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Question For Womensleepingbull69/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:00 AM
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What made the electrician so good in bed? And why wouldn't you have married him, what about him made him so ill suited for a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:44 AM
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Kiss her and then smash
/r/seduction03/05/26 06:08 AM
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Not always the most social, but you have to be good at socialising and enjoy it. But maybe more horny than, as it is what drives you to keep trying and wanting until you succeed. Feeling sexual helps you to have a sexual vibe.
/r/seduction03/05/26 05:53 AM
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Dude women love men who smile and are silly and fun. As long as you aren't an idiot and aren't submissive it's a net positive. No one likes some overly stoic, boring mf that never smiles.
/r/seduction22/04/26 08:24 AM
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Yeah this is true, and also not being self conscious in the moment, not being focused on how you're acting, how you look etc.
/r/seduction17/04/26 07:35 AM
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It's always easier if it's their idea. Hang out all three of you, and hopefully they will vibe as friends, and then it's likely they will instigate it. Otherwise just propose it to each of them and if they're keen, make it happen.
/r/seduction01/04/26 04:51 AM
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Just ask her if she would be interested in grabbing a drink sometime, and if she declines or seems uncomfortable or uncertain, never mention it again and act completely normal and start treating her like a friend.
/r/seduction31/03/26 06:26 AM
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The middle way is the best. Don't go cold, but just try to focus on yourself, on the present, on your own life almost as if you were single but without dating and fucking other girls (unless you're enm or something). In the process you will stop ruminating and idealising and catastrophising. In this process you might also start losing infatuation, realising you're not as into her as you thought or that a relationship doesn't feel right. You can maintain the passion when you do think of them, spe…
/r/seduction30/03/26 10:40 AM
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If you have the right energy, mainly being that you're not anxious and are genuinly having fun, you can literally say anything or ask them any question (albeit nothinf too creepy or weird). The key is to genuinely be enjoying yourself and having a fun time or at least be relaxed and not give a shit about the outcome. I've heard some guys say that it took them taking an ssri to get to that point, where their game was amazing (because their anxiety and overly caring was gone), but the downside is …
/r/seduction30/03/26 10:02 AM
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Yeah maybe, maybe I'm hot enough, I dunno...the first approach has definitely helped me in my approach though over the years, not only in casual hookups but also in relationships. But that's because I have traumas, have an anxious attachment style and am prone to losing myself, becoming codependent, or "beta" in relationships in the red pill lingo. So the first approach actually probably helps me move closer to being secure and also less available, needy, more independent and mysterious and nove…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 10:01 AM
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No I don't have it backwards, I assumed the same thing as you. And this post had nothing to do with ky feeling that way or wanting to act like that. Thanks for the reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 07:35 AM
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Fair enough, I guess you wouldn't be the targeted demographic then. Cheers
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 05:50 AM
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Every relationship has a power balance, both from the beginning and over time. Whether geopolitical, interpersonal, professional. Those kinds of truths are at the heart of red pill ideology I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:58 AM
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Sure but there are a lot of women who admit to being attracted to toxic men, to toxic traits. I'm not saying it's healthy, but it's true. So I guess you're saying that the most desirable men, are the men who can get away with being toxic. The man that she feels superior from the start, and so being with him and chosen by him makes her feel extra special or superior herself. But there is also higher stakes, perhaps anxiety, as if the man loses interest or rejects her then her ego will take an eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:55 AM
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I don't think red pill ideology is really focused on relationship advice, it's more focused on getting results you want while protecting your ego. I'm not saying either way is good, although for the majority of anxious or insecure guys, the first strategy is far more likely to work. As you said, most guys probably don't have the charisma, the looks, the status etc. to be both obsessive and controlling and whatnot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:46 AM
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Well then why did you answer the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:41 AM
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"This man is obsessed with ME, a seemingly ordinary woman, wow I must be special." So is it that if the woman views the man as superior to her, not an ordinary man, then she as an ordinary woman will be delighted by the obsession and possessiveness? Whereas if an ordinary man acted like that it would be unattractive? Also I have seen quite a few books or shows/movies, aimed at women, where the man is more toxic, possessive and dominant to a high degree, so it must appeal to some women. Also have…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:40 AM
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True, but that wasn't the question. And as far as hookups and casual dating are concerned, both of these ways of being are more successful and attractive to women. I'm not really asking about whether it is toxic or not, or what makes a good relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:33 AM
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I never said it was only attractive to women, but I was just more curious to hear from women, as it is a common trope that they go for, and as red pill ideology is mainly aimed at men trying to get more or higher quality women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:32 AM
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But you just started talking to him. If you had been dating for a year and were in love, would you still feel the same way?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:23 AM
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No we are already dating and sleeping together at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:37 PM
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Probably right. Though theey could just be charming and confident to a delusional degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 09:35 AM
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But the concept of love bombing is that they, initially at least, love the praise and effort from certain men or women. So it isn't that they instantly are suspicious of the "love".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:56 AM
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The hard part is carrying this vibe and mentality over to when you decide to go exclusive with one
/r/seduction11/02/26 06:44 AM
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What makes you think that? Personal experience? Do you think only very attractive guys get away with this kind of behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:42 AM
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Well it's a term that refers to something that exists, or are you saying that people came up with a term for something that doesn't exist? How do you explain the phenomenon that people call love bombing?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 05:06 AM
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Oh for sure, I more meant in regards to continuing to meet other women and keep your options open etc. I actually feel more secure in casual dating and open relationships than I do in monogamous ones, but I think that partly stems from seeking validation from outside of myself, and the fact that I find it hard to maintain that abundant "easy come easy go" attitude once in a monogamous relationship.
