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If there aren’t kids involved and if yall could split assets amicably, then you guys could split up with ease.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 07:25 PM
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Sorry this is happening. Just embrace the pain, sadness, anger or whatever else you feel right now. It’s ok to grieve for the loss of this relationship. But eventually you’ll get back up again and move forward. I think it may be easier if there’s no shared children. But regardless there’ll be a time when all you’ll have is to focus on yourself. Protect your peace and assets, make sure to separate bank accounts and bills etc. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 12:49 AM
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Sorry this is happening. Same stuff is happening to me now. It's like a slow death the closer the day they'll move. We had 50/50, coparented fine with 225 parenting schedule for about 6 years no issues. When just this February she asked/told me her job giving her opportunity to move to TX to grow the mortgage company. I of course did not consent. Our 11 yr old and 9 yr old were born and raised here in CA, all our support system are here, their friends are here and ultimately the kids did not wan…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 08:34 PM
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Sorry this is happening. But once she’s checked out she’s checked out. Doesn’t matter if she’s military or civilian. My ex was in Navy and now Navy Reserves while I was stay at home parent. She caught feelings for another Navy personnel. Navy service members are away from their spouses and family months at a time, while they’re with people going through what they’re going through during training and deployment. Regardless, a cheater will always be a cheater. Protect your assets and children. Bui…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 04:10 PM
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I'm on the other side of the military marriage that went bad. She was in the Navy and her always coming home late, having extra watch or training, it all adds up now, that she was likely buiding a relationship with her ship mate or another Navy personnel. She didn't even last through her first deployment because when she came back, things just felt different and off. Anyway, she had an upcoming training again and I had her phone text message forwarded to my kid's iPad and location sharing on. As…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 07:14 AM
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Exposed her cheating ways end of 2018, covid years, divorce finalize February 2021.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 07:42 PM
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I swear once we’re finally getting some peace, they pop out of no where trying to disturb us. Anyway, just as long you’re caught up with court ordered payments, anything else is excess and not obligated.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 12:46 AM
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She should be paying child support since you're the one with the children correct? How old are the children? In the parenting time order, it should be a no contact stimulation during parenting time unless it's emergency. Just keep receipts of what's she's doing and done that's not good for the child, and maybe then she could be completely cut off
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 03:35 AM
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Once you're checked out of the relationship, you're checked out. Counseling and therapy may just prolong the inevitable. If you really can't fix what you built, then go ahead and abandoned it. So she'll have time to rebuild and give what she had to offer to someone else who deserves it more. I treated my ex like the second fiddle, I too had my eyes on someone else. I think she knew this, so that's why she did what she could to try to change my mind. I don't think it was a healthy relationship si…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 08:09 AM
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Goals. Do you king. Only gap you should worry about is between them cheeks. So get clapping. Protect your assets and well being though.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 06:18 AM
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I had a similar situation where I wasn’t in love with the ex, it was more of a marriage for convenience. She did everything and anything for me. And I wasn’t as appreciative as I should have been. Karma bit back when she had the affairs. Was more sad because she decided to do that after having our second child and I was deep in the role of a great stay at home parent. Years past, and after coparenting well and me building myself up and finances from ground up, she’s now granted by crooked judge …
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 06:11 AM
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Sounds like she checked out of the relationship. If things could continue to be amicable during separation and ultimately divorce, just make sure everything is split up evenly and have it in writing. It's just wild how could they just check out like that but who knows what's going on in their head. How old are the children? Hopefully ya'll could work out a parenting plan that revolves around them. It really sounds like you guys could separate without costly court sessions and lawyer fees and suc…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 09:18 PM
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Congrats. But are you free, free, like no shared children? It is time to rebuild thy self and get better.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 12:57 AM
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During the time when I already caught her cheating, I asked if she brought the kids over his place. Kids were only like 3 and 1. She ultimately admitted yes and yes my blood was boiling as well. So much so I demanded her to show me where he lived, since it was just right there, but I already knew where the area was but I wanted to see if she would tell the truth. She told the truth and took me to the correct location. I knew then, our marriage was really over. Wish I acted different during that …
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 12:53 AM
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Yes. I have Steam accounts for them and I even have a roblox account and we usually message each tower there when I’m at work, I remind them it’s time to brush teeth and stuff lol My son uses my Xbox account while here and he has one at mom. Really gonna miss seeing them at the usual times though. But I’m still here and will continue to build with them regardless
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 04:00 PM
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Thanks for writing this. The Judge approved her relocating from CA to TX and take our 9yr daughter and 11yr old son. Even after the Mediator sided with me and recommended the kids to stay in our community and recommended me to be the primary. How old are your kids now? When the ex told me about the move, she told me I could also consider in moving. I have leukemia but Medi-Cal covers all my expenses and it's keeping me going. I want to move to where my kids are at but I just need to get my finan…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 05:40 AM
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Hang in there. Hopefully you'll get 50/50 of something like Legal custody. I just had Court today, and the Ex wanted to move from CA to TX for a job and take kids with her and Judge granted it even though the Mediator sided with me. It really sucks. But at least I will still have 50/50 Legal custody. Hopefully your ex doesn't move away too far from you. Now I'll only see my kids during vacations and most holidays. Current order for us was 2-2-5. It's just sad but we just gotta pick up the pieces…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 01:19 AM
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Do you guys share children? If not, her using your last name is kinda weird.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 05:47 PM
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Focus on your child and yourself, that’s it!
