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You better have a vasectomy if you’re fucking around with this girl.
/r/seduction07/10/25 04:15 AM
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Agreed, but that’s why I quoted what I did. That’s literally all you need to say. I lean spectrum ish and have slept with a few women saying just that. In fact I got more attention than ever saying that. I said that to the woman I’ve been seeing this whole year and she got me hooked lol. And yes there’s all kinds of other social things required that are kind of stupid but sometimes you can surpass those with decent looks and just being a good dude. Other times you make simple statements like the…
/r/seduction05/10/25 01:10 AM
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Women definitely will hook up with guys who make it clear that that’s all they want. “I’m not looking for anything serious.”
/r/seduction04/10/25 05:58 PM
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Again, I’m not arguing that being attractive isn’t a solid baseline for women being attracted to you. No one here is. You said being friends with women won’t help you get other women. That’s false. That is my only point.
/r/seduction28/09/25 07:26 AM
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No one is arguing that point
/r/seduction28/09/25 02:50 AM
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Making friends with women absolutely does help for reasons listed above. Meeting their friends and having preselection value are both a big deal.
/r/seduction27/09/25 07:25 PM
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In general I take the view of long term being far more valuable too. But something I’ve learned over the last couple years is that only looking for casual actually opens the door for more opportunities for long term. At least for me. It’s probably just in how I carry myself when I’m not looking for a girlfriend. I walk around in my day to day life as though I don’t need anything, but I’m open to women coming into my life and happy when they do. Takes a lot of pressure off of me, and anyone I may…
/r/seduction29/06/25 08:33 PM
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One take away I had from some escapades last year: casual is something I’m totally okay with, but I better make sure I see at least some long term potential with women I see casually. There’s a multitude of reasons for this, not the least of which is the potential for accidental pregnancy. But it’s nice to spend time with someone you actually care about and adds value to your life outside of sex, even if it’s just a short term thing.
/r/seduction29/06/25 06:47 PM
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Girls trip to Vegas is one I’ve seen on a couple of occasions with a couple of different friends and their gf’s
/r/seduction12/06/25 03:10 AM
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I mean you can fuck whoever you want, it doesn’t affect me at all. But if you had options you wouldn’t even consider the risky options ya know?
/r/seduction06/06/25 09:56 PM
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You’re really that desperate??
/r/seduction06/06/25 09:48 PM
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This is so incredibly context dependent. Dates screening for a relationship, or good time… mistakes in a given situation might be perfect in another for either situation or both. As an overall general point, I think too many go into it tense and with expectations. A first date should only be a fun opportunity to get to know someone new. Any expectation beyond that in most scenarios is a mistake and puts pressure on you and your date.
/r/seduction04/06/25 07:35 PM
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Best to not jump steps if you aren’t even getting as far as a number imo.
/r/seduction02/06/25 08:27 PM
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Oh it definitely takes it to another level. Sometimes I don’t wear headphones at the gym, and the amount of guys that just openly talk about being on something is pretty surprising. Most of them are on testosterone, and few are messing with other stuff which is probably a good thing. I will say though, I think many of these guys are shooting themselves in the foot by not doing some of the basics right. That or their genetics are crap. But maybe 25% or so just don’t have surprisingly good physiqu…
/r/seduction29/05/25 12:05 AM
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Something a lot of guys don’t want to admit is that most of us can get where the trt guys are at naturally. Or at least damn close. It takes years of consistent hard work though. You don’t get to just show up to the gym and kind of aimlessly move weight around for a few months while eating more protein and expect game changing results. That’ll work to built a good foundation for the first 6 months, but not much longer. At some point in the first year you have to start dialing in all the variable…
/r/seduction28/05/25 07:04 PM
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Sprinters aren’t really built at all though
/r/seduction28/05/25 06:24 PM
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A razor is still undefeated when it comes to hair loss.
/r/seduction28/05/25 06:22 PM
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One of the things that no one wants to hear but is largely true is that it’s just a combination of finding your style and practicing it. Mine is a little unconventional yet conventional in the sense that I’m truly being myself. But I’m just a goofball. I let a version of the 5th grade class clown side of me out. Incredibly childish yet PG behavior. That and I listen a lot and ask a lot of questions, and then focus on things about her that are truly interesting to me. Also come back around to thi…
/r/seduction20/05/25 04:18 AM
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If you have legitimate diagnosed social anxiety and get prescribed a med for it, that’s a different story. But I personally wouldn’t supplement much outside of a multivitamin and vitamin D. Only other things I personally use are creatine and whey. Will this supplement help you? Maybe. But I’d doubt it’ll be any kind of game changer. Some of the best advice I could give you is to just talk to people (men and women of all ages) without any motive of anything happening. And if that person happens t…
/r/seduction17/05/25 06:48 PM
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It depends on why this matters to you. If it’s coming from a place of genuine curiosity and without judgement then just ask. If you’re asking for any other reason then it’s probably not a topic you want to broach.
/r/seduction12/05/25 09:26 AM
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I was going to say bring your best dick game to one of her good friends, but this is probably better lol. I’ll never forget the recent time I had with a woman who wanted me but was so so on me at the same time. My friends had tipped me off previously that she was into me. They also said she seemed pretty wishy washy about it half the time though. One night we were all at a party when one of her friends started chatting me up (so so girl had cold shouldered me for the most part that night). We ta…
/r/seduction10/05/25 07:21 AM
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Okay. But I’m sure you can agree that attraction to someone changes as you get to know them. An 8 can go to a 4 if you start seeing ugly sides of their personality, and a 5 to a 7 if you start seeing amazing sides of their personality. All of this and how each person ranks others is entirely subjective and up to the individual. None of it is beholden to my standard of what certain ranks mean, or your’s.
/r/seduction01/05/25 06:28 PM
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As an aside that’s tied to this larger point too: I’d much rather have the 5/10 or 6/10 girl who’s pretty cute, loyal af, and genuinely excited to be with me over the 8/10 or 9/10 who’s hot and cold but sticking around for whatever the reason is (looks, status etc) I know a lot of men will disagree here, but there’s a lot of men out there who feel the same way. As we’ve gotten older and had more experience I think a pretty large chunk of us feel the same way. And I’d argue that the same applies …
/r/seduction30/04/25 07:16 PM
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Mature women worth being around absolutely communicate clearly and openly like that.
/r/seduction28/04/25 02:50 AM
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Depends on how the date went with her friend and what you all said afterwards. Did you plan another date with the friend? Sleep with her? Decide amicably that you both won’t see each other again. I feel like all of the plan hinges on this. Even then, she might wonder why she was second choice after her friend. And they’re definitely going to talk about it right after you ask her out.
/r/seduction27/04/25 04:06 AM
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I feel like the only way to sidestep getting flaked (at least to a very large degree) is social circle game. As common as flaking is, it’s still looked down upon and if you want to stop seeing a friend of a friend then manning up so to speak is actually the best and easiest option. I’m talking to a friend of some friends right now, and she’s dope. Definitely into me and I’m into her and all that, but there’s been moments in us talking where I’ve identified that I likely would’ve been ghosted if …
/r/seduction24/04/25 05:50 AM
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The best thing I did was to start going to the gym, lifting, and getting a higher volume of signals often enough that it became pretty easy to spot. If something is happening to you all the time you’ll notice. If something is rarely if ever happening how are you going to properly identify it?
/r/seduction23/04/25 05:51 AM
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This is peak first date advice! The only goal should be to have fun meeting someone new. Take the pressure off yourself and her as well.
/r/seduction22/04/25 06:18 AM
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Doesn’t really matter much. Overthinking when it comes to these things is the main thing you want to avoid
/r/seduction16/04/25 03:42 AM
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“That dress looks sexy on you!” If she’s sending it directly to you, you can absolutely be more forward.
/r/seduction15/04/25 11:23 PM
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Or you could just switch it up randomly on some days. Or if you generally go m-f switching it up to take Wednesday off in favor for Saturday or something. Imo if you’re switching your routine in the hopes of meeting women you’re doing it wrong. At least in regards to the gym, simply because your priority with the gym is fitness. But I 100% agree with everything in the comment that started this thread. Only approach (with pickup/dating intentions) women in the gym who you feel really compelled to…
/r/seduction15/04/25 08:44 PM
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Wait until you’ve been at it consistently for a year plus. The signals become so blatantly obvious. Women also make the first move more often, even if only slightly.
/r/seduction13/04/25 04:34 PM
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Acting like people haven’t met a girlfriend/boyfriend or hooked up with anyone from the gym lol
/r/seduction13/04/25 04:32 PM
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If she’s offering an alternate day, and that day and time actually works, then why not? She’s putting effort in and that’s a good sign in my book. Things come up in life. The way I like to look at a situation like this is that she was so excited to meet up with me that she forgot her obligation to x. Maybe a date with a good friend who has conflicting schedules with her who she doesn’t get to see very often. Maybe plans to hang out with her sibling or parents that she forgot about. And the fact …
/r/seduction12/04/25 07:45 AM
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Learn how to say no and stop sleeping with women you’re not that attracted to. You’ll get a little desensitized to sleeping with the attractive ones.
/r/seduction09/04/25 04:31 AM
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That’s nothing material.
/r/seduction06/04/25 07:46 AM
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Aka: I have no idea what I want but I do want to fuck. Be direct, upfront, and sure of yourself
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:54 PM
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Yeah that’s just not true in a majority of cases my man lol. But if you have social skills you won’t be interrupting a workout to talk to someone. Who tf is talking to anyone mid set?
/r/seduction02/04/25 09:13 PM
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Mines going fine. I don’t really approach at the gym though. I have, and I would again. But never in the parking lot when she’s isolated from other people. That’s how to come across like a predator 101
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:43 PM
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No! Don’t approach women in parking lots lol. Jfc man
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:38 PM
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Bro that’s so true. The more friends you have at the gym the more low key annoying it gets. Like it’s cool and I like those peeps but sometimes I’m not in the mood for socializing, and sometimes I simply don’t have the extra time. Boundaries with those relationships is important for sure.
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:36 PM
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There’s a lot of normal gym girls who generally feel this way too, not just the big girls. But your last point is why it’s generally looked down upon imo. You gotta really not push it there if they’re not reciprocating, and so many guys can’t wrap their heads around when to walk away. You’re both members and you’ll both see each other again (probably tomorrow) and no one wants it to be awkward. And I think it really helps if you’ve been going a while and actually look like you belong there. I ca…
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:29 PM
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I think the last sentence is why it’s so important. You stand out when that’s not the first thing you mention.
/r/seduction29/03/25 06:22 AM
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Yeah man hit me up. Gonna have to get back to you tomorrow cause I’m squinting through my eyelids and need sleep, but we should definitely have a conversation
/r/seduction26/03/25 10:06 AM
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Being raised mostly by women… oh how I feel you brother. For me that was a huge positive impact in numerous ways, but a big negative impact in two ways so far as I can tell. Hearing the men are dogs (or some variation there of) speech enough that I felt like it was not okay to express myself romantically or sexually with women. My mom said it all of the time and so did a few of my aunts. The last thing I ever wanted to do was make a woman uncomfortable. I still feel this way to a very large degr…
/r/seduction26/03/25 09:20 AM
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Keep it pushing. If she’s using that as a test then why would you want to deal with a chick like that anyways
/r/seduction04/03/25 07:41 PM
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Being relatively indifferent is kind of always the move. Yeah show interest, but don’t over do it. Make moves but don’t force the issue if she’s medium about it. And honestly if she’s medium about it then yeah pulling back might even be the move. Hard to know in your situation specifically. If you guys have been seeing each other and fucking and all that for months then it’s kind of different. I got a gal to my place on Saturday basically without doing anything. I knew she was into me based on w…
/r/seduction04/03/25 04:47 AM
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Some actually do play hard to get. They’re not worth the time though.
/r/seduction28/02/25 05:49 AM
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Almost like different people have different experiences. For some online will kill, for some their in person game will kill, for some they’ll be mediocre in both and need both mediums to maximize options.
/r/seduction19/02/25 09:06 PM
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To add to this comment, one of the best things you can do is to get out of your head and go with her flow. Let your body react to how she’s reacting to your moves. It sounds like weird spiritual/energetic jargon, but if you let go and let your bodies become one, it will provide you with some of your best performances.
/r/seduction02/02/25 06:43 PM
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I was referring to yoga
/r/seduction30/01/25 08:00 PM
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You can’t fake being into shit that’s actually very hard my man lol.
/r/seduction30/01/25 03:38 PM
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Being tall (like many things) is a bonus, not a necessity in most cases. How important that is varies widely woman to woman. I do totally fine at 5’7”
/r/seduction30/01/25 04:48 AM
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Those local medical schools where you can get 2 year nursing degrees etc. Took a tour at our local one about a year ago and quickly noticed that the guy giving me the tour was the only other guy there. Was touring for a physical therapy assistant program. Also yoga is usually like 80% women. But everyone will know you’re not really in it for the yoga… unless you are actually in it for the yoga.
/r/seduction30/01/25 01:24 AM
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I’d probably say “only the cute ones” or something similar. Maybe even just a confident yes. Doesn’t seem like a make or break question in most scenarios.
/r/seduction27/01/25 08:21 PM
0

