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| 4 | If having hobbies makes you attractive to women, why isn’t attractive if a guy is into video games and Reddit as opposed to more traditional hobbies?As a woman who likes games, I think gaming is a legit hobby. And as a frequent Reddit user, I don’t think Reddit qualifies as a good hobby for relationship attraction because it has a very negative perception (for a reason) and I personally think social media is more of a consumption outlet and less of a conversation topic. A lot of people like others who are varied, which is kind of unfair but the reality. For me, when making friends, I like to know what their interests are. I always ask if the… | /r/seduction | 02/09/22 06:12 AM |
| 0 | Girl asked me for my numberDamn y’all are negative as fuck. As woman who is forward and likes to give her number, I would say that you should text her! Something short and open. “Hey, this is (name)! How’s it going?” “Hey there, how is your day going?” Something like that. If she acts badly, that’s on her and not on you. You won’t know till you try. It sounds like she is into you since SHE asked YOU if you had a gf. | /r/seduction | 02/09/22 05:23 AM |
| 2 | How to navigate dating when your look doesn’t match your personality ?I don't have advice, but just wanted to say that you have my sympathy. I keep hearing about black men being fetishized by women (especially white women) because they want a certain type of black man in bed. I'm sure you get my gist. It sounds exhausting for you guys. Good luck sifting through all the weirdos. | /r/seduction | 31/08/22 05:24 AM |
| 0 | Doctors, lawyers, professors, engineers, businessmen, what is your dating life like?💯 | /r/seduction | 30/08/22 08:33 PM |
| 0 | Supply and demand is the reason why dating is more difficult in the US than other countriesThis a very nice post that is not demeaning or fatphobic at all | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 03:46 PM |
| 7 | Ladies: Asking for consent before a kiss or just by reading non verbal cues? Rule or preference?I’d prefer to be asked. You can definitely read off of verbal cues but if you are new to it, I would ask first. Touch her arm, tell her you want to kiss her. See what she does. Idk | /r/seduction | 25/08/22 01:07 AM |
| 13 | Good icebreakers/conversation starters?It’s always nice to start with a compliment! Outfit, a mannerism, etc. “Wow, nice jacket!” “You have a lovely smile” “Oh cool, you like xyz band? Me too!” | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 06:54 PM |
| 16 | Could driving for Uber or Lyft be good for getting dates?As a woman, I don’t know about this chief. The reason is because you have the responsibility to drive them and they don’t have a way to easily escape you if they feel unsafe. Even if you were to say, “I would never do anything or go too far…” they don’t know that. The best results for flirting are going to come from environments where they feel relaxed and comfortable. Stress and fear is a huge mood killer, and I would be scared if my driver started trying to flirt with me. I’d have no idea if h… | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 08:51 PM |
| 3 | For the people who know womanese when a girl says shut up after a tease what does that meanI’d have to see the conversation, but as a woman, here’s my translation: “Shut up 😂” = “no way/that’s crazy/you’re funny/keep going”. It could mean a lot of things. Generally it’s usually a positive if a emoji like that is paired with. She’s joking around a bit. But who knows? Everyone is different :) | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 03:35 AM |
| 1 | How to standout to women who have options besides just being very handsomeDevelop a great personal style | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 06:12 AM |
| 1 | i’m a teen and my 🍆 points downwards when hard? is this normalDownward pointing is pretty normal. If you are concerned, go speak to a doctor and they will tell you if it’s a problem or not | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionYeah, I totally feel you. I think that assholes get girls because the girls they attract are insecure, don’t know their boundaries, or are assholes themselves. Everyone is different and there’s not really a formula to love and attraction. This is like, a gross answer, but I mean… a lot of women these days are into softer, more feminine men like K-pop idols and anime dudes and stuff. The reason why I say it’s a little gross is because it quickly strays into racial fetishization. But I’m just sayi… | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 01:37 PM |
| -1 | Which type of women are attracted to beta males? This is a serious questionI personally have always been WAY more attracted to smaller/thinner dudes. Plus you have super cool interests like music! That’s awesome! There’s definitely women out there who are into you. I think you’ve got to lose the alpha/beta mindset though tbh. I have yet to meet a woman who likes that. I don’t subscribe to that ideology at all because it’s very misogynistic at its core, untruthful, and really just harms men more than it helps them. I mean, you do you, but I’m just saying what I think (a… | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 12:44 PM |
| 3 | do women in general see PUA or anything related to PUA as a red flag?Okay… as a woman and a feminist, I see PUA stuff as a red flag. That being said, I empathize strongly with the people who use the strategies and advice because they are seeking connection. I have absolutely no issues with people just trying to better themselves and make relationships. That being said, actual PUA are pieces of shits that are either horribly misogynistic or just grifters or both. Sorry :/ | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 01:12 AM |
| 3 | I've got her number from a group chat. Can I text her without it being creepy?Man, I’d like to go mini golfing! That sounds like a blast | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 02:54 PM |
| 3 | The instant you show a girl too much interest, she plays hardI think your problem might just be that you are coming on too hard to her. If you text all the time and it’s not in equal balance to what she’s doing, it can feel pushy and needy. And pretty much everyone runs away from that. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 02:50 PM |
| 3 | Will I miss out if I quit drinking?I don’t drink at all because of family history. The people who care about you not drinking don’t matter, and the people who don’t care and are happy for you are the ones you should surround yourself with. Don’t give into toxic culture at the expense of your health! Use a sense of humor, grab some virgin cocktails or sodas, and go have fun sober. It might take some adjustment for your night life, but it’s worth it IMO. Especially if alcohol is something you see yourself struggling with for a whil… | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 03:59 PM |
| 28 | Should I refrain from mentioning I go to therapy to a girl.Well, she said she goes! So she shouldn't have any issues with the fact you go. I would say to just keep the details private until you are able to build a trusting relationship. Sometimes we end up trauma-dumping on our potential friends or partners, which places way too much pressure on them and scares them away. Therapy should not be seen as weakness. Mental help is a wonderful thing. By everyday people bringing up that they go to therapy and acting positive about it, we normalize it and it re… | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Attire: Pants that Hug or Not.That’s the hope! Right now I’m coming out of some dance classes so I’m really curious to see what the workout is like in comparison. Like dance really emphasizes quads, hamstrings, inner thighs, and core. Not as much upper body. | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Attire: Pants that Hug or Not.That’s awesome, I was thinking of getting into powerlifting but right now I’m going to be trying out kickboxing. I just saw a video on deadlifting and was super impressed. Seems like an awesome hobby | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 11:14 PM |
