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sadly it's legal here at 16. We need some kind of law where until the person is 20 or so, they're only allowed to have sex with people + or - 2 years. I cut a 'friend' off about 10 years ago because he asked me for advice on how to handle a situation where his 32 year old friend was in a 'relationship' with a 15 year old. I told him to go to the police, and he refused. He told me it could ruin his friends life. Right ok.. so nevermind the fact that he having sex with an actual child - nevermind …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:05 PM
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Umm.. presumably this 'girl' in question would be a full grown woman who would be forced to undergo a psych evaluation first? Because excuse me (not) when i say that anyone who chooses to have it done, is not sane. How far removed from any kind of rational thinking does someone have to be to think that that was a rational enough thought to actually voice it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:22 PM
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Agreed. Some people (myself included) had seriously crappy childhood.. full of abuse. But.. i've noticed that the decent ones amongst us will still be kind when talking about their parents. They might keep the hell away for their own sanity, but they won't speak about them with disdain or a sneering tone. The disdainful anger that still burns brightly after so many years, is toxic. Some sadness.. some anger = sure.. understandable. But if they never soften a bit, that's how you should expect to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:12 PM
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:( I just don't even have words here for this.. that doctor is imo as psychopathic as her ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:05 PM
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you summed him up perfectly with the no soul comment. This is honestly terrifying. What would he have done next if he hadn't bragged about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:01 PM
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i honestly have no idea. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:59 PM
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I have literal tears here looking at the picture of her throat. I can't believe someone who was supposed to love her and take care of her abused her trust and her in such a cruel way. Her throat looks terribly painful :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:49 PM
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Just ? This is not mental illness, this is not OCD.. this is not the result of intrusive thoughts or naivety.. this is literal psychopathy. I can't believe she's still trying to excuse his behaviour and saying it's not that serious. Actually i can - i guess when you're a good person, you project your goodness on to them and try to come up with a non evil/psychopathic explanation. This is beyond words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:45 PM
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100% attempted murder. Everyone knows salt can do major damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:43 PM
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You know what, i've never once commented on the size of a guys penis.. whether big or small, it just seems weird to comment unless they actually ask. And yet.. every fucking man on the planet seems to think he has a right to comment on boob size. My boob size, your boob size,.. hell - their chubby male friend's boob size even. ​ I do not give a flying crap what size dick a guy has.. not a single crap. I care about what they do with it, and their foreplay game. and yet.. (in my experience) it's a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:37 PM
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my ex didn't make me orgasm one single time from PIV (and rarely in other ways). I actually feel really damn sad thinking about that - i orgasm very easily from PIV usually, and to not have that happen was beyond frustrating. I honestly cried a few times because it was that bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:23 PM
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That would actually really get on my nerves tbh, but it's the consideration.. the meaning behind this that's the point, and it got me thinking a bit. I automatically check to see what my partner might need or want, and i've never had that before. I've never had a man intuit my needs, or even be able to empathise properly. I want someone that wants to make my life easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:18 PM
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<3 This is lovely, and i love how it shows how strong you're becoming.. have become. Keep on sis, you've got this. ​ I sense you. Call it a sixth sense. Ask any woman. ​ Strangely enough, not all women can do this - and hardly any men know what on earth i'm talking about when i mention it. I just get weird looks of disbelief, as if it can't possibly be true. I wonder if you're possibly an empath. If you've never come across that term before, have a read and see what you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:38 AM
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aww, i love the way he looks up at the end to ask if his present is acceptable and well received. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:34 PM
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most men i've been with certainly have. I think only 1 didn't - he was LV according to this sub (and me now that i'm older and wiser), but he made me feel really safe and cared for. He's the one that i judge other men by and think back to from time to time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:57 PM
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i don't know much about it tbh, but to hazard a guess, it's because they'll allow pretty much anything on their site as long as it brings them money. If you've ever watched porn (i have a few times in the past) then you'll know the kind of categories on there; barely legal teens, gangbangs, brutal bondage etc.. and there's no way on earth that all of those girls are actually consenting to what's being done to them. Many of them look doped out of their heads on hard drugs, and many look genuinely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:39 PM
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Thankyou <3 and agreed, that's why i said i don't regret it, if anyone wants to judge me for it, they're welcome to., I'll defend my actions. i also know he looked at mine a couple of times since i caught him doing it when i came back from using the bathroom. All i did was raise an eyebrow.. i didn't even comment on it. No-one will ever fiind evidence of me doing anything wrong on my phone or my laptop, and the only reason i wouldn't want the person looking is that some of my conversations are q…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:56 PM
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See i always found that strange myself, because i've never found any cat unloving. Yes they want a little more space and alone time than a dog does, and they're fussier about how and when they want physical affection, but they're loyal as hell and brilliant company. I think that you do need a lot of empathy to really get cats, so maybe that's the reason why many men (and some women) dislike them. They just can't or don't want to respect and empathise. I've never met someone with a healthy amount…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:00 PM
