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But traits which are evolutionary beneficial are universal. So, yes, people in general (men too of course) should largely want the same characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:46 AM
0

I dont say that it can not work, but it does nothing for you that any other sport would not also do
/r/seduction14/07/26 03:12 PM
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Convo skills, yes, gym is honestly overrated if it isnt for you. Yes, do some sort of physical activity but it does not have to be classic weight training for the sake of it
/r/seduction14/07/26 01:53 PM
2

That is true if you generally enjoy socialising by itself. If you do not, this makes it just all the more inauthentic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:36 AM
2

I am mid twenties, and I do acknowledge the social life option, but it is just incredibly inefficient, no? How many available single girls do you have in any given social group? 2 to 4 maybe. What is the chance that one of them finds me, a rather plain looking guy, to be the most attractive guy in the group, or attractive at all? Close to zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:03 AM
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Well, obviously. But we were discussing specifically the efficiency of meeting girls here, no? And yes, I agree, if you do not really intrinsically value the socialization, this is probably not for you. So, cold approach would be more efficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:00 AM
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But just in terms of pure numbers of tries you get from that, and time you have to invest in it, it IS incredibly inefficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:44 PM
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It is not, but it combined with the other factors I have listed, should be enough for at least some success. That it is not, tells me that standards are too high to except anything and that this whole game is somewhat futile.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:32 PM
1

That alone does not much for you. While I am a bit smaller, I am still at least 6", and not overweight, quite fit and have negative success rate
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:28 PM
8

Which, statiscally speaking, you just wont.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:20 PM
5

Absolutely, because it takes very long to build a social circle in the first place, and even then you get like 2-3 tries.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:14 PM
1

Why is that? In America it might be different,because other sports are more prestigious. But here in Europe, soccer players are basically chad of chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:33 PM
1

True, but that is because bodybuilders are the other end of the extreme so to say. The soccer player archetype is generally what women want. Muscular, athletic, lean, and by the way also a natural in group/team dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:18 PM
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I think there is some truth to this, however, that standard of masculinity is also thorughly enforced by women through sexual selection. Conventional male markers like muscularity being of highest priority for dating success.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:17 AM
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What is the alternative then? Just not approaching? Wont get you further either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:02 AM
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Well, what would be the alternative? Datingapps dont work for most men either. Warm approach through social circle is just not efficient, you get a very limited numbers of tries, you have to have a suitable social circle with many girls in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:00 AM
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Not really, since there are objectively better alternatives to get a job. There are not really better alternatives to get girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:58 AM
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Well, yes, cold approaching does have its benefits (you generally have a large amount of tries available, you generally have not much to loose), but almost always it is done by man who dont have an alternative because they dont really have social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:55 AM
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I would say most places are better, since in clubs you usually cant even talk due to the loud music.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:37 PM
4

Well, mostly through exposure in your formative years. That is not something you can just learn as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:35 PM
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You are implicating that these kind of nightlife venues are THE place to meet new people and sexual partners though, even if you are not the kind of person who feels comfortable in nightlife. Are you sure about that? Surely, there have to be alternative social settings.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:58 PM
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Yes, you can in theory go out alone. And it can work out great if you have good charisma, are extroverted, genuinely like new people, can have fun in this situations, are not akward in these situations. If you dont have these traits however, you absolutely will be seen as a creep and get maybe thrown out of the club if you are out alone and approach girls without these traits. Likely if you this regularly. If you are not that kind of person, you need some kind of social circle to go out. Some pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:56 PM
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Okay, but there has to be a reason for that, in which I am interested. Also, "shy" is quite of a broad concept, so, what degree of shyness are we even talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:09 AM
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Why though? What is so bad about being shy?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:56 AM
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What is inherently desperate about wanting to meet women though?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:29 PM
1

There very clearly is, if everything was so clear cut it would not take so many years to train a lawyer or judge. That being said such actions are quite near to sexual harrasment for sure.
/r/seduction04/07/26 12:31 PM
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"Throghout human history" includes thousands of different cultures with VASTLY different beliefs and ideas, most of which are light years away from modern dating culture. How sexual selection worked 1459 in southern Italy has literally nothing at all to do with how it works in Idaho of 2026
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:19 PM
1

That is borderline illegal, and very rightly so
/r/seduction04/07/26 10:06 AM
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There is an ocean of nuiance between "very good looking" and "out of shape and ugly" though.
/r/seduction26/06/26 09:34 PM
1

Mid risk, but at least not that overused like eyes
/r/seduction10/06/26 05:34 PM
2

