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So basically, you're concerned that your husband doesn't "talk about his feelings"? There are 3 main reasons for this: Men and women process difficult emotions differently. Mark Ungor's talk about the male "nothing box" and the female lack of it explains this in a surprisingly accessible way. Generally, women are not attracted to emotionally vulnerable men, irrespective of how many times they say that they are. Attraction isn't cerebral, it's visceral, and men know that, even if women don't, or …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/22 08:20 PM
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How does someone else's success "ruin" your own? To be honest, you don't sound like much of a "friend" to this friend of yours.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 08:51 AM
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So then shouldn't you prioritize being the best woman he can get? You expect him to be the best. That requires effort on his part. So, he has every right to expect similar effort on your part. What are you doing to achieve this?
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 08:50 AM
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Instead of seeing her as a potential rival for male affection, why not see her as a role model, and do exactly what she is doing? For example, if she has a "great body" then she must spend time at the gym. So why not go with her and do the exercises she is doing? Ask what her diet is and follow it. Since she can cook, ask where she learned how, and learn from the same source. You say she is your "friend" but if you really are friends, then she shouldn't have a problem providing you with some use…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 08:45 AM
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Selective? Sure. But your attitude may make you appear snobbish, entitled, vain, and misandrist. That may be an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 07:45 PM
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Would an alpha want someone who'd "rather be single than date a beta"?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 07:40 PM
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This is dangerously close to white knighting territory. None of what you wrote refutes what I have posted. Yes, she is being honest - she is arrogant and honest about it. The irony here is that OP asked for honesty, and you're the one whose nerves were apparently hit hard enough by my honest response to be made uncomfortable and complain about it. You're projecting your feelings onto me. Yes, it is a "personal choice" - it's a personal choice informed by arrogance. Saying "I would not settle for…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 12:27 PM
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Find one who practices the principles/ lives traditionally but doesn't follow the dogma. Take all the benefits of an RP relationship but refuse the costs. Sounds realistic.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 10:53 AM
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What makes you think that you deserve an alpha? Or that an alpha deserves you?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 10:47 AM
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"I would rather die alone that to (sic) settle for a beta male" Your promiscuity is a problem, albeit a potentially forgivable one. But your arrogant attitude is a bigger problem, given that it is likely that the very men who would be willing to overlook your past are precisely the ones you're likely to dismiss as "beta," and would never give a second glance were it not for your reduced options.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 10:38 AM
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It’s not just a lot of work. It increases the risk of stds, unintended pregnancy, and mental health issues from multiple breakups. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3752789/ Women secrete more oxytocin than men during sex. Even if they don’t want to, they are likely to “catch feelings,” as young people say nowadays, because one of the purposes of sex is to pair bond men and women to create a nurturing, affectionate environment to raise children (it’s why human beings have sex facing o…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/21 07:22 PM
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The reason it is controversial is because RP thinking supports the idea that men want feminine women, and highly educated professional women are perceived as less feminine, due to their cultivating masculine personality traits and behaviors in order to become top tier.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/21 03:08 AM
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The issue has never been intelligence or professional success per se. There's nothing "threatening" about that. The issue is the ostensibly negative and masculine qualities, choices, and behavioral patterns often associated with them. Intelligence is fine, provided it isn't associated with being snobby, bitchy, or annoying. A woman being passionate about biology isn't something most men have a problem with. A woman who dumps the kids in daycare because she has to work on her PhD thesis in evolut…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 08:37 PM
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This is a really dismissive and judgemental statement. The OP is simply stating a passion for biology. Her passion for biology wasn't what was being judged and found wanting. It was the opportunity cost associated with it that was seen as not worth it. Is a “young 20’s, no interests or personality” a more competitive offer? If she's willing to give full time attention to the kids and the home, unlike OP, then possibly, yes. What if she’s a gold digger and spends her free time obsessing about the…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 08:26 PM
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The issue has never been intelligence or professional success per se. The issue is the ostensibly negative and masculine qualities, choices, and behavioral patterns often associated with them.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 07:42 PM
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BUT, I realise that I still have an undeniable 'academic drive', and that it isn't what high-value, high-earning men value in a woman. And why exactly do you want a high value, high earning man? Sounds like you're a high value, high earning woman, so why do you need his money? Your options would expand if you expanded your dating pool to include lower earning but otherwise traditionally masculine men, especially since you're highly educated and never want to permanently stop working. My dream is…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 07:38 PM
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If enough people really want to read it, sure, I'll write something detailed, but it would be very similar, just replace all the all the stuff about femininity and the female gender role with masculinity and the male gender role, wife with husband, etc. A lot of stuff, like fitness, friendliness, faithfulness, and family values are important for both.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 06:22 PM