| 4 | Attire: Pants that Hug or Not.I feel like you can strike a happy middle: a pant/trouser that hugs the booty and thighs but is looser around the calves and knees. I believe this is slim fit? I think you’d probably want to avoid vacuum suction tightness because it would be really uncomfortable. But man, seeing a nice, form fitting pair of pants that shows off a guys nice butt and thighs is 👌 | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Attire: Pants that Hug or Not.Daaaaamn! | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Girls have been telling me i’m too ”held back” when i’m at the club🤣 | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 02:33 AM |
| 7 | Girls have been telling me i’m too ”held back” when i’m at the clubI mean, I’m not expert on approaching women so take what I say with a grain of salt. But I am a woman so maybe that helps haha. I think some touching is okay in a flirtatious way if your lady friend seems to be into it. If you are laughing together, smiling, flirting, I think you could totally go in for a touch on the arm or waist as you pass by her. Maybe playfully take her hand and bring her to the dance floor. But you really have to read the room and see if she is interested in you. If she’s … | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 05:12 PM |
| 18 | Girls have been telling me i’m too ”held back” when i’m at the clubOMG... I'm shocked at the idea that you should spank a woman who don't know at the bar. That's sexual assault! Who are these women? | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Beach game?Yeah, I feel you. I think beaches can be risky for that reason. Women are showing a lot of skin, but not necessarily consenting to looks, flirting, and sexual advances. If it were me.. I would say to approach by commenting on something she is wearing or has with her, as other commenters have said. I know you said you didn't have a lot to work on with this particular woman, and that's okay. Maybe you can wait for opportunities where the woman present isn't deeply engrossed in something. Like if s… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Beach game?I love your approach. That's great that you are trying to avoid being intrusive when its unwanted! | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 01:20 AM |
| 0 | What can you say to compliment women's Boobs while making out?M'lady... what lovely badonkadonks you possess! | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 09:21 PM |
| 1 | MasculinitySuperficial, but having a nicely trimmed beard or mustache is really nice. Also confidence! Be confident in who you are, that's manly as fuck :) | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 09:44 PM |
| 10 | Made out with shy co-worker. She told me she's liked me for a while. Now she's avoiding me?She definitely sounds interested, she's probably going through something in private or dealing with some anxiety related to the situation. I would ask her if she'd like to go out again and ask if everything is alright with her (nicely). Ultimately, you cannot force her to go out or be with you. But You can show that you are here for her and like her a lot, hopefully she comes to you. | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 09:26 PM |
| 1 | I need to upgrade my wardrobeUgh I'm not sure. I took an environmental science class recently and we did a section on consumerism and fast fashion; companies like Shein. Basically, any company that produces clothing for extremely cheap is mostly likely benefitting off of sweatshop or slave labor and usually cuts costs to where they can charge to little. Target, Walmart, many online shops, almost everything. It's like you can't win unless you buy handmade or sustainably sourced items, which just isn't realistic for most of u… | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 07:08 PM |
| 1 | I need to upgrade my wardrobeOof I know the appeal of Shein but that company is trash. Their clothes fall apart super quickly, are covered in plastic microfibers, and they treat their employees horribly. I would not buy from them if at all possible. They are also really bad for the environment :( | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 06:17 PM |
| 0 | I need to upgrade my wardrobeThrift store!! | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Why does it always come down to the gym?100% | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Why does it always come down to the gym?Hey there! I recently discovered exercise (haha) and I've been doing it just for my own health and well-being. It's really important to move around, even if it's something small. You can always take a dance or martial arts class or something of that nature. It feels so good to exercise regularly; it will improve your mood and make you feel more confident in yourself. It's hard to start, but that's why I suggest taking a class. That way you are held accountable, haha. You absolutely do not need t… | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 06:00 PM |
| 12 | Why do their friends cockblock?Trust me, when a girl cockblocks her friend, it is intentional. Even if she seemed into you, it is likely that she would find extremely drunk “consent” to be shaky at best and instructed her friends to stop her if this happened. I’m not trying to put blame on you. This is common for groups of women. Maybe she wasn’t really into it and signaled to her friend to ask for it to stop. | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Don't be tempted or fooled by cheap substitutes that allow modern society to rob you of the opportunity to form real connectionsThank you! Don’t get me wrong, modern society and technology has so many advantages and has caused a lot of improvements, but nothing beats taking care of yourself and your body. | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Don't be tempted or fooled by cheap substitutes that allow modern society to rob you of the opportunity to form real connectionsThank you! That’s so kind of you to say :D | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Setting the tone for messages on dating apps when you have a fuccboi picture?I think a lot of times in life, you get what you are putting out. I don’t really believe in vibes or energy as much, but if you are putting out man whore vibes then maybe a woman whore is into that haha. Just do what makes you happy! | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 05:43 PM |
| 6 | mixed feelings dating single mom'sYikes on those downvotes. Go have fun if you want! Nothing wrong with being a single mom. It shows your commitment to your child. | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 01:35 AM |
| 12 | Don't be tempted or fooled by cheap substitutes that allow modern society to rob you of the opportunity to form real connectionsYes! Finding happiness really seems to come from getting back to the basics. For me, this was exercise and getting off of my phone. I started taking a 16 week dance class after never doing exercise for like my whole life. It transformed me! Now I am taking kickboxing and I feel so much happier and confident. I am comfortable with my body. I am working out for an hour 3-4 times a week. I deleted social media because it was a trap and have picked up reading again. I’ve read some great stuff lately… | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 04:00 PM |
| 1 | What to say when she says she has a boyfriend/ seeing someone?Oh okay, I know what you mean then. Yeah, I guess some people might take it wrong. This has happened I think maybe once or twice with me, and I took it as a compliment. It totally depends on the person. | /r/seduction | 02/08/22 04:16 AM |
| 2 | What to say when she says she has a boyfriend/ seeing someone?It just depends on whether you are sincere or not. If you are sarcastic then obviously it’s rude to her, haha. I just like to exercise kindness to people I meet, I assumed OP was the same | /r/seduction | 02/08/22 04:08 AM |
| 15 | What to say when she says she has a boyfriend/ seeing someone?“Oh, my bad! He’s a lucky man. Have a nice day/weekend/evening!” And make your exit | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes it's just a natural attractionThanks for sharing. That sounds like it was really nice date, and I hope you go see her again! | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 03:03 AM |
| 6 | Why is a girl that has a boyfriend trying to meet meOof she’s a cheater. I would stay away!! | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 03:00 AM |
