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silmarp/r/ExRedPill11/10/23 09:01 PM
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If you just want her to feel like you can do better you can hire a pro to take some pictures and the younger the better.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 08:33 PM
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It seems he needs a guide on how to best deal with narcissistic abusers. First thing. Narcissists don't heal, don't get better. There's no cure for them. Narcissists are people who developed a wrong sense of selves, they can't get better because they can't see themselves as being wrong. They can do pretty fucked up stuff to fuck up people. If they for some reason notice what they are doing as wrong they could get help but no therapist is able to help someone who can't see the wrongdoings they ar…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 04:56 PM
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You don't need to fret. If both get to talk soon your ex will notice and "why the hell is he moving so soon, it's disrespecful" is then next big thing.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 08:05 PM
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Kind of. Maybe I wrote it poorly then. No matter. The did is done. The wife will never again be able to live a normal life. Probably she's the easy girl in the office she works and all that now that it's come to this.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 01:01 PM
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I don't know really, maybe both wanted? It doesn't matter that much since the problem is the same.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 11:54 AM
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Frame like what?
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 11:34 AM
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Look dude. It's been over for a long time but you just noticed. Your marriage is dead. Thing is, this hotwife, open marriage shit, this shit doesn't work and her mind is totally fucked up for life. She will never be able to pair bond again with anyone. She can't love you. Women can only love men they respect and no woman can love a man who have a fettish on being disrespected. No woman can love a man who doesn't respect himself because woman can only love men they respect first. Out of respect c…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 09:26 PM
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Life will teach you lessons whether you want it or not.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 12:32 AM
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You might not feel like but you are winning here. Duck Iceland, go to a hot water park with the kids. So much better. I mean, nothing against Iceland and all that but take the kids to a water park now and you all will remember forever. Don't even bother posting in social media. Just go water sliding with the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/25 06:39 PM
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She gave you a huge gift by denying you 'just another chance". She wanted you to fight for her. That doesn't means she wanted you. She wants you to fight for her so she gets her attention and validation. She is not really special if you ask me. Many other women. Billions of them have the same tactics and the same problems in their head. She is not special at all and she's not uncommon. If you read enough you will notice that your case is as common as any other Tuesday. Now what happens is. You a…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 01:01 PM
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Dig her own grave? If you let her control the narrative you are digging your own grave dude. Don't be naive, she is being smart and the world is against you. If you don't file she is gonna take her sweet time and then use the law against you and the system IS IN FACT AGAINST YOU! File before she does. Talk to a lawyer first thing Monday and do it before she has a chance to do it. Don't wait. If you wait she will tell people you are the one in the wrong and she had to find solace in the arms of h…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 11:04 PM
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Bullshit. Everyone has that Schadenfreude when someone did them evil and got fucked up later. It's not about being a man it's about being human mr robot.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 10:36 PM
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You are being sexist.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 10:33 PM
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I know you have a good life but today you might be interested in having better dinner with wine maybe. It seems the night is great today.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 10:32 PM
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Be careful. You might soon get a call with the "I've made a mistake" message.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 10:29 PM
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Yep. Unless he disappears for like two years to an undisclosed country. Then she would probably remarry.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 10:43 PM
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Yep. But a woman who never worked once in 20 years of marriage is not one of them. Op should just get money to retire in Colombia or something. If he "disappears" for two years she will get married 100%.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 08:55 AM
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My dude. It seems you are doing things wrong here and that's the reason you are feeling bad. First things first. You can move on. Some men move on immediately, some will take their time and some will only reminisce about their exes to the end of their lives. Don't be the one to reminisce. Thing is your brain is hooked on her. You need to unhook it. You might need to go to therapy but you can also do it brute force. It's all about hormones. Thing is, your brain sends a bit of hormone every time y…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 01:40 PM
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This. Also if the house is in your name ask the lawyer about having cameras recording all time. If you need authorization from her you inform her you will do and put it. But ask your lawyer first as it can backfire depending on state. Basically you might or might not need her authorization to have it recorded. If you need her authorization you will tell her that you will put cameras in the garage, because one neighbor had his garage stolen or whatever. Then you will put the phone in record and a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 11:25 AM
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It's over dude. Thing is, you just deserve better.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 03:38 AM
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Social Justice Warrior. They are many things and onf of the things they are is anti-men.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 12:45 AM
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Not really about conservatives or liberals but about SJWs
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/24 11:41 PM
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Are you using a male lawyer? If so fire him and get yourself a female lawyer. You found a SJW judge. Those dudes don't listen to men unless is a man speaking for a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/24 09:27 PM
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Also I have more bad news. If your mom chooses her side that means she is siding with a cheater. Birds of a feather flock together. If your mom defends her there is a high chance she is also one of them. In this planet people show loyalty to the ones who are closest to them in their acting.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 03:34 PM
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Ok. About this. Tell your side to people. Don't wait for her to say her part, she will tell people you are like Hitler blended with Satan but worse. However, if you tell your side first she's very likely not going to be able to spin her tale about how you're an abusive husband. If she tells her side first you are the evil one, even if you tell your side later it's just the ramblings of an 'abusive husband'. If you tell your side of the story first that means she is a vindictive cheater trying to…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 03:29 PM
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Well dude. Let me tell you. You are not the first and you are not the last. What you are feeling is natural and many people did it. Now. One thing. You told her she had a chance if she did this and that. No woman can accept it. That is the pick me dance. Look man, many guys have tried the pick me dance in many millennia. It never works. Thing is a woman can forgive a man who humiliates her. However a woman can never, under any circumstance forgive a man who humiliates himself. By telling her she…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 03:13 PM
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Don't move out. If you do she can file abandonment and that's bad news. Unless you have a signed agreement never move out.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/24 08:22 PM
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Dude. Thing is she checked out. You are doing everything, thus she thinks she got you so hooked she can do whatever and you will never leave. She also thinks she can leave you and you will do everything to get her back. Worst thing is that she might be right. She resents you and belittles you. Why does she do that? She does that because she can. Because you treat her like royalty. If you treat her like a princess she will treat you like a peasant. Stop fixing stuff for her. Stop supporting her. …
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 12:33 PM
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https://www.theadvocate.com.au/story/8799308/david-mcculloch-sentenced-to-jail-for-shovel-attack-on-brother/
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 12:58 PM
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Is the brother dead? It seems he got 3 years so he will probably leave in half this time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 10:47 AM
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It's the golden child syndrome. The mother is probably being hated by now and loving it. That is because that is a symptom of narcissism. She probably will come to hate it though in time when consequences hit hard. Probably she lost a husband and most of her friends wouldn't call her to go out anymore. f it got to this level the kids are all probably his brother's.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 10:41 AM
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Oh. You know. The system ir kinda rigged and the lawyers are farming you ex like the fool she is. They are raking in that juicy fee and they are loving every minute of it. That's whats it's about. There is no convincing her on contrary because their lawyers are trying to convince her that the "judge will make you pay their fees for her so it might even be free" Watch the movie Divorce Corps to understand it better.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 10:05 AM
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That's tough. I think you need to talk to a therapist
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 01:13 AM
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My dude. She is your rival, your enemy right now. Have the messages recorded. Pass it to your lawyer, it's your chance on trying full custody depending on your lawyer. "She doesn't want to admit the guy is trash". Don't ask her such stuff. Don't try winning her back. NEVER do that. That sounds desperate. She is not your friend dude, She is not relationship material. Don't be the one fighting for a woman who left you. That will never work, just walk away.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 01:38 PM
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Oh. So it seems she wanted to taste the other dude(not in love with you anymore means there is another dude) but the other dude doesn't want a relationship so she is backtracking. Don't go back.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 04:16 AM
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Ok. Thing is. When you get to the judge only speak when it's your time to speak. Stoic and resolute. Be calm of mind. And keep the 180 and grey rocking. You got it king.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 01:29 PM
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Yeah. Let me tell you. She wants to stay until the school year is over. This way she has a better chance at moving kids from school to another where controls them and you have to pay full child support. That is probably on per advice of a lawyer. That means she is acting in a calculated manner while you are kept in the dark about it. Filing now mean she can't get that juicy control over the situation. Don't expect for her to file. File first and stop trying to win her back. You are the one with …
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 12:35 PM
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Second this. Sue the dude. The amount of disrespect demands scorched earth.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 03:25 PM
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Ok, one thing. Is the house on your name? If it is then talk to your lawyer about setting cameras. If your name is on the lease. On contrary you can put but you may need her authorization and by authorization that means you need proof she consented to it. She is probably gonna escalate and try to get you arrested or something and you better protect yourself. She probably already started her smearing campaign reescalating
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 01:19 PM
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Yep. Tell her you will only talk through Talking Parents.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 06:15 PM
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Your case seems different. She wants to move on and be friends in case her charming prince disappears. She told you if you needed anything to let her know. Either you don't answer or you answer like: "Actually I need something from you. Distance, Me and my gf came to an agreement to limit contact to exes" or something like it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 09:42 AM
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Maybe you are right. But thing is he is not valuing himself like he needs to. He needs to value himself and to respect himself. Only them he will find his real happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 09:55 PM
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It's tough love. I think he needs it to grow.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 05:36 PM
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It seems you don't understand women. Treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a peasant. That is the golden rule. Look dude. In the movies this "I will do my best, pay all the bills, cook and do the dishes and she will do nothing" it great, in real life though such attitude is a pussy repellent. No wonder she doesn't like you you are not manly. No woman can respect a man that doesn't respect himself. You are not respecting yourself. You made yourself into her maid. She thinks herself a…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 05:02 PM
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Study the grey rock technique. Don't answer her. Tell her that every conversation is only pertaining to the kids. If you don't have kids just block her.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 04:51 PM
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Tell her "Not your monkeys, not your circus".
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 05:34 PM
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That depends on circumstances brother. Is she cheating? If so you should surprise her and tell her all communication are to be handled by the lawyers from the moment she is served. Is she abusive? The same is true. Did you just grow apart? Then you might have a talk with her and explain you want to follow your own way and that's better for both of you. There is no silver bullet to all the cases. as there are many circumstances that are different.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 04:31 PM
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Look dude. You need to learn to let go. In fact it seems you fought the divorce. Fighting the divorce is useless and counterproductive. Just let it go. At this point she might be changing her last name just to get back at you because you fought the divorce. NEVER under any circumstance do the pick me dance. There is a reason it doesn't work. It didn't work once in the last 10000 years and it won't work for you. Just grey rock and 180 her until the divorce is finalized, stop humiliating yourself.…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 09:52 AM
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Is your lawyer a woman? If the judge is a feminist your lawyer needs to be a woman. You don't have to change offices. Just tell them you think the judge is a feminist so the lawyer representing you at the court needs to be changed to a woman from the same team.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 11:42 AM
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Talk to your lawyer to get back to court to change the speaking terms. Now you are only to talk through an app like Talking Parents. After that you tell her every text is through the app. Also tell her the texts might become public and even if she deletes on her part they will be accessible by the court system if needed. Either that or just ignore. She is using a technique called hoovering. It's a common tactic used by narcissists. Just ignore or hire a 25 year old hooker and take a picture whil…
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 12:36 AM
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Get there early. Give your daughter the gift. Leave. If asked you will say you have an appointment. No point in explaining yourself. This way your gift is the first she will notice because you will give it in her hands. Don't do any drama. Just say hello to everyone, give the gift and leave. Then at another day you can take your daughter to a pizza place where you have have pizza and all the ice cream she can eat. She will remember it just fine as the perfect night.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 09:14 PM
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If the house is yours, consult with your lawyer about putting cameras on the house, you will have to inform your wife about it. If your daughter take sides then remember that the one side supported by her is the one who will pay her college.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 12:14 PM
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My dude. GREY ROCK the shit out of them. That's the only answer. Don't marry single mothers next time.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 10:52 PM
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Dude. You are wrong. You are still giving everything and getting nothing in return.That is a mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 02:57 PM
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He is right though. I think op needs some tough love.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 01:47 PM
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Don't set yourself in fire to keep others warm. Now she is talking to you about her relationship. Next the dude is trying to harm you because you are "involving yourself into their relationship". You will find that the dude is probably very afraid of being cheated on too because only he can cheat. Stop putting yourself at risk. To be frank she is not worth it as you already know. Tell her if she is not great you can have the kids most time but that's about it. Don't be her therapist. Don't accep…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 06:45 PM
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Learn the Grey Rock Technique. That's all about it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 10:05 PM
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Just saying but you can ask the courts to put all conversations through an specific app like Talking Parents. Many people did it and they had a good time.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 09:49 PM
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Don't do that Op. Do nothing. You got information straight from the enemy's line so it's an invaluable source of knowledge.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 01:51 PM
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It seems the other dude didn't want her as the 'official woman'. So she's noticing she might end up all alone. Don't come back. Don't cheat on your girlfriend. Tell your stbx that you won't cheat on your girlfriend because you are not one of those guys. She will feel even worse.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 11:24 PM
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Dude, you are being naïve. Just hit her where it hurts. Tell her you don't care but you won't stay married to someone who can give you aids. Provide no further questions no nothing. Show her that she doesn't matter. She is playing games? Show her the games don't matter because you consider yourself a priority.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 07:15 PM
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I've seen this story many times. Do you know what happens next? First you notice that you are alone. Then you notice you are alone. What's the difference? First you notice you are alone and no one to make you company. Then you notice you are alone and thus you have no one to answer to. You answer to no one. You can wake up later. You can sleep later. You can go out playing with friends, you can go out hiking. Then you are reconnecting with friends and people you forgot existed. Barbecues you can…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 06:48 PM
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Updateme! Updateme
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 01:11 AM
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Yes she is. And you are being a second class citizen at your own marriage so just divorce already.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 01:10 AM
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I read a story here at reddit about a dude who kept most of his things due do affair fog. The ap had a girlfriend and his wife left to be a lover to her ap. He was saving so much he told people that if needed he could even pay the dude to have his wife for at least the time the ink is dry.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 12:20 PM
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It's hard. There are hypothetical scenarios where you could have got more. For example. If she is cheating and in affair fog she can sign a less than perfect contract so she can finally go to her charming prince. If she is cheating and it's an at fault state. Iron clad prenup. However all of that are only what ifs in your case. Thing is, the judges are trained to defend their boss. The state. And the state will think she has a higher chance if she gets half. Chances of what you as me? Chances on…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 11:09 AM
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She probably will tell the dude sleeps there sometimes but only that and whatever. Everyone knows but no one cares. It will change if she remarries. But thing is, if you talk about this to the judge there is a chance you scare her into not remarrying. If she remarries then 100% no spousal support anymore. That is a difficult question.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 10:08 PM
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No no no no no. You have to protect the kids. If she is involving herself with less than stellar individuals you might just save them. Screw her trauma, your obligations is to the kids and only the kids. Every single other person from 8 billion people can burn. Your obligations is to your kids and them alone. Also if she is getting drugged that means she is using and that's a reason you should file full custody, otherwise you are failing as a parent. Get reassurance so she takes her head out of …
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 01:44 AM
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I don't think so. That would explain some stuff but it wouldn't explain why she's mistreating you. Would it? Also, you are being reasonable with her and making efforts. That doesn't work. Look. You are being transparent and understanding. The problem is you are being understanding to someone who is lying and deceiving you so that's kind of useless. In your case just research the 180 and the grey rock technique and those will do you better. No need to accommodate her madness into your life.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 12:44 AM
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Ok. Let's get down to business. First things first. Life is actually simple. If you don't understand something that means you are probably missing a piece of the puzzle. Sometimes people are missing due do something being hidden, due to they just not knowing because it's outside their range of experience. Sometimes they refuse to acknowledge the truth and thus they actively don't know or refuse to know when something is happening to them. First thing you need to do is certify you don't know. If …
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 12:09 AM
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Dude, I don't get it why you married her in the first place. This woman is toxic, never marry or even date a woman who have had fights with her mother. The way they treat their mother is the way they will treat their family so if a woman can fight with her own mother that is the way she will treat you sooner or later and even her kids. If you stay you will subject your kids to mistreatment and pain. If you stay there is a great chance she is gonna put you under a false dv statement, take everyth…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 11:00 AM
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Lets summarize. She is disrespectful. She is having fights with her own mother. She called the police on her own mother. That means you are not even a tiny little bit safe from a fake dv and then you will probably have to work to pay a mortgage and expenses so she can live with her boyfriend on your dimes. She does whatever she wants with little to no regards to your opinion. She have lots of dating apps. When confronted she is not remorseful. She is manipulative and mean. She put the blame on y…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 10:59 AM
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California? You need an attorney. And you need a good one and if you can, get a female one just in case because you might face a woke judge so your chances are better with a female attorney on your side because then the judge has to hear your side.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 09:30 PM
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Grey rock is the name of the game.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 11:29 AM
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Do you know why it's so fucking expensive? Because it's worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 06:59 PM
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180 is your friend, dude.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 11:17 PM
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I don't think you understood what happened. She left you for a simple reason, she thought Mr Wonderful would be waiting for her with open arms and ready to give her a house, a home, two luxury cars and a butler to booth. And the dude probably promised her such or other stuff. When she was finally alone and she tried moving in with him he told her: "Are you crazy? Just because I said so it doesn't mean I will have you as my woman, Do you think I'm an idiot to date you? A worthless woman?" And at …
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 11:16 PM
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Yep. I heard of a dude who had a friend who was a cassino owner. He got "addicted" and after separating the friend gave him his money back(of course after due taxes). It took him about 3-4 years to go totally "bankrupt".
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 03:19 PM
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The thing about crypto is that only you have the key and it's locked away into a safe account not linked to your main email so good luck on them reverting that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 11:07 AM
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IDK but if the dude has time he can do it like in year one and divorce in year 3 telling her hackers stole the money because bitcoin is not really safe bla bla bla.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 11:05 AM
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Don't worry. Your best days are just ahead. In 10 years time you will remember your divorce day as the day you started to live for yourself and remember her just as a crazy ex because that's what she is. You want a partner, she is not a partner and she doesn't want to be a partner. You can't expect it from her and you can't expect her to be it for you. You can't expect a mute to give a speech and you can't expect a woman who doesn't want to be a partner to be a partner simply because she is not …
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/24 01:34 AM
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You don't. Maximum your kids do. Stop trying to woo her, you know it's not gonna work. Big or small, don't do it. If she asks why tell her why would you. Stop the pick me dance for the love of God.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 12:59 AM
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No dude. You file. You don't have to win her back and you clearly will not win her back by doing the pick me dance. Let me tell you, billions of men from the oldest ages in history tried the pick me dance, it never worked and it will never work so you might just stop and file. She wants space for a simple reason, she has someone lined up, she will come back if it doesn't work but it's only temporary until she finds another dude. Just file and end this charade.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 12:56 AM
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Well but if he works in ex fil company he's kinda right because he can't hide it anyway. But dude is wrong because he lives in California, California is taken over by bandits so if he is not a bandit he should not be living there. And living honestly in a land owned by dishonest people is asking to be punished.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 01:01 PM
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Dude. She will never change her situation because she is set for life. You either change country and become a fugitive or you will have to accept that you are a slave.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:24 AM
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Well. Seems the next dude is having his share of false accusations and someone wants old hubby to the rescue. Don't comment, don't offer help. Nothing. Don't do anything to help her nor to help other parties. She wants to include you in the drama so she 'steals the husband'. Don't do any comments negative or positive or it might be used against you bcause these people are really crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 09:19 PM
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First things first Never do the pick me dance. It never works and it's known not to work since the first time it was tried thousands of years ago. Don't try to win her back. Go grey rock and o the 180. I know it's strange but she is very likely with another dude. Affairs are based on fantasy and marriages are based on reality, reality will never stand up to fantasy. Furthermore, fantasy doesn't even have to make sense so no point on trying. Create an account at another bank direct deposit goes t…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 11:14 PM
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Cuckold?
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 02:44 AM
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Go to the r/adultery and you will see many strategies the cheaters use. And they do many stuff like minimizing lying and such.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 05:13 PM
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Have your mom not give you the house right now. I'm sorry to tell you but need to search the term trickle truth. She is probably trickle truthing you and gaslighting you hard. Ask her why she told you this now(probably the other wife caught her and made her come clean. ​ If she wants to reconcile she has to come clean with everything. That includes providing you with a timeline, the name of the fellow etc. She much probably have had sex with the other dude. Plane tickets and all. Sorry to say th…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 12:20 AM
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What the fuck? She had shown you who she is. If you take her back is just the same but worse because now she understands that she can do whatever and you will take her back. Dude, don't touch her with a pole. She is not relationship material. In fact she might say lots of stuff that her lover did but she is lying about you so how can you be so sure that she is telling the truth about her lover? And some dudes might hook up with her? Dude, that's their loss. You don't have to save people from you…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 05:58 PM
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Don't get revenge now. Serve her and use silence as a resource. Don't do pity revenge openly as it might be interpreted as a crazy rambling ex. If you want revenge then do it after you have had time to think about doing it right.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 06:29 PM
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Being in control of your emotions is called grey rocking.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:23 PM
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Well, I never called her a swine. And I'm not even divorced. Well, I hope you can troll in the internet for a long time too.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:21 PM
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That would be true in a world where it's fair game. Not in a world where your opponent starts the game with a full house. You just walk away and don't throw pearls to swine and that's grey rocking.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:15 PM
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Look dude. Imagine you are in a war where you can engage your enemy and you are bare handed when your enemy have a full protective suit and is heavily loaded and can kill you with no repercussions whenever she feels like and win the house, the kids and everything your hold dear. Or you can just disengage and live to tell another day. ​ The choice is yours.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:12 PM
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Because it works.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 03:41 PM
3