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That's because I made them up (albeit with some help from Kevin Samuels, Evie Magazine, and RPW). Glad you like it!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 06:38 AM
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Guy here. If you want to be treated like a lady, behave like a lady. I'd advised that you prioritize the "Five Fs" because in my experience, most guys are looking for this, or some variant of it: Feminine - Be soft, sweet, tender, kind, warm, forgiving, patient, supportive, affectionate, sensual, considerate, submissive, appreciative, respectful, dignified, and cooperative. These qualities tend to go together. Kindness is especially important. Everything else on this list is some version of bein…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/21 04:40 AM
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Are you a fan of positivity or naive optimism and mollycoddling? Because the people Samuels talks to often don't warrant positive, uplifting words. They need to be jolted awake, and that is something that Samuels does very well.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 03:03 AM
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One who respects herself enough to invest in herself. What the two categories of women you have identified have in common is their refusal to do that. The former have nothing to offer but sex, and the latter doesn't even offer that.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/08/21 04:34 AM
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That's just it - there's no evidence she has any knowledge of or interest in how to be a homemaker.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/08/21 02:27 AM
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No, we don't rely on women to feed us and never will, because even female bosses tend to answer to male ones higher up, and more importantly, don't do anything substantially different than men in the same position -they are essentially men with a female exterior. You're missing the point: A female boss will treat a female employee no differently than a male one would, because even if she wants to, she can't. Businesses only care about the bottom line and any employee will only be tolerated so lo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 08:56 PM
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Yes, women always were in the labor force whether they wanted to or not. So were children and old people. Eventually, we reached a state of economic development such that children didn’t have to work, and banned child labor. Then we provided the elderly with retirement benefits and healthcare, so they didn’t have to work until they dropped dead. Finally, we liberated the (white) middle class women from having to work too. Considering that women have always worked, it’s pretty easy to see that tr…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 04:45 PM
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Why should women be celebrated for behaving like men?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 04:21 PM
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“Am I the only one who thinks we should be blaming industrialization and consumerism, rather than feminism, whose extant form only exists as their byproduct?” Industrialization and consumerism didn’t have to create feminism. Both have existed since the mid to late 1800s (which was also accompanied by women led reform movements) Women chose to use these developments to “liberate” themselves. This was a conscious cultural choice, and they were quite open about it - no satanic conspiracy necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 04:10 PM
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Of course she can leave. She has every incentive to leave. 80% of divorces in the US are filed by women. They get half the money, the house, the car, alimony, child support (which does not have to be spent on children), half the pension, half of future earnings, and of course, custody of the children. Women cheating is "finding themselves."
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 05:35 PM
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And what happens when he replaced her and she leaves and takes the kids?
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 07:41 AM
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Because it means she settled for him. He doesn't deserve to be someone else's consolation prize.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/08/21 06:48 AM
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As I understand it, skilled trades like the ones you mentioned, at least in the US, are arguably more lucrative than you might think, since they don't require years of expensive and functionally useless college education, and are in demand since few men choose them.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/21 08:48 PM
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Because femininity is associated with submissiveness, which is mistaken for weakness.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/21 06:46 PM
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Yes, women have always worked, but it was not until the rise of modern feminism that women pushed to enter lucrative, male-dominated fields. This doubled the workforce in the fields that men needed to be in in order to support a family, thereby halving wages, and increasingly requiring both parents to work in order to keep the family afloat.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/21 06:40 PM
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The problem is that you want it both ways. You want a traditional romantic relationship when he is doing things that benefit you ("love and companionship and a sense of safety") and yet suddenly shift to a roommate relationship when it comes time for you to do things that benefit him ("I also expect that we both do our equal part in household chores.") Whether you like it or not, what you're likely to get out of this deal is not a marriage and a husband, but a roommate with benefits, who will tr…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 02:57 PM
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Tell him the truth, namely that you are ashamed of him and only with him because he's the best you can do. Then he'll dump you in disgust. Problem solved. That will hurt him badly, no doubt, but not nearly as much as being shackled to someone who is clearly using him as a back up option until she finds someone better. You're monkey branching, and that is your prerogative, but it's his prerogative to be with someone for whom he is the first choice, not some place-filler.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 04:13 AM
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And to the poster who said ‘mere board member’ over CEO: you either deal with dreadful companies or you’re a fool given any decent corporation’s board should have serious executive experience given they are the ultimate decision makers. You're missing the point completely. I wasn't using "CEO" or "board member" literally (any more than references to "captains" and "first mates" is meant literally around here.) Being a librarian can be a career, if you are serious about it. Being a stockbroker ca…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 05:11 AM