You can just gauge her interest by whether or not she gives you her number, or takes your’s.
/r/seduction26/01/25 05:07 PM
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No lol. You’re trying to actually text them, not end up in a message request bin that isn’t ever opened.
/r/seduction26/01/25 06:51 AM
2

Your second sentence makes no sense
/r/seduction26/01/25 06:50 AM
0

Huh?? Can you imagine even sending the like on 100 of them? Why would you open yourself to 100 conversations to filter?
/r/seduction19/01/25 06:57 AM
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They do know he thinks like this because it certainly comes across in his body language and facial expressions. Women are experts at seeing right through you before you even talk to them.
/r/seduction17/01/25 08:03 PM
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It’s always the moves you think are the riskiest that are actually best (if you’re relatively inexperienced). The overtly sexual thing you think you shouldn’t say, the way you touch etc. Saying you really like her seems like such a safe bet but is actually one of the riskier moves you could make
/r/seduction03/01/25 06:46 PM
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I’ve had it happen to me too a couple times but still exceedingly rare and never at the gym. Most guys don’t experience a woman approaching them. There’s always exceptions to the rule. I’m not asking questions I’m telling you how it is. Congrats to your brother though I guess.. lol
/r/seduction11/12/24 11:36 PM
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It definitely happens but it’s super rare my man. 99% of women won’t approach a guy they like
/r/seduction11/12/24 10:55 PM
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I think the overall point with approaching at gyms is to just be casual in your approach. Don’t try to get a number or flirt the first time. Just establish the connection and feel out whether or not she’s receptive. Say hi and converse a couple more times. If she seems receptive then go for it. I’d probably say something like “I know this is crazy cause we’re just at the gym, but I’d like to get a coffee with you sometime if you’re interested.” Not the best line but I usually ask kind of awkward…
/r/seduction11/12/24 06:52 AM
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Since when are gym girls approaching guys? Lol, I’ve been going to 2 gyms for 3 years and I haven’t seen it.
/r/seduction11/12/24 06:41 AM
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The answer is no 90% of the time when you are attractive too lol
/r/seduction02/12/24 09:03 PM
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Women are a lot less sensitive about this shit than men… trust me. She has hundreds of options at her fingertips. She’ll find another guy who’s interested and she’s into in a week or two if she’s looking. Don’t be an asshole with your delivery and it won’t hurt her feelings. She’ll be upset for like a day.
/r/seduction30/11/24 06:22 AM
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Tbf he said it happened once. I’d imagine for almost any guy that’s pretty rare unless you’re literally Drake. But it doesn’t sound insane to me with how easily you can get many women to send nudes. You literally can just ask half the time and get something lol
/r/seduction22/11/24 04:19 PM
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Generally speaking you flirt/build rapport, then ask for nudes. One way I’ve done it is after flirting and building that chemistry you’ll eventually get a cute selfie unprompted. When you get said selfie (especially if she’s home) you can respond with something like “ridiculously cute, but you’ve got entirely too much clothing.” You can even push them in the direction of sending a selfie to show off some new clothing they’re telling you about, or a new bathing suit they’re telling you about. I’v…
/r/seduction21/11/24 07:27 PM
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Getting nudes is ridiculously easy my man
/r/seduction18/11/24 09:47 PM
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Putting on noticeable muscle takes a lot of time my man. If that’s something you want to do, then you should do it for you, not because it might help you get girls. It’ll help with that to an extent but without any game muscles get you nothing but open invitations that you don’t know what to do with. But, if you want to put muscle on, get into the gym 3-4 days a week, train close to failure through a full range of motion, and eat about 1 gram of protein per pound of body weight per day. Don’t wo…
/r/seduction24/10/24 08:31 AM
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There you go my man, that’s the mindset right there. If someone is going to turn you down for your height you’re dodging someone you really don’t want anyways. Another thing that’s important to realize is that insecurity is a huge turnoff to everyone, including women. No point in being insecure about something you can’t change.
/r/seduction14/10/24 02:19 AM
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Great advice to actually sleep with the types of women op is talking about. Also great advice to completely turn off and turn away the amazing few that are out there.
/r/seduction14/10/24 02:06 AM
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Yeah it’s one of those things where when I see it online, I just separate that from what I actually experience in the real world. Because in my experience I have no negative interactions with people based purely on my height. It makes me wonder if half of the guys who talk about being openly berated over it are making it up. It’s hard to fathom people actually experience that on a regular basis when I haven’t even gotten a hint of it.
/r/seduction14/10/24 01:54 AM
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I remember when I started talking to a woman and she disclosed she had hsv-1. I was like isn’t that the herpes that basically everyone has if you’ve kissed someone or shared drinks? She was like no I don’t think so, and we both proceed to look it up, then she double checks the screen shot of her test results from a year prior. The look of horror on her face as she realized all the missed opportunities she had from telling everyone that.
/r/seduction11/10/24 06:58 PM
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Yes 1 gram of protein per lb of body weight per day. If you’re fat this number can be reduced a lot. You’d look up the healthy weight you’d be at for your height. For example if you’re 250 lbs at 5’8” you’re probably going to want to shoot for around 160 grams of protein per day. If you decide to bulk anyways you can get away with a little less. Approximately .75 grams per lb of body weight per day.
/r/seduction11/10/24 05:55 PM
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Well put all around man. Couldn’t agree more!
/r/seduction11/10/24 04:21 PM
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This is so underrated. I’m 5’7” and have never perceived my height as a disadvantage. Maybe only when it comes to really high shelves lol. Walking around with confidence is so key. A huge boost to my confidence happened when I started putting on muscle a couple years ago now, and since then I’ve actually had a couple dudes I know say that I carry myself like I’m much taller than I am. When I hear that it makes me chuckle, because I’ve never considered myself as particularly short or anything. OP…
/r/seduction11/10/24 04:01 PM
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The first year to two years you start lifting you don’t need to bulk to put on muscle. You do need to consistently eat about 1 gram of protein per lb of body weight though. If you’re just getting started and you’re average weight, or slightly overweight then just shift your diet to whole healthy foods with a focus on protein. Make your protein servings spread evenly throughout the day.
/r/seduction11/10/24 03:51 PM
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The message requests feature killed dm game. If you message someone for the first time it goes into a request folder that is separate from their main inbox.
/r/seduction06/10/24 04:31 PM
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Kind of in a similar boat. Easy to get women I’m indifferent about, or even a little turned off by. If I start liking them at all it’s game over lol. Not always but usually.
/r/seduction28/09/24 03:52 AM
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Also if you’re coming off as a fuckboy and still getting dates with good girls, plenty of girls want a fuckboy they can change. Regardless of why you’re in this situation, making more of an effort to escalate is going to give you the win(s) you want
/r/seduction26/09/24 07:57 PM
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You need to be trying to escalate on dates. If it is going well like you say most of them do, then there’s no reason not to escalate. If she was uncomfortable with you you’d know. If she’s comfortable you aren’t going to make her uncomfortable by kissing or even trying to go beyond that. Some might reject you for sex, few will reject you for a kiss, but if they’re having a good time and they turn you down for either one it doesn’t mean they aren’t going to want to see you again. It’s just up to …
/r/seduction26/09/24 07:45 PM
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I feel like with certain places (the gym is one of them) it’s best to strike up a normal conversation, build rapport over a few conversations, and then shoot your shot if she’s open to you in the time leading up to that.
/r/seduction26/09/24 06:47 PM
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Everyone is wearing headphones, and most of them do it because they prefer their music to whatever random playlist the gym has on. There’s no perfect place to hit on women. Some women don’t like being hit on at the club… if you can’t read the room after striking up a conversation or trying to, then it’s an issue
/r/seduction26/09/24 06:45 PM
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Sending mixed signals is confusing and a turn off. Being genuine to who you are at your core while also making your desire known is direct, masculine, and will attract the right people for you.
/r/seduction21/09/24 08:39 AM
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I really don’t think it’s me having what more women want. Maybe in the sense that after almost 3 years in the gym I’m more attractive. But I’ve been on apps for years and changed the way I lay my profile out this year and saw the change. I used to be into hiking and displayed that on my profile too. Tons of hiker gals in my area I would love to have gotten to know that I saw on apps over the last 5+ years. But a hiking pic or two doesn’t really display any vulnerability. It’s not bold and doesn’…
/r/seduction21/09/24 08:35 AM
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This more or less describes my experience. The 10% rule thing seems like an unfortunate rough estimate of actual numbers. I’ve found though, that the more I lean into who I really am on apps, the more quality matches I get and the more likely I am to get a response to super simple openings like “hey there got any fun plans this weekend?” What I mean by leaning into who I really am: not trying to make my profile appealing to as wide an audience as possible, but showcasing unique things about me t…
/r/seduction21/09/24 08:03 AM
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Nothing wrong with being a good dude. But don’t hold back on things you want in life. There’s nothing wrong with flirting or making your intentions known to women. If you are a good dude and you keep it pushing when you get rejected then you’re not going to be seen as creepy. Let your morals guide you, not what you think others will think of you when you go after what you want.
/r/seduction21/09/24 07:46 AM
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Not weird, but not something you want to get comfortable not doing. I didn’t try at all until I was 26, and the learning curve is a little steeper when you’re older. You should at some point soon make an effort to make some lady friends and make something happen with some of them. Regret can be a bitch, and you’re at an age where a lot of mistakes are forgivable.
/r/seduction19/09/24 10:47 PM
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I do alright at 5’7”. I’m a 6 or 7 at best and I work at dominos in my 30’s. I barely even try either.
/r/seduction06/09/24 01:18 AM
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My experience being single is that it’s a slog to get dates, but I do very well on the ones I get. If you know from your single times that you easily get women then you know you can have some other experiences. If not, you probably won’t have the experiences you think you’ll have. But, you said you’re not excited at the idea of marrying her, so why stick around?
/r/seduction30/08/24 08:19 PM
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Yes, but of course that’s the type of thing that takes months and months of therapy to de program. If you’re shit testing people subconsciously it’s a hard one to walk back.
/r/seduction28/08/24 05:46 AM
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100%! I interpreted OP’s post to mean that you can learn from shit tests you’ve failed in the past. Most of us know that if you just do everything a woman wants you to do she’ll subconsciously lose respect over time.
/r/seduction27/08/24 08:06 PM
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So you’re failing the shit tests if that’s your experience. You shouldn’t be doing everything women ask you to do. Only the things that you actually want to do. If she’s expecting you to read her mind call her on it. If she texts you a lot you don’t have to always respond etc etc. You’re proving OP’s point.
/r/seduction27/08/24 06:32 PM
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There’s no end goal to working on one’s self. That is a never ending process. Short term gratification sex gets old though, as you’re experiencing now.
/r/seduction08/08/24 04:32 PM
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Invest in your long term game and spend nights at the gym instead
/r/seduction08/08/24 05:07 AM
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Hmm. Well it sounds like you feel guilty because most of society would tell you that you should be. If that’s the case just put it out of your head. You had a great time and I’m sure she did too. I think there’s something to be said for why society views age gaps that way. Power dynamics and blah blah. It’s true, or at least has the potential to be, but just don’t be a douche and fuck with people’s emotions. If you enjoyed it you can do it again if you want lol.
/r/seduction06/08/24 11:46 PM
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Reframing a few things you said might be helpful here. You’re not “out here fucking 18 year olds.” You had a fling with an 18 year old and learned that’s not for you. Assuming there’s no deception on your part you did nothing wrong my man. I’m assuming you both were fully aware that this was a one time thing and was just for fun. Turned out to not be so fun after the fact but you learned. Might be the age thing, might be that one night things aren’t your style, or some combination of the two. Bu…
/r/seduction06/08/24 11:34 PM
3

