shygirl449 Archive

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1	Women are not capable of love, they can only experience lust, therefore, as men, our perceived mistreatment of them is not only justified, but it is absolutely essential Why is getting paid less ok in your opinion?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 01:05 PM
-1	[deleted by user] Who gives a shit? All this says is you're jealous of fat women and you hate them. They don't care.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 12:53 AM
1	Women are not capable of love, they can only experience lust, therefore, as men, our perceived mistreatment of them is not only justified, but it is absolutely essential I disagree. I think women exploit lust for security, but we do love. And I think it does no good being resentful of women who are successful, or men who are successful - I think we ought to live and let live, and take care of ourselves, and avoid causing harm to others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 12:51 AM
2	Female infidelity is worse than male infidelity. Fear is also solved through exposure therapy, being raised around that stimulus, and understanding it. Fear is not always useful. But we're not even talking about fear, we're talking about someone that loves a child and nothing has changed except the knowledge that his DNA did not create her. The love is still real. It's not going away because of that knowledge. You can absolutely love someone knowing they don't share your genetics. It is totally fine to have a preference, but to deny that we're…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/21 11:32 PM
2	Female infidelity is worse than male infidelity. No here's the thing, my argument has never been that it matters if x is worse than y, my argument is that comparing the two is pointless, a lot of things suck in life, and to put down someone else's misery isn't productive or kind. You are literally just stating your opinion, there is no objective worse thing. That's like having an opinion on whether you'd rather be killed by a lion or a shark. If genetic legacy is important to you I respect that but it's not important to everybody. It is not a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/21 11:20 PM
3	Do men care about how much a woman makes in ltr? Yeah I would say get a feel for what kind of person she is - what are her future goals, what kind of things does she talk about wanting? Does she specify what kind of house or vehicle she wants, does she like thrift stores? Does she have a big ego? Concerned about status, appearances, etc? What kind of vacations she expects? Where I'm from, a poor city in southern US, people are just trying to get by. Personally would feel awesome if I made more than my BF, I would love to contribute more than I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/21 10:00 PM
1	Do men care about how much a woman makes in ltr? Income absolutely influences beauty though, just wanted to mention that. A woman that has expendable income can make themselves more attractive where genetics fall short.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/21 09:47 PM
2	Female infidelity is worse than male infidelity. I disagree with that, it's not an objective argument at all, it's entirely subjective what constitutes as more painful. In fact if we're using objectives, let's be honest, no damage is being done to the cuckold unless he is paying child support for a child he didn't want. The issue of raising and loving a child that doesn't share your DNA is completely psychological. People do this all the time with adoption, sperm donation, and surrogacy - because the joy is in raising a child, which seems like…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/21 09:29 PM
1	Female infidelity is worse than male infidelity. How a person feels about any particular betrayal is totally unique to them, you have no idea how being left for a mistress and her baby feels to a woman. I'm not saying 2 things will be truly equal in shittiness but different people feel different intensities in emotion over different issues. I don't claim to understand the pain in raising someone else's child, but I'm also not downplaying it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/21 02:00 PM
1	Female infidelity is worse than male infidelity. Everyone can agree on cheating being hurtful. What I disagreed with was his statement that it's worse when women cheat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/21 05:13 PM
3	[Q4ALL] What kind of environment did you grow up in - and how did it affect your view of dating? Female Pill - idk, I guess just optimistic, I feel that everyone can find somebody, may be harder for others but stay true to yourself and don't fall into the hateful manosphere/womansphere Learned from my mother's mistakes, was disgusted by her revolving door of assholes and weirdos. I really feel like if she'd just chosen wisely she could've been much happier. Instead, she matches the red pill's "fuck Chads when young, cry when they won't commit later" archetype. I just saw it as dumb. When yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/21 11:15 AM
4	Why is being the “prize” such a thing in dating/relationships? This is a lovely viewpoint. Thank you. It's wise. When you accept that "this may not be the best, but I choose it anyway", you are committing with your eyes wide open. Isn't it more risky if shiny prizes are the motivation behind the relationship, because when they find another shiny prize, they will be motivated to pursue that and abandon what good they already found.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/21 10:55 AM
17	Female infidelity is worse than male infidelity. Infidelity does not guarantee reproduction. This is a case-by-case argument. For every cuckold there is a woman being left for a mistress and their baby. Either sex can be hurt to any degree depending on the circumstance. "Men are pursuers" is not always true. Both women and men pursue one another. Weak argument for your title statement because all you've really said here is that sex for men is an achievement, and that another man "achieving" your woman feels personal. Male infidelity also feels…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/21 10:44 AM
