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Where are you living that women see their partner’s career success as their own investment? Even my mother’s generation didn’t think like that and she is 70.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:16 PM
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HVM don’t want open relationships. My partner would be very offended if I suggested that he could/should sleep with other women. Monogamy is a cornerstone for emotional intimacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 02:23 PM
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Definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 11:42 AM
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If you are an attractive woman you can find any kind of relationship you want, regardless of the labels you give yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 06:13 AM
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Pretty much. If you survive I’ll make you a pie. Feel better now?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 09:00 AM
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Age gap relationships are normally between low value people. HVM and women marry their equals - and part of being an equal comes from shared life experience- hence the lack of interest in partnering with someone significantly older or younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 05:46 AM
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I would hook up with one of the other women if an ugly guy was the only option.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 05:39 AM
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Isn’t this obvious? For both men and women if you are attractive with good social skills it’s very easy to find an equally attractive partner with good social skills. This is just stating the obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 05:39 AM
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I don’t know about white women but I (Asian women) have zero attraction to fat or even chubby men. It’s probably cultural but our fat shaming culture means that I find fatness both physically unappealing and also a sign that someone is lazy. I’m more attracted to Asian men but I’m not opposed to skinny men from other backgrounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 06:14 AM
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I’m a woman and I don’t know any women who say that. Maybe as teenager but all adult women care that their partner makes as much as them at a minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 06:04 AM
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I find her and Margot Robbie extremely unattractive but more so for their body shape. Both of the only look good at very low body weights. Otherwise it’s extremely apparent that their waist is as thick and their hips and they have no ass. They’re super masculine and look like they have a belly even when the rest of them is thin. They are both examples of when the media insists someone is attractive sheeple go along with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:54 AM
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I’m saying that people with good executive function are far less likely to have children hastily or with people with undesirable or incompatible personalities. So no I’m not implying a moral judgement about staying together for kids. I’m stating that people who are poor at picking people to have children with or poor at family planning in general are undesirable partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:18 AM
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Because most men know they can’t pleasure a woman and so they are terrified of comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 10:39 AM
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I completely agree. I have been married and felt a huge sense of relief when I got divorced. I was so happy to live alone, having time to indulge my interests and spend more time with my family, friends and on hobbies. I have since found a new partner who I am much more compatible with and much more attracted to. We have no plans to live together, we both enjoy living in our own homes and spending quality time together. It’s easier to have happy relationships when you write your own narrative ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 11:40 AM
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That’s a massive mistake but each to their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:07 PM
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Aren’t you concerned that he’s the type of man who has children with “deadbeats”?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 12:36 PM
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People who have children hastily and/or are unable to maintain a relationship with someone they have had a child with have serious character flaws. They either lack judgment when picking a partner or they lack the empathy, communication skills and commitment that is required for such a serious undertaking as raising a child. So no. Single dads are kinda up there with people with serious criminal records. Everyone makes mistakes but I haven’t made such an irreversible mistake so I have no interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 12:34 PM
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Would be an excellent start.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:14 AM
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One personal anecdote isn’t a statistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 09:46 AM
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If 2 women had your child and left you have some work to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 04:43 AM
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I’m childless in a LTR with someone who also does not want to have children. We don’t want to get married. I built a successful business and was able to retire in my mid 30’s now I take dressage lessons and go rock climbing. My partner is also independently wealthy and will retire when Covid ends. We plan to travel internationally 6-9 months of the year. I feel a bit sorry for my friends with children so try very hard not to tell them how extremely happy I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 04:19 AM
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So you have neither looks nor money. Yeah it’s a problem…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 04:10 AM
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If 2 women decided to become single mothers over being with you, you are the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 04:04 AM
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Those celebs have children in their 40’s with donated eggs - eggs from younger women - the avoid the genetic Russian roulette that is having children at an advanced age. Women in their 40s who want children and don’t have them should accept that it is due to their own poor planning and choices. Usually resulting from not having relationships with men who are actually interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 04:03 AM
