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Discussionsleydon/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:10 AM
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I actually have zero issue with men not wanting to date sex workers etc. My issue is that his method of verifying that they are is seriously flawed. Publicly available AI isn’t at the stage where it can detect and match faces with 100% certainty. Especially with limited source material. If he’s using their dating app images which we all know are posed and taken at flattering angles, etc. AI will match results of women with similar features but it can’t match faces with 100% certainty. For at lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:33 AM
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Reddit is not a reflection of the general population, my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:19 AM
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The facts say otherwise. OnlyFans has 1.4 million content creators. If we assume they're all American women and all active, then that would represent just under 1% of the 161 million women and girls in the US. Only fans says 70% of creators are women, so that's 0.98 million women, or 0.6% even if all of them are American.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:18 AM
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How sure are you that this AI algorithm is able to detect faces with 100% accuracy? At this stage most AI is only able to detect faces with similar features, especially ones free to the public. I’ve never posted nudes in my life but I’m also pretty sure that if someone ran a photo of me through one of AI apps/algorithms you mentioned that some woman’s nudes will show up of a woman that looks pretty similar to me. I’m slim, white, blonde and am probably a popular porn category. Also to put it blu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:14 AM
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You’re so bitter
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:17 PM
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You’re fucked in the head
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:16 PM
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Ew, are you talking about your sister rn?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:26 PM
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I wouldn’t stop him if he wanted to but I’d tell him it made me uncomfortable, he’s never done it and I doubt he would. I think he’d have a similar reaction if I hung out with a straight single male friend on my own. It’s not that either of us think that we’d cheat or they’d have a sexual/romantic thing, it’s just that I be jealous of him being close friends with another woman, it’s weird I know! Our relationship is more than just our sexual/romantic moments we also have such a close friendship.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:25 PM
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Growing up with an older brother similar age to me helped me understand/emphasise with men a lot more. Like how men’s sadness often comes out in anger and being closed off. Also, how often men care a lot more than they want you to think. I had a pretty verbally abusive boyfriend at 18 and could’ve gone down the “all men are assholes” route had my brother not been so protective, like kicking him out of our house and telling me I deserved better etc. My brother and I have that type of sibling rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:49 PM
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It’s crazy that I was on the dating apps for 4 years and countless hours and they never actually resulted in a relationship. I’m 22 and have had 3 boyfriends and met all of them through friends. Dating apps are a scam and are so unromantic! They’re setting us up to fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:29 PM
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I can only talk to men if I can roast them and banter. I like that w my female friends I don’t have to try so hard to be funny or animated and we can get deep and have silence and it’s not awks. it’s probably just cause im closer to them though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:24 PM
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Ngl, I find certain men boring af sometimes if I’m being honest. Unless they’re gay, it’s cause we lack shared interests. Like I’d rather eat dirt than listen to a guy talk about stocks or cars for half an hour. But I also know this dude probably doesn’t wanna to talk to me about Taylor swift, the new podcast I’m listening too or my skincare routine haha. I find the best way to get around this is to just banter and roast each other, that’s how I become friends with men. Luckily my bf and I actua…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:21 PM
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My bf has lots of female friends and I’ve become friends with them over our relationship too half are in relationships too. He never hangs w them one on one but if he hung out alone with one of his single female friends I’d be kinda jealous and weirded out by it. Not in that I’d think he’d cheat or even if she was super unattractive, it’s more of the idea that he’d choose to spend time with another girl over me. Even if it was purely platonic just the idea of them laughing together makes me upse…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:10 PM
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This is bullshit. A couple of the men in my friendship group are engineers. You do realise you don’t only have to be friends with people who study the same degree as you right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:01 PM
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I have a bf and about 50% of my social group is men and about 50% of his is women. Our friends overlap somewhat. Honestly, I’m not ever jealous of his female friends cause I’m friends with them and know they have zero chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 07:59 PM
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How can you actually believe that? Have you been outside lately? You’re so deep down the rabbit hole my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 07:55 PM
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Touch grass, go to a library, dear god tell me you’re being satirical.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 07:54 PM
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Maybe not one on one, that’s okay, but it’s kinda a red flag if a guy has absolutely zero female friends to me. My friendship group is 50/50 male female.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 07:53 PM
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Lol yes! My friendship group is about 50/50 male female. We sometimes have girls nights which are fun but yeah mixed gender groups imo are the healthiest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 07:51 PM
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Good! It’s how I met my current bf, he was a friend of a male friend of mine. Friendship groups that combine both genders are the healthiest imo and my bf and I love setting our single friends up. If my bf spent alone time with one of his single female friends I’d think that was kinda weird, I know he’d never cheat but I’d think it was strange that he’d want to do that but it doesn’t happen. We usually hang out with his female friends together with his male friends too (some of them are his frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 07:49 PM
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The real problem is humans were never supposed to interact through technology and screens. 80% of human communication is non-verbal. The divide and blame we place on the opposite gender for our loneliness is so misplaced. We’re lonely cause we’re not really interacting anymore. If we could actually have more opportunities to Property interact without the pressure of technology, social media and the internet, we’d realise the opposite gender is not and never was the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 03:08 PM
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These women are coming from countries where they literally barely have basic human rights, ofc they’re going to use their only perceived asset as a means to give themselves and their children a better life. You’re so uneducated and bitter. I can’t be bothered to discuss it with you anymore. Have fun being lonely for the rest of your life just know it’s cause you’re an asshole and people don’t like you, it’s not because women all women are “prostitutes”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 02:55 PM
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You think these women would choose to do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:49 PM
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You need to research the exploitation of sex work. the women you’re referring to are suffering through such deep poverty that they sell they resort to selling their bodies for a green card, to escape their poverty stricken country. It’s no secret that a large amount of sex workers are immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:48 PM