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ah yes.. the men whose sense of masculinity is so fragile, that they refuse to walk a small dog in case anyone sees them. You know for a fact that a man as fragile as that would be abusive and controlling - i stay well away from that type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:52 PM
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I probably shouldn't have (i don't regret it, but should have listened to myself and just walked away before that point tbh), but i went through my ex's phone because my intuition was telling me i couldn't trust him. I looked through his texts and photo gallery, and there were literally hundreds of porn pics there. Aside from being disgusted at the fact he'd tried to cheat on me - i actually found myself thinking ''at least he doesn't have very young women on his porn collection''. That was the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:18 PM
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just why? I'm on too many meds right now to form a response other than ''ugh''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:09 PM
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Genius baby is now genius teen. She's just about to start at college and wants to be a doctor., We don't have many uni grads in my family (2 so far in total), but i have no doubt that she'll make it (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:28 PM
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sad isn't it, but yep.. she could keep herself much safer than her dad appeared to be able to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:26 PM
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this. If someone had let my child fall off the bed/sofa even once i'd be worried, if it happened twice, they'd never be allowed to be unsupervised with them again. A slightly scary family story coming up next; my uncle was the same as the guy in this story, and the child was smart (like super smart) - she'd fallen off the sofa twice by the time she was 7 months, so she stopped moving around when she was on the sofa. By the time she was 9 months, she'd figured out how to keep her self safe. I wat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:42 AM
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How on earth did that manage to get to court in the first place? smdh. So glad the judge actually had his head screwed on fairly well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:35 AM
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My most recent ex did that.. it got to the point where i actually felt depressed going round there most of the time. I only hung on as long as i did because i was worried about his mental health. Never doing that again, as soon as they start using me as their therapist, i'm walking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:32 AM
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lol, ditto. Now if a guy were to mention it, i'd be like ''ok.. 1 red flag for NPD. Are there any others?''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:21 PM
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that's sad :( I put up with that with my recent ex. I honestly thought at first that he was just clueless and could improve if i talked to him enough.. yeah no. That didn't work. Never ever tolerating that again (don't think i could even if i wanted to tbh.. i've got way too much sexual frustration anger from my last one).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:38 PM
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His ex's were lying. All the women i've ever spoken to, only orgasm once if that - it seems that men are mistaking sounds of pleasure, as sounds of orgasm. Every time i read the sex sub, i see men there bragging about how they made their gf/wife orgasm at least 3-4 times before they start PIV. Either their women are the hugely rare ones that orgasm quickly with little effort from the man, or the men have no idea when their partner is actually orgasming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:32 AM
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i think we dated the same damn guy. Please tell me yours at least gave some kind of crap about your pleasure, and didn't think 5 seconds of boob grabbing was enough foreplay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:26 AM
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My Nex had the cheek to say to me ''it must just be difficult to make you cum''. No.. it really bloody isn't. Unlike most women, i can orgasm from PIV - but guess who never did with that particular jackhammering, leg cramping, lazy pos? and., many frustrating nights and months later - i walked out straight after spending hours on him, and he was so damn selfish that when i asked him to get me to finish, he laid there with his eyes shut.. kept falling asleep and sighing every time i asked him to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:19 AM
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i think i am.. i mostly float around on the aita forum, but do wander into the relationships and sex subs fairly frequently as well. I'm avoiding the sex sub for the most part now though.. every time i post there i get annoying men messaging me. Wouldn't be so bad if i was in my 20s, but most of them are young enough to be my kids - all i want to do when they pm me is tell them to shut up, go back to college, and tidy their bedrooms up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:19 PM
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i must give off ''piss off and don't even try'' vibes or something.. i've not had hate mail here yet. Not sure whether to be pleased about that or feeling left out..lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:35 AM
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sadly i think you're all being too innocent in your thinking on this one. I think the scumbag actually meant ''and easily manipulated into doing porn''. ​ ''brought to that level'' - means he was grooming her and manipulating her all the way along.. crushing her self esteem and making her think she'd lose him, unless she did exactly what he wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:45 PM
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please please tell me you're going to send that to the woman in question!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:19 PM
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i think rape is generally about 2 things rather than 1. Rape is imo, about sex and power - they get off on overpowering their victim sexually. They get off on taking what they want instead of actually being given permission. If it was just about sex, i wouldn't have been raped - i'd already had sex with the guy.. but he decided that he'd much prefer raping me while i was unconscious due to being drugged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:17 AM
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*looks around and wonders which FDS member filled out the paperwork for that ring*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:33 PM
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I was telling my ex about my past with another ex. He was abusive and although i did leave eventually, i stayed with him much longer than i should have done.. i had nowhere else to go though. My ex asked me why i didn't leave.. why i stayed with him. I told him bluntly that he was asking the wrong question.. and the question he should be asking is why he was such a dick. He didn't get it - even though i spent the next 15 mins educating him on why it's never the victims fault and asking why we st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:24 PM
