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I actually see where you're coming from. I live in an area in Canada with a lot of people and I actually feel more alone, it gives this weird feeling or even illusion that nobody gets me, or that people are too in their heads and phones.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:37 AM
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I agree, people know how obsessed I am with my boyfriend who's long distance and I don't get made fun of. Honestly, a lot of this stuff is dumb and there's a lot of jealous people when they see others in strong relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:33 AM
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This is interesting because to me, I didn't want to be with a guy who was chasing after every woman because I felt like it was a competition and it was less special for me. Same with people that compliment everybody they see in a flirtatious way. So I get what she's saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:30 AM
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I have a small YouTube channel and some black pill guys (who are always on my case for no reason) believe that a lot of my subscribers are Simps. I do believe some of them had some infatuation with me, but they are mainly gone. I do believe a lot of them are supportive and don't fit the Simp category. They're also all aware that I have a bf who shows up on my channel sometimes, no face. Also, my boyfriend and I joke that we simp for each other but by definition we actually don't. Because everyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:29 AM
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I have a really small YouTube channel and a lot of my guy subscribers tell me similar and tell me this is why they're subscribed to my channel because I like going deep into topics and all that... but I don't believe women like me are actually that rare despite me having trouble making quality girl friends. It just confuses me..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:21 AM
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I'm really sorry to hear that and thanks for sharing the link. I believe these people are calculated in what they're doing and they get butt hurt when things don't go their way too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:15 AM
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I want to say something about the 2nd point you mentioned: Long story short, this guy from another country tried to come back in my life after 2 years, because he wanted to "apologize" to me for defending a guy who stalked me, and said he wanted to be "an ally" and a friend to me. (Ally not in the lgbtq sense, but just to stand with me whatever it meant). I purposely waited weeks to reply to the email because I was hesitant, but then I decided to let him call me and apologize. He made it clear h…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:55 AM
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Ahh see I would like to share my story because I think it makes sense for this post. Long story short, this guy from another country tried to come back in my life after 2 years, because he wanted to "apologize" to me for defending a guy who stalked me, and said he wanted to be "an ally" and a friend to me. (Ally not in the lgbtq sense, but just to stand with me whatever it meant). I purposely waited weeks to reply to the email because I was hesitant, but then I decided to let him call me and apo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:52 AM
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Ahh see I would like to share my story because I think it makes sense for this post. Long story short, this guy from another country tried to come back in my life after 2 years, because he wanted to "apologize" to me for defending a guy who stalked me, and said he wanted to be "an ally" and a friend to me. (Ally not in the lgbtq sense, but just to stand with me whatever it meant). I purposely waited weeks to reply to the email because I was hesitant, but then I decided to let him call me and apo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:52 AM
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Thanks so much! I try to talk to him a lot and help him, but you're right at the end of the day, it's him that has to make the changes. We've talked about this so much and I'm even in therapy. It's a very difficult situation and I wish you the best as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:14 AM
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What you're saying sounds very familiar as I've done some research on this and I believe you're right about a lot of this. In my case, it's interesting with my long-distance boyfriend. I wouldn't say he's really avoidant avoidant. He's just an anxious/insecure person with some self sabotage tendencies. I started wondering if I should focus on myself and be more unavailable, but I think it's going to reinforce his anxious beliefs and maybe make him pull away. I know every case is nuance and indiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:26 AM
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Would you say that even in an LTR, or when you're getting to know someone? Usually in an LTR, if you seem a bit distant or busy, your partner might feel like somethings changing/wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 07:06 AM
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Can you give me an example of "giving yourself away too freely?" Let's say you're in a relationship and get close and attached quickly. Not dating around but just with one person. There's a reason I'm asking and its something I've been going through
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 05:38 AM
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This is interesting and I see what you mean. I actually have a post thats awaiting mod approval about this. I'm very curious on if other people feel repulsed by the idea of 'getting p word' and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:16 AM
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I'm sorry but some of these comments and talking points are crazy. It shocks me how many people just want to be with someone because of the sexual aspect and the way they talk about it too.. my goodness..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:49 AM