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The thing Is I understand men’s adversion to women with an abnormally high number of sexual partners. I actually have a low “n-count” myself ( I’m 22 and slept with 4 men) My issue is men on this sub don’t acknowledge that women actually do in general have a lower number of sexual partners than men in general. Men on this sub are so out of touch and obsessed with this narrative that all modern women are highly promiscuous, when studies consistently have proven men on average sleep around more of…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:13 PM
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You added zero discussion, just said your bitter opinion with no facts or discourse
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:04 PM
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Literally doesn’t happen, but believe what ever you want
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 12:05 PM
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Maybe, but don’t try and lie that they even receive an 8th of the fraction of the amount that women do for sleeping with less.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:56 AM
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That was the weirdest and more irrelevant thread
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:36 AM
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God you’re so far down the rabbit hole. Please come back to earth
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:35 AM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:34 AM
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Protection tho! don’t forget about that too, it doesn’t mean being commanding! opening doors for her! Standing on the side of the road that cars are on! Offer her your jacket if it’s cold! Pick her up from work if it’s late and dark. Offer to help carry her groceries! That shit can turn a 5 into a 10 and no it doesn’t make you a simp if you offer to help your gf carry her groceries men it makes you sexy!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:11 AM
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You mean praised?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:38 AM
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The side effects of female birth control are honestly so bad I’ve considered convincing my bf using the pull out method as a viable method. But Its not and I really don’t want to get pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:23 AM
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I’d love to see better male contraceptive options! I take the pill and the hormones from it made me lose clumps of hair, it made me so touchy I’d cry for no reason, and I’m not usually much of a cryer. It also makes my boobs so tender and swollen, that you can see my veins! I gained no weight from the pill but I went from a B to a C-cup. I’ve had female friends get the Mirena insert, they give no pain relief to a metal rod being inserted inside your cervix. My friend is not dramatic she’s a pret…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:16 AM
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Like tf? If I you were forced into sex trafficking imagine if someone called you a prostitute and not “wife material” that’s so heartless
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:01 AM
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Huh? Hookups and One night stands don’t make men gigolo’s, be for real!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:59 AM
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It’s sad that they feel the need to shame us for having previous sexual experiences just because they feel insecure. In all honesty I never think of my previous sexual partners, I have no memory of them now. I’m 22 and I’ve had 4 sexual partners. 1 was a ons that I was too wasted to remember (it was basically SA, I was blackout and didn’t know where I was the next morning). The other 2 were from my ex boyfriends who are nothing but a blur to me now. The final is my current partner of a year who …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:58 AM
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Are you talking about time based prenups?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:44 AM
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Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:43 AM
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That’s not sex work, that’s rape. Also 4.8million is around about 1.5% of US citizens so I wasn’t wrong. In my country (Australia) prostitution is legal and regulated as it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:42 AM
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What do you mean by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:40 AM
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It makes sense honestly, divorce sucks for everyone involved, male or female no one wants it. Most of my friends parents who have divorced parents tell me it was generally a mutual decision from both sides. They often say their parents both discussed separation for years and tried to work but couldn’t make it work and hated each other by the end. My uncle told me situations where the divorce was out of the blue, or one party wanted it and the other didn’t are in the vast minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:39 AM
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It’s so insecure. Why do they care so much about previous sexual partners? Do they think they’re being compared? Idc about my bf’s previous sexual partners, he’s with me now and that’s all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:27 AM
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Cause men never take part in this behaviour…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:24 AM
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Don’t be a pick me! Women selling themselves online or being prostitutes is not as common as this sub would like you to believe. Based on a wide range of anonymous it’s estimated that only about 0.7%-2% of US women have taken part in transactional sex and about 1.4%-3.2% have admitted to selling explicit images of themselves online.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:23 AM
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Have you ever considered that maybe those profiles offering to sell themselves are people trying to scam you? That’s a common phenomenon on dating apps. They use a strangers photos and ask for money etc for photos. It’s not an actual woman behind that profile…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:10 AM
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So weird and misogynistic. Why would you even say that? It’s not even factually true? Women have less sexual partners on average then men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:07 AM
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My uncle is a divorce lawyer, and he claims the 70% of divorces are initiated by women claim is actually extremely misleading. Women are often the ones who actually file the papers (don’t know why this is the case, maybe cause it falls under the category of “household chores”) studies misleadingly attribute women filing the divorce papers to mean the woman is initiating the divorce. However, he claims the vast majority of divorces are reciprocal and had been a long-standing discussion between bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:04 AM
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Haha so true I sometimes have to remind myself that no one is trying to flirt with my bf. I see him as the most attractive, funny and sweet man to ever exist so I imagine they are. It helps to know he’s they type who would never cheat tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:09 AM
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Maybe, but it’s pretty rare for men to read smut like women do. I doubt the porn industry would be even a fraction as big if it was solely consumed by women. Wattpad and archive of our own. 50 shades (twilight fan fiction), the kissing booth (a wattpad book written by a 15 year old) and the after series (Harry styles fan fiction written by a teen) are all big Hollywood movies that wouldn’t exist if women didn’t consume this content.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:01 AM
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He’s not that physically attractive for sure. He’s very sexual attractive to women though because of his personality, I agree. Also yes! I think you’re onto something women’s perception of a man’s physical attractiveness can be altered if they’re in love with him. I’ve witnessed it happen so many times. My friends will think their bf/guy they’re dating is super attractive even if he’s not all that good looking (ofc I don’t tell them that) but after they break up or fall out of love they realise …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 05:36 AM
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But assuming you have children, who takes care of them? How are both parties supposed to make the same if the husband or wife has to take significant time of work or cut hours to raise the children? Nanny’s are expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 05:31 AM
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Now that the wage gap is (slowly but surely) closing, and these days more women are seeking higher education than men, paid maternity leave is getting longer, tax breaks for marriages. Financially speaking, as long as you have a good prenuptial agreement and marry a woman with a decent salary and similar career goals to yours, marriage is a win-win financially speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 05:28 AM
