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Don’t do the dating apps. Going to the bar will yield better results. Rejection is gonna happen so go in with thick skin and keep trying
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 03:26 PM
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Oh they are just awful horrid creatures
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 12:16 AM
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Mine was at first and still is at times
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 03:19 AM
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My group therapy recommended 2-5 years minimum to heal after divorce. I didn’t date the first 4 years and just focused on my young daughter and kept busy with friends, exercise and work. I recommend focusing on yourself and kid for the time being until you can figure this out. Hope you are able to process this well.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 05:33 AM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/22 10:33 PM
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Just going off what my therapy group recommended. It definitely took me that long
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 06:36 PM
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It certainly is. I tried to keep myself busy with work, friends, exercise, and crying alone in my small apt.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 02:53 AM
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Minimum to wait is 2 years. Preferably 5 or more to be honest. Best of luck
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 02:04 AM
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Morbid but acceptable
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/20 04:28 AM
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I still have no faith in humanity. Love isn’t real. It’s just people seeking out their best interests and you may happen to have something that benefits them
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/20 10:59 PM
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I’m working Christmas Day for that sweet holiday pay to numb my pain
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 04:54 AM
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Welcome to the club. Get out fast
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/19 12:22 AM
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Express your desire for her to stop sending you messages regarding the issues. Repeatedly. Save all texts/emails and build a case.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/19 12:05 AM
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Listen here you emotional, estrogen soaked pig. Go back to your little woman life and realize your are worth nothing. The fact that you think you if you can talk to me is laughable. You’re a piece of shit and no one loves you. Fuck off
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/19 04:12 PM
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Divorce that cold prude and move on. Life is too short for frigid, terrible women
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/19 12:21 AM
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I was told at a divorce recovery group that a minimum of two years is recommended while 5+ is ideal. I agree with this and feel it will be beneficial
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/19 05:04 AM
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I’ve been in your shoes. I still am. Just realize that your sphere of control has diminished and there’s nothing you can do. All you can control now is making the most of time spent with your daughter; make those days special for her, call her as much as you can, and speak with her about the boyfriend and ask questions about how he acts towards her. Keep your head up friend; this is just one bump in the road and there are bigger ones coming. I’ve learned you can’t emotionally react the way you w…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/19 04:05 PM
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I’d like to get married again
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/19 06:44 PM
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I don’t follow
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/19 04:58 PM
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You got that Dallas fire in ya; I’ll tell you that. Be safe out there feller.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/19 04:46 AM
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I went to work, FaceTimed my child, lifted weights, drank whiskey, smoked dank, ate cheeseburgers, and watched Dog the Bounty Hunter. Does that count?
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/19 04:34 AM
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I do agree with the encouragement of ‘toughening up’ and adopting an attitude of resilience. I do not agree with the blind and reckless hubris being displayed nor assaulting sex workers; at all.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/19 04:24 AM
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I think you need to move on
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/19 04:19 AM
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No. It’s not worth jackshit. You deserve a happy life. So do your kids. So does your wife. You don’t want your kids growing up seeing the dysfunction and unhappy marriage as the standard of relationship. It’s not good in the long run man
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/19 02:45 AM
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Yes it sometimes does
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/19 07:16 PM
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I’d recommend to stay single for minimum 2-5 years
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/19 07:54 PM
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Not working is a sure way for a wife to become unhappy with a marriage. I know that from experience. Best of luck to you man
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/19 11:35 PM
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I don’t understand either. Please clarify what is going on here
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/19 06:19 AM
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Ah I see and understand. It’s wise to pick your battles as a divorced man. I blow off a lot of shitty comments and quips from my ex; although it’s seldom to be honest. I would take your children on this trip; I’ve had good success with establishing rapport with the ex by taking my child on trips and such; while reciprocating the rapport with her and willfully and unassuming attitude when she does. It’s best to set aside distrust and anger when it comes to the kids spending time with both. If you…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/19 03:49 AM
