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| 2 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?I agree with this. Hardly any of them will change, or even want to. We have all known men who pretend to be doting husbands and dads, but they are still cheating, lying pricks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 09:57 AM |
| 3 | THANK GOD: Sarah Everard's murderer given a full life sentence and will die in jail. This filth will never be loose on the streets again.A former cop who murdered a woman. He will have a very hard time in prison. Good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 09:36 AM |
| 2 | Seeing too much bad things. Sharing my favorite TikTok couple. (They’ve met in 1992). Get yourself a man who is excited to take you out.This is so lovely. What a beautiful couple, their love just radiates from them. Ladies, THIS is the standard you deserve and should be aiming for. A man who is stoked to take you out for a date and spoil you because it makes you happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:52 AM |
| 2 | It’s the small things that make you realize he’s HVMIf he wanted to he would. Never forget that, ladies. ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:49 AM |
| 6 | This HAS to be a troll 🤦🏼♀️She would have been very young when she first started seeing him. Like, late teens/early twenties. I was so naive and emotionally immature then. He has been slowly wearing her down, and he has had years of experience of it. He picked her because most women his own age would run after the first date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:47 AM |
| 1 | When people ask me why I suddenly only date younger guysI started my first job waitressing at my local pub (in England). I had turned sixteen a few months before. A few other girls who worked with my were still fifteen. The worst sexual harassment we got was from the regulars in their 40s+. Married with kids too. The things they said to us made my hair curl, they were utterly revolting. Mostly revolving around the age of consent being sixteen. They would slag off their wives, perve over teenaged girls, and I saw a few of them out clubbing every weeke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:37 AM |
| 16 | 22 year old Gabbie Petito’s remains have been found after being missing for weeksI have worked in customer service for over half my life. I haven't gone out and murdered any of them. In fact there are many people who have provoked me, and I still managed not to ever murder anyone. Funny how the 'provoke' excuse only applies to defending men, not women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:53 PM |
| 16 | A nice summary of some of the common red flags we hear about on FDSWhen you yearn for your old single life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:44 PM |
| 11 | They will stay mad for 7 years and never changeThe more vicious and nasty about an ex they are, they more I think it wasn't HER who was the issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:27 PM |
| 5 | If anyone gives you a backhanded compliment or neg at the start of a conversation, walk away...Love that. I used that tone on customers when they were rude sometimes. It winds them up so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Mini rant about needing to let strange men into my placeNot a bad idea, having a couple of men's clothing/items dotted around the house. I also hate having strange men over, and I live with my partner. Ladies, maybe visit a charity shop and grab a few men's items, then keep them stashed for when strangers come in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:28 PM |
| 39 | They don't know him like you do.Or you tell them "no". About anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 01:42 AM |
| 41 | Believing your gut feeling the first time is crucialI tell the teenage girls at work this. Listen. To. Your. Gut. I learned the hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 01:39 AM |
| 33 | UK ladies - you can check if your partner has a history of domestic violence through Clare's Law.A true gentleman will not be offended and understand why you need to check for your safety. If they have nothing to hide, they shouldn't have an issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 01:38 AM |
| 3 | This was shared by a pickme who is currently the target of a NVM I and my friend group recently cut off due to his gf finally breaking up with him and sharing all the messed up stuff he did to her. This type of thinking will lead u right into the arms of an abuser. Save your best for yourself.I am utterly mortified I bought into this bullshit. I had an abusive childhood though, so I guess I was ripe for the picking to become a pick-meisha. I kept wanting to tame all these 'bad boys' just to feel some sense of worth 🤡 I am so grateful I saw the light and discovered FDS. This is a horrible message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 12:25 AM |
| 5 | IMPORTANT SAFETY NOTICE: The Plymouth Shooter has complained about FDS. DO NOT DISCUSS FDS WITH MEN. These are males with murderous intentions who desire revenge on women.Typical man really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 03:28 PM |
| 280 | Can’t make this shit up… Once a NVM, always a NVM🙄I know a woman who has fought breast cancer more than once. Her husband drove her to every single doctor's appointment. He held back her hair, had a cool flannel ready and rubbed her back while she vomited from the chemo. He is a tutor at a community college, so he popped into the beauty school and asked the students to give him advice to help his wife wash and style her hair. She takes a lot of pride in her appearance, always beautifully made up and her hair styled. He knew it was important to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Confused pickmeishas on social mediaSo women are either meek and mild doormats, or cock guzzling nymphos. Got it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 09:03 PM |
| 9 | Men constantly reminding us we're unsafe even in spaces for grief 😍I overheard a group of dudes giggling about how AA are good places to pick up because the women have low self esteem. They are absolutely disgusting. They really will target women at their most vulnerable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 08:58 PM |