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What. the. actual. fuck!. I was on a bus one day with my 13 year old daughter. I saw some creep in his mid 20s staring at her.. obviously eyeing her up. I stared directly into his eyes and gave him the filthiest look that's ever been.. he almost insantly looked away. She was 13. 13. 13. wtf? - she was a literal child, with a childs face and a childs brain. i can't comment much more on this topic without getting banned from reddit tbh. I want to do things to men like that so they'll never walk th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:13 PM
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I'm really sorry, it hurts like hell right now for you. Was the argument really your fault though, or were you asking for reasonable things that show care and respect towards you? If it is genuinely your fault, all i can suggest is asking him if he'd be willing to sit and talk about things and how to move past this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:21 PM
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sadly you can't even teach some of them how to fuck. Tends to go along with severely selfish traits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:54 PM
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When my son was small and was complaining he wasn't popular and only had a few friends.. i asked him if he'd rather have 100 mud flavour lollipops, or 2 cola flavour ones. His response was the cola ones. It took him a while to realise that a couple of close friends are much much better than loads of aquaintances. Sounds like mr pity party for 1 hasn't realised that yet. Yes we'd all like to have 100 dating options.. but how many of them are actual options if we cut out the guy that sounds like a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:53 AM
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i might use this to lose those 7lbs i was thinking of shifting. I started eating biscuits because they're so boring and dry i give up munching rapidly, but i think this thread works even better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:46 AM
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That's not competitive - that's just designed to bring down her self esteem because he can't manage to actually care or be happy that she's happy. She needs to find this sub tbh.. and he needs dumping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:56 PM
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Every time i see someone saying ''good bot'', it makes me smile and laugh a little. I get a very cute mental image of someone patting a cute little bot on the head, and it turning in little circles while making contented little bot noises.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:25 PM
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I got a text from my ex.. I walked out on him on Boxing day, after a seriously terrible evening together, but due to his mental health issues, and me being scared he'd do something to himself, i told him i'd consider trying again when he'd been through therapy for a couple of months. Well, it's been almost a couple of months.. i've seen him a few times for a quick cuppa or when i've picked up some of my things from his place. I saw him briefly on valentines day, and i realised that i literally n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:21 PM
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worst D i ever had was all about the girth. Best sex i ever had, the guy was pretty big, but it wasn't the size that was the point. It was the enthusiasm.. the want for it to work for me. That was genuine passionate sex, not some idiot getting off at my expense. 2nd best sex i ever had was with a guy that was a little smaller than average - but he was lovely in bed, and it worked perfectly for me. I've never felt as cared for, before or since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:35 PM
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Both of them don't sound amazing to me tbh, but any kind of self reflection has to be a positive. Hopefully he actually keeps on with it instead of brushing it off and going back to his gaming constantly. (ha - why do i still hold any hope for that crap.. )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:14 PM
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yup.. got it perfectly. Why is that? - i mean.. we're all humans, so why do the words coming out of my mouth mean absolute crap to most men, but the minute their guy friend says something, they're all over it. I pointed this out repeatedly to my ex. I gave him advice and he ignored it, then a friend of his would say the same thing, or he'd watch a youtube vid and suddenly the idea is amazing. Forgetting oc that i'd said the same thing like 5 times already.. ugh and puke. I would honestly love to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:12 PM
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There's zero truth to that at all. What there is (usually) truth to, is the fact that older men are better in bed than when they were younger. Let that sink in for a moment.. You know that older man that gropes you for 10 seconds before trying to jackhammer you? = yep.. he's better in bed now than he used to be. Scary huh. What the hell did his past gf's have to deal with if he's still that freaking selfish and lazy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:27 PM
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Probably be better off convincing him to change his diet tbh.. or not. My Ex was always complaining about his bowel movements.. i got to hear about how many times he had to go, the consistency and the colour (oh joy.. sigh). He got checked over.. nothing was wrong except his diet, and he's still whining about how often he goes and has diarrhoea. I gave up trying to get him to change his diet, simply pointed out to him that he can't whine about something if he doesn't even try to fix it. I think …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:39 PM
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and yet they cry when we dump them for a new model that isn't a piece of crap that objectifies women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:34 PM
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Does he think people actually need to be informed of how the baby was created? like duh.. we know you had sex, but we didn't actually want to have that announced thankyou. and just eww for the milf comment.. how disrespectful do you have to be to reduce your gf/wife to a sex object?.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:28 PM
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just wtf to that one, how seriously screwed up do you have to be to even think that's an okay comment to make to someone you're trying to date/meet with? The massage comments are ick, but the kicking one is scary! - glad you blocked that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:16 PM
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Is this the brother of that guy that won the lottery and needs you to keep the money in his account for whatever reason.. ? you just have to send him £2000 so it can be transferred.. It reads like a scam message tbh.. he's just throwing a lot of words in there but doesn't seem to know what many of them actually mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:58 PM