3	A floor in the thinking I don't get it either I think men are making up these complaints about how "women won't want me if I'm not a Chad" you want virgin? that, I don't care. don't even care about your double standards. but y'all have some of the most self defeating brains, thinking you're doomed when you're not. someone said "but women are only attracted to men with high n-count". If you want to raise your n-count that's fine but stop speaking for women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/21 02:38 AM
3	The rise in obesity and decline of testosterone is a good thing for men I thought my bf was below average in looks when we met but he was funny and down to earth and we had a lot in common. It's not even a question dude. My bf was overweight when we met and he's gained even more weight, farts and burps more, gives himself bad haircuts and wears basic ass clothes. I don't care, because I love him and that shit doesn't matter at all. He's the best. I see good looking guys all the time, but I also don't care. Only thing on my mind is going home to my bf. And to add ont…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/21 09:39 PM
2	The rise in obesity and decline of testosterone is a good thing for men I know I'm not the only female in the entire world that would take a 3/10 looks, 3/10 wealth, 8/10 personality, 8/10 good guy over the reverse. My best interest is finding a best friend that has similar ideals and opinions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/21 06:28 PM
2	Having a lot of sex as a man is the ultimate way to show you’re a good provider You're using the term "provide" too generally. You could also provide yourself with toxic things. When pill debate people talk about "providing" they mean productive things. Having sex ain't productive. It's hedonistic pleasure no one cares about you having, it interests no one, just as eating a cheeseburger interests no one unless you're offering them a cheeseburger. You're not providing anyone anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/21 03:18 AM
2	The biggest turn on for adult women is a guy that has plenty of things going in in his life. Dude, play your game and shut up, stop trying to attract the wrong types of women. I love playing co op games with my boyfriend, there's nothing wrong with this hobby. Productivity for me is getting the house clean, going to work, helping my family and spending my free time doing things I ENJOY, not doing mindnumbing tasks that kill me inside. A guy that has a lot going on in his life sounds like he's too busy to hang out, so why would I ask? Also LOL are you doing your hobby because you enjoy i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/21 03:05 AM
4	The rise in obesity and decline of testosterone is a good thing for men If you're smart you won't try to compete with other men, you'll look for a woman that likes you for you. That won't leave you for someone with a six pack and fuller head of hair. You're never going to be the most attractive. If you want love don't be with someone that wants lust.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/21 02:54 AM
2	The factors of Women & men’s value I don't even think what's attractive is necessarily ideal genetics. Ugly ass people are born all the time and mate all the time and live a long life. Attractive af people get medical problems. Two supposedly healthy people have kids born with defects. My tastes have evolved over the years, from 12 years old to 24 years old, I've been attracted to all sorts of men. Some people just seem like decent likeable people. I'm smitten over their personality, not their phenotype, not their body or country…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/21 11:04 PM
2	The factors of Women & men’s value Kind of meaningless when neither of us want to have kids. Might explain why we're attracted to each other but we certainly don't value each other based on reproductive potential.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/21 07:30 PM
7	[Q4W] How would you edit Sheryl Sandberg's advice to women about seeking a life partner? Don't date everyone, bad advice. Just date good people, it ain't that hard figuring out who's good and who's bad. Get to know them and use evidence to determine whether they're trustworthy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/21 02:35 PM
1	Do you expect your man not to watch porn while in a relationship? It's kind of inconsistent with my views on sex. I feel like looking at someone else's genitals in a pervy way or getting off to someone else's genitals isn't monogamous behavior. But we all do it, it's normal, so if I were to ban him from watching porn (lol) that's a very demanding order to bark, since most guys grew up with it and don't view it as cheating, and even I look at it sometimes (usually to compare myself to other women, kinda toxic way). So am I comfortable with it? Eh, it feels wron…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/21 01:49 PM
2	Why is it considered insulting to be called "husband material" by women but it's a considered a compliment when women get called "wife material"? I'll take a wild guess the women that think reliable men can not be fun aren't the type of women you'd wanna be with anyway, so this whole debate around women making bad choices isn't productive, just don't bother with those women	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/21 05:33 PM
1	Why is it considered insulting to be called "husband material" by women but it's a considered a compliment when women get called "wife material"? Sorry, let me clarify, husband material absolutely means I'm attracted to you - that, along with many other traits I need to be happy with you	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/21 04:42 PM