| 2 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsA guy I went to uni with was about 5'5 and very skinny. He never made an issue of it. He was also a nice dude, very witty and intelligent. The other guys used to mock his body behind his back. But they were probably jealous that all us women had a soft spot for him. It is MEN who make a song and dance about height/hair/dick size, not women. If men can make such a big deal about not wanting to date a woman who doesn't have the body of a seventeen year old gymnast, we are allowed to say we want a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:35 AM |
| 25 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.My former best friend was a pick me. Her husband sexually assaulted me. I reported it. She chose to believe him (he admitted something happened, but that it was consensual) and also told the police all about my former promiscuous/drug taking/drinking lifestyle. Anything to make me look unstable and a bad character. She stayed with her husband for another year after that. They will do anything, ANYTHING for male attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Weight and the behaviours around itI have a very skinny friend who said men have told her she is a "bag of bones" shagging her would leave bruises, and they couldn't date a woman who lives on lettuce leaves. She eats like a horse! Men are just rude, and criticise our bodies, whether we are overweight or slim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:12 AM |
| 2 | People complaining about Scarlett Johansson suing Disney for more moneyYou all know that nobody would bat an eyelash if a male co-star had sued. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:20 PM |
| 148 | Getting hit on by gross old men is so bewildering to me. Do they really think I'd ever f*ck them?I think it is the fact that we are so uncomfortable is what they get off on. They were all the men who used to pat their female coworkers' bottoms and thought it was funny. Absolute pests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 12:07 AM |
| 3 | What made her such an excellent villain in this movie was her highly realistic ax to grindI spent my late teens and most of my twenties being Cool Girl. It was awful. And a very hard mindset to get out of. I am still trying to figure out who I really am, because I was Cool Girl for so long. It is bullshit. When I first read the CG part in the book I had to re-read it about a million times, and it was like a lightbulb had gone off. I was like a chameleon, just moulding myself to each different background. I would change everything about myself to fit each guy's criteria of a Cool Girl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:15 AM |
| 3 | female athletes deserve better. use this to vet your boyfriend, see if he’s the type to justify this double standard by saying “women’s sports have low viewership & sponsorships so they need to show some skin”. 🤮They don't care. Unless it is THEIR daughter, of course 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 12:06 PM |
| 3 | Beautiful Mistakes by Maroon 5 and Megan Thee StallionThis song makes my toes almost break from cringing so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 12:04 PM |
| 16 | This is the translation of the article from a very famous greek newspaper. Another woman was killed by her boyfriend and this is what he has to write about it. (Whole article translation in the comments)They really do tell on themselves all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 06:16 AM |
| 29 | Porn isn't hot.I ignore them. So called "vanilla" sex is hot as hell. When they build you up, tease you, savour your body and they get pleasure from pleasuring you. They are respectful, check you are ok, and basically treat you like a goddess. Sex with these men is fantastic. Sexy as hell and VERY erotic. There is nothing sexy or erotic about half heartedly rubbing my labia, then bending me over and banging into me for two minutes. I cannot believe how much bad sex, and selfish lovers, I put up with in my pick… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 11:56 AM |
| 32 | The eternal girlfriend in the mediaI was briefly involved with a guy whose mother is Italian. He was a total manchild who thought far too highly of himself. Italian women are cool. So elegant and intelligent and charming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 11:47 AM |
| 13 | Avoid throuples, open relationships, ENM, etc. These people are not your friends. They are definitely not your partners. And they will throw you to the curb the moment things get sticky. They’re just using your body.I felt sad reading this. I relate to both the wife and the OP. I have let men use me, and been Cool Girl who loves casual sex and never gets feelings - ew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 11:42 AM |
| 141 | ALL of his exes can’t be the “cRaZy” ones…Some men can keep their mask on for YEARS too. My friend married, had children, and emigrated to the other side of the world with her husband. Then, she said, his true colours came out. When they were back in his homeland, she had young children to look after, and far from her friends and family. Absolute bastard. She left him and he returned that with a nasty seven year custody battle, and slagging her and her homeland off to the kids. My friend is a Queen though. She refuses to ever badmouth t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 11:29 AM |
| 7 | Found this on Tik Tok. I never thought about it like this but it makes sense.You are my hero! How do you build up the nerve to call them out though? I am still very much 'afraid to make a scene' and the scrote's reaction. What is your advice, Queen? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 11:22 AM |
| 3 | Survey: Single Men Change Their Bed Sheets How Often?!Sometimes you are lucky if they even HAVE sheets and pillowcases 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:21 AM |
| 17 | A reminder from history not too long ago: many of your elders didn’t have an easier time in marriage as men like to claim. It was only because of the RvR case in 1991, that the English court system legally recognised that raping your wife was a crime.That is within my lifetime, and I am young. Frightening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:18 AM |