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I get what you mean because I run a YouTube channel where I give my thoughts on things. When I make videos on relationships, and some advice (im in a LDR, we have our issues but we are trying) there's some of these guys who are so into the BP implying I have "options" and getting triggered about the topics because they think I'm out of touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 04:58 AM
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That's sweet! My LDR bf is the same way
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:34 AM
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Thank you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:33 AM
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For the last one, I have a question. What if they've tried making same friends and it doesn't even go anywhere or they feel like they can't open up or be super relatable? It depends the intentions because some people get along better with the other gender due to interest or the way of seeing things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:26 AM
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Yeah I completely disagree with the first one being a red flag too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:24 AM
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I'm sorry, but as someone with a small social media presence that thrives on keeping it real, having deep and philosophical discussions and is not inappropriate, I felt the need to comment on this. My long-distance boyfriend has been very paranoid and worried about things involving my YouTube channel, but I've tried to include him in it and I'm very transparent with it. I'm trying to make a difference and spread a message and I don't care who comes on and pays attention.. I just wanna be with hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 08:07 AM
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As someone who strives on being real on her YouTube, This post caught my attention.. Thank you for saying this. I always have to remind my long distance boyfriend that I love him and that his opinion of Me matters most, no matter who comments on my channel. In fact I try to include him in it as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 08:03 AM
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Totally agree with this.. there's a difference between random options and suitable/appropriate options. Im using this word for the sake of the argument as I usually don't like these terminologies
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 05:11 AM
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I do agree that these terms are thrown on everyone very easily nowadays. I totally understand that this is a hard topic. I was just curious and interested because what I have noticed in these spaces is there's not much discussion on these cases.. when people say the things I said in my post about those traits or feelings, people think they are lying or are blue pilled and even act like it's not natural. Lol, I like what you said at the end. Made me laugh, and yeah maybe I am lol.. aren't we all?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:05 AM
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I totally understand that this is a hard topic. I was just curious and interested because what I have noticed in these spaces is there's not much discussion on these cases.. when people say the things I said in my post about those traits or feelings, people think they are lying or are blue pilled and even act like it's not natural
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:04 AM
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Can you elaborate on this? My long distance boyfriend always tells me "you could get anyone you want, anyone would be happy with you" and that I deserve better, and makes it seem like there's soooo many suitable people out there, while I don't see it like that AT ALL, so your comment intrigued me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:59 AM
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Oh, I see. I'm just researching a little bit about it now because I was trying to see the correlation or the link to it and I think I kind of understand now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 02:18 AM
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Agreed! This is so sensitive to me because I came across graphic things as a child and to this day I struggle with intimacy issues
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 02:06 AM
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If I may ask, do you know why specifically you're uncomfortable? If you're not comfortable sharing that's okay I get what you mean because intimacy can be important in a relationship and if you struggle with it (i do) it can be highly distressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 01:59 AM
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I resonate with the first point and not the second lol Reason being is that I'm still a student and trying to heal from a lot of crap I've been through growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 01:05 AM
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If I may ask, would you say you're an outlier in this case of what I mentioned? If that's the case I truly don't believe there's anything wrong with you. I've always felt more comfortable around outliers because I couldn't see myself with a guy who exhibits the opposite of what I said in the post, it's too risky, uncomfortable and just goes against what I stand for.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:53 AM
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As someone who makes videos about this stuff and is constantly challenged and not believed and it's mostly in harsh condescending ways, I stand with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 11:33 PM
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I'm really sorry for what's happened to you. I also grew up in an emotionally abusive household but I still feel A LOT, I consider myself a HSP on top of being INFJ. Sometimes I wish I could turn it off, it really sucks.. I wish I could be more numb to things like when I was antidepressants. I also have this internalized issue where sometimes I see being emotional as somewhat bad, but I think it comes from being let down by guys a lot and also feeling targeted for so long because I was a woman..…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 11:28 PM
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Oh also, this can apply to women too in the topics of them getting aroused by tall rich bad boys or whatever it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:49 PM