| 3 | Present for CrushI think you should make a move! She sounds interested to me. Worst case scenario, she says I’m not interested. No loss there. | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 02:58 AM |
| 1 | 'Dating 10/10 model girl' - Girl night outs - what is acceptable and what is not.I think that you have to follow your heart on this. What are your hard and fast boundaries? Of course cheating is not okay, and I'm glad to hear that you trust her to not do that. But what does cheating mean to you? Sex with other people is off the table for you guys. That's a clear boundary. How about kissing others? Grinding on others? Flirting? Emotional intimacy? This is something that you may have to take some time and do some thinking on. I think you should have a conversation with her abo… | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 06:36 PM |
| 4 | Getting phone number vs Getting Instagram?As a woman, I’m more comfortable giving my Instagram. Or I was, because I deleted it recently, haha. I think a lot of other people feel the same. | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 04:21 PM |
| 1 | medication to help talk to girls?Hey there! I don’t know if this is a possibility for you, but I think the best thing would be to seek out some personal therapy, or even a psychiatrist through your doctor. A psychiatrist is MD with psychological training and has the ability to prescribe medication. And also for therapy, you really don’t need to be “crazy” or doing really bad in life to seek one out. But they can really help with social anxiety and isolation. They are trained in communication and connection and can help you with… | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 04:18 PM |
| 0 | Got a girlfriend! Thanks r/seduction!Yay! Congratulations! If they are strangers, just casually mention your girlfriend in conversation so they know you are taken. If they are people you were pursuing, then you can let them know by mentioning that you are exclusive now. | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Dating a really shy girl, problems with intimacyA no means “no”. Someone may have a serious reason for why they have such a block towards panties being off and penetration. I’m thinking she might have had a sexual assault situation. Or intense shame or vaginal pain. It sounds like she is seriously conflicted. And it’s OP’s job to respect her boundaries or else he has no business being with her. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 08:42 PM |
| 1 | dating a sexual assault victim - advice appreciatedI love how you are approaching this with such thoughtfulness and care. It will take time, but you’ll have to build up a lot of trust. Talk about your boundaries, and respect them. see what she comfortable with and what she isn’t. It may take a lot of time to build up to sexual intimacy. And when you get there, again, communicate about it! Ask her what you can do to help her relax and enjoy it. She might not want penetration for instance. I wish you a lot of luck, and have fun :) | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Dating a really shy girl, problems with intimacyIf she made it clear that she’s not comfortable with her panties being off, and OP tried to take them off anyways. That’s sexual assault. No matter how cute or sexy it looks to someone else. When someone has a hard and fast boundary, you must respect it. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Dating a really shy girl, problems with intimacyIf you really like her and want to continue a relationship, then it’s great that you are willing to figure some things out. Start with an honest conversation. See if you can talk about what she wants to do sexually and what she doesn’t. Why does she feel comfortable or not comfortable with certain things? It really sounds to me like she’s had some sort of sexual shame or trauma incident in her life with how avoidant she is. It’s really important to be gentle and understanding. Sex is such a vuln… | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 08:27 PM |
| 0 | Date ideas with a classy girl?Awesome advice. This is making ME want to go on a date! | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 08:22 PM |
| 3 | And it went down from there ....Hey, it’s all good! As you said, there are many reasons why you could have lost your erection. Stress, anxiety, and alcohol are all big ones. It’s normal! Don’t sweat it. It sounds like the woman you are sleeping with is kind about it, which is great. Give her some time or support with what she’s going through and when you are both ready, try again! You can always be honest with her. You can tell her that you weren’t sure what happened there, but you’d like to try again. Good luck man! | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 08:21 PM |
| 2 | I went to the doctor today, she's cute, I want to take her out on a date...Maybe she was being flirtacious, maybe not, but it's a bad idea to date someone who could be fired for dating you. That could lead to some serious long-term resentment, haha... | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 06:28 PM |
| 2 | How do you handle long dry spells as a guy who is picky and has a niche appealWhat about film festivals? I have no idea what those are even like, but they sound pretty artsy and interesting | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?That's really great. I think everyone could do with some more kindness and empathy shown towards them. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 03:03 AM |
| 3 | Have any of you seen a move like this?This is the funniest shit I've heard of... I would say not to drink her drink and then spill it on her., That's just rude. Instead, spill your OWN drink on her. | /r/seduction | 28/07/22 06:33 PM |
| 5 | Just some thoughts in my headBonus points if you have some cool shades to wear and are on a skateboard | /r/seduction | 28/07/22 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Should I grab her ass on the first date?Yes very true. It’s a slippery slope to just go off of nonverbal cues. A lot of times, men and women go along with a situation they may not really be enjoying because of social pressure. It’s always better to ask. | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Should I grab her ass on the first date?That’s true, you start off with a random woman like, “m’lady, May I grasp thy ass?” 🤣 Flirting and teasing is good. For real. I also think though that it depends on the individual. Some other commenters said how many women will not not like you going for the ass unless she’s a sexual person. That’s why I always err on the side of caution. Context: I am going to school to become a sex therapist and interested in sex education as well. It’s very important to me from an ethical standpoint that peop… | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Should I grab her ass on the first date?Thanks for the response. I see what you mean now. What you are saying is that by asking explicitly you are killing the mood? And it’s better to hint and tease and go off of nonverbal cues to see if she’s okay with or interested in a certain thing. I know what you are getting at, and I’ve practiced this myself, but with my long term partner. There is already a lot of trust there so I know what he likes generally, and he knows what I like. I would never feel comfortable with someone randomly grabb… | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 05:32 PM |
| 7 | Need some opinions on this situation i'm in (confused)Yikes, I wouldn’t want to get involved with a cheating girl 😬 | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Should I grab her ass on the first date?May I ask why? Why is asking for consent viewed as bad? Respectfully asking | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 05:22 PM |
| 2 | My worst regret with a woman happened yesterday. Regrets.Yay, keep texting her! Tell her you’re interested! I hope you get what you are after | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 02:19 AM |
| -1 | Should I grab her ass on the first date?Ask for consent first please. Start with somewhere less intimate, like her back or her thigh. Start moving towards the ass and break to say “May I touch you here?” Go from there. That’s my advice, as a woman 🤷♀️ you can still keep it sexy and engaging while asking for consent :) | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 02:17 AM |
