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| 5 | Heavy assumption wife is cheating need help to prove it.Why not look into hiring a PI? The list of oh numbers would make it easy for them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Ex’s new partner ruining our amicable co-parenting by slandering me.That is fucked up man. But as they say you can only control the controllable and you can't control who your ex is banging or who she has around the kids. At least your kids are old enough to work things out for themselves. I think your best play is to document anything sus, ignore this white knight simp and be base level cordial to your ex and keep being an awesome dad until this guy blows away. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/23 09:44 PM |
| 3 | The other guyIf I were you I'd consider a DNA test. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/23 04:07 AM |
| 3 | Wife says she has “Outgrown our Marriage”You're not crazy mate. She might as well have just said "I can do better than you". She wants a new (richer/better looking/nicer house etc) toy to play with if she doesn't have one already. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/23 09:24 PM |
| 3 | One of the perks of being single. Can you guess around when she left?Making it freezing cold so she can use a heating blanket??? Hahaha oh man... | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/23 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Advice neededJust tell her you're coming home at xx time. Don't ask, don't simp. As others have stated you might want to consider a voice recorder (check recording laws where you are). | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/23 04:16 AM |
| -1 | Rough DayJeez man reading through your post history is tough. Why the sweet flying fuck are you still hanging out with this person? Are her parents still living there trying to antagonise you? Make no mistake man she's your enemy and you better start acting like it. Ignore and grey rock at all costs and record all interactions or it will bite you in the arse big time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 01:50 PM |
| 5 | I (27m) was married for less than 1 year to someone I have known for more than 10 years. I filed for divorce twice in our marriage. I can’t explain what I feel or went through to anyone.Fuck right off with that shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 09:33 AM |
| 6 | Why didn’t I get the talk?You nailed it man. If the stbx drops that on you with no warning you better believe she's already getting dicked down by some new Chad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 09:31 AM |
| 2 | Probably overIf she's making double why are you using your inheritance to pay off combined debt? Lesbian lover sleep overs and play dates with the kids while you're out working????? Good grief man you've let her get away with far too much already. It's done you need to file. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/23 10:43 AM |
| 18 | 42 about to file, having 2nd thoughts.I can't help but laugh at the ADHD meaning she can only do things she likes haha. How convenient. C'mon man she sounds horrendous. Cheating, binge eating, 500$ a month at Starbucks??? Take your life back.. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/23 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Tiny FAILURE StoryYou're learning mate. I'd consider that a win. Hilarious story though: Feed her kid, cut her grass then cut your losses haha | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/23 01:49 PM |
| 1 | RealizationYes mate that means she gets bonus points. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/23 01:41 PM |
| 3 | 2nd week seperatedYour stbx wife is a proven cheater that's why you should dna test your kids and get tested for piece of mind. You need a lawyer man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/23 01:56 PM |
| 5 | Forgive the rant but I need to air all this out.Jesus Christ man that was tough to read. No sex She doesn't work She doesn't clean She moans about everything.... You need to GTFO of that marriage asap. Ignore her crocodile tears mate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/23 04:14 AM |
| 2 | Severe depression after wife dumped me and divorce.Yeah she is going to make the next poor sucker's life miserable. And the one after that.. And the one after that... | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/23 10:26 PM |
| 9 | Newlywed of 1 year and contemplating divorce. Hard time seeing a futureYeah she sounds fucking crazy. You're already tip toeing around her more than you should be. Set firm boundaries. Let her know her behaviour is totally unacceptable and if she doesn't get her shit together you're gone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/23 01:47 AM |
| 2 | I messed upIf you had a porn addiction and it was getting in the way of your sex life with her I could understand but if it's a quick peek every now and then she's way out of line. Sounds like she's trying to control your every move. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/23 12:55 AM |
| 16 | Curious how many men literally walked away from everything.You're not selfish mate. 10 years? I wouldn't go 10 weeks without sex before packing my bags. Best of luck whatever you decide. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/23 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Separated and wife is rounding 3rd baseExactly. OP it's done mate. She wanted a separation to fuck other guys. If she wasn't already. Stop talking to her about who's finger blasting her and get cracking on divorce. Get your poker face on and grey rock and all that good stuff. Be good to your kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/23 08:57 AM |
| 4 | You don't Divorce the same woman you marriedSounds like your stbx won that round! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/23 11:29 PM |
| 8 | Dealing with SeparationNo way mate. She's either: 1) Having an affair already 2) Got a guy lined up 3) Wants to try a string of new guys while you're waiting for her to return. If I were you I'd make it crystal clear there is no separation only you immediately filing for divorce. It's probably past the point of no return anyway. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/23 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Stuck in LimboI'm curious why you think your kids will side with her? They are adults, surely they can understand it's a broken relationship? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/23 11:30 PM |