2	Why is it considered insulting to be called "husband material" by women but it's a considered a compliment when women get called "wife material"? Being fun isn't difficult, it can simply be taking her on dates, playing games together, singing to music together in the car, tickling her, teasing her, being affectionate or funny. What is your idea of fun that's incompatible with reliability? Because those things I listed don't coincide with a man keeping a stable job, staying off drugs and alcohol, staying out of fights, being loyal, and being dependable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/21 04:39 PM
-3	Why is it considered insulting to be called "husband material" by women but it's a considered a compliment when women get called "wife material"? I can't think of any woman that would say "I want my husband to be reliable and boring"	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/21 02:15 PM
5	Why is it considered insulting to be called "husband material" by women but it's a considered a compliment when women get called "wife material"? I'd want my husband to be fun too, I don't get why that's hard to understand. You can be reliable and fun to be with. That's husband material.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/21 11:47 AM
1	Women, do you care about a man's sexual history/body count? I'm quite happy my BF's body count is 1 like mine, we got to experience all our firsts together, no diseases, no children, no jealousy, our bodies don't know anything else but each other's. Also know he's not driven by sexual impulses, less likely to cheat. Don't get the appeal of high body count. I've always viewed physical touch as intimate. Why would I let my most personal parts touch someone else's most personal parts, if we're not in a relationship?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/21 11:11 AM
2	Do women even truly like sex? No, sex is mental. I have to be horny for penetration to feel good. But it's not hard for my boyfriend to get me horny, but definitely have to feel safe and comfortable. Anyway no I don't look at a dude and think "sex", but if I've been wanting it with my boyfriend for a while I do. Never with anyone else. I couldn't get aroused at the sight of a stranger, that's just not how my brain works. Men can be as attractive as possible and sex is not on my mind. Not interested. If we're not in a relatio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/21 10:55 AM
1	When it comes to sex, what are the responsibilities or expectations from women? I would feel disappointed too if my man couldn't finish. Half of my satisfaction comes from his pleasure. Never really have that problem though. For me there has to be some form of clit stimulation to make me finish. Some days I want him to give me oral, or I'll touch myself during penetration. I really enjoy a vibrator with penetration, it's easy for both of us. I'll decide in the moment what would get me off best, if it's oral, i make sure he feels energetic enough that day. I'm usually happy …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/21 01:37 AM
1	What are your standards in a partner? good person attractive enough responsible (no addictions, no criminal background, keeps a job, doesn't fight) caring we share a hobby (to do together)	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/21 07:24 AM
1	How tf can such a huge and widely dissatisfaction of women with their sex life even be a thing?! It's usually -woman is monogamous -in a relationship -with a low libido partner and she appreciates what she can get, making the best out of the painful/unsatisfying sex because last time she brought it up he got annoyed so she's just trying to keep the peace	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/21 10:06 PM
2	Even if all the marriage laws were made equitable towards men, the existence of obesity makes it a bad deal for men overall You're underestimating how much women care about staying desirable to their partners. I can tell you from experience and knowing many other women's experiences that we don't "give up" on ourselves in a relationship, we just prioritize other things like our children, our job, or satisfying your needs. When we go through periods of looking rough it's not because we think we've trapped you *rolls eyes everyone knows there's divorce it's because we trust that you accept us when we're tired, stressed…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/21 02:30 AM
1	Women, would you or have you ever competed for a man? Eh, when my friend and I were 11-13, with our online chatroom boyfriends - dumb stuff Before my boyfriend, there was a man at my company I was interested in but he was married I guess (ring on finger) so I moved on The only competition I feel is just wanting to be more attractive than other women to my boyfriend because I'm insecure, but I consciously tell myself to stop it and be level-headed	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/21 02:15 AM
1	Where does this hate for TRP come from? The cruelty of doing "dread game" to a loving GF just to try and get more sex from her I don't do shit like that, I act with dignity when not in the presence of my BF, I don't say/act in any way he wouldn't be comfortable with if he was around And if I'm not satisfied with the amt of sex I'm having it feels bad but I don't pressure him for it or subliminally threaten to leave him for someone else. I'll just talk about it and wait for him to be ready and understand his sex drive just isn't as hig…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 09:06 PM
1	When you get to your late 20s, early 30s as a male virgin, you’ll probably stay that way your whole life (especially if it’s not by choice). This is how it happened. He saw me, working at a job he used to work at, where he had friends still working there. He texted his friend just saying "she's cute" and that coworker asked me if I wanted to meet him. Showed me his picture, I recognized him as a customer from last week that was really knowledgeable about tools and personable with an old black lady that loved him. Anyway I said tell him to come in "x day" with low expectations, and he did and we just talked all day and he took me to Z…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 08:49 PM
1	Are men rewarded for chivalry in today's society or by women? I'd agree, having spent a lot of time disliking myself, getting to this point is awesome	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 04:35 AM