From an outside perspective you are doing great and you will do even greater in the future. You got free from a scvmbag and is progressing real quickly, also you are getting buffed. The problem is you lost your pets. That sucks. But overall you are better than two years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 02:35 PM
1

Get her to court and switch to Talking Parents. It's been a gaming changing strategy. At least look at the app and try to see if it would help.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 02:25 PM
3

If what you said is true then you need to stay away as far as possible. You already made the mistake of dropping your orders and everything else. That is ammunition against you. She thinks she can do whatever she wants against you and you will just take it. She thinks you are an idiot and if you get back to her you are proving her right.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 02:21 PM
1

Yeah. All for the drama.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 02:17 PM
6

Ok. Steady yourself. Don't forget to grey rock her to oblivion.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 02:09 PM
6

You are wrong by expecting it. Thing is. she is unreasonable so don't expect her to act reasonably. It doesn't work this way. You don't expect a paraplegic to defeat Usain Bolt in a race so why would you expect her to act reasonably? So you have to act in knowing she is crazy. If some friends believe her you lost some friends but you will keep the best ones(it's a profit). Grey Rock and 180. Don't let her talk to you and distance yourself. Don't apologize, if you apologize that means you are the…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 01:20 PM
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Did you file? You did the right thing btw.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 01:06 PM
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Don't giver her an easy access to you. Tell her communication only by text and about the kids. Don't let her get to you. She needs time to get to the realization that she might be in the wrong thought she will never admit to others. She probably have a lover and wanted you gone so she can have time but as there are kids it's hard to meet the dude.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 12:22 PM
2

Did you file? Because her affair fog will wane as she gets smarter from talking to friends. The longer you wait the more screwed you are.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 12:15 PM
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Second chances, right? Look. A woman can forgive a man who disrepespects her but they can never forgive a man who disrespects himself. Taking back a cheater is pretty much disrespecting yourself. No woman can forgive you for it. That's why she says she "only left you". Because she sees no reason why leaving you would be a bad thing because she never respected you from the day you took her back. I doubt very much she didn't have action in between. Second time only if you are lucky because she doe…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 12:13 PM
2

Nice. To give you a sense of purpose you can put money into an educational thrust to your kids. You are gonna be alright. I believe in you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 01:52 PM
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Start recording her. Record whatever she does. Record al her interactions. You will record and then you will file at the same time you can get a restraining order against her, it's rare but if she is telling you that she will kill you you have a criminal case against her. Use her weakness against her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 11:24 PM
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Tell her "Let's make divorce great again". Couldn't resist. Sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 11:12 PM
1

So you had your unicorn then. I hope you came out unscratched by it and could keep your assets.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 10:19 PM
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Dude. No one wants to be the villain of their own story so she rewrote the story at her brain to make it sense. That is nothing special and is basically the way some people cope. There is a video of a serial killer who imprisoned a woman at his house. When questioned by the police he told he found her chained at his basement so he just "took care of her". That is because by thinking that he "took care of her" meant he was a hero instead of a villain. Don't expect an unreasonable person to act re…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 03:13 PM
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Please don't try reconciliation. It absolutely won't end well at your case. The problem is that by getting her back you will prove to her that she can come back anytime and cry some crocodile tears and you will still be hooked up by her. She will try and win you back. Your efforts to not marry will be overrun. She already won over with you "will be back but not marry". In time you will become "living together but not married" progressed to "married again because she learned her lesson". And you …
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 02:07 PM
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Be smart. File with a female lawyer for example. You can reframe the wordings telling people it for the kids etc.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 05:48 PM
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I understand. However you need to teach your kids their father is not a pushover. Learn the Grey Rock method. Learn the 180. Don't look back and file getting whatever you can. Get the best lawyer. She clearly doesn't respect you so don't teach your kids to put up with this shit. Be the strong resilient parent they deserve. ​ To be very blunt. You are not respecting yourself. Thus it's impossible for your wife to respect you. Women only respect men that respect themselves and they can only love m…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 05:37 PM
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Well. It seems you are trying to uphold the world. Stop it. Grey rock and 180. File for divorce this time. Don't look back.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 05:17 PM
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You should have noticed by now. The feminism from decades ago worked. It's fueled by people who have endless access to money and it made work less valuable in the whole world. Also it made men into villains. You are vilified because the system is against men. So you have to act logically and strategically.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 02:45 PM
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You need to get angry at yourself because you let her hook you up. It was not supposed to happen. Then work on yourself . In the future you must be able to pity the dude she's with. Just as everyone pitied you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 08:47 PM
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The reason is never the reason and you will be better once you are free. Also do the grey rock and go no contacts as soon as possible
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 12:24 PM
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Ok. Thing is. Covert narcissists they do act this way. They control and project their flawless facade around like there's not tomorrow. Your family is hooked so no point in arguing. Anything short of you actually recording your ex when she does evil stuff will not wake them up. However given time she will reveal herself to them because narcissists will sooner of later overplay their hands. People with this cluster of characteristics will always overplay their hands. In some years time she will f…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 01:51 PM
1

Responding to armed robbery is hard. However responding to ladies is easier. That might just be the right thing because cops might think that "Armed robbery? I ain't being paid enough for this shit" but "A single mother driving drunk? That is simpler".
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 01:11 PM
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If possible it would be great to match his deposits with something yours. This way when he get the money he gets more than he spent and that's just awesome.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 01:03 PM
3

Look. It's not impossible to get fake documents and move to Germany or something.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 11:11 PM
2

If you want to do. You do. If you don't want to do, you do not. Whatever you do is justice. However, if you wait a little bit then the damage might be bigger.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 01:55 AM
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She's not clueless. She is having someone telling her what to do. Now she will try child support and even spousal support. She is doing exactly all the other women did and got to rip of their husbands.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 02:42 AM
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You were supposed to get the kids and you didn't? That's in her advantage. Not yours. Don't misunderstand one thing. You are not the first to get through this. You are one in a billion. Your situation is not special and your ex wife is not special. Your case is not even uncommon. You are mistaking some stuff here. She is in war mode and you are wrong to think she did a mistake. Many and many dudes such as you made the same mistake you are doing and they lost everything down to their pants. You a…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 01:18 AM
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Dude. She is not your friend. You are highly delusional but fret not. Court will wake you up. The only problem is that you will pay VEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERY much for this lesson.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 01:11 AM
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Dude. Didn't you file already? If you don't file first you are reeeeeeeeeeeeeeealy screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 01:09 AM
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It seems you don't get it. She didn't do a mistake. She is being strategical and there's someone teaching her what to do to increase her benefits in the divorce. There is someone assisting her. Probably a veteran lawyer. Don't be an idiot. Fight smartly.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 01:06 AM
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If you didn't fight the order you lost. Dude. 2023. Didn't you notice by now that the system is against you? She did what she did because of a simple reason, the system roots and is programmed to help her. What you can do is following the order to a T. Does she need to talk to you? Don't, the order means you don't answer. Go no contact in a way the it will inconvenience her. Have your lawyers contact her and let it be clear that from this moment on you will not say another word to her and talk i…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 06:45 PM
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One thing. Tell people. You might feel humiliated but if you don't tell people they will control the narrative and make you into the evil one. Tell everyone. It's better if you post it on facebook and it go viral than she going to the police and accusing you of domestic violence to control the narrative. The way she can get away with it is by accusing you of something so when you tell people about it people will not believe you or people will say that "the dude was an abusive husband so he had i…
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 12:34 AM
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You are wrong. If Op doesn't out them they will create a story where Op is the wrong one.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 11:53 PM
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Look. You are overthinking. People tend to talk about people who are dying. She might have ulterior motives but thing is, people have the tendency to speak about people who are dying. The dude on the background means nothing right now and you shouldn't care about it nor should you mention. She's free to cheat on him wherever she wants and she's his problem.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 08:54 AM
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It happens when they notice the Mr Wunderbar is not so wonderful as they thought when they have their sexcapades. Then they notice all of their friends who pushed them to divorce a good husband did it because misery loves company.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 07:10 AM
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God bless that you don't find someone like her. There are plenty better and being alone and not answering to anyone is not that bad too.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 07:08 AM
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What the fuck are you doing with your life? You are considering couples therapy while she is with another dude? That is wrong in many levels. Accept that it's over dude. Stop orbiting her. She is not special. At all. She is not special. Not even a little tiny bit. Why don't you move on? Because you have no self respect at all. You need to decide to move on but you are shameless and you won't move on until you decide to do so. If something she will push you to the point you will finally have your…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 11:34 PM
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"B-but he's mysterious in his own way" ...rofl
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 10:39 PM
2

F. Zcbzb
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 12:48 AM
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Hahaha. Savage.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 04:40 PM
3

Don't do that. If she tries tell her you are afraid of diseases.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:14 PM
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She will try to get back soon. Be ready to tell her she is too stupid to be a wife or something.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:10 PM
2