Being a genuinely good dude helps. Her seeing that you’re kind to everyone, kind to your mom and close family etc, as well as to strangers. Being a guy who’s going somewhere in life whether or not you’re established in your career yet. Having ambition to be financially secure basically.
/r/seduction06/08/24 08:49 PM
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Like her thinking back to the first date and how you got into her pants so easily when most guys don’t.
/r/seduction06/08/24 08:48 PM
1

Again, no need to state the obvious. The point was you need to spend money to get laid, which is not directly true. Indirectly sure, but again… obvious af. Commenters such as yourself drug this into ‘no shit Sherlock’ territory.
/r/seduction15/07/24 10:01 PM
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It disproves the point of the posts title though. “You need to spend MONEY to get laid.” Everyone in here who clung to what OP said is backpedaling now saying “but you pay with your time then.” Everything you do costs something. Going to sleep costs you the time it took walking to your bed. No need to state the obvious there.
/r/seduction15/07/24 05:40 PM
2

We’ve all seen an ugly dude, or ugly dudes, or short dudes pull. One of the most consistently on it dudes I’ve seen with women was very mid looks wise and around 5’7”. On more than one occasion I saw him walk out of the bathroom of a house party with one of the hot girls there. You can blame things out of your control for your lack of skill, game, or status. Or you can build those things and do your best to build your look. I understand it’s just easier to blame something out of your control and…
/r/seduction10/07/24 05:23 AM
2

I get more attention without my job listed. I’m a driver at dominos. If I was on the other end of the spectrum and had a high paying job that is known to be high paying, I would also not list it. I wouldn’t want to attract people who are more interested in my job title, or money than they are interested in me. Either way it’s easy to tell by looking at my photos that I’m employed. Well groomed, go to the gym, and wear nice clothes. Unemployed guys aren’t paying for a gym membership and wearing s…
/r/seduction08/07/24 08:09 AM
4

If you want to go through the trouble again, create a google voice number, use a new email and make a completely new profile. That’ll be a 100% fresh reset
/r/seduction04/07/24 03:10 AM
1

Maybe 1/20 or so for me
/r/seduction04/07/24 03:08 AM
1

I can’t speak from experience in terms of having Asperger’s, but I’m assuming you’re just going to need a lot of practice in social situations. Maybe having a job that keeps you interacting with the public constantly will help. I know I was very socially awkward as a teenager but working in food service was 100% the best thing I did for myself in that regard
/r/seduction03/07/24 08:14 PM
1

In your most recent post you talk about how women are staring you down left and right, and how much your game sucks and social awkwardness impedes you. It’s not your height, it’s your inability to have normal conversations
/r/seduction03/07/24 06:59 PM
0

You sound like you’re exaggerating. I’m 5’7” and I’ve never had a woman directly deny me because of my height lol. What are you saying exactly? Are women actually saying things to you like “come back when you’re 6 foot?” Like how do you know they aren’t responding to your approaches because of height?
/r/seduction03/07/24 05:05 PM
2

This is one of those walk through open doors places, not knock on closed doors places. Meaning if you’re getting consistent signals from someone at the gym, you’ve interacted with them a couple times, and then asking them out seems like a no brainer, sure go for it. Otherwise don’t just cold approach women at the gym.
/r/seduction29/06/24 03:37 PM
5

Yeah you could go this route, and it definitely does help to get you incredibly jacked if you’re doing all the other right things. But it will also make you incredibly horny without the ability to actually keep an erection, will shrink your testes, and will cause you to have to go on a slew of other drugs to help protect your endocrine function and vital organs. And that’s just scratching the surface of side effects
/r/seduction18/06/24 05:00 AM
12

You didn’t get the message I was trying to convey my man. This journey is a marathon, not a 50 yard dash. Being impatient will impede your results. 5 days won’t bring more results than 3 for a beginner. It’s hard af to stick to 5 days, and is likely to burn you out very fast if you don’t already have a very strong foundation in the gym. That’s why most beginners who actually stick around long enough to see results build the best foundation on a minimal schedule. It’s easier to adhere to in so ma…
/r/seduction17/06/24 08:13 PM
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It’s a long journey my friend. Just start by going to the gym 2-3 times a week and prioritizing protein intake. Stay consistent. Make up missed days, get enough sleep, and make sure you’re hitting your protein goal at least 90% of the time. You’ll learn over time from experience and from watching good fitness content on YouTube. Jeff Nippard is a good one for beginners and is very clear cut good advice. If you stay consistent you’ll start seeing results in the way other people (especially women)…
/r/seduction17/06/24 07:47 PM
1

Nah it works if they actually fuck with you. And it’s a good way to filter for women who do. She could just as easily never respond if you get hers.
/r/seduction16/06/24 09:03 PM
4

Man, you live in a place that is acknowledged by most to be one of the best places in the country to date online. It might be the second best place behind NYC. You’re drawing assumptions about what it’s like to date online for most guys based on your experience in that city. I live in a small ish city with a metro of 1 million, am 33, fairly handsome, very fit, have a pretty good profile, have a steady job (not a career), and the most dates I’ve gotten in a year from online is 5. I can turn abou…
/r/seduction05/06/24 11:00 PM
11

I agree with pretty much the whole of your comment, but if you aren’t cold approaching at least some of the time, you’re leaving a lot up to chance and leaving a lot of potential opportunities on the table. Especially as you get into your late twenties, early thirties, and beyond. By this point your social circle is often 90+% couples, or other single guys. Same with coworkers etc who are mostly taken. Like you said you see the value in it, and while saying “it’s the only way for you” is a littl…
/r/seduction05/06/24 09:23 PM
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Could be any number of reasons. One a lot of guys overlook is the massive hormonal fluctuations that happen every month with women. Just be patient, and wait to see what happens. Reach out if it’s been a while, but don’t bother if you get the fuck off vibes.
/r/seduction02/06/24 08:29 PM
1