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I make generalizations because - generally - they happen to be true. There's a reason why marriage is more likely for men with higher IQs, but less likely for women with higher IQs. That's also why a country's fertility rate declines as its women become educated, and why Western men increasingly seek mail order brides from outside the Western world, where the women are perceived to be more feminine. The data doesn't lie. On the whole, career-oriented women aren't interested in traditionally femi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/21 11:42 PM
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The problem with your logic is that no matter what type of career the woman in question has, the man who marries her is still risking his assets marrying her if he makes more, especially if she becomes a stay-at-home mom eventually, as RPW thinking encourages. Therefore, there is no functional difference between "a woman who can support herself by a long shot" and "a woman with a filler career" from a man's perspective when evaluating an RPW, because the risk he runs is the same. Indeed, you're …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/21 06:56 PM
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But how many female CEOs are willing to be "first mates" in accordance with RPW thinking? It is a rare woman indeed who has the qualities required to be a "captain" professionally but willingly refrains from doing so privately. You say that wealthy men are "routinely impressed with my career" yet give the game away immediately thereafter, revealing that what they are actually impressed by is that your career demonstrates "discipline" and that you can "take care of myself." So what they are actua…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/21 10:56 AM
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And homosexuality is illogical, there's the risk of AIDS, anal sex has health problems, and no reproductive function, purely hedonistic. The same could be said of any nonmarital, nonprocreative sexual intercourse. Same with contraception. Would you rather women pop out hordes of babies they can't feed? And religion is logical, it would literally fix the degeneracy in our society. No it wouldn't. There was plenty of degeneracy when society was more religious too. Like I said, the Catholic Church …
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/21 06:15 AM
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Religion is not against advancements in science. And does anyone know what happens after death or why we exist? Science will never prove that. I'm not saying that religion is against scientific advancement per se (though it often is). I'm saying that a better educated, more scientifically literate society is less likely to be religious. As far as what happens after death or why we exist, scientists are generally humble enough to admit that they don't know. That's hardly justification for religio…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 04:43 AM
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And what do atheists put their value in? The same thing many religious people do - family, friends, charity, hobbies, interests, etc. They aren't some alien species. Have you noticed that as church attendance or religiosity goes down, degeneracy goes up. People are getting divorced, married less, having sex outside of marriage, pornography, and it's no coincidence it's caused by a lack of faith in a higher being. It's caused by lack of morals, principles, and values generally associated with rel…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 12:43 AM
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But these relationships also were deeply damaging, and every single one of them were incredibly dramatic: fraught with questions of sexuality, mental illness, anger issues, infidelity, emotional manipulation, financial insecurity, or something else. ... The thing is, he’s wonderful to me. Wants a future. Considers both of us in all of his decisions. Is extremely patient with me. Mature. Wonderful to my family. All of the things that I feel like a lot of women out there would want. And yet…. I’m …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 12:23 AM
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Meaning is not necessarily derived from an intense belief in historical fiction stories written in the Bronze Age. A lot of atheists become atheists, not because of "nihilism" but because of an inability to continue to believe in that doctrines and stories that obviously make no sense, and are often harmful. Indeed, the very concept of "belief" is suspect. Why believe in anything based on faith, in the absence of evidence, suspending one's powers of critical thinking? Moreover, the proliferation…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 10:00 PM
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It’s dangerous to say that career women aren’t attractive to men. ​ I think it's important to differentiate here between a "woman with a career" and a "career-driven woman." In the case of the former, as I see it, the career is an important aspect of her life, but it's one element among others, and is primarily a source of funding - it isn't what provides meaning, fulfillment, and joy to her life. In the case of the latter, professional success and making money is the primary goal in and of itse…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 09:30 PM
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So I used to be a sugar baby and stripper through college and had fwb my own age so I never did traditional dating. I decided I want true love now and to settle down. I’m 26F and I can’t help but feel bored with dating normal guys. Based on this, I would wager that it's because your ability to pair bond to one man has been eroded through years of short term, meaningless "relationships," and the accumulated emotional toll of multiple "breakups." (Your brain and body don't care that your interacti…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 03:06 AM
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So I think those comments are completely unnecessary and false and misleads women into thinking that having a career is not valuable. It seems to me that it is not so much that a career is not valuable, but that a career is often associated with negative attitudes, personal traits, and behavioral tendencies that make for a poor wife.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/21 10:50 PM
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What about someone who went to trade school, or runs a business without a degree? If a degree means “having your shit together” then I’m correct in assuming that the degree is being used as a proxy for other things (values, stability, class, etc), allowing people to ignore those who might be a good match had they not been too poor to afford college.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:56 PM
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Then why not pursue Asians with more relaxed parents, or Asians willing to defy convention?
