sixpack7506 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Separated yet not divorced Depends on the situation… I had started dating before my final decree came back, but not before all of the “settlement” agreements were complete, meaning all property, custody and support was finalized and signed, but the final paper wasn’t in my hand. Mine was fairly agreeable though and wasn’t ugly by any means. I started to move on the day I found out that she was cheating. There was no thought of R (I don’t play the 2nd choice game) and I did all the right things…. therapy, self care, tons o…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/24 10:03 PM
5	How to handle Affair Partner My ex is still with hers… They’re both a pos and don’t deserve your time. I hated him as well… now it’s just some weird indifference feeling. I just ignore them both when forced to be in proximity due to the boys’ sports etc. I actually enjoy being able to walk directly past both of them without acknowledging them, as if they are just strangers. It’s a great feeling.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/01/24 08:20 PM
1	2 years passed the split, still very low sex drive, T count is good, anyone have experience? Felt the same… Dead marriage for years was a bigger blow to my esteem than what I was feeling (or realized) at that moment in time. (therapy haha) Once shit hit the fan with the ex and I it tanked even further… I couldn’t get hard to save my life… Worked through stuff, taking care of myself mentally and physically, started casually dating and I eventually worked out of it. I did try Tadalifil and it helped but caused other issues so I quit it. Then I met this girl… problem solved… after dating s…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/24 01:28 PM
12	The Wifey I can tell you what NOT to do… I changed mine to “c#m dumpster” early on in the process… until it popped up on my CarPlay and my 12yo was like “who’s that”.. I declined the call and quickly changed it to a simple “X”, and it has remained that to this day..	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/23 09:51 PM
1	What did you gain through divorce? For sure every situation is different… Though my ex is a whore, she didn’t “soak” me for everything, just alimony and child support. I kept most of my other stuff. She was at least “decent” in that regard. (That’s about as generous as I can be towards her😆) But yes, if ex takes everything and one is living in a van by the river it’s definitely going to be hard to attract a quality partner at this age! No middle aged responsible woman is going to want a man that she needs to prop up financially… …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/23 09:18 PM
6	Friends with your ex wife No… My ex wanted (still does) the friendship thing in the worst way. I have zero interest. I’ve written off friendships with people who have treated me with more respect than she did. The only one that wins in that situation is the partner who wants out… NO thank you…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/12/23 11:17 PM
1	What did you gain through divorce? Funny you say that… Now that I’m actually “happy” again, I keep telling myself it’s my reward for getting myself through those dark days… and I truly believe I deserve it!	/r/Divorce_Men	24/12/23 01:50 PM
33	What did you gain through divorce? Like most I was initially blindsided and crushed… 48, 2 kids, “losing” everything… right? Wrong…. I lost an anchor. I was so bound up on a pretty face….The fake family facade… the lack of the Instagram worthy life… “I’ll never do better… I’ll never be happy… I’m going to lose my boys…” Bullshit… I didn’t have a marriage, I was being used. I got help immediately. I filed immediately. That was only May. The last couple months have been the BEST that I have felt in a long time. -I’m meeting new peo…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/12/23 01:58 AM
7	Are we to blame for picking the wrong partners? My EW was hot when I met her… My EW was hot when she cheated and left… I didn’t marry her just because she was attractive though. (but of course it helped🤣) She wanted (and came from) a big, happy family. She seemed thoughtful and caring. She too was “carefree” and “easy going” She seemed like the perfect catch. We are 10 years apart age wise. I had my reservations about that once it was disclosed but thought that all of the “green flags” outweighed the age gap. Boy, was I wrong… I have the lega…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/11/23 02:31 AM
11	What Did You Tell Mutual Friends? Feel your pain brother… I got the same “I never did anything on my own. I just need space” bullcrap… then she told me she had a dude 17 years younger than me🙄 I didn’t have to say much to friends. SHE was telling everyone about her new interest. She told our kids almost immediately and started injecting him into our lives… Putting stuff on Social Media, bringing him around my boys etc… As for friends? Most of them were my friends prior to her anyway, so I didn’t lose much there. I did lose a pre…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/11/23 12:27 PM
1	Healing after divorce Mine too… not that I was perfect by any means but I have a lot going for myself… covid turned my ex into a screen zombie and it was downhill from there. So sad what our society has been reduced too. I get that the whole “keeping up with the Jones’s” thing was around long before social media but it was relegated to what you saw on your block, not shoved in your face from all over the world….	/r/Divorce_Men	30/10/23 11:04 PM
1	Healing after divorce This is SOOO true… one of my peeves… If I’m dating someone and they’re glued to their phone it’s an immediate dealbreaker for me. Too much fake in todays world.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/10/23 09:13 PM