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Oh yes!, ​ as a brief note, if anyone misses sleeping next to someone - i recommend a weighted blanket or a cat. A weighted blanket gives you the great feeling of being wrapped up and nice and secure, but without bitching at you or snoring. as for cats = enough said.. they're just awesome (: ​ Happy Valentines everyone - may your day be lovely <3 I'm having a nice warm bath with my favourite epsom salts.. then i'm going to paint my toenails, watch a couple of films.. read a bit of my new book, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:42 PM
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absolutely. I saw my ex's place for the fist time and thought ''umm..''.. but was so dumb that i thought i could help him get sorted.. that he just didn't know 'how'. Nope.. he knows full well how to do things.. he just lacks the craps to actually do anything other than watch porn and whine about how everyone in the world is mean and never acknowledges his greatness. \pukes at recalling how i had to ask him to wash certain bits a lot better than he'd managed to*.*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:36 PM
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''I also recommend anyone here to save the handbook or any messages that seem valuable enough'' Thankyou - i think i'll do exactly that. I have a really good long term memory for things anyway, so the lessons i'm learning here will be remembered, but i'll definitely save the handbook just in case. There's a lot of information in there that i'd like to re-read verbatim rather than just remembering the gist of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:31 PM
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thankyou <3 ​ I'm not even sure i want a man anymore tbh.. the more i reflect on my relationship and dating history, the more i'm like ''nope.. screw that.. i'll just read this book and stretch out on my nice clean bed''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:30 PM
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exactly. I had pelvic inflammatory disorder and was in so much pain that my doctor wanted to call an ambulance because she wasn't 100% sure it wasn't appendicitis - i literally had to walk home 2 miles anyway with antibiotics because i had to take care of my 2 month old baby. Man gets a cold and he's in bed shrieking that he's dying, and NEEDS you to do everything for him (at the same time as you have the exact same cold and symptoms oc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:41 AM
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I don't believe it can stop no, and i've never once seen it happen. To abuse someone, you have to have a severe lack of love, care, respect and empathy for them. That's something that's wired into your brain. I think all you can really do is to be there for her when she needs it, and to show her that you care, and she's worthy of care. No-one can love the abuse out of someone.. no-one other than a neurosurgeon can fix their shittily wired brain and personality, and that surgery doesn't even exis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:19 AM
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Lol, i think that's actually how i stumbled across this sub. I started reading and realised it wasn't a hate sub at all, it's a close group of women that are trying to navigate a seriously crappy world. Welcome to any new women that are reading and trying to decide whether to join or not. Joining his sub is the best idea i've had in a long time <3 ​ (\edit; thankyou so much for the award - you're lovely <3 )*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:01 AM
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Nope, you do not sound 'a bit crazy'. You sound like you're the right level of cautious and i agree with all those protective measures completely, except that i refuse to give them even a peek at my backup fb account. Any man that calls you paranoid lacks empathy - keep well away from that kind of person. ​ I tried out a hookup site a few years ago and met up with 1 guy before realising that nope, hookups really aren't for me (didn't sleep with him either.. i got a case of the 'icks' and noped o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:51 AM
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that's just..ick. How exactly did saying they want to hurt you become a 'joke'? Like.. in eveery joke there's a grain of truth, so when someone jokes about shit like this, believe them and run. At best he's a misogynistic asshole who won't give a crap about you and has zero idea what respecting a partner is.. at worst he's literally a gf/wife beater. Probably both. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:47 AM
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''I never ask''. Never ask her what you turd? never ask how she is or if she's actually okay? never ask her if she needs help and an actual partner - you know the type of real man that would NEVER let his partner do all the work, or more than 50% of it. Yeah.. screw that - even in my total pickme days, if a man was trying to get me to do more for him than he was doing for me, i'd quickly shut that crap down. I refuse to run myself ragged for any man. If he actually gave a crap, he'd pull his wei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:11 AM
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that's plain psychopathic. i feel guilty for my first thought being to rob a few banks and get enough money to be set for life.. why in the hell would anyone want to actually hurt anyone? i have a psych degree ffs, and i still find this stuff impossible to wrap my mind around. He'd leave his son motherless and be okay with that = just no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:37 PM
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That's cute (: I like the thought he's putting into it and that he's asking for advice just to make sure he's doing the right thing. Only she has the final say in this oc, but it would definitely make me smile if someone put that much thought into things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:29 PM
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love it lol. I've had similar conversations with people myself.. they think i'm joking but tbh, if it turns out that my old age is spent with cats = that works for me. Cats are sweet, loyal and easy to read.. they have no sinister motives. If they want something they ask and they don't leave crap everywhere. Takes 5 mins to clean up after a cat each day, and they offer so much in return. I don't have any cats of my own right now, but i have one that's adopted me.. she's so so sweet. She runs up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:15 PM
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thankyou <3 I told him at the time that it wasn't funny, and he apologised, but i just couldn't get those words out of my head. They kept replaying over and over in the following weeks (i should have dumped him instantly tbh, but it took a while longer..bleh).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:11 PM
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exactly. I'd be scared as hell that he'd kill me in my sleep or something, no way would i want to be anywhere near someone like that. My ex made a really weird comment one evening when i was itching between my shoulder blades.. he said something like ''oh that's just where the knife will go when i stab you'', Umm? excuse me? how the holy f**k is that comment anything other than creepy and scary as hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:55 PM
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What a fucking asshole. ​ I am literallly seething right now at this. I don't understand how someone can be so cruel and still believe their wife is way more upset than is justified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:47 PM