Yeah first time sex with someone is always a coin toss. Could be great but is often meh. That second or third time is usually when things get really good
/r/seduction29/05/24 08:41 PM
2

Perfect! You’ve got a guy that eliminates the need to make the initial approach when you’re with him. No one gets the same starting line in anything in life. You can wish it was you, or learn how to make being around him an advantage for you
/r/seduction26/05/24 07:07 PM
0

Start a conversation with her. Ask her what prompted her to join the class, what made her want to play guitar etc. Just get to know her a little bit the next couple times you’re there. If she still seems like your type and she seems good enough for you, then tell her you want to take her for a coffee date and get to know her. If she declines politely say no worries and just act like everything is normal after that. If she accepts you can further evaluate whether or not she is a good fit for you …
/r/seduction25/05/24 07:49 PM
1

She’s just as after you as she was a year ago, because you’re in the exact same spot a year later lol. You chased another woman for a year while you have a wife or gf at home. You’re actually bad at being a piece of shit, and it’s funny
/r/seduction22/05/24 06:08 PM
6

It’s a great idea if you suggest something cheap but good. Don’t take her to a fancy restaurant as a first date.
/r/seduction22/05/24 05:30 PM
3

Thinking about what you want to do to her while making eye contact is powerful and underrated!
/r/seduction21/05/24 08:28 PM
3

In theory it should be hinge. Hinge just doesn’t pop for me for whatever reason though. Maybe me, maybe my city? Maybe some combination of the two. Tinder is what pops for me in my city, but the number of fake profiles there is overwhelming. Feeld is great if you’re into kink, or ENM. If you’re not you won’t get traction there. People can tell.
/r/seduction19/05/24 01:02 AM
1

Bro I went completely bald by 19 cause my head started balding at 13. My vertical growth capped at 5’7”. I’m covered in freckles. My interesting travel stories aren’t interesting to women, and I’ve left the country once. Im 33 with no college education and I work at dominos. I have all excuses in the world for why I shouldn’t be doing well with women. But yet there are many women who seem to like me. I’m a good dude, I don’t judge, I know how to seduce a woman, I know how to be respectful, and i…
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:43 AM
1

Have you ever heard the saying, “maybe it’s not everyone else, but it’s you?” I think that applies here. You made 100 female acquaintances, and not a single one was good??? The only common denominator is you.
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:17 AM
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The irony of someone like you being in a sub full of men who are at least somewhat successful with women (if not very successful) telling us how women really are is actually quite funny. I’ll tell you this… if you don’t drop the negative view you have, you’ll either never get women or you’ll only attract the exact types you talk about. You fail to understand that most women aren’t on apps, and you fail to realize that those who are aren’t all the same. They all have different personalities and e…
/r/seduction17/05/24 01:52 AM
4

A very true statement, but one that is easier said than done. I’ll continue to learn and become better, and less anxious. That I do know for certain
/r/seduction16/05/24 04:03 AM
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Yeah, I personally had this realization not long ago when thinking about why it feels hard for me to get dates, but easy to do well once on them. The reason that became obvious was that I don’t put any pressure on myself, the woman, or the situation on a date. I just go in with the only expectation being to have fun, whatever that ends up meaning. I can’t say I treat trying to get dates with the same carefree attitude and that is going to take some work. The two are two different things in my mi…
/r/seduction15/05/24 10:03 PM
1

Thanks! I understand where people come from when they say it’s hard to get dates. Especially if you rely primarily on apps where most guys are lucky to get 3 or 4 first dates in a year. But even at that, you should be having sex with at least 1, if not two of those.
/r/seduction14/05/24 06:38 PM
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Yep, and almost guaranteed she sees right through this. If op keeps his cool and remains friendly with dude, and dude keeps giving him the cold shoulder (or worse) it will only go in op’s favor.
/r/seduction13/05/24 04:21 PM
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It’s really not that crazy. Well going on 40-50 dates in a year is a wild concept to me, but converting half (or close to half) to sex isn’t very difficult. If she’s on a date with you she’s at least somewhat interested. The battle is half over and all downhill from that point. You just have to go in with the idea that it’ll be a fun time, and have no other expectations. Then be bold when the opportunities present themselves.
/r/seduction12/05/24 05:12 AM
2

Sent you a long dm talking about some of this.
/r/seduction10/05/24 08:04 PM
8

To a lesser extent but similar for me after 2 plus years of consistency in the gym. Not so easy it’s become boring, but definitely made it easy to distinguish flirting from not flirting and to see choosing signals when they happen so frequently. Sometimes multiple times a day. I use to question flirting or signals because they rarely happened… so when that was happening I’d wonder if that’s what was actually going on.
/r/seduction08/05/24 08:28 PM
1

Ehh it’s okay dude. I definitely get the awkward greeting in the car thing. Let me ask you this… have you had a relationship with anyone before? Even a thing that only lasted a month or two? I ask because I genuinely didn’t know how to flirt until I realized I was doing it while laying in bed with a woman who I’d just had sex with. We saw each other for 3 months. I vividly remember that moment of realization that I was flirting effortlessly even though I never knew how to do it before. It took a…
/r/seduction08/05/24 07:09 PM
1

I haven’t had this happen very often, but when it does I’ll either agree and suggest a place that’s on the cheaper side and has drinks, or I’ll say that’s fine if we’re paying separate. It also depends on what I’m looking for with said woman. If I think I could be looking for something serious with her once I get to know her, then I’ll suggest the split option. If I don’t think I’d be looking for something serious with her eventually then I’ll suggest the bar with cheaper food, or just stop resp…
/r/seduction08/05/24 05:30 PM
1

I’d highly encourage you to explore attractive women in their younger to mid 30’s, even if only for casual dating. They’re a lot of fun and very mature compared to what you’re used to.
/r/seduction08/05/24 04:23 PM
1

Mentally more sound? My guy you’re just showing your inexperience.
/r/seduction08/05/24 04:15 PM
3

You didn’t hug her to greet her at the beginning? No flirty vibes set by you that day? You gotta find ways to lead that vibe. If you just have a normal platonic conversation that doesn’t often convert well to what you want.
/r/seduction05/05/24 07:55 PM
1

Man… she went on a date with you. Could’ve gone for a kiss or something. Didn’t have to go all out and invite her to your place or anything.
/r/seduction05/05/24 04:46 PM
1

Brother I wouldn’t focus too much on women right now. Focus on therapy and maybe get yourself a physical hobby like hiking, or lifting. Something you will enjoy, but is difficult. That will help you to actually be more confident in yourself and your capabilities. Improving over time and looking back at where you came from can be a hell of a drug!
/r/seduction03/05/24 05:02 AM
2

What is it that you do on dates that helps you to be successful? Think about those things. If you don’t know think about it after the next one. Take some of those things you do on your tinder dates and use them to flirt with women you meet in the wild. I’ve been in the same boat where I did great in the context of a date but struggled to get women on dates if it wasn’t started online. Thinking about what aided my success on dates helped a little bit. Additionally, you’ll have a lot more success …
/r/seduction02/05/24 04:08 PM
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That was kind of my hunch when I read this. I’m in the US, but have travelled SE Asia without dating there. Then I see all the comments (mostly from western guys I assume) giving what would typically be good advice in the western world, but failing to consider that culture is completely different over there.
/r/seduction27/04/24 09:01 AM
2

Hard to give an accurate response as I’m not familiar with customs and the culture around dating and hookups where you live. Keep in mind that most everyone here responding is from the western world, and mostly the US.
/r/seduction27/04/24 08:54 AM
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After a handful of messages (2-10) you need to be shooting the shot to get the date. Take the shot right when the momentum is there. The amount of messages exactly doesn’t really matter, as long as you’ve struck some chemistry quickly, and ask quickly you should be getting at least some dates from this. ESPECIALLY if they’re the ones sliding into your dm’s. Good looking chicks are getting dm’s daily, and even if they liked you it’s easy to forget about you if you’ve been buried. Don’t wait long …
/r/seduction26/04/24 12:42 AM
2

Just remember things that have worked for you on successful tinder dates and employ some of those in the context of future dates, or situations with a lot of flirting happening. The thing with taking dating advice online is finding the advice that resonates with you and your personality, and kind of making it your own. It’s kind of the cliche saying “just be yourself.” Unfortunately it takes a decent amount of experience to take that kind of advice and most advice when applied to any random one …
/r/seduction23/04/24 09:23 PM
3

Idk if this is the best way, but I like to play the eye contact game up quite a bit. If/when she asks me why I’m looking at her like that, I’ll say something like “you know why,” or “because you look appetizing.” Only after plenty of well received flirting of course. Just a way to escalate tension.
/r/seduction23/04/24 08:31 PM
3

You didn’t fumble anything. She didn’t specifically mention to you that she wasn’t in a relationship anymore. You’d think if she was really interested in you that she’d have found a way to drop that tidbit to you. And that’s not to say she’s not interested in you. There may be several reasons why she didn’t mention it. Maybe she is interested but is already talking to someone else. Maybe she’s just not ready to get with you after the breakup yet. Maybe she doesn’t want to get involved with you a…
/r/seduction23/04/24 07:19 PM
3

Go to the gym and turn into a 190 that is mostly muscle. It makes a big difference and is a very good way to get your foot in the door
/r/seduction23/04/24 06:33 PM
1

This is the hard way imo, but it worked for me. You’re going to have to just be direct with women you like without trying to flirt (since you don’t know what it means to you). Eventually one will give you a chance and you might get to spend a few months or so with her. Through this you will find your flirting style. One day you’ll realize you’re flirting without even trying. That’s how it worked out for me at least. I took my flirting style out into the world and I flirt with almost everyone. I …
/r/seduction21/04/24 07:23 AM
2

Trust me. I spent years ignoring women and that didn’t get them swooning. There’s some push pull that needs to happen. Don’t smother a girl you like or want to fuck. But also don’t completely ignore her and hope she sneaks into your window and crawls into your bed.
/r/seduction09/04/24 07:30 PM
1

