That sounds great. But what about this?... She is on the exact same path as me career wise and even school wise, so I want to figure out a way to say in the email that it is really great to hear about her experiences, and then if she is interested she can say back "we can always talk further sometime if you'd like" What do you think?
Yes yes. Thank you. She pulled out her phone on her own but she did hesitate and say "Let me give you my email for now because that will probably be easier (for the connection of the 3rd party).
Non red pill guy here. Holy shit, you guys are geniuses. Just got out of 2 BPD relationships and this approach seems like the perfect and frankly ONLY way to handle girls with BPD (borderline). I wish I had known because I did the mate guarding to the extreme. Probably made the fucking bitch slut secretly cheat on me.
Thanks man that's awesome advice. Exactly what I'm gonna do, and it sounds pretty logical when you get down to it... Not like trying to play games or anything.
Thank you for this answer. I do not really have friends, just one other (best)friend who is a girl. And my life is not very active towards goals and hobbies, although I do have a plan on the horizon for my career plan. I know she would be extremely jealous and scared if I had an active life and had a lot to talk about, so she likes the safety of how pathetic I am right now. But I just want to be able to talk about common stuff with her, and be the one starting conversations. A one-sided relation…
Now that I think about it, I feel like she may have disempowered me to talk about myself with her. The few times I mentioned something I may have done without including her, she gets extremely uncomfortable and will change the subject back to her life, no matter how trivial the experience in her life is compared to mine (A big event I went to vs. a TV show she watched during that event). Topics I bring up don't really get talked about beyond a simple "that's great!", unless they are about someth…
I don't inherently mind being the one to text first, because I think she may just be really anxious about me. What do you think? (Not an experienced RP type of guy here, so thanks).
Really? I've been doing that already, but not by choice and I feel really bad about it. I also feel like the less we message e/o, the farther apart we'll become in terms of our connection.
Thanks man you're probably right about that. Really complicated health issue but issues with the nerves that run from my back of head to stomach. Breathing difficulties, nauseous all the time, have to shit 5-8 times a day, and sometimes only get 2-3 hours of sleep per night, so scheduling a date might be tough.
Also wondering about this. Only talking for 10 days, potential LTR, but she seems really determined to not be the one to text first. Yet I see her checking if I'm online, waiting for me to say something.
We talked very little that night she was bowling bc I ended it, and now this is the 2nd day of complete silence from me. What would qualify as her "passing?"
Thanks, I get what you're saying. But at this point, wouldn't trying to immediately set up a date scream more clingy/thirstiness? I can try to re-establish some coolness and independence through text before asking to meet.
Well I assume the type of girls I am interested in are different. Not the easy-sex type. But you're right, in this case I don't even know that about her. Am I fooling myself? Are most girls willing to meet in person after less than a week of talking? My gut tells me that trying to set up a date would come off as pushy, but I could be completely wrong.
Texting is for logistics only I heard this a couple times here. But how else are you supposed to communicate initially then? Like for the first week or 2 before meeting?
Holy shit man nice catch, because she did tell me she "was bipolar last semester at college" and would all of a sudden get grumpy towards her family. Refused to see a dr. and said she got better when school ended.
Well I asked the specific location where she worked and she was shy about it and said she'd tell me a little later on, because "we just met." So I figured any attempt at making plans would have been too early and failed.
Well she has been busy the past two days with family events, but that being said, she's just been brushing me off more and taking longer to reply. And I feel like her initial desire for me to like her has diminished. Our last few messages, (as she was tired and going to bed last night w/o talking to me): [7/13/17, 11:44:45 PM] HER: I'm sorry !!!!! [7/13/17, 11:50:53 PM] HER: In my car now [7/13/17, 11:53:27 PM] HER: I'm jome [7/13/17, 11:53:33 PM] HER: Home* [7/14/17, 12:15:16 AM] ME: Don’t be s…
Deep down I am extremely sad and want to ask her what happened to the connection we had, ask if something changed. But if it's a "shit test," my understanding is that this would be failing it?
