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I know but as a man I needed to drive the relationship how I wanted. That was my failure. I should have told her you're my gf and we're having something serious, is that what you want too? Instead I acted like a scared pussy. My only issue with rp is that it pushed me to think I should just plate her when I really did care about her. Yeah that's my own fault. And also that obviously confused her when my actions where semi schizo. In the end if she was the right girl it would have worked out. It'…
/r/ExRedPill05/04/21 03:27 AM
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Thanks for replying here. I'm open to all constructive viewpoints and criticism which is what you are providing despite dealing with assholes
/r/ExRedPill05/04/21 03:16 AM
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I just thought I'd start being an asshole and doing whatever I wanted. I told her that I had to look out for myself first and that's why I did what I did and she tearfully agreed that I deserved it all. Red pill ain't all wrong and it kind of bothers me how there's such a polarity in discussing this stuff. I posted here just because asktrp would have turbo sperged because I want a wife and kids long term. Models is all about honesty and vulnerability iirc and from now on its how I intend to live…
/r/ExRedPill05/04/21 03:14 AM
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How did I apply it wrong? I tried applying some rp concepts to an ltr and it didn't work. I didn't lead what I wanted. No matter the philosophy I should have taken what I wanted that was my lesson learned most was to be true to my emotions. I thought I could just cheat and be cool with it and I wasn't like that after all. Honestly you aren't totally off base, red pill is doing what you want and leading. Like you said, I had a mask on.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 06:50 PM
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Yeah I won't let myself be used and if it's just a one sided thing I'll let it go. I did beg for a second chance during which is not the best look, but it's like the other guy said I just came clean basically why I acted the way I did.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 05:49 PM
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Without a doubt the biggest issue was not talking about where the relationship was going. She wasn't going to bring it up herself. My sister told me the same thing with her and her husband, he initiated everything. Dread or comfort, doesn't matter, what we needed was to talk. And what I needed was to be in tune with my emotions that I loved this person and that I didn't need to spin plates to validate myself and that one month of her having low libido was something we could mutually fix (and hav…
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 05:42 PM
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Thanks it helps me mentally to hear I'm not the only one who screwed up like this. It's why I decided to share. I wish the very best for you and hope we come out stronger. Sucks how some lessons have to be learned the hard way. And it sucks she was hurt in the process. And eh I really caught my girl off guard she was saying that she wanted me to stay in her life still. I don't know if she still feels that way now. Especially since I begged for a second chance.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 05:39 PM
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Thanks bro. I figured I'd catch some flak. Making it some black and white thing isn't useful (not you). Just here to share my story and how I hope to come out better.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 05:33 PM
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I tried so hard to show her with my actions, but after so many months it wasn't enough and she started feeling insecure. The relationship was too undefined. She said she selfishly wanted me in her life still and you know what I am going to go for that. Hell it's the least I can do to make up for how I acted. She also wanted space so let's see how it pans out.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 05:29 PM
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Uhh ok
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 05:15 PM
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I gave her comfort, valentines dinner, birthday presents, it was the verbal communication. I tried showing her that I loved her it wasn't enough. Men are expected to lead the relationship too and that includes defining it.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 05:14 PM
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Yup it worked in that it got a reaction, it didn't work in that it created a massive wedge between us. And believe me I tried. We got it all out over the phone the next day. I explained everything without saying redpill. She still wasn't sure then, but was looking like a no. I sent her flowers a few days later, told her I wanted something serious and for her to be my gf, and she says no I made up my mind already. She just felt too disrespected mostly and that the communication was coming too lat…
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 02:49 PM
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Don't be dense. I am a good person and I'm owning my mistakes.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 02:24 PM
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It's part of the whole picture. I hope she sees the better qualities of our relationship and gives me the opportunity to open up to her. I was afraid to say I love you, but I always tried to show her through my actions (until we both pulled back). Even if we are only friends and I can let my guard down and talk it would be nice. I just hope she sees that I am a good person deep down and can forgive me
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 02:11 PM
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Why did you call her 4 times when she didn't pick up? That's weird as shit and would have annoyed me too. Friends doesn't mean hang out constantly, male or female, you sound clingy. She just wanted a little bit of space and you blew her up.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 07:03 PM
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Interesting perhaps it's different in marriage. I've personally acted mad before and it went horribly. This rule imo would be a way to avoid appearing butthurt. You're not mad at getting turned down and you're leaving forever is just business.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 12:26 PM
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K keep me posted
/r/askTRP09/03/21 03:41 AM
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In my head I’m just thinking, who are these weak people around me all the time?!? A lot of people are really pathetic and lately I just don't care to help them with anything especially to help them manage their feefees. Sounds like you went overboard though at work, I know exactly what your situation is lmao with idiot it managers
/r/askTRP09/03/21 01:36 AM
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So you think it'll exclude every women?