Makes sense that it can work with a woman half your age. There’s really no other reason for you to be trying to hang out with them, and they know that. They’re not trying to make friends with a man who’s twice their age either. When you’re dating in your age range (especially in your twenties) those waters are very easily muddied. In my thirties now and things are admittedly different. Maybe it’s the way I carry myself too, but if I’m talking to a woman, she knows why. And I still like confirmat…
/r/seduction01/04/24 06:47 PM
1

Just because someone likes talking to you doesn’t mean they want to fuck you. That’s just step one in finding out if they’re interested lol. The person you initially responded to has a very solid approach. Be direct, like a man.
/r/seduction01/04/24 06:24 PM
1

180-190 at 17-20% body fat at 5’7”
/r/seduction21/03/24 08:59 PM
4

Take your inceldom somewhere else. Preferably a therapist’s office
/r/seduction18/12/23 04:11 PM
1

Deleted my dating apps a couple weeks ago and keep telling myself I need to make cold approaches a semi regular thing at the very least. I failed my goal to approach 1 woman I didn’t know last week. That’s okay. But thanks for putting this here. Saving it to read tomorrow while I’m waiting for my car to get worked on.
/r/seduction15/11/23 06:55 AM
2

I had a couple things like this happen to me in high school and I froze if I’m being honest. I think it just took me by such surprise that I quite literally didn’t know how to respond.
/r/seduction14/02/22 03:20 AM
2

Yep. She’s gonna think he straight up turned her down. Even if he goes after her it’s not gonna work now.
/r/seduction14/02/22 02:08 AM
3

Dude I’m so oblivious when women make advances. But this is another level lol.
/r/seduction14/02/22 02:07 AM
1

Wait you’re 2 dates in and he’s kissed you, but you haven’t made any moves back? Like you’re expecting him to take the lead on all of it? That would make me feel awkward like she’s just going along with it because she’s there and feels like she has to go along with it.
/r/seduction13/12/21 06:46 AM
1

Another reason to go hiking and learn to positively ID some natural growers. It sounds like you’re in nor cal, but maybe I’m wrong. If you are they’re going to pop up at the end of every summer. And give yourself some credit. You’re tackling the goal of going to school, so you’re capable of achieving your goals.
/r/seduction03/11/21 05:57 PM
1

UA, ASU, GCSU, NAU, and a slew of community colleges. You have options.
/r/seduction03/11/21 05:45 PM
1

The cannabis industry is booming here! Trust me, I live in Tucson and it’s never been a better time to work in that industry here. You can transfer schools man. That’s an obstacle, not a barrier.
/r/seduction03/11/21 05:41 PM
1

Bring up these conversations in your therapy sessions. Bring up those barriers with them too (if you haven’t already). You’ll find you’ve created most of them. Successful people don’t see barriers, but rather obstacles to be overcome. You took that attitude with schooling, so you can take it with other areas. You do possess the ability to not be boring. It’s going to take some work as you’re going to have to break patterns that you’ve said have been in place for decades. But it can be done. I’m …
/r/seduction03/11/21 05:38 PM
1

What field are you in?
/r/seduction03/11/21 05:24 PM
1

Type in the google search bar: trails near me.
/r/seduction03/11/21 05:20 PM
1

Its worth adding that I do support you in your desire to go hiking. I love hiking and it has helped shape me in so many ways. I’m more confident because of it, more self sufficient, and more physically fit and mentally tough. But if it’s something you want to do, YOU have to make it happen. You’re getting ridiculed by some (even me), because you have given a slew of reasons about why you can’t do any of the things people have recommended to you. You haven’t accepted one single piece of advice. A…
/r/seduction03/11/21 05:04 PM
1

Move back then.
/r/seduction03/11/21 04:52 PM
1

Like I said. Google trails near you. Download all trails. You don’t need anyone to ask about where to go. Figure it out if you want to do it, or don’t.
/r/seduction03/11/21 04:50 PM
1

You’re not even giving yourself a chance. No wonder no one else is…. You really have to work on that first. In an above comment you gave 2 excuses on why you can’t go for a hike. Google trails near you. Download all trails. Read a basic 1-2 page sheet on how to stay safe on a hike. Then go and fucking do it. Or just keep telling yourself that you can’t for whatever reason you decide to make up next.
/r/seduction03/11/21 06:45 AM
3

Good. The cold water will build your character.
/r/seduction03/11/21 06:32 AM
2

You’re right, it doesn’t help with getting better at much of anything beyond surface level communication and the fear of speaking to those you don’t know. But surface level communication gets you in the door with new people. There’s no way around that. You’re not going to dive into philosophical topics within a minute of meeting someone. And you won’t get better at talking with people you don’t know unless you’re exposed to it repeatedly. Additionally you can definitely get beyond surface level …
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:09 AM
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Get a job in the service industry, especially if you’re younger. Even if you’re older you can do a side gig on the weekends. Server at a restaurant, bartender at a bar or restaurant, delivery driver at a pizza place etc. Small talk with patrons and coworkers is a necessity in the service industry and you will just get used to it. I didn’t break out of my shell when it came to talking with strangers until I got a job as a server at 19. I was awkward as hell for several months, but it really helpe…
/r/seduction26/10/21 05:29 AM
2

Windows media player… lol I haven’t heard that in about 10 years.
/r/seduction25/10/21 10:13 PM
18

Then you can’t dock.
/r/seduction06/10/21 01:50 PM
2

1/5 isn’t that rare… and people can lie about birth control. https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2021/p0125-sexualy-transmitted-infection.html
/r/seduction06/10/21 06:23 AM
57

Never wear 2.
/r/seduction06/10/21 03:14 AM
0

“I prefer to listen.”
/r/seduction22/09/21 01:21 AM
1

Take your own advice lol. You obviously didn’t read what I said, or what the person you responded to said. I never implied that you suggested sitting at home. I was actually agreeing with you to an extent. And the person you quoted and responded to wasn’t suggesting waiting for magic. That was your framing. They were just saying having common ground is easy mode. Which it is.
/r/seduction14/09/21 01:56 AM
1

https://youtu.be/v8ltoNZRK4c
/r/seduction14/09/21 01:51 AM
2

Get a service industry job, even if only on the weekends. I went from a very shy 19 year old kid to a fully developed guy who can make friends with just about anyone when I got a job as a server. I’m still very introverted and don’t often do it, but when I do I’m good at making connections.
/r/seduction14/09/21 01:40 AM
3

Nope. You gotta go out, live life, and watch the events unfold. Opportunities like OP’s present themselves all the time when you’re not sitting at home on Reddit.
/r/seduction14/09/21 01:36 AM
2

You’re not short. You just told us exactly what your problem is. You sit back and wait for women to come to you and wonder why you can’t get any while not trying.
/r/seduction29/08/21 04:42 PM
4

If you respond to messages it will. Just show up, and filter for creeps. Don’t put yourself in dangerous situations.
/r/seduction06/08/21 09:36 PM
10

Depends where you work. At his age I’d assume a restaurant, which is a very common place for coworker to hookup and get into relationships
/r/seduction31/07/21 03:17 PM
1

Women only seem to leave a jobless guy if he’s not out looking for another job. Or if he’s been looking and still hasn’t found the “perfect fit” and it’s been 6 months, or a year. Thus she’s dealing with someone who got too comfortable and is now a bum. No drive is not attractive. If you lose a job and can’t find a new one, the problem isn’t the job market, it’s you. Yeah I don’t think any man or woman wants to feel like they’re being taken advantage of. That much is a given. But it’s pretty eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:27 PM
1

Eh idk. Cheaters are cheaters and cheating is certainly a sure fire way to end a relationship. I don’t think someone’s proclivity for cheating is determined by a discrepancy in pay that benefits the woman though. It seems to me that a woman is less likely to get with you to begin with if you’re a bum who doesn’t really make anything. But if you’re income is more than enough, and hers happens to be higher I think it just comes down to insecurity and paranoia. I think most instances of a man or wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:12 PM
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Basically, from my point of view if my future lady is a value add (not just in traditional relationship ways) instead of a value suck, I’m all over it. If I’m putting food in her mouth for her I want nothing to do with it. If she were to become disabled or something, then okay different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 04:03 PM
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I can sort of see that argument, and it actually makes a lot of sense. I suppose you’d have to have two people who truly don’t care and actually understand the insignificance of a provider role in modern society. Especially without children. If the woman is not needed at home to play the motherly role, I can’t imagine the significance of this mindset. Wouldn’t you agree that this is the most applicable when you have children? I do not plan on having kids. I’ll be getting a vasectomy first chance…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 03:50 PM
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That may be true. I have a feeling that unless you really want kids, this whole women making more money than you is an ego thing. Like why would you care if she makes more? Is it a control thing and/or you want her to be dependent on your income?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 02:32 PM
1

That may be true. I have a feeling that unless you really want kids, this whole women making more money than you is an ego thing. Like why would you care if is she makes more? Is it a control thing and/or you want her to be dependent on your income?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 02:32 PM
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Indeed. I also don’t want kids at all!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 12:04 AM
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When we’re talking physical differences, sure. When we’re talking preferences, no. Some women like the one who replied to my original comment here, don’t want to be dependent on a man. I know several women who are in relationships with men whose income is lower than their own. That’s like saying all men like anal. Sure the majority like seeing it on a screen, but in reality many of us aren’t very interested in it. Seems too messy and like too much work. Or all men like sports. Many do, but it se…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 04:58 PM
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All men and all women statements are ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 04:21 PM
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Yep. I’m a 30 year old man and don’t want anything to do with a woman who isn’t making her own money. I won’t be a single income earner in the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 03:33 PM
2