| 3 | Std scareIf any symptoms persist for longer than a couple of days, go see your doctor and ask to get tested. Explain that you had unprotected oral sex so you need to have your mouth swabbed. Good luck! Likely it’s just an ingrown hair. You probably won’t feel better until you know for sure though. | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 02:08 AM |
| 2 | My first two Daygame cold approachesTrue! I’d say it’s okay as long as you are respectful of the fact that they are working and required to be friendly/polite. If they express disinterest, then politely excuse yourself and walk away. I asked my partner who works as a barista what he thinks. He said that he thinks it’s fine to approach a worker if you stay respectful. He said it’s awkward if they reject you because a lot of the time, they can’t walk away, and they don’t know for sure if you will walk away from them. | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 02:04 AM |
| 1 | honestly speaking, how is anyone supposed to be confident in this day and age?Wow, that is a wonderful quote. I love that. For me, feeling superior to other people was just a way to combat my own insecurities. If I told myself that I was better than someone else, it made me feel better, but also made me a more unpleasant and hateful person. People are at their worst when they are tearing down each other. I'm learning now to instead think: "I'm better than I was." <3 | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Women are visual creatures tooA bonus if you aren’t feel as confident about your body/face/physical appearance: try working on your sense of personal style. That could mean anything for you. For me, I like the punk/goth/alternative scene, so if I see a guy with blue jeans a black t shirt and slicked back hair, I’m all over it. Even a simple band-tee could do it! I saw a guy with a Rancid shirt and had to go talk to him about it. I’m a big Rancid fan :) There’s some dudes out there that are very average looking physically, bu… | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Went from no sex in 4 months to twice in one weekStraight edge gang up in here 👊😔 | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 05:52 PM |
| 5 | Went from no sex in 4 months to twice in one week🤣 | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Thank you, you too :) | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?No, I’m sorry, I deleted my socials! I was struggling with social media/phone addiction. And now I’m on Reddit haha. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 05:18 AM |
| 2 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Sure, in about 8 years or so when I’m done with school! 🤣🤣🤣 No but for real, my passion is interpersonal relationships and sexuality. I want to be someone who helps people healing from sexual abuse, who struggle with desire in their relationships, who don’t experience pleasure or are suffering from pain. Maybe I’ll go for a doctorate and become a sex researcher. This field is so understudied it’s insane. There is so much we don’t know. Woah all that from a tiny room 😮 that’s crazy! I should’ve k… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Quick date adviceHaha so true. Women are varied people, you never know what topics and beliefs they will have! Like for me, I’d say I’m “spiritual” because I believe in souls, an afterlife, and reincarnation to some extent. But I don’t really believe in horoscopes, astrology, tarot, palm reading etc. I think it has merit and value, but my beliefs don’t personally include them. Astrology IS really common though. I read a joke somewhere; the stock market is like astrology for men haha | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?I’m gonna become a sex therapist, basically a marriage and family therapist with additional certification for sex problems like addiction, dysfunction, etc. Wow, that sounds ambitious! Energy seems like such a crazy thing today, especially since there is a big push to move away from petroleum and coal. I learned a little bit about Nuclear energy from my environmental science class. It was amazing and horrifying. I was surprised to learn how it literally cannot survive economically without subsid… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Isn't being friends with girls a little pointless?Oof I gotta disagree with you there. I have a couple of male friends that are not related to my college/relationship. Surely there are men and women who believe like you, that they are Incompatible platonically, but I don’t think that’s ultimately true at all. It just takes enough maturity to see each other as multidimensional people and not just women or men | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Isn't being friends with girls a little pointless?I don’t think there is anything wrong with knowing what you want and deciding to respectfully jump ship when it’s clear that it’s not going to work out. A lot of women probably WILL be disappointed or upset when this happens, especially if it’s an instantaneous rejection of their friendship. I think if you are kind and respectful, then it’s okay. Something that has to go down to protect your own well-being and time. And forgive me for asking, but I am unaware about this: why is no friends before… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?That’s so cool! I’m studying to become a psychotherapist, so I’m studying psychology. My sibling studied astrophysics and ended up landing a government research job with Los Alamos Lab in New Mexico. They are absolutely brilliant and are making good money from it too. Those nerd communities are awesome, haha. Are you looking for a similar career? | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Quick date adviceI think this is kind of neat. I don’t think it’s unethical as long as you keep it light and friendly. Its true that many women are spiritual; a lot of ladies are into horoscope stuff these days (not me personally, though). If she wants to have her palm read and you’ve done a teeny bit of research about it so you are more knowledgeable, maybe you could ask her about her star sign? You could always say that you’re not sure if you believe in it or not but that it’s good for getting to know someone.… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?You’re welcome! You seem like a cool dude. I hope you haven’t held onto any shame about your interests in science and theater arts. I tried out Jazz Dance through my college for fitness and it was really hardcore. A lot of “niche” interests are really cool. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 04:06 PM |
| 7 | You're talking to a girl you approached and her boyfriend appears. What do you do?🤣 | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Yes, please seek out some help. A therapists job is look at the complicated web of experiences in your life and the problems that you are going through, and help untangle them. They should help teach you to face your problems in a healthy way and give you a mental toolbox to help you out. A good therapist might take some digging, so don’t give up if you’re first appointment doesn’t click for you. You are allowed to look for other people who you vibe with better. Good luck | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Yeah, it’s rough when what you really want is connection. Someone to be there for you in your life that you can share romantic feelings for. It’s not over, though. There are women out there who are in the same boat. Please don’t give up; your chances aren’t gone. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 03:53 PM |
| 2 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Wow, you’ve had a rough past with your abusive father… I’m really sorry. It sounds like you are in a lot better place now and have done a lot of thinking and coming to terms with who you are. And that’s great. Thank you for sharing your story :) | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Good point. However, many of them are in online communities. Such a gaming discords, twitch, or subreddits. Making friends through that and then going from there is always an option. My friend from Ukraine married a man from the US after becoming online friends through mutual interests, such as Crypt of the Necrodancer. I think they started playing games together after discovering each other in their small gaming communities and then they just fell in love from there :) | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 03:47 PM |
