence to determine if its admissible? Can you link me to this new law?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 12:44 AM
2

The consent form explicitly states they are allowed to use your data beyond the scope of the case. If they see evidence of a criminal act, they can use that against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 09:25 PM
2

When did Canada make digital evidence inadmissible? Do you mean like new federal law? It must be very recent because it was allowed in the Jian Ghomeshi case and was a big part of why he was acquitted.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 09:23 PM
1

How early on in the reporting process did they ask to access to your phone?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 09:20 PM
3

Do you think victims should face the same level of scrutiny as the accused during the investigation period?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:23 PM
3

There are other issues. Like at what point is it considered necessary to request access to her phone? As soon as makes a police report? Before you’ll do any other investigation? If a person has to give up their phone to make a police report, that’s fucked up IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:21 PM
2

That sounds like she’s being investigated now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:19 PM
6

It’s extremely relevant. Why do you think warrants and subpoenas exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:17 PM
3

You think it happens often that a woman tells a friend how amazing sex was, and then accuses that same guy of rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:13 PM
3

Do you think that happens very often?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:10 PM
3

Why wouldn’t he give that text to the police? Why would they need to get it from her?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:08 PM
1

Different time zones are a trip, eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:04 PM
3

Different people place different value on privacy. For some people it is extremely important, for others not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 02:01 PM
1

And good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:58 PM
4

I don’t trust the police either, but at the same time if I were falsely accused I would be horrified if they didn’t at least get a digital clone of that phone. I’m sure everybody falsely accused of a crime is horrified at how the justice system works. You are confusing the court of public opinion with legal proceedings. You are still innocent until proven guilty in a court of law.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:55 PM
1

I am not saying anything. Great position to take on a debate sub lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:51 PM
1

The police had her phone and her text messages - the issue was with disclosure. They didn’t advice the defence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:49 PM
2

How am I being Team Woman here? You’re saying that a text message saying he did not rape her is not enough to stop investigating him for rape. What more do you want to stop investigating him?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:46 PM
3

The person I’m responding to said they are being thrown in jail.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:45 PM
2

If the language is broad and vague enough that the police can interpret it to mean whatever they need it to mean, then that is a problem with the law.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:43 PM
1

It is crazy to me that you don’t think a woman texting a man to say he didn’t rape her isn’t enough to halt the investigation. That you think more evidence is still needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:41 PM
3

It was false evidence, and helped form the case against him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:31 PM
1

I can’t imagine anything that will undo that text message and convince a judge or jury he’s guilty beyond a reasonable doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:28 PM
3

Physical injuries are certainly evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:27 PM
3

Yes, a lot of people who do drugs have some evidence of it on their phones.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:19 PM
2

No, no, no. If you have a text message from the “victim” saying the sex was not consensual, stop the investigation right there. You do not need her phone as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:18 PM
2

All interesting people have committed a crime or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:16 PM
2

That article says she falsified a head injury. That is the “evidence” that helped lead to his arrest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:15 PM
2

Yes. I do not think a person should be penalized for reporting a crime. Criminals should be able to report crimes against them without fearing repercussion as a direct result of reporting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:13 PM
3

Thank you for linking me to a specific case. This case is tragic, I don’t think we can say this is a result of recent “believe her” policies as this case predates them by several decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:10 PM
5

This whole attitude of “you have nothing to fear if you have nothing to hide” is baffling to me. People could have potentially embarrassing or incriminating things on their phone that have nothing to do with the accusation. And for many people, privacy is valued for its own sake. They don’t have to be hiding something to value their privacy. Me being in the IT field, 2 years seems like a bit much but I also don't know how thorough they get. Article says the phone wasn’t turned on over that time.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:07 PM
2

Yes, if there is evidence available that indicates she made a false accusation, that should be pursued.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:04 PM
1

Who cares, they’re still a stranger to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:03 PM
3

The police are the ones responsible for enforcing the laws. They’re inextricably entwined.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:02 PM
2

Yes, that is another good reason not to want to hand your phone over.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:01 PM
6

This isn’t just about evidence relevant to the accusation. It’s about full access to your digital history, including all images, texts, emails, etc. The consent form even makes it explicit that if they find evidence of a crime being committed unrelated to the rape, they can use it against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:00 PM
6

That doesn’t mean there was no evidence. It means that based on the evidence available, the wrong conclusion was reached. That wasn’t exactly what I meant by “link me to cases” either lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:53 PM
1

Yeah, but the second link is about disclosure and the police withholding evidence from the defence. If it does get to prosecution and the police haven’t collected her phone, can the defence request it instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:47 PM
1

Yes, I’m curious about that too. How many cases are there realistically where the woman is texting a third party that she had consensual sex with the guy she accused of rape? Or maybe it’s like in her iPhone notes. Dear diary, I had boring sex yesterday so today I accused him of rape. Sorry not sorry. Seems like in most cases, his phone would be more than enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:43 PM
1

I’m curious what his lawyers tried to access in that case. I get the impression they had no idea this evidence even existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:40 PM
2

Can you please link me to some of the cases you’re talking about? Where men are going to jail with no evidence against them? In which countries is this happening?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:31 PM
3

Your initial response indicated that the only reason a woman might not want to give her phone up is because she’s lying about the rape. Okay, now you’ve finally answered that yes, there are other reasons. Privacy might not be important to you, but for many people it’s extremely important.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:23 PM
2

They are investigating him for a crime though, not her. If the evidence is in his favour, the case against him should not move forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:21 PM
4

So... you can’t think of a reason why a person might not want to give full access to their phone to a stranger? Or you can?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:20 PM
2

This doesn’t clear up my confusion. What does “probable cause” mean in relation to the victim?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:18 PM
4

This isn’t about police ignoring evidence. It’s about whether or not a victim should be expected to give up all digital privacy as party of a criminal investigation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:17 PM
2

Why are you ignoring my question? Can you think of any reason why a person might not want to allow a total stranger full access to their phone?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:15 PM
3

Why? If he has a text from her saying it was consensual, IMO that’s enough to stop it from ever going to trial.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:14 PM
1

God, so emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:12 PM
2

This has nothing to do with what I’m talking about. I’ll repeat the question. Can you think of any reason, besides trying to cover up a false accusation, why a person might not want to surrender full access of their phone to a stranger?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:11 PM
3

The question is can the police be trusted to do things properly No. I think that while this may have good intentions behind it and sound right on paper, will in practice become a gross invasion of privacy or an excuse to slough off tricky investigations.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:10 PM
2

If a woman has a text that helps support her case, yeah go ahead, submit it as evidence. I certainly don’t mean to imply that a person shouldn’t be allowed to submit digital evidence to police. I don’t think we have a good enough understanding of exactly when these consent forms would be requested and how often.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 12:07 PM
5

Eh, I think it’s a bit of a stretch to think the police did a full and comprehensive investigation prior to even arranging an interview. At least, not the standards where I would consider it necessary to ask for full access to the victims phone. Like I said, it should be considered a last resort. I’ve said elsewhere that I see the time and place for collecting this info. I just don’t think it’s a necessary and standard part of all investigations. Certainly not as a precursor to an investigation,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:57 AM
4