/r/askTRP09/03/21 01:17 AM
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That's irrelevant. You can't be or stay attractive to everyone. This is to cut losses early.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 12:16 AM
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Do you people really not have period sex?
/r/askTRP08/03/21 10:04 PM
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Yes
/r/askTRP07/03/21 04:51 PM
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Nobody is talking how to avoid those situations to begin with. A pack of nogs, you should have scoped that out a mile away and avoided them.
/r/askTRP05/03/21 11:55 AM
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Kind of a similar boat. Just mentally break now I guess. Ltr doesn't mean serious. It's serial monogamy
/r/askTRP22/02/21 04:00 AM
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For sure, this isn't my way of saying I wish the girl was totally needy and bothered me all the time, because that's not a relationship that would work for me. But there's a difference between almost zero effort (they still text you, you sometimes reply) and no communication whatsoever outside of dates. Maybe it's my own neediness coming through, I just don't want them to move on because there's no emotional connection. For what it's worth I'm not really interested in spinning plates, it's just …
/r/askTRP16/08/20 06:32 PM
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Just whether I should stop entirely. Or get blasted sometimes and do better to not cause a scene. Or drink a bit but never so much it's not unsafe to drive etc. Yeah it's embarrassing to write the above, approaching 30 maybe I should move on from even being in this situation and these friends where getting that fucked up is even an option ie. "let's take shots". This has forced me to self reflect a lot because my life is otherwise good and I put a lot on the line when things like that happen.
/r/askTRP27/07/20 04:39 PM
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Reverse kegals during the build up. Look up mantak chia Taoist sex for men too.
/r/askTRP23/07/20 02:47 PM
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Find a way to do pull ups
/r/askTRP23/07/20 01:14 AM
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I wouldn't respond. More importantly if it's a deal breaker for you then move on. If it's not a deal breaker carry on. It's kind of disrespectful of her, tbh I prefer to be blissfully ignorant of whether she's doing other dates or whatever.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 07:25 PM
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Meh young girls can be miscalibrated. Even if you weren't official imo it's not wrong to not want to date a girl who dates multiple people at once. Some girl I had a thing with in the past just sent me some snaps with another guy. Like wtf why send that, she could have easily strung me along, but now I'm repulsed.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 06:28 PM
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I hear you, my voice sometimes cracks still at 28. Once I went through a phase of recording myself talking about things (a lot while driving to work). It seemed to work as a friend I hadn't seen in a while commented that I sounded different. I stopped unfortunately and now I'm pretty much how I was with an average voice.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 06:21 PM
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Getting 8 hours of quality sleep
/r/askTRP21/07/20 10:18 PM
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Thanks mate. I was kind of avoiding these relationship weekend type dates. But I know another train of thought is "have fun, hook up". Maybe this time or next I'm going to float something active like hanging at the beach during the day. I'm an active person, hiking and what not so it's kind of incongruent if we only just sit around my apartment.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 10:48 PM
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I'm 28. After the first round I'm liable to lose my boner if we're going again right after, but I have sensation issues especially with condoms. I've never had a girl have a problem with it either. I'm pretty much capped at 3-4x a day and even that is influenced by a lot of external factors with how easily I can get aroused again. I went through a period where even getting it up for once a day (besides morning wood) was a struggle, idk why, I just keep my fitness on point and I've gone back to n…
/r/askTRP12/07/20 08:42 PM
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This. Physical stock or drop shipping?
/r/askTRP11/07/20 11:30 AM
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I shrunk an inch from 18 to 28. Feels bad man. Must be an injury or some shit my neck and back are sorta fucked, doesn't hold me back at least.