How so? So much of it comes down to sheer luck and circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 05:32 PM
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Why though? Having friends or not is mostly a question of circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:39 AM
2

Is it a shame not to have a social network or a friend group? Hard to have one after school.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:38 AM
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I do approach quite frequently when I am out, however, without getting any cues or signals I just randomly approach.
/r/seduction07/06/26 02:39 PM
1

I would say that my social game, if you want to call it as such, is definitely not my strongest suite at all, but still, even if it was, it would not even be easy to leverage it without getting signals.
/r/seduction07/06/26 11:49 AM
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Because they dont have the luxury of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 11:04 PM
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Quite so. But didnt you say that going solo in night life is not really a good idea in the first place? Seems like the cat bites itself in the tail.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 06:03 PM
1

Where did you meet these friends in adulthood though?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 05:56 PM
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Having friends or not comes down to luck and life situation to a ridicoulus degree though. Either you have them still from school or college days, or you pretty much just dont, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 03:35 PM
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Problem with all your suggestions is, you actually need friends to pull them off, and presentable friends at that. Not everyone has that luxury.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:29 PM
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Sure, but both are important. First you need to know the theory to train it in practise.
/r/seduction04/06/26 12:55 PM
3

If not the number, then what else should be goal?
/r/seduction09/05/26 05:22 PM
0

How so? What is our behaviour, if not a reaction to certain biochemical processes in the brain?
/r/seduction04/05/26 08:14 PM
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It literally is maths though. It boils down to bio chemics, which boils down to physics, which boils down to math. And since we all have the same evolutionary pressures, you sure can create something like a formula.
/r/seduction04/05/26 06:05 PM
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It can work and often does I guess, but that is not really approaching in the classical sense.
/r/seduction24/04/26 09:49 AM
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The EU are 27 different countries with 27 different cultures, which vary wildly.
/r/seduction24/04/26 08:52 AM
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Which is why you dont approach in a context where you are known.
/r/seduction24/04/26 08:49 AM
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I am neither of these, and still it does not work.
/r/seduction24/03/26 12:29 PM
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Going to the gym or playing a sport is great advice for general quality of life and you should do it. But it wont really help you with women if you dont have a good face.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 09:56 PM
1

That is obviously very true. Mid twenties, central europe, mostly to exclusively in night clubs, bars or events, in a mid sized university city.
/r/seduction03/01/26 09:20 AM
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Good nuanced perspective actually. But I find it often hard to gauge when a woman is at least neutral on my looks, and when not.
/r/seduction03/01/26 12:47 AM
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Sounds like a great asset to have. If I might ask, what are your strength stats and what is your workout routine like?
/r/seduction02/01/26 10:25 PM
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I always was under the impression that physical attraction is basically necessary. As in, if she is physically attracted to me, I basically have already won no matter what I do, and if not, already lost.
/r/seduction02/01/26 10:23 PM
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Approach angel seems like a very easy thing to improve. I would have guessed that coming from the front is the best, as opposed to behind? Bodylanguage is also a point I surely neglect too much. In terms of establishing that an interaction is non-platonic, sure, but I thought that would be implied in a nightclub anyways.
/r/seduction02/01/26 10:21 PM
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Not yet, however, my takeaway might be that these kind of interviewing questions are to be avoided, right?
/r/seduction02/01/26 10:14 PM
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I think playing to safe might in fact be a quite large factor. But how to play it less safe without feeling harrassing is the question?
/r/seduction02/01/26 10:13 PM
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What you say makes a lot of sense,problem is, that demands having friends who also like to go to these enviroments, and who are at least somewhat presentable to boot.
/r/seduction02/01/26 10:09 PM
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That is a good way to structure it. So, basically, I dont think that the initial approach is the big problem. There is, after all, not even that much possibility to mess up a simple "Hey, whats up?" After that, I usually do some smalltalk like, "Where are you from", "How are you enjoying this place/event today?" et cetera. After that I routinely get stuck.
/r/seduction02/01/26 08:06 PM
1