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I see what you and many others are saying here. But let's say, someone stayed with someone despite them not being tall, rich, high status, still studying, introverted, possible some immigration issue which makes the woman have to visit him in his country, and it was truly due to their morals, shared views, beliefs, synchronicities.. are those the outliers who are not believed much?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:36 PM
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This might sound bold but if a man or woman has been sexually traumatized as a child or teen, whether it's from things online or in person. Could that impact things a lot then? I've noticed some people who've been sexually assaulted don't operate in the same ways and don't just get aroused at anyone, and are usually put off by sexual jokes, talks (unless it's their partner) and "corn"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:35 PM
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You're not wrong. When visiting my bf and we stay about a month together in an Airbnb I already see the habits difference.. we try to negotiate and help each other
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:31 AM
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Interesting you mentioned food allergies, and I will assume maybe the partner without the allergy will not want to accommodate the other or would you like to elaborate? I have food allergies, and my LDR bf doesn't mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:19 AM
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I'm also in Canada and I don't blame you for how you're feeling. I even have trouble making friends where I'm at because it seems like people just wanna chase the Business rich lifestyle or it's some other thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:17 AM
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That quote is so sad.. but I can see it happening a lot.. What's one way you think can help prevent this?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 03:13 AM
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Thanks so so much, I truly appreciate the kindness. It's not so easy to find in these kind of forums so I highly appreciate it. It's another reason I chose to start a yt channel, to make my voice heard and to speak for other women and men who feel like I do. Thanks again!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 03:13 AM
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I understand and thank you for being civil and respectful with it. I do believe due to what people say time and time again that I'm sort of part of a minority / outlier group. It's kind of sad to hear this because I thought more people felt the way I did but maybe something will change? I think it's also more of a western issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:10 AM
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This reminds me of this whole thing where women want guys with morals or to settle down as they get older but what if somebody feels that way even in their 20s?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:08 AM
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That's fine, I was just curious how RP or even BP would take my situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:37 PM
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Full transparency, even if some things sound a bit strange.. So I was in a group chat with him and his friend. His friend "Bob" liked me but I didn't like Bob back. I had some feeling about my BF that got me really interested in talking to him. I didn't really know what he looked like, but I had fun being playful with him and I felt his sensitive nature even before seeing his face but he was hesitant in video calling me. Then we video chatted and I found him kinda cute but the physical attractio…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:36 PM
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We're out here, my long distance bf isn't tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:33 PM
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What if it is important to have depth, strong morals? I know quite a few people Where that's important
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:30 PM
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If you really believe a lot of people with values/morals come here to push back then maybe I can see it a little. But I'm curious: . .. what would you say about my case: What really drew me to my significant other (who's in another country) was how fast we clicked on the 1st and 2nd video call where we already started talking about deep topics on society, morals, philosophy, belief systems, fears, etc. Before I even do what he looked like, I had an interest in speaking with him. He's not rich, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:29 PM
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Hmm.. what would you say about my case: What really drew me to my significant other (who's in another country) was how fast we clicked on the 1st and 2nd video call where we already started talking about deep topics on society, morals, philosophy, belief systems, fears, etc. Before I even do what he looked like, I had an interest in speaking with him. He's not rich, tall, I have to be the one to come visit him in his country due to immigration restrictions, he's introverted.. how can this be exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:26 PM
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Hmm.. what would you say about my case: What really drew me to my significant other (who's in another country) was how fast we clicked on the 1st and 2nd video call where we already started talking about deep topics on society, morals, philosophy, belief systems, fears, etc. Before I even do what he looked like, I had an interest in speaking with him. He's not rich, tall, I have to be the one to come visit him in his country due to immigration restrictions, he's introverted.. how can this be exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:24 PM
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Thanks for saying that it's not a bad thing, however it makes me feel a little more alone 😌 I never understood chasing people that are unsafe and unstable just because they seem exciting or very attractive or have tons of money, sincerely..