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 11:08 PM
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I didn’t leave because she was the breadwinner, I was under her health insurance battling illness and I was the stay at home parent. After the divorce and years later, I realized I would’ve been fine without her and her benefits.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 04:59 PM
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For my situation, I know for sure she asked her girl cousin which told her to leave but ex didn't want to at the time, and I suspect her girl friends and female coworkers encouraged her cheating behavior. She was taking advice from unmarried females, a childhood friend that has 2 baby daddies, and her cousin who looks miserable just popping out babies until they get a baby girl. While those outside forces swayed her decision, the destruction of a family dynamic is ultimately on her. Recently I b…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 07:52 PM
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Was Active Navy, didn’t even survive the first deployment without cheating lol But now she’s Navy Reserves while main employment is in Mortgage Loan/Real Estate.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:42 PM
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My ex was the breadwinner while I was the stay at home parent for 2 children trying to recover for an illness. With money I’ve saved and help from fam and a friend, I hired a lawyer while she represented herself. Was married for 14 years. And she ended up paying for child support but no alimony. Based on the child support amount, I was able to get a place close by so we could do the 50/50 custody. A year or so later, she “lost income” because she got out of her job, so the child support became l…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 12:47 AM
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Same thing happened to me. Get lawyer. Get no less than 50/50. For me, I was also the stay at home parent, she was the higher income. So she was the one to pay child support. Keep all the receipts, texts, proof you took child to doctors and such, list down all the teachers names, to prove you are involved and providing what the child needs. Do not discuss any of this to your soon to be ex. Should only communicate in text or email, so you could save proof. Sorry this is happening. Make sure to st…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 08:34 PM
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If the ex was friends with your family or friends, and there's divorce, it doesn't mean their friendship has to end too. I have a friend whose ex still hung out with his sister and girl cousins. He expressed that it was weird but just brushed it off like nothing though. For my situation, my ex's cousins invited me to their holiday party, I think it was still during the beginning stages of our divorce, and she was so mad. Also when her mom texted me before about cutting my son's bangs too short a…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 03:57 PM
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How old is your son? I remember with my daughter, she went back and forth in the beginning from wanting Daddy to wanting Mommy, she's was like 2 at the time. Daughter is 9 now and Son is 11, and they prefer me. If the divorce is only a couple months old, I don't think that's right having the child living in with the new boyfriend. Do you guys have 50/50? Oh wait, you guys haven't divorced yet. Yeah, that's not right, I don't think Judges favor having children move in so quickly with a boyfriend,…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 03:29 AM
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Do you live alone right now? Paying your own rent or mortgage alone right now? Have your own car and paying your own bills? If so, congrats, keep doing you king! If not, there benefits to a marriage, financial, emotional, spiritual, meaningful sexual benefits. Just because someone is married, doesn't mean they can't hit the gym, be financially stable, be healthy and happy, etc. Imagine the emptiness feeling even after knocking down 6-9s with daddy issues even single moms. That's a recipe for dis…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 04:43 PM
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Sorry this is happening. Same thing happened to me. She was the higher income and I was the stay at home parent, out of work due to illness at the time. Even though she was that filed, I was able to get my children Child Support. That's because I was the stay at home parent and she's the higher income. We also had a dog, she's the one that got him and eventually he grew on me. Sadly when I moved on my own, I wasn't able to move doggy with me. Luckily my in laws gave him a home and spoiled him. H…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 08:22 AM
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What do you think she will do if you brought up divorce? Is she vindictive and try to mess you up financially somehow? I mean she does make more money. So when you sell the house, hopefully you'll get most of it. Maybe you'll get spousal support for a bit since she is the higher income. Glad there are no kids, not sure if Courts really care for pets. Again, how do you think she'll act if you Serve her Papers? Since she's cheating, you should make the first move. Consult lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 08:03 AM
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Depending if you paid for the cruise already, which family member are going and if you're in a good relationship with them, and if you have any kids, I think you should go and just try to enjoy yourself or make it memorable with your children. Whether it's a cruise or the holidays, it could get awkward but you're there for the other people that you're still good with. Now if you don't have children, refund your ticket and use that fund for a lawyer. And if you're petty, have her Served while on …
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 03:50 PM