If you read the linked article, a woman’s phone was taken for two years. Setting aside the inconvenience of having your phone taken away, you can’t think of any reasons why a person might not want a total stranger to have full access to their phone?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:51 AM
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This isn’t a case if there being “probable cause” - it’s about police officers collecting a victims phone as part of the preliminary investigation or as a precursor to starting an investigation. What do you mean by probable cause?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:50 AM
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If the guy has texts from her saying it was consensual, that seems like pretty good evidence in his favour - regardless of what her phone says.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:45 AM
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In that example, it's a rape that she claimed happened months ago, and there was no physical evidence or witness testimony the police could use. How did the police know this before they even did an interview with her? They asked her to bring her phone in for surrender while scheduling the initial interview. I feel they should have to do at least preliminary investigation prior before resorting to full access to the victims phone. I agree with reforming the way digital evidence is handled and dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:42 AM
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There are other reasons - like valuing the privacy of yourself, friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:35 AM
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Lead poisoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:30 AM
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Everybody knows math textbooks are the most alpha of reading material.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:29 AM
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In the vast majority of cases where texts show a clear arrangement for consensual sex, wouldn’t it be between the accused and the accuser? He would have that evidence himself to provide to police. It seems rare to me that there are many cases where she told a third party via text that the sex was consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:26 AM
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Yeah I couldn’t make it through three days without my phone. I use it to communicate, to get around, and to coordinate my life. I don’t see how they could possibly extract the data in one day unless they took everything. Every nude you’ve ever sent (or received), every private note, all of your financial information, your passwords, your porn history, your identifying info, etc. What a price to pay for reporting a crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:23 AM
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One of the examples in the article is of a woman who was told before she even had an initial interview that the case was unlikely to go anywhere without surrendering her phone. That says to me that that police officer considered surrendering your phone to be a standard part of procedure, on par with making a statement, and that they won’t take you seriously if you’re not willing to do so. I don’t agree with that all. And honestly, this is how I think a lot of police officers will approach this. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:16 AM
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Question for lawyers: in a case like this, can’t the defence lawyer subpoena phone records or text messages to help their case?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:05 AM
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I'm concerned that this is some Orwellian Big Brother shit disguised as justice. The UK government loves sifting through everyone's data a bit too much for me to trust them on something like this. This is my gut reaction as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:05 AM
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It’s not really asking her to provide evidence that a rape happened. It’s asking her to provide evidence that a false rape accusation isn’t happening. It may sound like splitting hairs but there’s definitely a difference. The former is asking a potential victim to help provide evidence to move the investigation forward. The latter is asking a potential criminal for evidence to prove their innocence. People being investigated for crimes should never deal with the police directly, they should lawy…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 11:01 AM
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But here this is the kind of thing that make me think maybe they want women to have the power to put any man in jail without any justice system in between. You can’t think of any reasons why someone might not want to hand their phone over to a total stranger for an unknown period of time?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 10:51 AM
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I can understand cases where it’s necessary to collect data from a victims phone, but I do not think it should be considered a standard part of making a police report. Taking someone’s phone and having full access to it is a huge invasion of privacy, and is a power that should only be wielded when needed. I think it’s awful that someone was expected to surrender their phone at the initial interview stage. And it doesn’t surprise me at all that police sat on a person’s property for two years and …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 10:49 AM
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Why is your definition the actual definition, and mine isn’t? I didn’t pull mine out of thin air. Surely you have to acknowledge that the definitions of these types of terms are more subjective than the scientific definition of a cow. Benevolent sexism exists, but the OP is about sexism, full stop. That’s the question Sublime answered.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 10:15 PM
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Discrimination: the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people, especially on the grounds of race, age, or sex Is hugging someone “unjust”?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 10:08 PM
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Sexism: prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex Do you think giving someone a hug instead of a handshake is discriminating against them? Or do you think is innocuous type of behaviour isn’t really covered by this definition?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 10:01 PM
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But if you and your bro want to hug in the privacy of your own homes, how are other people stopping you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 09:47 PM
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You’re literally trying to force a definition on her. She’s answering for herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 09:46 PM
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Who exactly is denying you from hugging your bro?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 09:43 PM
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No, I think this is something parents should be responsible for. It’s all too vague and subjective for schools to get involved with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 05:23 AM
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This seems better suited to TRP. What would you like to debate here?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 12:08 PM
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This is a debate sub. Of course there’s not going to be some cohesive message lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 05:14 AM
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For this hypothetical to work I would have to be an entirely different person, and I don’t know how that person would act. I have a pretty high sex drive. If he cheated due to lack of sex, that would be a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 04:33 AM
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Buzzfeed has a lot of videos about fat acceptance for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 11:13 PM
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Sometimes I still feel bad when I go in too hard lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 09:21 AM
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Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. My mom and her husband have MS and it can be a rough disease. Wish you all the best. Stay strong and live the fullest life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 06:55 AM
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Everyone hating on Tony Hawk but he’s just a regular dad lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 06:48 AM
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If I were single and I didn’t know her and it was a one night thing, then yeah, probably. If it’s not me, it would be someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 06:40 AM
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Yes, in real life I’m extremely nice and put up with a lot of bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 06:38 AM
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I think she means familial style attachment to people who are not family members. “I love you like a brother” and that kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 03:18 AM
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How is the crowd reacting? If it’s positive, then the guy on stage is definitely going to be more attractive to me. I’m still into childlike ideas of what is and isn’t “cool” - and rockstars are cool. It’s a new light to see someone in. I used to work with a guy in insurance who had a band on the side, seeing him on stage was a trip. But if the crowd is lukewarm or not into it, ugh, I would instantly feel pity and discomfort. People putting themselves out there make me very nervous. My worst nig…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 12:53 PM
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I’m referencing marriage because we’re talking about marriage. The scenario OP’s laid out is between a husband and wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 09:45 PM
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You can’t teach nuance to the people on this sub who don’t understand it. If a guy can tell a playful no from a serious no, of course they should act accordingly. But most men on the sub seem to have no idea how other people communicate. For those men, better safe than sorry. The ones who don’t understand flirtation and fear a rape charge every time a woman wrinkles her nose at them. Those guys should use precaution for their own peace of mind. Let’s be honest, we’re not usually talking about no…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 11:33 AM
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But there are only like three rabid man-hating feminists on this sub. You are challenging a belief almost no one here has. It is not your method that’s wrong, but your audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 04:15 AM
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I’ve clarified this several times over in this thread. It is not the fantasy that’s abnormal, it’s the utter lack of any communication about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 04:14 AM
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I am trying to get to the root of the argument that feminists do in fact believe men are evil. So why are you clogging up this sub with this question? Why not asking actual feminists who state that men are evil?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 02:04 AM
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I’m sorry, at what point in history was lying impossible? When did wives lying become a new invention?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 02:02 AM
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Depends on whether or not they like them. If you find out your friend has had sex with a lot of guys, I doubt the average girl gives a shit. Find out someone you dislike has fucked a lot of guys, and it becomes another piece of ammo against them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 10:00 PM
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How is that an all in opposition to what I was saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:39 PM
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The push for affirmative consent has never been about husbands and wives. It’s about one night stands and brand new couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:35 PM
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No, women are not just lying in wait to file rape charges against their husbands. Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:32 PM
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If your wife tells you she has a rape fantasy, it shouldn’t be a controversial bomb when she later confirms that she has a rape fantasy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 01:02 PM
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When did you decide relationships weren’t for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 12:33 PM
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Oh wow, much older than I thought. Have you ever been in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 12:19 PM
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Are you actually over 35 years old? I assumed you were max 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 12:12 PM
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That’s great, it’s always nice to hear someone who appreciates their upbringing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 12:08 PM
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Life isn’t really like a shitty erotic thriller starring Sharon Stone lol. Maybe best you went your own way just in case. You know, better safe than sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 11:56 AM
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Sex under the influence is really not a big deal in a marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 11:43 AM
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Rapists are a minority, that’s right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 11:36 AM
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I agree that women need to take ownership over their sexual satisfaction, including the fulfillment of specific fantasies. This is especially important for couples without an established connection. Consent isn’t really a big issue for married couples though. If he tried to push past her boundaries, I’d be more worried about him being in the doghouse than being pulled in on rape charges. When it comes to random women, don’t play their games. If she says no, stop. If she didn’t mean it, make her …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 10:56 AM
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I agree with that, but I also think rape fantasies, especially ones where you explicitly say no and expect your partner to ignore you, are something that’s best to bring up in Some capacity beforehand. You can’t just expect that your husband will know that’s a fantasy for you. Again, I do not think it’s the norm to expect your husband to fulfill your rape fantasy without any verbal encouragement or acknowledgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 10:31 AM
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Yes, I suppose there are some couples where the woman explicitly says no, I don’t want to, and the husband knows without any verbal communication that she actually has a rape fantasy she wants him to fulfill. I still don’t think this is the norm. You need some basic ground rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 09:31 AM
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Like without ever even mentioning that she’d be into it? I’m sorry, I just don’t think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 09:24 AM
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If she straight up tells you no, like OP’s wife, it’s a good time to take pause and not “just do it”. Don’t be autistic is a given.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 09:02 AM
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For what? Conviction of a crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:53 AM
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Yes, the fantasies are very normal. But expecting your husband to carry them out with zero communication or explanation beforehand is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:53 AM
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Oh no, stop, please don’t go, give women another chance, what we will do without you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 06:15 AM
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If she really wanted to do that, it doesn’t matter whether they roleplayed rape or not. She could just lie and say whatever she wants. The only way it makes any difference is if they like filmed it and she presented it as video evidence or something. Otherwise nobody has any way of knowing whether she said no or yes or if they even had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 06:12 AM
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I just edited my comment to make myself more clear. I agree that rape fantasies are very common. I do not think it’s common for a woman to never bring it up, if it’s something she truly needs to be satisfied in her sex life. If it is really that integral to her happiness, I think she will at the very least hint at it rather than passively wait for him to just physically overpower her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 04:45 AM
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Women’s rape fantasies are carefully curated. They are envisioning specific things happening a specific way. That involves some discussion beforehand. Contrary to what some men may believe, the vast majority of women with rape fantasies do not actually want to be raped in real life. It’s about being lusted after to the point where the man can’t control himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 04:37 AM
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That’s disgusting, and why I never read past the first two paragraphs of a post lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 04:04 AM
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Her husband is the perfect person to fulfil her fantasy. But a woman secretly wanting her husband to physically overpower her by all appearances against her will while she says no is not the norm. Even for women who do have that fantasy, there’s usually some sort of discussion beforehand. Like hey, I have this fantasy, can we try it out, here’s what I’m thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 04:01 AM