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Men will get arranged marriages to women within their league and still simp after women they have not chance with. The problem men have is that they feel entitled to have access to women who find them revolting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 12:44 AM
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No. Men need to pass a minimum standard of attractiveness (which differs from person yet person) to be able to have the opportunity to date a woman in the first place. The longer a woman is with a man the more important assets become.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 12:49 PM
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If you are 33 and he has zero savings and few assets it’s going to take quite a few years for him to be in a financial position where you will be able to take time off to have Children. Biology suggests that at 33 he will need more time to do that than you have fertility wise. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 02:59 PM
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This just makes me so happy that I’m from a culture where men would rather be castrated than allow a woman to pay for his dinner yet alone his bills…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 04:22 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 05:43 AM
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I’m not sure about Koreans and Japanese.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 11:17 PM
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The thing is the good quality women are all in serious relationships, if not married by about 27. I’m 35 and have only 3 friends who are single, one is very beautiful for her age but incredibly vapid and boring, the other 2 have very good jobs but are very fat (not obese), all 3 have mental health issues and personalities that I wouldn’t wish on a man. After a certain age the people who are single are single for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:42 PM
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I have a man who has all 3 along with many other good qualities. It’s not as though tall men with good jobs and big dicks don’t exist. That should just be the baseline.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:33 PM
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Me too. Women can gain weight and look good depending on where they carry it and how confident they feel, they become more womanly. When men get fat they look like giant toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 12:15 PM
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That’s also because OLD most men lie about their age so those men you see who are claiming to be 38 are 50. Australian men are particularly unattractive. I’ve lived in 8 countries and find them especially gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 12:13 PM
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East Asian - Chinese, Korean, Japanese. South Asian - Indian, Bangladeshi, Pakistani, Sri Lankan.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:38 AM
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This is only self-hating, raised in America, don’t speak their language fluently, Asian women. These women are usually too loud and too fat for high value Asian men to consider for partners anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:29 AM
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Actually most Asian women prefer Asian men. It’s only poor/low education women who prefer white men for financial benefits. Or Asian women raised in the west who are too big and loud (too westernised) for Asian men who then go with white guys who fetishise them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:12 AM
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The small pp is more for south Asians. Chinese are generally average or above. Lots of tall Chinese too, especially from the north.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:09 AM
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I also have a Chad Asian partner, women of all races eye fuck him in public. Hot Asian men generally have good educations and money so they’re the total package.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:07 AM
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For East Asians it’s a big loss of face and status to date SE asians. The HV East Asians date their own. If you date out the hierarchy then goes - white, Latino, black, SE Asian, South Asian. Yeah it’s racist, we already know it’s racist, just telling it like it is. Most East Asian men if the can’t find a woman from their own background or a slim white Woman would rather stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:03 AM
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I’ve lived in several western countries (UK, Switzerland, USA, Australia) and the thing I have noticed is men are just completely delusional. Where I grew up (China, Hong Kong, Singapore) men are more humble and realistic and easily pair off with their looksmatch. The amount of absolute fugs in the west who approach attractive women is mind boggling. Ugly, uneducated, low status men would rather be single forever than try to have a relationship with a woman of similar SMV who might actually enjo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:17 PM
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For “plus size” white women dating Asian men is going to be a struggle. Fat shaming is a regular part of East Asian culture. I’m talking about even being a US size 10. That’s what we consider “fat.” We are just culturally ingrained to equate slimness with attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:07 PM
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I’m into rock climbing and I have “friends” who I climb with, it’s not a sport you can do solo. Most of my main climbing partners are women but I keep male “friends” as a back up. I have a partner and brother so I have no need for male friends. Men are always after free emotional labour and my time is not free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 11:24 AM
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I never wanted to get married but due to social pressure and having a man who was “such a catch” (wealthy family, good education, good career, handsome) insist on it I got married in my 20’s. I felt completely suffocated and divorced by 30. I’m not rich but I’m financially independent- own home paid, investments, own business and I don’t want to have children so there little incentive for me to me a wife. I have an amazing partner now, all the things my ex was while also being emotionally intell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 12:52 AM
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Yes. In immigrant communities but whites women generally fall into those 2 categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 04:13 PM
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No. Men just over value themselves and other men so perceive this to be the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 04:12 PM