Did I say I was okay with men doing it? My emotions matter. Hooking up with a guy while I’m courting you and we’re working towards the relationship is not okay. By any fucking means. I can’t believe you’d sit here and act like it’s okay for women because some men do it. And you want to talk about hypocrisy. This isn’t about team man or team woman. It’s about what’s okay and what’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 08:06 AM
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For sure! There is no being in the wrong when it comes to your preferences. For me, a situation like that would make me feel like I’m being played somehow. If I’m paying for a lot of our dates and whatnot, is she using me for free food etc? Is she talking to other dudes (possibly fucking other dudes), and trying to decide if she actually wants to fuck me, but keeping me around because she sees promising long term potential? Then there’s also the concern that she’s going to start seeing me as jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 03:03 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 02:49 AM
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This is it op^ this has happened to me several times and it has a tendency to make you jaded. Like you said you were waiting because you really liked me, but I heard you fucked a last night? Wtf? Of course not all women are like this, but many men tend to start lumping all women into the category they’ve experienced. Women have a tendency to do this too. It’s human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 02:47 AM
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I’ve been to bars too man, did so quite a bit and had a lot of fun in my younger and mid 20’s. The photo I mentioned happened to be a very accurate representation of myself. It’s my favorite photo of me because it actually portrays what I see in the mirror in all the right ways. That being said, are we not the most deceiving input to ourselves when it comes to these things? Most of us are so hard on ourselves, whether it’s looks or not. I know dudes who get approached and they don’t give themsel…
/r/seduction05/07/21 04:06 AM
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If you’re getting approached you’re likely much better than a 7. I’m officially a 6 per 40 votes on photofeeler. I’m 30 years old and I’ve never been approached by a random woman.
/r/seduction05/07/21 03:16 AM
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It, and every other thing on this list are not magic keys. Each can be, independently in their own situations. But finding a purpose won’t necessarily have women falling at your feet. I’ve had a purpose throughout the majority of my 20’s, I’m now 30, and I still struggle getting women to pay me any mind. And I’m not an ugly dude. Not a hot dude, but not ugly. Once I land one, they really tend to enjoy my company. But getting one interested on the front end is very difficult for me. I know I’m no…
/r/seduction03/07/21 03:02 AM
1

Not creepy at all. I’m going back to the drug store next week that I delivered food to on Thursday and am going to ask a gal out to coffee if she is interested. I was too caught up in work mode to seize the moment, but it seemed like she was eyeing me up and being extra nice. She wasn’t the one receiving food btw, I bought a Gatorade while I was there. I thought about her for the rest of the day, super cutie with a great personality. If she says yes, then sweet. If not I never patronize that sto…
/r/seduction19/06/21 06:36 AM
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I mean, I can see where you’re coming from, but I’ve only ever had success on tinder. And by success I mean I saw two women for a few months each. So yeah, it’s hard and having success on there when you’re not having it in real life isn’t much more likely, but it’s something.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:35 PM
2

I think they were referring to the type of fucked up where you need all new artificial teeth..
/r/seduction11/06/21 12:03 AM
1

This is true. There are some good dental offices in Mexico.
/r/seduction10/06/21 06:33 PM
8

You act like that cost isn’t double what half the US population makes in a year.
/r/seduction10/06/21 02:54 PM
16

And there’s also the fact that so many women just aren’t open to cold approach.
/r/seduction10/06/21 02:50 PM
1

You’re not going to have success expecting people to jump into bed with you because they feel bad for you. Stop moping. You’re literally exuding the antithesis of confidence here and you’re probably doing much of the same in the real world. So you’re ugly. You’re going to have to work harder at it and talk to more women. Get over it, as many other ugly men have, and find your happiness. Or don’t...
/r/seduction26/05/21 07:32 AM
1

And the way you frame it between you and your husband is absolutely an entirely different scenario than the situation op painted. If you’re fucking with each other and it’s a joke then okay. If you perceive them to be doing it as a way to see your reaction, then that’s a problem.
/r/seduction12/05/21 03:21 AM
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Gender absolutely is a non issue in this. I mean if you’d have no problem with it then good on you. I’d personally take that as a sign of an unbearable level of insecurity. Regardless of gender.
/r/seduction12/05/21 03:18 AM
1

The question still stands. If the roles were reversed, and you perceived his intent to be a shit test to see how you react, would that be an excusable action in your mind?
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:21 AM
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Your subtle jabs show your real intent here. And the vote ratio proves you to be the ignorant one.
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:04 AM
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It’s not that crazy to imagine. Super easy to find yourself without any experience in your late 20’s and early 30’s. I lost mine on my 27th birthday and have slept with 2 women. I’m 30 now.
/r/seduction12/05/21 01:28 AM
2

Neither of the two women I was with ever pulled some shit like this. Not all women do this.
/r/seduction12/05/21 01:18 AM
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If you’re suggesting that women aren’t in control of their words or actions then idk what to tell you. I know that men and women are both human and that we both have the capability to control the content that comes from our mouths. A wheel of fortune does not determine our words or actions. Yes I know that both men and women are subject to a range of different emotions that may influence their words and actions. But to suggest that certain emotions make a person incapable of deciding what it is …
/r/seduction12/05/21 01:10 AM
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I’m simply not interested in someone who constantly needs validation. It’s not worth my time or energy, and people like that would eventually have me acting insecure as well. This woman, displaying that level of insecurity comes off as someone who will cheat on you the moment she doesn’t get the validation she wants. In regards to macho assholes, those aren’t men. Those are insecure boys. People displaying the level of insecurity that she does should be in therapy, not the dating pool.
/r/seduction11/05/21 02:24 PM
2

I can see from that perspective why it wouldn’t necessarily be work, if that type of thing came naturally to you. But I feel like I could live multiple lifetimes of self improvement and get halfway there. Getting to that point is a lot of work for a dude like me. I’ve been with 2 women at the ripe young age of 30 and started at 27. And on a practical level, I can’t imagine going in for std tests that often. If you had a breakout within your circle there would be multiple parties affected before …
/r/seduction11/05/21 05:24 AM
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I was referring to a hoe stable in the way Mac Dre would. Like a stable for horses you know? Basically I’m saying that maintaining a circle of 5 to 7 women to have sex with sounds like way too much work and not something I’d ever want, even if it was easy to do. I can barely manage to get one woman to stick around at a time and even that’s rare. That’s what I meant.
/r/seduction11/05/21 05:01 AM
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No they do not. Imagine trying to constantly prove your value to the woman you’re seeing... Sounds like big simpin.
/r/seduction11/05/21 04:25 AM
8

Yeah I can barely manage to get one at a time every couple years lol. I can’t imagine the work involved in maintaining a hoe stable. Fuck that.
/r/seduction11/05/21 04:21 AM
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I responded to op in another thread on this post with “this is the type of insecure female that will fuck your friends when you’re not looking.” Like I’m pretty damn inexperienced, but that’s a toxic personality trait that can be seen from a ridiculous distance. Not fucking worth it.
/r/seduction11/05/21 03:29 AM
8

This is the type of insecure female that will fuck your friends when you’re not looking. Have fun with that down the road...
/r/seduction11/05/21 03:26 AM
14

This is a case of playing stupid games and winning stupid prizes.
/r/seduction11/05/21 03:24 AM
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Insecure females with toxic personality traits do this. Imagine having to always prove yourself to your girl. Isn’t that pretty much the definition of a simp?
/r/seduction11/05/21 03:23 AM
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In my opinion she tried to undermine his confidence right then and there by saying that. I agree it’s a shitty move and an unnecessary game. I wouldn’t want anything to do with someone like this.
/r/seduction11/05/21 03:11 AM
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Yes objectively ugly people exist. My point is that people (even the attractive ones) have a tendency tell themselves that they look worse than they actually do. That’s not uncommon knowledge and you know what I’m talking about. Second point, objectively ugly people can be seen walking hand in hand with rather attractive people. It happens enough to notice when you are out enough. Sure it’s not the norm, but most good people will look past someone’s physically unattractive traits if they are att…
/r/seduction10/05/21 06:23 PM
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Alright dudes, a lot of you here need to hear this. Your whiny attitudes about why things are the way they are, are the exact reason you’re not doing well. Not because you’re not man enough or whatever. Sure if you’re a little more feminine and you’re not the perfect chiseled Herculean man then you’re going to have to try harder and put in more effort. Who cares? Literally no one cares that it’s harder for you except you. Figure out the areas that need work and get to work. Figure out your stron…
/r/seduction28/04/21 02:53 AM
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Something like that lol
/r/seduction26/04/21 07:42 PM
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It’s basically just a summary of 2 and 3, but do your best to look good too though. And you probably aren’t as ugly as you think you are. A warm personality complimented by confidence will have many good women looking past your looks.
/r/seduction26/04/21 04:45 PM
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Maybe just keep practicing talking to strangers in general, not just attractive women. I’ve just recently realized I can have a normal clear conversation with an attractive stranger and it’s not awkward. Ive been able to do it for a while too. It’s got me thinking lately the next step is “hey, I know this sounds crazy but I have to ask, can I grab your number?” I may start with a cutie I’ve talked to twice as my cashier at the grocery store I go to. I’ve only seen her on Sundays after work when …
/r/seduction26/04/21 04:41 PM
10

Uggh. I hate thinking about all the times this has happened to me and I didn’t recognize it until later.
/r/seduction22/04/21 03:20 PM
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More indiscernible rambling... I’m only assuming you were insulting him based on another commenters interpretation. What is it you were trying to say exactly? That it comes off as desperate?
/r/seduction18/04/21 02:39 AM
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I downvoted you because you typed completely unintelligibly while insulting op for essentially nothing. If you’re going to insult, or critique someone at least make sure they can read what you’re saying.
/r/seduction18/04/21 02:29 AM
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That doesn’t sound desperate. Even if it did, who cares? You just got rejected anyways.
/r/seduction18/04/21 02:21 AM
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Instead of trying to be insulting, tell me why I’m wrong. Make your case.
/r/seduction16/04/21 04:20 PM
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If you keep pushing after you’ve been rejected, you’re just showing you have major insecurity issues. You think they’ll respect you because you can’t take no for an answer? You’re the reason women will lie about having a boyfriend to avoid confrontation. You’re the reason women will avoid certain establishments where dudes like you exist, because they don’t feel safe after they’ve already told someone no more than once. What you suggested is right up there in the entry way to harassment. And if …
/r/seduction16/04/21 03:51 PM
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He shot, she shot down. That’s all there is to it. Continuing to push is a douche bag move and puts you into harassment territory.
/r/seduction16/04/21 05:33 AM
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And this ladies and gentlemen, is a walking, talking piece of shit.
/r/seduction16/04/21 05:28 AM
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I wasted all of my early twenties and late teenage years (about 18-23) thinking this one girl would come around one day. Looking back on those days I feel so so stupid. Literally wasted years holding out for someone who said they weren’t interested multiple times.
/r/seduction12/04/21 03:22 PM
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Dude, for guys aged 20-30 those common sense things you mentioned don’t really exist for many of them. Not knowing how to flirt and build attraction kind of is the norm. Especially guys who’re 20-25. I’m 30 and I’m still struggling with it, though it’s admittedly less common for guys my age. Guess which age group is having dramatically less sex than their parents did at their age?
/r/seduction11/04/21 03:13 PM
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If you didn’t have to learn this stuff then this sub wouldn’t exist. It doesn’t come naturally for many guys. For many of us it feels very very unnatural.
/r/seduction10/04/21 03:12 PM
1