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While there’s something to be said about women playing hard to get, the fact that your wife wants you to literally rape her is far from the norm. Edit: let me rephrase: it is not the norm that a woman who really truly wants her husband to fulfil her rape fantasy will never mention it to him. If it’s something she needs to be satisfied in their sex life, she will bring it up (and thus it is not actual rape, as described by OP, where the man believes the woman does not want it and fucks her anyway…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 02:15 AM
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Yep, this is the way to handle women like this. Don’t play her games.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 02:13 AM
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Someone’s been taking private lessons with Atlas. She must be so proud lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 11:11 AM
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Which part? Keep in the mind the unabomber part was a joke - I assumed that was obvious lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 09:46 AM
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Is this work/career related or anything that he does. Probably something that he is known for? I usually associate it with working with your hands or creating something. Whether that’s your career or your hobby makes no difference. What percentage of men you know do you reckon would actually be able to do this? I don’t know. Less and less every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 09:11 AM
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When I think of the term masculine, I think of a man who is competent in what he does, his emotions are in check, and he is comfortable outdoors. If he found himself out in the woods alone for a couple weeks, he would survive easily. He is unphased (at least outwardly) by challenges. Like a lumberjack or the unabomber.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 08:57 AM
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Billy Boyd was a longtime childhood crush. I liked that he was slight and cheeky and always smiling. He was the defining crush of my youth. Paul Bettany for similar reasons around the same time, and David Tenant for similar reasons now. The accents make a big difference, of course. I’ve never been into scowly or serious men. I find the brooding thing pretty grating. My major crushes have always been actors, not musicians. Maybe because there’s more information available about them?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 06:20 AM
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I’m saying that if a person doesn’t understand what this sub is for, they should check out our sidebar to see the various definitions, ideas and links to other subs that PPD covers. Lol you’ve been here three months longer than I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 12:32 AM
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? You’re aware that the man in question was both the teacher and the meth addict, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 09:43 PM
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Please read the sidebar before you participate, as well as some top posts and the front page. Newbies always feel like they should jump right in, but before you can debate something you should have a baseline understanding of it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 09:41 PM
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You should read Torture Porn in the Wake of 9/11 if you’re interested in how film changed as a result. I love how even a movie as silly as Saw or Hostel says something about our larger anxieties. I suspect that once A) society and economy stabilizes you will see more of these messages directed at men, and B) once the superhero craze dies down a little and we get mid budget movies again. I still think there is merit to your argument though. You should check out the book Female Chauvinist Pig to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 01:19 PM
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There used to be a lot of movies like that directed at men. American Beauty, Office Space, Fight Club. Then 9/11 happened and all of the stories became higher stakes. Part of the problem is that Hollywood doesn’t make mid-budget movies like they used. Everything is either mega budget or indie. Chick flicks are the only exception, and even that genre shrunk tremendously.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 12:39 PM
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The question was about asking your age though, so I don’t think the person you replied to was too far off.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 12:04 PM
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Yes, but I think they lie to themselves about it, too. I don’t think they’re secretly enlightened hedonists. I think they’re doing what they want, assigning acceptable motivation afterwards, and then ultimately not examining to too deeply. Most people don’t think about different philosophies too much at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 09:23 AM
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These are the examples people have given of hedonism in this thread. OP is talking about “spiritual” yoga and the person I replied to mentioned video games. I don’t know how closely related they are, but neither come to mind when I think of hedonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 09:02 AM
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You mean like a secret hedonist who lies about his beliefs? Sure, they could be a secret hedonist but I don’t see the point in analyzing whether or not someone is secretly following a philosophical school of thought on the down low. It’s like if someone says they’re Jewish and you respond with “we can never know what they actually think, it’s just as possible they secretly believe in Jesus”. IMO when discussing things like religion and philosophy it just makes more sense to take things at face v…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 08:56 AM
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Do you think most people would say you’re “acting your age”?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 08:51 AM
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Lol amen.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 07:02 AM
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But if we’re talking about your traditional backpackers adventure, that’s hardly a gender specific thing. Men and women are equally encouraged/discouraged from doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 06:30 AM
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I feel like I’m taking crazy pills. I’ve always associated hedonism with drinking, drugs, fucking, eating. Not yoga or video games. Is this really what everyone thinks of when they think of hedonism?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 06:28 AM
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We don’t disagree with each other. I thought when I said “people tell themselves” that is was clear I didn’t necessarily think they were being truthful. But even if people are lying to themselves about their motives, if they are not openly advocating for pleasure for pleasures sake, they are not subscribing to the hedonistic school of thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 06:15 AM
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You can pursue pleasurable activities as though they are a consequence of your actions, not the sole purpose. Like traveling under the guise of education, sex as a means to connect with someone, or drugs to open your mind. I would say most people tell themselves they’re pursuing something more noble than pleasure for pleasures sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 05:32 AM
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That is all interesting food for thought, but still doesn’t really address my argument. Spiritualism at its heart is about something greater than yourself. Hedonism is about pleasure for pleasure’s sake. As soon as you indulge in pleasure under the guise of a greater purpose, it is no longer pleasure for pleasures sake, and thus is not hedonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 05:30 AM
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That’s not really hedonism either. At least we’re getting somewhere now. So what you actually mean is society encourages women to make alternative lifestyles choices like abandoning corporate life and not getting married, whereas society encourages men to do the opposite? Is that a fair summary or your viewpoint?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 05:13 AM
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Honestly I don’t have a big issue with your use of the word hedonism. It’s the “eat Pray Love” thing I take issue with. What happens in that story? She eats pasta, does yoga and has sex with a guy right? Is that the best example of female hedonism you could come up with? Of corse society doesn’t really have a problem with that. There has to be examples that better illustrate your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 04:13 AM
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OP has the opportunity to edit his post to clarify if that’s what he means. I still disagree that doing yoga and meditation are hedonism, even with a little h.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 04:07 AM
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If you only want to hear from people who agree with you, I’m not sure a debate sub is the right place for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 04:06 AM
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A bit convoluted, but basically yes. To subscribe to hedonism, you necessarily need to be believe in pleasure for pleasures sake - that it doesn’t need a disguise to be a worthy pursuit. I also disagree with your characterization that the kind of spiritualism as presented in Eat Pray Love is what is traditionally meant by hedonism. I’m sure society with have no problem with more men doing yoga and meditating, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:56 AM
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Please define hedonism for the sake of this debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:46 AM
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That is an awful metaphor. Hedonism means something specific. You can’t just disregard the definition as if it doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:45 AM
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So to clarify, you think spiritualism and “finding yourself” is the same thing as hedonism?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:42 AM
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Hedonism is a specific school of thought which openly advocates for the pursuit of pleasure above all else. If they are “dressing it up” to make it seem as though it’s about a higher power or plane of existence, it is not hedonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:40 AM
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How can hedonism be disguised as spiritualism? They are opposites.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:36 AM
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It may be bullshit, but it’s not hedonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:36 AM
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Women who hate wearing makeup don’t wear makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:20 AM
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Eat Pray Love is not hedonism, and it’s certainly not about the meaninglessness of live. It’s about abstract spiritualism and “finding yourself”. It’s the female equivalent of Into the Wild. It amazes me how many people in this sub will namecheck pop culture without understanding what it actually is. Hedonism is the pursuit of pleasure for pleasures sake. While I agree that men are not encouraged towards hedonism, I don’t think you’ve done a good job of showing that women are. There might be som…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:16 AM
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Not when only one side cares about it. You’re asking a sub where maybe three people total unironically reference “the patriarchy”. All you’re getting is circle jerking anti-feminism. Nobody represents the viewpoint you’re questioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 02:19 AM
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Really?? She is so obviously a rabidly feminist woman lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 11:00 PM
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Why don’t you go to a subreddit whose purpose is to debate feminism and ask them? Stop clogging up this sub with irrelevant garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 10:57 PM
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Do you mean in this sub? Because you’re never going to get the satisfying debate from feminists on PPD that you guys seem To crave. There’s just not that many feminists on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 10:56 PM
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I didn’t say this POV was mainstream, but it does exist. You honestly can only think of one person in your life who thinks being a SAHM is a better gig than working?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 10:52 PM
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Sounds like they don’t like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 06:40 AM
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She’s talking about your overly emotional language, adding your own personal spin not supported by your link.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 09:20 PM
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A difference of a few thousand dollars a year is not “financially supporting the family”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 09:17 PM
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This is incredibly fucking broad. You want to cover every kind of gender gap out there? What’s the point? A dick measuring contest for inequality?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 01:01 PM
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How is it possible that you have never in your life found a group of likeminded individuals who would be open to this discussion and agree with what you have to say? Why are you surrounded by people so far removed from you ideologically that you can’t even broach this topic? That is fascinating to me. Have you surrounded yourself with rabid feminists that you actively fear offending? Why have you done that to yourself? Fuck, I am a liberal feminist and I’ve heard a shit ton of people complain ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 12:57 PM
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And you think this is unique to women? That men don’t paint themselves as heroes in their own stories?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 01:52 AM
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So you disagree that WaW is about how society sees women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 10:32 PM
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So are you saying that WaW is illustrated in how she told her story, or in the commercial success of her book? I thought WaW described society’s tendency to give women favourable treatment or a more positive interpretation of their behaviour or motives. Not how women see themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 10:09 PM
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Women Ohboyarethey Wonderful
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 09:47 PM
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I’m a little confused by your comment. Do you mean that Eat Pray Love was a success not because of the subject matter, but because it was written by a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 09:45 PM
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When I said she should talk to people like she’s a human for once, I meant like don’t go straight for the “I am royalty, you are not”. Or if you are going go for that, you gotta own it like Cersei does. Dany talks a big game about breaking the wheel and changing the system, but she’s too hung up on her own family mythology and what’s “rightfully” hers. She holds herself out like she’s different, but deep down she’s as petty and power hungry as everyone else. It’s the hypocrisy that really annoys…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 02:03 PM
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It doesn’t matter to anyone in Westeros what she did in some other land. How does conquering another kingdom give her the right to rule this one? i don't see how what she did is any different to Euron except less torture on her end. Euron was elected by his people. Dany is trying to rule the North through bloodline. When you say Dany gets judged more harshly than men who do the same thing, which men are you thinking of? Because honestly, Joffrey and Viserys are the only ones I can think of who d…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:51 PM
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I still don’t understand your comment. You said she didn’t say “anything about” and then you quoted exactly what she said. Did you skim her comment and miss it, or was there a mistake in your response, like you meant to phrase it differently?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:40 PM
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??? She literally said we need to “hold women who abuse equally accountable”. Is this like a joke comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:31 PM
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Which male characters on the show became leaders through bloodline alone? Everyone I can think of who was successful earned their crown - Robert Baratheon led the rebellion and took it by force, Robb Stark and Jon Snow were essentially elected by their people, and Euron pillaged his way across the world. The only male characters that come to mind were Viserys and Joffrey - they certainly felt that they were owed respect and deference because of their bloodline. They definitely aren’t celebrated …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:23 PM
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He seems to be missing a vital aspect of the “me too” movement - that there are victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:13 PM
1