/r/seduction11/02/26 04:58 AM
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What about if you are already in the relationship and are mostly exclusive?
/r/seduction11/02/26 03:46 AM
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Nah I don't I should have used gender neutral terms probably
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:03 AM
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What do you do if you don't mind me asking? You said you have "mastered it", which implies you aren't just naturally like this.
/r/seduction11/02/26 02:44 AM
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Nah I have in the past, don't want to ever again
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:39 AM
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For people with BPD though, I imagine it's less conscious manipulation, and more part of their natural tendency to split, pedestalise people and then just as quickly devalue them or make them a villain.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:35 AM
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Yeah but the love bombing has to come first no? Before the withdrawal and devaluation. So people who do it repeatedly must be very good at picking out damaged women very early on and making them feel special etc. Unless they just do it everyone and the healthy women with self respect filter themselves out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:33 AM
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You mean like frame? Or like not enough pull eith the push?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:25 AM
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I think it's more about attachment style and personalities than age probably, but definitely seem to attract avoidants. I'm in my early 30's but this has been the case since my early 20's, so probably not the best at picking them. It's just interesting, because when I'm secure and not that interested in the women, they seem to become almost obsessed with me and love bomb me to a degree, but if I become too into them and give it back they get kinda turned off. But some of them admittedly have bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:20 AM
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Interesting, so they just have to be good at turning it on and activating those feelings in you? Surely you must still be attracted to them, even if they aren't "attractive" (objectively or whatever)? I mean being love bombed by someone who you didn't see as an equal or who was repulsive would surely not do much.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:16 AM
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/r/seduction09/02/26 04:38 AM
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Respect. But otherwise this guy's game is strong.
/r/seduction08/02/26 10:30 AM
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My man. This is a good approach.
/r/seduction08/02/26 10:28 AM
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Not that you should do it, but you need to already have hand in order to do this. As in, whether it's because you have already gotten them somewhat curious and into you, you are very good looking, have high status and social confidence, whatever it is. This doesn't work well when you have no existing upper hand.
/r/seduction02/02/26 02:03 AM
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This is the correct attitude for sure. Once you enjoy your life more you can't even be fucked going out of your way to bang girls constantly haha
/r/seduction26/01/26 04:47 AM
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I was doing this too for a while, before I realised I wasn't working out as much, wasn't playing or making music as much anymore, wasn't expanding my networks or making new friends or creating anything of value. All I was doing was working and fucking and sleeping. It's fun at times but at other times it's pretty sad.
/r/seduction26/01/26 04:46 AM
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It's great for a while, but after some time you start to feel empty inside and not like a real man, just a tool for women and divorced from your real identity. It also leads to making you weaker as you end up relying on validation from the opposite sex to feel like a empowered person. I have had rosters for years, and at times it is really amazing for your ego and feeling of security and power, but you have to be careful and step back sometimes and check yourself. And when you do meet an amazing…
/r/seduction26/01/26 04:44 AM
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Just wear a T shirt that says creep on the front and own it, might be a good conversation starter
/r/seduction22/01/26 05:11 AM
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Develop social confidence and the ability to make people laugh, will take you further than anything else.
/r/seduction21/01/26 11:37 PM
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I have done open relationships for almost 10 years and I agree with everything you wrote, but fuck if it isn't still hard as shit sometimes and despite my best attempts to be open, honest and caring it can still fall apart and leave you feeling like a pos. My Dad had four marriages and always cheated, and I remember him telling me he thought I was brave when I said I was going to try to clap multiple cheeks honestly and ethically. But we've probably had an equal amount of drama anyway from our r…
/r/seduction22/12/25 09:12 AM
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I didn't read all of this, but I can tell you need to learn to unwind and have fun first. Whatever that takes, you need to try things and just have fun in the process and not put pressure on yourself, fuck the pressure. Just have fun with it.
/r/seduction19/12/25 08:47 AM
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It depends on the guy. I'm in my early 30s and can go like 4 or 5 rounds in a night if I want to because I don't have much of a refractory period, but some guys have to eait hours or until the next day and are very sensitive.
/r/seduction20/10/25 09:49 PM
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Good chance they're taking cialis and not telling you, which lots of young guys do these days for some reason. Also could be on Finasteride for hair loss or ssri's for depression, both can reduce sensitivity and make it hard to finish.
/r/seduction20/10/25 09:47 PM
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