| 2 | How to hard reset your confidence/status in the workplace?Okay, kind of… outside advice, but I would say to re-examine your want/need to feel cool. The reason why I say this is because I suffered from a similar sentiment. I wanted to be liked, seen as a good worker, cool person, etc (as I think we all do). And my insecurity ended up being taken advantage of by the workplace bullies. I was an easy target as I tried so hard to be liked, but they labeled me as lazy, a try-hard, insufferable, bossy, etc. I ended up striving to be so cool, so perfect, such … | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?https://youtu.be/kQF_rMkK1zY | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 12:12 AM |
| 1 | What hobbies have the most women in their 20/early 30s?Yes, I don't blame you. I honestly find reddit to be entertaining yet depressing, because I come here to read people's stories, share advice, relate, etc. And yet so much of the content (at least in interpersonal and dating related subreddits) is about how people are struggling, they are lonely, they are rejected, they've given up hope, etc. It's upsetting to see at times, but i know that that is not all life is. Obviously if the majority of people some to get support and to vent then that's jus… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 11:43 PM |
| 2 | What hobbies have the most women in their 20/early 30s?Ah I see. It really seems to be a struggle on how to get out there and get laid :/ Because on the one hand, you have a lot of women giving advice saying “don’t start a relationship if all you want is sex, because it’s unfair to her and she will notice” but then… what do you do if you really just want sex? Idk I wish you luck though. | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:51 PM |
| 1 | (21M) I think I am a sub in bed, but I'm embrassed to admit itNothing to feel insecure about! Just try to be honest once you get to the bedroom and see if she’s interested in being more dominant. Check out some stuff on being submissive and see if you’re interested in it. | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:30 PM |
| 2 | (21M) I think I am a sub in bed, but I'm embrassed to admit it🤣 | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:28 PM |
| 1 | What would you do in this situation?Do it! Supporting her when she’s feeling vulnerable is nice, and she probably will appreciate it! Especially if you have a real interest in learning yoga. | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:28 PM |
| 2 | Confidence can make such a differenceThat’s awesome! I’m glad you found some success. I think that have a good sense of style is really helpful. It’s a great way to set yourself apart from others in the room. | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:26 PM |
| 2 | What hobbies have the most women in their 20/early 30s?I heard something from the yt channel Cinema Therapy: women value connections. This is very true about myself and other women I know. If I don’t share a hardcore hobby with my friend, then you bet we are going to mall together, getting coffee, going on walks, etc | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:24 PM |
| 1 | What hobbies have the most women in their 20/early 30s?I think it’s over for you if the kind of women you want to pull in are people who like to drink and do college parties. If you are open to other types of women, then it’s absolutely not over for you! And also, opposites can sometimes compliment each other :) I don’t drink or do partying, but there’s plenty of people my age who are (probably) single at some of the hobby locations I go to. | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:22 PM |
| 2 | What hobbies have the most women in their 20/early 30s?🤣 | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:19 PM |
| 1 | What hobbies have the most women in their 20/early 30s?Ugh, they sound like annoying people to hang around 😆 | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:18 PM |
| 2 | Is this person into me?I think she’s interested, but maybe she feels unsure about herself. I get the vibe that she either is not looking for a relationship or is socially awkward/insecure. You could always see if she wants to hang out outside of class in a friendly way, and if she goes, try to speak to her in person about dating/feelings. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:15 PM |
| 1 | I(19m) have been told that I am very attractive by a lot of women. I just got out of a relationship and honestly need some guidance on how to attract really good looking womenI know this advice is basic af but employ confidence and self awareness (you know what your interests are, what you like about yourself) without straying into arrogant bastard. It’s a delicate line to straddle, but manageable, I think. If you can approach a woman, find some way to engage in conversation (talk about her interests, what music you like, your perspective on life idk) and be friendly and personable then she will most likely be interested. I guess I’m saying… be charming! It takes pra… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:12 PM |
| 1 | I(19m) have been told that I am very attractive by a lot of women. I just got out of a relationship and honestly need some guidance on how to attract really good looking womenSorry, I’m not interested unless he’s got a full regency attire, a mansion, and a pet raven with a monocle 😆 | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:09 PM |
| 8 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?I wish I could upvote this more | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:07 PM |
| 9 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?No maidens 😔 | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:07 PM |
| 6 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Social media is a killer, man :/ | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:06 PM |
| 11 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?It’s not just boys; kids in general are spending more time at home. A lot of parents these days discourage going out for safety reasons and then so many people end up as shut ins. Online dating is trash, from what it sounds. We aren’t really going out to social clubs or promenades anymore :/ There ARE plenty of girls who like nerdy stuff, video games, and are introverted. Maybe finding more women like that would be helpful | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:06 PM |
| 14 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?I feel like so many guys really just want to enjoy connecting with other people, especially with women (in a romantic/sexual way) and aren’t shown a lot of good examples of how to go make that happen. I think a lot of times, finding a partner in the first place has to do with luck (right place, right time) but once you get there, it takes some work and some skill to get to the dates and to hold onto a happy relationship. A lot of the movies and media that shows relationships and dating is nonsen… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:03 PM |
| 2 | How to ask if she has a BF without being weird?If this is true, she is also demonstrating that she is fine with cheating and will happily leave OP if she finds someone she’d rather be with no prob 😐 | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 09:59 PM |
| 0 | How to ask if she has a BF without being weird?True! | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 09:58 PM |