Hardly “breaking the wheel” by trying to force respect on title alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:11 PM
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What does riding the cock carousel or getting an abortion have to do with “me too”?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:06 PM
1

That’s an interesting interpretation. Which women do you see as just and fair leaders?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:04 PM
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The more I get to know Daenerys, the more I dislike her. Can’t she ever just talk to someone like she’s a human being for once? Even thanking Sam, she has to approach it like “and as your queen, what gift might I bestow upon you from my many riches, humble peasant?”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:02 PM
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I loved this episode. The scene between Dany and Sam wasn’t something I thought I needed, but I loved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 01:00 PM
1

Report it to your insurance company. I’m not sure what you’re asking though. In what way are you an interested party? Is it something similar to you own a store and someone pretended to slip in it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 12:59 PM
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That depends on what you value in a woman. Your comment doesn’t make sense to me. If she’s “devaluing” faster than you are, and you don’t want to get divorced, can you just, gee I don’t know, not divorce her? If she’s devalued you should have the power right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 12:57 PM
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One cow and three chickens.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 12:54 PM
5

So sensitive. If you can’t handle these comments, you’re in for a shock with the rest of the sub lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 03:54 AM
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Two neutrally phrases responses and suddenly I’m “shrieking” lol. Don’t make comments if you can’t handle responses. This is a debate sub, not a monologue sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 03:49 AM
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She’s clarifying her response. She doesn’t value men with no sexual experience to the point where they don’t even exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 09:52 PM
11

Really? Having previous sexual partners and n count are not even “remotely” related?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 09:43 PM
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So she’s answering the question. This is a Q4Women, it’s what we’re supposed to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 09:41 PM
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Lol it’s because for a lot of women sex is tied up with their emotions and it’s something you do with a partner. Friends with benefits is messy. Too many hurt feelings and jealousy. They also might not be attracted to you and this is letting you down easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 08:34 PM
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As that kind of man seems to make up the bulk of PPD’s male user base, it’s a fair question.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 09:48 PM
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It’s a myth and it always has been a myth. I also think it has nothing to do with this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 08:58 PM
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We definitely used to have women who understood and agreed with red pill, or who saw personal benefits from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 10:35 AM
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Haha probably after one too many thinly veiled insults that implied I was american. You’ve grown on me, I just don’t like debating you lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 10:34 AM
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I think it’s a combination of incel vs everyone else, and men vs women. It was much more interesting when red pill included women, too. Now the red pill side is so cartoonishly anti-women, all women are on the same side. I can’t remember the last time I had a decent disagreement with a female Red Piller. I also think the problem stems not just from red pill users here, but TRP as a whole. Their user base just isn’t as educated about their own subject matter as they used to be. When TRP did that …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 04:00 AM
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We’ve definitely talked about this before. I didn’t think it was so weird either lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 04:28 AM
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Femcel is the new feminist - as in, just a word men on PPD user to describe women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 02:25 AM
2

So what are you then?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 02:23 AM
2

How is this femcel?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 02:23 AM
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If I wanted a relationship with a guy and he didn’t want a relationship with me, that would not be a compliment lol. I suppose it would still be complimentary that he found me sexually attractive though. I can’t imagine a scenario where it would ever be a compliment for a guy to not want to date me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 10:21 PM
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Female here. A man will have sex with anyone. I suppose it would be a compliment if an absolutely gorgeous man chose you out of many women. Like if Chris hemsworth wanted to have sex with me but no relationship, I would not feel insulted. A man wanting to have a relationship with you actually means something. Unless they’re the kind of low value man who would want to be in a relationship with anyone, doesn’t matter who. In that case it’s not much of a compliment, but still not an insult.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 10:02 PM
2

How can anyone base their worldview on one long winded Reddit post? A handful of comments isn’t proof of anything
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 11:49 AM
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Yes, because as I already explained, from my perspective disliking men alone is not unique to femcels. Just like disliking women is not unique to incels. I’ve already explained my point of view. Can you give me your definition of femcel, and how this post applies?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 09:12 AM
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Incel content is different then just an incel making a post. How is a post asking if men are disgusting femcel content?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 08:52 AM
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Incels are allowed to post here, as long as the post itself is not about being an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 08:30 AM
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Yes. I don’t think that femcel just means you hate men. It means you are involuntarily unsuccessful with them, and grow to resent them because of that lack of success. Just like how hating women alone doesn’t make you an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 06:32 AM
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I’m barely 5’5 so you’d still be a lot taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 04:43 AM
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I don’t 69 with my friends anyways lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 04:42 AM
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How is this a femcel post?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 04:41 AM
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If she never comes into contact with him, he never had the chance to disgust her, and so she is not disgusted by him. And if most men are invisible to women, as you said, then most men are not disgusting. And so yes, women can answer the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 04:39 AM
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Okay, so as soon as she’s been in contact with him, she knows she finds him disgusting. And so she is perfectly qualified to answer the question as to whether or not she finds him disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 03:43 AM
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If they don’t notice them, they are not disgusted by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 02:31 AM
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The question is about women. There are lots of things men could do but like OP has said, that’s been discussed to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 09:52 PM
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Most men are tall men to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 08:34 PM
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“Social decline” is a little dramatic, but they’ve contributed to sexlessness by not lowering their standards to match what men are offering, by becoming more independent, and by getting fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:54 PM
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So ultimately you are the authority on which men are objectively disgusting. You sound like Gretchen in Mean Girls. “You might think you like someone, but you could be wrong”. Women may not realise they’re disgusted by a man, but they are. Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:49 PM
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Maybe, but this is what the commenter you answered to wanted to say. Honestly I think he just wanted to say boys rule, girls drool. The inverse to OP. The truly worthless point is saying women in a debate sub can’t be trusted to discuss their own interior thought processes and subjective feelings. If you really believe that, there is no point in you being here. Why would you waste time debating someone who literally can’t tell how they feel about something?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:41 PM
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Went to an Aussie bush party this weekend. Expected it to be like 350 people but there was max 125. Felt like the dredges of Queensland society lol, just getting absolutely fucked in a cow farm in the woods, trance music blasting the poor cows into hiding. Weird experience but hell of a lot of a fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:37 PM
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People in this sub can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:33 PM
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People are trying to understand what constitutes a disgusting man to women. You think that’s the point of this OP? I think she just wants to bitch about men and was hoping everyone else would jump on the bandwagon. OP isnt asking “what percentage of men in the world are disgusting”. She’s asking “do most men disgust you”. If you and that other guy are right, and most men in the world are invisible, then they aren’t disgusting anyone. Thus when women say no, most men don’t disgust them, they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:30 PM
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But that still doesn’t make sense. If a man is invisible, he is not disgusting. Unless you mean to say “disgusting” can be measured objectively, as opposed to defining it as a feeling people have about you. Is this what you mean? Men can be disgusting even if no one notices them? Like if a tree falls and no ones around, does it still make a sound?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:07 PM
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Ok, so then women can tell when they’re disgusted by a man. And thus they are qualified to answer this question. The invisible middle are irrelevant to the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:05 PM
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So then those are the only men who disgust them, and so they are answering the question at hand. If a man isn’t noticed, then he isn’t disgusting - and so the question does not apply to him. Do you see what I’m saying? OP asked if women find most men disgusting. Whether or not most men are invisible to her is irrelevant. If they’re invisible, they’re not disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 11:54 AM
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What can I say, they give superior hugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 11:10 AM
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That doesn’t make sense. How can someone be both disgusting to you and invisible? You either notice them or you don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 10:37 AM
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How disgusting can someone be if you don’t even notice them? You seem to be confusing disgust with indifference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 10:36 AM
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You’re saying women find invisible disgusting on an unconscious level they’re not even aware of? How does that work? If a man is invisible, that’s hardly the same as saying he’s disgusting, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 10:07 AM
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Good. You know what they say - if it hurts when you do this, stop doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 09:37 AM
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How often do you encounter big groups of horny drunk men? Do you go to nightclubs a lot?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 09:29 AM
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Ideal for him. But I don’t care lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 09:26 AM
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So like strangers? Do large groups of male strangers disgust me? No, they don’t disgust me. If they’re drunk, they make me wary, but not disgusted. I’ve been in groups of strangers where I was one of the only women and I felt perfectly fine: in class, at conventions, at film festivals. It’s not too often that I’m in a big group of men where I don’t know anyone though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 09:25 AM
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The way you’ve worded your post is misleading then, as you seem to be talking about the big majority of men. I also don’t like men I don’t like lol. But “most” men don’t fall into that group. I can’t think of a single demographic where I dislike “most” of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 09:21 AM
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That makes sense - people tend to surround themselves with like-minded folk. You’re still in a tiny minority. It’s not surprising that women who hate men would group together with other women who hate men. It lowers the risk of an awful awful human male infiltrating the group.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 09:16 AM
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Wider is okay but taller is ideal. Having someone else’s head rest on top of yours is dope.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 09:14 AM
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I love men and I love spending time with them. Some of the funniest and most entertaining people I know are men, and getting hugged by someone a lot taller than you is a beautiful feeling. Even male friends I’m not romantically interested in, I like having physical contact with: arms around each other during karaoke, big hugs, etc. Mixed gender hang outs always feel more relaxed to me than just being with women. I can’t wrap my head around the idea of finding half the world disgusting or unbeara…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 09:10 AM
2