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:17 PM
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I appreciate you saying this. Actually, speaking of self sabotage. This is an issue that my long distance boyfriend is actually dealing with that I've had to help him navigate. I understand how intrusive thoughts are like, I guess it's just these programmed belief of things I was conditioned with that I've been trying to unlearn, but I definitely do not punish my boyfriend for whatever other guys have done. I tried to talk to him about how I'm feeling or what has happened and he definitely under…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:14 PM
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I see what you're trying to say here. I'm with you on the last part about appreciation for patient, understanding, etc. people. I was raised with manners and I do appreciate those people, even simple gestures like holding the door or a smile.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 06:05 PM
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Thanks for saying this, this is what they do they try to question and interrogate to try to find holes in ur beliefs when in reality they over generalize.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:53 AM
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To me, he's hot, caring and other good traits but he's not exactly tall. Doesn't bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:52 AM
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No actually, a lot of these guys were just random, nothing stood out about them except the negative things that happened, they weren't even my boyfriends
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:31 AM
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Yeah, are we "missing" something, are we outliers, or is this bad boy trope a bit exaggerated?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:53 AM
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Would you believe me if I said in my case it did, or that having a "bad boy" persona doesn't make me want someone more?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:36 AM
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To be honest, it's a really long story, but long story short I did not have the best male role models growing up, I was exposed to a lot of stuff online that I shouldn't have, I was nearly groomed online by older men, and guys in person did not respect my boundaries. I was just dealing with a lot of guys that were lustful, and somewhat predatory. On the other hands with girls, I didn't really feel like girls cared about me much so honestly, it's just been feeling like I couldn't find my tribe fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:26 AM
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Take my upvote! I love this comment, I relate a lot to this!!! I will say though I've had traumatic experiences w a lot of guys growing up so it distorted my view a little little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:00 AM
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I do believe having strong morals and values is extremely attractive and that's why I thought I was going to be alone because it seems like a lot of people do not put importance on this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 06:03 AM
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I do believe having strong morals and values is extremely attractive and that's why I thought I was going to be alone because it seems like a lot of people do not put importance on this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 05:26 AM
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I personally Disagree but that's just me, I Might be in the "minority" but I'm not lying
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 05:18 AM
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I'm with you there. I've always found good morals and depth attractive but hey, we're not believed much. That's okay. I hear you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 05:18 AM
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I relate a lot to this and wanted to make a similar post but wasn't sure if it would be removed since it wouldn't really be a "debate" style. I feel like subconsciously I have this distrust towards the guys, but I do have a boyfriend and I'd say I treat him well and show him love, but there's always this part deep down that feels like what if what he has the same issue and it ends up bleeding to self sabotage. I also do have dreams sometimes that he's unfaithful to me, but I don't believe this i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:43 PM
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My bf and I were talking about this last night, and actually we switched the "men" to "women" I see this happening with women too. Same gender competitiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:22 PM
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My bf is a great guy and he's respectful to women and doesn't subscribe to BP or any of these more "extreme" ideas, but he never seemed to have many girl friends. I never found it suspicious but when my old guy friends were brought up, I kinda made a point there about how I see guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:19 PM
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Well said!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 08:46 AM
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That's very true as well!
/r/ExRedPill21/05/26 09:10 PM
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See that's the thing though, we don't believe we are rare at all and we always push back when people say that we are in a rare/unique situation or that there isn't many people like us. We get confused and push back.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/26 09:09 PM
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I needed this reminder. I have a small YouTube channel and I've made videos that express my opinions and some tips maybe, on relationships/dating, and although I am nuanced, I get a lot of pushback alongside supportive comments that are in agreement with me.. and I realize sometimes I could seem out of touch because it confuses me/I can't relate to people being with others for superficial reasons. I also met my long distance bf through a friend so already our circumstance set us up in a certain …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 07:39 AM
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I agree so much and this is the message try to convey on my YouTube.. there's nuance, it's not a black and white thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:48 AM
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I am glad to hear! You can share your experience here if you'd like!