Look dude. Think about it in a positive way. Do you want to sleep late? You can do it now. Do you want to go fishing? You can do it now. Do you want to learn a new thing and don't want people interrupting every 5 minutes while you are trying to concentrate on a lesson without any regards to whatever you are doing? You can. The trick here is getting yourself busy and doing exercises to keep your body and mind in focus so you can in time notice that freedom is a good thing.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 05:15 PM
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You're not being an asshole. You are prioritizing yourself. Staying now means you can be accused of a false dv claim and sooner or later it tends to happen.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 03:12 PM
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Dude. Stop trusting yourself. Learn grey rock and learn the 180 method. Trust theory.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 12:55 PM
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It seems you are winning. That much is a good closure to me. Just let her drown in her own delusion.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:40 AM
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You don't need to hate. You need to overcome the steps of grief.To process the stages of grief the "fury" step is something the psychologists would have to recommend. You need to hold her accountable in order to move on, you feel wronged by the destiny and by the idea that whomever have done bad things to you is not her. The problem is that that is in fact her and not other person. The problem is that you have just seen a side of her you were never meant to see. You need to take your head out of…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 01:00 PM
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You are wrong dude. You don't need to hate her but you won't have a life of plenty until you learn to live by yourself. There are 5 stages of grief and you are lost on the first one. I hope you can snap out of it for your own good. You think your way is the best but then why are you miserable?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 11:27 PM
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Look. You better talk to a lawyer. Also fight the tpo, don't let it expire.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 02:07 PM
3

Man. Not your circus, not your monkeys.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 06:40 PM
3

Yep
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 06:19 PM
5

That's covert narcissist 101
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 01:59 PM
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Dude. You are wrong. Look. There are some people that are not reasonable. You are mistaken if you think you can make someone who is not reasonable to act reasonably. It's like expecting a paraplegic person to compete against Usain Bolt on a race. It's impossible. At this life you need to understand that some people can't give you what you want. You don't expect a homeless person to give you a house because by definition a homeless person doesn't have a house so why would you expect an unreasonab…
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 01:56 PM
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Wait, you left? Go back and grey rock the bitch. She can leave if she wants to.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 10:43 AM
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Life slapped you once to teach you a valuable lesson. Life will slap you again if you take her back. But harder and with lifetime alimony added to it. After that life will slap you as many times as you need until you learn self respect. each time harder than the last.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 07:25 PM
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Yep. Document everything and if possible have her confirming this on text.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 04:02 PM
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Fix the door asap. She will probably try getting a restraining order and the door is all the poof she need to get you evicted from home.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 04:51 PM
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Are you Russian. Because it seems like a Russian strategy. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 11:46 PM
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Your son is 18 and I think most kids this age would feel rather better than worse about you moving on.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 09:29 PM
7

She probably pulled the same shenanigans with him.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 01:53 AM
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I think It's time to pull the plug. Think about it this way. You are a software developer. There is a chance you are quoted to substitute someone (let's say your java dude retires) or there is a chance a software you are maintaining takes off. Either of the possibilities could mean you are the one earning the higher wage again.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 01:39 AM
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That sucks but there is a silver lining. Their biological father might get some custody if possible and he is the one that will have to pay education from now on.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 01:23 AM
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You have to fight for the kids. If you don't she will do the parental alienation. And you need to look always cool to the kids so her diatribes don't get to them.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:43 AM
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Ok. Thing is she is baiting you. She is baiting for a violation. Whatever you do do it using the law and legally. Don't to anything against the law. Follow the CPO to a T and try getting a lawyer to fight it. Fight the CPO, don't let it go at the default route because she will use the excuse that you are so evil you didn't fight it so it's true that you are the monster.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 07:57 PM
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If many friends are talking about forgiving your ex just tell them in a group that everyone who wants you to forgive your wife needs to arrange for you to have sex for at least six months with their own wives. Then after those six months you will think about it again.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 07:43 PM
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Or is she getting the sense I have moved on and trying to keep me around. Everything but this is possible. She thinks she has you around her finger because she has. But she is keeping you in the dark BECAUSE SHE CAN. ​ Look dude you are into a hell of a fog and you are not thinking rationally. Let me ask you something: What is the name of the animal that walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, swims like a duck and flies like a duck? Can you guess it? Yes, Its a freaking DUCK!!!! Things in this w…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 02:46 PM
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You didn't cheat. That much is plain. She broke the wows. Once the wows are broken you can do whatever you want and "duck it" to whomever is against it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 01:21 PM
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Don't get me wrong dude. But you have a problem here. You need to learn how to be happy by yourself and for yourself. That is something basic that every man should pursue. As to what to do you can ask and you shall be told because you are not the first to feel this way and there are techniques you have to do to regain yourself. and process it better.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 02:36 PM
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Most women expect their husbands to fight for the marriage. Even when they file and even when they are living with their Mr Wonderful. In your case it seems she has another dude. When a woman say from out of nowhere that they are unhappy it usually means Mr Wonderful is giving her signs that she can leave her hubby for him.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 02:31 PM
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Life has a way to teach people. If one lesson is not enough then second lesson is at hand. And if two is not enough then three does the trick lol.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 12:03 AM
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Yeah. She will make you rich, you just have to first buy some stuff no one needs but it's the best thing since bread. So it's an opportunity and the first seller lives in Dubai and he is really rich. I don't really get why the dude living in Dubai and being rich helps you sell stuff but that will be pointed that you can be like him if you really try hard. rofl
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 11:57 PM
1

I've never heard of Pito. Living and learning I guess. It's a funny name lol.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 11:54 PM
1

The reasoning you have and the reasoning to go to the gym is the same. Both are about having your brain retrained from thinking about the missing spouse and having the goddamned brain rewired to help you instead of messing up with you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 11:49 PM
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And he can offer better too like 45k.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 10:22 PM
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kept the original 2.5% Holy Moly!, you basically won the lottery here. You are like that time Donald Trump told people. We are gonna win and win bigger. Win more and more. And when people tell we are tired of winning we will keep winning more and more.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:52 PM
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Offer her the same she's doing. 40k and the kids will be safe in the house, you can refinance the mortgage.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:46 PM
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The main advantage is called anchoring. Being the first to speak means you dictate the terms of negotiation. If you don't there is a risk she will cry abuse and lots of stuff but when you have the first you say things first so she has to answer your propositions. E.G.: If she cries that you are an abusive monster then you can counter that with: "Hold on right there. If I'm such a monster then why did I file for divorce and not you?"
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 09:42 PM
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You're doing it wrong. Look, you are not the first and not even the second dude to have this situation. There are techniques and ways to browse the situation. Reportedly the 180 and Grey Rock Method. As these are methods you can learn them even if they seem counter intuitive at first. Be smart. There are many sources of knowledge available so you can either study and learn and act or cry about it. Learn and prevail. With or without her you will have to do anyway. The thing everyone needs to know…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 06:04 PM
2

Well, it's not a r/Jokes here. Given the nature of the subject it can really be kind of depressing.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 02:28 AM
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That is something that varies much. Basically your state has a calculator to help you find whatever you get or you have to pay but you need to check a lawyer. You probably have a free consultation with lawyers at your state too.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 02:25 AM
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Don't do that. In fact that would be a favor you do to her. If you do she is only gonna distort whatever you tell to her and play the victim to an abusive ex husband "look at what he wrote here. He has always been saying things like this since we maried booo hoooo". And people will bit whatever justification she concocts. Don't do that. Ask the courts to designate an app like Talking Parents and be polite to her telling her that all talks is strictly about the kids and no other talk is to be had…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 02:19 AM
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Look dude. Don't get people wrong here. Literally millions and millions of dudes didn't think she was at that stage. Guess what. They got screwed in court because of their naivety.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 02:02 AM
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You are not acting strategically and you have only yourself to blame really. As for strategies they are widely known. You need to read and implement the GREY ROCK METHOD. Also you need to record every interaction you have with her and if possible you should have cameras in the house. Have a recording device always working. If she want to talk to you tell her you are not comfortable talking and proceed to ignore her. Only talk to her when it's impossible to avoid. Act uninterested. Study the Grey…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 02:00 AM
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If your mind is made about having her back at all costs and you are still doing the pick me dance than there is no advise to be given because your decision is already made. Sorry but that's the truth. As for what happened. Many things might have happened but whatever happens, she is the one who started the divorce so don't do the mistake of begging or even suggesting her to stop. Or do. But the second you do she will be instantly convinced she can use you or she might get disgusted by your despa…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 01:50 AM
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A thing. Try to rehearse everything first and not be negative. If possible try the jokes with your friends. They won't give you the best feedback but they will give you a feedback nonetheless.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 12:31 AM
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Good luck dude. Try not sounding weak and take things slowly.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 10:49 AM
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At this case is worst. Because if that's true she will have had it's wild stage while browsing the neighbors dicks and now she will be vanilla AND judgemental against op if he takes her back. That is until she loses god again and so she will be vanilla with him, wild with others and judgemental to him if he dares to drink a pint.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 10:41 AM
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If she used the line that Jesus forgave her just tell her you are not Jesus.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 10:38 AM
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Don't do that. The problem here is not really the sex is what comes attached to it. I guarantee you that she will make some acts that she has never done before, love bomb you and make some hysterical bonding. She will do so she can get back to you. Once she is back her bad habits will come back slowly one and another. She wants her cake and eat it too. Don't forgive, forgiving her means she can do lots of stuff and get away with it. If she can do it then guess what. She will do it again and agai…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 10:21 AM
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Is there anything that can be donated? I don't know where you live but a man's trash might be other man's treasure. Apart from that you can do the following: Write a letter that has everything you might want to tell your ex. Write it as using a pen. Put out your heart in the letter. Make a pile of the stuff you can't donate and pour gasoline, burn it. When the fire is lit throw the letter into the fire so you burn all your resentment together with the things you don't want anymore. The trick of …
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 10:11 AM
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I swear that's the most basic script. Cheater 101 to a T. She is not original and she is not special, I swear to you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 01:21 AM
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Dude. Thing is you can't be loved by anyone(except your mother/father) because you don't love yourself. You need to love yourself and respect yourself before you get to be loved by other people. You need to find love at the small things. If you have kids start by loving them and finding at them the reason to love and respect yourself. After you learn to love yourself the rest comes easier.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 09:36 PM
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You have a right to a free consult with an attorney you might seek annulment since you've been married for only 6 months. Idk. The attorney might tell you if this is possible.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 05:21 PM
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Tell them its your first time and you know nothing and ask for the options.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 12:01 PM
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It's great. Look, you are not the first on this and you won't be the last. Luckily there are techniques and steps you can take. The kids will be ok when they see you happy and they need a father who stands up for himself. Start recording her. Do the 180 and the Grey Rock. Exercise and don't drink and never use drugs, not even marijuana as they are not your friends. Put your ducks in a row and then file for divorce. Fake it until you make and you will be ok. After you file she might try and get a…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 11:37 AM
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"Emotional affair".Did you mean Physical? Because there is not a chance they didn't have sex. Look man. Women they are programmed to punish weak men and now that you know she is fucking around and she knows you know. The more you insist on forgiving her the more she has the need to punish you over and over and over and over. You will never have a common good life with her again because she has seen your weak side. No woman on this planet can love a man they deem as weak because women can't love …
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 09:08 PM
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Don't do that dude. She is gonna file at the best period of your life to get that juicy alimony and resources so she can support her new boyfriend. By not filing you are asking to support not only her new man but she can even put child support into your table. Today she's ok but tomorrow she might be suing you for child support when her boyfriend leaves her alone with a baby because you didn't divorce her. And you might say no judge would award her with such an obvious trick? There are lots of w…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 08:21 PM
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The problem is you gave everything to her and you are still doing it. You need to force your brain to move on from her, there are various techniques that are suited to this purpose you should talk to a therapist. Meanwhile, you need to force your brain to move on. You need to develop strategies to move on. Exercises are nice. Install duolingo or busuu or even start guitar lessons, whatever you do. Learn something new and have new experiences. You have a problem of sticking to old habits that rem…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 12:11 PM
1

Look dude. Imagine a thing. You had a car. You used it but the car was acting strange. It uses too much fuel. It costs a lot fuel and maintenance and it constantly breaks on the road while you are on your way to your job. Then you sell it. You went through the hassle of selling the car because it was not serving you anymore. Then you are now wondering if the car is in a better state and someone is sugar coating the car like. "Look this car let you down countless times but the seat is comfortable…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 11:29 AM
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Seeing as you don't hate her and your divorce ended amicably I can see no reason why you can't be friendly or even cry about your situation. In fact what you are feeling is valid and even expected at some point, you are human and so is she. I don't think what you are feeling is strange, thing is you feel that she is like a friend to you so there is nothing strange about it. Peace bro. However, take care of yourself and try to sleep. Sending my prayers to her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 07:20 PM
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Well seeing as men are winning every women's sports championship and even misses competitions... lol.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 02:03 AM
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Dude. Walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, swims like a duck and flies like a duck. If you ask me, it's a duck. If you are clean and she is not then it can't come out of thin air. That is just not possible and you know it. She is lying.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 01:59 AM
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That might be one of your problems really. The fact that you accepted being treated like shit for 6 years means you are one of the dudes who REEEEEEEEEAAAALLLYYYYYY need to consider this one book not to be shit. I mean. Doesn't the fact that your last six years went for naught mean that your strategies and stances might be wrong? Every money you spend at marriage therapy or the energy you spend to be a good husband were for nothing so you might be reconsidering the book now, right?
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 12:02 AM
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There's literally no reason to wait. Do you think your daughter doesn't know? Well, probably she knows but in the worst case she doesn't. Leave your marriage and become a happy parent instead of a miserable one. That is what's best for your daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 05:23 PM
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Good luck buddy. I hope you can celebrate after it's over.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 05:16 PM
1

I'm sorry to say this but life ain't Disney, dude. At Disney movies she would be happy because she is the bread winner and a mighty independent woman. However in real life she's been hearing lots of comments about how she is better than you for being the breadwinner and she was convinced years ago that this is the truth. She might be resistant to these ideas some time ago but then she slowly joined the jokes and resentment about she being the breadwinner while you have an 'easy time'. She knows …
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 05:00 PM
2

Don't forget to wear a recorder device 24/7. This might save your life.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 09:35 PM
1

No good deed shall go unpunished.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 09:11 PM
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This, my friend. It's called freedom. Freedom is an open concept, no one is able to explain yet everyone can understand. I think you got married too soon, too young. Allow yourself to taste it and you will feel the sweetness I guarantee you, in 3 years you will be glad she left you. You might even consider ap "a good friend" because he opened your life to the taste of freedom. A friend of mine told me he considers the dude who took his wife as his best friend because he made him the greatest fav…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 09:09 PM
2