Hard working goes hand in hand with providing. You cannot provide if you haven’t got anything to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 04:15 AM
3

Those are absolutely beta traits. What do you think beta bucks means?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 04:06 AM
1

I don’t think twitch is a very representative sample of all gamers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 09:36 PM
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Only a tiny fraction of gamers are on twitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 08:38 PM
2

Do you have non-anecdotal evidence to price that attractive women don’t play video games?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 08:34 PM
2

You cute
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 12:24 PM
4

Neither option is perfect. Each have pros and cons. You have to decide what’s right for you and your family. For some people, higher income and workplace interactions are pros worth working for.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 03:26 AM
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I think it’s much more difficult to have a life outside the home when you’re not working. Your husband would need to make a lot of money to pay for daytime extracurricular and you would need to know quite a few other people who can afford to be in that position. People get stuck in their routines.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 02:39 AM
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I think the question is designed for people to add and subtract their own pros and cons and give their own opinion. So a man who doesn’t want kids would obviously have a different list than OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 02:37 AM
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So then answer this question from the perspective of a man who doesn’t want a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 02:31 AM
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I think it’s like a trick question because how can housewives be single?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 02:29 AM
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You have a life outside of the home, and the family as a whole (including you) will have more disposable income.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 02:27 AM
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I don’t understand. Is working satisfying an immediate individual gratification? Or do you mean there are a variety of motivations behind different life choices? I don’t get who this dig is at.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 02:26 AM
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Never assume your ONS is going to lead anywhere meaningful. If you feel used or taken advantage of when you have casual sex, then that means casual sex is not for you and you shouldn’t engage in it. People need to protect themselves and not rely so much on strangers doing it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 02:22 AM
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I don’t think I’m particularly emotional either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 11:57 PM
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Decoy is snarky, but he hardly seems particularly emotional compared to everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 10:06 PM
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Animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 09:23 PM
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He had the nerve to be surprised it was gone. How do you not notice you ate a whole loaf of bread?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 09:23 PM
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Morrissey is such a sad sack. Don’t listen to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 09:21 PM
1

Who is joe b?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 09:20 PM
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Banning people from participating because they disagree with you does not make you a cult. As another user said, it makes you an echo chamber. Words have meaning, and “cult” just isn’t the right word here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 09:09 PM
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Yes, they’re definitely echo chambers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 09:08 PM
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Your two questions to me were irrelevant to the topic as they are not determining factors on what makes something a cult. This is a debate sub. You should expect that people will push back or “get ruffled over” your comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 09:07 PM
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Nope, those are not unique to cults. You made find these subs offensive or distasteful but the word “cult” means something specific. “Preaches hate” isn’t it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 11:41 AM
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I didn’t mention those things, and those are not unique hallmarks of cults. Preaching hate doesn’t make you a cult.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 11:21 AM
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Yes, blonde kidnappings and cute serial killers are big draws for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 11:18 AM
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This is silly. These subreddits are a place for likeminded people to gather and share ideas and vent to each other. Unlike cults, they require nothing from their members. You just have to show up and play by the rules. There are no isolation tactics, no promises made by the user towards the group as a whole, and rarely a single all-controlling leader as we see in many cults. What you’re described by is just a group of people with rules for discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 09:18 AM
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Because the public isn’t interested in news stories about nobody’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 06:44 AM
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My minor was in psychology, and while none of my classes were specifically focused solely on evopsych, every class touched on it at some level.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 06:40 AM
1

I didn’t even have a chance to! I ate one slice. He ate the rest of the loaf!!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 04:30 AM
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I specifically made enough dinner to save a portion for lunch tomorrow. I turn around and my husband has EATEN ALL THE GARLIC BREAD. Unforgivable. Time to start the divorce rape proceedings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 09:45 AM
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I feel the same way. I’m not offended that people think I’m a snarky white knighting bloop guy. It’s just not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 06:32 AM
1

You should change your flair - “the sane one” lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 12:43 AM
1

My lips have been so dry all summer I haven’t been able to wear lipstick once yet. They’ve just been gathering dust for months.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 12:42 PM
1

Ugh I feel worse for everyone else in first class. Imagine paying that much money and some other persons screaming kid is next to you. I’ve done the Sydney-LA flight a few times now and mostly kids on it have been pretty good. The trick is noise cancelling headphones.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 12:10 PM
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How about a Q4Incels, the result of which is “ban on sight”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 12:08 PM
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No. My period is only 2.5 days long. My hair isn’t great but I wouldn’t want to lose it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:36 AM
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I’m female, I wear makeup every day. I love trying new eyeshadow combinations and picking out my highlighter for the day. It makes getting up at 630am for a job I hate just a little bit better - it’s fun. I don’t feel like I need it or anything. I don’t wear it camping or at music festivals. It’s a hobby, not a necessity. ETA: my collection contains 10+ highlighters, 15+ eye palettes and 25+ lipsticks. It cost hundreds of dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:32 AM
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I am married but we’re not even at our one year yet. Been together for over 12 years though. I am very happily married, do not regret. Doesn’t feel much different than living together though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:27 AM
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Hmm I’m not sure that’s unethical so much as a gigantic waste of time for all involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 10:51 AM
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How is it unethical to lie about your weight? People have eyes don’t they? Can’t they tell if they find you attractive or not without knowing the number?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 10:47 AM
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Of course men “have the right” lol. Are you asking us if we think lifts and male makeup should be made illegal? What a silly question. The question is not should men be allowed to do this, it’s does this male a positive difference for men? Does the risk of a woman realizing you wear lifts or makeup outweigh the benefit? Because as enlightened as we may be, you’re still going to get crucified if a woman sees you applying colour corrector and concealer. Same goes for wearing a wig or straightening…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 09:46 AM
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Mine probably just says “not decoy88” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 08:40 AM
2

Oh my god I just realized I’ve definitely mixed you guys up. I wondered when you got so angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 06:43 AM
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No, I’ve only had one relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 09:53 PM
1