4	So weird how many of us saw our wives get addicted to scrolling TikTok constantly. I’ve said this in previous posts that it was a huge reason my ex and I ended up where we did. I ditched SM about 6 months prior to finding out that my ex was a ho… it was a last ditch effort to try to reconnect….she didn’t go along with it and once I was off I truly realized how much of a drain it is on a relationship. She became insanely addicted to mindless scrolling over the covid lockdowns. “Phubbing” is a real thing, and it’s a deal breaker in any relationship moving forward for me.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/23 02:46 PM
4	Biggest mistake? I’ll never outwardly wish her ill… but I will say that if she “disappears” tomorrow I would feel only happiness that I would get to have my kids 24/7/365…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/23 10:36 AM
7	Meeting my ex wife affair partner for the first time... and... You don’t react… at all… like not even acknowledging his existence. I just smile, tell my boys I love em and say see you on x-day. He’s tried to speak to me and I literally ignore him… Drives my ex nuts and I love it. A smug confidence works best for me in these situations.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/10/23 11:48 PM
7	What was your turning point? Amazing isn’t it? I’d love to tell every one of her friends and fam the shit she’s said but I still have too much respect for her family! Narcissist’s suck… she was just awful.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/10/23 01:05 AM
6	What was your turning point? Dude it’s fu&@ing liberating is it not?! I could have written your post. My ex wants to be “friends” in the worst way… F that… she doesn’t deserve my friendship. If it isn’t about the kids I don’t respond, even when I’m forced to see her in person at sports and school functions. It’s not bitter, it’s me realizing that she’s a spoiled, bit@hy brat that I catered to and got taken advantage by. I was worried about support/alimony payments breaking me.. turns out I spend LESS now paying her to be ou…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/10/23 12:59 AM
1	My wife stole my car so she can have it for the divorce. You beat me to it….👍🏼	/r/Divorce_Men	28/09/23 03:42 AM
9	Does your ex refuse to see reality, understand what she did? No kids I take it? Co-parenting with a narc ex is a special kind of he!! … She’s lucky I love my boys as much as I do.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/09/23 02:40 AM
5	Does your ex refuse to see reality, understand what she did? It’s standard practice man… “You made me do this because you———-“ (insert any bullsh!t statement) None of is are perfect- none of them are perfect… difference is most of us can at least own our flaws.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/09/23 02:37 AM
5	Did COVID ruined your marriage somehow? Solely? no…. was it a huge contributing factor? 100%. We battled through my ex’s postpartum when our 2nd was born in 2015. I really thought we were on the upside of handling it… then bam- Covid hits… she went batty… couldn’t handle being “stuck” in the house (even though she was a stay at home wife/mom forever- but this was different obviously) I continued to work so I didn’t have the lockdown syndrome (actually more hours and weekends which later on became part of the problem). She got sucked i…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/09/23 05:29 PM
1	Blowing it up for a dead bedroom and no love You’re onto something and respect your comment… I don’t like to blame a “generation” so to speak, but I whole heartedly agree that socials had a huge role in my marriage failure… I was like OP- work hard, gave up my own activities to be a present father and husband… then Covid hit. Wife was “stuck” home, got hooked on Insta and FB and all the fake life portrayals- started watching Hallmark and Lifetime on a loop- Binging sappy movies nonstop- and then left for her AP that had been validating her…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/09/23 12:39 AM
1	If you were to remarry, who would you look for? There’s a guy up the street from me… got divorced in his mid 40’s, met a woman at 50. They are now late 60’s. They both own their own house in the same neighborhood and have been “partners” since they met… he rides his bike to her place for dinner, they travel, they have the life! and no drama…. it’s actually a pretty cool situation and they’re both very happy. That’s what I want…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/09/23 03:27 PM
3	If you were to remarry, who would you look for? There’s a guy up the street from me… got divorced in his mid 40’s, met a woman at 50. They are now late 60’s. They both own their own house in the same neighborhood and have been “partners” since they met… he rides his bike to her place for dinner, they travel, they have the life! and no drama…. it’s actually a pretty cool situation and they’re both very happy. That’s what I want…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/09/23 03:27 PM
1	Did you ever feel like getting back together with ur ex? Listen, the Crazy / Hot Matrix is a real, scientific fact 🤣	/r/Divorce_Men	12/09/23 11:13 PM
2	Wife thinks she's coming in my house tomorrow to take inventory of things after not being here for 15 months. My ex wife took took the f$cking chocolate syrup… can only imagine why?	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/23 02:31 AM
3	The toxic friend My Ex met her’s at the gym… this chic left her husband for some gym rat… Ex and her started hanging out alot after their morning workouts…next thing you know I’m getting the ILUBINILWU speech and she’s banging a Ted Nugent wannabe with worse talent… (I know that doesn’t sound believable) Misery loves company.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/09/23 10:07 PM
1	Is a self-described hoe phase any reason to be concerned? Dide just described the last 15 years of my life… Have you been watching🤣	/r/Divorce_Men	07/09/23 09:39 PM