| -1 | How to ask if she has a BF without being weird?Bro that’s terrible 😭 I guarantee that most women do not think like that, and that line of thought is a recipe for disaster! Cheating is not the way to go at all | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.Hey anytime! We are all human :) I’m happy I helped you vent a bit. Good luck to you in life! | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 09:01 AM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.Yeah, she’s probably not worth your time if she’s not at all reciprocating your attention. Still a big letdown though tbh. I wish I had some advice in how to go find sexy women to talk to, but if I did, I’m sure all of Reddit would be hounding after me! | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 08:55 AM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.You know… it really depends. For me, I am in a long term relationship and make that very upfront, so if someone asked me knowing I was taken, that’s quite a different situation. In the past, I have had this happen twice and both times I gently said that I’m taken, but I’m sorry, and I hope they find someone elsewhere. However, if that was not the case, I generally would be polite and tell them upfront (the dreaded, I see you as a FRIEND! Haha). If this person gave me a weird feeling or was viola… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 08:40 AM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.Ah I’m sorry about that; that’s a bummer :( I hope you find a lovely lady somewhere else | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Do girls and women like being talked to?It really depends on the person. For me, it depends on my mood and the situation. If I am in a good mood and not actively engaged with a task that’s involves focus, whether that is talking on the phone, reading a book/listening to music, or eating something, I’m open to polite, small conversation. GENERALLY… I’m not interested in making friends with strangers or getting picked up (I’m taken). I have to already be engaged in a social setting, such as at school or at work or at a party/club to wan… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 08:24 AM |
| 3 | Should I break up with my girlfriend?Understandable, I’m not sure it would feel very nice if my partner told me that he’d rather sleep with someone else, haha! It sounds to me like she may be struggling with desire for other reasons. Your relationship began with a foundation of frequent enjoyable sex, it sounds like. Now that that’s gone, what does that leave you? It’s true that she may have lost her spark or connection with you, and her desire followed. I personally struggle with low libido myself, so I’m familiar with how it feel… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 08:13 AM |
| 2 | Am I sex obsessed, if so, is that bad?It sounds to me like you are a hyper sexual person, and that that is a passion of yours, and that’s okay. Since this is causing you some strife in your life, I would suggest talking to a therapist, particularly a sex therapist if you have the possibility of it. You also could speak to your doctor and ask if they have any advice for you. Im sorry to hear that you are not fulfilled and not getting the results you want from potential partners; I understand how challenging it is to find someone out … | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 08:06 AM |
| 2 | Finally talked to this girl that works at a café I like going to!Aw man, I’m sorry to hear that. Maybe something happened since then, like she got in a relationship, or had a bad day or negative change in her life. Maybe she doesn’t want to follow people she meets irl at work or something for safety/privacy reasons and tried to let you down in a gentle way. Maybe she’s interested in you in a non sexual friendly way and didn’t know how to communicate that. It happens. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:59 AM |
| 2 | What makes a guy boring and how do you avoid it?Use as many emojis as humanly possible. Kidding! I would say to ask some questions about her to get her talking and show that you’re interested, “hey, how’s your day going? “ “have you seen xyz movie? I really liked it/didn’t like it” “I like your outfit/photo/song lyric, what made you decide on that” idk stuff like that good luck"! | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:56 AM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.We all want to be liked, desired, and for our advances to be reciprocated. I’m sorry man 😔 don’t give up hope, maybe she’s just busy. I would try again, but please be careful to respect her boundaries if she tells you she’s not interested. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:53 AM |
| 2 | Should I break up with my girlfriend?Ah I see… that still sucks. Maybe it’s not about you being unattractive, especially if she tells you that you’re hot. Maybe she just has a low libido, or a hormonal issue? There’s tons of reasons why someone wouldn’t want to be having sex, but body and health issues is an important one. Is she secretly a lesbian (haha, jk… mostly 👀) If you don’t mind me asking, does she seem to express interest, attraction, etc to others? Or sex in general? Like does she masturbate? I’m trying to see if she does… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:50 AM |
| 3 | Should I break up with my girlfriend?Oh dear, that’s rough. No sex in the relationship does not sound fun. I see in another comment that you said that your gf does not find you attractive? I guess what I would do is make a list of pros and cons. What are gaining from this relationship? What are losing? And do you feel like it is worth trying to fix the relationship, or would you rather move on? I think that if you are not completely done and over the relationshi, it might be good to to sit down with her and talk about how you’re fe… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:41 AM |
| 2 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?What you’ve said reminds me of how we are trained to classify sexual problems for an individual or in a relationship. One might be exhibiting a behavior viewed as abnormal, or a couple maybe has low libido, or struggling with erectile dysfunction or whatever. but what actually determines if they are having a sexual problem is if they believe they are experiencing one! The low libido couple might prefer their lives that way, and maybe the man with erectile dysfunction doesn’t care for penetrative… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:35 AM |
| 2 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?You know what, that’s a great point. You are right! It’s better to not think in absolutes; successful, unsuccessful. One could have a wonderful, loving relationship that only lasted a month. Another person could have a long, fulfilling marriage, but finds out their partner cheated? Who is really “successful”? you got me thinking about this. Haha. It’s also good for me to watch my language and beliefs when it comes to relationships because I am actually studying to become a marriage and family th… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:13 AM |
| 1 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?Bro I am just way too addicted to socialization uggggghhh. But I “discovered” Reddit last week when I was in quarantine with Covid so I was really bored and couldn’t go to school or see friends/my partner. So I’m trying not to blame myself too much | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:02 AM |
| 3 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?I feel you. Who could blame you? If I may, I would just say to remember that everyone is different. I’m sure there’s 1million bitches out there but there’s probably 2million awesome ladies as well. Im sorry, I don’t have an insta really :( I deleted it because I was getting addicted to my phone. And now I’m on Reddit lmaooooo -_- either way, godspeed in life, my friend | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:56 AM |
| 1 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?Why thank you! I just have learned that both me and my conversation partner (you) would get a lot more out of asking questions, engaging with each other’s views, and then agreeing to disagree. Instead of just being like, “NUH UH, YOU’RE WRONG! I’M RIGHT” Haha I also just have a lot of experience with my relationship and it feels as if we are married when it comes to comfort level with each other and relationships in general. I have learned to let go of a lot of my own insecurities about myself, … | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:49 AM |
| 2 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?Good point. I think though that uh.. preparing and eating the prey can be more challenging than people realize? Haha. What I mean is that once you finally get in the relationship, it’s rare to have a storybook ending where they all lived happily ever after. For example, I’ve heard that marriage does not solve your problems, but rather they are amplified. I’m not married yet so idk if this is true, but I bet it has to do with moving in together and the change from being together as a series of ev… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 05:47 AM |