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Steve Buscemi is sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 05:20 AM
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I actually think it’s somewhat not a delusional lie. Status and protection can go outside of money or superficial success. Pete Davidson would still be attractive if he worked at Home Depot because he’s likeable, confident, funny and cool. Women like funny guys (and all people like funny/popular people in general) because they provide security in the form of social acceptance by association. It’s why we all wanted to be in the popular crowd in high school, they have more fun and some of their qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 05:15 AM
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True, most people also want to marry someone they actually love and enjoy being around ofc, but considering money problems are the #1 cause of divorce and a big source of dissatisfaction in life, you’ve gotta choose someone financially stable enough to raise a family with and live comfortably.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:57 AM
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I know, just pointing it out is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:52 AM
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What does this mean? haha
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:51 AM
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We need to stop using tinder studies and other dating apps as a true representation of dating in real life. Dating apps are designed to bring out women’s most superficial appearance based mindset and men’s most primal urge to have sex with as many as possible. Men and women are equally as picky when it comes to appearance, however, women’s sexual attraction is less visual and more nuanced than men’s is, these apps don’t cater to that. It’s why porn is less popular with women than written erotica…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:50 AM
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I think calculating is the wrong word, it has negative connotations, it’s strategic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:32 AM
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As a evolutionary biology major I think it’s It’s simply ingrained in women to seek out protection in our partners and men to protect/provide. Childbirth/rearing is a vulnerable state to be in and we need a strong partner to be by our side in this process. At one time it was the physically strongest male, nowadays it’s the man with the most financial security and social status. Yes, women are actually sexually aroused by success, social power and protective qualities. Women’s sexual attraction i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:28 AM
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“lol. I don't think that's required tbh. In fact, I can easily see why a random hookup would be more validating than true love sex. That said, I could be wrong, I've never had the former.” As someone who’s had a ons, it was an awful experience. I never did it again. I am however a woman and I don’t think women can enjoy Ons in the same way men can. Love is by far the best feeling in the world imo and I’d be happy never having sex with another man besides my bf in my life. “However, sexual valida…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:14 AM
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I’m saying similar to physical appearance, financial success can be an attractive quality that men can utilise to initially find a partner and lead to real love. This isn’t always the case for women. Think of Jay and Gloria on modern family, we’re they together cause he had money money/financial security and he was with her for her appearance? Definitely. However, overtime I do believe they truely love each other for more than those superficial initial attractions.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:00 AM
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I agree, nothing can compare to the euphoria of true love. However, sexual validation/romantic is not the only form of validation out there. I have a female friend who’s almost 23 and still a virgin. She’s one of those people who can’t gain weight no matter how hard they try, so she’s unattractively thin, tall and is not fortunate looking. She’s still one of my happiest friends though. She’s got a big family w lots of brothers and sisters, lots of friends and academic achievement. She’s only 22 …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 03:33 AM
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In my country (Australia) prostitution is legal. I think it should be legalised everywhere tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 02:50 AM
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They could’ve helped dealing with your pain and bitterness over being rejected. Studies show men commit more because unlike women, they don’t seek therapy for their issues they don’t see the value in having their emotions validated or techniques like cbt therapy, dbt. The problem may have started externally but it’s mental manifestations are treatable. You were in so much pain that you were suicidal. You don’t think getting help and validation for your feelings was at all a good idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:47 AM
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Therapy is more than talking. It’s about getting insight into the root of the issue my counsellor does provide concrete solutions to my problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:38 AM
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You have a wife. Assuming you are still as physically appealing as you were then, then why would you blame that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:36 AM
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I tell my bf my anxieties and problems but I would never hammer on about them like I would to a therapist. That’s just trauma dumping.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:34 AM
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They could’ve given you some insight into why you have trouble finding a partner/how to cope without one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:32 AM
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I don’t expect men to ever fully understand the female experience in the same way other women can. That doesn’t make me depressed though, that’s what female friends/mothers/aunts are for. That’s so so wrong to expect your romantic partner to solve your mental health problems and dump it on them, that’s how relationships end. Seek therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:30 AM
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Your original comment literally insinuated that your lack of romantic relationship is the reason you attempted suicide. And that women didn’t take you seriously enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:25 AM
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Like what are you actually asking for here? Not to be depressed? How is a woman without who’s not a liscenced therapist going to solve that for you? I don’t expect my bf to solve my anxiety problem. I speak to a counsellor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:24 AM
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How is it women’s problem though? Mental health may not be your fault but it is solely one’s own responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:22 AM
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Okay? Go to therapy then? Tf?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:20 AM
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Tf is the purpose then? Why can’t men learn to treat each other kinder and take each other’s mental health seriously? I don’t open up to my male friends like I do my female friends out of fear of being mocked. So what!? That’s what my female friends are for.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:07 AM
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Why is mens mental health solely womens problem? Men need to learn to open up and be vulnerable to each other like women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 05:48 PM
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Assuming that there’s an equal number of homosexuals of each gender, obviously there’s an equal number of single men and women out there lmao??
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 05:44 PM
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what makes you an expert?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 04:04 PM
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MGTOW is literally banned from reddit multiple times now for they’re hate speech. If the whole point is “going your own way” it’s literally doing the opposite to constantly discuss their sustain for women and lack of love life Shared hate is not a hobby, Tf?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:55 AM
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I’ve seen my bf of a year cry a couple times. It only made me feel closer to him. It would be weird if he didn’t cry. It didn’t make me see him as less confident and attractive, I don’t really think about the times he cried all that much because it makes me upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:43 AM
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Are you suggesting men find women crying attractive? Crying is the opposite of horny, of course it’s not sexy??