If you could give just one advice to a guy wanting to improve chances with girls, what would that be?
/r/seduction02/01/26 06:05 PM
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Arguably, looks are much easier to acquire than the amount of status, fame or money that matters. Working out, dressing well, getting a fitting haircut, shaving well, improving skin quality are really not complicated or hard things. Getting rich for example is borderline impossible on the other hand if you dont inherit.
/r/seduction27/12/25 07:20 PM
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True. That is actually my main problem with clubs too. What I do too alleviate that somewhat is talking to them just outside the club.
/r/seduction27/12/25 10:17 AM
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The thing is bars tend to be quite small and therefore there is less choice of women so to speak. But also, due to the smallness, every other girl sees you getting rejected in a bar. In a big, crowded club you get more trys so to speak.
/r/seduction27/12/25 09:44 AM
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So would you say that bodyfat is actually the important parameter? Interesting.
/r/seduction26/12/25 01:06 AM
5

What do you mean with really down here? Not an english native speaker!
/r/seduction25/12/25 11:37 PM
1

Oh, that are a lot of interesting points and ideas, thank you very much! Really appreciate it
/r/seduction25/12/25 10:32 PM
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I want to say, I really appreciate all your perspectives. Thank you!
/r/seduction25/12/25 10:23 PM
1

Nice numbers. Do you do more night or daygame?
/r/seduction25/12/25 10:18 PM
1

Good points. I for sure appreciate that. The question now is only where to start from basically zero regarding seduction skills so to speak
/r/seduction25/12/25 10:00 PM
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I guess so. Probably at the end of the day I will need to add a bit more muscle.
/r/seduction25/12/25 09:25 PM
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Well, sure, but apart from being at a beach that is not really something that happens a lot
/r/seduction25/12/25 09:22 PM
1

If you are 21, the "5 year younger guys getting girlfriends" are 16 and at that age, there are basically zero valid relationships that are worth your envy. Also, if you feel like an outcast who lacks social validation, go out outside of your natural enviroment, go in bigger cities that are an hour or two away from you and embrace that anonymity. Thats your best bet.
/r/seduction16/08/20 09:02 AM
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You can, but why should you?
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:04 PM
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That is comparing apples to oranges tough. This "tactic" works extremely well at what it is supposed to do - it wont get you a serious relationship, but that is definitely not the goal here. It also wont get you a new car because again, that is not what it is supposed to do.
/r/seduction13/08/20 11:03 AM
1

I would not really call that physique skinny
/r/seduction08/08/20 09:33 PM
1

If anything, get rid of that midsection fat.
/r/seduction08/08/20 09:15 PM
0

It depends on the guy tough Baldness is kind of weird since it looks very good on athletic guys but very bad on overweight or skinny ones
/r/seduction08/08/20 08:52 PM
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It did not offend me of course, no problem there.
/r/seduction07/08/20 11:05 PM
2

Depends on what areas and places are open. However, if bars and even cafés are closed, parks would be my next best bet. Given that you are in a big city, I would also definitely get my streetgame up. So, learn some daygame openers and you are pretty much set.
/r/seduction07/08/20 10:58 PM
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Maybe it would help if you: 1.) Stop being desperate 2.) Stop calling them hoes 3.) Start getting some infield experience in
/r/seduction07/08/20 10:45 PM
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1.) Its called preselection. It is a proven concept, it works reliably and is great in many forms and occasions. 2.) However, woman definitely dont like it if you call them hoes, and in general it would be better not to talk like some kind of wannabe gangster.
/r/seduction07/08/20 10:44 PM
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I agree mostly, but I dont think that "getting rich" is a healthy and "good" goal. Getting a job you can do with motivation and passion is, but often that does not correlate with being rich or wealthy
/r/seduction07/08/20 04:09 PM
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Being in shape greatly helps, but in an indirect way via confidence boosts. No girl, except serious female athlets, cares for your bench press PR.
/r/seduction07/08/20 04:04 PM
1

Yes, thats the main purpose of them after all.
/r/seduction03/08/20 01:20 PM
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If it would be impossible to avoid, you would see way more people who have STDs.
/r/seduction03/08/20 01:18 PM
1

In my personal experience, a mental approach which contains fun on a night out as well as a high level of concentration and dedication is all but impossible, and tends to work the best. At least in my anecdotial experience.
/r/seduction31/07/20 10:03 AM
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Well, its a very abstract and fictional war, and its obviously from a movie OP enjoyed. Whatever floats your boat, I would say.
/r/seduction31/07/20 07:27 AM
2

True. As with most things in life, nothing beats actual infield experience. The golf analogy is very good in fact.
/r/seduction30/07/20 04:28 PM
1

This
/r/seduction30/07/20 03:50 PM
9

I just dont get it how watching porn for entertainment is any different to watching, say, an action movie for entertainment. Of course you should never get addicted to it. But then again, you should not get addicted to anything.
/r/seduction29/07/20 10:47 AM
0

