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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2906	Cold approach from a girl's perspective	Fundamentals	slightlycloseted	/r/seduction	25/06/20 09:17 PM
1	Sure, because getting his dick wet is one hundred percent more important than his own child's mental health. Smh, the lowest of lows	ROAST-A-SCROTE	slightlycloseted	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/06/21 02:16 PM

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1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective "I don't care if you're (un)comfortable" "I'm not a creep" Dude, it's either, or	/r/seduction	18/01/22 09:20 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Have you really called any of "bullshit" out though? Not once have I advised in my post not to approach women at all. Not once have I said "all women dislike being approached". On the contrary. I explicitly said that I'm speaking from my own perspective and you should consider that my experience may not be shared by everyone woman out there, BUT have you read comments that women left in response to this post? Have you seen how many of us feel about some of the approaches? So maybe consider not c…	/r/seduction	30/06/20 07:20 AM
0	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I wonder, why is being friends with a woman such a tragic thing? What if she's a great friend to have? What if one day she introduces you to one of her female friends that you'll like? Is sex really the only thing you think women are good for?	/r/seduction	27/06/20 07:36 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I used to have hard times with making conversations with strangers back in middle school. What helped me was ditching generic lines and instead picking up on our surroundings or things we have in common. Think of it this way: you approach her with a "How are you?", she probably will respond shortly with something like "Fine", and the ball's in your court again. So if you have nothing interesting to say, the conversation's dead. But what if you approached her with something interesting in the fir…	/r/seduction	27/06/20 07:34 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Okay, so it was pretty unclear in the original post but I gave an example in one of the previous comments, so I'll quote it here. I will describe the successful approach at the supermarket that I experienced last year. I was in the dairy aisle and this boy walks up to me and says "hi, I'm making this dish today and I have no idea which cheese would be the best fit, do you have any recommendations?". I said that I've never had this particular dish and I could not really tell because I might ruin …	/r/seduction	27/06/20 07:28 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Maybe that's the thing. Thinking a woman's the "love of your life" just because she's attractive? You're putting this enormous pressure on yourself and on your possible encounter. Be chill about it, don't approach someone with hopes of them being "the one" as you probably know nothing about them. If you choose the woman just because you think she's pretty, think of her with this mindset. "She's pretty, but she's not the only attractive woman on earth, so I will not die if I don't approach her or…	/r/seduction	27/06/20 07:18 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Why are you worried about being friends though? What is so bad with being friends with a woman? "Friendzone" is viewed as some hellish "place" to be in. But isn't establishing a friendship with a girl or with any person whatsoever a nice thing? Even if things won't work out with this particular woman, she might introduce you to some other girl she knows or whatever, and this might be it for you. Don't limit your relationships with women only to romantic ones :)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 07:10 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective A thousand times yes :)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 07:05 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Got to admit, I chuckled at this one ;)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 07:05 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Probably, but I wrote it for people that might not be aware of those things :) So hopefully they'll get to know it deep down, too.	/r/seduction	27/06/20 06:54 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Thank you for your comment! It warms my heart, seeing positive and supporting comments from so many women :)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 06:52 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I'll keep my fingers crossed for you :)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 06:50 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective When you do, please let me know how it went :) I wish you the best of luck!	/r/seduction	27/06/20 06:48 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Oh no, I didn't mean to make you think that you shouldn't approach women at all! That's absolutely not true and like you said, it would only result with people not ever meeting new people. There is nothing wrong in approaching a girl if you take some variables into consideration or, to make things simpler, if you empathize with her. Think about how she might feel when you approach her. Would she be startled or uneasy or stopped from doing something rather important? And I do realize that it's on…	/r/seduction	27/06/20 06:46 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective That's so sweet. Thank you and I wish you the best too!	/r/seduction	27/06/20 06:27 PM
