silkenlock Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
8	Losing Attraction		silkenlock	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/14 03:20 PM

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1	What are your views on conditioning your man? I think conditioning implies a more Pavlovian approach, whereas what I intend to do is more positive reinforcement and encouragement of alpha behavior to inspire more of it in the future. Conditioning sounds dishonest and manipulative.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/14 11:27 PM
1	What are your views on conditioning your man? What is your take on this blog post by /u/IanIronwood then? Maybe conditioning isn't the right word?	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/14 11:16 PM
6	Losing Attraction lose interest What a loaded and poorly chosen choice of phrase. If I had lost interest, I wouldn't be here.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/14 02:42 AM
1	Losing Attraction You must react quite favorably when he does in fact dominate you, right? ... a marked difference in your behavior as opposed to when he doesn't? ...something he absolutely can't miss? You say that you make love about 3 times a week, how many of those days does he dominate in general? I definitely do respond favorably when he is dominant... And he is perhaps once a week. I'd certainly think he couldn't miss it, but as far as making the cause and effect connection, I don't know. From some of the m…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/14 12:04 AM
1	Losing Attraction We're actually pretty decent on this front, even though we do own a house together. When he's not busy with work projects after his 8-5 hours (which, these days, usually take up his entire evenings for weeks at a time, leaving me to my own hobbies except for when we eat dinner together), he has friends from home and college he invites over to LAN with, and I like to frequent the gym or have dinner with my closest girl friend. We're both introverts and have always been good at giving each other t…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/14 08:10 PM
1	Losing Attraction Have you told him that you would like for him to control/dominate the bedroom or would that just negate the whole thing for you? It wouldn't. I have told him he shouldn't worry about me and to be assertive, but he's still hesitant. If he always took control, do you think that there would be less tearing due to more arousal? Yes.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/14 07:58 PM
1	Losing Attraction Everytime? Are you perhaps feeling that as far as sex is concerned if he shows any weakness/doubt it instantly turns you off? This is not necessarily a bad thing, you might have some unfulfilled desires lurking within yourself. Have you explored any facets of BDSM at all? I'm not saying you should go full on chains and whips etc, but what if you explored the mild aspects of it. Not every time, but close. And the weakness/doubt is kind of an instant turn-off. It makes me wish he could just take w…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/14 07:07 PM
2	Losing Attraction Yes, though it's not as bad in that case. Fortunately it only takes a day to heal and I can't feel it during the act, but afterwards sucks.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/14 05:42 PM
3	Losing Attraction I'm trying hard to take care of me. It's just a process because I spent so long shunning my femininity and forcing myself to try and enjoy masculine hobbies and outlets, which was not me at all. I'm finally coming into my own and discovering what I love to do. Moving into our new house last month was a big step for me - we'd previously lived with another couple as roommates and I felt hugely stifled by the situation. Now I'm truly able to get really into cooking, gardening, and exercising not ju…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/14 04:37 PM
3	Losing Attraction Never denying him with the wrong attitude can be just as devastating to him than actually denying him outright. If you just lay there and don't show any enthusiasm he will respond very similarly to you as though you had denied him. This alone could be pushing him into more BB tendencies. I agree, which is a big part of why I'm so distraught over it. I make a concerted effort to be sincere and enthusiastically participate in our love-making, and once we're into it, it comes naturally, but I know …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/14 04:30 PM
1	Losing Attraction Thank you for the advice. I'll bring it up with him tonight. Self-care: are you doing it? Do you feel sexy? Desirable? Why is your libido so low? Has this always been normal for you? How is your diet? Do you exercise? Do you make time for you- to decompress and pretty-up? How is your emotional health? Could he be sensing that something is amiss with you and maybe that is why he is leaning on BB tendencies? Self-care is something I've been big on since we started dating. Even before discovering R…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/14 04:12 PM