I like this one, shee coo.
/r/seduction07/04/21 06:21 AM
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It helped me the couple times I used it. I did it just like I said. Fell asleep listening to it. I was psyching myself out and not able to keep it up with the last gal I was seeing. I’d start hard but deflate half the time.
/r/seduction04/04/21 04:55 AM
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I know you’re not having problems with ED per say, but I did this with a decent degree of success. It helped me to relax during sex and just enjoy the moment and feel everything and respond to her noises, movements etc etc. Just listen before bed and fall asleep while following the instructions. If you think you might be getting laid in a couple nights, listen 2-3 nights in a row beforehand. https://youtu.be/ErdfPIxaOa8
/r/seduction04/04/21 02:40 AM
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And I’ll reiterate my point about leadership. Good leaders are not overtly dominant, because they don’t have to be. And good leaders aren’t starting conflicts. Ever. Think about a boss who yells at his team. Is that someone you’d want to work for? Think about a boss who makes fun of the business’ competition. Does that seem like he’s secure about his position at the company and the product you are selling? Good leaders lead by example and they’re not afraid of conflict, sure. But they don’t crea…
/r/seduction03/04/21 03:11 PM
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When is a guy ever bringing out a girl he’s not trying to get with? Even if she’s clearly not trying to get with him you’re going to piss him off 90% of the time. It’s just not a good idea. If he brings a girl with him who brings her friends along too? Okay then. And if you want to attract women you just show interest. Talk to them, be flirty, maybe try to play pool or something, and don’t linger around them all night. Be present but not TOO present.
/r/seduction03/04/21 02:53 PM
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Trying to attract your friends date is such a bitch move. You should be building your friend up and making him look good when he brings a date out. Find your own date homie. And trump was not a good leader. He burned every bridge at every possible opportunity. A huge part of leadership is building relationships, not destroying them.
/r/seduction02/04/21 10:22 PM
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Yes very much so. We chatted for about 2 weeks before our first meeting because when we matched on tinder she had just tested positive for covid. Our conversations became sexual after about 3 days of talking, and by the end of the two weeks we were pretty familiar with what we both liked or wanted to try. We were very excited about each other by that point lol. We both knew we were a great sexual match. Very much not vanilla, but neither of us too hardcore. We also both knew how much we enjoyed …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:48 AM
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Lol it’s not all one way or the other. I had a shorter relationship recently that was very fulfilling in many ways and started with sex all night on the first date. Much like you described with you and your ex, we had sex 4 or 5 times on and off all night and spent the time we weren’t having sex cuddling, kissing and complimenting each other. It was seriously fucking beautiful!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 01:37 AM
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You have to take the initiative to meet new people my friend. They’re not going to come to you.
/r/seduction25/03/21 04:48 PM
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Be careful about what you say as it might just come true if you say it enough. That being said, you should probably talk to a therapist my dude. It doesn’t matter if you have the money, time etc. find the space in your budget to make it happen, make the time to make it happen. Use an online service like BetterHelp or something comparable. A professional is going to be able to help you identify why you feel this way and address it. It’s easy to say you don’t need it and that they can’t understand…
/r/seduction21/03/21 07:43 AM
0

“You heard of van life? I have a double decker memory foam bed.”
/r/seduction20/03/21 07:24 AM
2

For me as a guy the mask gives me a confidence boost? Not sure why though. I guess it’s like roulette for you both, but if they’re looking pretty cute it can’t be that bad under the mask.
/r/seduction20/03/21 07:21 AM
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Omfg lol
/r/seduction20/03/21 07:09 AM
1

Why wouldn’t an automated background check change anything? That’s such an obtuse statement. People who’re going to commit violence aren’t new to it a majority of the time. There’s a reason why violent offenders are always being rolled up for the same types of crimes. If you eliminate known violent offenders from the OLD pool, you’re obviously going to have a lot less people likely to commit a violent crime in said pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 03:55 PM
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You also don’t have to give your ID and participate on that corporation’s app. I see both sides of the argument here, but it makes sense for tinder to do this. It will cover their ass legally and in the media. Personally, as a guy, I love this. It’ll likely open up a lot more dating opportunities for myself and others who are genuinely good dudes. Hackers who want someone’s address aren’t going to have a hard time getting it, even if your actual address is different than the one on your ID. And …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 10:04 PM
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Tinder started as a hookup app, but like everything else has evolved. Take the evolution of Facebook as an example... I don’t think people are stupid for looking for a relationship on tinder, bumble etc. especially when we’ve been pretty locked up the last year. A lot of us (men especially) are not great at reading someone else’s attraction level, and are terrified of misinterpreting a woman’s signals, thus making a move when that’s not what she wants. Tinder, and other apps pretty much eliminat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 01:08 AM
5

What’s their name? I’d like to learn from some of these conversations myself.
/r/seduction10/03/21 11:59 PM
1

A. yes, yes, no, no, yes, yes B. no, yes, no, no, yes C. I’ve been very good the last 3-4 months in this regard. I’ve taken a lot of action to address this area of my life that has been an on and off issue since childhood. D. Yes. Yes and no. I have one true friend that is supportive that lives across the country now. My family is always there too. I need more friends. E. Not necessarily. F. No G. Generally speaking, no. H. Yes, plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 04:54 PM
2

Amazon style lol. You win best comment on this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 01:48 AM
1

Could be a hardcore runner. Those folks have strong legs that have no real muscle mass. I’m a 5’7” male who has weighed as much as 150 and as little as 130. Though admittedly at 130, I’d come out of the mountains from a 2 week hike with a calorie deficit for that time frame. I’m usually sitting at 140.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 01:32 AM
1

You need to spend less time online.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 01:14 AM
1

Yeah I would date someone taller than me. But yes I’d say there’s a cutoff limit. Probably 1-2 inches. I’m 5’7” and honestly can’t imagine myself with a woman who is 5’10” or taller. My dad is 5’10” and it probably has something to do with that. I’ve always seen him as very tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 12:40 AM
1

I just recently was talking to a gal who deflected a lot, especially towards the beginning. It was always with very menial things and I never thought much of it. Still don’t know what to make of that. She also was rather bad at asking about things regarding myself, but got better about that as we grew closer. After almost 3 months she ghosted. Not saying she will ghost, I’m not experienced enough to say, but idk if there’s a connection there psychologically.
/r/seduction17/02/21 05:56 AM
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Holy shit that’s a game changing move lol. But for real, congratulations my man! You’ve had way more success in the last month than I’ve had in the last two years in many respects. I started at 27 too and am 29 now. I’ve gotten 3 gals from tinder to actually meet up, 2 of those I saw for a few months. I’ve matched maybe 50 in that entire time. 20 of those in the last 3 months with platinum. I’ve gotta try the men and women thing now. I noticed when I got more picky with my swipes my matches incr…
/r/seduction13/02/21 02:49 AM
5

For me it’s definitely both. I can’t genuinely say which one is more important to me, but words of affirmation hold just as much weight as physical touch in my book. My above example is something I cherish just as much, if not more than any of the cuddle time etc we spent together.
/r/seduction08/02/21 08:04 PM
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The last girl I was seeing spontaneously turned over towards me and looked me in the eye while we were watching a movie one night. She said, “you’re really sweet, you know that?” Unfortunately we’re not seeing each other anymore, but I’ve hung onto that since that day. Just one of those moments.
/r/seduction08/02/21 08:46 AM
1

With a touch of confidence a lot of things will flow naturally, even if you’re slightly awkward about them. Try typing in confidence sleep hypnosis on YouTube. There’s a couple from a channel called growing forever that helped me immensely. I listen to them 2 or 3 nights a week still.
/r/seduction28/01/21 08:29 AM
1

Well now we’re playing semantics aren’t we? Because there’s no key difference between changing yourself to the person you want to be and being yourself. Two different ways of describing the exact same thing. And you shouldn’t change to a person that you think other people will want. If you’re organically being you, and not holding any part of you back, there are people who’re going to respond to that in a positive way. That is assuming you’re not a completely miserable person in need of years of…
/r/seduction04/01/21 05:34 PM
4

That’s what I tend to think about it as well. As a guy, if I try to “game” I’m not going to attract anyone worth keeping around.
/r/seduction04/01/21 05:16 AM
3

I suck at “game,” and I started having success when I let my guards down and just allowed myself to be comfortable being me. And I’m no 10. I’m covered in freckles and started balding in my teens.
/r/seduction04/01/21 03:04 AM
12

“Just be yourself” is only terrible advice for those that don’t know who they are, or what that actually means. And it can mean different things for different people. For me, it meant dropping my self conscious filter that contained my happy and goofy/silly side. It also meant dropping the fear that I may embarrass myself for expressing myself and my wants. And it took me years to figure out what that statement meant, or rather how I could apply it to myself. You can boil failure in the dating/h…
/r/seduction04/01/21 02:55 AM
1

https://youtu.be/YhGloPrXKnQ
/r/seduction03/12/20 02:51 PM
1

I’d suggest listening to this while you sleep! I’ve been listening a couple times a week for about a month now. My tv automatically shuts off after an hour, but even then it’s been super effective for me. I generally am a lot more happy and accepting of an outcome in any given situation, seduction related or otherwise. My depression has pretty much gone away since I started listening to this too. Maybe it’ll help you some! https://youtu.be/YhGloPrXKnQ
/r/seduction26/11/20 05:59 PM
1

In your first paragraph it sounds like you’re projecting your frustration with being in the friend zone as opposed to any advice you’ve gotten from women per se. I agree that many girls/women don’t know what they want, and often describe what they want from a relationship, rather than what they want from a prospective man initially. Which is still something to consider in that context. Many of those things she’d want in a relationship would also be turn offs on the front end. Courtship behavior …
/r/seduction26/11/20 04:38 PM
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I’ve had some lesbians and bi girls give me a decent tip here and there. Straight women on occasion too but that’s even more rare. Don’t completely disregard female advice when it comes to dating, but take it all with a grain of salt.
/r/seduction25/11/20 02:19 AM
2