| 3 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?I feel like in this example, you are right. To bring your analogy back to real life, then men should only be taking advice from men who are in successful, healthy relationships, not from just any man. And it’s honestly hard to know which person chiming in has been successful or not. IRL, I know a guy who is super flirtatious and gets a lot of interest from ladies. He has had many relationships, but all of them (so far) have been unsuccessful, meaning they break up pretty quickly, or no dates/sec… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 05:35 AM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.Gee, thanks! Just trying to help you out. Good luck in your romantic endeavors | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.Man that really sucks. I don’t have a lot of experience with that personally since most of the people in my community are Latinx or Chicano specifically and often date within their own race. Like there’s a lot of social pressure for Latino guys to be super masculine and machismo, dominant in relationships, and not emotional, like playing it cool all the time. Idk man, racism is no joke. It sucks how pervasive it is in our daily lives | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.There was a guy at my work who was super attractive, definitely my type. Dark skinned Chicano (race doesn’t matter to me, just giving context since you said you’re darker), very thin, shorter (5’3”) super nice fade. We wore uniforms so I idk his personal style; I think dark t-shirts and jeans. Laid back basically. To be clear, I am in a long-term serious relationship so I would never approach him or anything, but I can acknowledge that he was attractive. One of my coworkers had a big crush on hi… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.And PS, a nice fade is 👌👌👌 Especially if it’s always fresh. Very suave! | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.There’s plenty of women out there that would be super into you! Good luck on courting them :) | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 01:47 AM |
| 3 | Bubbly, fun, giggly, confident, hot girls.No disrespect meant here, but just because someone is very feminine doesn’t mean that they are interested in super masculine! It just depends on the person. :) Good for you for knowing what you want; it may help narrow down who you want to go for. Just remember that you might find someone wonderful who doesn’t fully match those qualities and may still be great for you. I think that this type of women is a very broad category since your qualifications are basically fun, happy-go-lucky, slim, pale… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?Man, a lot of these comments are just “women emotional and dumb, men smart analytical” Do you guys realize that women are people who have logical thinking brains as well? | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 01:38 AM |
| 7 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?Yay someone who is making some sense 🥲 | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 01:35 AM |
| 0 | Why does this subreddit say to never take dating advice from women?LMAO! | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Is he flirty or friendly? What are his intentions?I honestly think that he could just be a flirtatious person, but I’m not sure. As someone who is in a long term relationship, it’s common and normal to develop crushes on other people, and if you have low self control, you might flirt with those people or worse. If this was me, I’d let him go because it feels too dangerous. His gf probably senses that he has attention on others but idk. It depends on how perceptive she is and how healthy their relationship is. As well as how deceptive he is. And… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Why are you IN or NOT IN a relationship right now?Haha, no, you are very wrong in this instance. He and I are fiercely against cheating and stand for ultimate trust and companionship in a relationship. No, the “bad times” were times of growing and changing. We grew up together, and there were times where it felt we grew apart. But we held together. Additionally, our respective parents felt it was improper for a young lady to date someone with a 3 years age gap (I can understand that, to an extent) and forbid us to be together except as “friends… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:39 AM |
| 2 | Why are you IN or NOT IN a relationship right now?True, community college students are pretty focused on their classes/jobs and current relationships. It was difficult for me to make friends there, so I ended up making friends at work instead. Also that schedule sounds rough, but good on you for keeping up with it. You got this! | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Why are you IN or NOT IN a relationship right now?Hey man, you’ll get there eventually! It’s awesome that you’re putting yourself out there. My family was very overprotective of me (still is, in many ways) and that often hindered my social life and made dating really difficult. But you know what? I found my people (nerdy shut ins, haha) and you will too. I hope you get some luck in the romance department! Keep the hopes up, someone will come to you in time | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:21 AM |
| 1 | Why are you IN or NOT IN a relationship right now?I feel you. I’m in a relationship but I also live with my parents (and my partner with his) since we are both is school and don’t make enough to move out. The best cock block is having both families home ALL the damn time haha… siblings everywhere smh | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:18 AM |
| 2 | Why are you IN or NOT IN a relationship right now?Oh wow, that’s a lot to have gone through. I’m so sorry for that, man :( I’m glad you left that abusive partner. I hope things get better and healthy romance will find its way back into your life when you are ready for it | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:16 AM |
| 1 | Why are you IN or NOT IN a relationship right now?Wow, you are inspiring! You’ve done a lot of work; I hope you are proud of yourself. I’ve been trying to work on myself a lot lately too; outlook, working out, diet, posture, screen time, you name it. It can be really anxiety inducing sometimes; just thinking “there’s so much to work on…” | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:11 AM |
| 1 | Why are you IN or NOT IN a relationship right now?In a way; we had been friends for a few years prior and knew each other through school. At the end of the semester, he told me that he had feelings for me and asked if I felt the same. I said yes, and after a week of nervously and excitedly sending emails back and forth, he asked me to date officially. Unfortunately, our parents were way overly involved, so we didn’t really get to do a lot of “dates” without parental supervision (yuck). There were school dances and outings with our siblings howe… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:07 AM |
| 1 | How do you get past some women's distorted way of feminism?Yikes | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 09:21 PM |
| 2 | Women dont look for darling or caressesMan, who hurt you? Many women (me included) want hugs and kisses and tender approaches, and they can also want good sex as well. Men also want to be loved tenderly and get good sex too. It's a human thing. Keep trying, you'll find someone eventually. | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Is he flirty or friendly? What are his intentions?Definitely flirting. Be careful! He is showing you that he is not afraid to flirt or possibly cheat while in a relationship. I would NOT pursue. No matter how attractive he is, you'll probably regret it. | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 09:18 PM |
| 3 | What are some unique ways on how to make her feel special?I like the classic; "This made me think of you" *sends a song, meme or image of something cool* | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 09:16 PM |