Can’t complain too much about the weather, but I can’t wait for autumn to really hit Brisbane. This city has a severe lack of coziness. All I want to do is curl up in a flannel and toque and drink hot choccy. I’m tired of sweating!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 10:44 AM
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That’s so weird to me because while I have nothing against him, I don’t find myself enthusiastically agreeing with him that much. Personally I think he’s more blue than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 10:28 AM
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Not that she doesn’t think it’s appropriate - that she thinks it’s uninteresting because it’s so personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 08:30 AM
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I’ve interpreted these words based on the context in which they are spoken, and my knowledge of the person speaking them. Are you saying you can’t possibly see how I arrived at this interpretation? The only way I could get there is by interepreting words “any way I want”? That’s very interesting. I didn’t think her phrasing was especially nuanced or difficult to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 08:20 AM
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I would say “yay” but that hardly instills dread, does is?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 06:19 AM
3

His words throughout this thread have indicated religion is of high priority to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 03:57 AM
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I have had so many people think I’m a man because of that guy. I’ve been here for years!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 03:39 AM
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I would not take someone’s commitment to religion seriously if they did not attend a church, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 03:31 AM
1

Where should a man meet a like-minded woman of the same religion?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 03:09 AM
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OP says religion is very important to him and he’s looking for someone with shared values. Finding someone who is active in the same religion that he is is the beat way to make that happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 03:09 AM
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I don’t care what you do about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 03:08 AM
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It’s her way of saying “this is a you problem and not something interesting to the sub at large”.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:40 PM
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It’s still the best bet to find a religious woman. Where do you recommend he find a religious woman who doesn’t go to church?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:39 PM
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The OP explicitly says she is referring to the dynamic between herself and her husband. I don’t understand how you can read that and say no, the OP is not referring to long term relationships. You may think the post would be better or more enlightening if it were a broader scope, but to chide someone for discussing their relationship dynamic when that is exactly what the OP has referred to seems silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 08:34 PM
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Moving to Poland sounds a little extreme when you could just give the Bible Belt a try. There are absolutely communities in the states that share your values. It wasn’t that long ago that the Christian Right was a hugely influential voting block. It’s not like they all just died or converted once Obama won. Stand by your principles. If religion is a priority for you, then make some changes in your life to reflect that. It will also show potential partners that you actually share their religious …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 12:34 PM
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If religion is important to you, shouldn’t you try and find a church that represents your values? How can worship somewhere where you disagree with the rest of the congregation on a fundamental level? If religion is a top priority in your life, finding the right church seems like it should be at least as important as finding the right partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 12:11 PM
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If you’re looking for a religious woman with shared interests, why don’t you try meeting someone through your church?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 11:59 AM
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Do you honestly think that the same women who openly long for sugar daddies are the same women who publicly shame those sugar daddies for wanting a younger partner? Or do you think it’s possible that what you’re witnessing is different women having different reactions to something? There is nothing hypocritical about one woman thinking something different than another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 10:39 AM
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OP specifically says “this hasn’t been true for me and my husband”. Why do you think she’s talking about the early stages of dating or a stranger?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 10:31 AM
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They shouldn’t have verification for anything IMO. It’s not up the app to verify someone’s height or job or even name. That’s on you - you should assume everyone is lying at least a little. You’re responsible to self protect. If you want the app to do the leg work for you, subscribe to one of those expensive specialized dating apps. Tinder is free and you get what you pay for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 10:41 PM
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Why would women here know that? What does this have to do with PPD? Why would a man identify as a male but try to appear like a woman? How could he identify as a male but be so successful at dressing as a woman that he passes? This is a stupid post.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 09:34 AM
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No, I definitely want kids. It would be a dealbreaker for sure if he didn’t want them. If he couldn’t have them but still wanted them, I would consider other options like adoption.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 03:49 AM
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I think it’s easier to say “start doing this” than “stop doing that”. If there’s a guy who keeps doing something you dislike, he make take it personally when you explicitly tell him to stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 09:20 PM
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The paternity thread is not about Women being believed by Men. It is about an individual woman being trusted by her husband or boyfriend. Relationships are built on a certain level trust. If your husband tells you that trust doesn’t exist, you’re more than likely going to be a little shaken or offended by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 08:59 AM
1

Well yes the entire idea of Chad is a joke. It’s a stereotype - that’s the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 07:16 AM
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“Guy who hangs out with girls” is hardly the archetypal desirable male. Do you know what archetypal means?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 06:39 AM
1

That’s way more in line with my definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 02:16 AM
1

Here on PPD? That’s certainly how I’ve seen it defined.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 11:37 PM
1

I always thought of it like traditionally masculine, captain of the jocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 10:23 PM
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I would fine with a long term relationship where we didn’t get married. Especially as in my province, you are automatically considered common law and have certain financial protections after you’ve lived together for a certain length of time or have kids. My partner and I were together for over ten years before he proposed. Marriage is nice but wasn’t a necessity for me. However I would not be interested in a long term relationship with someone who has made it clear he would propose if I were go…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 10:15 PM
1

Any man who prefers the company of women and does not fit in with men is not chad in a traditional sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 10:04 PM
1

So the dynamic with chad and the dynamic with the gay friend is essentially the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:53 PM
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Only in France is it illegal to get a paternity test done on your child without the mothers consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 08:36 PM
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I’m pretty sure that is only France. In any other country it’s allowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 08:33 PM
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Yes. I would be upset if my husband legitimately thought I might have cheated when I didn’t. If he wants a paternity test for his own peace of mind, he should get a sneaky mail in one done.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 08:32 PM
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Yes, otherwise your insistence on writing about their viewpoints, which are largely unrepresented here, is just circle jerking.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 10:06 PM
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It’s definitely trashy, but so are most people that go to the travelling carnival in my hometown every year. Doesn’t mean it’s bad parenting. You’re not going to ruin your kids because they saw cleavage while they ate wings.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 10:03 PM
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I could do all of these things. I’ve only dine five or so though. Pretty tame.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 08:12 AM
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My partner has never had sex with anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 09:57 PM
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Woman here - I feel the same way. There’s no specific moment. It’s a culmination of many moments, feelings and time together.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 05:38 AM
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I think it depends on the woman. Some women are naturally flirtatious, it’s part of their personality and how they interact with everyone. If a woman is introverted and keeps to herself and suddenly is flirting with one specific guy, that’s different than a girl who’s flirty with pretty much everyone. It also depends on how you define flirting. Is smiling, teasing and occasional compliments flirting? Or does it have to be sexual? I define the former as flirting and I do it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 01:23 AM
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Yes. My gut reaction is that the money needs to be good enough to cover the hassle. The genetic side doesn’t really matter much to me at all. As long as no one could contact me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 12:52 PM
2

I have better hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 12:20 PM
2

My only flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 11:38 AM
2

Why do you expect other people are reporting comments if you’re not?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 09:58 AM
1

Have you reported those comments from women answering Q4Men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 09:55 AM
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I’d think it was a little weird but it wouldn’t bother me. Just seems old-fashioned. Old people acting lovey are always cute, but it’s just because they’re old.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 08:42 AM
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We dated for 11 years before we got married. We were already common law at that point as we’d lived together for like 5-6 years. Marriage was never a necessity for me. He wanted to get married before we ha kids. In our case even though it was a long time together, I’m not sure I would have wanted to get married earlier than that. 29 was a good age, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:41 AM
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I think that with online dating, it’s easy to imagine everything you want on paper and then filter out people who don’t meet that standard, when in reality you could easily be compatible with someone who isn’t as educated, is an inch or two shorter than your ideal, or dresses poorly. Having similar levels of education often means you run in the same social circles, and the difference between someone with a GED and someone with a PHD might be too much, I don’t think there’s any meaningful differe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 10:05 PM
1

The way that others view me plays a role in how I see feel. They’re connected.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 08:33 PM
1

Oh wow I was going to say mine were really long but yours are next level. Mine are usually maybe half that. Broke two at a music festival about a month ago, and then I started biting them again and can’t stop. Went over two years without biting but I slipped back into that habit very quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 11:09 AM
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I don’t think being feminine and being a woman have all that much in common. When I say I “feel” feminine, I mean I feel traditionally and culturally feminine, like I probably look like I’m in a tampon commercial, spinning around in a white dress. I don’t always feel feminine, but I always am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 10:54 AM
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I guess I feel feminine around certain female friends. I have a group of friends that are very much into a sort of Pinterest aesthetic. Hot chocolate and cozy sweaters on cold cabin weekends, yoga and French braids in the fall, twinkly lights and campfire coffee in the summer. We also get together to bake, pickle things, and make soap. It’s performative feminity but it’s enjoyable and comfortable. It’s not a feeling I get from men or even my other female friends. It’s more like a total absence o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 10:49 AM
2

Her n count could be 1 and that would still be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:29 AM
2

Pretty much the same thing for my now husband and I.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:28 AM
2

Absolutely not. Dating a guy who never wants to leave the house sounds awful. I can’t imagine being non a relationship with someone uninterested in travel.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:17 AM
2

