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| 5 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3 | SEEKING ADVICE | sister_siren | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 01:28 AM |
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| 5 | PSA: Don't let a man shame you for doing your researchYeah, I love this whole "meet my representative" thing big time. It just happened to me hardcore - perfect gentleman, very affectionate and affirming, movie-like magical first couple dates. Don't know what triggered his true colors exactly, but it got abruptly ugly and he broke it off with me... and thank GOD. It was really creepy, though, to see such a stark twist of character. Made me seriously question his sanity, because it was just so icky. To be one person for three weeks, that same person… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Yeah it’s only been like two days, so hence the analysis. It was fresh on my brain, and I’m trying to forgive and forget in whatever way I can, and for me it has helped in the past to try to understand and empathize with the other person. This was just sooo like what the fuck though, and I’m fully aware I won’t have good answers. It’s happened before and it’ll happen again. Humans. Sheesh. But I mean, now I’m talking to other guys, and trying my best not to spiral around the issue anymore, and f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Or if they’re just a good person, right? Haha I just think, if someone treats someone the way I was treated? They’ve got issues. Don’t know if it’s just the issue of being a real dick or some serious unhealed wounds. It’s probably both, and it’s no excuse. I’m grateful to be out of it so quickly. And it’s weird. It’s like I feel really hurt, but glad I found out about what he’s really like and glad it didn’t go further. But still hurt by how he treated me in the end, contrasting with the way he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Very valid. I mean, in one sense you are completely right because obviously he didn’t want to see me anymore hahaha it’s more of the circumstances by which he chose to break up with me that got me confused and questioning, cause they were VERY weird. And I’ve been dating for awhile now with some very interesting stories. This particular one takes the cake. So yeah, he could very well be a jerk that lead me on. I have no clue why he did it until the day before our date which he heartily agreed to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Hey that’s encouraging hahaha I am learning after dating for a while now that it is genuinely really hard to find someone really good that really fits with me. Which is crazy. Like... why. Why are men such fuckin babies, man? Don’t get me wrong, I have a lot of wonderful male friends. But it seems like in the dating scene? They are so few and far between. Haven’t found a keeper yet. Sheesh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 03:30 AM |
| 3 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Ahhh, I’m so sorry. Wow. That must’ve felt absolutely awful, having been in it for a year and then having him treat you like it didn’t matter and it wasn’t a loss to him. Dammit man. I am SO grateful it was short lived, and that he didn’t actually get to know me deeply and then ditch. It wasn’t too personal cause it never got too personal. We were actually about to get more personal when he decided to bail (which could be a reason; fear of intimacy is common). That’s happened to me before though… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Thaaaank you. Very much. Yeah that was really due to some good advice given to me by other great women. I have also learned just from how easily I can get wrapped up in the idea of a person when they impress me that it’s a good idea to keep my mind and options active and open to possibilities in the beginning of a potential relationship. I’ve certainly gotten hurt in the past by not doing that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 03:04 AM |
| 3 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3To your questions, I think he complimented me more after meeting me, actually. There were a few before we met up, but for the most part, they happened on our dates or after. And yeah that’s goooood advice, though. Wow thank you. The whole complimenting or romanticizing the relationship and how well we fit didn’t seem like a problem until I was in retrospect like... did you even really want to know who I deeply am, or was the surface level way we seemed to fit together the only thing truly enamor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Oooof. Thank you for reminding me of and allowing me anger. Seriously. I think many of us grew up in a culture that doesn’t allow us to be angry. It’s wrong or violent or bad. And I struggle with that, so thank you. I’m gonna go be a little angry for the hurt inflicted on me. YEAH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 02:43 AM |
| 3 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Oh yeah, trust is absolutely earned, and proof is in the pudding. I was actually pointedly dating other guys at the same time as him to redirect my energy elsewhere so I wouldn’t get too invested too quickly. It helped A LOT in the end. And you know, it could be the case that he wants to just fuck around and we were quickly getting too into it, so he freaked and ditched the minute he felt it really becoming something real. The vulnerability scares the shit outta some guys. It wouldn’t be the fir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 02:41 AM |
| 4 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Ah yes thank you! I’m sorry that happened to you. And I completely agree, and am SUPER grateful it ended soon and the true colors came out before we got went any further. I guess I’m in this weird place where like, I’m SUPER glad he’s gone and it’s over - what a relief, but I’m still hurt and disoriented. I’m still confused and I hate not understanding, because understanding gives me more grace, empathy, and hope in humanity hahahaha Not that I would ever date him again (CAUSE BIG NO), but I lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 02:36 AM |
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