| 1 | How can I flirt/seduce a quiet and shy guy ?Disclaimer, I don't have a lot of experience with this. What do you think about just being honest and open? Start with mentioning threesomes to see if he reacts to it. Eventually I think you should just ask and be open about it so he knows for sure that you are asking to include him. Good luck either way ;) | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Wearing a blazer will instantly improve your gameI (22f) love a blazer on a guy. Especially if he has some nice colors going on, like dark blue or green, or even mustard or dark red. Pair it with some slim fit trousers or jeans and ooooh boy you're gonna reel them in. honestly, Target has some really nice inexpensive men's clothes. They are like, nice colors and fit and not too expensive. Really depends on the style though! I love a darker goth/punk look, and my partner leans into 1920s-50s style. He really pulls off an oversized bowling shirt… | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 09:11 PM |
| 1 | is being short a huge turnoff?I (22f) love short guys. My partner of 7 years is 5'4". Other guys I've had crushes on where almost always short. You just have to find ladies who either don't care about height (most are like this, but there are silly/shallow people who care about height like its a deal breaker or something) or shorter people are their preference | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Why are you IN or NOT IN a relationship right now?I (22f) have been with my partner (25m) for many years, since high school. We are committed and going steady :) Eventually, we definitely want to get married once we can live together. He informally asked me if I wanted to get engaged a while ago, but I said that I want to wait until we can live together, because it makes me sad to think of living away from your fiancé, especially for many years as cost of living is so high nowadays. Instead we bought promise rings for each other and consider ou… | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Is She Just Stretching Or Trying To Show Off Her Body?I'm just envisioning an ape throwing up their arms and hooting, lol | /r/seduction | 15/07/22 08:34 PM |
| 2 | How to text when not aiming to have sex with them right away?I would say to keep things friendly and romantic, without leaning into sexual flirting. If you don't want to have sex right away, or she doesn't, that's completely fine and you should just go at your own speed. I would suggest topics that aren't inherently sexual or suggest date/going out activities or locations that give you an opportunity to get to know one another more instead of somewhere just to have sex. It obviously depends on the person, but there's plenty of women out there who might wa… | /r/seduction | 15/07/22 08:33 PM |
| 2 | outieGirl, all vulvas are fine whether "innies" or "outies." It's sad and frustrating that the only vulvas we see are ones with tiny lips due to porn, same with only shaved pubes and only massive dicks. Your genitals may be weird looking to you, but if your partner is a real one, they will not care what your junk looks like and should just be happy that they get to have sex with you. I was super insecure about my vag for the same reason as you. Luckily my partner assured me that my body is beautiful … | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 06:16 AM |
| 1 | How to get a girl who's insecure about herself and her looks?Why would you want a girl like that? | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 06:10 AM |
| 1 | Is She Just Stretching Or Trying To Show Off Her Body?Bro I'm itchy ALL the time. I'm gonna be scratching my dry-ass skin whether there's my sexy partner in front of me or a gross old man. | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Kindness is a good thingI think it's important to have a conversation about it. To me, it sounds like you are describing building a relationship with someone, not a hookup. If you've already initiated something physical and romantic/sexual, like kissing or a back massage or something, be honest that you'd like to go further. See where the conversation goes. You could start slow and ask if you can touch her in xyz place or if she's enjoying making out or whatever, ask her what else she wants to do. It's important to kee… | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 06:05 AM |
| 1 | Kindness is a good thingI think that you are definitely on to something with how kindness builds trust. I think transitioning from a lovable stable person to hot fucker time is challenging, haha. But I also think that building trust is essential for a pleasing sex life, at least for a long term relationship and not a hookup. I think as other commenters suggested, being direct is a good thing. If she feels safe with you in the car, at the house, etc, try something small. Put your hand on hers, stare into her eyes for a … | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 05:59 AM |
| 1 | Any inspiring stories for short guys who compete with tall guys and still get the girl?I have always like short guys. My boyfriend of 7 years is 5'4", and that's ideal for me because we are basically the same height and weight. Spooning and sexy times are easier for that reason. Also, we are in the same weight class so we can do lifts together for dance haha. Someone else commented how as a short dude, you'll find more people that really care more about you, not just your height. It sucks that there are people out there where height is their deal breaker, and I just think that's s… | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 05:45 AM |
| 2 | The best mindset if you struggle to ask women outAs a certified woman, excellent advice. This man is saying, to attract someone, make them happy! It's simple. I would say just to be careful that if you go way too hard with affection or gifts, it can come off as lovebombing or creepy. But personally, nothing makes me want to be with a person more than if they are friendly, engaging, and make me feel like they are happy to be around me. I'd be turned off by someone who thinks that being aloof or pushing me away is how to win my heart. Maybe that… | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Texting Style?Don't overthink it. I know, easier said than done, but I feel like if someone is judging you because of the way you prefer to speak or text, that's THEIR problem and not yours. Personally, I like it when people use haha, lol, or :). I do that a lot, so that's probably why. It's hard to know what someone means when they text, so something short could come off as rude if someone took it the wrong way. Idk texting is annoying, haha. I just hope you find people that are not silly enough to judge you… | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 05:28 AM |
| 1 | So I want opinionsShe was into you! I'd say go for it! Say, "Hey." and hit her with a smile. If she responds, you're good. If she acts weird about it, then it's probably not meant to be. | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 05:13 AM |
| 1 | What to do in between organizing date and actual dateIf this was me, I think sending a meme every now and then or saying "What's up, how ya doin? :)" or whatever would be nice. Complete ghosting isn't a big deal, i think it just depends on the person. If she's a talker (like me) then maybe she'd like to engage more. If she's quiet and doesn't text a lot, just give her some space probably. You could always check in the day before and say like, "hey, need me to bring anything? drinks?" or "are you still on for Saturday?" just to casually she if she'… | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 04:52 AM |
| 1 | 32 year-old wizard running out of time. Do you think seeing an escort will rip the bandaid off, any other thoughts?I think seeing a therapist, specifically a sex therapist would be the best for you. I have suffered with some severe sex-related emotional and physical issues, some of which had to be treated by a physical therapist. Having more sex didn't help, because it was negative every time. I needed to figure out what was the matter with me before I could enjoy sex. Its still a work in progress, but I've come a long way. Example: parents raised me to believe sex was immoral, unsafe, and wrong. So even wit… | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 04:40 AM |
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