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skintightmonopoly/r/MensRights03/11/13 02:02 PM
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Well said; agreeing on a common topic doesn't mean you have to agree on every other topic. It dilutes your cause if you ask others to align with you on every point.
/r/MensRights27/12/20 12:59 AM
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I used to work as a counselor for domestic violence survivors and victims and had several clients who were male. My guess is that the reason you were not offered help is because many agencies in the field rarely if ever help men. The agencies are, in my experience, very suspicious that the male is the abuser. Getting into a safe shelter was borderline impossible; getting financial resources was less difficult but still required immense advocacy on my part and from my clients - who often, faced w…
/r/MensRights14/12/18 03:27 PM
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It's interesting to see where our resources go, too. We have popular funding support for domestic violence shelters (which often refuse male victims), but little to no funding for housing first programs. These programs have shown promise in being cost effective and successful in targeting the chronically homeless community (mostly men!).
/r/MensRights14/03/17 06:50 PM
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I think 40% might be accurate if we are accounting for all homeless individuals, including those in shelters, and staying with friends. The term is really broad. This graph really illustrates the unsheltered homeless vs. sheltered homeless divide. If we clarify then we see how important it is to recognize how homelessness affects men. Speaking purely about street homelessness, men are at significantly more risk. More so, men are at higher risk for being chronically homeless.
/r/MensRights14/03/17 06:45 PM
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I think it is a real disorder/problem she has. If it were about who he is as a person that she were attracted to, then she could wait until he is of legal age. It seems like the main attraction was that he was a kid. That's not to ignore the aggressiveness of her attempts to sleep with him, which are pretty creepy (trying to get him drunk, pursuing him creepily, etc). She's a classic predator, and thank god the kid reported it. I only wonder if she's done it before - and my guess is that she has…
/r/MensRights09/11/14 07:18 PM
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I feel as though the gender roles one is often manipulated in female on male abuse as well, but it just works a little differently. For example, "you're the man, you should be the one to do x,y,z." I also feel that gender roles are a common topic in female on male emotional abuse. That is, making someone feel humiliated and ashamed for not living up to a male stereotype.
/r/MensRights17/10/14 05:14 PM
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Wonderful analysis. I also think people are overlooking the fact that hating women in such a way that he thought they deserved to die was a direct result of his being very, very mentally ill. The two are not separate. His delusion brought him to forums such as PUA. The idea to kill women and blame them for his unhappiness was not given by an outside source. This was a very, very sick man.
/r/MensRights25/05/14 05:30 PM
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I found this article absolutely fascinating - it recognizes that yes, women are often the victims of gender-based violence - but men around the world are attacked, brutalized, and killed JUST because they are men! The article outlines how men are the ones who face forced conscription, are VERY often sexually assaulted and mutilated during wartime. For me, it was a "call to action" - a perfect demonstration of how both men and women face attacks due uniquely to their gender.
/r/MensRights03/11/13 02:05 PM
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Thank you very much for your time! I've learned a lot from your responses so far. How do courts generally go about investigating/proving DV cases? Do you have experiences in these cases? How much "proof" is needed before full custody is awarded to one parent? My interest lies in what proof the judge needs to see, and whether police reports are needed.
/r/MensRights23/06/13 08:03 PM
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These are powerful, powerful men. In a world where male rape is viewed as either non-existent, impossible, or unbearably shameful, these men are putting their names and stories out there for a greater purpose - both bringing light and understanding to a hidden issue, and also informing policy and practice for future survivors. They are immensely brave and have all my support.
/r/MensRights19/05/13 07:32 PM
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Sorry I didn't specify - technical term meaning how it's referred to in the psychological/social work community. Victims of suicide is a widely used term, although not with those who work with suicidal clients.
/r/MensRights19/05/13 06:58 PM
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The technical term is "completed suicides" which I think is important to identify here - men have more completed suicides, while women have more attempted suicides.
/r/MensRights19/05/13 06:44 PM
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I've encountered a number of male nannies these days, and it saddens me to realize that they will always face a certain amount of discrimination and fear in our current society due to their gender. They are most often warm, loving, and engaging men who provide excellent role models to the children they care for.
/r/MensRights17/02/13 10:03 PM
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I can't stand the shroud of public denial around female sex offenders. We only hurt ourselves as a community in our denial - through understanding and recognition, we can actually ameliorate this problem and help both the survivors of this experience, and those who commit it. The consequence of acknowledging this occurrence is a healthier and safer society.
/r/MensRights03/02/13 04:21 PM
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Library cards are free, you can use a shelter address, and give you internet access.