As I always say, physical escalation is key. That, and you need to make your conversations more directly sexual, and not just casual. Your flirt conversations should not have the same mood as a casual chat with a friend.
/r/seduction27/07/20 06:13 PM
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This will turn into an advantage as you age. I also look quite young, and I am exactly your age too. I am 184cm, which is just a bit over 6 feet I think, but I have a quite young looking face if I shave it clean. I consider it quite an advantage in this situation, because if the worst case scenario happens and clubs stay closed very long cause of the pandemic, I still will look not that much older when the will reopen, and I can still frequent the same events even in 2022.
/r/seduction27/07/20 09:32 AM
1

Try it. You have nothing to loose but something to win. And no, it wont come off as creepy.
/r/seduction19/07/20 10:25 AM
1

My native language is german. I have to flirt in english obviously whenever I am on vaccation. It is harder of course, but most of the time it is working well enough since I am at least somewhat fluent.
/r/seduction18/07/20 11:45 AM
1

It can work, but I am pretty sure that the girls without masks are more open to approaching and especially physical escalation which is the most important key.
/r/seduction18/07/20 11:36 AM
1

As a starter, its probably okay. Just make sure to have something to talk about beyond that.
/r/seduction18/07/20 11:27 AM
1

Sadly, it is not even sure that there will ever be a vaccine. I am quite sure that the old normal will come back, but not today or tomorrow. My educated guess is Summer of 21, with vaccine or without.
/r/seduction17/07/20 08:01 PM
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That would be sound advice if the pandemic would be over in a few weeks. In the current situation "just wait" is literally the worst thing you can do. You just cant wait out a problem that may last years.
/r/seduction17/07/20 07:51 PM
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Dont. Go for the ones without masks, they tend to be much more approachable these days and will not be obsessed with distancing-which means that physical escalation, which is the most important key, is possible without problems.
/r/seduction17/07/20 07:48 PM
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Because not everyone wants a long term relationsship. Especially guys and girls below 30 which should be the majority of this sub. Also, what is PUA even by your definition? I, for example, am not into any concrete concept that is popular within the PUA community, but I have my own concepts and tactics. Not all seduction techniques are PUA stuff. There is more than one system, and there are much better ones out there.
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:40 PM
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100%. But remember: This.Is.Temporary! Eventually, nightgame will be viable again.
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:28 PM
1

It would certainly do wonders to you, to just go out (you can easily do these in low risk enviroments outdoors, if you live with elderly or high at risk people) in any social venue, and just interact with some strangers. Do some socialising. Does not even have to be with hot girls.
/r/seduction16/07/20 05:31 PM
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Physical escalation is the key; of course in a controlled, well calibrated manner. Not too slow, not too fast. Read her signals.
/r/seduction16/07/20 02:26 PM
3

For a opener, almost nothing beats a straight hello. "I think you are cute" can work, but most of the time, especially in daygame, it does not. At least not in an english. In my german native tongue or en espanol, it is possible to say stuff like that in a more... elegant way.
/r/seduction15/07/20 10:12 PM
0

Some do, especially in Summer with shorts everywhere.
/r/seduction15/07/20 10:08 PM
1

They dont look even that bad. Probably okay.
/r/seduction15/07/20 10:07 PM
1

Do it somewhere outside especially now in summer. Most areas dont demand outdoor mask wearing
/r/seduction15/07/20 04:38 PM
1

Well, it certainly does sound quite interesting, given the current situation with closed clubs and all it might be better than just waiting. As I have said, I am still only 19. Are there even many girls in my age-group on tinder?
/r/seduction14/07/20 11:04 PM
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It does, because even if you know a girl from Tinder, you will have to meet her face to face eventually, at that point you absolutely need confidence.
/r/seduction14/07/20 10:56 PM
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I am far from being a day game expert, I am usually all about clubs and similar places. However, if I ever had to do daygaming in any serious manner, I would 100% go for insta-dates almost always. I can even imagine some same day escalation this way, assuming a bit of luck.
/r/seduction14/07/20 10:49 PM
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Its just my personal point of view. For me, seduction is all about getting better at it and yes, doing it for the sake of it. Just like any other passion or hobby. Getting laid is great, but it is more like a bonus for me, not the ultimate goal. Three years ago, I was just a sixteen year old boy who sucked at this whole stuff. However, I promised myself that I would become the best seduction artist in my county one day, at least in my specialisation, nightgaming. Now, I am 19 and getting regular…
/r/seduction14/07/20 10:42 PM
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In my point of view, online game has nothing to do with seduction at all. You are not a soccer player if you just play FIFA on the PS4. You are not a seductioner if you just play Tinder on your phone. You have to go out and do the actual activity. Even if you are good at online game - the true art of seduction is a whole different beast. I actually think that I personally could have some decent success with Tinder, my only real disadvantage would be my age (just 19). I still dont consider it as …
/r/seduction14/07/20 10:30 PM
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In my point of view, online game has nothing to do with seduction at all. You are not a soccer player if you just play FIFA on the PS4. You are not a seductioner if you just play Tinder on your phone. You have to go out and do the actual activity.
/r/seduction14/07/20 10:14 AM
1