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Compared to Homer? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:45 AM
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I would be scared he had a small/weird penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:40 AM
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Despite the claim men are more visual women seem more out off by obesity. Very fat women can still get attention/sex from desperate men but these same very fat women don’t want to have sex with very fat men. I would assume the obesity epidemic has played a part in this along with other factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:37 AM
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I am avoidant and had several relationships and multiple marriage proposals before I went into therapy to address it. Men actually like it when you treat them dismissively but it’s a huge barrier to having the kinds of genuine relationships that most women desire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:15 AM
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No one wants to date someone less attractive. It’s not that you tolerate traits of a looksmatch that you wouldn’t tolerate in a less attractive man it’s that you wouldn’t date a less attractive man to find out what habits he has to tolerate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:45 PM
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I’m 35 and see my partner 2-3 times a week. We have sex 2-3 times when we see each other. Have been together for over 3 years. It’s normal if you are both fit and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:43 PM
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I’ve got a partner and a brother. Zero need for male “friendship”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:34 AM
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No. I am at the stage where I have built a business, earned, saved and invested enough to retire and I have paid off my home. I’m 35. My partner also has significant assets, more so than me. I would never get married. Independently wealthy women who don’t want/need the social status of marriage don’t gain anything from marriage. Just level up so that you don’t need a partner to share you bills and find a HVM who can afford a cleaner. Why would anyone WANT to be a wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:20 AM
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That’s a girl with a fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:34 PM
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I now live in a country where prostitution is legal and considered a bad habit like smoking and men are exactly the same as men in North America.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:33 PM
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Yes. Everyone gets older. So insightful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:28 PM
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Relationships too. Men are for the most part incapable of being alone. Many women choose to be single whereas being single is something that happens to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 12:29 PM
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That’s not true. I was single in my early 30s after getting divorced and I found dick incredibly abundant if you wanted it. I would match with 95% of men I swiped right on. It’s easy for women to get date/sex/relationships as long as they’re not bothered by the average quality of men being quite low.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:58 AM
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Women gain status and men gain everything else. Other than regular sex and friendship women with good self esteem and a healthy social life don’t gain much (unless they are poor). I say this as a women in a happy long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:54 AM
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Gross. Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:52 AM
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A simpleton who is angry he can’t bully women into being attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:49 AM
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Exact same experience when getting to know my HVM now-boyfriend. Defined the relationship before we had sex, lined up the next date on the first date, always knew exactly where I stood. If he wanted to he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:12 AM
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My partner is very good in bed and sometimes I wonder… however, high N counts disgust me - physically turns my stomach. I know better than to ask him in case I get an answer that ruins an otherwise perfectly good relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 06:32 AM
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I’m glad I’m from a cultural background where love is a verb. My boyfriend shows me/behaves like he loves me in all his ways of being with me. And every now and then we tell each other “I love you.” If he said that every day but acted like a LVM and took me for granted I would be furious (and single). It seems like for native English speakers it’s a phrase that gets thrown around but doesn’t specifically mean anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:23 PM
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I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He lives right next to a train station and so do I, 6km apart. Every single time we go on a date his has picked me up and taken me home, regardless of if I stayed the night or if the location was closer to me or him, he has never suggested I take the train or drive myself. I have never paid on a date. I have never paid for a weekend away or trip. My boyfriend also doesn’t take calls when he is with me. This shouldn’t even be noteworthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 02:54 PM
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All these media outlets try to make it sound like it’s a bad thing if women refuse to marry beneath themselves. Blows my fucking mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 01:43 PM
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She’s very fat. I don’t understand the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:44 PM
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You need to re-read the first comment of mine, because you have gone if on a tangent. My original comment was about weight. All my other comments were about weight. You seem to think you can make the conversation something it never was simply because it fits with your interest/perception/opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 04:38 PM
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You didn’t answer my question, I’m not sure why you are so upset about a fat woman being labelled as fat. Yes, some men are socialised to be attracted to fat women. This is getting boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:30 PM