/r/ExRedPill13/05/26 08:05 PM
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Yes, for sure values and beliefs determine a lot, and they don't seem to see that. I also noticed some of them tend to fight with each other and go back-and-forth with their beliefs even on channels made for them, especially if they're having a bad day or they come across certain more extreme content. They actively seek out content to try to prove a point like confirmation bias rather than looking at the whole picture. I say this as somebody who made videos about this stuff and has received peop…
/r/ExRedPill13/05/26 08:04 PM
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ahh man, I know... I think a lot of these guys create self-fulfilling prophecies, it's actually a post I made that still has to get approved. It bleeds on their demeanour and people with strong morals and values are probably gonna stay away from them. Due to sexual trauma I've been through, this whole transactional mindset and the way they see women now is such a trigger for me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:36 AM
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the f word? ive been called that by guys online before for no good reason, I wasnt disrespecting them, just curious about things and yet they treat me with such hostility but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:30 AM
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A lot of guys would say stuff implying women have no morals, are f*ids, uhhh a lot of degrading crap, guys dont feel this or that, there's no point: guys will get exploited for $$, there's a black pill vibe to his comments more than the post I'll say.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:17 AM
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OP sounds sorta like these black pill guys who view women/relationships in a transactional way..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:09 AM
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This is the type of stuff I've heard black pill guys say..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:07 AM
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Personally I find it hypocritical when guys in particular complain or shame people in this industry yet actively consume content too.. cognitive dissonance..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:04 AM
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Hi, thanks for your comment. I'd like to reply and add more context to what you said if you don't mind. So yes I am young and don't have much 'dating experience' because I was never the type of person to enjoy getting to know many people at once or going on dates. It's not a moral failing, it's just not my thing for different reasons. I feel things such as emotions, love, and care very deeply so I can't be giving it away to everyone and the 'dating' process seems a bit.. 'forced' or too planned/…
/r/ExRedPill12/05/26 11:27 PM
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My BF was too guarded and he almost sabotaged the whole thing because the RP/BP ideas..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:50 AM
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ohh so I guess im in the minority then since ive never wanted to leave nor judge my bf for being open, safe, and vulnerable
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:49 AM
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Personally I don't feel this way towards my bf but maybe I am an 'outlier'
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:47 AM
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I don't agree. I love when my bf opens up and I dont see him any less.. maybe im some 'outlier' but ive actually hear a lot of women say they want guys to be more open and stop being cold/hiding their feelings. It is a balance at some point though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:46 AM
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I agree with you, this is what I have tried to communicate on my YouTube channel but some people don't want to hear nuance..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:36 AM
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Yeah sure I'll elaborate. Firstly, due to the RP narrative and what/who he was surrounded by, he was afraid I wasn't going to be loyal and used a lot of "but women say/do this.." despite me not acting in this manner. The survivorship bias: we've been told we have survivorship bias because we think just because our relationships working that a lot of peoples can - even though we're told our circumstances were uncommon. I guess they were aligned in a certain way. Hopefully this makes sense and btw…
/r/ExRedPill11/05/26 07:19 AM
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I'm a girl and I relate a lot to this.. I have trouble making friends that are girls. It's not that they hate me (except one but that was my bf's ex lol), but I felt like the effort that they put was way different than the guys.. they don't really reach out to me and my girl subscribers on YouTube aren't as consistent as the guys.. I don't fall under the 'modern women' stereotypes but I wouldn't say I am a 'pick me' I try to see nuance, and I also believe in God and into conspiracies.. it's toug…
/r/ExRedPill11/05/26 03:10 AM
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Ahh.. I have a lot to say but I will try to keep it short. I am a youtuber and I make videos just like this where the main focus is being REAL, and yes I do get pushback at times from men, but a lot of them do agree. I am firmly against lying or deceiving people for a gain - to me those people cannot be trusted and are not doing the right thing. Being real and deep is one if not my most important value.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 05:19 AM
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Hi, I want to reiterate what I replied to someone else as I think it is appropriate here: I thank you for your reply. If you don't mind, I want to respond to this. My DM's are open if you think this is better for a DM situation, but here's my reply: So in terms of his confidence, it is getting better overtime. I agree if they're consistently telling you that you deserve better and that there might be somewhat out there for you then it's a big warning. However, he did this more at the beginning o…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 10:07 PM
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Hi, thank you for your reply. If you don't mind, I want to respond to this. My DM's are open if you think this is better for a DM situation, but here's my reply: So in terms of his confidence, it is getting better overtime. I agree if they're consistently telling you that you deserve better and that there might be somewhat out there for you then it's a big warning. However, he did this more at the beginning of the relationship. We are going to be two years this year and it stopped and he's stepp…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 10:06 PM
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I agree they're consistently telling you that you deserve better and that there might be somewhat out there for you then it's a big warning. However, he did this more at the beginning of the relationship. We are going to be two years this year and it stopped and he's stepping up a bit more that's why I'm a little bit confused and unsure now.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 09:59 PM
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He felt guilty and a lot of shame because he realized he hurt me from the sort of push/pull he tried to do because of his insecurities. It's kind of a long story, but I didn't really feel emotionally safe. He wasn't abusive, but it wasn't consistent or stable at the time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 09:58 PM
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If this is relevant: he has always worked full time (didn't go to school) he hasn't started his long term career yet. I am currently a student getting a degree.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 03:29 AM
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I agree it's dangerous. Whenever I make a video surrounding these topics, I get people saying crazy things and honestly, I can't tell if they are serious or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:19 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear. Usually I would think it's in the reverse, they start off more RP and then they find a good woman and then they sort of soften up or kind of change their beliefs. But not the other way around. I hope you're doing better now and healing! 🙏
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 10:43 AM
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Hi, I sent you a dm!