The new Mario is really great and it's a platform game like the old ones. Might be great for people who played the old ones if you have the time.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:25 PM
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With popcorn on hand?
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:24 PM
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I wouldn't wish anything bad to her. But that wouldn't stop me from hosting a barbecue to friends because my team won a minor game or something. Of course the kids would be invited so they can play some videogames lol.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:21 PM
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One thing. Never ever ask her to fix things. That is seen as submissive and women can't love submissive men. In fact media is telling men to be submissive right and left that means we are in the last generation of love because these men will never know love.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:13 PM
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The art of moving on is what you will learn from now on. It's a new experience and to be frank it's not that bad. Thing is she is selfish. You might not have noticed by now but as the nights pile out and the days get longer you will probably notice how you have more time to yourself and how you don't have to answer to no one and you can do whatever you want with you free time. And you can listen to your songs on repeat at your home now. In time you will appreciate it and you will find your own w…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:06 PM
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The techniques are called 180 and grey rock. As these are techniques you can learn them even though they seem counterintuitive.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 02:45 PM
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So she exchanged a loyal and financial successful husband for a dude who owns a pair of trousers at best? Really a winning move if you ask me. Find a younger girl friend to exchange kids next time. Nothing hits women harder than a younger one in the face. It doesn't have to be a romance, just friendship is more than enough.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 11:15 AM
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Good. Remember to always have a recorder with you. Be calm and expect her to bait you into an argument. She might not but don't count on it. After you are alone at home have hidden cameras at places you can have it. They might save your life.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 11:26 PM
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Look dude. We have seen this game a lot of times already. You are not the first to be played but you are being played. Next step is she will probably gaslight you into oblivion so her lover can move into the house. Probably also put a protection order against you. You are being played. Period.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 05:32 PM
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Can you refinance and get the house? I can guarantee you won't find 2% anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 05:19 PM
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That is no hard task dude. Hidden cameras. Hidden VAR. You need a VAR at her car and another where she spends most time in the house and possible one at your bed. A var at her car is a way to get it because when she is driving she is certainly talking to her affair partner after a long night or she is talking to her friends about the ap and belittling you to them. The car is a good place because it's a place people get relaxed so almost certainly she is calling at her way to the work and back fr…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 05:14 PM
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This is false.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 05:05 PM
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I think you are doing a mistake in various levels here. I think you are wrong to assume the judicial system is about justice. It's not. Courts are not about right or wrong and the law is whatever the judges tell it's the law. Look dude, in order to win in a game you need to know how it's played. How other people play and how you should play. It seems you are trying to do the right thing and in a point you are however what you are doing is not according to the way you win the game. Trying to do t…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 05:04 PM
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Monkey branching is the norm not the exception.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 11:32 PM
4

Let's rebaptize you as Neo the bullet dodger.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 11:30 PM
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After you get the ink dry you should tell, these master manipulator people really do explode when things are not going great for them and their "perfect plans muhahaha" are foiled. If the dudes wife leave and the dude stay with her it's in fact the best thing to you. But it probably won't happen. The dude will try and save his marriage and let your ex stranded. Just you need to know something, you will create a fake profile and message the wife as a friend so your ex doesn't come back to you scr…
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 08:16 PM
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I don't think you are right. Manipulators they really tend to overplay their hands for that next thrill and having just a bit more of dopamine released to their brains. So if you tell her she might be suspecting it for a long time already. If can tell the wife as much as you want. You just have to create a fake account, certify is the wife on the other side(and not his husband using her account) and tell her the story, you can go extra safe and have chatgpt retype your history so it looks like a…
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 08:07 PM
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Run, Forest, run.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 07:50 PM
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Hope you learned to spot the red flags for the next time and ghost her as much as you can. If you have to defend yourself you can do, just not to her.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 07:46 PM
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No, by what you said it means she is incapable of loving someone and she probably have at least 5 undiagnosed mental conditions. She is abusive narcissistic and you were being abused. Go no contact and if you want to understand her ask uncle google about narcissists. There are plenty of videos that explain them. ​ Let me tell you something. She didn't respect you. No woman can love a man they don't respect. Women can only love people they respect.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 10:06 PM
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You are one lucky bastard but don't know it yet. Let me tell you. She has her rights. As do you. Now you don't have to strive for reconciliation anymore, in fact there is no point in reconciliation. Don't take me as bashing her but she has shown you that she is not about to reconcile let me explain you a thing. She telling you that she slept with other dude means she doesn't want to reconcile in womenspeak. If you try to reconcile it's gonna get worse and if you do this be prepared to raise a ki…
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 08:50 PM
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Remember to always be radiant when dropping the kids. If possible take your younger fwb with you and be all smiles to the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 02:44 PM
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The thing is mostly about strategy than being wrong or right. Thing is, your ex will be exhilarated and happy if you confront her new toy. Every woman will tell their friends about "two men are fighting over me" and they would congratulate her on the feat because to women that's a victory and a huge one to be told in their circle of friends for decades. If you confront her that means she won because the is so pretty and special people are fighting over her. Get it? Strategy. If you want revenge …
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 02:39 PM
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You lucky bastard. You are Neo, dodging bullets and shit.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 01:21 AM
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Don't do that. You will only go to jail because of a low quality woman. She is not worth it and you know that. If you want revenge you can have it any other way that doesn't include violence. Including paying a young prostitute to seduce the dude and make your ex life hell with pictures of her and his "young flame" into her whatsapp.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 01:20 AM
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No. Don't attack the dude in any way. He didn't destroy your marriage, he didn't have any obligation towards you. Treat him cordially and friendly. You never know when you might have the chance to someday tell him that: "I'm surprised you stayed with her, I mean, when I caught her cheating she had 3 lovers and you were one of them. That dude [insert the name of a boss] didn't accept her but you did. It's better this way because the boss probably would be a dick to the kids".
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 01:18 AM
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If op doesn't want to tell them he can just type "how to tell your kids about your wife 4 years long time affair without hurting their feelings" open at the screen.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 10:12 PM
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She has no right to forbid you from anything. You can shit on her face everywhere she has no right to anything. I GUARANTEEE YOU she wouldn't have followed you on "don't tell the kids" if you were at fault. And I guarantee you she will create a narrative where she is the victim. If not she would already have told the kids to chill out. I you don't tell them then prepare to suffer the consequences of your own silence, it's gonna hurt you more than an affair, in fact you might even lose your job, …
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 04:37 PM
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It seems marriage counseling won't work if she has nothing to 'gain' from it. She will just dismiss it if she sees no threat. It seems your wife is the type that will do something only at the last minute with clear consequences knocking at the door.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 06:38 PM
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I don't think you should get back on track. In fact we only have your perspective on the facts but if half of what you said is true then the kids will be better when they have a place where they can stay and be happy with you even if it's only half the time. No matter what, you deserve to be happy too, you can have a playstation 5 and have the kids play with you on your days(as long as they behave) and do your own stuff when they are far from you. You can also have better place to them where the…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:44 PM
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Dude. Let me tell you what's hard to understand: Astrophysics. Another thing hard to understand? Assembly computer language. Want another? Fluid mechanics. These are things that are hard to understand. Your wife is not one of them. In fact most things in life are quite simple to understand and your wife is one of them. Let me tell you she is not a mystery, she is not hard to understand and she is not special. You are finding her hard to understand but thing is you are only missing a piece of the…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:00 PM
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Be rational. This is a woman with no morals, no dignity, no honesty and no nothing good. You shouldn't touch her with a pole. Go exercise and find a hobby.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 10:15 AM
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If she took a loan in your name then sue it for fraud. You don't have to sue her, you can sue the bank. Then it's the bank problem, then it's the banks problem. But consult your lawyer first. It's a felony, she might be in for some years behind bars and that also means you get full custody. Use it to your own benefit. Don't be gentle because she will not be gentle to you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 08:58 PM
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fumbled There is this app called talking parents. He can block her and only talk in Talking Parents.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 08:51 PM
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It works but don't consult too much since if you consult in many of them the judge might consider it as invalid.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 02:08 AM
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Filing first means you will talk first when it comes to court hearings. That can mean a lot because whoever talks first speaks first, so if she claim abuse she wins if she talks first.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 03:22 AM
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Dude. First thing you need to know. You can't reason with crazy. That's not how life works. You can't reason with people who refuse to follow reason. You don't expect a paralytic person to defeat Usain Bolt on the 200m race. The same way you don't expect a person crippled to reason to be reasonable. You just do the 180 and grey rock.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 02:34 AM
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Not really dude. If she lies she can destroy the dude. Jobs, clients, bosses. It's not only about 'blood is thicker than water' stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 01:31 AM
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Not really. Most people get sloppy when having an affair because they always overplay their hands.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 11:27 AM
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Don't forget a VAR at her car. Usually they talk a lot in their car because it's an environment where no one is looking. Var at the bedroom is good too. And as you work you might get something with a hidden camera at your place.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 11:20 AM
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Yep. If she didn't file that means the lawyer told her to wait for the months until she can. She will most likely "disappear" or "try to make amends" during the period until she can file. Acting first is the name of the game.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 07:35 PM
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Join proof and go to your lawyer, you might be able to sue them for parental alienation. The judge might force him to publicly apologize so people can take their conclusions. Your ex will tell you you're overreacting. Then you will tell her there are laws about parental alienation and you will go to the courts to pursue your own rights. That might shut him up.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 02:16 PM
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Google "Covert Narcissist" and you probably will find her on the front page. There are no things like mediums or life coaches. She is a charlatan and charlatans are often abusers. You shouldn't touch her with a pole.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 09:29 PM
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​ But don't drink. Everyone else can but you can't. Avoid alcohol and drugs like the plague.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 09:11 PM
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You need to stop using alcohol, also you need therapy. You are not ready to be in a romance. Truthfully speaking. But you can do it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 08:49 PM
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File to have everything with your lawyer because "she is refusing to get". I don't know if it's possible but let her know you are filling to have everything because she doesn't want it and you 'found a new investment" or something.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 01:46 AM
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Not much to think really. I bet she is lying about being so broke just to play your good heart. Show her that you are no pushover and go for the jugular. This way she will learn you are not to be messed with.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 01:45 AM
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You know. This is a really shitty attitude she had. There is a chance her mother is lying and she is not really in all that much debt(apples don't fall far from the trees). I would sue her ass with a smile at my face. Even if you don't get money you still win.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 01:42 AM
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Good. You are at your breaking point. You just to cross this gate. Don't be afraid. The best life is outside for you. Also, if a woman is not having sex with you she is probably having it with someone else so you might want to check this out.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 10:31 PM
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Look dude. Humankind has been on the road since they left Africa to roam around the continents. It's about 100.000 years. To this day there has never been a single woman leaving her husband to "focus on herself" There is never such things as "focus on herself". Never. No woman does that. Focus on her lover yes. Focus on herself, never. You can read thousand of posts here, they are predictable. There is not a single bit of originality on your stbx. She is equal any other cheater to a t. She is no…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 09:18 PM
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It's still not the truth. She wanted to move because it was closer to her lover. I'm sorry but that's the truth. And you moving to please her is the greatest ego booster to her. She had the time to prepare and her comment is malicious to hurt you more. In fact she thought of you as a weakling because you catered to all her whims. No woman can respect a man that does that and no woman can love a man they don't respect. I'm sorry but that's also the truth. As for now. She is not single. If you fol…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 01:35 AM
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You're on the path to your own destruction. If you don't stand for yourself and act rationally you might be in a path to lose about 20 to 30 years of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 01:17 AM
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She is the mother of your children. However she is not your mother. If she is evil you need to put her in jail and she needs it more than everything. The moment she feels real consequences against her is the moment she will have a chance to become a better person. No one becomes a better person without consequences.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 01:16 AM
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You are wrong. She is not acting strange at all. This is usually the behavior you should expect. If you think this shit is strange that means you don't know her and while that is fine(you don't have to know her really) that is not strange. She inviting you to her house when her parents aren't there. Come On. You know what it is and what she want. We didn't get born yesterday, right? Basically she is love bombing you. If you . That is a classic tactic many people uses to have their "loved one" ba…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 11:09 PM
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If people ask something you can tell them: "Do you want her version or the truth? I advice you to get her version because even I get angry at myself then".
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 12:21 AM
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It's hard to tell because it will go according to the judge's discretion. You can have a judge that considers it like a profession while another judge might consider this an addiction akin to cocaine.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 11:10 AM
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Your lawyer will subpoena the bank and discover where it's gone to.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 02:22 AM
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Hey dude. I think you are too immersed in bad examples. Hypothetically you can go to Ukraine yes. But taking your kids to a literal warzone? It's a hard no. Are you American? You can easily open an English School at some country that's better than a warzone since you have a visa that gets you permanence in many other countries and not only Ukraine. That won't make you a millionaire though(unless you are a business genius). Living in third world countries is a different beast though. You American…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 12:27 AM
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There are two hypothesis. They might be let go under the radar. They are made an example to protect the company's reputation. They are kept working as if nothing happened. This one is hard because HR knows there is an angry husband out there and other people who know. They can impact the company prestige and prestige equals money.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 08:54 PM
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Some companies that have prestigious reputation would care about it. Others don't. Let's see a Christian School for example: Having an affair would ruin a teacher career. At other schools they would be fired but not much extra attitude as everything can go under the rug. But if it's a director then it's career destroyer because there are many people who want his place so these people would use it as a bargaining tip against the director.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 08:50 PM
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Oh. It seems her charming prince is only on it for the fun of things. Who would could have imagined this?
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 08:45 PM
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She is cheating. Plain and simple. I have read this story a million of times and every single time that means cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 08:43 PM
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She will ask endless times? Tell her every talk is through the lawyer from now on.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 08:16 PM
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Don't let her in. If the locks are the same change them. Send her stuff to her place and don't meet her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 08:14 PM
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You are right. In fact, kissing her ass is not even a bad thing if it helps keeping assets lol.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 10:33 AM
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You can do whatever you want since everything is fair. However you need to be smart. Don't do something that will put yourself into trouble. If you can wait, just wait. In time you can even spoil his fun in different manners as an example if you have money you can pay a young girl to seduce and catfish him and pay her to harass his wife with texts like "Your husband is having fun with me and in time he will leave you because I'm younger and prettier". That is a thing that would destroy any marri…
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 10:24 AM
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Document everything and file for full custody. That will wake her up
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 07:10 AM
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You don't have to. Just tell no. "I'll pass. I don't want to talk anymore, bye"
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 09:09 PM
1