Being nice is not a quality, it is the bare minimum requirement. The same way a soccer player has to be able to run and writer has to know the alphabet. Being nice alone wont get you anywhere. Just reverse the situation. Would you hook up with a girl just because "she is nice"?
/r/seduction12/07/20 10:27 AM
1

I would even say if it takes weeks its done wrong.
/r/seduction08/07/20 10:49 PM
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In many european countries, there are not that many restrictions left. In my country (Austria), we already have full bars again - for 1.5 months at this point. Clubs are still closed, and will likely remain so for some months, but not for that much longer.
/r/seduction24/06/20 06:24 AM
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I just can not understand how this threat, which is about a very important topic, gets ignored, while countless threads about useless pseudo-zen shit get upvoted like there is no tomorrow. On topic: If you dont live in a big city, this gets very difficult indeed. All I can think about is trains. Sounds very, very weird, I know. But I think it should work out quite well: You will have enough time, and you will be somewhat isolated often, which makes physical escalation possible. Plus, a girl who …
/r/seduction21/06/20 10:11 PM
2

Trust me, working without a wingman will give you better results and will help you to improve your skills. A while ago I wanted to make a post about how going out without a wingman is one of the keys to success in nightgame. The only reason I did not is because it just seems pointless in the current situation, where nightgaming is non existent.
/r/seduction17/06/20 09:56 PM
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If there was something like a seduction-league or competition, I guarantee you 100 percent that "a good man with honest intentions" would never ever come close to winning it. You know who would win? Someone who actually has the required experience and skill. Everyone who claims that seduction does not come down to experience, practise and skill is giving false advice.
/r/seduction10/06/20 07:27 AM
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If you just want to start training for girls and looks, you wont last long anyways. There are thousands of reasons for working out and doing sport, if you want to be serious about it, you need to have a real passion. Just ask yourself the question: "Would I still train if it would not help me with women at all?" If the answer is no, work on your mindset.
/r/seduction31/05/20 02:26 PM
1

Cold approaching absolutely works, provided you know what you are doing. In my opinion, a warm approach does not even count as proper seduction, that is like starting a marathon at kilometer 10 instead of kilometer 0 where the official start is supposed to be....
/r/seduction28/05/20 09:27 PM
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No, because daygaming makes no sense in a rural area, so I am waiting until nightgaming becomes viable again. Can not wait to get out in the field!
/r/seduction28/05/20 09:17 PM
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You sound like a beginner, and based on your question there is one thing that I absolutely want to point out: Never use pick up lines, never use any fancy openers. A simple hello in combination with a legit smile beats every opener and every pick up line on this planet.
/r/seduction26/05/20 10:59 PM
1

Both can work. I am more for leaning in, because it feels more natural for me, but I would say this comes down to preference.
/r/seduction24/05/20 09:52 PM
2

This sub is about seduction, which is nothing more than a skill. The best way to improve is practise and experience.
/r/seduction20/05/20 09:50 AM
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I just do not understand how so many guys still do not get it that seduction is a skill and should be treated as such. Practise and experience is what makes you better at it. "Improving your lifestyle" does not.
/r/seduction19/05/20 10:50 PM
1

This is temporary. Focus on your self for some months. Prepare for your "comeback". You will need to be twice as effective after the pandemic, if you want to make up for the lost time, so do everything you can to stay sharp and ready.
/r/seduction18/05/20 02:39 PM
1

I was assuming that we are not talking about someone with terrible looks, but about someone with at least average looks, which is the majority of the population... Also, its not like looks can never be changed. Physique and style can always be improved.
/r/seduction18/05/20 06:53 AM
1

Expect hooking up with hot girls is by far not the only thing in life, and definitely not a reason for me to move in a big city, because all things considered, my home region is pretty great. Also, I do not care about dating, I only care about cold approaching in nightgame. This is what I love to do, and this is also the reason why longevity is not a factor for me. Nightgame is an enviroment for young people, thinking about what may be in 10 years does not help me in the slightest. I am 19 now, …
/r/seduction17/05/20 07:34 AM
1