| 7 | Contemplating DivorceNow's the time mate. The lack of sex is a good enough reason on its own. And it will almost never improve. Go over to r/deadbedrooms and you'll see. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/23 09:22 PM |
| 4 | Today I decided to leave the house for a while…Next time tell her to sleep on the fucking couch. She will never respect you if you bow down to her after every argument. Do you think you have a part in her not feeling loved? Beware mate if she never feels loved she will soon be looking elsewhere whether you give her enough attention or not. Some women just lose interest and want to seek out tingles (new relationship energy) with a new guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/23 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Looking for adviceShe's back to work and working hard on her appearance.. are you sure she's not already found the next guy?? Edit.. nevermind been covered already. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/23 04:06 AM |
| 6 | I got a date in a weekProbably not mate! But seriously don't overthink it. And don't get your hopes up either. A week away? She may well bail on you before then (statistically speaking). So relax and see what happens. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/23 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Something to remember no matter what stage you’re in: Nothings ever enough, theres nothing you can do to change anything but yourselfProbably understatement of the century. OP seriously man you have some work to do on yourself before you think of getting in another relationship. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/23 02:08 PM |
| -1 | Where to compromise financially?Are you Mark Twain? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/23 10:17 AM |
| 6 | Am i just being emotional?Yeah it was likely no accident you stumbled across them. Do you share a bed in the Airbnb? See if you can have a room you can lock she can't access. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/23 04:14 AM |
| 5 | Found out she has another relationshipTime to block her on the socials bud. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/23 02:04 PM |
| 13 | Any advice?No way man she's going there to "think". | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/23 12:43 AM |
| 4 | Am I over reacting?This is the perfect response. OP you set a perfectly reasonable boundary to block an ex who was shamelessly greasing on to your wife of 17 years. She said no and her fucking friend invites him out to meet up with you all? Weird. Time for action mate. Don't get angry or pouty. Tell her she can either block him or you're done. And follow through if she does. Edit jeez man I read your first post.. is she still abusing you? Sheesh... | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/23 01:59 PM |
| 6 | I think my wife wants legal separation with some BS divorce "delay" due to an affair.Why are you even talking to this woman anymore? She wants to fuck you. And not in the fun way. Grey rock and talk to your lawyer. Only communicate about child logistics nothing else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/23 01:41 PM |
| 3 | TROWhat a shit combination of character traits! | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/23 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Amicable Divorce Could get Ugly Over One Major IssueLet her lover boy move to her if he's that interested (hint: he probably isn't). You need legal advice ASAP but agree to nothing in the interim. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/23 01:33 PM |
| 9 | Am I fucked?She saw you coming a mile off mate. Hope it works out for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/23 04:14 AM |
| 5 | Who gets to stay in the house?This is the way. If you've got a spare room set up there and put a lock on the door. Carry a voice recorder if legal where you are.. Get all your valuables and important docs out the house and somewhere safe.. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/23 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Working it out or divorcing? Is it worth trying or just to simply let go?She's most likely already fucking her ex and is bringing up the open relationship to give her cheating some legitimacy. You're only move at this point is to drop her like a hot potato and move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/23 01:03 AM |
| 11 | How to let go of her, she is filing.Mate read your own post from a month ago. She's already fucking another guy and despises you. This is your current reality. Don't give her the time of day. She's now your adversary. Now is the time to grey rock the hell out of her. Be good to your kids. Hit the weights and focus on yourself. It's game time buddy wake up and stop pining for her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/23 12:56 PM |
| 8 | Am I being a sissy? How much putting down is too much?This is a great post. OP you need to stop trying to be the nice guy. If she's being a c*** to you call that shit out immediately. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/23 11:35 PM |
| 2 | I think today was the day.Yeah I think I'd only have to hear that once to call time. Good luck OP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/23 11:03 PM |
| 1 | WhenC'mon man keep your chin up. It will be tough if you're on the road but at the very least try get some exercise in. Do some sit ups, push ups.. work those guns or whatever. Got any friends or family you can lean on?? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/23 02:03 PM |
| 2 | dont go rooting through the trashManufacturing stress.. Man that resonates with me big time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/23 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Is it better for a man to go back to his wife of 30 years…for familiarity and sentimental reasons….or move forward with new love and fulfilling sex life and risk not having full time companionship?Rip the band-aid off mate. You're separated.. the kids are grown up.. you clearly have no reason to go back to your wife. Do it. Even if it doesn't work out with the new lady you've got to push forward. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/23 01:05 PM |