WTF. If she forgot and doesn't even remember that means it's not important.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 01:50 PM
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That depends too much about your area. As your wife already filed you will consult with friends or people you know about what lawyer they are satisfied and they might give you a good suggestion.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 10:53 PM
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No, dude. Money on Crypto(slowly moved, and password is in a place only you can find). If something she spent the money. Or if you have another way like putting your stuff at your mother's name if it works at your state may be ok too. Finances in or order and as far from her control as possible. Cameras always on in the house. Cellphone always recording. Have your strategy researched and trained. Have a plan enacted and as she will accuse you of stuff you will have your cameras always recording.…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 10:41 PM
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Change your locks and buy a good one to you and a good friend. You got out scotch free. You got lucky.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 06:42 PM
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Sorry if I'm late to the party. I think you are wrong to assume a drug addict will act inside the limits of rationality. A drug addict is not acting inside the limits of reason so don't expect them to. If she doesn't follow the court mandated orders to a t you should put a restriction order against her. Fight with all your forces and fight dirty if needed. Don't be a good nice dude, there are no rewards for nice dudes.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 04:24 PM
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Send it. If she doesn't want and tell you should keep it just tell her to throw in the trash please.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:12 AM
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It's ok. You have your options, she have hers. In fact I would feel safer with a woman who sais this than a woman who will have it with lots of dudes. Just you are not ready yet so you are both in the right here.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:10 AM
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Like. There is a huge reason the dude didn't write it to everyone in the office and it was not a 12 steps shit. If he is sending messages to everyone in the office the hr department would fire him fist chance because the superiors would think the guy is totally nuts. The hr might be one of the circus but they also want their job so if they didn't report this to their superiors they might lose their jobs too.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:03 AM
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Those 12 step stuff are only sent to people you did something wrong and as asking for forgiveness and to open up your feelings to be a better person. If a dude has to write it to everyone in the office then that would mean he is a psycho in a colossal level and that's clearly not true. The fact that he married after says nothing too. He might have been banging and still bangs her even while married. That is not something even rare. Oh, there are many instances where people receive letters from t…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:00 AM
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Ok dude, you are an adult. I think your story is creative writing but lets not consider this now so... Let's talk about the letter. Of all the things that didn't happen in the world the "write a letter to everyone you know declaring love for them" is one that didn't happen the most and that including all of the lies told to humankind. Like, come on! Let me tell you. If a therapist suggests a dude to do this lets think about some things that can happen. The dude might be visited by an angry husba…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 11:14 PM
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Don't take abuse. Learn the 180 technique and the grey rock technique. There are techniques you can follow. The best things about techniques is that you can learn them regardless of your feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 09:59 PM
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You can cry at the work's bathroom. Never in front of a woman. Every single time you cry in frond of a woman that woman will punish you. If she is a boss she will start sabotaging you, if she is HR she will try and fire you if she is your wife she will punish you and transform your life into hell. Please for your own good, never do that again. That works in Disney movies though.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 09:53 PM
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You need to perfect your 180 and grey rock methods. Have a phone recording everything. Ignore, ignore, ignore and ignore her reactions. Never under any circumstance cry in front of your wife or daughter. Never under any circumstance let your wife see your cry. Because she will not let you down easy. She will think that you are weak and women, all of them are programmed to punish the men they see as weak. Be strong and non responsive. Don't stay in the house for too much time, if you can just dre…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 09:35 PM
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That's something you should be addressing with the therapist. I mean, Or if you don't like therapists you should think deeply about it. As per example, there is a high chance people who have grown up in abusive homes to seek for abusive partners, and people who have grown with alcoholic parents to either distance themselves from alcohol forever or seek someone who is an alcoholic to try and heal them from the alcohol because they couldn't save their parents so they think they can save other peop…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 06:00 PM
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You have to be ultra smart here. Exposing them could make her lose her job. That is revenge but it can make her get some alimony depending on circumstances and that's bad. So maybe you should wait until the ink is dry to go for the jugular. About revenge. Yes, you can do whatever you want and you are justified to do so. You just have to be smart about doing so. What is happening to you is not that strange. Those are the consequences of forgiveness. If you forgive women they will resent you. That…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 11:21 AM
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Dude you are forgetting the part where you started doing the 180. If you are not doing the 180 then you are in the wrong. 180 all the way around. And don't forget to Grey Rock the shit out of her. The dude probably existed before. Just do your thing. Go on your dates and be happy about it. There is no such thing as no sex. You are an adult. If you find someone to have sex you have sex, that is simple. You owe no loyalty to her or whatever. The sex with other people will make you forget your ex a…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 02:29 PM
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You can't because it would be 'fascism'. Serious. People would never allow for this to happen at schools. They can allow drag queens reading sex stories to kids but they can't allow for men to defend themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 02:23 PM
1

Can't you sue her for fraudulent litigation? She won't stop until it hurts her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 03:01 PM
1

Still the topic stbxw is there and will be there. Should I say when he mentions her say nothing or say I don't want to talk about her? That's no option either. That depends because you need to know your son to know what to do. Most people just talk briefly and in neutral mode while changing the subject. But he's 15 or so, he's already smart enough to know stuff and he even have had crushes at school so he would understand if you just speak frankly to him.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 01:49 PM
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I get your point. But thing is you can't fix things for her. If she can't talk to him for two weeks then too bad for her. Not your circus, not your monkeys. I get that you ended up in good terms but it's still not your problem. Look. If I were to wonder what she's thinking. She is thinking that your son might dislike her for a while but everything will come to terms in two years or something around this time because by this time everything is in the past. That is probably her calculation on the …
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 03:54 PM
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Don't make him visit her. Better to let him have his own time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 10:19 AM
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Good God, I hope this story is fake. In fact I refuse to believe it's true. What the heck paying for her mom and boyfriends? What in the name of whatever is holy I'm reading? Jesus Christ man!!! If she has TWO boyfriends they can pay for whatever she needs.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 05:07 PM
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Good that you noticed. As it seems you live in a 'strange' place you need the lawyer to guide you into the process. I mean, everyone needs but you need more.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 03:49 PM
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It's actually the opposite. She is having a "mid life crisis". If she has such crisis and no money she will have to come to her senses and face her mortality. That is best for your kids because in 3 years they will have their mother back in shape of a woman. However, once you give her your money she will become Jada Smith and sleep with thousands of teenagers boys eager to get a free playstation6 from a loaded cougar. And that is bad for your kids. You might not know this now. But if you give he…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 12:59 PM
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Consult your lawyer, man. There is a great chance the prenup sticks. That depends a bit on the judge and circumstances but if the prenup always bounded then the country would be destroyed already.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 12:51 PM
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She is trying to hook you into an argument and maybe have you into a domestic violence or something. Have a recorder with you at all times.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 03:48 PM
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Yep. In USA the mailboxes are considered federal property for some reason. But some countries have laws about "people can't just deliver letters" too. Only a mailman can. That depends on country.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 07:01 PM
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Well if there is a next time you need to know to have a cop accompany her as a witness so she can't play her shenanigans. Not all cops can do this but in some cities you can ask cops to do it if you ask them some days before the act.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 05:19 PM
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And I guarantee you she is telling the same thing about you to him.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 07:43 PM
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Rule added: Never date a women who talks shit about her ex. And under any circumstance have a relationship with women who had a relationship with "that dude with small d that didn't make me come"
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 02:31 PM
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You will need to declare through your attorney that those 4 years are atypical and try having the courts understand that. Maybe you need to get 'fired' so you get your income diminished during the process.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 11:27 AM
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Great. If you have a bike you can maybe drive to the next state and sleep at a hotel just for fun. Also certify to stop and look at the landscapes lazily if you have the time. If you have time you can even go to the Freaking Mexico(highly unlikely but yeah). Finishing that Duolingo course is not that bad of an idea. Playing the piano, playing a guitar. Everything to keep your brain under control. Exercises are great too.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 02:27 AM
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Don't do that. It's not fair to the girl you are seeing. Follow the path of integrity because that's everything you really need. Also she knows you are moving on and that's why she is trying to bait you. Means she is insulting your gf. Don't let people insult your gf. Also once your gf leaves you she will also leave.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 02:02 AM
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Look dude. You need to block her. Going no contact makes wonders. Also if you have something that makes you remember her. Donate it to charity(not to wast nature's precious resources). If you are living in the house you once lived with her. Redecorate. Take every single thing that remembers you of her from the house. If you didn't have the time to do that hobby or learn that language because you had a wife. Now is the time. You need to keep your brain occupied to the extreme so use this time to …
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 01:58 AM
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Jesus Christ. I can't help in any way. I just hope you get the most out of it. In case the kids are not biologically yours, can you sue your brother for back child support? You will reveal it to everyone, right? People deserve to know and you can't let them go without revealing their deeds.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 10:56 PM
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Dude. Thing is, she probably didn't even know the same social media app she uses now 7 years ago. People change because they install the softwares that shows them what they should be, do and pretend to be. It seems your ex is easily swayed in whatever trend she is into so some years ago her trend was about being a supportive woman to a broke fellow but as soon as she got a taste of a luxurious life her trend changed into being the woman that has it all and get many likes on whatever platform. As…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 12:44 PM
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If they came secretly there's a chance she told them a bad story about you. Get to the lawyer before her and file first. She have been planning it from a time so you need to catch up to her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 11:42 AM
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That is an advice from a redditor.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 09:48 PM
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My dude. I think you did wrong to talk to her about it. You should have brought it to her maybe but never in a way that "He told me this". You have to tell her in a way that makes you be the one telling. You broke your son's trust by rehearsing what he said to her. She is gonna punish him now and she is not the same woman, she actively told you she will humiliate him the next time she meets him because how dare a 11 year old kid tell her he needs her. She will humiliate him. Probably she will al…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 08:40 PM
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If you argued she would just add your arguing to the infinite list of things wrong about you so no worth the effort lol. Silence is wonderful. But if you can you can put her on speaker and play some music on the background. I recommend some Uriah Heep.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 02:18 PM
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I want the Pacific Ocean to myself. Do I have to get it since I want it? Lawyer up and file, go the law's route.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 02:13 PM
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Look. I might be wrong here but thing is. Perspectives are different for kids. You might have thought of her as a supportive father figure She might have thought of you as 'that dude who banged my mother'. Also she might be thinking you communicating with her as a way to try and gain favors from her mother. So don't be too hopeful. There is no prize.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 02:11 PM
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Everyone can change. In fact most simps will change abruptly once their breaking point is crossed. And these dudes will usually become the most "brutal" dudes ever.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 10:27 PM
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Hope you told her "nah, I found someone better already".
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 10:26 PM
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That is not that complicated. What happened is. Your marriage is no longer at the honeymoon stage. That is obvious because every relationship will progress further from the honeymoon stage in some years. That means your wife went seeking attention from other source. As soon as she found other source of attention she found someone who gave her the same tingles she had when she first started seeing you. When she says she 'outgrown' that is said in a way that puts you in a bad spot. That means she …
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 10:24 PM
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Good bot
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 12:55 PM
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Is fair considered that he signed the contract. Everything can be considered fair but considering the circumstances dude. Considering the circumstances where he could have lost far more it's considered fair. Like. Less than 100 bucks on spousal support is a good result."Oh but if you didn't do that". That would be a totally different story altogether. In a comparison, someone who was a drug addict and homeless and end up having his house and family and died from old age knowing all the grandsons…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 06:30 PM
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Look dude. Mankind spend like hundreds of thousand of years to learn to walk on two feet Mankind fell from the trees. Then they learn to live in small groups. Then they started migrating from Africa to other places because food and water was scarce. Then small groups of them fixated themselves at lots of places. Then mankind had grown it's number and had lots of settlements. Then mankind created nations and civilizations. The Warring States, Qin unification, Han Dinasty, Jin, Yuan... ... Communi…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 01:32 PM
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It's not that she is irrational. The problem is that she is your enemy. All of her actions and even her supposed irrationality is calculated. Think about it. If she treats her people better than your people and you. That means she doesn't consider you one of her people and that's why she can do whatever to you. She is doing it deliberately. She is crazy? Yes. But there is method to her madness too. She considers you her enemy and she is doing whatever she can to defeat you. The good thing is tha…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 04:52 PM
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"Bissexual polyamorous". Dude. First rule of dating: -Don't stick your dick in crazy. lol Congratulations. Try to be cordial with her in the next days is possible so she doesn't get what's coming for her before its too late.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 01:41 PM
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I guess this is called hoovering. That means she is sick and you should block her. That also means you will hear from her the moment you start moving on. If you find a new girlfriend she will get furious because "how dare you move on?"
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 10:51 PM
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Omoshiroi Gattsu Sama da. You really taught us some new knowledge here. I'm not a divorcee or anything and I'm here only to learn so thank you for this perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 10:45 PM
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If you don't have space for the kids she is probably gonna get full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 07:18 PM
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Thing is. She did what many other women did already. They are all like this. I mean, not all women but women like your ex. I don't want to put salt in the wound but it seems you need some rage to do the right thing so allow me to tell you. If you go near the house you will see a new car in there. That is the man she was having the affair with and her new boyfriend from now on you are paying for him to be with your wife and yell at your children and because you didn't counter her claims you basic…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 06:58 PM
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Forget everything else and focus on a life with no drama. You are inviting drama into your life. Are you addicted to the drama? Stay away from the drama and situations that will create drama. If you actively seek drama you will probably have tenfold of it because life works in such a way. You are on a path to recover 1 million dollars. What do you need to do this? I really don't know the specifics but I know drama is not one of the things you need. Tell yourself in a mirror: "You need a boring l…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 02:34 PM
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That's why a fake is useful.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 12:50 AM
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If you want to try just wait some days, create a fake account and post the same story. Wait for some time and just correct the genders. Do this way: "I 30f and my spouse 30m" After the comments are posted you should do a: "Edit to correct, I exchanged the genders because I was nervous. I'm 30m and spouse is 30f."
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 08:51 PM
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"Well. I don't want to imagine the worst then"
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 03:54 PM
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Let me tell you something. If you let her have all the choices then you will be uber screwed whatever state you are in. If she files she is gonna have the first talk. She wants full custody and the house? If you let her file she will probably have it. "Ohh but I earn more". That means you will pay more in child support and alimony if you let her file firs. Nothing more. You might be expecting some Disney Movie justice where she will come to her senses and "do the right thing?". I'm sorry to tell…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 03:23 PM
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Probably feminism is your answer. Maybe you will need to stick to the masculine side of your family because feminism as all other ideologies creates the divide they swear to fight against.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 08:19 PM
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Sad part is we both still deeply love each other but I now feel that this relationship will end because I’m still in school You are wrong. She doesn't love you. If she did love you you wouldn't be in this predicament and a woman who loves yo would never say would rather be married to a rich old man. There is nothing in your post that indicates her to be a good wife because she is only not a good woman and her family is holding you back from achieving your potential. If she didn't stop her family…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 02:58 PM
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Look. The judges are people who think themselves as above society and above God himself. They think of themselves as the ultragods or something. They are above any reproach or whatever societal norms exist and they are above whatever you might think. They are bigger than the galaxy and they are richer than Elon Musk but if they aren't they are more important. They are the culmination of human history by their measure and they are the most important person to ever exist in history. Every single j…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 02:30 PM
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In retrospect I think we should call you Sir Neo, the Dodger of Bullets.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 12:46 AM
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She didn't really hurt him lol. More like he dodged a nuke but got some very minor scratches in the process.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 12:45 AM
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My hypothesis of she being conned grows stronger in my mind after this information. Eta: You ban bet she's being the laughingstock at some place because of it. Be it her woman's group be it elsewhere.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 12:08 AM
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Dude. Good that you learned from that. There are two golden rules of dating. She cheated with you, she will cheat on you. Don't stick your dick in crazy. That means, don't go to a mans house to rob his wife because if she were a good wife candidate she wouldn't be cheating on her husband with you and this "he never cares about me" is bs. And crazy might be great in some circumstances because they can do some things in bed but nothing more than that and they are not fit for relationship. However …
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 11:58 PM
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It's hard to relate and understand your particular case since its kinda rare.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 11:53 PM
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Is Mark her AP?
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 10:15 PM
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500k? Dude, you got scotch free from it. You are one of the lucky bastards. Most dudes here are ripped off by their ex and she tries to get everything down to their underwear. In your case you should be celebrating once it ends lol. If you ever met the dude who convinced her leaving you should send him a good bottle of the best champagne and thank him lol.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 06:14 PM
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She didn't. I mean, she probably didn't. If she's still with you is because she is preparing her territory so she can screw you. After the divorce she didn't move. That means she had a talk with other people and something stopped her from moving. If I'm right she is sleeping with you in order to manipulate you and next time she will not only take 45k. She will be wiser but not really friendlier with you. That's why people are talking to you to distance yourself from her and have her move. Look. …
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 04:51 PM
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It's not really 50% less, if the dude plans for the days they are a 100% more awesome. Did you play videogames in the last 20 years? No? Maybe they like the new Street Fighter and they will beat you up training with the Ken you though you were good at. Now that you don't have a wife you can play videogames with your kids... WOW! Maybe you can cook for them. Now you don't have a wife, you can even take them for a stroll and maybe a little trip. WOW! There are lot's of benefits if the dude is smar…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 03:44 PM
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Look dude. It seems you are jumping into this situation without much knowledge. Most people who got blindsided did the same. Let me be frank here. Your marriage is over 100%. There's no use asking people about it. Life has a strange way of pushing people to make the changes they need in their lives and yours' not different. You might not accept changes but they will happen nevertheless and they are for the best. I sincerely believe your divorce will the the catalyst to you finally having a chanc…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 03:39 PM
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My dude. You got set up. When a woman asks for open marriage that usually means she is already sleeping around. If she is not sleeping she is thinking about it and she already has a man or men in her mind. The only answer to the "I want to open the marriage" is divorce. Because if you don't divorce her she is gonna make your life hell. Go to Strong Successful Male on youtube and listen to the open relationship stories there. There are plenty and every single one of them are alike.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 01:03 AM
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You are divorced. You can touch whoever you want. But fret not. If you don't want to to you will be forced to leave your ex sooner or later. Life will make a choice to you. Let me summarize here. Your wife "left you". She is using sex to manipulate you probably because her plan didn't work and I suspect really she was conned(and it's fair that she was). If she was conned she is trying to come up with a justification as to how "she lost the money" in another way that doesn't make her sound guilty…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 09:18 PM
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What happened is as follows: She wanted out because she wanted to stay with someone else. There is always someone else. Either the dude told her she had a place at the new country or something like that. To tell you the truth the fact that she didn't leave means the dude backpedaled or just ghosted her. As for how the dude did that, I have a hypothesis because after I read your story the first thing that came to mind is that the dude might have asked her 45k to her on the pretext of starting the…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 11:57 PM
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Look dude. Thing is, she is acting unreasonable. And if she is acting unreasonable you must believe her and know that she is unreasonable. She will act unreasonable to the end. Get a lawyer and if possible have cameras recording at your house. Consult with the lawyer what cameras you can have. Also have a recording device with you at all times as it might save your life. Because she starts by asking you to leave. Next she is accusing you of domestic violence and if she does she doesn't have to p…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 07:43 PM
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There are lots of things she can drink to feel this way. Starting with saliva from strangers. But thing is. It's not because the chorus of her coworkers are against you. The problem is the chorus only have power if your wife let them sway her. It's one active desire to be swayed and not something about "those evil mind controllers boo hoo". Thing is, she probably found a job where there are some single people, women with affairs and people doing whatever fashion stuff. These people are always sm…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 10:38 PM
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Don't do that. It can be made if you are trying to file in like two years time and you have justification for everything and it can fool a professional. But know that a forensic accountant will scrutinize it and if it's found that you're lying then you and your friend are both in for a lot of shit including jail time because it's fraud. You can hide things yes. Like changing the money into bitcoin(no one has the password) or if your friend have a Cassino you can "bet" the money and all that. But…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 01:32 PM
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Look. You probably don't want to lose and you are fixated on trying to have things not change. You probably doesn't even love her but an idea of her you have in your mind. Just accept things are over and move on, what you are doing now is the pick me dance and there are reasons the pick me dance doesn't work. Never worked and will never work so just move on. You are only humiliating yourself trying to get her back. She probably is trying to move on and that includes leaving things from the past …
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 05:26 PM
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Younger women will flock to you if you're rich. That's called hypergamy.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 11:11 AM
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If she is giving full custody then don't wake her up from her trance. She is having her way and she is high on it. You can wake her up from it by going full offensive against her. But that would be against you and your son's interest as if she wakes up from her trance that means she can fight tooth and nail against you and to get custody of your son. That means you need to play it smart. I don't know if you want to have her daughter around but want it or not you need to give her a long leash and…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 08:31 PM
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I must admit, my ex has been acting irrationally, making false accusations, and I'm unsure why she's so insistent on these documents. She is not acting irrationally. She is acting in a way someone(probably her lawyer and/or friends) told her to act so she can destroy you and get more and more no matter how inconsequential this is. This is what like a great number of women do. Her lawyer had probably sweet talked her for those sweet hours of money. Her action is not unexpected and in fact it's th…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 01:55 PM
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Hahaha. It makes me remember I had a FWB who liked to be slapped so much she had to buy painkillers. My hands also have gone sore from so much spanking. Then next day she calls me "furious". "I bought too much painkillers, now you will have to come slap me lest they go to waste!" There are some pretty crazy ladies out there.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 01:22 AM
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Well, at this specific case it's acceptable. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 01:01 AM
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First thing. Try to be calm. Second. It depends on where you live. Third articulate with your lawyer on what you can and can't do. But first thing is taking every bit of money from shared bank accounts that you have. At least until Monday where you can open a new account in another bank. Your salary goes to the new account. If she got the right to half you can have her delivered half the money when divorce papers are served.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 05:29 PM
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I've seen this tale many times. Suppose you let her come back. Best possibility: A dude take a cheater back, he will never get comfortable as before because she made him plan b. She can't understand why he's grumpy because if he accepted her back then she did nothing wrong. She is gonna snap at him and make derogatory remarks because women are programmed to punish such men. Years later she leaves for another dude and luckily stays there. Usually what happens: A dude takes his wife back, only to …
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 05:08 PM
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Good luck man. You got it, you will win.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 03:33 PM
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Don't do that. He will only notify her so she gets smarter on defending herself. The dude is not your friend.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 01:26 PM
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Police. It's theft.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 12:53 PM
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Well, we are only reading your side but if your side is true then you are in an abusive relationship. If you don't get out now then be ready to divorce now. If you don't do you will be forced to divorce later or maybe she leaves you. If she thinks women intentions are only about flirting then that means her intentions with male friends is all about flirting and she is already cheating. That's called projection.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 12:06 PM
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Once she calls and call it you call 911. There are reasons for that. If it's a tactic she will know that you won't really help her but call the 911 to do a wellness check. That is far less sexy than having her ex worry about her so she will be tempted to stop at some point. Also if it's not a tactic she needs help, she will be evaluated and all else. If you don't she might escalate and true or false that is bad for children involved. She might start making hard for children around and create an …
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 10:19 PM
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"Can you live stream it please?" rofl.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 10:06 PM
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Don't worry about your son. Just worry about being a good father and he will be glad for it. Having two houses is not even that bad for him if he can have fun at yours. Love is not a feeling, Love is action. Love is a choice.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 09:55 PM
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More like losing a war doesn't mean you are a bad general.Many generals lost their battles and their lives went on for other fights where they won. Accepting failure is a good thing. It lets you plan for the future. Even divorce itself(not being ripped by it) is a good thing. It lets people try and achieve happiness in other ways. Not all divorces are due to cheating and abuse. Some people just grow apart and irreconcilable differences.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 09:51 PM
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Strangely enough the ones who get hooked into the cult end up lonely and hateful.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 09:25 PM
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If getting offended gives one privilege. That means we will have created a society of offended people trying to fish such privileges.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 03:26 PM
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If she made allegations against you you have to fight every single one of them. That is because her lawyer will tell the judge that silence is tacit. If you didn't fight the accusations that means you are guilty. Also she filed first that means she will speak first in court where she will paint you like the devil. Then you will have to spend the session defending yourself. Have a female lawyer in case it goes to court. If you have a male lawyer she is gonna try crocodile tears when he gets objec…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 12:04 AM
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Third world countries if you have a remote job in the first world is in fact the best life one can have. There are tons of cheap houses in calm places and pretty girls crazy to get a 'gringo'. Just avoiding the biggest cities can guarantee great quality of life. Also the internet is not really slow anymore. There are warm and cold places where you can rent a house, you have the life of a king in Brazil, Colombia, Paraguay, Uruguay. And you find friends easily because young people want to learn E…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 11:49 PM
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Look dude. Alimony is a way the government makes sure it doesn't have to pay support to someone and so if the government doesn't want to pay for her to be lazy and unemployed that means other people has to pay. AKA: You. You might think its not fair but turns out that has nothing to do with being fair or unfair. Laws are not ever fair. Laws are usually a tool to protect the government from it's people. Now. About she getting it. You have to consult a lawyer(or 5 lawyers it's best) and then have …
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 11:39 PM
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It's called manipulation. She is getting ready to create a false accusation against you and by the time she does it she will have testimony of lots of people she interacted with and you will be toast. Many men had their lives utterly destroyed by false allegations just like she is trying to do. She is in it in order to completely destroy you and force you into suicide if possible(many men ended up doing this). Don't take it lightly. You are a man, The courts are against you and if you can't prov…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 11:27 PM
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She sabotaged your career and you are still thinking about it? Dude, listen to your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 10:53 PM
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Good. The marriage failed and sometimes an endeavor needs to fail so you can overcome it. It seems you were afraid to take the next step so you are lucky she did it for you. Now it's time to go ahead to your new life. Being single is not that bad. There are many friends, many chances to learn, many hobbies to do. You can know new people. It's not the end of the world.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 03:43 PM
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Lucky him. Some did lose their licenses and then got to be the family's joke.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 03:39 PM
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It might be true and all. But if it's the dude's picker that is wrong then the rp philosophy is the right choice for him. I mean, if he's chosing all the wrong women then he's better not get them too close.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 11:22 AM
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Did you read? She's reinventing herself now. She didn't start her jog as a therapist. She spent basically like a good part of her life trying to turn around. Hope she learned her lesson.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 10:23 PM
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I get gobsmacked that Drs spend decades on their education and an expensive degree where they spend many nights studying just so they can get such degree and so they can make lots of money and more money. Have an affluent life and good rich friends with lots of expensive wine. Have lots of girls crazy to marry a rich doctor. A doctor can have sex with lots of young girls with no strings attached. Then they start an affair with a married woman just so they can lose everything once the husband ope…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 10:21 PM
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Wow. Did she get back to her senses or something? What did happen to her after the 5 years? You are one of the rare ones to win big from the affair fog. Normally most guys go full pick me dancing(that comprehensible but evil) and end up losing the window of opportunity.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 10:56 AM
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Look dude. Thing is, you need to be quick as lighting. She wants nothing. That means she didn't talk to a lot of people. The moment she talks to a lawyer it's over and your 'free' becomes: "I want everything down to your underwear". So the moment asks for nimbleness. Go to your lawyer and have her sign everything. If possible have her sign that your lawyer will represent both in the divorce so it goes without her having to appear in front of the judge so she can go away in her white horse and he…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 10:51 AM
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Whatever happens. Don't put yourself in fire to keep her warm. And don't let her abuse the children. Never.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 10:41 PM
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It's called projection dude. One thing about people is that most people can't see others as better than them. She second guessed everything and tried to find faults into everything you said because she is dissimulated and she doesn't say things straight. A liar is deeply concerned other people might be lying to them. A robber is deeply concerned everyone might be ready to steal them. A cheater will be always accusing you of cheating. There are a lot of people projecting everywhere.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 10:39 PM
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If you have money you can easily have a male dude slightly above the average in looks seduce her easily and end her good life.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 02:30 AM
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You have to wait and use your information while it gives you an advantage. You can promise EVERYTHING to her like you won't disclose and such. I mean, she lied to you so it would be really unfair if you have no freedom to do the same. But the moment should be the right moment where she can't give you nothing more and she can't also take from you. "If you don't giver me this I might be forced to tell the other dude's wife about stuff that only my closest friends know"
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 10:48 PM
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Don't do that. She is craving for any attention. That means telling you kid bad things about her it's something she will find highly positive as an outcome. Grey rock forever is the method. Don't deviate, ever.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 07:18 PM
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Dude. If she earns more you have to ask for alimony and everything. She wants out she has to pay.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 06:44 PM
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Don't listen to music you like very much. You might accidentally create a Pavlovian link from the music you listen to the state of divorce so the music might become a trigger in the future. Other than that try Rammstein to get angry.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 03:53 PM
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So they want to move to have you move to a place they can screw you? And you think this is sane? Lol. This is utterly insane man. Stay where you are. If you want to pay alimony so much just offer it to they. Also, you are wrong by treating they like friends. Not friends anymore. Look, you are very young so you might not know but once divorce is on the table they will make everything so they can screw you to the last cent and try to steal every bit of sanity you have. The fact that you are contem…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 03:30 PM
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Changing countries and letting them a goodbye post on social media works better. Like, investing in something that can't be taken by SJW judges and doing it slowly and leaving them dry on their 60's where it hurts the most.
/r/MensRights12/07/23 12:13 PM
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Thank you for the answer.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 12:10 PM
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That was a good one. I will steal it for me. Yoink.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 01:55 AM
1

