skepticismlot Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
53	It's INSANE that even in male-dominated forums, the shortcomings of modern femininity, like a lack of accountability and toxicity towards men, are often still blamed on men. This seems to be one of the few places where such issues can logically be discussed..	Rant	skepticismlot	/r/Divorce_Men	21/07/24 09:56 PM
43	Just a thought… It’s shocking how Promiscuous women become during/after the divorce proceedings… in almost all cases though, I’ve seen it end badly for them. Anyone else notice this pattern?	Dating After Divorce	skepticismlot	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 06:18 AM
36	The depths that my STBX goes to, to avoid taking any accountability for her actions… it’s actually pretty insane, and has pushed me to lose absolutely all respect for her.		skepticismlot	/r/Divorce_Men	05/08/24 06:23 PM
28	It's disheartening, but it seems that most affairs happen between colleagues. The corporate environment has strained and broken many marriages. Is it really unreasonable for a man in an already rocky marriage to feel uneasy about his wife starting a new job?	Rant	skepticismlot	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/24 10:45 PM
1	How long after the separation/divorce did you wait until you got onto the dating apps, and back out into the playing field?	Dating After Divorce	skepticismlot	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 06:18 AM
0	After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship.	Need Support	skepticismlot	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 08:14 PM
0	We haven't officially started the divorce process yet, but we will be soon. The problem is, when we're out doing events together as a "family," I have to deal with her checking out other men right in front of me. How do I handle this? I find it very disrespectful.	Rant	skepticismlot	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/24 01:06 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
13	Caught my wife cheating and I'm gutted You caught her cheating, and she isn’t remorseful about it because she wants the divorce…. It’s time to let her go, as hard as it may be..	/r/Divorce_Men	30/10/24 06:32 AM
7	Thinking about getting married again “I really like her more than any of the other women I’ve dated” You felt the same about your ex wife at some point I’m sure. Taking it slow would be the logical thing to do here. You can do practically everything that you can do married, unmarried.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/24 02:17 AM
12	Ex wife got arrested tonight Invest in a body camera, and wear it every time you’ll be interacting with her. Regardless, she’s only acting out due to karma hitting her.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/10/24 07:05 AM
3	Couples Counseling…has it ever worked for anyone? Whatever you do, don’t use counseling that’s ran by a church. I’ve found that those tend to push reconciliation even if it is truly not the best route.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/24 04:22 AM
9	Took a woman out for supper for the first time since the split and I'm all messed up. Promiscuity is heavily encouraged amongst women nowadays… it’s something that hasn’t sat right with me either, but it’s the way of the world now.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/10/24 10:30 PM
1	Wife and I Separating and Divorce She’s definitely already seeing someone else, or it’s in the plans. You’ve got to look out for yourself brother. Get a lawyer involved, and protect your assets.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/09/24 07:50 AM
1	Wife and I Separating and Divorce It’s normal. I’m trying to get past the same myself.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/09/24 07:46 AM
5	Dating a legally separated woman For your own good, I wouldn’t touch her until the divorce is finalized…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 07:04 PM
1	Ex wife keeps bringing new boyfriend to my house Best of luck brother!	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 05:22 PM
24	Ex wife keeps bringing new boyfriend to my house Play her game. Have a nicely dressed, attractive woman over at the house when she comes to pick up the kids. That’d probably make your ex shit herself. Or, understand that she’s doing this as a coping mechanism to get under your skin. The more unbothered you seem, the more bothered it will make her.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 04:35 PM
1	Ex wife keeps bringing new boyfriend to my house I’d just play long ball. Have a nicely dressed, attractive woman over at the house when she comes to pick up the kids. That’d probably make your ex shit herself.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 04:34 PM
4	How has social media impacted your marriage? Social media gave my stbx this unrealistic sense of entitlement.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/09/24 09:30 PM
7	Ex-wife wants me to not date Just get the divorce if you want to date.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/09/24 03:23 AM
8	My ex wife found out I wrote poetry about her during divorce, now wants to talk Your response to her is fine. There’s no point of reconciling since she’s cheated on you already. — I understand that you had a drinking problem during the marriage, but she allowed another man to get in between her legs while legally being your wife.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/09/24 05:51 AM
5	36M, how is dating Brother, focus on your mental wellbeing, and healing first…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/09/24 04:26 AM
1	Opinions? Considering Disclosing STBXW's affair on Social Media I feel like you’re sharing too much, for people who are likely uncaring of your situation (family included). You’d be better off creating a close friend’s group with the intended target audience, in which you can share this info with… Or, reaching out to them individually.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/24 12:16 AM
1	I feel trapped after the divorce. hear me about! I made a comment about you being a bad father, but I deleted it. — I’d rather help you instead. Regardless, don’t give her full custody, just offer her more custody. 70/30 for example. — Once you adjust, make the attempt to up the custody to the original 50/50.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/24 06:05 AM