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:40 AM
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I agree, men are so terrified of being vulnerable with each other out of fear of being seen as homosexual. It’s sad. I hug and tell my female friends I love them constantly. We also banter and roast each other like men do but I also give them genuine compliments. There’s also the flip side of certain female friendships being hyper-toxic. Mean girls pretty much sums it up. We’re so conditioned to see other women as “competition” or take out insecurities out on each other. I’ve definitely had to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 04:58 AM
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You’re confusing your personal experience with the experience of all men. A lot of men do have friends and family that take their mental health seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 04:38 AM
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Tf? Can men all of a sudden not also receive validation from their friends and family? I tell my brother and dad I love them daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 04:31 AM
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All they do is talk about how much they are “oppressed” by women, instead of actually forming a community of fellow men based on shared hobbies and interests. If they were women they’d never pass the bechdel test.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 04:28 AM
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From my experience the most attractive men are usually the worst in bed. I’m a young decent looking woman so can sleep with some super attractive men but they were just so lazy and cold in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:49 AM
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I have honestly never met a single woman in my life it’s served. The woman who claim to live it often have deep trauma and daddy issues hidden beneath they’re facade of nonchalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 11:55 PM
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Tbf, influences are fucking annoying idc if they look like Shrek they’re irritating as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 11:53 PM
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Modern media has lied to us. Casual sex serves women in no capacity. We need to free ourselves from the false narrative we’ve been fed that it’s “empowering”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 11:28 PM
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Can they please for the love of god just go their own fucking way already?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:39 PM
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I mean… I guess? I really don’t see that many women blaming models for their insecurities these days tbh. We’re far beyond that. It’s not the 90’s anymore lmao, most understand models themselves are victims of the system themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:33 PM
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That’s such a 2016 thing to say wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:02 PM
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Also if there wasn’t a market for it they wouldn’t be doing it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:01 PM
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Did I not allude to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:00 PM
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No shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:00 PM
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Sorry that response got super weird, I study ecology and evolutionary biology, I’m in exam mode at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:59 PM
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Reptiles and invertebrate females don’t necessarily orgasm, it’s something that evolved in mammals. However reptiles and invertebrates function on the basis of pure survival more than mammals and don’t experience love, connection and higher brain functioning the way mammals do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:57 PM
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It’s so ignorant for you to pretend to believe that centuries of sexual repression can be fixed in half a decade. This stuff is nuanced and takes time. It’s not entirely all men’s fault women also similarly internalising these messages, it’s an ingrained societal phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:51 PM
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Because it’s not for they’re pleasure, it’s to satisfy men. Also in at least 50% of the world women are actually in one way or another sexually repressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:47 PM
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Pls tell me it’s ironic
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:00 PM
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It’s 2022 why do you have a Pepe the frog profile pic?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:00 PM
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Cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:50 PM
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Women’s onlyfans and tweaking is not them expressing they’re horniness. It’s a way to capitalise on the sexualisation of women. Womens actual horniness and the “female gaze” is a new phenomenon in pop culture. It’s complex and involves intricate plot unlike male porn which is mainly visual.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:48 PM
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I think you’re confusing what she’s saying. Women for centuries weren’t allowed to express their sexual desires without severe scrutiny or even death.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:45 PM
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Casual sex is so undesirable for women! I’ve heard this story from other women like myself so many times! We just aren’t made for casual sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:44 PM
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Would you agree that women crave a relationship far more than men? Similarly to how men crave sex more than women? Ever since I was a little girl I dreamed of my wedding day, my prince and my happy ever after. As a serial monogamist who wishes to one day marry my current bf of over a year I may be bias. But I feel like men are socially conditioned to devalue love and real connection/relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:41 PM
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The existence of a forever alone sub for women is evidence that this is clearly a greater issue than just gender disparities. Personally, I blame social media, yes, I see the irony here but there’s a huge correlation with loneliness, depression and the rise in social media. Studies show that young generations have less close friends than ever before. Society as a whole is losing genuine connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:36 PM
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Agreed! It’s like if/when women blame unrealistic beauty standards and their physical insecurity on men and men alone. It’s a complex multifaceted problem that is far more complex than to be blamed purely on gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:32 PM
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That’s true. I went two years without sex from age 19-21. I could get it whenever I wanted it, I just didn’t crave it and wanted a real relationship before I had it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:25 PM
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I definitely relate to when you said when you don’t have sex you don’t crave it as much! I can (and have) gone years without sex and never been bothered by it but now that I’m in a happy relationship with a man I adore I crave it so much!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:24 PM
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A better analogy is that women are just less hungry cause they have a average quality buffet at their disposable and men are very occasionally given a michellan star meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:22 PM
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Wasn’t flirting with u btw, I know you get confused sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:17 PM
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Yes! Omfg! I’m an average looking 22 year old woman and when I started at my most recent job my female co-worker warned me of creepy customers. I thought she was exaggerating or delusional but literally twice a shift I’ll have a guy ask for my number, tell me I have a nice ass, ask when I’m getting off my shift for a drink etc. The worst part is most of these men blatantly hitting on me are at least in their 40’s. probably with wives and babies at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:15 PM
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I admire your confidence ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:10 PM
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Right? Like take a Fucking hint lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:09 PM
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Men are so much more likely to think I’m flirting with them when I’m working at my retail job it’s not even funny how much I get hit on at work for putting on a customer service voice
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:07 PM
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Lmao keep telling yourself that bud
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:05 PM
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Yes! (generally) women require a great deal more of foreplay to feel sexual desire and I don’t mean foreplay in the bedroom I mean we’re much more focused on the “backstory” or “fantasy” whatever that means for the individual woman to get in the mood. Men can also have this trait but (generally) not at the same level as women. It makes certain women think men are shallow, horny, visual perverts and certain men think women are demanding, confusing, entitled. In reality if we understood each other…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:57 PM
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Jfc. Can’t believe people are out there living in the world who think like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:49 PM
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Women are just so much less hornier than men. This stereotype exists for a reason. Biologically speaking it makes sense men are much hornier than women. Women are pickier with our sexual partners because in all of nature females are the sexual selectors. Most life on earth is evolved to be this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:47 PM