/r/askTRP10/07/20 07:10 PM
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I reconnected with an old friend recently and some of their social circle (active hobbies) and its been great. New social circle never hurts and these guys are pretty wild so that's a plus. Just test the waters and see what they're about.
/r/askTRP10/07/20 07:08 PM
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Don't mention it and if you can lie. It weirds girls out. Edit: lie only if outright asked
/r/askTRP25/06/20 02:41 PM
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I experienced this as well. If you've never met shoot the shit a little bit more as a lead up and during communications. Don't listen to only text for logistics advice, it assumes you aren't going to be autistic about it. Also I wouldn't be barking orders at them at least until they know you. Establish the date then establish the time, it doesn't really all have to be in one big sentence. "does 8 work?" is going to be received a lot better. And finally they probably would have just flaked anyway…
/r/askTRP25/06/20 02:35 PM
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Eh I don't like your wording, but your right I don't want it to feel forced or obligatory since the vibe will be different when we aren't horny and grinding on each other. That's why I didn't accept the offer immediately just said idk when she asked what I was doing the next day.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 02:49 PM
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Yeah I think she didn't want to look like a slut in front of her parents and bro so she'd plan better logistics next time. I usually play it so slow and cool that they are begging for it by the time we get down to business. I'll give her a call and tell her to bring some wine over after dinner so she's invested in it too and it's not another dinner date.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 01:03 PM
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Thanks bro, sounds like a plan
/r/askTRP24/06/20 12:55 PM
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She had her opportunity do I really want to engage in stupid games? There's other stuff I like to do in the evenings too including getting a good rest. Yeah I see your point tho, I get caught up in the do this not that bs rules you see thrown around by various dating coaches which is why I asked.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 12:22 PM
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Would she have wanted me fingering her at all if that was the case? No bj and I didn't ask either, they do nothing for me unless it's to get me hard enough to fuck. I wasn't going to finish last night but I couldn't sleep so I jerked off. That plus a shitty nights sleep hopefully leaves me enough stamina if this does play out. I have some yohimbe at least that I can try.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 12:13 PM
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Never get pissed fml this is the worst mistake you can make
/r/askTRP18/06/20 08:17 PM
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I always feel awkward exchanging contact info in situations like these. Sucks how many people I could have connected with and then didn't.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 02:41 PM
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I never have dinner dates at my house go well either. Just invite over for drinks and snack instead. Probably combo provider vibes and wanting to digest. Also play a game or something, way more fun and you aren't really locked in to a full movie if it goes poorly.
/r/askTRP19/05/20 04:07 PM
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Sounds like you have two good friends to party with. Now make friends to do the other stuff with too. Everyone wants different things and sometimes it overlaps
/r/askTRP17/05/20 08:36 PM
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Delete it and try again. Can happen on any app
/r/askTRP17/05/20 08:34 PM
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I'm 28 and same. I can get morning wood but then not a boner later sometimes, while other times I'm hard just by kissing. I chalked it up to too much drinking and poor sleep, but it lingered beyond that. And was an issue with 2 different girls who were both attractive and one I was pretty closely bonded with so idk. Apparently dopamine plays a role in arousal, more than testosterone and nitric acid which just ensures you physiologically can get hard. So idk try to sort that out. Jerking off some…
/r/askTRP14/05/20 02:08 AM
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Marcus Aurelius
/r/askTRP13/05/20 01:30 AM
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Here's what I'm doing, eat 2-500 calories below what you burn and consume. At least 0.7g protein / lb weight. As a perma skinny dude I was surprised by how many calories I was really eating, thought it would be low. 2500 with skipping breakfast and easily higher if I snacked more on cheese, milk, sweets. Just put in the effort to track calories and protein. I made a spreadsheet with all the foods I eat and the portions so now it's pretty easy. I'm already going to leave lock down stronger and le…
/r/askTRP12/05/20 04:30 PM
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Surprised people are being such pricks here. If he's screwing up the image of your page block him without a second thought. Consider though that his engagement might help your page metrics. So you could consider embracing your hater, just say "thanks for the support" or whatever especially on disrespectful comments. Notice how every youtube video has people like that talking trash, just rise above it.