| 13 | Something magical happens when you affirm you will not put your soul in a jeopardizing spaceGood for you. I left two jobs this year. Both were affecting my health, my relationship, everything. The money wasn't worth it. It does help get the ball rolling to start eliminating more toxic aspects in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 10:25 AM |
| 1 | "there's a darkness inside me""When people show you who they are BELIEVE THEM." Wish I had heard that when I was eighteen. Woulda saved a lot of heartache trying to save the poor, tormented soul. They are just miserable, dull, lazy spoiled brats who usually have addiction issues to boot. Run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:44 AM |
| 3 | Homeless men: an example of how men twist the narrativeI'm not shocked. I am a recovering alcoholic and out of the women, ALL I spoke to had been sexually assaulted. The fact is it almost impossible to get justice, and the process is so horribly intrusive, and general victim blamey society makes it even worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:25 AM |
| 3 | have you ever done something sexual you didn’t enjoy? too bad! you now owe it to all future partners /sYup. Leaked nude photos and videos are always waaay more popular than 'posed' ones. It is the lack of consent I swear they get off on. Goes hand in hand with the lack of enjoyment swallowing. Just depraved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:57 AM |
| 5 | I'm done 😪Same. They are now tied to an absolute scrote forever. You can never fully wash your hands of them if you share a child. You just know these absolute bastards know what they are doing. They target insecure, usually young, and vulnerable women to marry and impregnate. The role of wifey. Then they chip away at their self esteem and train their wives to hate other women and see them as the enemy. The scrotes will also visibly check out other women in front of her, and talk about attractive women, a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:49 AM |
| 1 | I'm done 😪Genius! 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:42 AM |
| 3 | Girl, just no. And of course he’s turning 40 and she’s early 20s!!! Nooooo.Yep, I think so too. Poor woman. She knows in her gut something is wrong but she is too afraid of breaking the spell. Been there in my Pick-me past and it sucks. It's like watching your own car crash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:41 AM |
| 16 | Women get judged & picked apart from head to toe while the bar is set in hell for men but lord forbid we say anything about their dicks 😒 Nah, we need to hold them to the same standards!One of my worst bullies at school, who tormented me about my weight, was even fatter than I was. He just got away with it because he was a dude. Rich to boot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:25 AM |
| 17 | Women get judged & picked apart from head to toe while the bar is set in hell for men but lord forbid we say anything about their dicks 😒 Nah, we need to hold them to the same standards!Just the other day I saw a skin care ad that really annoyed me. The first line was (paraphrasing a little) "After forty we women need an anti aging routine." Oh shut up. It was the 'need' that got me. That we should fear looking haggard old frumps at bloody FORTY! In The Walking Dead, the dead are eating the living and the world has ended. Yet all the women still have shiny trimmed hair, perfectly shaped brows, hairless skin and wear tiny clothing despite bites from the walkers being deadly. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:23 AM |
| 2 | Reminder 👑Trust your instincts!He BRAGGED about not laying a hand on a woman. Damn, must be an easy life with a bar so incredibly low. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Reminder 👑Trust your instincts!I never trust a guy who has to tell you how nice he is. All the guys who told me they were gentlemen turned out to be absolute fuckwits in sheep's clothing. Genuinely nice people don't shout about being nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:15 AM |
| 29 | How all of the "Chad" stuff really soundsAt least fuckboys are honest about who they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 07:15 AM |
| 4 | “What do you bring to the table” is actually a modern question. Don’t fall for it.You are totally right when you say men know perfectly well what we bring to the table. Oh, they know all right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 08:39 PM |
| 1 | If the romance is not going your way, please do not make "stories" around it to make it bearable. So many romantic stories are toxic in reality.Yep, this used to be me. I was brainwashed since birth to believe, as a woman, my whole life should revolve around men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 12:08 AM |
| 13 | “So okay, I don’t want to be a traitor to my generation and all but…”But women are too emotional to be president! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:54 PM |
| 18 | I am done with trying to make pickmes see the lightI am a recovering pick-me. It took a hell of a lot of work and soul searching. I am still working on it, and have to check how I act around men. I am going to speak to a psychologist about being assessed for borderline personality disorder too. They can only see the light themselves. All I can do is keep working on myself and be a strong example for my teenage coworkers to look up to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:46 PM |
| 7 | Truly embarrassingOmg!!! 😆😆😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 08:48 AM |
| 2 | It makes me genuinely sad when I think about the crumbs I used to settle for.Same here. I was such a pick-me, obsessed with male attention and I was an unintentional misogynist. Thank our lucky stars we saw the light though. This thread has educated me so much, thank you queens :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 10:27 AM |
| 60 | This is FDS Queen mood for life right here.Funny how "women can get any man they want" when it suits the man's narrative. How often have you heard a man say women can get laid whenever they want? Yet apparently after a certain point we are all shrivelled up prunes with dusty vaginas who is on the shelf forever. Make up your fucking minds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 09:33 AM |