Why not do both? You can report and participate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:14 AM
2

Some individual women have a higher sex drive than some individual men, but overall men definitely have a higher sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/19 09:49 PM
2

Hmm, we’ve been together over 12 years, so there have been a lot of small gestures. I think one of the most cinematically romantic things was for my 30th birthday. He gave me my card first thing and it said pack your bag, we’re going away for the weekend. He booked us a weekend away out of town and booked us a nice dinner. I was a little bummed that my 30th would be so far from my friends and family, but that made it really nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 10:37 AM
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Yeah, catcalling usually happens when you’re alone or with another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 09:25 AM
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A lot of cults have tried this already, to varying degrees of ruin.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 10:22 PM
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Oh yeah, I’ve seen Dark Knight. I just meant I haven’t seen any others from the DC universe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 08:33 PM
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But what validates this cultural expectation? The countless previous portrayals of the character. It is the perfectly reasonable expectation that a character everyone is incredibly familiar with won’t suddenly act like a different person in this new iteration. Besides, marvel superheroes are rarely if ever smiling on the movie posters. Can you name any?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 12:37 PM
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Read my comment again - emphasis on only. If a man is telling other men to smile, that means he’s not only telling women, and so again - does not apply to my comment. But I like to talk on complicated topics, that's why. 🙄 everyone knows smart people mostly frown.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 12:34 PM
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And if a man is only asking women to smile when it is irrelevant to her job, then yes, I think that’s sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 12:25 PM
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There were individual expectations, but no cultural expectations based on prior knowledge of her character. Everyone knows who Superman is and what he stands for. Your average Joe didn’t know jack shit about Captain Marvel. You don’t understand the difference? I’m not sure how else to word it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 12:24 PM
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So in that case it doesn’t affect how you do your job, and so doesn’t apply to my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 12:23 PM
3

As far as the general public is concerned, Captain Marvel is a blank slate. The filmmakers can basically invent her characterization from whole cloth. Everyone knows who Superman is and what he’s like. There are expectations at play that don’t exist for Captain Marvel. Superman’s entire schtick is hope for the human race.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 12:08 PM
2

Do you think a lot of high libido women are intentionally withholding sex from men they’re interested in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 12:05 PM
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Its not just about the act of smiling. It’s about the entire characterization of Superman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 11:55 AM
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Superman isn’t really supposed to be moody. It’s like if Spider-Man was really depressed all the time. These are characters well established in our cultural landscape. Superman is hope. Captain Marvel doesn’t have that same burden. She’s only really known by comic book nerds. There’s more freedom to make her whatever the producers want her to be. Superman should smile more. DC Universe doesn’t need another Batman. Honestly though the only DC movies I’ve seen are Wonder Woman and Suicide Squad. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 11:54 AM
3

Who told superman to smile more? Like people told the actor to smile more in his portrayal? Critics or audience members?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 11:48 AM
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Secretaries should smile while they’re interacting with clients and higher ups. They’re one of the first points of contact for a company. If some random sales guy wants you to smile while you’re making copies though, fuck that. It’s none of his business. I’m struggling to recall a specific time I was told to smile more. I smile a lot anyways though
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 11:47 AM
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If a man tells a strange woman to smile more because he would be personally be happier if she looked prettier and more welcoming, I think that’s sexist. If your boss or colleague tells you to smile more because it’s affecting how people react to you and how you do your job, that’s just part of the job. If a person tells random people in the street to smile more, men and women, that’s a weirdo.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 11:27 AM
1

You think the only things important about you are your weaknesses?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 04:47 AM
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That’s fine, nothing wrong with choosing to be single. I think you’d find it much harder to maintain any sort of long term relationship if shared absolutely nothing about yourself. The S stands for significant, get what I’m saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 03:30 AM
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Have you ever had an SO?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 03:26 AM
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Do you want me to address your title question or the scenario in your post? Because they are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 02:32 AM
1

How does anyone marry someone they’ve never had sex with. Seems like this is exactly the sort of situation you’d end up in Right? Didn’t she ever watch sex and the city??
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 02:31 AM
1

How can you sue someone for telling the truth about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 02:30 AM
1

How would that work? Would you lie about everything or just never talk?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 02:29 AM
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I feel like OP trapped me into reading this post by intentionally misleading me with the title. They only pulled the micro penis out after I was already invested.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 02:29 AM
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She and I are in the same ballpark. I think my face is a bit rounder though and her nostrils are way more prominent. My nose doesn’t turn up at all like that. Better than other apps I’ve tried though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 11:30 PM
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My highest match - some actress names Jessica Ryles I put in four different selfies and she was the best match on all - somewhere between 40-45%. Our mouths look different, and her nose and chin are more pointed than mine are, but overall it’s not a bad match. Edit: I just used that other site and I’m between 71 - 100% feminine and between 24-47 years old lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 11:12 PM
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TLDR You need to edit down your comments a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 01:50 PM
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Yep, definitely. I forget there are real people on the other side of my comments sometimes. Am way leaner and flippant than I’d be IRL
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 01:46 PM
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When would anyone get anything done?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 01:33 PM
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One is more tailored for dating/FWB type of deals ( And not necessarily anything serious, especially when given to people at the 18-24 age range ) and the other is for an ONS atmosphere, yet both share the premise of trying to mitigate 'desperation' or the like by detaching yourself from an 'objective' of having casual sex in some way, which isn't wrong by itself, but I've failed to see making a substantial difference in attraction. It’s the drugs and alcohol that make the difference. They’re th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 01:16 PM
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Men would fuck a hole in the ground. Knowing they’d bang you too isn’t a self esteem booster. It’s just a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 12:58 PM
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You have a lot wrong in your comment. Doing coke and going to a dive bar are not on par with pursuing a hobby - not at all. Unless that hobby involves drugs and alcohol. Doing coke with girls is nothing at all like really getting into model airplanes or something. There’s also a reason why I specified dive bar, and didn’t say club. Go to a jersey shore style club and the competition is going to be way more looks-based than your local dive. The women won’t necessarily be as young and attractive, …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 12:48 PM
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This is very long and very boring. It’s barely related to what I’ve said (where did I say anything about a hobby?). You’re just hijacking the top comment to whine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 12:30 PM
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It’s not really about how many weeks or how many dates. If we’re both feeling it and the opportunity arises, and he says no just for the sake of it, that tells me we’re not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 12:28 PM
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No. It never would have crossed my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 11:11 AM
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I wouldn’t wait. Sex is too important to me. Waiting for the sake of it makes me think sex isn’t all that much for him. I want a guy so horny he wants to fuck all the time. My current (and only) relationship is one where my libido is much higher. I love him but it can be difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 10:26 AM
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Feel free to go your own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 06:30 AM
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I’ll pass. Oh no, how will she ever recover from this devasting appraisal!! No one here gives a shit if you want to date them or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 06:30 AM
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Annoyed. Anytime someone downplays or complains about an obvious strength, it’s annoying - even if they truly believe it. Like that kid in class who would always whine about they were going to fail but got 90%. No one likes that kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 05:35 AM
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I assume people reading this thread already know the basics. No, a girl won’t land on your dick just because you’re having a fun time. Of course you have to escalate. No single comment will ever be comprehensive enough to cover absolutely everything you have to do. I’m trying to offer something that isn’t normally put out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 06:40 AM
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I’m not going to worry about you either way. A man who thinks chatting with women at a bar is on par with small talk with their mailman isn’t going to learn much from this exchange.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 04:20 AM
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Chat means make light conversation. As in, no heart to heart. That’s literally all it means. No wonder you guys struggled so much. You’re looking for “Just Be Yourself” where it doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 04:13 AM
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Mess doesn’t bother me - at least not the to point where I’ll do much about it. I don’t even really notice it. When I lived on my own, it was disgusting. Just so much clutter and grossness. At one point I had three couches in my tiny apartment. My husband is much clearer/tidier. I clean up after myself for him (although he still does the bulk of the cleaning).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 03:57 AM
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How bizarre that you interpreted her to advice to mean “talk to your mailman like a buddy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 03:52 AM
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I only use it at night because your teeth get covered in gritty black bits. I don’t even use something as good as the paste - I use straight powder.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 02:28 AM
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You’re describing the same thing she said, you’re just being long-winded about it. Get drunk at a bar and chat with other drunk people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 02:27 AM
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I don’t think there’s anyone who doesn’t understand the intended analogy. They just think it’s a poor one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 02:26 AM
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Nope, drugs are like catnip to party girls. They’re not necessarily fucking you strictly for your drugs, like a carefully calculated transaction. It’s more like they want the party to keep going, you’ve got the means, next thing you know it’s 4am, no one else is still up - you’re fucking. Who cares why they’re fucking you? This isn’t about some existence-affirming experience. It’s casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 02:25 AM
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I don’t know, what was the point in you making an entire post explaining an obvious but flawed analogy? We understand the analogy, but it’s inherebtly flawed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 01:59 AM
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When you get drunk at a bar with drunk people, that’s your opener? “How’s your day?”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 11:48 PM
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It’s integral to the analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 11:47 PM
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You’re not drinking at a bar with other people who are drinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 10:05 PM
2