/r/askTRP12/05/20 04:14 PM
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Sounds like they offered. What's the problem? Do you really have a better work life balance? I like unplugging from work bs at the end of the day. I can do that at home but a lot of people are working almost 24 7 now and creating a culture of sorts.
/r/askTRP04/05/20 12:33 AM
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Pussy of the year
/r/askTRP02/05/20 12:54 AM
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What a faggot lmao
/r/askTRP02/05/20 12:30 AM
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Yep. We weren't fucking before the non-apology
/r/askTRP01/05/20 04:13 PM
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I asked the same question. Didn't apologize. She came around two weeks later. Then I did more stupid shit, DID apologize, and now we're just friends.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 01:36 AM
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You still have to make judgements about what information you share though. A lot of nosy people. Yeah the response is to tell them to fuck off, but what you do or don't share still impacts your frame.
/r/askTRP29/04/20 08:21 PM
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I get this a lot too when we're getting down and dirty. I think the only one who didn't say anything just had her eyes closed most of the time. I just say I like looking at you or I'm not allowed to look at you?
/r/askTRP29/04/20 12:29 PM
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Maybe use a cock ring or something instead
/r/askTRP18/04/20 10:26 PM
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Is it better to have a friend who holds you back over nobody? Say I'm not doing anything Friday night and my choices are hang out alone or hang out with him. I know a bunch of people will say I should spend the time improving myself. Sometimes it just feels nice to have anybody to talk to to stave off loneliness. Cause of circumstances, especially lately with lockdowns, I don't always have baller plans on the weekends. Said person is just a negative influence; only ever wants to drink and watch …
/r/askTRP18/04/20 10:16 PM
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Thanks I'll check it out. Might push for the drinks on my roof again. If she rejects that I'll just next till summer when we'll both end up riding motorcycles together. Then I'll show her a chill beach spot I know. I just know if I get her alone again I can escalate easily. Asd is preventing her from just coming over to hang out I think because she knows what will happen.
/r/askTRP26/02/20 08:30 PM
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No doubt. I've already gone pretty far with her though and she's been hitting me up up with "what are you doing this weekend" tier texts. So I feel like there's not a huge barrier to make her a plate.
/r/askTRP26/02/20 08:20 PM
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Oh yeah and I think younger girls will just put in less effort and be less socially calibrated in regards to knowing they should offer to reschedule.
/r/askTRP20/02/20 07:50 PM
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If she gave you a heads up and wasn't too disrespectful then sure I'd hit her up. Be even less invested though, come hang out type deal. If she flaked last minute it would irritate me a lot more and you know you shouldn't.
/r/askTRP20/02/20 07:37 PM
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Any reason?
/r/askTRP19/02/20 10:13 PM
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Sure that's what happened. Let's assume she was not having sex with this other guy prior. Why the sudden 180? Was my performance not as good as I thought. Not enough emotion even though I got her off a lot? You know why did he win out and not me?
/r/askTRP19/02/20 06:45 PM
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I caught some feels for sure, not oneitis. I kind of feel like I was too unemotional. It's my natural state. Yeah I know the only advice is move on, but just trying to analyze the situation in hindsight
/r/askTRP19/02/20 06:41 PM
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I think either way is fine. If second date is near her pick her up and you get invited back. I have limited experience, but live in the burbs, seems to me like girls are most comfortable in their own home if your place is far away. If you both lived in the city it's probably different.
/r/askTRP19/02/20 04:57 PM
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I found the older they are the more likely they will commute to you. I had a 26 yo driving from the city to my place like 40 minutes. Younger girls usually stop responding once they calculate the distance.
/r/askTRP19/02/20 04:40 PM
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Swapping one substance for another
/r/askTRP19/02/20 04:28 PM
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The problem I have is that action dates are expensive and outdoors ones are weather and season dependent. Plus usually requires daylight aka a precious weekend day. Might try tea for a nighttime date and just drink herbal tea. The op doesn't say but I'm guessing he's asking about first dates where you want something inexpensive and low commitment. That's where it's trickier. Sure if you like the girl go rock climbing whatever.
/r/askTRP19/02/20 02:58 PM
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