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the smell? I've never been with a man that shaved their armpits.. does it really smell that much different?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:35 PM
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it happens - i have dyslexia so often have to read some things a few times before they make enough sense <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:20 PM
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The entitlement = astonishing. let's take a look within.. I bet he cannot wipe his ass nor peel his eyes off him.. ​ He'll take you to the movies but you can buy the food.. for his momma never taught him not to be so freaking rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:18 PM
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I think you may have misread or mistyped brother instead of sister (?) The brother is the guy that bought a cheap engagement ring.. his gf/fiancee and his sister are upset at the lack of care and effort he's put into the choice of ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:13 PM
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I've actually had a conversation recently with a midwife who was telling me that the longest labours she's seen are usually from scared mothers that don't really want their child to be born yet. I completely believe it and that's sad as hell that women can't be confident enough to know their baby will be safe on the outside. The power of the human mind is astonishing.. some people can raise or lower their body temperature at will, so it doesn't surprise me that a woman can slow down the labour p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:30 PM
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it won't get any better, trust me. Next thing you know he'll be bitching about the postage cost of your birthday and christmas presents.. (sadly i'm speaking from experience here) by year 3, he won't even bother to get you presents unless your birthday happens to be on the same day as his.. then he'll only get you anything so he gets something of the same value in return. By year 4, you'll be trapped with a kid with him, and he'll bitch at the cost of diapers and new clothes for the baby. He'll …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:07 AM
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I see it as an anitdote to toxicity tbh.. like a cure for slowly being poisoned when you weren't aware of just how ill you had become. So.. if wanting a man that genuinely loves, cares, listens, and wants to provide for some things makes me toxic.. bring it on - i'll be so toxic that maybe scrotes will actually keep away for a change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:58 AM
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that made me laugh way more than it should have done.. (: *cue flashbacks to trying to explain anything to my ex*..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:57 AM
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To me it just looks like he's aged a bit tbh.. his face looks fine either way, he just looks a bit older, like his face has taken on its adult look. ​ I actually had labiaplasty some years ago (not for purely cosmetic reasons.. it was partly due to a traumatic event that i was trying to put behind me, and partly due to pain/discomfort). I told my Nex about it last year, and you know the crapheads response to it? he got mad that i'd had it done by a male doctor.. wtf?? and then he got mad because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:15 PM
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Just my experience, but i've never known a guy that couldn't get it up due to antidepressants.. it can make it more difficult to orgasm, and more difficult to feel pleasure (same as it can/does for women), but imo, the percentage of men that genuinely can't get it up due to antidepressants is pretty small.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:47 PM
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awesome plan.. wish we could really do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:08 AM
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Oops, sorry - was it because of what i asked?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:29 PM
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Would someone mind sending me a link to the thread at all please? I can't read white on black right now.. the words are floating around in 3d and making me feel nauseous. If i get a link to it i can change the colours a bit with my colour overlay software.. I did a search for it but couldn't find it in the results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:24 PM
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Ah the unlined forehead and eyes of the psychopath. (cover his lower face and see whether he still looks like he's smiling, it's creepy af). The nice little brand on her that says she's now his property.. ​ ick ick ick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:06 PM
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i thought the same. Her eyes look warm and happy enough (atm), but his eyes are soulless.. i literally want to grab her and throw her into therapy before she marries him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:45 PM
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thankyou (: I'll do some reading this afternoon or evening. I got the impression the guy i met was a psychopath tbh, but some of the stuff like physical touch is definitely something he was trying to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:31 PM
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can i ask what tactics you observed him using? how did he act etc? I don't know much about RP but i should read more tbh before i go trying to date again.. i think i came across one a few years back. He was definitely something anyway, he was pure manipulation and the vibe i got from him was so repellant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:26 AM
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and those are the reported stats.. I've literally only been with 1 man that didn't pressure me in any way, shape or form. ALL the rest either assaulted or coerced me. They say it's not all men, but when you tell them that they are actually one of those men, they freak the hell out and twist themselves into pretsels trying to justify why coercion is not sexual assault or rape. It's nice and simple, if someone says no once or seems less than enthusiastic, it's not consensual., it's sexual assault/…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:38 AM
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You know, this is just my experience, but EVERY time a man has told me he's not something, he's turned out to be exactly that. So here's what my mind is actually understanding from his profile; ''Recently divorced (my wife got sick of my lazy ass in bed and zero pleasure for her, so i cheated and the bitch had the cheeekk!! to ask me for a divorce). Looking to get back out there and spread the stds around with a few unsuspecting women (at the same time of course, the more the better, threesomes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:53 AM
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I actually quite like the tradition of passing on a family ring, but; i also think that the only way that would be okay for me, is if the marriage it came from was a very happy one. I'm not superstitious (really), but it seems like a bad idea to me if you accept a ring when the person originally wearing it wasn't actually happy in their own partnership. It seems like a bad omen tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:37 AM