0	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I love them, to be honest. BUT used as a joke or an icebreaker, like you stated. Although you'd need to be careful and I'd say it's better to say something along the lines "Hey, so I was told I've got the worst pickup lines. I was wondering what you'd rate them?", so you're preparing her for what's about to happen and you're already communicating that it's only a joke. Worked on me.	/r/seduction	27/06/20 06:26 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Caught red-handed.	/r/seduction	27/06/20 06:20 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Isn't this sub meant to help men successfully approach/seduce women? And yet you're portraying women giving you feedback as villains. How have we hurt you so badly with our polite comments?	/r/seduction	27/06/20 06:20 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I'm glad you liked it! :)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 01:33 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Haha, not really, no ;)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 01:32 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Hey, so I wrote this in a previous comment but I'll paste it here, so it's more convenient. I'd say don't tell her she's pretty so early on. Be more playful. And think about it this way: your attention's already a compliment itself, isn't it? I will describe the successful approach at the supermarket that I experienced last year. I was in the dairy aisle and this boy walks up to me and says "hi, I'm making this dish today and I have no idea which cheese would be the best fit, do you have any rec…	/r/seduction	27/06/20 01:31 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I want to make things clear. I have my reasons to say this. I once politely declined a man only to have him yell hurtful things at me publicly and I was barely 16. Since then I'd rather tell a lie than risk hurting a guy's feeling and have him lash out on me and make me doubt myself yet again. So saying "I have a boyfriend" is almost like telling him it's not his fault that I'm not into him. It's like... I'm taking the blame so there's no reason for him to get angry. My response is not meant to …	/r/seduction	27/06/20 01:24 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I'm glad you liked it :) I didn't want to discourage any men from approaching women. I just wanted to help them see why some of their approaches might get turned down.	/r/seduction	27/06/20 01:18 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Yes, I agree whole heartedly :)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 01:16 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I wonder why do you think that a guy's appearance would erase him making me uncomfortable? If an attractive man stopped me on my way somewhere to tell me that I'm pretty, I would still think that he was "desperate" enough to approach me when the circumstances obviously are not favorable. On the other hand, if the same man approached me when I'm not rushing anywhere and started an actual conversation, rather than stating his opinion about my appearance, I might be into it, but it has to do with h…	/r/seduction	27/06/20 01:13 PM
1	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Yeah, I guess I made a shorthand there. What I meant was: don't tell me you find me attractive in the first words. Use this time to tell me something new, to spark my interest. When you tell me "hey, I think you're pretty" you're stating a fact to me and the only response to that I can come up with is "thank you". Do you find this an interesting conversation? On the other hand, if you ask me a question or tell me something referring to our surroundings or whatever, you're 1) giving me a chance t…	/r/seduction	27/06/20 12:49 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Thank you, glad you liked it :)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 12:26 PM
3	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Hey! Yes, in my case there's a backstory to this repeated lie. The first time I was ever approached by a guy was when I was 16 and at a bus stop. This older guy comes up to me and says something along the lines of "hey pretty, what are you doing here?" which already sounded off to me. I mean, me standing at a bus stop might make you suspect that I'm, in fact, waiting for the bus. Anyway, that's what I told him (only the latter part) and he laughed, told me he'd like to talk to me more because I'…	/r/seduction	27/06/20 12:25 PM
5	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Tbh the "I'm totally holding you up" would do it for me. You're acknowledging this possibility/fact and you're giving me a chance to say "Yes, sorry, got to go" without interrupting you or coming off as impolite. And I appreciate it. It makes you seem kind and thoughtful. Also "good" or "interesting" is a far more neutral comment, somehow feels more natural and straightforward. Not desperate? Have you noted what places you were approaching those women? What time of day? I'm curious whether your …	/r/seduction	27/06/20 12:07 PM
5	Cold approach from a girl's perspective That is exactly what I was trying to communicate! I've read through most of the comments in this thread and some of them come from men stating that it's a woman's problem if she's not comfortable with them approaching her, and asking how else are they supposed to get to know her. And I feel like that's the problem exactly. Them assuming that they have the right to "get to know" a woman but never really asking themselves if she looks like she's open to meeting a stranger in this particular moment…	/r/seduction	27/06/20 11:27 AM
3	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I realize that my post may come off as one sided. Which it probably is... But what I'm really trying to say is when you approach a woman, you only have one chance to make a first impression. If you choose to approach her, then this action already sends the message - you chose her for a reason and since you don't know her (let's assume that), you obviously chose her because of some physical aspect. Whether it's her face, her hair, her clothes, her movement - whatever. So when your opening line's …	/r/seduction	27/06/20 11:08 AM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective But isn't that counterintuitive? I admit, I have never considered cold approaching not being about women and I still don't fully understand it. Men are going through all that stress, anxiety and fear of rejection for themselves? Also, with this post I am literally asking you to empathize with us and respecting that sometimes your approaches may make a woman uncomfortable. And, before anyone mentions it, this has nothing to do with physical appearance! It's just about the circumstances and the wo…	/r/seduction	27/06/20 10:38 AM
4	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I love it, truly. So basically the best advice would be to just have some empathy and consideration for someone else's feelings and mental comfort, rather than just deciding that you want to meet them and they have to deal with it. But you've opened my eyes to men's perspective as well. I've never really thought about it before, I've never considered society's expectations and stereotypes regarding said manhood. So thank you for that :)	/r/seduction	27/06/20 10:31 AM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Well thank you! + It says "And what if you had a bag with the inscription beginning with an a?" but I really feel like it sounds much better in my language. My faculty makes these bags once a year (and the inscription chnages every time) and each student gets one, so it's kind of a hallmark of students from my course in my city.	/r/seduction	27/06/20 10:08 AM