It’s a total disconnect from reality (at least in PPD and the western world).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 10:01 PM
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4-5 step skincare routine, morning and night. Manicures. Occasional facials and scrubs. Shaving. Hair cut and coloured. Working out. I use a charcoal toothpaste at night that’s gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 09:45 PM
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1-2 years??? Why on earth do you think married couples here would be pissed off that you don’t want to wait 1-2 years? If she’s making you wait that long, she probably doesn’t even know you’re dating lol. Where exactly do you see people advocate 1-2 years? I don’t disagree with your conclusion, but I don’t see who you’re arguing against.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 09:43 PM
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Women want to date men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 09:40 PM
3

Wouldn’t it get super hot in the costumes? Sweaty enough on a tank top.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 09:25 PM
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Join a local band, hang out at dive bars, carry a lot of coke around and be generous with it. Edit: also try and look like you enjoy life and your having fun. When the bar closes, girls want to go with a guy who is going to keep the party going. Not some sad sack leering at them from the corner, counting down the minutes until they don’t have to be there anymore. Every super successful guy I know has this in common: they’re there to drink and have fun first, women are just a pleasant surprise. C…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 08:40 PM
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I don’t give a shit who he lost his virginity to - I certainly don’t care that she wasn’t white. But if it only in like the last year, that is a red flag that would weird me out. Not necessarily an immediate dealbreaker, but it would make me take a closer look at him for sure. Depression would be difficult for me, too. I would worry it would come back and be a lot for me to deal with. Knowing he was a loser in high school doesn’t matter to me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 03:36 AM
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You'll need to take a bath with how much dirty you get from saying "rules" bro. D: I’m willing to adopt the rules side if it helps prove I’m right and you’re wrong, lol. A worthy sacrifice. What kind of rule here am I not following? It’s not that you yourself are breaking a rule, but that you think of GravelRoads when I said “moron who thinks the rules don’t apply to them” - when in reality, he didn’t break any rules. But now you’re saying you didn’t actually mean what you said, so who knows. As…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 10:49 AM
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You’re dead wrong lol. I’m ENTP. I’m explaining the rules to you because you seem unfamiliar with them, yet you post quite a lot. Always a good idea to have an understanding of the community you participate in, what the rules are and how the sub works. I'm not telling people YOU BROKE THE RULES I'm telling them their answer is irrelevant. You literally just said that you think of GravelRoads as a moron who thinks the rules don’t apply to him. Which rule are you referring to? Which rules do you t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 10:36 AM
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There's a big difference between filtering the answers I don't like and filtering the answers that aren't appropriate to my post. Yes but I’m telling you the rules aren’t about your specific post. In your case, the rules aren’t a perfect fit but the rules still apply nonetheless. Nobody gets an exception, even if you think you have a really really good reason. That's exactly how I envision gravel roads here. Why? Nothing they did violated the rules in any way. The rules explicitly state that you…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 10:15 AM
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Were you gone forever and just came back, or did I just not notice you for a long time?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 10:03 AM
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I didn’t tell you you should accept cesspool answers. I told you you should ignore them. The rules in place are not perfect, and will not satisfy everyone, but they are an attempt to organize a bunch of snarky assholes sniping at each other into some semblance of debate. If we altered the rules to allow people to only ask very specific demographics questions, that’s a quick recipe for circle jerking. Imagine if I asked women why being a mom is the only true calling in life, and then I tried to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 09:59 AM
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You’ve seen the purge. Without rules this place would be a cesspool. If someone answers your question in a way you don’t want it answered, you don’t have to engage with them. There are plenty of other responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 09:44 AM
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Check out the guidelines for “Q4” posts. There are only four demographics you are allowed to direct questions at: men, women, BP, RP. You are not allowed to ask “Q4meninaLTRwithawomansincealongtime”. It’s not an option. It doesn’t matter if it’s irrelevant to you. He is abiding by the subs rules. The sidebar overrules your own personal preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 09:38 AM
2

What are you waiting for?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 07:29 AM
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Of course there is overlap between men’s preferences and societal expectations. But the “wear pink” is strictly a societal expectation, not a male preference at all. It’s inclusion is the giveaway that this is a troll post. Also, the post was about the reaction from women, not necessarily the post itself. You’re asking why a troll post got a negative reaction? There’s not really much to discuss there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 06:33 AM
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That’s the dead giveaway to me that this list is trolling, nothing more. Men don’t give a shit what colours you wear, except they might dislike neon yellow or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 03:52 AM
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The inclusion of “wear pink” and “be fashionable” makes me think the whole thing is a troll post to piss people off. Men don’t care about wearing pink instead of blue, and lots of trendy fashion looks actively turn men off. He just listed societal expectations of women, not necessarily men’s expectations. If it was about attracting men, a classic fashion look is better than trendy. Women care about fashion, not men. How can you not personally tell the different between a post meant to stir shit …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 03:47 AM
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That’s not how it works. He’s a man, he should answer Q4Men. You don’t get to decide if his input is “legit” or not. Gay and bisexual people are not banned from this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 08:38 PM
1

Well get away from PPD and TRP, they won’t help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 08:32 PM
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Yo it’s barely March. How long realistically until these boat invitations actually happen? You’re going to torture yourself getting all worked up over theoretical scenarios that may or may not happen in 3-4 months. Why do you assume she’s going out all day with a bunch of men you’ve never met? Do you not know any of her friends? To me that’s a much bigger concern - 6 months in and she still hasn’t introduced you to anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 12:37 PM
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That’s a shame. I can see why being surrounded by people like that your whole life would sour your views on relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 11:52 AM
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I think a lot of your views can be chocked up to your closed social circle. I don’t think it’s very common that literally every couple you know has an identical outlook and relationship dynamic. It might do your psyche some good to try and branch out and meet different kinds of people. Would you say you have a lot of friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:59 AM
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Yes I didn't imagine a relationship where exact compatibility of hobbies is met. What did you think I meant then? What did you think I was suggesting that was so outlandish you’d have to be gay for it to work? I think they don't have the most sex, but I don't think this is because they spend a lot of time together. You seem to be saying that sex is the primary (nearly the only) reason that men commit to women and spend a lot of time with them. For what reason would a man spend all of his time wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:49 AM
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😩😩 unfortunately true.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:44 AM
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It’s a heuristic...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:39 AM
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Red pill women and blue pill women are usually on the same side of the argument because this place is mostly just men vs women. We rarely debate red pill theory anymore. When’s the last time something from the TRP sidebar got posted here?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:39 AM
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That's surrealist and typical female idealist view. If I was to only go with the women I am compatible with, I would have to be gay to find such a person. Really. You vastly under estimate how much men compromise for such things and lie about it. You are using the term “surrealist” completely wrong. I’m not talking about shared hobbies and interests. Like every man should find a woman who loves their favourite sports team, and then they both get mani pedis after. If this is what you think I mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:33 AM
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However there are more men like me than women. Don't forget that TRP is also about getting sex while not giving her too much of your time for other things, I'm not just the only one who values personal time. I will never take the demographics of the TRP population over my own lived experience. Mostly what I’ve seen is that couples are fairly close in how they value alone time. At least long term couples (actual commitment). I don’t know too many couples where one is clingy and the other is blasé…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:17 AM
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Probably a combo. Jobs in industrial areas, and business centres being as far as possible from suburban living.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:02 AM
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I don’t think personal space is a gendered thing. I understand that you personally may place high value on your alone time, but I thought this post was men in general. There are plenty of women who need alone time more than their partner does. Liking a woman doesn't magically make the commitment a good deal. It’s not magic, it’s common sense. If you like actually enjoy spending with someone, you will make an effort to spend more time with them. This is what men get out of commitment: they get co…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 09:54 AM
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Interesting. I would have thought that because men generally make more money, couples would choose to prioritize where they live based more so on his commute than hers. I forgot about all the suburbanites who actively look to life as far from work as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 09:49 AM
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What’s happening with her eyelid crease?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 08:23 AM
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A little too pretty and clean. No edge.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 08:22 AM
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Because it doesn’t give you dating advice? Jesus Christ, doesn’t take much to get your blood boiling, does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 08:06 AM
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So criticize those specific people who claim to be giving feminist-inspired dating advice to men. To criticize feminism as a whole for not offering comprehensive dating advice is as stupid as criticizing red pill for not offering good advice to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 03:14 AM
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Okay, so you agree with me. There is a stigma associated with red pill that makes people reluctant to use RP terminology in everyday life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 02:41 AM
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You honestly expect feminism, a movement that is explicitly for women, to provide comprehensive and effective dating advice for men to succeed in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 02:34 AM
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