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That must be a tough one if you're used to men and them making the first move. How about starting off with something like ''I like you, how are you feeling about me so far?''. That way you're showing interest but also doing it in a non pressured way, and putting the ball over in her court a bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:46 PM
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Trust scrotey dickheads to twist everything to their advantage. My love language is actually physical touch. Some small bits of the others too, but mostly physical touch. What that means for me is that i feel connected and happy if i'm receiving physical affection.. such as cuddling, stroking my skin, etc. It doesn't mean sex - though with the right man, that's a natural part of affection anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:48 PM
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Leaving big warm hugs here if you'd like them. I know it hurts like hell, .if you ever feel like writing him an email/letter/text again, and you feel like sending it, just write it all out on paper and then burn it. Cry for you.. cry for how much he hurt you.. cry for how lost and lonely he made you feel. Cry as long as you need to or want to, and once your tears are done, pick yourself up and do something kind for yourself. Treat yourself to that film that the dickhead refused to bother watchin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:40 PM
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Yep, i've been translating it into ''sorry you're such a bitch and complain about everything that ISN'T my FAULT!!!'' ever since i met my 3rd narcissist. He loved saying crap like that and other gems such as ''sorry you misunderstood''.. ''i didn't mean it the way you took it''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:27 PM
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​ I was thinking earlier how sad it is that vanilla sex is now pretty much a niche kink. So out of the ordinary that it's not normal anymore. I would literally love vanilla sex, i think back to the man i had it with once and actually feel longing. I wouldn't want him back even if it was possible, but the sex we had was lovely.. i could literally fall asleep peaceful curled in his arms, and i never sleep well with anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:42 PM
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Just a heads up.. if you put too much of what you don't want on your profile, and give men the sense that you're longing for love too much, you'll give the predators a better idea of how to manipulate you. Online dating tends to be full of narcs and psychopaths anyway, so the chances of you coming across at least one are super strong. Be careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:23 PM
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Yep.. some fun things he said; ​ ''why are you bringing that up again??''. (umm because dude, it happened again) ''we're not going to have an argument about this are we?''. (umm, i was hoping that we could just discuss things like you know ''normal'' people) ''I thought we were just going to have a nice evening.. i don't want to talk about Pete*'' (Pete* is a friend/neighbour of mine and i was upset because he'd told me earlier that day that he might have cancer. My Nex was for some reason reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:45 AM
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yep.. actual text from my Nex coming up.. he sent it a few days ago; ​ ''i'm sitting here thinking how badly i've been. Hurts'' really? bet it doesn't hurt anywhere near as badly as i was hurting when we were together. Like that night i walked out.. when i was upset due to something happening with my daughter, and you looked at me and went ''you're in a bad mood aren't you!!''.. and then a minute later made some snarky little comments about how i should be wearing the socks you got me, and the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:40 AM
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i was wondering about that myself. I mean.. if a man tested me like that, i wouldn't be interested after that point, because i'd be wondering exactly how many more 'tests' he's going to try and put me through. So.. i understand why it would be tempting to test a man, but would a truly decent man really want to bother continuing after that point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:04 PM
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See i don't understand how men can be attracted to very young women, and not find it creepy as hell. I can't be attracted to anyone younger than me.. truthfully i struggle with men even of my own age (going to work on that one.. i want someone my own age, my last one was 12 years older and that was too much tbh). It's just weird and yuck. My Nex told me he'd go as low as early 30s.. and i saw him eyeing up women in their 20s plenty of times. He's 52 = wtf? pornsick, pervy, manchild that still ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:27 PM
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good way of kickstarting my diet i guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:15 PM
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my ex left a shit stain on my toilet seat as well when he came over one evening. I spoke to him about it as gently as i could, and asked him to check the toilet before he leaves the bathroom in future. He was embarassed, but as i said to him, i'd rather he be embarassed than i have to clean his (literal) shit up. I would never ever leave a bathroom like that.. i once peed all over a hospital floor and was mortified that i couldn't clean it up after myself and a nurse had to do it (had hip replac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:08 AM
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too true.. it works for them but not on them. Most of them actually emerge worse than ever before from therapy, because they spent the time learning how to manipulate better and use psych language to gaslight their victims better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:34 AM
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They don't want a solution, they want to feel just as victimized as their victims so they can ride a pretend oppression train. ^^ this exactly. an ex of mine was physically abused in a relationship some years after we'd split up. The guy was a total dick in many ways, but to give credit where it's due, he didn't sit around whining for years and dragging every ounce of sympathy he could out of everyone around him. Nope, he set up a mens domestic violence helpline and campaigned to open mens shelt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:30 AM
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Exactly. The only apology i'm counting from now on, is one that comes with immediately and permanently changed behaviour. When i think of the times i've needed to apologise, and i've meant it, i've always changed. I've always made sure i don't repeat whatever i did (and since i have aspergers, i have been pretty damn clumsy at points throughout my life). my ex repeatedly did the same crap over and over and over and over again. Every single weekend (or near enough) it would be the same thing agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:52 PM