5	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Thank you for these words. You made me think about this even more with this part: Women know your approach is not about them. [...] Women telling you that they don't want you to approach them isn't about you. It's about them, their safety and their convenience. You evidently don't care about them, so why should they care about you. Maybe that's exactly where all this conflict coming from...	/r/seduction	26/06/20 09:48 PM
23	Cold approach from a girl's perspective You're assuming I find Brad Pitt attractive. What if I don't? :) He's literally a decade older than my father. Let's assume though that a guy I am attracted to approaches me with that line. My reaction depends on multiple things. Where is this taking place? When? Are we surrounded by other people or are we alone? What's his vibe? What am I doing? How am I feeling? I'll paint to extreme situations for you, so just keep in mind that those are polar opposites and with this many variables there are …	/r/seduction	26/06/20 09:37 PM
6	Cold approach from a girl's perspective What exactly would make me a hypocrite?	/r/seduction	26/06/20 08:56 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Moreover, sex is the only thing they are interested in - they don't even want to talk to her or have fun together. This is what makes you unattractive rather than your sexual attraction itself. THIS. You actually wanting to talk to me, have a good time together, get to know each other and then deciding what to make of it - that's what makes me want to talk to you. If a guy's only looking for easy sex, why not use Tinder for that? Isn't cold approaching too much effort (and stress) for that? And …	/r/seduction	26/06/20 08:54 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Yes, for sure. I'm definitely not representing all women worldwide. I'm a white, 20 yrs old European woman and that alone makes me not relatable to all women out there. My post most definitely is not meant to tell men not to ever approach any girls. What it is meant to be, however, is a feedback on those approaches that were not successful. If what I wrote doesn't apply to you and you've had success approaching women with a "I find you pretty" as your opening line, then who am I to tell you that…	/r/seduction	26/06/20 08:36 PM
7	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I wonder what my age has to do with my experience and thoughts and feelings being relevant. How old do I have to be for you to respect what I'm saying? I told you what makes me uncomfortable/uninterested and you're telling me I "don't know shit about shit". Have you even taken into consideration if I'm attracted to "Jason Mamoa"? You're making an assumption based on your preferences and you think you know how I'd react to this particular man. If a guy I find physically attractive approaches me, …	/r/seduction	26/06/20 05:32 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective True, I obviously don't represent the entire female population. It's just an insight to take into consideration if your cold approaches get turned down too often. Maybe it'll inspire guys to try different things out and they'll be more successful this way? Who knows.	/r/seduction	26/06/20 05:18 PM
11	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I am literally telling you what I find attractive and you're saying "it's laughable". It's not for me and it's not for quite some women who commented on this post. And, like I said in a comment below, I'm not telling you to run away. I'm only saying if a compliment is the only thing that comes to your mind when approaching a woman, then what response exactly are you expecting? She'll thank you and then the conversation's back in your hands. You'll have to say something to spark her interest anyw…	/r/seduction	26/06/20 05:16 PM
4	Cold approach from a girl's perspective I think if the only thing you have to say to her is "you're pretty" then giving your number and leaving is fine. BUT I'm really not telling you to push it into her hand and run for your life. You say that with confidence, you hand the note over to her and she probably will say something. If it's only a "thank you" (with no follow up), then she's rather not interested in making a conversation right now. But she might as well continue your interaction, maybe ask for your name or something, and tha…	/r/seduction	26/06/20 05:07 PM
5	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Thank you for the kind comment :) I think I may have written that part a little chaotically. What I meant is, you can cold approach women and it's not the fact of approaching that makes some of them uncomfortable. It's the words you say as an opening, the situation it's happening in and your general energy. It's kind of like... when you greet me with a "hi, you're pretty", my mind goes straight to "okay, so he'll probably ask for my number or ask me out" and I have a split second to decide wheth…	/r/seduction	26/06/20 04:52 PM
2	Cold approach from a girl's perspective “Hey, I saw you walking and I really think you’re beautiful. I’m on my way to work but would you be open to exchanging numbers?” What I'd suggest is just giving her yours. Asking a woman if she's open to exchanging numbers only gives her two options: either giving her private information to a stranger or declining him. Both of these options are not perfect; even if she finds you attractive, she doesn't know anything about you. You could be cute and all, but a stalker as well (that's just an exam…	/r/seduction	26/06/20 11:10 AM
9	Cold approach from a girl's perspective Yes, that is exactly what I meant with this post! If a guy approaches me like that I'll probably be at least a bit interested in him, simply because he'd come off as confident enough. No lingering and forced conversation means he's chill and not desperate, and that's already giving him points. Even if our interaction won't lead to anything other than expanding our social circles. It's almost as if he said "Hey, I find you attractive and I'm open to getting to know each other. If you're intereste…	/r/seduction	26/06/20 10:49 AM