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That’s another good point! The average sexual experience is so much less satisfying for women. Biologically speaking this makes sense, there is no evolutionary reason the female organism must exist that’s why less than 30% receive organism from penetration.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:42 PM
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This is embarrassing to admit but I’m sure other woman can relate. As a woman my porn is reading material, fan fictions etc. Its heavily plot based and less visual.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:37 PM
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As a woman who used to be on those apps for a couple years, I never actually partook in a casual hookup, we don’t use these apps for sex. We use them to see what is out there, sometimes meaningless entertainment, sometimes to find a mate. But least of all actual casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:34 PM
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You have a very rigid and simplistic view of what adulthood means. It doesn’t necessarily reflect reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:02 AM
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My view of attraction is hugely flexible based on who I fall in love with. Since meeting my partner 11 months ago I haven’t had attraction to a man that wasn’t him. I now view him, all his physical features and personality traits as the peak of attractiveness. I would of not really considered his individual traits as being on my list of my perfect man before I met him. I think think this is the beauty of love, you never realise what you need and want until you experience it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:55 AM
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I’m 22 myself but I honestly have the exact same view of men and women at this age. I look at Aaron Taylor Johnson meeting his now wife at 19 while she was 40 and feel it’s the same level of inappropriateness if the genders were reversed. It’s not about complete infantilisation, it’s about protecting our youth from the manipulation and coercion that young people are so susceptible to whilst they haven’t reached full development.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:09 AM
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So 17 year olds are off limits because by law their not labeled adults, yet an 18 year old is perfectly acceptable? Do you honestly consider a 25 year old at the same level of development as an 18 year old? Despite the 18 year old having barely any experience in the real world, still technically a teen, and not legally allowed to drink in the US? 18 year olds have more in common with a 16 year old than a 25 year old. The age we legally become adults is just a legal term, we’re still going throug…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:01 AM
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I’d argue that the in the first 3-4 years after someone turns 18 that you undergo rapid development. A 18 year old is going to have a completely different level of maturity and life stages as opposed to a 21/22 year old. I don’t have a problem with a 40 year old man dating a woman around her mid 20’s. However, I would argue there’s a power imbalance if the woman was 18/19 because at that age your only just beginning to enter the real world and still highly susceptible to manipulation. Maturity i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 06:54 AM
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Extremely! I’m 22 and I’m much better at identifying red flags and asserting my needs in a relationship than I was at 18. I’m in a relationship now with someone who always respects me and treats me kindly. When I was 18 I ignored so many red flags, i allowed my partner to disrespect me and my life independent of him constantly. I would never tolerate the kind of treatment I did at 18 because I just wasn’t as mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 06:42 AM
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I have to roll my eyes at the “your just jealous” argument that men often pull out. I’m only 22 myself. I really don’t see the same energy given to all age gap couples if the woman is of a reasonable adult age. People aren’t criticising Jason statham (55) and Rosie Huntington Whiteley (33) like they are 34 year old Scott Disick and 19 year old Sofia Ritchie, or Aaron Taylor-Johnson meeting his 42 year old wife at 19. I’m sure there is different circumstances to every relationship and they don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:47 AM
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Exactly! He’s doing all these mental gymnastics… to justify why it’s okay to date an underage girl. Like do you realise how easy it is to just not date a teenager as an adult?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:06 AM
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Any mother would be equally furious with the situation. I can’t imagine me coming home with a 32 year old man at 19 and my mother not inciting the fear of death into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:48 AM
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I hate when people bring made up, insanely rare hyper specific circumstances into arguments. Can we just be fucking for real about the real life circumstances of what we’re actually discussing? It’s a waste of time to argue but what if xy and z were the case? Would it be okay then?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:45 AM
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I get the younger women are more attractive argument 100%. But you can’t convince me that that’s why a 32 year old man is dating an 18-19 year old. A 23-24 year old woman is just as attractive but is going to be miles ahead in terms of maturity and life stage. You go through such huge leaps of development in those early years of adulthood that a 23 year old woman is going to be so much less impressionable than a 19 year old. You can’t convince me that a guy dating a woman fresh out of high schoo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:38 AM
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A 45 year old man dating a 27 year old woman is a very different story to a 19 year old teen with a 32 year old man. Date women two decades younger by all means but for the love of god, 17-21 year old women are still developing and learning how to live in the real world. People are so impressionable at that age and can be easily manipulated by someone older. There’s definitely an unsavoury power dynamic when people in their late 20’s or early 30’s date in this age group.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:30 AM
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I understand having to protect oneself but it becomes an issue when people immediately assume the negative and close themselves off from someone who was potentially good. It’s also a self feeding cycle, when your closing yourself off and making yourself more and more alone it’s easier to accept negative ideas and black and white thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:48 AM
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It’s definitely enough to have a relationship with a woman but women are especially picky when it comes to a ons. So unless your especially attractive or going after women less attractive I wouldn’t expect huge success in this area.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:17 AM
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It definitely screams Andrew tate to me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:14 AM
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Yes by far, in my opinion sex only gets better the more connected you are with someone and the more we get to know each others bodies. It didn’t start with casual sex, we met through friends and he asked me out, by the second date we were already falling for each other and on the third we had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:11 AM
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I think maybe they think it does but I disagree. I saw a Twitter post the other day of a conversation a girl had with a guy where he asked her if she wanted to go out on a specific night, she said she was meeting friends that night, no rudeness in her reply. The guy replied something along the lines of “don’t waste my time, have fun being poor while I’m gonna drive a Bugatti”. He immediately assumed she was rejecting him, when she could’ve just honestly had something on that night and proceeded …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:07 AM
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A lot of my kind friends are in long term relationships. I do agree that girls in general are pickier who they’ll sleep with and date, but generally who they get in a relationship is pretty much of similar personality and attractiveness to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:56 AM
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This is similar to how women consider men attractive enough to be in a relationship . In general couples I see are generally of equal attractiveness since women are willing to date a guy as long as meets a minimum requirements of attractiveness if other qualities like personality, chemistry etc. personality definitely matters to women, it just doesn’t matter for a ons.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:51 AM
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I guess it’s important to remember that this is only the case because women are less likely to want a ons in general. So it’s only logical that if they were going to engage in one, the guy would have to be so physically attractive that it makes saying no feel stupid. Also when it comes to a ons all that really matters is physical attractiveness. Overall attractiveness isn’t purely reserved for looks. I find my bf very good looking but by far the thing I find most attractive about him is his pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:47 AM
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If I’m being honest there’s definitely a ceiling that people hit. This stuff can definitely improve looks but only to a limited extent. Especially when we’re talking about being especially attractive, generally that bracket is reserved for people born with ideal facial features and bone structure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:40 AM
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I agree there’s also the idea that when your in a relationship physical attractiveness isn’t the only thing that makes your partner attractive. Personality, emotional connection and how someone treats you in a relationship starts to play a big role in your sexual attraction to them. When it comes to a ons all that really matters is the physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:33 PM