| 1 | How a man gets angry is very revealingI'm sorry this happened to you. So proud you walked away. Omly if you feel comfortable answering this; what were the biggest early red flags? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 08:48 AM |
| 3 | If a guy has a high "body count" he is probably a rapist.Damn. Never thought of this before, but this is so right. Men who brag about their numbers are repulsive anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 01:22 AM |
| 8 | If a guy has a high "body count" he is probably a rapist.My uni flatmate told me his mate threw a party when the mate had hit 100 on his 'body count'. How incredibly sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 01:16 AM |
| 9 | YepOh, YOU would move. Shocker 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 01:04 AM |
| 11 | YepBeen in so many situations like that. You give a compliment, or you are just making polite small talk, and they think you are hitting on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 01:03 AM |
| 17 | YepOr they hurt us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 01:00 AM |
| 86 | Just read a thread about the worst rejection men have experienced from a women that made the front pageI would never let myself be alone with a man who said this. What a creepy little freak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 09:54 AM |
| 2 | I’m sick of pick me articles claiming their husbands infidelity made their relationship ‘stronger’I trust my partner 150%. Not all men cheat. Stop staying with cheats, they always do it again. "Made the relationship stronger" my arse. The cheatee will never trust the cheater again. It will always be an elephant in the room. You deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 09:51 AM |
| 22 | Why men like anal (unpopular opinion: wanting someone to feel pain during sex isn't normal).Brilliant! 👏👏👏💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 08:57 AM |
| 11 | Notice how when a female celebrity cheat on her partner, all hell breaks loose, but if a male celebrity cheats, no one bats an EYE! It’s so normalized that you hardly hear about it..Leonardo DiCaprio steps out with a different 19 year old every week, and nobody but us thinks that is creepy? And when Brad and Angelina split up, so many comments about how Jen must be chuckling to herself about karma. I highly doubt Jen gave much of a fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 08:49 AM |
| 12 | Why is popular culture trying to convince us that a dad bod is more attractive than THIS? (No shade at ppl who like that just saying it seems like a way to shift women’s standard of physical attractiveness, something they would never do to men’s)Because it is ok for men to be fat, but a fat woman is contemptible. Another double standard. I lost about 20 kg, and the difference how men treat me is shocking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 08:42 AM |
| 4 | Oldie but a goodie!I have heard more than one dude say "but it's different for guys!". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:19 PM |
| 24 | 🚩 RED FLAG ❗️🚩 making you live up to the “cool girl” personaWhen I first read the Cool Girl passage in 'Gone Girl', I was stunned. It was seriously a 'lightbulb above the head' in cartoons moment. It set the wheels in motion to stop being a Cool Girl and a pick-me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:41 AM |
| 2 | This will never not be funny.Ah yes. Talking a lot without saying anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:39 AM |
| 10 | Why Pickmes hate FDSThe boys at my school were RUTHLESS towards me because I was about 6 kgs/15 lbs overweight. They were utterly obsessed with tormenting me about how fat and ugly they thought I was. Even after I had left the school, they STILL talked about me and put up a poster in the common room talking about me. So weird. It gave me such a complex and a lifetime of eating disorders. I am a healthy weight now and the difference between how men treat women depending on their weight is shocking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 01:33 AM |
| 59 | 👀When I was a pick-me I went for dudes like this. I wanted to tame the bad boy. Not proud of it, but I learned! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 01:28 AM |
| 4 | Anyone else not bother arguing with men anymore?I love that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 10:42 AM |
| 104 | As it should be.Men either respect women, or they don't. That is the bottom line, and now we women have learned this we cannot unlearn it. They are furious about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 10:01 AM |
| 2 | Is anyone feeling particularly sad for their pick-me mom after finding this subreddit?My mother is a pick-me and a total misogynist. She seems to hate women. She uses the words 'whore' and 'slut' freely. She called ME a slut when I was an eighteen year old virgin 🙄 She insults other women's bodies while her weight increases every year. Like she said Daisy Lowe had a big arse, when she is about 60 lbs overweight for crying out loud! She is also very "boys will be boys" and says women nowadays are too fussy which is why they are single so long. She also said it was my fault for bei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Be honest: Males and females with no kids do you automatically disqualify someone if you find out they have a kid?Yup. Absolute deal breaker. No kids, end of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Unfortunately it's true for so many of usOh yes. My mother hates women. She uses the words 'slut/whore' all the time when she talks about women. I tried to tell her about the sexual harrassment I got at my first job when I was sixteen and she basically told me to stop being a drama queen. Pretty much 'shut up and put up'. It is so frightening how many women this has happened to. I am glad more of us are finding the courage to stand up for ourselves and encouraging other women to do the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:50 AM |
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