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The cretin made her pay half of the $20 meal cost, and refers to valentines day as ''vag day''.. I literally feel ill. and really freaking rageful at the nasty mind of that disgusting scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:40 PM
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lol, that got an actual involuntary laugh from me, thankyou for sharing (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:35 PM
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that sounds like heaven to me right now. I don't go out much due to disability tbh, so i do most of my socialising online in groups, but i've made some lovely local friends from groups. I've heard that there are some really good meet up groups for women in most areas.. might be worth a look to see what's in your area <3 I think i'll look more myself after lockdown finishes actually.. i need to get out of the house more often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:10 PM
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Yep, no thanks.. i'm happy with a book, a nice glass of something, and Netflix. I like my peaceful, lvm free life. The next one is going to have to be perfect for me to persuade me to even consider trying again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:01 PM
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way too true. My NVM Nex and i were supposedly serious, not casual, and no effort in bed from his side whatsoever. Took me months to realise that all his excuses were bs.. and he actually didn't want to bother. Told me one day ''it must just be hard to make you cum''. Oh nice.. blame it on me when you haven't tried longer than 30 seconds without sighing and trying to get me to do stuff for you instead. Ugh.. men. Not happening again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:58 PM
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I've never seen any negativity here towards loving, caring, mutually satisfying sex. All i've seen is us very rightly saying that we're tired of feeling used.. tired of being hurt.. tired of never being allowed to speak up when we're uncomfy, because ''you must be positive towards all sex acts and do whatever freaky sex act your partner wants you to, because if you were openminded enough and really loved him you would!!''. I'm so tired of having to pretend to be okay with porn. i'm not actually …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:30 AM
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i'm guessing it means '' look the way pornsick men want you to look, clean the house for me, worship my dirty butt and make me the head of the household.. wear short, short skirts, dress up in suspenders for me while i jerk off to porn next to you, and bring me a sandwich.. now!!. Oh, and if it takes you more than 5 minutes to get ready when i want to go out, i'll dump you for someone else that's 10 years younger than your old age of 28''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:02 PM
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I'm guessing narcissistic personality disorder.. I couldn't tell you he does or doesn't have it for sure without a lot more information, but he does fit from the bit you've said so far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:55 AM
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I seriously wish i was a lesbian, or at least partly bi so i could focus on women instead. Sadly i have zero attraction to women.. the closest i've got to being attracted to one is by thinking something like ''i wish i had a figure like hers''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:32 PM
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That's so sad, and so damn true. My Nex towards the end would hardly touch me or even make eye contact, and i started cringing every time he'd touch my arm.. or look at me, because i knew he wanted sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:35 PM
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the weirdest one for me in my days of online dating, was the guy that put on his bio that he's 5ft8. I turned up wearing flat shoes so we'd be the same height, and he was a good 2-3 inches taller than me. I was obviously happy he was taller than he said, but umm.. do men just guess their height?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:52 AM
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LVM's life rule seems to be ''if you do it badly enough, someone else will pick up the slack for you and will pamper you'', Not even partly joking on this next one sadly, my recent NVM Nex had bedroom issues (as in; he's a lazy dickhead and blames it on health issues), I got so fed up with it and the repeated cOMmunICaTIon, that i frequently got stressed out and snappy with him. I snapped at him one day that i didn't get why he couldn't just slow the hell down and make it slow enough for me to e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:42 PM
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you just know that you'd need serious therapy if you ever saw that ones porn history..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:39 PM
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I spent all of last week feeling rageful and pissed off tbh.. i was thinking back to all the crap my Nex did, and how much i tolerated and for so long. I'm not saying it's my fault, because it's not.. but holy crap i should have just left way sooner than i did. As i said in a poem many years ago ​ 'clearsight is a hurtful gift.. ..always exacts a price''
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:05 AM
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Works for me. I get way more pleasure from cats than i ever could from a LVM. Cats are loving and genuinely care about you if you're their friend. I sink into perfect bliss when being cutely headbutted by a kitty friend. No LVM has ever made me feel anywhere near as comfortable or at peace. Not a fan of wine, but sign me up for the candles and cats (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:50 AM
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Aspie here.. relate so much to this. ​ My house is now clean and tidy enough for visitors at any time, but i didn't manage to get to this point for a long time, and i had to massively sort out my mental health, and get into a routine for that to happen. Executive functioning issues are a total pita.. you want to do stuff but you honestly can't manage to. I'll happily give tips and lend a hand to anyone that's struggling to sort their place out. One of my best friends was a bit of a hoarder and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:21 AM
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SE London here as well, not met any kind of decent man so far.. they're all into going 50-50 on a McDonalds happy meal (and they literally mean 50-50.. not even paying for their actual share that is twice the price of yours).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 06:48 PM
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Love this, thankyou <3 ​ I dumped my NVM Nex about 4 weeks ago now, and in that time i've decorated my dining room, my depression has lifted, i'm feeling much more positive and energetic. I still have some sleeping issues due to my ptsd having a flare up (he caused that, but it will get easier in the next few weeks and months and i'll get back to normal). I had to pop round to his place last week to grab my tin of gloss paint (i decorated his bedroom for him.. yes i know i was a total idiot), an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:06 AM
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I only use a regular toothbrush, but i also use a waterpik. My dentist loves how clean my teeth always are. I wouldn't say a regular toothbrush is a red flag, but i would expect to see damn good flossing habits and regularly changed toothbrushes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:37 PM