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 10:40 AM
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Oh my.. I get "you're just coping" so much on my channel, even calling my BF a simp lol For context: I have made videos on my channel ItsSimplyAless about these topics, my BF and I try to show nuance but we get A LOT of angry people in the comments. Most of them tell me I don't know what I am saying/I cannot relate but people are missing the main point. I have even had people say graphic degrading things to me. We try to show not everyone is a certain way and that there is a bigger picture to th…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 10:36 AM
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I am not superficial and I don't go based on height, status, or income. There is much more to a person and this is what I can't stand about society tbh
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 10:34 AM
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I always had a feeling the pendulum was going to swing the other way where women start getting a lot of crap. In fact when ive made videos on my channel ItsSimplyAless about these topics, my BF and I try to show nuance but we get A LOT of angry people in the comments. I have even had a few say pretty graphic things. Most of them tell me I don't know what I am saying/I cannot relate but people are missing the main point. We try to show not everyone is a certain way and that there is a bigger pict…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 10:32 AM
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I appreciate you doing this. When ive made videos on my channel about these topics, my BF and I try to show nuance but we get A LOT of angry people in the comments. Most of them tell me I don't know what I am saying/I cannot relate but people are missing the main point. We try to show not everyone is a certain way and that there is a bigger picture to the whole gender division. I'm a woman who does not hate men despite my extensive trauma with a lot of them.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 10:31 AM
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I hear what you're saying. In fact when ive made videos on my channel ItsSimplyAless about these topics, my BF and I try to show nuance but we get A LOT of angry people in the comments. Most of them tell me I don't know what I am saying/I cannot relate but people are missing the main point. We try to show not everyone is a certain way and that there is a bigger picture to the whole gender division. We are not saying women are innocent in all this, but retaliating isn't going to help anyone.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 10:30 AM
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Agreed!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 11:27 AM
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I agree, I run a YouTube channel and when I go live, guys open up and support each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 11:08 AM
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Thank you so much!! I really appreciate it :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/26 09:53 AM
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Hi! By any chance are you the person who sent the guy me a coffee? If so wow! I wasn't expecting it and I really appreciate it! Thanks So Much! And it's my bday too lol 🙏🙏 thanks again and I hope you enjoy the content!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/26 08:59 AM
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I'm very sorry to hear that happened to your friend. I just want to make it clear I'm not defending problematic or abusive people, in fact, I think a lot of the commenters come across as problematic and/or verbally abusive & it's not okay so I definitely don't condone the extreme behaviours.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/26 09:30 AM
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well said and thanks for saying this! I try not to over explain to them and I'm trying to ignore the hate even more or sometimes actually try to calmly explain once, or maybe joke around a little. I don't want to quit posting because of this, maybe one day my niche perspective will find the right audience
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 07:31 PM
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I totally hear you and I relate! The people "turning on you" quickly and misrepresenting things.. sighs I make long form videos (shorts and lives too) but the long form is where the most criticism is, granted I don't post my opinions like that too much on reddit. I don't take it personally but it can be frustrating seeing people constantly misrepresent, mischaracterize and misunderstand what I say Thanks so much!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 07:30 PM
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I understand, it can be frustrating when people misrepresent or misunderstand your points constantly.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 07:28 PM
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Yeah I hear you, when people go back and forth in my comments and even keep coming back to reply to people, it gets more views even if people aren't watching most of the video.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 07:28 PM