| 9 | Is Divorce worth it?Well the time for talking is over. You don't have a marriage so why stay married? She is a roommate nothing more. She will use you up for the resources you give her and give nothing back. Put an end to it and find some happiness in your life. You mentioned not having any game? So get some... Hit the gym or whatever.. get active. Tighten up your wardrobe and get some confidence. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/23 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Wife says we don’t spend a enough time togetherFuck that noise. What you're not allowed 1 hour a day to yourself? Mate you need to set firm boundaries. Just say no I don't agree and I will continue doing what I'm doing. Put the ball back in her court. If she doesn't like it she is welcome to GTFO. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/23 01:02 PM |
| 10 | Wife probably planning an affair this weekendDon't go anywhere. I wouldn't even confront her if I was you. Her off banging random guys could work to your advantage in divorce. You gotta be the ice man for the next few months brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/23 09:12 PM |
| 5 | I hate my life right nowThis is good advice. OP you can't live in purgatory for the next 2 years. You may need to start thinking out the box a little bit. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/23 01:55 PM |
| 3 | I'm unsure about marriage. I'm unsure about divorce. I don't want to be hurt again.Ignoring all the paragraphs of relentless shit you've had to deal with. The dead bedroom alone is more than enough reason to end this madness. Just do it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/23 09:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I save this marriage?What is there to save? I read your previous post and it seems almost certain she's cheating on you. Add to that she is treating you worse than dirt. Even if you want to repair this marriage (which I strongly advise you don't) the first thing you should do it stop engaging with her shit behaviour. If you simp and keep being nice it will only drive her away. Take some advice here and get your shit together. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/23 01:44 AM |
| 4 | Wife left and took my son. I can't find them.Yep. Constantly accusing him of cheating? Classic deflection. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/23 04:06 AM |
| 15 | How much time do you play video games each week?I'd say 3-4 hours is reasonable assuming you're putting in effort with your 1 year old. How much down time does your wife get?? It's a red flag your wife is trying to control you like this. Pay attention to it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/23 01:04 PM |
| 1 | For men who divorced your wife......I don't like to nitpick mate but pretty sure you're not doing the dishes the right way.. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/23 12:34 AM |
| 26 | Wife changing her mindYes yes yes. She was cheating on you and when her monkey branch snapped tried to come crawling back. You did the right thing. Hired a PI and obtained evidence then filed. Stop talking to her about anything not kid related and keep going forward with divorce. Get yourself a separate room if you can and put a lock on it. Carry around a voice recorder if legal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 09:47 AM |
| 3 | Found condoms when getting my stuff.Mate that sucks. There's no easy answer but try to channel that energy into action. Get your ducks in a row, talk to a lawyer etc. You know the drill. Try to keep active to burn off some energy. Time to be your best self minus the cheating harpy of a wife. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/22 08:12 AM |
| 0 | I got served today.Nope? I've been through the wringer I just never felt like sharing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/22 01:23 AM |
| 6 | I got served today.I remember your posts from that cuck infested swamp AOAI. Best thing to happen to you mate. What your ex put you through no person should have to deal with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/22 12:20 AM |
| 11 | In honor of this year’s Miriam-Webster word of the year.. let’s hear your RECENT gaslighting stories!What the fuck??? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 03:50 AM |
| 2 | Married too young, advice?Fuck that shit man. You're 1 WEEK in and she's not sure she loves you and doesn't want sex?? Wrap this shit up and get an annulment or whatever you need to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/22 01:19 AM |
| 50 | Why would my soon to be ex wife lie and say "I don't even have any boyfriends."?She is probably just trying to write the narrative now she knows it's heading for divorce. Get ready man because you are probably "emotionally abusive" "worked too much" "didn't do the dishes" take your pick. But in her mind you're the bad guy and she will let everyone know about it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/22 10:39 AM |
| 2 | Divorce feels unavoidable at this point.At least she's being honest man. What's stopping you filing? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/22 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Getting the snipIf there's no kids on your horizon there's really no reason not to especially if you're 50+. The procedure is very quick and easy. The guy who did mine was barely paying attention he's done so many and spent the entire time (5 mins I'd say) talking to his assistant about his daughter's wedding haha. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/22 04:17 AM |
| 10 | Wow… feels like my insides are on fire.You know she wanted you to see the plan b box right? This is who you're dealing with now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/22 03:54 AM |
| 2 | told my wife the truth yesterdayI stopped reading after multi year DB. You don't have a wife you have a roommate so do your fair share of chores and game as much as you want. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/22 10:46 PM |
| 2 | what if'sYou're living in the past man. It's done. She cheated on you and monkey branched to another guy. It's hard but focus on yourself and your kids. Keep yourself busy when you don't have them. Tell yourself she is nothing to you but a person who you share kids with and never discuss anything not related to parenting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/22 04:23 AM |
| 5 | End is Drawing NearJeez mate that's rough. As above.. she was probably cheating but it's a moot point now I guess. You've just discovered who she really is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/22 01:33 PM |
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