It is of course possible to overcome certain shortcomings and disadvantages with skill and experience. However, good looks for example are still a very important factor especially in any nightgame enviroment. They are nothing you can not change either, so why would'nt you?
/r/seduction17/05/20 07:15 AM
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True. However, remember the following: After quaratine, it will be very, very evident who used the time in a good way and who did not...
/r/seduction16/05/20 09:43 PM
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Well, family and traditional values are still very important in slavic countries. I live in Austria, and casual stuff is also common here.
/r/seduction16/05/20 09:41 PM
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Well, I would say money or status matter for a serious relationship, especially if you are 30plus. But money and status do not matter for hookups or anything casual.
/r/seduction16/05/20 10:23 AM
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Looks do matter. Especially in any kind of club enviroment, but also in daygame. Most girls prefer an athletic physique with some visible muscle and low bodyfat. These are just the facts.
/r/seduction16/05/20 10:17 AM
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There is nothing wrong with being nice. However, it is nothing that will make yourself stand out in any way. Behaving well is not a selling point. It is a basic requirement.
/r/seduction16/05/20 10:12 AM
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Both are important at the end of the day, but well, you will not look good without putting effort into your appearance. These aspects compliment each other, so to speak.
/r/seduction15/05/20 09:32 PM
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True. If you want to increase your benchpress, lift. If you want to increase your 5K time, run. If you want to improve writing skills, write. If you want to get good at chess, play chess. If you want to get good at seduction, actually flirt with woman. It really is as easy as that. The whole "get a great life and the girls will come" mindset never made anyone good at seduction. Tons of experience in real life situations, both in the clubs and in the streets - that is what makes you good. Just li…
/r/seduction15/05/20 09:21 PM
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If a girl is hard to get/has high standards or not has very little to do with her attractivity, if at all.
/r/seduction15/05/20 09:17 PM
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Do. Not. Rely. On. Money. Also, money only is a factor in relationships. It does not matter at all in hookups.
/r/seduction15/05/20 09:13 PM
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No.
/r/seduction15/05/20 09:11 PM
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Things will go back to normal eventually. 100 percent. Social distancing is not permanent, you know?
/r/seduction15/05/20 09:01 PM
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You can not have more options then there are. If you live in an area where there are 50 attractive girls in your age-group, you will never have more options, even if you are a literal greek god. Therefore, it does not make sense to assume an abundance that is not there. Sure, there is an abundance of girls in Moscow or in NY, and I could have countless options if Iived there. But I do not, and I also can not spend every other weekend in a major city. These options are just out of reach for anyon…
/r/seduction15/05/20 07:19 PM
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There can be 10 billion women on earth, that does not matter at all if they are not in your range. The only girls that are available to you are the ones in your region, that is just a fact. Or do you plan on hooking up with girls who are thousands of kilometres away?
/r/seduction15/05/20 05:28 PM
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Why should I? I love my home. The great nature alone is a very big reason to stay, I could never live in a big city without my trails and mountains. Also, I am not complaining, I like the challenge. It is forcing me to be very good and legit if I want sucess, while a city-guy could just play the numbers game. This evolutionary-pressure is breeding great seduction-artists, believe me.
/r/seduction14/05/20 07:16 PM
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Sometimes they are, but I doubt that there is that much difference in behavior between a small, local club in the countryside and the vibrant nightlife of, say, Moscow or London (I am not even talking about daygame, because this is an exercise in futility in the countryside or in a small town). The only noticeable difference is the scale: If you are somewhat of a regular in the small, local club, many "interesting" girls will already know you, which can be positive or negative depending on your …
/r/seduction14/05/20 06:51 PM
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This whole abundance mindset is horribly biased for bigger cities. Try it out and see how far your great abundance mindset will get you in a small town or in the country side, with a limited number of attractive girls in your age-group.
/r/seduction14/05/20 06:15 PM
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Well, I was not talking about a relationship.
/r/seduction12/05/20 06:52 AM
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No, because once you got to the point where she will see your intimate parts, you have already won anyways. If you dont look like a chernobyl-mutant down there, I highly doubt that she will just jump out of the bed and leave....
/r/seduction11/05/20 03:54 PM
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Well, outside of clubs I would always start with a natural, non sexual conversation, and of course you can throw in a compliment if it is not too overblown. If you ask her for her number, give her a purpose to give it to you. Something like "you seem to be quite a cute girl, if you give me your number we could meet somewhere more comfortable and get to know each other a bit better?"
/r/seduction10/05/20 08:07 AM
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It depends on many factors, but generally speaking do not ask her for her number before you have talked to her a bit. Also, do not start directly with a compliment. It is fine and well to compliment her (again, in a natural and not in a unbelievable way), but not directly at the start. Start with some simple smalltalk. However, I assume you do not talk about clubs or similar places? Because this settings have their own rules.
/r/seduction10/05/20 07:59 AM
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Trust me, it is no problem if you do it in a natural, fluent way. Just talk to the girl in a way that does not sound pre-planed or artificial and do not use any fancy pick up lines.
/r/seduction10/05/20 07:54 AM
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It just means approaching a girl you did not know before.
/r/seduction10/05/20 07:50 AM
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Because they actually try. A guy without good looks, without good behavior and without too much other selling points, who is willing to do cold approaches, will still be more successfull than a guy with superior qualities, but without the courage to cold approach. Seduction is like chess. You can not win a game without a determined attack.
/r/seduction09/05/20 09:44 PM