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Honestly, I hear you. It's like somebody has to be a little bit deeper/enlightened to maybe see it in a different way/it's more for a niche group. I don't mind if I'm appealing to a smaller audience, but it does make sense that I'm getting this strong backlash. My boyfriend keeps mentioning that people are not seeing the bigger picture out of all this. Sure I'll share. The thing is I'm not sure if I'm allowed to do it directly and I don't want it to seem like the main reason or purpose of this p…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 07:21 PM
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What issues are you specifically referring to? Yeah sometimes I can come across as passionate but I've made YouTube video, livestreams that are on private now, and shorts trying to understand guys too. Sure. The thing is I'm not sure if I'm allowed to do it directly and I don't want it to seem like the main reason or purpose of this post was to promote my channel so I'll say this: It's my reddit name with the word "its" in front of it, no spaces in the name :) Btw a lot of the negative comments …
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 07:19 PM
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Sure. The thing is I'm not sure if I'm allowed to do it directly and I don't want it to seem like the main reason or purpose of this post was to promote my channel so I'll say this: It's my reddit name with the word "its" in front of it, no spaces in the name :) Btw a lot of the negative comments get hidden so sort by recent to see what people are saying
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 07:17 PM
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I totally agree with this, I've mentioned the time and time again on my YouTube channel that I have niche perspectives, and I'm not trying to appease everyone. I'm not going to be the typical creator that tends to say extreme things on either sides for clicks. I definitely think my videos are meant for a certain group and I wish more of that group would find me heh
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 07:16 PM
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I also want to note that I understand the Internet is this way, but I'm just curious on peoples perspectives from this specific community if there's another way to approach this or if anybody has made similar posts or videos
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 11:15 AM
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Thanks for saying this. Adverse sexual experiences like trauma can seriously impact how someone views intimacy Source: I've been through it & it's psychologically backed up
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 10:55 AM
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Well said!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 10:50 AM
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I hear what you're saying and I appreciate your concern, but his face is hidden and it's just his voice. He's OK with it and doesn't take the comments seriously (I showed him this comment) :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 10:49 AM
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I totally agree with you, and I don't like to be around those "all men are bad etc" groups, it's a toxic space too. I like to see the nuance in the gender division and I see past the gender, more the soul.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 09:26 AM
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Honestly, I tend to be more nuanced about these things, I don't like either side that demonizes either all men or all women. There's more nuance to all of this and I try to speak about it on my YouTube channel and I noticed it's more men getting mad at me just for having nuances because they tend to assume I'm a certain way. Not all of them, I have some kind supporters that are guys that get exactly what I'm trying to do on my channel, but I've noticed this.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 09:23 AM
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Personally, I never understood this because if my significant other cries in front of me, something kicks in for me to comfort him. We are mostly long distance so it makes it even harder to comfort and help. It doesn't make me see him as any less then. I don't know who these people are that are criticizing guys for crying, but it's not okay.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 09:16 AM
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This probably explains why people get so angry at me even though I don't fit into the stereotype of a modern woman just because I have nuanced takes to things on my YouTube channel. I made a post on this subreddit about this a few minutes ago. It's just a mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 07:56 AM
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I'm not able to dm you the name so I'll say it here, ItsSimplyAless is my channel. Happy holidays! Thanks for ur interest
/r/MensRights24/12/25 09:51 PM
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That's the thing, I know it's not everyone. I dont want to perpetuate a cycle where I am against men and men are against women. Am I allowed to post a channel name here? If so, I just want to give you a disclaimer, my videos tend to get misunderstood and I'm labeled in a certain way but my goal is to foster discussion, I also make videos in support of men, "to the men who feel invisible" and other thoughts..