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I would need more details to offer advice
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/19 01:11 AM
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I’d recommend you spend at least 2 years being single and not worrying about dating. Preferably 5 or more. I’m starting year 4 post divorce and I’m spending every weekend and holiday with my daughter. I feel the sting of being single and lonely but I think in the long run I’ll be happy I built a great relationship with my daughter while it counted. Women will come and go. The daughter won’t. Good luck friend
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/19 11:45 PM
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This is very tough. I wish I could offer some solace
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/19 01:45 AM
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It was a bit calm for me at first as well. Some information was brought to my attention months later that really gave me an emotional blow.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/19 10:14 PM
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I agree with this. This is not a salvageable relationship. Get the DNA test; react accordingly based on the results and get out FAST
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 01:24 PM
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You’ll never know how. I suggest to divorce as soon as possible, spend as much time as you can with your kids, and start building a new, single life.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/19 03:13 AM
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Call it quits and move on. You’re sitting in limbo and not healing, changing, or growing.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/19 02:14 AM
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It is hard. Be patient with yourself. I’m just now starting year 4; I still have bad thoughts about it every now and then. I mainly miss my daughter on the weekdays.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/19 02:51 PM
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I’m sorry my friend; but it’s done. Focus on immediately distancing yourself physically and emotionally and figure out another living situation as soon as possible. Worry about the other stuff later. Best of luck; it’s scary and probably the toughest thing you will go through.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/19 04:26 AM
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It’s very hard to be honest; the uncertainty level is high. The feeling of ‘now what?’ hits you like a ton of bricks. It’s a pulsing recovery as well; some days are better than others. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/19 01:22 AM
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Get out as fast as possible. Bringing up my ex’s infidelity in the divorce documents gave me sufficient leverage for child custody. Don’t try to engage in the drama or emotions; just get out.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/19 11:15 PM
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It is tough man. I struggle with this dilemma as well. If you find the answer; let me know
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/19 06:53 PM
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Better to think how you can deal with it than why... start the game plan now. You can only adapt
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/19 04:06 AM
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Buy canned beef ravioli and eggs. Eat half a can of canned beef ravioli and 2 hard boiled eggs per meal. Drink cheap well whiskey. Skip breakfast and drink only coffee. Don’t date for at least 5 years. Do your own oil changes for pennies on the dollar. Engage in as many activities with friends. Most of all... keep going to work (and work as many hours as you can) and try to sleep as best and as most as you can. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/19 04:19 AM
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It is imperative that you get the divorce, delete her number and move on.... I mean absolutely imperative, in order for you to grow and continue on in a new life
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/19 01:11 AM
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It did come up and still does at times. I hope you process it in a healthy manner and realize that life will not always be this way. I too am experiencing the barren, lonely life after divorce. It’ll get better friend.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/19 12:09 AM
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Do not drink within in 72 hours of the test
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/19 03:23 AM
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Time. It’s just gonna take time brother.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/19 04:50 AM
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Best of luck to you friend; sounds like some emotional processing needs to take place.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/19 07:42 PM
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Hey man, it sounds like you are going through some heavy stuff right now. I hope you process it well and accordingly. Try to start imagining your life as a bachelor/part-time dad. It’s best to think of the future. Best of luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/19 04:39 AM
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I hope you find the strength to move on. That’s a grip of time.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/19 02:40 AM
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Not one single bit. It never gets any easier.. ever. I have my daughter (5) every weekend and I still cry every time she leaves. I’ve been divorced 3 years. Thanks for sharing buddy and good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/19 08:57 PM
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I’m sorry but can we have an elaboration?
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/18 09:19 PM
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Right here. This is the correct answer. Buy two gifts with the kiddos and wrap them and have them give her the gifts from then. Buy nothing for her from yourself. Buy yourself something
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/18 11:32 PM
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This is year 8 after the divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/18 06:39 AM
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What now? Wish I could tell you.... it’s pretty much a crapshoot. Good luck feller
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/18 05:53 AM
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I’m sorry to hear that man. That’s a tough cookie. Can you elaborate if you’re willing?