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It all depends on the enviroment. If you are looking for a hookup in a club, looks of course do matter and are very important. If you are 30+ and looking for a serious, long term relationship, social status of course matters and is very important . If you have neither of those, things will be difficult. However, I strongly belive that it is entirely possible to specialise and to make the most of your strengths. If you have very good looks, a lack of status wont affect you to the same extent it w…
/r/seduction07/05/20 10:04 AM
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1.) You are still very young, you still have many years of nightgaming, of cold approaching and anything else before you. 2.) Especially if you are a beginner in this whole affair, forget Tinder, Instagram or anything online-game related. The only way to improve the needed social skills is to actually talk to girls in a real life situation. So much comes down to experience, I can not stress this enough. 3.) Because of the pandemic, you still have time to work on yourself, both physically and men…
/r/seduction06/05/20 11:01 AM
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That age difference seems very common. I would even say that it is close to the norm. I know very few ~16 year old girls who would want a boyfriend who is not some years older. These age-boundaries all start to blur in a nightgame enviroment, however. Here it is entirely possible that a 18 year old girl is seduced by someone her age. Just dont expect these connections to grow into a relationship, but well, that is hardly the goal anyways.
/r/seduction06/05/20 10:53 AM
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While this are great activities, what does this statement have to do with the question of the opening poster?
/r/seduction06/05/20 07:28 AM
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Episode 1- general infos about my mindset:https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/g3meex/the_mindset_of_a_fighter_makes_all_the_difference/ Episode 2 - general basics:https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gaii1s/a_guide_of_my_nightgame_method_forged_in_years_in/
/r/seduction03/05/20 07:23 PM
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Legal age in America means 21, right? For me as an austrian this is crazy, to be honest. I mean, I already have years of nightgaming experience and I am 19. Here in Austria you can do almost everything as soon as you are 16, drinking is also legal at that point. I did not drink anything until I was 18, but I am definitely quite a exception, as odd as this may sound for an american, in my country many 15-year olds are at least social drinkers.
/r/seduction29/04/20 11:24 AM
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Now that you have said it, I am gonna write and post one here. Expect it in a few hours in this sub. Nightgaming is an absolute passion of mine, and because we can not do it right now, a few theoretical lessons would be better than nothing. Edit: If someone happens to be interested, it is finished.
/r/seduction29/04/20 11:07 AM
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The problem is that your strategy will never work if you dont live in a big city. I for example live in a small town with some surrounding villages. Even if there is currently no pandemic going on, and I am going to our local club every weekend, I highly doubt that I will even see a hundred different good-looking girls who are roughly in my age-group. So, any strategy with a sucess-rate of one out of twenty or thirty is just ridicolous for me. If I want to have regular sucess, I need to reach a …
/r/seduction27/04/20 11:49 AM
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It is pretty simple in the end of the day. If you just talk with a girl in a normal, non sexual way, there is no reason she would assume that you are not interested in her, after all you came up to her and started talking with her. As you go along, just escalate with the right timing.
/r/seduction27/04/20 10:44 AM
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I think it comes down to a pretty basic premise. Respect is not something you are born with, you have to earn it in some ways. Of course a girl wont respect someone just because...
/r/seduction27/04/20 09:03 AM
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As I have said, daygaming is not what I would recommend for you. It is just way more difficult if you are nervous and unexperienced. If I were you, I would spend the next months with preparing yourself, your mentality and everything else. I recommend you to just approach some girls without any intentions, just talk a bit and maybe, if you are in the mood throw a flirty comment in her general direction. This will help you with your approach-angst, it will get better as you gain experience regardl…
/r/seduction25/04/20 10:06 AM
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I gave you an upvote because you sound like a crazy guy with determination and a clear goal. I like that. Reminds me myself, I guess.... As far as sucess stories go, I have something for you, however not in a college enviroment. Some years ago, I was just a young teen with almost no experience. Then, one day, I had the Idea to go out in the weekend and try my luck. It did not work out. I got destroyed. But I took the hit and came back. Tried out everything my mind came up with, learned everythin…
/r/seduction24/04/20 10:46 PM
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Just ask any other trivial question.
/r/seduction24/04/20 10:23 PM
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Really depends on the situation. In a club or party-scenario you can often make out with a girl without even talking more than half a minute to her, if you are really good and experienced. It took me years and tons of trial and error, but now I pull of stuff like this regularly. If I can get to this point, you can too. Maybe you need more time to get that good, maybe you are faster. But you can make it if you have the willpower, I promise. As you gain experience, you will automatically learn whi…
/r/seduction24/04/20 10:15 PM
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Very important advice for you: Keeping it simple, mastering the basics + as much experience with girls you can get + a confident way of behavior is the key to sucess. Copying the game of some pick up artist on the internet is not gonna work.
/r/seduction24/04/20 09:50 PM
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Depends on what you mean by status. Of course it is better to have it than not.
/r/seduction24/04/20 09:45 PM
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That is one of the main problems here in this community I think. It is just 1000times better and more effective if you keep your way of seduction simple and concentrate on mastering the basics. That + as much experience as you can get is the key. Trying to copy the "game" of some pick up artist on the internet...is just not gonna work.
/r/seduction24/04/20 09:44 PM
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Depends on what you want. Money and status does really not matter much at all if you are just chasing one night stands. Looks of course do.
/r/seduction24/04/20 09:39 PM
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Actually I am training in kickboxing. I am lucky to have a blackbelt in the family who can train me. But BJJ is definitely fascinating.
/r/seduction18/04/20 01:37 PM
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If you google it it should be easy to find a free PDF.
/r/seduction18/04/20 01:05 PM
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Sun Tzu - Art of War Really. It will help your inner game in many ways, because psychology is really the core of the book.
/r/seduction18/04/20 12:57 PM
0