Good luck and remember to be calm and rational through the whole ordeal.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 01:55 AM
2

What would you have made different if you were filling now?
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 01:53 AM
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Good. You could also gain a little bit from reading the books Leave a Cheater Gain a Life and No More Mr Nice Guy. Exercise and eating healthy is the way to go. You might have lost your crown but once a king you can never lose your majesty. Doesn't matter how much battered you will find your way to success again. I believe in you. Having the strength to ignore her and move away and going no contact is the first step of many. In some years you will notice she is just a crazy ex and laugh together…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 01:40 AM
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There are many great dudes who have bad daughters. After you are established you can send some beers to the man as a way to thank him but that's about it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 01:23 AM
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Look dude. There are many reasons as to why getting back with her is a bad idea and I don't see a single one as to why it could be remotely a great Idea. It seems you don't know too much about women, let me tell you. You have been playing the pick me dance for too long. Women interpret it as being weak so this woman thinks you are weak. She thinks you are at her beck and call and she can take you back whenever she wants. Notice that she wants you back but she didn't even end with the dude. Now, …
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 01:07 AM
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No you dont! Who wrote this law that you have to leave in 2 weeks? God Himself? You can just tell you don't want to leave so soon and stand your ground. But you don't have to leave in 2 weeks. In fact tell her you will leave only after the divorce is settled. She can live with her boyfriend until then and you don't give a crap. Practice the art of not giving a crap. Have a camera with you and recording any interactions. Once you start putting your foot down she will probably try and call the cop…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 11:25 PM
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Nope. Why do you have to leave the house? If the house is yours then she is the one who should leave. What happened is the oldest story ever. She found someone who is or at least she think is the one who will accept her so she is monkey branching. She is already with the other dude. Proceed filing divorce papers asap because if the other dude bails she is gonna come back and You didn't help yourself at all by doing the pick me dance. The pick me dance only makes she lose any and all residual res…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 11:18 PM
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Enjoy the ride but remember this is an uber and not your car. So you will have to leave and set your foot in firm land lol. Have a fixed time limit to leave the relationship even if things are doing okay. Don't deviate from your time limit.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 09:50 PM
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Couples counseling is useless as he doesn't have a couples problem, he has a wife problem. She has to fix herself(and her credit) before everything and there's no way she can fix herself.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 09:43 PM
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The rationale is non surprisingly. Stupid. The so-called party of ‘family values’ has just contributed to erosion of the institution of marriage in Florida,” Yeah. What family? The one you left so you can live freely without ever working again? These people. I want their tears in a bottle.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 02:01 PM
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The lawyer doesn't care. He will get paid after all. She thinks her lawyer is her friend. The lawyer is not. But it's still bad maybe for the lawyers reputation.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 02:31 AM
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Yeah. Look man, there are lots of ways people find to give their lives meaning. Religious people would not end themselves because they fear what happens to their souls if they do or they have hope that life will get better and God has better plans for them. The conservatives they do believe in a pact that includes all people. Living, dead and people that will be born and everyone is responsible for a better world. The revolutionaries they do believe themselves to have the solution to all the man…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 06:07 PM
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It's a trap. She wants you to break it so she can use your breaking of the order as a proof so she can divorce rape you. Also you need to fight it. If you only let it expire she will tell the judge this is true because if not you would have fought it. So fight it inside the law system but don't go against the order. You are not the first and it's not even that uncommon, it's a tactic her lawyer came up with and that means she is in for your blood. Act accordingly, she is not your friend. In fact…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 03:12 PM
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Worst idea ever. Imagine you getting a girlfriend and she meeting your ex at home with the children? That's awkward as hell for everyone.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 09:49 PM
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Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 11:59 PM
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I hope your story is fake. If not, research narcissists. Her case is not that complicated. Alas, is not complicated at all. This is a thing called hovering. She wants you to orbit around her and don't want you to give other people attention. She wants you to humiliate yourself because that gives her ego quibbles.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 02:34 PM
1