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/18 03:15 AM
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I see my daughter every weekend (Friday night-thru Sunday afternoon). I am a very active and engaging father. I also had some significant external leverage during the divorce decree as well. You may have more or less visitation than my arrangement. The main thing is your reach out to your child as much as possible and prove to them that you are TRYING.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/18 10:50 PM
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You need to separate yourself entirely. Nothing is going to progress until you’re only communicating and/or interacting when exchanging children.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/18 05:21 AM
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I agree with this whole heartedly. You need to stop all communications
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/18 10:31 PM
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‘Now what do I do’ is a scary and absolute concept; but you gotta do it. Get out of there
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/18 05:53 PM
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What even was that?
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/18 10:20 PM
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I would also contact and employ a lawyer immediately. Do not sit around with pictures like that for a long period of time. Good luck feller
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/18 03:10 AM
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Let go and run as fast as you can. I wish I had that choice. Do it!
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/18 07:58 PM
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I’ve had dreams of my ex lately as well. I see her weekly tho as we have a child we co-parent. Divorce is an odd, constant emotional pain when you have to interact or somehow interact with your ex. I’d block her number if I was you. I love my child; but it makes it more difficult for the emotional split. You’re not tied down like me man, block the number and ‘get the hell outta Dodge’
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/18 05:17 PM
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Mmmmmm.... very alluring
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/18 03:56 PM
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At this point, the best thing is to swallow pride and get OUT of that situation. Imho
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/18 04:03 AM
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I feel you need to leave immediately and continue spending weekends with your daughter. Get divorced and stay single for a couple years. Move on. Spend as much time with your daughter as possible while living your own life
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/18 03:42 AM
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It would be wise to do laundry somewhere else. It seems you’re trying to hold on to this relationship. Do everything absent and away from her. There is no easy way.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/18 05:00 AM
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Haven’t even gotten there yet.... I have weekend custody and not one date. Good luck brother
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/18 06:58 PM
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Kept mine. It’s non precious metal or I would’ve sold it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/18 07:58 PM
3

Make sure you also choosing your children over your new girlfriend and paying attention to them when all together. Most recommend two years minimum after divorce before starting a relationship; more so for the children than you. Just my two cents.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/18 06:15 PM
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No advice for groups, unless you are in Dallas. I do understand how you feel tho. Somedays, nothing about the divorce bothers me, I'm an indestructable ironman. The next day, I'm holding back tears at work and go home and weep in my dark apartment. The strong days are getting more numerous and the bad days are lessening, it still is tough tho. Hang in there brother.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/18 11:41 PM
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Please be careful putting personal info on this site. Hope the best for you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/18 03:18 PM
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Document it all. File for divorce. Get a lawyer and specify you will keep kids until she can find employment. It's gonna be tough but if she is feeling trapped and wants to travel and sleep around.. she is gonna have to become self sufficient. No need to be angry or emotional; this is essentially two businesses ending a relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/18 10:06 PM
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My first months after the initial split up weren't bad. I had started a new job in a new town, living with my brother. Later on, when I was informed she had been having an affair that it hit me hard. I used prescription drugs and alcohol to get thru it. Not a wise choice. I recommend going to a divorce support group (which I ended up doing) and spending as much time with friends as possible. PS-I spent every weekend with my daughter (and still do); which also helped
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/18 06:04 PM
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It's a very hard adjustment from seeing your kids everday to a 'part time/weekend dad'. There is no real easy way around it, tbh. I'm at almost 2 years post divorce and I still cry a bit every Sunday I take my daughter home. Just try to call/FaceTime the kids every chance you can get or are allowed during the time they are with your ex; and be sure to verbally express to your children that you desire to be with them everyday you can and that you love them. As long as they see you fighting for ti…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/18 05:48 PM
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The daughter or your soon to be ex?
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/18 02:49 AM
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Somewhat similar instance here, the only thing I can contribute to this that I have experienced is that the grieving process is wildly non linear. One day the situation doesn’t bother you at all, the next day it’s consuming your thoughts. Stats: Divorced 15 months, wife had met someone else during our marriage, get my daughter every weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/17 07:07 PM
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Right on brother. Live for yourself now and enjoy the things YOU wanna do.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/17 10:53 PM
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