/r/MensRights24/12/25 09:42 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that, truly. . I've heard about the body type therapies being brought up rather than talk therapy so I'll look into it. I've also tried meditation and binaural beats, they've helped. I actually did try to find a sub for CSA but was having difficulty, so I think CPTSD would be my best bet.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/25 09:31 PM
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😅 Curiosity. I make YouTube videos and I get quite a bit of viewers who bring up RP and men's rights so I get curious. I also have trauma from guys but I'm trying to heal from it by seeing where they're coming from with some issues. I also feel bad for what's happening with mens issues, sincerely.
/r/MensRights24/12/25 09:30 PM
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If that's okay with you I'll dm you now thanks
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/25 09:06 PM
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Thank you for reassuring me. Yeah it could definitely be a spiritual thing. See my boyfriend and I both believe in God, but I do believe that this stuff goes back a really long time ago. It's not right and it really makes me angry, but there's nothing I can do about the past. I really hope healing will come on its own with time and as I get older. I was seeing people recommending certain therapies (not talk); but more about being in tune with your body.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/25 08:48 PM
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Yeah, you've described it well. If you don't mind me asking, have you had a significant other during that time and if so, did you feel these feelings? Although I love my significant other at some point in our relationship for a While I didn't feel heard and he'd shut down a lot. I don't think this really has anything to do with him. I think this is mainly what I've gone through, but could be wrong. It wasn't bad initially on my trip but then a scenario happened that mimicked my belief about inti…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/25 08:46 PM
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I hear what ur saying. The thing is even if it's a scenario for me personally I can't pretend to be selfish, and when he does for fun afterwards and the next day I actually feel used, even if it's a scenario. It's this deep engrained thing. I want to see him happy and feeling good, what did you mean by "how do you take care of your body". I agree sports and the gym helps, including dancing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/25 08:28 PM
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I've heard of these types of therapies and I'll do more research on it. I used to think PTSD was something for veterans or other people in wars, not childhood abuse or SA, but I was wrong. I do think something deep and serious may have happened so cptsd is a possibility.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/25 08:26 PM
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I love this! Can I post this on my YouTube channel community post and give credit?
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/25 10:29 AM
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I'm a woman and I see exactly what you're talking about. I have trouble making friends that are girls.
/r/MensRights24/12/25 09:54 AM
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I'm a woman and I try to become informed and also share ideas and thoughts in the space through my YouTube channel, doesn't always go well but I try
/r/MensRights24/12/25 09:43 AM
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Personally I think it's wrong for both genders to act rude, entitled, selfish, etc. Honestly, if women do it, probably bothers me more because of everything going on. I have had traumatizing experiences with men and had trouble making friends that are girls if this is relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 12:06 AM
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I'm assuming especially if it was a committed relationship… I see… I guess it's more about being promiscuous. thanks for replying
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:27 AM
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there will be some guys that are bothered by a girl having been with one guy previously when she was a teen and she regrets it because of her circumstances or whatever. is that acceptable? or what? i understand people wanting to be with those with that haven't been intimate with many people i understand. But is one person really going to change the way you see someone, especially if they were young? genuine question
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 03:14 AM
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I'm different from most guys by being low N myself and disliking casual sexual encounters. yep im the same exact way
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:38 AM
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Ahh so a girl having 1 previous bf that she regrets sleeping with wouldnt be an issue for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:33 AM
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As a girl I really don't care about these things so I personally would not leave someone just because someone else had it 'bigger' And you might not believe me because the main stream media will show you otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:25 AM
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hat it's a powerful bonding experience that's more than just a way to reach orgasm I see it the same way. I personally don't believe in sleeping around but that's just my personal opinion. But there are some guys that would still consider one ex-bf they regret, a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:24 AM
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I'm the same way. I don't engage in that stuff at all. what if it was like 1 previous LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:20 AM
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What about one previous one in a long-term relationship that she kind of regrets when she was younger for example?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:17 AM
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makes sense, thanks for answering
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:14 AM
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sry Im new here
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:04 AM
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What if let's say it happened in her teen years because she felt pressured (with a long term boyfriend) and does not sleep around? curious if it changes anything
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:04 AM
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