Wait, was it a lifetime alimony? What were the terms? What are the new terms?
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 01:51 PM
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He told he would go anonymous. Still, if he has proof he could pose as one of the sil's lovers like: "Sorry dude, I've been sleeping with your wife and here's the proof. I won't stop so don't bother revealing that you know, I just expect you to lick her the days she come back from my house since that's what she has been doing all along hahaha!
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 02:01 AM
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You can try and sweet talk her into signing and telling her you want a new marriage after this one end so you can start with a clean slate or whatever works for her. IDK
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 01:28 PM
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It's ok. I mean, you are having feelings now and they are necessary. I suggest you read the book No More Mr Nice Guy as soon as possible. You can even start right now.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 01:05 AM
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It's a problem about abusive relationships. usually the victim doesn't notice they are into one until lots of time passes. At some times the victim will even fight against someone who tells them the truth. Defending the perpetrator is so common most friends and even family wouldn't interfere in the matter. It's a common occurrence that someone might be into an abusive relationship. Everyone knows that but once they try and give hints about it and the abused part starts defending the perpetrator …
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 11:43 PM
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Ok dude. It seems you are a good person and you want to help her be a good and heal herself. I admire you, I'm not as great as you and not even half as good willing. But the problem is you have too much baggage for it to work the way you imagine it working. First thing. She needs to want to heal herself. You can't force someone into healing themselves if they don't want to. And by wanting to heal herself it doesn't mean the desire to see herself feeling better but the desire and fortitude to go …
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 10:37 PM
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Dude. It seems your ex have severe undiagnosed health problems but you were in an abusive relationship and now we can conclude you might have some too. For starters you have to discover why did you put up with this for so long. You might want to search for a therapist and a counselor in order to discover what's wrong with you for enabling her for so long and suffering constant abuse. She is probably a narcissist or covert narcissist with sociopath tendencies. Now. What she has done is not that u…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 05:12 PM
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I'm sorry but is your name Will Smith by any chance?
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 04:55 PM
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If the dude has money he can have an ample supply of them. I have a rich relative, he's 48 but because he is rich the 48 women the age as him don't even try. Instead they talk their daughters into sleeping with him and possibly getting pregnant.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 03:33 AM
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Look. She is probably trying to hook you into a bad answer so she can paint you into her bad colors. I can see two patterns here. Either she is angry at you because you didn't simp at her and is not playing the pick me dance or either she is trying to bait you into getting all violent at her and yelling. If you yell at her she is probably gonna call the cops on you and paint you with the devil's colors so she is not seen as a bad person to her friends and family. Stop seeing her as a reasonable …
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 04:11 PM
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Good. You got it King.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 01:22 PM
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Well it's natural that she wants to be the victim. Research the 180 and the grey rock method. Don't engage. This is what you need to to.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 11:52 PM
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Dude. She's preparing to divorce rape you. She's preparing herself because someone told her what she's 'entitled to'. You need to understand, once you tell a woman about divorce you are no longer her husband, confidant, friend, etc. You are now her adversary. She will probably utilize everything she can in order to fuck you up. Be ready and file first. Don't be taken unprepared because if you do you will lose like decades of hard work.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 11:47 AM
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That's not a failure. If something you had fun and stopped at the red flags. That's a win. And she was honest about her drug problem and everything too so she's crazy but at least she is a bit honest and while she is not relationship material she is not the worst out there.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 08:48 PM
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That is not so hard. First you dissolve your marriage. After the ink is dry you can expose her. As she told everyone how you are the bad guy you should friend the dude's wife and so you can make a post on social media with the truth and tag your friends, family, her friends and family and the dude's wife. You can also chose other method or whatever. But that only after the ink is dry and you should file first and amicable. Always have a recorder when talking to her. She is amicable now but she m…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 11:35 AM
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Don't leave the house. If you do she's gonna complain "abandonment" and fuck you over it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 02:44 AM
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Dude. You need to document it and file for sole custody asap. Your kids need a better place to stay than this house they're in. You need to get a lawyer that will show the court how unstable she is and file asap.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 04:18 PM
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Divorce is expensive because it's worth it. There's not much more to it. You are getting yourself free from a leech and that is the price to pay to be free. I hope you can tell her that you would pay double to be free from her ugly face(but don't tell that to her. In fact it will make her happy).
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 02:50 PM
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Hes probably snipped so it's probably from another man. That would explain why it's so secretive. I wouldn't be posting a "Congratulations" on facebook. That would be terrible.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 11:19 AM
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People are telling you to wait until she gets a job. Problem is she might get a divorce before she gets a job since is financially better for her to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 10:00 PM
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Look. Don't be dumb. Act smart and you shall be rewarded. If she thinks you are acting strange ou have to tell her you got a headache and whatever so she leaves you alone. Be smart and you shall be rewarded.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:05 PM
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First. Save all the texts and proof you have. Don't confront her. You will go Monday to visit lawyers, 5 or 6 of the best lawyers in your area. Taking money from a joint account is okay if she doesn't check or have the account on her computer/phone so she won't be told by the mank it happned. Don't leave the house. The house is in your parents name, meaning she has to leave. Your lawyer will tell it better to you. After she is served you won't pay shit to her. Unless she has alimony but that's m…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:00 PM
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Dude. Thing is. Things are really simple. If you don't understand something that means you are missing a piece of the puzzle. She wants you to file and there are not many reasons for that. Most times it happens only means they want to tell their friends you are the one who "abandoned" them so they can play their pity party game. It's about they wanting to control the narrative and they think it's better if you do file and not them. Have a cellphone recording your interactions 24/7. Never talk to…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 06:43 PM
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Dude. She was probably advised by a friend/lawyer that she can get what she wants so now she will try and get everything because she either has this illusion in mind or she thinks she can make you cave in. The problem is you will not have it done without a lawyer and filling and following the legal route now. Get a lawyer and get the ball rolling.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 03:08 PM
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Tell her it's the responsibility of her next husband to file if he thinks she is worthy or marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 01:59 PM
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Look dude. Divorce her ass asap. She needs help and you are not enough to help her. Don't set yourself on fire to keep her warm. You broke the rules. The rules state that you don't get to stick your dick in crazy. You did. And that means you have to pay the price. Now that you paid the price for sticking your dick in crazy you are ready to divorce her and move on to a better life. Take it as regaining yourself. ​ You might love her. But that is a problem at your part. You really need to get to t…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 01:50 PM
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She might. A lot of women are unable to love themselves and others. They will forever try and move away from their problems. They can't have feelings for others so they flee and hide forever. But when time come and they see themselves alone in a trailer park in old age or something like that they try to come back.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 01:33 PM
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Document everything. Everything. You will need this when fighting custody and whatever because she will want to come back in the future and she will be unpredictable. Only data can save you when she has her moment of changing.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 01:30 PM
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Look. She is rich. And she is violent towards you. That means she also has the best lawyers. And the best lawyers will destroy you in court using a narrative that implies you are abusive and the scum of the Earth. If you file you will have the chance to speak first in court. That's called anchoring. You will tell everything and this is your chance to escape with only a bit of damage to yourself. Otherwise you will suffer a lot. They will use all their power to destroy you and they have the 'she …
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 01:24 PM
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That is the exception. Enjoy while it lasts because in the future the law will probably ban you from doing so.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 10:32 PM
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Dude. Thing is. She is not a sane woman and she is not a reasonable woman. There are many guys who thing a woman who is not reasonable will act reasonably. That's just not how things work. Crazy is gonna do crazy and do crazy stuff because that's what they do. It's not a reflection of what you are. I mean, you broke the rules and you are paying the price. By rules I mean that you broke one of the two golden rules of relationship. Don't stick your dick in crazy. She cheated with you she will chea…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:00 PM
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Oooh. Don't forget if you post that picture of you both in social media. Not passive aggressive. Just something like: "Best weekend ever" Don't talk about "the right person" because that's passive aggressive. Just like you have never been married.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 01:18 PM
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It's kind of a paradox. The moment you forgive them they see you as a catch because you are 'strong'. The moment you forgive they will see you as weak again and thus disposable.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 02:41 AM
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Not really. You think you will love her to the day you die. But 10 years down the road you will have troubles remembering even her name. That is the natural course of things and that is the way things always happen.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 01:41 AM
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You don't need to prepare for her to make more mistakes. More like you should use this time to prepare yourself. If you have money you should protect it. 401k? If your lawyer can protect it, assets. Everything you can protect you should protect while you are laughing to her face. It's not immoral or anything. She broke the wows not you. If you have money, maybe investing on Bitcoin or something people can't pry into. There is a way if you have the right friends at your area.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 09:17 PM
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One thing. Forgiving a woman can be easy. However a woman will never forgive a man who forgave them. Your wife probably never have forgiven you for forgiving her. She probably thinks of you as weak because you let her walk all over you. Time to find your inner strength and your own self respect.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 09:07 PM
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Voice activating recorders. There are a lot of models. You can buy like 3 and hide one in her car, one in the bedroom and one at the living room or wherever she is prone to talk. Thing is she might not be talking to dudes but she is surely talking to friends about the situation. But that is only if you want to know. Walking away and not giving a shit is a great way to do stuff too. In fact you will be better when you get to the point you don't give a crap about her and her shenanigans.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 08:56 PM
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That. But the answer has to be short and not elaborated too much. If you elaborate that means you are thinking of them. Being short and not giving a fuck hurts more. The elaboration should come only if they ask you to explain yourself and you can't just leave for any reason with: "I have a younger gf". Age. Mainly the age of 30 really hurts women.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 01:21 PM
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Don't k. That's passive aggressive. Tell her you are not interested in such conversations and just don't even answer. ​ The reason is. She is craving for your reaction. K means you read and is a reaction. She thinks you are giving her short answers bcause you are angry and angry is good because she has your attention. No answer is the best answer. Better yet don't open her chat and let her on unread if possible.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 01:08 PM
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You might be being really naive. But fret not. Everyone is or has been this way at one aspect of their lives. Having a special bond is something some people and most woman can easily fake. There is also a chance your ex is a covert narcissist and you just didn't make your research yet. But thing is. If you want to know you can put the damn vars, they are not even that expensive. Are you afraid to know the truth?
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 01:04 PM
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Dude. Research the 180 method(not go get her back but to grow your own spine) and the Gray Rock Method. Use them. They will make you good. Don't analise her or her life. She's not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:41 PM
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Grey rock and 180 method. they never fail.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:37 PM
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Depending on where you live you can take her to court and have a mandated text application like talking parents being the one and only one you both can and should talk about kids and only about kids. Many people had success using this tactic. Don't answer and don't bother reading her messages if it's not about kids. Never ever answer.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:36 PM
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This is where you are wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:25 PM
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Look. Like I said. She is not rocket science. Not your life is a novel from Dostoevsky. Things are simple, if you don't understand something then it's because you are missing a piece of the puzzle. This is always the case. Maybe she has been using you all this time and you just didn't figure. Maybe she's talking to someone and she has a second hidden phone. Maybe she has a lover and she knows how to hide and maybe she talks to a neighbor and she doesn't even need a phone. Either way things are n…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 09:45 PM
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Don't do that. Don't take back an used up woman.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 09:32 PM
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Yes. Chances are she is dragging and preparing a divorce that will be far less amicable than op imagines.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 07:21 PM
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You are absolutely correct. Thing is. When she was jumping from bed to bed she didn't have to know the dudes. They were all Mr wonderful because they didn't have to pay bills, take care of sick children and they had all the fun without any of the hassles of a real relationship. That's easy as a breeze. But once she started really living with the dude the dude either told her to screw or she noticed his first flaws. Then it didn't really work that much for her. But based on what you wrote is prob…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 07:20 PM
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Just be open(but cautious). Things happen as shit happens. No worries. You left your baggage at the road because you don't need it anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 06:35 PM
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"Look man. I'm a gay dude, I wouldn't stay with and marry a lady and... Wait, did you say the word Billionaire?"
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 01:17 AM
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There are two techniques that can help you. These are counter intuitive because you might need to do things you are not used to. 180 Technique. https://worthofmysoul.com/how-and-why-to-do-a-180/ Grey Rock Method. ​ Do a research on these methods. Not to save your marriage but to learn to live by and for yourself. Let me be frank. Your wife is not worth reconciliation.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 01:11 AM
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Great Idea. Also if the dude's religious he might want to join a church to meet people.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 12:54 AM
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You think you will never love again. But maybe you are finally ready to love.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 12:41 AM
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Sweet talk her into it. Then big mama can't interfere. She doesn't want her baby "raise another man's babies". She want him to have his own ones.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 12:55 AM
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Go to a lawyer asap. Get eviction papers drawn and go the legal route your lawyer suggest. There are different stuff but only a lawyer would know the exact rules at your state. Don't wait, if you wait she might use her lawyers against you and even get the house. The justice system is against you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 12:51 AM
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That is simple. She thinks she can get a better settlement and she left the home in the hopes that you take a woman home. If you do and she has proof she will imply that you are cheating and thus she will use such information to her benefit. The fact that you destroyed her plan now probably means she will try and use such information against you saying that you are destroying her cameras because you have something to hide. There is a chance of more cameras at home that you don't know. From now o…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 06:32 PM
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If she's at home you can have a var installed. Just you have to install when she's sleeping. There are plenty of ways to cheat without being caught too. They know how to do it and it's called opsec. You can check their tactics at r/infidelity(I think it's this sub if I remember correctly). If you want to know tactics just make a fake account and ask there pretending to be her and asking of ways to hide an affair and they will make suggestions and tactics rain upon you. Also. There is time. If sh…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 03:26 PM
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Yeah. It seems like a paradox but I swear it's the truth. It takes great mental fortitude to have everything and not to get bored and start creating drama.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 03:18 PM
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Dude, the problem is exactly this. She has everything. That's something women can't have.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 02:26 PM
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That is because she thinks her life will not change without you. I mean, you might don't know but people can be reeeeeally stupid. She thinks she will have the same life and the same money and provider and the same lifestyle without you because now she will have child support and spousal support. But dude. Thing is, if you don't understand the puzzle that means a piece is missing. If you don't understand what is happening it's probably because there is an information you are lacking to understan…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 01:15 PM
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Some women do change a lot after having babies. Mostly post partum depression. But it seems in your case the symptoms are more of an affair than depression. IDK.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 01:08 PM
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I wish you success. May you be blessed.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 01:10 AM
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Dude. Have a recorder with you full time. If possible have hidden cameras at any places you can have. She will probably not stop and this can save you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 06:54 PM
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Yep. If she makes double she'd be the one paying you. If you are smart. Talk to a lawyer asap.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 08:38 PM
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Wow. That's really expensive
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 08:37 PM
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That's the way of self respect. Congrats man.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 03:56 PM
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I suggest you save money to be able to afford the 2 houses. I mean, until her alimony goes away and you are no longer responsible for her. If she did it once she will always do it. I also suggest you get your money somewhere safe. Maybe Bitcoin?
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 03:54 PM
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I don't think you are wrong. This is a pattern repeated a thousand times.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 03:51 PM
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If you want to save you should stop doing that. You should go out. Really. There is a technique called the 180 and that's the technique you should be using. Don't do things easier to her. In fact you should be leaving home to have some fun, dress comfortable and use a bit of perfume. If possible date other girls(you are divorcing so it's not a problem, she is doing it too even if she's hiding). Don't hide that you are dating but also don't volunteer. Just get home happy and she will know. If she…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 03:42 PM
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Yep. Up to five best ones lest the judge be against it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 10:41 AM
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She's just full of shit narcissist. Don't answer to her. Block and go no contact. If you want to have sex with her and then show it to the dude she is gonna bask in the drama. Don't do it. Stop answering. Don't throw pearls to the pigs.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 10:39 AM
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That is because masturbation spends a lot of energy from someone who is in a low energy situation. And also because masturbation will probably swith to the image of the ex.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 02:56 PM
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I'm Brazilian and I know about it. If you have friends here so many brunettes and some ebony queens that have an ass like the golden ratio will try to hook the dude from other country is not even funny. Most of the people who comes from Canada or USA are usually hooked by a random black lady(I don't know why, it just happens). Colombian girls are a mixed of Spanish and Indians and they are gloriously beautiful but Brazilian girls have usually the best asses. Yoko Ono would feel really bad around…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 02:55 PM
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Ok. What happens is the following. Your brain is a tool that tries to protect you from bad things and tries to put you into familiar places where you are safe and happy. That's an evolutionary strategy and that have helped humanity survive until now. Except some people had to leave Africa a looong time ago and they populated the planet by leaving their safe tree where they had to jump down from because the food was scarce. Thing is. Your brain is focusing on the image of your ex because with her…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 01:40 PM
1