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How about you just don’t discuss previous sexual experiences with your partner? I’ve been with my bf for almost a year and neither of us has asked about our previous sexual experiences because it would be disrespectful to each other, it’s also irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:25 AM
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It’s not really all that deep, you could even be more attractive than he was but she just met the ons in a different context like at a club instead of through friends. It’s not necessarily “rewarding” the other guy it’s just that the situation may have been more suited for a ons.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:20 AM
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As a woman who went to an all girls school I had a similar experience. I was such a nervous wreck at 18 whenever I had to talk to boys but I eventually made friends with a couple at university and it made dating so much easier. Not growing up with boys made me think they were some kind of mystery and I needed to be someone other than myself when I talked with them when really I just needed to be normal and actually talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:03 AM
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Nerdy does not equal ugly. One of my prettiest friends is also one of the nerdiest people I know. She’s studying engineering, likes anime and dislikes drinking and partying but is undeniably pretty. Nerdy is a personality trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:58 AM
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Well that was a huge leap! Are you sure your a STEM nerd? Did no one tell you that you need repeated results to draw a conclusion like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:51 AM
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The wage gap is on the basis of having the same job and level of education. Just because a woman earns a lot doesn’t mean the wage gap doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:47 AM
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Literally the same can be said about men, the less attractive “nice guys” aren’t actually as nice as they think will sometimes still treat them poorly and cheat on them etc, so might as well go for an attractive guy. I’m not gaslighting you that it’s much harder to get a date if your unattractive, that’s undeniable, I’m saying that not true that all women only go for “bad boys” plenty like nice sweet guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:13 AM
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I’ll spend $280 getting my hair dyed every three months but no way am I paying to get my haircut, I do it myself in the bathroom too haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:54 AM
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This is literally just the same as when girls complain all guys treat them badly but only go for douchebags. In reality, not all girls like “bad boys” you’re just overlooking the ones that don’t. Which is fine but don’t make sweeping statements that “women only go for bad boys who treat them badly” and that you need to change your whole personality, you’re just solely going for the ones that do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:52 AM
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Developing a hobby and joining a club is always going to increase chances of meeting someone by tenfold even if it’s a dorky one. In highschool there was this guy who wasn’t particularly good looking or anything special but he was the only straight guy in the drama club and was in the school musical’s/plays he had every girl in the drama club fighting over him and I don’t blame them it was probably nothing more attractive than a guy they could sing Hamilton with lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:45 AM
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You can get jacked, have all the tattoos you want and go to parties every weekend but if your a bitter jerk people will still dislike you, including women. I know a guy exactly like this, he thinks because he’s good looking and brags about how much he earns that women should be falling at his feet. About a month ago he was complaining that women’s expectations are too high I felt like screaming in his face that it wasn’t anything to do with something superficial he’s lacking, it’s because he put…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:39 AM
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A guy in STEM doesn’t have to be a nerd though. I know lots of guys who do engineering who have tattoos, party on weekends and are social butterflies. Being well educated doesn’t mean someone has a particular personality type.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:29 AM
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I’m honestly over guys saying this! All my friends who are actually kind girls like kind guys and have been in relationships with them. How come when women complain that there’s only bad guys the answer is always that it’s only the guys she goes for and that she didn’t give the nice guy a chance but when guys complain that girls are all shallow and only looking for bad boys the answer is never that he probably is overlooking nice girls and chasing shallow ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:26 AM
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I really don’t, it would only make sense if these attractive men never settled down but most of them do and they end up with similarly attractive women. There’s also the general rule that people end up with someone who they have things in common with often that means they’re of similar attractiveness and life experiences as them. Often guys that aren’t the most attractive and sexually experienced end up with women who aren’t the most attractive and sexually experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:20 AM
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Focusing on connecting with other men and discussing how to better themselves in non superficial ways (not just growing their income to buy a Bugatti to impress others etc). Instead of focusing their time on discussing women as some kind of monolith and slowly growing a chronically online take of women as always having the worst possible intentions, which never actually benefits them and only pulls them deeper into anger and misery. The manosphere and FDS remind me of how me and other unpopular …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:22 AM
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I’d say a majority of people have engaged in casual sex maybe once or twice in their lifetime but I wouldn’t necessarily categorise someone who’s engaged in it once or twice as promiscuous
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 02:14 AM
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Cause I’m only 22 lol my partner and I have talked about marriage but not until we’re older and have decent money for a wedding and to move in together etc
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 02:11 AM
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I’d much rather have sex with my partner because he knows how to make me orgasm every time. It’s more difficult to make women cum but not impossible by any means.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 09:24 AM
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A medical textbook doesn’t describe women’s sexual experience. Most women enjoy p in v, source? Literally every woman’s experience! Like explain the thriving dildo market.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 09:06 AM
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That’s a big leap to think you know how many dates she made every guy wait or even if she had sex with him. I dated a guy for 5 dates and didn’t have sex with him because it just never happened and we realised we were better as friends. I kissed a guy at a party when I was 17 and he told his friends we had sex even though I was still a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 03:48 AM
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That’s fair enough honestly, if you know she’s currently sleeping with a bunch of guys on the first date then it’s fine to not feel she’s relationship material. My thoughts are that how would you know that? It’s strange to assume that if a girl is making a guy wait for a proper connection before sex that she would suddenly be fine with sleeping with others on the first date. Generally people are pretty consistent with how open they are with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 03:35 AM
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That’s only a reasonable comparison if the woman who wants a relationship with the guy is never going to have sex with him. If a guy isn’t willing to wait three or four dates for sex then he was only in It for sex anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 03:18 AM
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No woman expects that from a first date though? If a guy is giving that outside of a committed relationship, it’s his own doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 03:12 AM
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Not having sex with a guy on the first date because you want to ensure you have a proper connection first is very much an intuitive response. If a guy is only in it for sex he won’t stick around and then you have your answer and didn’t get intimate with him when you had different ideas where it was going.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 03:10 AM
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I’m female, personally I’m split between A and B. All are important though, gift giving is probably least important in terms of it doesn’t need to be frequent for me to feel loved but it’s still nice when it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:19 AM
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Just cause you’re not married doesn’t mean there’s not commitment. If you’re exclusive with someone and living with them is that not commitment?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:16 AM
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This is a straight up ridiculous comparison. Mainly because if someone see’s something long term with you have plenty of time to have sex as many times as you want. Does it really matter if it’s on the third date and not the first.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:15 AM
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Ons are really not as common as men on this sub think.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:08 AM