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:49 PM
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My guess is that, like a lot of women, and especially being a RPW, you are attracted to overly masculine men. Overt masculinity in today's culture manifests as arrogance and cockiness. It's also possible that there are "traditionally sweet or affectionate" guys who are around you, but you don't notice them, possibly because guys who are too shy to approach you tend to be "sweet and affectionate" while cocky, arrogant guys also have the confidence to ask you out. Moreover, even "sweet and affecti…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 08:32 AM
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That paper is years of hard work and dedication that gives you something worth equal the inversement Not necessarily. The majority of student loan debt is accrued by women, in all likelihood, because many of the people holding useless degrees in "majors" like Gender Studies are female. The average woman marries at 32 years old in the US. If fertility was so important to men the age would be lower. Not at all. Fertility never stopped being important to men, and we know this because a lot of the a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:43 AM
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Is there something wrong with having a career for financial independence, meeting someone with similar interests and financial background, and cutting down hours after marriage? Nope, that actually sounds like an ideal RPW arrangement. I’m exposed to HVM in my career daily and these men won’t frequent places where single women without a degree hang out. But is this because the women in question don't have degrees per se, or is it because degrees are, in this case, being used as a proxy for somet…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:33 AM
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Im tired of being told to become shallow to be feminine or i wasted my time growing as a human being rather than being unstable and desperate enough to settle down early. To be fair, I don't think that "dedication" and "goal oriented planning" necessarily require extremely advanced education, that lack of education/career necessarily indicates shallowness, or that those who settle down early are "unstable" or "desperate."
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:30 AM
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Smart men want smart women, Sure, but a "smart woman" is not necessarily the same as a "career woman." this sub often protrays the idea that a doctor will marry a bimbo just because she's hot. That is because they often do. Lastly please do not forgo getting an education to land a man, that's a terrible idea get an education for yourself if you want one. I get what you're going for here, but it's important to remember that highly educated women tend to have difficulty finding a man, as they pric…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:22 AM
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Women marry across and up the economic ladder for the most part, so how successful the man you marry is can be influenced by your degree If this is the case, then the more professionally successful a woman is, the smaller her pool of potential matches will be. If women mostly marry "across and up" then they are, by definition, marrying men who are at least as professionally successful as they are, men who really don't need their money. As I understand it, this is what people who say that "men do…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:16 AM
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Affirmative action, Title IX anti discrimination, quotas, and "diversity" initiatives, among other things, that favor women. California, for example literally requires that companies hire women in their board of directors.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 04:17 AM
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The reason sexually promiscuous behavior is bad for women's mental health is because they feel used and discarded. Women release more oxytocin during sexual intercourse than men do, and oxytocin is the hormone that causes pair bonding. When men dump them, they are heartbroken because of the attachments that oxytocin makes them form. Moreover, sexual promiscuity increases the likelihood of abusive behavior, unwanted pregnancies, abortions, STDs, and other problems that can affect mental health, a…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/06/21 09:33 AM
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If you're too lazy or entitled to coach because your partner isn't at an "appropriate," pre-existing level of experience, then you don't deserve a partner.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/06/21 08:43 AM
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No matter which way you slice it, your sexual gratification is your responsibility. No one else's. If you're unwilling to do something as basic as communicating with your partner about it, you don't deserve to have a partner. All of the negative behaviors I mentioned are objectively bad for your health. Drugs being illegal is harmful in its own way, but the reason drugs are illegal is because of the immense damage that they do to people's health, families, and society, and a blanket prohibition …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/06/21 08:41 AM
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No one is "compatible from day one." All relationships require growth and shaping over time. If you're constantly rejecting decent partners because they aren't perfect, and you're too lazy to mould a decent partner into an excellent one, you're letting the perfect be the enemy of the good, and are likely to end up alone because you keep thinking there's someone perfect out there.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/06/21 07:48 AM
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You're not making any sense. If you aren't sexually satisfying your partner, of course, it's their responsibility to communicate that if they want the sexual relationship to continue. How is one's own sexual gratification somehow someone else's responsibility? If they refuse to communicate, they have no business whining about an inadequate sexual experience. If you are in a sexual relationship with someone, you owe it to them to communicate any dissatisfaction with it - all relationships require…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/06/21 07:43 AM
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If female sexual pleasure is so important, then it would seem that it would be her responsibility to communicate to her partner as to what she wants, rather than saying "that's on them" and expecting him to magically be good at it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/06/21 07:21 AM
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By that logic, what does constitutes slutty behavior, if not one night stands? Moreover, if she isn't getting what she wants sexually from her partner, why isn't it on her to communicate exactly what she wants? How exactly is a "nice guy" supposed to "take responsibility" and "not suck at sex" and "get better" without feedback from his partner as to what works and what does not? Is he supposed to be a mind reader, or born with innate sexual talent? What exactly is wrong with coaching and communi…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/06/21 07:19 AM
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