1	Are men rewarded for chivalry in today's society or by women? Is anyone rewarded fairly in this life? I do the same kind gestures you'd call chivalrous, for men and women, and even if half of them don't appreciate it, doesn't matter, that's how I am.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 01:32 AM
1	How many potentially amazing, healthy relationships have been "ruined" by another hotter guy she meets a few days later? Idk, the day my boyfriend and I met we only had eyes for each other and we committed pretty fast. And through the years I've met a couple handfuls of attractive men but it doesn't mean anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 01:28 AM
1	Q4W: Does someone being dismissive make you more interested in them? What's it say?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 12:44 AM
3	Q4W: Does someone being dismissive make you more interested in them? I'm generally more happy to be around someone that's nice to me. I don't get this reverse psychology theory, or why it appeals to other women. Niceness + similar sense of humor and he's automatically better	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/21 03:28 AM
2	If “pornsick” is an actual thing wouldn’t being “alpha widowed” be real too considering they’re basically the same thing? Sure but it's not common and I don't like people throwing those terms around. Someone that watches porn isn't pornsick, they have to have a real problem not just using it as a tool and being done with it. Why is it inherently bad to watch porn? Then women missing an ex isn't alpha widowed, partly because that term isn't well defined, and partly because depends on context, why is it inherently bad to miss that ex? Kinda just let people have their vices and don't worry about it. If it bothers you …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/21 03:24 AM
1	Fellow men, women don't say the truth because WE get angry when they do Or they take their fears being confirmed as truth over someone else's vanilla opinion. That really boils me. I don't actually.see men getting angry at the people that confirm their fears, quite the opposite. "I respect you for your honesty, finally someone is being honest" like those other people aren't being honest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 03:38 PM
1	"High value men" don't make high value partners. Makes lot of money Fit High status Alpha These aren't my opinion of high value, at least it wouldn't be much a value to me. Good job is great, I want us both to have a good job. But good to me just means we will be able to save to eventually get the vehicles we need and the house we need, have a health savings account, be able to pay for vet bills and be able to buy his nephew Christmas/birthday presents within reason. We probably won't have kids. But I still want to enjoy pets and his family's …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 03:28 PM
1	Do women really scout for other options before ending a relationship? I almost ended my relationship not for other men but to work on my mental health and let him have a break from my emotional episodes. During that time I didn't have any interest in other men. The whole point was I didn't think I was healthy enough for a relationship, why start a new one? My man is already amazing, it wasn't about him, I actually figured fuck I've already hit the jackpot I don't think I could be with anyone else, was preparing for a life of singleness. BF didn't want to break up …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 03:11 PM
9	What do you mean when you say men have fragile egos? I don't say that. Any demographic can have a fragile ego.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 03:06 PM
2	One woman with 4 husbands Yeah I don't think men with multiple partners are admirable. What's admirable to me isn't sexual success. I'm a loyal monogamous woman that respects loyal monogamous men. I do think it's an interesting spectacle. Polyamory is weird to me. If I ever agreed to it, I know I'd have to be emotionally damaged. I won't assume others are like that. But I know it's not for me and I don't understand the appeal of it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 05:44 AM
1	Succeeding in OLD requires you to be the best in someone else’s stack, not the best in general "best" has to mean compatible, and attractive in their opinion. I wouldn't agree with what many women deem "the best". We all see with different brains, that like different things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 05:38 AM
1	Sex is Love vs Sex isn't Love ? I don't get naked with anyone I don't trust and love period. I was raised to not let anyone touch my "private parts" besides doctors, and why the hell would I, when that's such a vulnerable part of my body. When you have sex with someone, you're biologically saying you choose to allow reproduction with them. That's my controversial opinion. And since orgasms are such a special experience I do like to share them with special people. Giving someone an orgasm is one of the greatest gifts IMO, it st…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 05:35 AM
1	Opposite Sex Friends I honestly don't make guy friends unless they're in my family because that would make my boyfriend uncomfortable. And frankly I don't blame him because I can't seem to meet many guys my age that don't act flirty/try to make me laugh like guys do when they like someone. However I wouldn't mind having male friends if we lacked sexual attraction and my boyfriend felt safe with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 05:24 AM
1	If you discovered your son was redpill/incell/mgtow how would you handle that. I would accept him but advise him not to box himself into ideologies, and suggest that he keep an open mind. And I hope by my example he will have some faith in humanity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 05:18 AM