/r/MensRights03/02/13 03:56 PM
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I think it speaks to our "slacktivist" culture. People equate a "like" to being a supporter of a cause. Where are the marches for equality? The persistent and passionate lobbying for change?
/r/MensRights25/01/13 03:54 PM
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Ah ok. Well, my mistake too. I didn't realize either. At least we both learned something new.
/r/MensRights24/01/13 03:30 AM
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I believe there is heavy and irregular bleeding at the beginning of an IUD but to my knowledge it's common for periods to stop.
/r/MensRights24/01/13 02:40 AM
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Progesterone only birth control should stop menstruation, and I believe an IUD does as well (which would not require the daily pills).
/r/MensRights24/01/13 12:03 AM
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Both of these children deserve some serious counseling. That poor little boy.
/r/MensRights10/01/13 04:11 AM
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Totally - I wasn't clear. In my experiences both women and men find this a particularly difficult part of healing, to wonder why they were sexually aroused by rape. Your body betrays you, and in your healing can cause guilt and doubt.
/r/MensRights24/11/12 01:19 AM
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I always feel like this is a perfect opportunity to educate. Most people dont know about body betrayal or have ever conceptualized rape beyond the stereotype of stranger male on female. The more who know about this problem, the better for society.
/r/MensRights23/11/12 11:55 PM
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Ah I did not know this - I'd love to see the studies on this (I don't expect you to have them offhand). I am a former sex education teacher, and so this comment set off my "sensors."
/r/MensRights18/11/12 11:19 PM
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Ehhh ... I am sorry I wish I could leave this comment alone but I can't. There's a chance of pregnancy, though it is very very small, with birth control when taken regularly. And condoms do not work perfectly.
/r/MensRights18/11/12 11:01 PM
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About 75% of people without homes are male, so yes, this is a problem. I can only say this much - our current shelter system is seriously fucked up. From the great deal of theft, to the overworked staff, to the re-traumatization of the clients, it is a system that generally has a lack of organization and sensitivity. If I were you, I would contact the Coalition for the homeless and discuss the lack of a single men's homeless shelter in your town. They are a lobbying organization that may be able…
/r/MensRights18/11/12 12:12 AM
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That was so sad, to see that sweet man in such an awful situation. To hear that woman say, "He's just as bad as I am" made me so furious.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 11:36 PM
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I have worked with the homeless system and DHS - generally, they separate men from women. There are usually men's shelters, women's shelters, and family shelters (which do occasionally allow couples). I agree with you in that they should be raising awareness about homelessness as a whole, but the choice may be due to their particular client base.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 11:25 PM
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It seems like it could be a misunderstanding in HR. If she reacts weirdly the next time you see her, or stresses again that she only wants to be friends, then it's possible that she did flag you. I kind of doubt it though; this seems like a rather harmless and friendly conversation and I agree that HR probably did flag it without your coworker's input.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 11:22 PM
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In all truth, quite a good point you have here. I wear slutty costumes on Halloween because A) I feel good about how I look in them, and B) I want the sexual attention. Nobody's forcing me to buy the goddamn costume. Straight males are attracted to my costume because it kind of looks like I'm naked. That's what you're buying. If I want to cover up my body, I'll dress as a giant squid.
/r/MensRights15/11/12 03:20 AM
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My good friend has a child due to his fuck buddy intentionally not taking her birth control to "keep him." Once she lost her parental rights to the baby due to her own problems, he was able to put the child up for adoption (he was 23 and broke, in no way ready to raise a child). I can't help but feel that his story isn't as rare as I like to think.
/r/MensRights12/11/12 11:32 PM
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Hope you have a speedy recovery!
/r/MensRights12/11/12 11:28 PM
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Nothing wrong with a little domestic violence on a man.
/r/MensRights09/11/12 11:37 PM
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Jacqui Saradjiam: (clinical psychologist) I think people find it so difficult to see that women sexually abuse children because the whole view of women is of nurturers, carers, protectors - people who do anything to look after children - and they see the women as victims rather than enemies or perpetrators of any abuse. This quote made me think of Finding Fish, a book that deals with child sexual abuse by a woman and really challenges the idea of women as nurturers. The child, Antwone, was not o…
/r/MensRights09/11/12 11:28 PM
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I get the male-shaming aspect. I do. I felt that was the main issue. However, I chose to voice my opinion on another aspect of the issue. I did agree with the previous comments, but I thought it was the right space to speak about another problem I saw in the way this woman approached her situation. I find it very frustrating - and judging from the downvotes, maybe I am alone in this - that when some women are having physical difficulties, they assume that it is the job of men to assist them. If …
/r/MensRights06/10/12 12:50 AM
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People need to stop applying gender roles to situations like this. The woman needed help - why does it matter if it was men or women who watched her struggle? Does she really think women are less obligated to help her out to carry a bag of groceries?