While that is a likely possibility, it’s not impossible for a woman to do exactly what was described here. I’ve seen it on more than one occasion.
/r/seduction25/11/20 01:34 AM
1

Women who are obsessed with social media are also ones who are likely to string you along if you’re not careful.
/r/seduction18/11/20 06:30 AM
11

As an introvert, being energized by being social is true, but only for very short periods of time. After a while, even with positive feedback, social settings are incredibly draining unless they’re 1 on 1. 1 on 1 for me personally is the only time socializing is energizing. Like more than 2 hours for me in a group and I’m done. I also hate being the center of attention so much so that I don’t enjoy someone throwing a party for me. I would never tell anyone that unless we’re incredibly close thou…
/r/seduction07/11/20 03:04 PM
4

You should come to America if you can
/r/seduction24/10/20 01:09 AM
2

It depends on the man. I’m more on the shy side and am usually a little intimidated to be more direct unless I know someone very well. This is likely due to a confluence of factors, but regardless it leaves me pretty lonely. When I am more direct I’ve only really ever gotten the run around lead on anyways. The only times it’s worked out for me were when the woman took the lead. And still most of the time their advances went over my head lol. So yeah I like a direct approach from the ladies. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 05:20 PM
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I can’t speak for op. My form of meditation is clearing the mind completely while remaining conscious. Kind of hard to explain how to do, but whenever you’re thinking of something you just gently push the thought aside. You eventually enter a space that is completely empty and almost feels like sleep. You know you aren’t sleeping though because when a sound interrupts it you notice. Idk what this method is called.
/r/seduction18/10/20 04:03 AM
1

Here’s the point . Here’s your head.
/r/seduction11/10/20 10:32 AM
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There ya go. Great video!
/r/seduction10/10/20 11:17 PM
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I’m posting this because some people need to hear it. If you’re on the more successful side of dating and hooking up, then don’t give “advice” like this to guys who have a hard time with it or are completely unsuccessful. It comes off as dismissive and arrogant. In this particular example is one of my best friends, and in the past he actually has given me some pretty good advice. But when you hear this all the time and don’t get actual advice from people for years on end (this was me at one poin…
/r/seduction10/10/20 03:26 PM
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Search “how to eat out” on pornhub. Find the video with the older lady (I forget her name) going down on sunny lane.
/r/seduction10/10/20 03:09 PM
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It’s in our DNA. It’s part of women’s selection process to see if a male has the gall to approach her. If he doesn’t and can’t even spark a conversation, then how can he protect, provide food/shelter, and lead them to greener pastures when tough times come? That being said, you shouldn’t be saying “I’m too socially awkward to do this”. Instead try “this is rough but success will come with practice.” It literally doesn’t even have to be perfect. Be your awkward self and make light of it when that…
/r/seduction13/09/20 06:42 AM
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They exist
/r/seduction13/09/20 06:35 AM
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I don’t think I’ll ever be able to use lmfao again. You killed it man.
/r/seduction13/09/20 06:34 AM
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We can do it dude!
/r/seduction23/08/20 04:34 AM
2

So I asked her both previous times if she wanted to join me for my semi regular evening walk to watch sunset. I asked her that way because I didn’t want to be too serious about it at work. The pandemic rules out a dinner date or anything traditional for us both I think. We both enjoy time outdoors and it sounded like a good idea at the time. I do think you make a good point about the after thought part. I think I’m probably going to go for it. Something like “hey I want to tell you something, I …
/r/seduction23/08/20 04:21 AM
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I tend to agree, and I see how that could potentially be a disastrous situation if handled incorrectly. In this particular situation I don’t think I’ll be screwing myself if I am tactful though. I think I could screw myself in terms of ruining an opportunity. If she is attracted like I think she is, opening up a little too much could be a bad thing? Idk it’s a difficult one. She’s a really cool person and we have a great relationship at work. If she shoots me down after I share my feelings it’ll…
/r/seduction23/08/20 03:59 AM
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Don’t text so much. You should be texting to say hey, ask how their day is going, then setting up the next date. That’s it. I try to keep it to 3-4 texts maximum.
/r/seduction17/08/20 11:22 PM
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You’re overthinking it.
/r/seduction15/08/20 02:46 PM
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It may be the competitive mindset that’s getting you into trouble here. You may be signaling it pretty hard in these situations (even without realizing it) and thus instantly turning the woman off to you.
/r/seduction14/08/20 05:52 AM
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The quality of posts here seems to have gone up dramatically in the last few weeks. Thanks to op and the other op’s for putting real shit out there! Really, it’s made a big difference to me and my outlook.
/r/seduction31/07/20 03:53 AM
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As a dude who’d rate himself 5/10 this is very true. I’m constantly thinking “how’d he pull that off!?” Then I remember I’m not very confident and don’t have a lot going for me at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 02:03 AM
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100%! Like I said I’m learning a lot, especially in the last 2 years. But that’s one that I didn’t expect would work. Once you have something of a rapport with someone and you’ve breached the physical contact thing, you know how they respond to certain things and when they’re okay with it. I just have a really hard time reading that on the front end still. If it’s our first time together I’m probably going to screw it up. And again for others that are still learning, I’m not very experienced, an…
/r/seduction10/07/20 03:48 AM
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It should be noted that apologizing and saying “I must’ve read the situation wrong” has led me to a dead end on nearly every occasion. Showing vulnerability is where I’ve turned embarrassing moments into success.
/r/seduction10/07/20 03:32 AM
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Very true, and I’m still getting comfortable with being uncomfortable in a lot of those situations. To be honest, I have a hard time with escalation and making physical advances. If I time it wrong or just read the situation wrong (I do both of these often), then I just apologize and tell them I must’ve read the situation wrong. Sometimes I’ll even say “sorry, I don’t have much experience in situations like these”. If I’ve been confident up to that point I don’t see it as too terrible a thing to…
/r/seduction10/07/20 03:29 AM
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Just do it until it’s become normal to you. I used to be hella uncomfortable driving. I reluctantly got my license at 18 and didn’t drive much after I did. By the time I was 20 I wasn’t giving it much thought anymore. I used to be uncomfortable with eye contact, then I started making it a point to maintain it. You start with normal everyday people. Could be people at work, your family, friends etc. you don’t want to stare non stop into someone’s eyes, but holding eye contact for relatively long …
/r/seduction10/07/20 03:11 AM
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You just boosted my confidence like crazy. I’m good about maintaining eye contact, and always good about smiling. Putting the rest together afterwards has always been my issue. You’ve confirmed what I’ve kind of always suspected though, the eyes tell all. If your gut is telling you her eye contact is more than just conversational, it probably is and should just go for it at some point. This couldn’t have come at a better time for me either. Thank you brother!
/r/seduction10/07/20 01:47 AM
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To be fair most of the advice I’ve gotten from dudes is horrible. “Just take your fucking dick out and tell her what to do with it” and things along those lines is 90% of the advice guys give.
/r/seduction19/11/19 03:21 AM
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Statistically speaking, in the US and in countries where it’s legal, stds are found in lower rates among prostitutes than among the general public. This is because they’re very strict about protection and get tested weekly. What average college hoe is getting tested that often and ALWAYS using protection!?
/r/seduction19/11/19 03:18 AM
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No, it may up your desire to approach once you find out what you’ve been missing though. It did that for me but it didn’t give me more confidence.
/r/seduction19/11/19 03:15 AM
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Hiking is a great confidence booster and is great exercise. Nothing feels as good as your first 10, 15 and 20 mile days
/r/seduction12/10/18 04:35 PM
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And seriously I didn’t even start being a dick until you did so don’t even fucking go there
/r/seduction06/10/18 05:29 PM
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Refer to my previous posts to you for advice. Having a more positive outlook on women in general would be a huge step in the right direction. And don’t sit here and act like you weren’t the first one to bring escorts into the conversation.
/r/seduction06/10/18 05:27 PM
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And a few people here tried to help and you did nothing but make excuses so it doesn’t sound like you even want any help
/r/seduction06/10/18 05:13 PM
2

Why would anyone give you advice if your just gonna say fuck you to everyone?
/r/seduction06/10/18 05:11 PM
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You’ve put yourself on display well enough for me to extrapolate that you look down on most women and view them as inferior. I’ll spare quoting you back to yourself as everyone else has already done that. The very fact that you put off fixing yourself on someone else says a lot. Try taking a little ownership when it comes to fixing yourself. And Try saying half the things you’ve said here to a smart older woman who is career driven and see how far you get pal. Smdh
/r/seduction06/10/18 10:08 AM
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And to be honest, hiring a prostitute or two may be a great thing for you, it was for me (assuming you’re a virgin). Once the excitement of losing your virginity is out of the way you’ll definitely be a lot more relaxed and probably more successful. Separate from seduction, a pro life tip is you’re the only one who can help yourself. A therapist might be a good means for suggesting things that may help you do that, but in the end it’s up to you. They won’t “fix” you as you put it.
/r/seduction06/10/18 04:57 AM
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Well I don’t know a whole lot about the game but I can tell you part of the reason you’re not getting very far seems to be your attitude towards women in general. PS women is plural and woman is singular.
/r/seduction06/10/18 04:53 AM
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Congratulations man, that’s a big step in the right direction. Keep that momentum up!
/r/seduction04/10/18 10:26 AM
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Actually I’m thinking now it’s probably best to just wait and see if she contacts you at all again and count it as a loss. And if she does make contact again, then hey, nice surprise.
/r/seduction04/10/18 10:19 AM
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So I’m kind of new to the art of seduction, but suppose I was in the same shoes as this awesome dude. Just had a great date with perceived sexual tension but she just wants to be friends. I’m thinking my next move is to not initiate contact for maybe 2 weeks (or just whenever feels right) to build interest and go for it again at a later date. The younger me stopped trying at all after that and was 100% convinced that she really didn’t see me like that. Now I think I’d go for it at least once mor…
/r/seduction04/10/18 10:16 AM
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Probably should have told her to prove it
/r/seduction24/12/17 09:31 AM
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