3	It's not "the patriarchy" that upholds unattainable beauty standards, it's other women. Sure, but obviously men give those women more attention, which perpetuates our self consciousness. A woman feels if she's not hot to her man he may well cheat on her or treat her worse. So she takes it into her own hands to make herself attractive to get that security.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 05:15 AM
3	When you get to your late 20s, early 30s as a male virgin, you’ll probably stay that way your whole life (especially if it’s not by choice). To give hope, my BF met me when he was 30 and I was his first, and he gets a lot of enthusiastic sex now. But as with everything, you can choose to look on the bright side. That's how I cope with a lot of things. Focus on what you do have that's good, or focus on what you don't have that's bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 05:10 AM
2	Simps have ruined the dating market. I'm a young, pretty, thin, kindhearted gal with a good head on her shoulders, and I'm dating a tall, overweight, nerdy, adorable man working at the same company as me. If he's Chad then y'all are Chad's brothers with a worse personality	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/21 05:28 AM
11	Simps have ruined the dating market. But women aren't all going for simps. We want well rounded men. I don't expect men to bend over backwards for me, I expect reciprocation, and I want us to put in the same effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/21 05:28 PM
2	Simps have ruined the dating market. You aren't these men, you don't know what they're thinking. If they say they want a relationship, why argue with that? What makes you think you know them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/21 04:58 PM
2	So if you don’t have a bodycount is it still “bad” to wait to have sex? It's not "bad" no, actually just do what you want, sex is your choice. You're going to get hardcore opinions from red pillers here but realize that you don't need to care whether this group of people approve of you or not. Personal story: I vetted my first bf for less than 2 weeks before we had sex and we're still together going on 3 years. If I regret anything, it's not the "having sex early" part, even if we didn't work out. I regret going down the red pill rabbit hole trying to be a perfect w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/21 10:55 AM
14	6 Green Flags in women for a LTR, do you agree? I totally agree. We can't decide what environment we are raised in but we can choose how we behave going forward. I certainly have learned from my parents' mistakes, it's influenced me to be more careful than they were so I don't become like them, or end up in their situations. I think kids with difficult childhoods have to grow up fast and learn responsibility earlier, learn to appreciate basic necessities and really cherish positive social interactions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/21 03:13 AM
2	Romance novels, including the romanticized abuse one, show the opposite of what the Manosphere claims. The male love interests are very attractive simps and beta males, not alpha males. That's fine, those terms don't hold any significance to us	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/21 03:02 AM
2	Romance novels, including the romanticized abuse one, show the opposite of what the Manosphere claims. The male love interests are very attractive simps and beta males, not alpha males. I grew up with a dad that was super nice to everyone, always helping others and loaning money, and I admired that, but he had a problem with saying no. I realized I love my boyfriend so much for recognizing BS like my dad didn't, and not wasting all his resources on deadbeat friends. And no, he's not as nice as my dad, but he isn't disrespectful to others either. He keeps work relationships professional. He goes out of his way to support his pregnant sister. He gives me advice on dealing with a-…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/21 03:25 PM
3	The art of “Negging”…I unfortunately feel like it works… I'm glad you've gotten better at not falling for it too. I'm still a shy young girl that likes pleasing people, but I'm old fashioned, I appreciate kindness and I think gentlemen are hot as hell	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/21 03:13 PM
1	The art of “Negging”…I unfortunately feel like it works… I don't understand it, because when I'm looking for a partner I'm looking for someone that will give me security. I don't mean compliments, but: agreeableness, relating with me, and not hiding eagerness to be with me are important. I'm turned off by men that aren't interested in me. I also think that I subconsciously know that if someone is criticizing something about me rather than moving on and finding constructive conversation, they can't be much higher value than me. High value people, from …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/21 11:01 AM
2	If your partner’s past is your current prison, you will never have future happiness. It was a process for me to stop resenting my BF over this very subject. I believe it took a full year of working through it logically, putting myself in his shoes, humbling myself, focusing on what really matters, appreciating him and what he does provide, and letting the jealousy run its course. He was my first BF also, and I was very pick-me in the beginning. I can say now that if our relationship were to end and I dated other men, I would not act so irresponsibility like in the beginning, put…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/21 10:42 AM
–	How good did/do you think your love interest(s) does/would do with dating and why? My boyfriend never had an official girlfriend or sex before me, and he's early 30s. I think if we were to split right now he would have an easier time with other women than in the past. He understands women better, what he wants/doesn't want, he's gotten himself a good career, and I think he's grown more comfortable with himself. I don't take credit. He's an amazing guy who's worked hard to be the man he is today and I don't deserve him. The main challenge is he's not interested in today's "woke…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/21 09:01 AM