1	I feel trapped after the divorce. hear me about! with kids, comes shifts in priorities. are you a brand new father, or are you just not ready to be a Dad? there’s no in between.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/24 06:03 AM
1	Obsessed with lowering child support are you 50/50 custody as well?	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/24 02:20 AM
8	How did you find out about the affair partner? glad you’re making the needed moves. you deserve so much better mate.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/08/24 05:48 AM
8	No more dates with girls that have no kids i’d argue that it’s more about the woman’s maturity. there are women with kids even, who’d behave like the women you’d dated without kids. do better at gauging maturity levels before investing time.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/08/24 05:53 PM
1	Ex is getting the gabb watch for my daughter right on brother, best of luck with this situation	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/24 09:35 PM
5	Ex is getting the gabb watch for my daughter tell the ex that the watch needs to stay at her place during your time. she has no right tracking your every move. i’d also offer your child a new watch that she can have, when she’s at your house.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/24 06:25 PM
1	Ex is getting the gabb watch for my daughter tell the ex that the watch needs to stay at her place during your time. she has no right tracking your every move.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/24 06:24 PM
1	Dating but not officially divorced Good point brother..	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/24 07:37 AM
1	What should I do? CA 50/50 it feels like something’s missing here….	/r/Divorce_Men	15/08/24 08:37 AM
1	Just an update since last year… if her partner is in any way shape or form abusive towards her, then I would.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/08/24 02:57 AM
2	Just an update since last year… sounds like the ex is too far into the pregnancy, to make that suggestion.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/24 07:50 AM
11	Just an update since last year… tell her to call you whenever she feels overwhelmed so that you can pickup the kids, regardless of the time. tell her to find a therapist or life coach to assist with her mental battles. she cheated on you, and now she’s getting her karma… don’t try to be there as a “friend”, be there as a cordial co parent.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/24 07:48 AM
13	What does everyone do to keep their mind off their ex? “miss wife” correction, ex wife who cheated on you.. you’re giving her too much grace.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/24 12:12 PM
1	Is there a good way to make my wife hate me enough to want to expedite the divorce process taking her back would only show a lack of respect for yourself, so i’m glad you’re filing. feel free to refer to my recent post regarding her not taking accountability…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/08/24 09:48 PM
4	It's disheartening, but it seems that most affairs happen between colleagues. The corporate environment has strained and broken many marriages. Is it really unreasonable for a man in an already rocky marriage to feel uneasy about his wife starting a new job? It resonated with me well.. I read it when you first posted it	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/24 11:54 PM
7	It's disheartening, but it seems that most affairs happen between colleagues. The corporate environment has strained and broken many marriages. Is it really unreasonable for a man in an already rocky marriage to feel uneasy about his wife starting a new job? I don’t know man.. i’ve seen Women who are mostly loyal, act out (cheat) when they aren’t getting their way at home, and they’ve been presented with the right option..	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/24 10:59 PM
3	It's disheartening, but it seems that most affairs happen between colleagues. The corporate environment has strained and broken many marriages. Is it really unreasonable for a man in an already rocky marriage to feel uneasy about his wife starting a new job? it’s tough to fully trust her, after growing apart the way that we have..	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/24 10:57 PM
1	It's disheartening, but it seems that most affairs happen between colleagues. The corporate environment has strained and broken many marriages. Is it really unreasonable for a man in an already rocky marriage to feel uneasy about his wife starting a new job? what particular things would warrant me having Leverage in the relationship? I’ve been a good man, treated her well, and supported her as a stay at home Mother for the last 3 years… to her, that becomes irrelevant when things aren’t going her way though.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/24 10:54 PM
1	The Better Side of Divorce this is uplifting…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/08/24 11:47 PM
3	How to get past feeling you wasted your prime attractiveness on your ex as far as physical attractiveness: getting in shape will make you a million times more attractive… so I would start there. a good skin care routine will do justice for you as well.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/24 08:47 AM
1	My situation yep, she’s a pile of shit. i’m sorry to hear about what’s going on OP, but you’ve got to leave, the marriage is unsalvageable after she stepped out on you… twice.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/24 06:32 AM
1	My situation the marriage is unsalvageable.. she cheated, and will continue doing so. the more you try to repair things, the more respect she loses for you. as hard as it is, you have to let her go mate, she’s for the “streets” as they say. you owe yourself a lot more respect.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/24 06:28 AM
1	Share experience for those of us staying in marriage for the kids? so do you have kids already or not?	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/24 04:48 AM