True. Break the rules like an artist, adapt to this challenging times, find an alternate way for the coming months...there are so many ways to seduce a girl, even now, if you know what you are doing, the world is yours.
/r/seduction18/04/20 11:15 AM
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Of course you should improve yourself, you should always do this, but you still need to be active and keep your actual seduction-skills sharp. If you are not training them face to face with a real girl you will be slow and weak on your actual comeback. You just need to adapt for just a few months, it is not hard- I for example am a nightgame specialist, but in this summer I will have to do some daygame, I just have to. If I do this, I will have a big advantage when the clubs reopen this autumn, …
/r/seduction18/04/20 10:59 AM
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If it is not working for you, stop it and go for more traditional approaches. Remember: The lockdown is temporary. Yes, it will take some months until the clubs are open again, but you could use this time to work on your mentality, your openers and other techniques, your looks, you name it...
/r/seduction10/04/20 07:47 PM
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I would say that you are right about this, I have to physically train anyway since I am an athlete (just a regional amateur, but still).
/r/seduction10/04/20 03:14 PM
2

How would you do this in the current situation?
/r/seduction10/04/20 02:48 PM
1

Well, roleplaying is what you should do if you are playing D&D, it is not what you should do in real life situations. Just be yourself, just be sure about your goals, just have enough determination and willpower and things will work out well enough for you. If you want to go for a certain style,go for it, but only if it is natural for you and if you are able to live it up.
/r/seduction09/04/20 09:23 PM
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Just do it. Risk is always involved, that is life. You should always try, you have way higher chances to get involved with the girl than to get involved with the virus.
/r/seduction09/04/20 09:21 PM
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This is a very good question indeed! Online game has some problems as you say, especially in times like these when you cant even invite a girl to a coffee or something comparable, because every restaurant, every bar is closed. What I would recommend for you is daygame in parks or similar locations, this is something I could see working. I dont know if you are living in the countryside or in a bigger city, but if you are living in the countryside there might be some more remote places where even …
/r/seduction09/04/20 09:18 PM
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