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It definitely also depends on how a guy approaches. If a guy strikes up a conversation and at the end of it asks for my number I’m much more likely to than if a guy approached me on the street and straight up asked for my number without knowing the first thing about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:56 AM
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I’d argue a bar/club isn’t necessarily a cold approach since women who go to a bar/club expect to maybe be hit on a little. Approaching someone in public is annoying and I wouldn’t recommend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:54 AM
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Of course people are going to have an issue with this post, even if they don’t take part in casual sex., People don’t like being told what to do, especially if it’s self-righteous. There’s also the factor that women are disproportionately told that having casual sex (or even sex at all outside of marriage) devalues them while men are never told the same. Even though I don’t have casual sex and I agree our culture has confused women into believing casual sex is liberating when in reality it’s don…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:43 AM
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Personally, I scored lowest in gift giving. I don’t particularly express love through them or need them to feel love. However, my bf bought me flowers on our 5th date and every couple months buys me a red rose for no reason. My previous 2 boyfriends never bought me flowers or gifts outside of birthdays and Christmas. So it is really nice to receive them especially since I never asked him to. I think the thing that makes gift giving so special for certain people is receiving it for no reason othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:33 AM
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It never really comes up in my relationship. I’m not super interested in them but I do think they can help people understand each other under certain circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:33 AM
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I’d argue that red pill ideas aren’t being peddled to capitalise on an increasingly growing casual sex culture, looking at statistics casual sex isn’t actually growing. I’d argue it’s capitalising on men’s increasing social isolation due to the growth of social media, and their insecurity and resentment that comes from this. Young people have fewer friends than ever before and are more insecure than ever before with social media giving a warped view of what the average person looks like and thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:20 AM
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The majority of women know this and have already figured this out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:13 AM
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I’m sorry I completely read your comment wrong you were actually saying the same thing I was haha. Yes, I agree this sub is full of men who see a cartoonishly black and white version of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:11 AM
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Oh definitely, they’re just a means to pinpoint the ways people show love. Most people are more or less an even spread of all 5. I do think they give valuable insight into understanding your partners love language for example someone bringing their partner lunch can mean as much as another person saying “I love you”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:09 AM
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Not really, like It’s be like I’d make out with him after we had sex and he’d say he didn’t think he could go again, and I’d explain we didn’t have to have sex. Him wanting sex when I don’t isn’t a dynamic in our relationship unlike past boyfriends. We’re pretty physically in-sync we’ve been together almost 10 months and I can’t name one instance when one of us was in the mood and the other wasn’t. Why would you assume the worst in a relationship you know nothing about?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:04 AM
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From experience most of my female friends have had casual sex at least once, more than those who haven’t but almost all of them either regretted it or didn’t get much out of it. I had a ONS once to try it and felt like crap the next day and never did it again. Almost all my friends maybe only did it once or twice. I’m 22 and Most of my female friends have had around 1-6 sexual partners overall and most were ex-boyfriends or people they dated for a decent amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:58 AM
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I swear 90’s movies like American Pie etc created a false narrative that college girls are sleeping around and if you’re 16 and still a virgin you’re a loser. In reality, about half my friends lost their virginity at 17 and the other half in college. College girls aren’t sex crazed, they were actually super set on having a boyfriend and paired off pretty fast and had long term relationships. Even my friends who claimed they wanted to be single and have a hoe phase, secretly wanted a boyfriend bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:51 AM
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This completely ignores the majority of the population, those who don’t get married young but instead fall into 3-5 monogamous often long-term relationships In their 20’s before they marry. This aligns with statistics the average number of sexual partners is around 5 for women and 6 for men. This is how almost every now married millennial’s dating life played out. I don’t understand why a lot of PPD is so black and white with their views on sexual partners? Either women are virgins when they mar…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:42 AM
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Chads fall in love, settle down, get married and have families too, they’re human not emotionless sex machines lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:31 AM
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Yes, I’ve noticed people end up with someone of similar attractiveness, life experience and values. So if an attractive woman had fun in her college days, she’d likely end up with an attractive guy who also slept around during college. In real life I’ve never seen examples of AF/BB play out. An attractive woman with an outgoing personality and open minded view of sex isn’t going to end up with a virgin who they both have nothing in common with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:29 AM
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I think you’re right, a lot of men’s love language is physical touch because unlike female friendships men don’t compliment each other and tell their friends they love them like women do, so words of affirmation don’t always come naturally. Instead they show love through acts of service to each other. However, the defining factor of romantic relationships for men is physical touch, whereas women hug each other and are in general more comfortable with expressing love to their friends and family t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:24 AM
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Don’t compromise on this to keep him, he’s basically asking for a license to cheat. It will only build resentment in you and if he is this unwilling to compromise and has expectations of you that are this high concerning fidelity, it’s likely he has other things that he’s not going to compromise on for you. I know you love him and it can be very hard to let someone you love go, but if he loves you as much as you love him he’d compromise on this. You’re only 21, you don’t need to rush into marria…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:15 AM
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It sounds like you’re not okay with having an open relationship but are okay with sleeping with other people together. That’s fair boundaries that you shouldn’t have to compromise on. You’re not a liar for realising you’re not comfortable with him sleeping with other women without you present, there’s also the unfairness that he doesn’t allow you to also sleep with other people which is only fair. I think you should leave him if he doesn’t respect these boundaries, if he values you more than bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:09 AM
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It’s so miserable to have the time and effort to judge a relationship from outside of it. It has zero impact on you. You are obviously jealous in the first place since otherwise, why care? Why are you that miserable? I don’t even mean that with hate or judgement, I’ve been there. Now I’m in a happy relationship, it’s obvious. You need a hobby and you’re unhappy with your love life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:44 AM
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1.Lmao women are proven to be slightly more monogamous than men so what are you getting at? If the duration of an ejaculation were the case then they wouldn’t have the timeframe to tell others they were happy in their relationship??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:41 AM
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Why are you pretending that looking from the outside of a relationship you somehow know someone’s partner better than them despite knowing the absolute bare minimum. At the end of the day if someone is happy in a relationship, that’s the most you can ask for in a relationship, they’ve won.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:56 AM
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How is the delusion and pretending not coming from the other side here? If someone is happy in a relationship and you’re miserable judging from the outside that by their logic they should actually be unhappy, who is the real loser here?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:53 AM
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Exactly, it’s all very subjective but if someone is happy, they won
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:52 AM
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When it comes to romantic relationships the goal is to be happy in your relationship. It’s subjective but at the end of the day whatever makes an individual happy is “amazing”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:51 AM
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This idea just stems from a deeply emotional place. I’m sure that the amazing man she married also had his fun in his 20’s. Men who don’t have a lot of success with women take comfort in the idea that women who are attractive and desirable that they can’t sleep with will one day have trouble getting a husband. The reality is the men that they end up marrying likely don’t care about their past because 1. They had their fun too and 2. They aren’t as threatened by the idea of them sleeping with oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:48 AM