18	Guys who initiated the divorce and did NOT get cheated on, what’s your story? she was unable to take any sort of accountability for her wrong doings, and she was always “right”. I ended up losing total respect for her, and my resentment continued to grow over the years. i’m still going through the process now, the earlier stages.. but i’m ready to be free from dealing with her.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/24 08:22 PM
1	Wife said to husband "I'll just fuck someone else" sounds like she might be on drugs… either way, divorce probably isn’t a bad idea if this has been something ongoing.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/24 04:45 PM
1	My wife said she wanted a divorce while I was in the ICU recovering from a suicide attempt more life brother… you’re gearing up for the greatest comeback of your life.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 08:20 PM
10	Found the love of my life at some point you felt this way about your ex too.. don’t let the honeymoon phase trick you into marriage. move in together first, and see how that goes for a few years before considering remarrying. you don’t truly know if you’re compatible until you cohabitate.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 06:49 PM
26	Nothing is sacred anymore trust me, this scenario plays in my head often. while work is expected to be a place for professionalism, it’s also a place that causes probably most affairs…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 06:59 AM
9	What red flags did you see at the very beginning? biggest red flag was how easily influenced by others my stbx was/is. it’s a recipe for disaster when a woman is easily knocked off balance due to following what’s “popular”.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 06:04 AM
5	Struggling with STBXW’s glow-up you’re exactly right mate. winning the mental part is what really sets us ahead in the long run.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 07:10 PM
5	Struggling with STBXW’s glow-up more life brother.. stay strong	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 07:06 PM
4	Struggling with STBXW’s glow-up perfectly said. regarding the “finding me” phase that women go through, i’ve seen that exact scenario play out EVERY single time.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 07:03 PM
1	Struggling with STBXW’s glow-up i’d award you if I had the coin	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 07:01 PM
3	Struggling with STBXW’s glow-up in the same boat… here for the comments	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 06:58 PM
9	Why does she keep asking me to hang out with her and the kids? someone probably fucked her over so now she’s panicking to try and save the marriage. i’d tell her to stop reaching out unless it’s specifically about picking up the kids, or any other serious matter involving the kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 06:18 PM
5	It's INSANE that even in male-dominated forums, the shortcomings of modern femininity, like a lack of accountability and toxicity towards men, are often still blamed on men. This seems to be one of the few places where such issues can logically be discussed.. you’re a part of the problem	/r/Divorce_Men	22/07/24 10:35 PM
7	Cheating Wife sounds like you really tried, but she never matched your effort.. better will come dude.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/24 06:39 AM
1	How long till you took your wedding band off? as bad as it may sound.. that ring is bad energy, and dead weight that you don’t need around anymore.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/07/24 07:29 AM
5	Did you date during your divorce? How did it go? I got on dating apps to test my market value, and got - bit of interest from attractive women there, but I haven’t initiated any dates with any of them as of yet. I just don’t feel ready to involve myself with anyone else on an intimate level right now. I’m about a month in on the separation.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/24 08:59 PM
5	Quote to repeat to yourself EVERY DAY 🏆	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/24 11:44 PM
13	Quote to repeat to yourself EVERY DAY talking to my stbx raises my blood pressure through the roof. I really needed this.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/24 11:43 PM
3	Instead of “dada” or “daddy” became “saddy” today I read your previous posts… stay strong brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/07/24 07:19 AM
4	Get divorced to be the fun dad you always wanted to be it’s greatly appreciate brother, I really needed this one. thank you.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/06/24 08:19 PM
12	Get divorced to be the fun dad you always wanted to be I can’t wait to get there… sounds like complete freedom.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/06/24 12:47 PM
11	Walk away wife? Advice? if she wants to walk away, i’d let her go… if you don’t, you’ll be stuck chasing after her for the rest of your life. you deserve better than that.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/24 05:42 AM
3	Planning for life after divorce. My perspective. as someone who’s going through the process now, I really appreciate your insights here. great read.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/24 04:26 AM
1	About to make my retainer deposit. In the case it’s speedy, can anyone tell me if they’ve ever had trouble getting the unused funds back from the attorney? consider the retainer as good as Gone.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/06/24 08:58 PM
3	How to deal with been physically terrified of marrying my girlfriend after being in your shoes before, and then experiencing the marital aspect of it.. it’s hard for me to genuinely encourage anyone to get married. if you do however get married, be sure to protect any assets. who knows, maybe yours ends up being a happily ever after situation.. or maybe you’ll be here asking for advice after some time. there is a risk either way.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/06/24 05:28 PM
4	Please tell me it gets better. I’m super low right now. start small brother. make a commitment to go to the gym 1 day this week. when you’re ready, move it up to 2 days a week. start small, baby steps..	/r/Divorce_Men	24/06/24 09:17 PM
4	What do you like most about being divorced? gotcha… i’m glad you’re out of there mate. thanks for sharing.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/24 01:26 AM