/r/MensRights05/10/12 02:46 AM
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I don't know ... I really think this doesn't have enough information. It's a news source, whose goal is likely to attract interested readers and paint a story, not necessarily a collection of hard facts and good reporting. I think it takes a very fucked up person to lie on a large scale about a sexual assault. If she isn't lying, this is a serious issue. If she is, then someone needs to help her understand the consequences of her actions, and find out why she felt the need to lie.
/r/MensRights05/10/12 02:43 AM
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I feel as though, due to the mandatory arrest policy in some states regarding domestic violence, this is likely a common occurrence.
/r/MensRights03/10/12 02:14 AM
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I think it gets into very technical territory. For instance, what exactly is stopping this person? Is it a moral override of their desire? Or they just worried that they will get caught? It's a vile thing to fantasize about having sex with someone without consent. I think we all have terrible thoughts sometimes, and they can be awful and gross, but to continuously fantasize about violating an unwilling party speaks to an individual with seriously distorted and disturbing capacities.
/r/MensRights29/09/12 12:10 AM
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I suppose that, in a sense, you're right. I doubt that anyone would "choose" to be a pedophile. However, I'd argue that young kids don't have consent. Therefore, if one has a fetish in which the other party cannot give consent, that is on par with molestation and rape.
/r/MensRights28/09/12 10:21 PM
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I am so very sorry that you had to go through that. It sounds like this was really painful to talk about. I work in the mental health field, and I can honestly say that anyone who calls you weak or blames you is no professional at all. I would encourage you, if you do try therapy again, to comment to your therapist about your fears if you feel as if you can. There are some good therapists out there, and I hope that, whatever form your therapy takes, that you feel safe and supported. I'll be thin…
/r/MensRights18/09/12 02:02 AM
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Agreed. My female friends who have been raped by men feel more comfortable in all-female environments, and so therefore a women-only self defense class may help them feel safer. That's the idea of this class, I think - to promote self-confidence and feelings of control over one's own safety. Studies show, too, that people who actively fight back in their rape have better chances of avoiding the development of PTSD following a rape. Edit: raped by men, not raped my men.
/r/MensRights16/09/12 01:26 AM
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In this case, I believe the question (yours) posed was, "should he be compensated any more than a full time nanny would make?" I believe that Yillpv and I responded to your specific question regarding what that pay might be. It depends upon their socio-economic status, and what a nanny would have been paid if one had been hired. The amount he should be paid, therefore, would vary greatly given the amount of time he spent at home with the children.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 02:45 AM
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I can vouch for the above poster, as a former childcare provider. Families are upfront about what they will pay. Poorer families pay maybe 8-10 per hour, while richer families will pay 15-20 per hour. It does not vary immensely, but that's how it is. Also, poorer families will often find alternatives to childcare if they can't afford it (grandparents, bringing child to work, etc).
/r/MensRights11/09/12 02:36 AM
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Wow. Really beautifully done. Worth the read.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 02:16 AM
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I believe you misunderstood my choice of words, or I was not clear. I apologize if that is the case. If a psychotic person commits murder, I believe it is still murder. However, there are other factors that must be considered. "Battered woman syndrome" - as we have titled it - describes the case of a person who is so abused that they feel as if they are trapped. They are under the impression that their abuser is omnipotent. Abusers will often use tactics that convince their victims that they kno…
/r/MensRights05/09/12 11:20 PM
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That syndrome is quite real. However, men can certainly have this syndrome as well, so it is somewhat of a misnomer. Domestic violence DOES exist, in both sexes, and has very real effects on the abused partner. DV victims' PTSD symptoms have often been compared to those of returning war veterans. As all disorders, it must be examined case by case, but I assure you, this syndrome is quite common. It does not justify murder, but it gives an explanation as to why DV victims feel that killing their …
/r/MensRights05/09/12 10:57 PM
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This is a violent video - you are correct - but I would have to say that the likes are probably due to the music content and flashy colors rather than the video's content. I don't think people know or even really conceptualize domestic violence where men are victims. Unfortunately, I think people see this video and they don't know that they should question its content. That is, I think that seeing a man hit a woman raises an alarm for many people. They react strongly. But seeing a woman hit or a…
/r/MensRights05/09/12 10:40 PM
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