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See I’m just trying to understand your point of view- hence why I asked for clarification of what you classed as “exotic” and I clarified what I meant when I say fat. I’m not white and I’m a woman, I’ve lived in 6 countries so I’ve seen lots of variances in beauty standards.Making assumptions and derogatory comments about others doesn’t add anything to the discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:26 PM
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I don’t think I understand then what you mean by exotic- I took it as meaning not Anglo Saxon. You don’t have to go to the “third world” to see that most young women from non-Anglo backgrounds in non-Anglo countries have lower BMIs than women in the UK, USA, Australia etc. What do you classify as looking exotic? Edit - just adding that when I talk about fat I’m talking about BMI. Being fat isn’t subjective. Men can be attracted to fat women but that doesn’t change the fact that they are fat. So …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:11 PM
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I’m not really sure why you keep making this about race. In the USA there’s lots of fat women of all races including white women and “exotic” women. The thing is, outside of the USA, Uk, Australia and other countries with lots of fat people, these “exotic” women are seldom fat and usually don’t have BMI’s above 20 when they are young (under 30). Which brings me back to my point about socialisation. We’re just socialised to prefer what’s around us. As more and more young women become fat and obes…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:31 PM
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Gaining weight is about eating too much rather than being unable to exercise. I wouldn’t want a relationship with someone who didn’t want to fuck me. I would go on a diet and get a new partner/enjoy being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 01:28 PM
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I don’t personally think she’s attractive at any weight but she only needs to have a little bit extra before she gets a gut.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:42 PM
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Are you from the USA or another country where women are mostly fat? It seems we develop an attraction to what’s available, which is a good thing really.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:40 PM
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Or as in a woman with a small, feminine frame. There’s nothing “womanly” about being overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 05:29 AM
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Scarlett Johansson and Margot Robbie are both apple shapes who only look decent when their BMI is low (18 etc). Even a small bit of weight reveals their flat ass and big belly genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 05:20 AM
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I think we like what’s available. There are few slim women in the USA so what’s available becomes highly sexualised. In east Asia you would struggle to find a man who was into big legs/butt etc because there aren’t many of those women and the women who have that build are not considered attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 04:19 AM
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Yes. In countries like the USA, Australia, Uk etc where the majority of women are fat by 25 being thin or even just “not fat” makes you above average. If you have decent facial symmetry, long hair and a healthy BMI you’re a modern day stunner(7+) in those countries and a regular 4-5/10 in any Asian country.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:57 AM
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Maybe in the USA but anywhere else she is very fat. Maybe not obese but definitely fat. I’ve always thought of her as a woman who appeals to men with fetish taste and to fat (but not obese) women who want to delude themselves that they are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:43 AM
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I get the impression that most men in PPD don’t have particularly good educations. Most people date within their educational/class/socio-economic bracket. Like yourself, I don’t know any men with post grad degrees dating women who don’t have a bachelors at a minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:40 PM
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For me yes. My partner tells me he really gets off on foreplay and watching me enjoy it so much and then of course he comes. For me it’s about orgasms. I’m quite lucky that I’m always able to achieve multiple orgasms with my partner, I love him as a person but I would have zero interest in sex if I didn’t come and I would be dissatisfied if I only came once. I can’t understand dead bedrooms, if my partner didn’t want to fuck me or didn’t satisfy me we would just be friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:35 PM
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I’m new but I have already gotten that impression… knowing when you’re wrong is part of the path to understanding… I’m probably in for some interesting times here haha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:08 PM
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You’re right, there are similarities but it’s not equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 01:56 PM
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Compared to what men do in relationships they do the bare minimum for plates, they give just enough to keep them on the hook so that they can keep sleeping with them. The same way women emotionally throw simps a bone of attention ever so often so that they can keep getting validation/attention/free dinner/whatever else. Men who are emotionally available to women who won’t have relationships with them is the equivalent to women who enter into fwb situations with men they would like to have relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 01:47 PM
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I found the man that I entered into a LTR in my 30s was very similar to my first BF lookswise. I dated a few men in between who were different types and ethnicities but I think I probably am most attracted to a certain type which would explain why my big love is very similar in looks to my first love.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 07:33 AM
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I wouldn’t be in a relationship with a man who didn’t give me multiple orgasms and go down on me. Sexual compatibility is a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 07:00 AM
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Yes we do. We like simps the way men like plates. We just don’t want to have long term relationships with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 06:22 AM
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Most people date within their class/socio- economic background and pair off with their looks-match within that group.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 05:38 AM
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