1	What do you like most about being divorced? this was so perfectly said. quite the encouragement for me, as someone who’s worried about the divorce process due to my kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/24 01:24 AM
2	What do you like most about being divorced? my marriage is missing all of the things that you “miss”. if those things were already there, i’m assuming infidelity was the reason for your split?	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/24 01:22 AM
2	How does 50-50 work? this right here. accurate.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/06/24 05:45 PM
3	How does 50-50 work? I think the fact that she can up and relocate with the kid is huge. that alone would make me push for 50/50, but I see where you’re coming from.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/06/24 05:44 PM
1	How do I go about selling the house still paying a mortgage on?. exactly why i’m renting now..	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/24 05:25 AM
5	My wife mentioned divorce it sounds like she’s saying that because she herself wants to move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/24 04:30 AM
1	Have there been any updates from the guy who found out his new partner slept with over 100 guys? oh lord..	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/24 07:05 AM
1	Thinking of leaving so if he’s tired of being married and wants new life experiences, he should stay and cheat? or stay and live in regret?	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/24 04:39 AM
3	I'm getting a divorce with the same person yeah, let it go…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/06/24 07:52 AM
0	Does everyone going through this have good jobs and money to afford/move out/rent/food/etc? here for the comments	/r/Divorce_Men	11/06/24 08:29 AM
1	Men’s in the 30s or older that are trying to date, How do you pick up girls and like where do you start? lol	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/24 09:45 PM
2	Men’s in the 30s or older that are trying to date, How do you pick up girls and like where do you start? “the women will come” not necessarily. especially if OP isn’t putting himself out there.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/24 11:24 AM
2	Older dating scene agreed brother..	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 10:26 PM
1	Just found out she’s cheating you’re doing the right thing, I know it’s tough man. keep your head held high, time will heal. for now, keep doing exactly what you’re doing (moving forward with the divorce amicably).	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 03:56 PM
6	Older dating scene modern feminism. women are being led to prioritize their careers and personal desires over starting a family or relying on a man for companionship. many will have with this mindset until they hit their 40s and all they’ve got going for themselves is more wrinkles, a good job, and a few cats… yet still feeling very unfulfilled in their lives.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 08:11 AM
1	Older dating scene modern feminism. women are being led to prioritize their careers and personal desires over starting a family or relying on a man for companionship. many will persist with this mindset until they reach 45, with wrinkles, a good job, and a few cats, yet still feel unfulfilled in their lives.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 08:09 AM
1	Older dating scene they’re hitting/have hit the wall, that’s all it is.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 08:01 AM
1	A roadmap for getting laid while co-habituating “The moment you find another woman she’ll be interested in you again” “The mere idea that you could do new things and be happy without her will bring her right back” seems like your end goal here is to pretty much save the marriage… why aren’t you focused on that instead?	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 09:00 AM
6	Stbx can't even respect our late daughter her whole purpose sounds like it was to get under your skin… don’t let her see that she did, whatever you do. your daughter will still be properly honored by you, and that’s what matters most. assuming that you don’t have any other children with your stbx, i’d go complete gray rock with her, and completely cut her off once the divorce is finalized.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/24 03:29 PM
1	Stbx can't even respect our late daughter she did it to cause a Reaction out of you… your best plan of action would be to completely disregard her going forward.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/24 03:24 PM
3	So what about sex? hold off on any sex until the divorce (or reconciliation) is finalized	/r/Divorce_Men	14/05/24 11:11 AM
7	Took my kids to surprise their Mom at work for Mother's Day; Big Mistake she’s your ex wife, at most i’d suggest maybe sending the kids back to her with something small, if you’d like to acknowledge her. showing up at her job just wasn’t smart, as she is your ex wife, and does not deserve that type of validation any longer.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/05/24 08:24 AM
1	STBXW is cheating on me take time to heal brother. better is to come for you, I’m claiming it now.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/24 11:19 PM
10	Why do they look sad? I’d only concern yourself if she seems unfit to take care of your children… otherwise, she’s someone else’s problem to deal with.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/24 05:50 PM
8	Took Her Less Than Two Months To Find Another Man “I am going through my grieving and healing process deliberately and I have no interest in being with another woman right now.” this is the best thing that you can do. it stings, her true colors are showing, but guess what? she’s somebody else’s problem now… you don’t want that kind of energy in your corner. better will come my man, take the time to heal, and let time do it’s job…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/05/24 11:59 PM
10	Dating a Divorced Single-Mom that has 100% custody of her Children... there are too many women out there for you to settle down with a woman who’d have this amount of baggage.. you want your partner to be an upgrade to your life.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/05/24 11:04 PM