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I do think that Bezos is an odd dude but from just from interviews I do get the feeling he’d be easier to have a conversation with than Zuckerberg or Elon Musk. Also I’m not sticking up for her or anything, I think she’s the kind of person who brings drama with them wherever they go, I’m just pointing out why Bezos is with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:41 AM
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My cousin is a documentary film maker and has had a couple successful documentaries for example one about Chelsea Manning. He gets to sometimes rub shoulders with big names and Lauren Sanchez was one of them. He said after meeting her he wasn’t surprised that she was with Jeff Bezos. He said she’s very smart, charismatic and charming, the sort of person that can make you feel special and is actually fully present in a conversation, makes you feel like they’re really listening and interested. I g…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:11 AM
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I met my current boyfriend through mutual friends when we were both invited to a bar for drinks that the mutual friend organised. When I come to think of it, I met my other previous two bf’s through mutual friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:16 AM
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They do have a point though, what someone qualifies as a decent earning would vary greatly depending on where someone lives and their social class etc. There is no universal standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:12 AM
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Same can be said of Jeff Bezos cheating, it’s likely a big contributor as to why his ex-wife got so much in the divorce. I think people cheating or who we fall for is devoid of logic. I think it’s probably part of what makes it exciting is that they know it’s the wrong thing to do and their lives are probably missing passion etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:09 AM
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Simply opening up with me about their hopes, dreams their anxieties their family situation and how they feel about it. Basically allowing them to get to know you to your core.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:12 AM
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Asking men on this sub what’s important in a relationship is like asking business advice from someone who’s not only never run a business but never had a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:10 AM
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This sounds like an employee contract rather than a relationship 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:06 AM
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Tom and Zendaya vibes haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:05 AM
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I agree rather than taking away women’s contraception rights, giving men more rights against having to raise children they don’t want is entirely a more logical option. It’s become obvious that non-religious men who are revelling in the rode vs wade decision just enjoy the idea of women having less rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:06 AM
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I’m going to be honest you sound like a man who doesn’t have sex and blames all women and therefore enjoy the idea of women having less rights. You aren’t someone who’s actually rationally arguing how access to abortion is not beneficial to men or society as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:03 AM
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“Men who weren't likely to have an accident will probably benefit from women having to think a little bit more about sleeping with the guys that weren’t likely to have an accident.” How on earth does this actually benefit men (and woman for that matter) who are more cautious? I want you to actually answer that question. This implies the contraceptive responsibility falls entirely onto women and ignores that pregnancies can happen even when women take the contraception.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:54 AM
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Women become more responsible with more access to education and financial freedom. Often the most responsible choice IS an abortion when they’re still in highschool/college how are they supposed to have the finances to finish their education and raise a child? That’s placing a large deal of the contraceptive responsibility on the woman. Men don’t have to bear the responsibility of contraceptive pills, implants etc. The pill I take is 99% effective and costs me $85, it has weird side effects, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:46 AM
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Agreed. I sometimes look at old patriarchal practices and think how much that actually made most men quite a great deal less happy and restricted too. We should move forward as a society and find innovative solutions to problems rather than regressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:32 AM
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I understand it’s not men’s decision but taking away the option does hurt couples who generally have the same life goals and values. Having men be able to opt out of financial responsibility of a child if a woman wants to have the baby and the man doesn’t is a much better solution for both parties, would you agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:26 AM
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Agreed! So much of expenses and income varies with location. In Sydney, where I live, the average house costs about $1-2 million, our housing market is insane. My parents house is worth over 5.5mil, they paid about 500k 20 years ago and happened to get lucky with location. The house is by no means a mansion, it’s just a 4 bedroom family home. When I hear people in the US can buy a decent property for around 700k I was really surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:21 AM
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In my opinion (based on studies I’ve read) abusive relationships and the partners people not only settle for but actively seek out are often their parents relationships or the relationships that have been modelled to them in early childhood. Not only thinking they deserve this type of love but because we subconsciously seek what’s familiar to us. I’ve also seen studies that men will behave and treat their partners in the same ways as their fathers. It’s what makes the cycle of abuse so hard to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:48 AM
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It’s not a coincidence that any country where this is still practiced is an impoverished third-world country. Idk why you’d actually prefer this style of arranged marriage over marrying for love. Where’d you get this idea that all fathers are somehow experts at matchmaking? My father disliked my previous boyfriend simply because he was always around and he had to make small talk with him lol. Psychologically, women are already likely to choose partners with similar characteristics as their fathe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 11:18 PM
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I don’t necessarily see how online dating is a factor in making men less social. I do however agree that online dating is not designed for actually connecting people to build longterm intimate relationships. As a woman who used to be on these apps, I can say women definitely have a much easier time receiving matches and attention on these apps than men. Despite the initial rush I had from realising I was actually desirable when I joined these apps at 18, it was quickly replaced by the reality th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:54 PM
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This implies in the past fathers choices for their daughters husbands were all upstanding gentlemen who never beat their wives, drank excessively, gambled, neglected their children etc. We know this is not true since prohibition was largely motivated by women seeking safety from their abusive, alcoholic husbands. “bad boys/thugs/dead-beats” may look different from how they appear today but fathers still bethroved their daughters to abusive men. Marriage originated not from love but for practical…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:48 PM
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I kinda feel sorry for her she obviously has an overbearing mother and has lost the ability to think for herself. Fuck that mum
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:51 AM
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“Whoever asks pays and plans” Jfc how long were you with this woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:50 AM
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I feel like (some) men don’t realise or appreciate how much of their social life is orchestrated by their wives. I feel like older men aren’t as socially inclined and I’ve seen men become completely isolated if they’re divorced. Keeping up with friends and aquatiances is a chore that often men don’t realise
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:44 AM
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I feel like this is a clear sign of incompatibility and probably shouldn’t have lead to marriage though?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:39 AM
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Sounds like an overbearing mother, would’ve been a nightmare. I have a friend who’s dating this girl who is 21 and lives at home but he can’t go to her house cause she not allowed boys over, meanwhile they’ve been together for 8 months. At a certain point it’s just weird imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:36 AM
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That’s definitely not normal, unless ur date was underage! Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:33 AM
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My bf planned maybe the first two dates cause he was the one who asked me out but once we were official it was 50/50 planning paying etc. also we don’t really “plan” dates we typically spend our weekends together and do nothing or whatever we feel like or sleepover at each other places on weekdays. I feel like if you’re courting/planning dates for over maybe 5 then it’s not going anywhere. The planning dates stage shouldn’t last too long imo you should become a stage where you feel comfortable w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:31 AM
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