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yup. My Nex had a fb for a while some years ago (he didn't tell me that until months into our relationship), and when he told me, i sat there thinking ''how?''. I mean.. he was so lazy in bed that i'm utterly baffled as to how he kept a fb for more than a week. I'm actually pretty sure he cheated on me.. and i really don't care. I actually feel sorry for whoever the poor woman was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:07 PM
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and yet these are the same men that cum in 3 minutes of jackhammer crap sex that does nothing for you, and then roll over and fall asleep straight after telling you they're too tired to carry on doing anything for you. The irony escapes them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:03 PM
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INTJ actually has the most psychopaths and covert narcissists out of any type. I'm wary as hell if a man tells me he's an INTJ. I myself used to score as that before i did a huge amount of self work and shifted over to trusting my intuition more.. now i score as INFJ. I get on well with some INTJs.. the conversations can be great, but quite a lot of them are arrogant and unfeeling dickheads that think they're above everyone else and should be worshipped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 10:42 AM
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Agree 100%. I have to admit that i have in the past watched porn myself (mostly the massage and sensual stuff.. i like the scenes that actually look like making love rather than screwing), but you know what? When i got with a partner, i stopped watching it completely.. because to me it felt wrong, like i was cheating by imagining myself with someone else. That didn't fit with my values or the care i felt towards my partner. I don't understand why men think it's acceptable to get off to another w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 10:12 AM
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This. I have aspergers, and part of that means that i see the world in a very logical way (i don't always act logically *glares at my heart*), but i need logical advice, and i love that this sub offers that in a way that cuts through all the bullshit platitudes and ''i'm so sorry''s. There's a time for being coddled, but when you keep picking lvm, and treating them the way you want to be treated, rather than the way they're treating you, that is the time to have someone say ''just no.. quit doin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:52 AM
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I just can't even think of anything to say about the sheer stupidity of this.. even my brain is rolling its eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:46 PM
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Orgasm can and does happen sometimes during rape.. whether man raping woman, man raping man, or woman raping man, woman raping woman etc.. It's not that there's actual enjoyment, it's simply that stimulation of certain areas results in orgasm sometimes.. it's a physical (not linked to psychological enjoyment) reaction. Same as sometimes a mother breastfeeding her baby will orgasm (and there's so many women and men traumatised by the way their ''body let them down'', that that's one of the bigges…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:45 PM
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Can confirm this sadly. I'd just had a hip replacement and was walking super slowly on 2 crutches (and when i say slowly, i mean elderly people with walking sticks were overtaking me and leaving me trainling behind in their dust).. and guess what happened? every single time i went out, i was approached by men. Men that could see i was in pain and couldn't move.. i was literally a captive audience for their crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:14 PM
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Did anyone else catch the remark in his bio saying ''this one''.? any time a man refers to me as ''this one'', i'm noping the hell out of there instantly. Same as if he calls me ''the girlfriend'' I am not a car or a plant pot.. i'm a human being with a name. Calling someone ''this one'' is literally saying ''this object is making me happy right now, but i'll buy a new one if it stops working''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:21 AM
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I don't get it either. My son has autism and is very sensory seeking, so i had to spend some time teaching him that it's not acceptable to wee over the wall or his hands.. But even he figured out by the age of about 6ish, that if you leave a puddle on the floor, you clean it up. We have a nice, clean bathroom now - and there's honestly never even a drop on the floor (now and then on the underside of the toilet seat sure, but that's an easy cleanup job and even females get it there from time to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:58 AM
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exactly. Be your own hero is how i'm trying to live my life. I have a soft spot for people with issues, but i know i can't handle too many issues without sacrificing myself, and i'm not doing that. I owe it to myself and to my children, to make sure i'm healthy and happy enough to keep being well enough for them. I ditched a lvm recently, because he was dragging me down to his level.. i'm not going there. I will walk on my own level, and wait to meet someone that's right there with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:30 PM
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That line actually brought tears to my eyes.. it really does feel like your body isn't your own a lot of the time. At home i wear what i want.. i dance around in a vest top and shorts, but outside i cover up.. i can't handle the constant looks and comments. I even get comments from people telling me that i should wear short skirts outside because i've got a great figure. ugh.. my 'great figure'' is the reason i don't want to go out like that. I just want to be me.. not be leered at and have my b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:15 PM
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This is why i'm never going to feel bad that i looked through my ex's phone. My intuition was screaming at me to listen, so i did, and i found out that he's a scumbag that tried to cheat on me, and has a porn addiction. Guess what he'd have found if he'd looked though my phone? = nothing other than me talking a bit to a friend and saying that i was unhappy in the relationship (duh.. turns out the dickwad is a diagnosed narcissist and didn't bother telling me til 9 months in). ​ I don't understan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:24 PM
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Screw that. I do have a son, and if he brought home a girl (woman when he's older) that couldn't cook, i know it wouldn't bother him. He's a lovely kid and knows that women are equals.. if he wants to eat then he'll cook and offer to cook for her as well. I've brought him up to do his fair share.. it does help that he's autistic tbh though - he's always got on better with girls than with boys because girls are raised to show empathy, and he gets on better with people he can be himself with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:20 PM
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