No. You are wrong. She is doing all the right decisions. She is having her cake and eating it too. She is spending like crazy and you are bailing her out every time. She is making the decisions that she can get out with her 'artistic' friends and have fun/drink/have sex with them while expecting you to pay for all her fun. She is even asking you to get a new card, in your name where she will consolidate her debt and you will have to pay for every single thing she bought and spent to the last sin…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 11:15 PM
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And there's also the kid. Because one of these days she just shows up in the house pregnant and Op will have to finance the kid for at least(but not limited to) 18 years.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 11:03 PM
1

Document everything. Yes she will come after you and the money. File divorce asap. Even if you get good money, don't stay with her. If you stay you will probably never be able to retire or have a comfortable life for yourself. Don't stick to parasites.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 10:34 PM
1

Yeah. Life has it's ways of teaching people. If one doesn't learn the first time then life will throw endless lemons until the lesson gets to the person.I'm sorry for the (bad) joke but I can't help myself.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 12:50 PM
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Filing first is a nice reason she can avoid going to court. Just because if she files first she will speak first in court. Then if she cry wolf that you are an abusive husband and that's the reason she's leaving then good luck trying to defend yourself because it will change from a separation court to a public trial against an abusive husband. Filing first doesn't mean you will get to the court system. But if she files first there's a chance she might push for it because she has all the advantag…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 02:35 PM
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You should file first. The reason being that she is a bitch. She is threatening to leave you to get some quibbles. That means she will try and get you to the cleaners and there is a chance she cry abuse to the authorities when her threats of leaving become ineffective. Filing first means you are not happy. Also means you are able to refute her claims of you being abusive because you can easily say that "If I'm so abusive then why was I the one to file?" Also filing first means that in case it ge…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 02:31 PM
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Don't get her back when/if she comes back with her tails between her legs. The fact that the dude is wasting her money will soon be noted by her so wait for the day.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 08:46 PM
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Look man. Don't let your kid to this woman. I mean, she is horrible and she is gonna destroy the child if you do. You can only fight. Don't fall for her tricks. Do the grey rock and the 180. Don't talk to her beyond the necessary, ever.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 01:06 PM
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Things are. Your wife lied to the court. If possible I would tell you to put cameras in the house. She lied once and now her friends will advise her to lie better. There is a chance she lies again to fuck you. She is not your friend.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 12:34 PM
1

Don't let it go. She is an abuser and she is that because many people let her do whatever without interfering. For your own peace of mind don't let it pass.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 01:12 AM
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What happened is the following: Unless something really strange happening like she having cancer and not wanting you to find out(that is very unlikely)...She found mister wonderful. Affairs they do thrive in fantasy. She is in limerence. At this point she is ready to leave everything behind to have her one charming prince besides her. That includes family, sons, parents and even riches. Now the problem is. That feeling doesn't last forever. She was probably talking to Mr Wonderful for a time and…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 01:00 AM
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The benefit is called anchoring. If she files first there is a possibility she will lie to the court system and rip you off of everything just because she had the first word. If she tells people in a court that you were abusive and that's why she filed you are done for. If you file first you will speak first so that means the court season will be opened by you, anchoring the session to whatever you told because you spoke first. If you talk your case and she retorts calling you abusive and litera…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 05:39 PM
1

Statistically it's not feasible.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 05:30 PM
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It happens a lot. Specially if the woman is a sahm. And specially in ops case where he's simping a lot and she thinks she can come back as she wills because she thinks he's so into her she can do whatever. Because affairs thrive in fantasy. Once the fantasy is gone then people will often notice they had better before. In fact not only the woman in this case notices the dude is not that charming prince she imagined as the dude also discovers that an adulterous woman doesn't account as the best ki…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 02:35 PM
2

That. 80% of the time they only notice later that the grass isn't always greener. Then they come back crying because they lost a great thing.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 12:32 PM
1

The fact that you know she is not "what he is looking for" is a BIG red flag. Thing is, you don't know. How do you know? It's impossible to know. ETA: The case of the dude who the wife tells she is not his type is a classic case of cheating. The amount of numbers it happened is not even funny.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 08:53 PM
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It's not the way it happens. Sadly. Let me tell you.When a wife tells a coworker she is unhappy at the marriage. That is a green light that means: "You can flirt with me and I will reciprocate". There is a possibility a therapist might guide her into it and there's a possibility you will see her with a therapist in short time but one thing is almost guaranteed. In one of two weeks you will take notice of another dude in her life. There is less than 1% chances I'm wrong. You can read thousands of…
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 06:13 PM
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99.99% of times they want to quit because mister wonderful is giving them attention and they want greener pastures. Specially when it's sudden. If you bet there is someone else in the picture I'm almost certain you are to win the bet. Look, things are seldom complicated. If you are not understanding the puzzle then it means there is a missing piece. And when a woman talk about separation from out of thin air that missing piece is almost always a man who they think they can monkey branch to.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 11:31 AM
2

Your wife seems like the worst person to ever walk the planet. Even worse than Hitler and other dictators. Aren't you sure you want to try and get more custody? I mean, the kids will benefit by being away from her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 01:45 AM
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Be strong for the little dad. He needs a strong man in his life. Also, try not to punish yourself. Everything you are feeling is valid and it's also natural. You will thrive and be happy, everything shall pass. Focus on exercising so you will have appetite. Focus on doing other stuff and not thinking about your marriage. Life gave you lemons, throw their lemons back at their fucking eyes and take control of the situation. Burn their damn house with lemons. You can do it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 08:42 PM
1

This I do not know.Check the models you have available at your city and check for comments at the internet using the model as reference. Maybe someone at the store is knowledgeable too. If your city doesn't have it you can buy online in the name of a friend and have it sent to your job(if your job allows for you guys to receive stuff). Then you give your friend equivalent money so it goes on his card. About the money you don't have to answer to your wife. If she pesters you just tell her you ate…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 07:08 PM
1

Manipulating her is not about not filling. It's about telling her you want her to be able to move on as quickly as possible, try to get as much as you can from the divorce, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 05:41 PM
1

You will be just fine. You are strong. You need to be for your kid anyway. I have faith in you. Buy it with money. This way she doesn't see it in the bills.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 05:32 PM
1

The kids should notice something because something IS happening. Strange thing would be for they not noticing. But faking is not that bad if it can get you a better settlement at the divorce. You just need to be smart. If you can manipulate her into giving you a better divorce then by all means go for it. And by all means. File first. Have her served. Strategize. If you want to salvage things then tell her you can get back after the divorce but start anew in a new relationship. Because I know yo…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 04:09 PM
1

Dude. You are not following the techniques. That is a problem. First thing: 180 and Grey Rock. You don't ask. You don't answer. You practice 180 and grey rock. These techniques are around for quite some decades and you are fooling yourself for now following them. You are wasting knowledge that people fought hard to obtain because you think you are the first dude to have it happen. Do the techniques already, ok? ​ About that: Put a var at the car. You can hide this easily. Don't fucking confront …
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 04:00 PM
1

Yes. Follow the order to the T. Many women have had used the same strategy of restraining orders to have the man baited into action. The problem is by not fighting such an order there is a possibility she will file a permanent order after this one and she might make your life hell by abusing the system and making you move, leave your job, whatever she wants.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 09:58 PM
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Dude. Thing is, you don't expect a cat to recite Shakespeare(outside cartoons at least) so don't expect your wife to confirm to your suspects because cheaters are liars. They won't stop lying just because you want. Knowing that you know you don't have to expect her to tell "yes I'm cheating". Yes. Some people will admit to it while confronted but only some of them will do it and not most. In fact most will lie but tell a truth if it's a friend asking because they feel pleasure by lying and humil…
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 09:44 PM
1

Dude. You only need a VAR or hidden cameras and you will have your confirmation in no time. Or if you have money you can have a PI do it for you and the PI will easily get confirmation too. Thing is. You don't need confirmation now. You need strategize your divorce. Focus on divorce. File first. Make it go fast and don't let her take your money.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 08:43 PM
1

Don't do that. File the motion. Don't let her win. The problem here is that by not fighting you are letting her win by default and in court her lawyer will probably use the result that she "won the case" as a way to tell the judge that you are so bad you even didn't have the job to fight her and thus you are wrong. Don't go there but file for annulment against the TRO. If you don't she might try to bait you in many ways.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 08:32 PM
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That means you have to file before her. Don't break the RO. In fact go nc. She's fishing for your action. In case you break the RO(like most men do) she will effectively take you to the cleaners. Go to your lawyer yesterday and file for divorce. Don't wait for her to file because she is using strategy against you so don't expect her to stop until she destroys you like many other women did. The reason is simple. You can't contact her. But that doesn't mean you can't file. If you wait for her to f…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 10:36 PM
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Don't do it. Or at least don't do it before the ink is dry on divorce papers signed and notarized and all the process is finished. As you told here she is terribly insecure. That might make her fight and destroy you in the divorce and women always have the advantage and she might use everything she has in order to destroy you and "win the divorce". After the divorce is finished and the ink is dry you can tell her but just tell if you are in a neutral place with lots of witnesses and even so you …
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/23 10:14 PM
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Well, that's about the patriarchy and male privilege you got. This is the world now.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 11:51 PM
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If his wife is a nurse who is "questioning her marriage" then the chances it goes to trial will exponentially rise as we know.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 03:07 PM
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There might be exceptions. But by a general rule you know this to be true if you speak to a lot of girl friends.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 12:32 PM
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Legally too. The one who initiated will be the one to speak first if it comes to a court battle. That is good enough not to pass. You never know when you will get a judge who hates men. There are a lot at this new generation. Some dudes didn't even have the chance to speak before it was the wife who served.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 12:32 PM
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You won really great. You lost a cheater(it's like losing a lot of dead weight). And you won money(alimony would be her money so it counts as a victory). And you gained in self respect and other small aspects. It's even hard to calculate how much ou won by divorcing.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 04:57 PM
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Most likely you are right. Because if it's her boss it would explain why she doesn't want anything. As the dude is probably making real money she thinks she can leave her husband and have a better life while leaving him with stuff so she's "not guilty". A relationship with a coworker at lower level means both together probably wouldn't make the same money as op. So she would probably try and get her part on it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 04:53 PM
1

You work on a company right? Just ask a coworker where to get a lawyer. One of your coworkers certainly know. Otherwise just google it. It's not that hard, google maps will find you but a colleague will find a good one and reputable.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 01:04 PM
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I don't know the specifics to your State or Country. So, you need to talk to a lawyer. The lawyer will give you the specifics to do it legally and make it work for you. The only problem is making it fast.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 11:45 AM
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She is not special or something. Your case is not special. I mean. She is only the kind that won't admit to anything unless you have solid proof. Either you bug your house and install spyware at her phone or hire a pi or you won't have proof. My bet is that she's screwing her boss and he's promising the world to her but idk. She might even deny after you show her undeniable evidence because some people are just wired wrong. I repeat, it's not uncommon, in fact most cheaters and criminals or peop…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 07:17 PM
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Nice. Don't waste time. Draw the papers at the speed of light. Tell her you will divorce so she can "find herself" but that you will be waiting for her and she knows the way back because all paths will take her back to her family. This is a smooth talk so she doesn't change her mind. Being clear. That is smooth talk, once she signs the papers you won. But you are in a hill battle to have her sign the papers before someone convince her otherwise. If someone convince her otherwise in the meantime …
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 07:10 PM
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That is only temporary. When she gets out of the fog she will 100% change her mind and fight for every single cent she can get. That is how things work. Get it done asap. The moment a friend of hers insist that she talks to a lawyer the lawyer will see juicy dollar signs and the lawyer will only spend like 5 minutes to convince her.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 03:33 PM
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Dude. Everything at your post reeks at the conclusion that she has a boyfriend that promised everything to her on the other side but he won't accept her kids. That or her family had left her with a multi-million inheritance and she wants to have time living as a single lady with lots of money and plenty of lovers. What you have to do? You are someone who works hard. And by the money you made I can tell you are not an idiot and in fact you are a very intelligent person. So let me tell you what yo…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 03:26 PM
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There's no free money in this world. If you are trying to get you have to give something in return. Even if you befriend a casino owner that can give you spending tickets you still have to pay something to keep the dude happy.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 11:41 AM
1

But maybe about how to get what's rightfully yours without breaking the law?
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 10:55 AM
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Look. I know it's hard to hear this but he probably wants a fwb relationship. He doesn't seem ready for a deep relationship and he's been fishing you for a long time. It seems you are waiting for him so he will not value you. You better do the 180. At this point even if you have a successful relationship it might not be the best. Proceed with caution and don't be always available to him.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 04:55 PM
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Look man. For the love of Jesus. Let me put it into perspective. She cheated on you: That means she is not loyal or faithful. She lies to you:Meaning she is not truthful. She expected the dude to leave his faithful wife and accept her cheating ass: She is highly delusional she clearly overstates her market value by a lot. She's a beaten up bicycle who imagines herself as a Ferrari. Her affair partner reconciled and for that she screwed the dude hard in life: That means so many things is hard to …
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 03:19 AM
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Oh man. You should spend a weekend celebrating watching movies and have the kids and even create a holyweekend for the kids do watch with them the movies every single year. A judge that actually believes in justice? That's really something great to have.
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