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Do you guys share a phone plan together? Could view the lists of who’ve been texting/calling her. Could also act smooth and nonchalant and see if you could get her phone, maybe tell her you want to take a picture of something and compare with the quality of your own phone, but in reality you could scroll down her messages or whatever. If she has iPhone you could somehow forward her text to another device, that’s how I inadvertently found out about her infidelity lol Man it was really unexpected …
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 06:58 AM
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Unless there’s a threesome involved, you gotta keep your women separated.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 05:24 PM
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I forgot and I forgot where I stored it. Was thinking about selling it but I can't find it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 03:14 AM
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Don’t look back anymore
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:11 PM
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Just know, she will never be happy. Just focus and putting that energy towards being the best dad to your children. My situation was a mess also, where I read the texts, I texted the other guy my thoughts, found out about and contacted his wife now ex on social media lol, and till this day I haven't seen him in person because I told him in the text it will be on sight. I know he's shook. In reality, or now, I'm not going to do anything dumb as I continue to live life and have moved forward. I ha…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 08:42 AM
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My ex father in law started living with his side piece, I believe he was paying for the apartment. He was getting milked by the side chick though. And my ex caught him by falling him. After that , he decided to just stay with his wife because it’s cheaper to be together than separately. They’re in their 60s or 70s I think. Now they’re traveling together and stuff like nothing happened. Good for them
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 05:47 AM
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Should ask lawyer first. But in this situation, you should give her majority custody and child support, so you could be free. But if you want to be really involved, 50/50 is the way. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 12:40 AM
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Good on you for sticking by his side. That chick really sounds like a gaslighting narcissist that isolated him from family and friends. Glad there was enough space for him to finally get free. She doesn’t want to work things out, she just wants him back to get the control back. Enough! Hope she gets hit with restraining order or something. Good luck to you guys!
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 09:17 PM
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My ex was the bread winner and I received 50/50 with child support for our 2 kids but no alimony. I did find a good lawyer who had payment plan options, while she represented herself. A year or so later, she suddenly became injure or had disability so she got out of the Navy and became a Reserves, so her income got lower and she lowered the child support. That's fine. A couple years after that, she's now trying to relocate kids from CA to TX since her current real state job wants her to help the…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 05:52 AM
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When we have true feelings for someone and when we split up, it could be hard to let the feelings and emotions for that person go. But we must let it all go, they're not that same person we married any more. I feel you on having continued contact because of children, how it's annoying and frustrating. But in reality, it is not about her anymore, it is about the children now. To protect the kids, them having a relationship to both parent equally is healthier for them in the long run. She will nev…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 04:24 PM
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The court will likely look at both of your incomes and base their decisions on that. Just be ready for whatever. I remember I didn't have much money nor income at the time but with help from family, a friend, and some savings, and finding a good lawyer with a payment plan, I was able to get her paying Child Support. I'm not sure if she faked an injury or disability, because a year or two later, she asked the court to lower the Child Support because of loss of her income lol And now she's trying …
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 09:40 AM
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The kids are with me this weekend, so I texted her to see if she'll pick them up for brunch or anything. But she replied that she'll celebrate Mother's Day whenever her Mom comes in town, so maybe next weekend. But naw, I stopped greeting her when we divorced. Especially when I think back, when we found out the sex of our daughter, she was so disappointed the tests said we're having a girl. In my head I was WTF while I was trying to comfort her by saying it's a blessing and such to have a daught…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 05:41 AM
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Only a fool trips from what's behind them. Time to move forward. Get your finances and property that's under your name protected, and continue to be the best Father you could be for your kids. It just sucks that it seems like most states are No Fault states. Adultery should be punishable and cheating should be a factor for the cheater to not receive any monetary support. Sorry this happened, you can only get better after it. Onwards!
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 01:25 AM
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Guaranteed she’ll never be happy and the new bf will be replaced and so on. You can’t fix people like that. But you don’t need to worry about what that woman exposed herself turning into. Just focus on yourself and children! Yes feel the hurt now and express what you gotta express, eventually you’ll drag yourself up and level up! The other guy in my situation hides and hid too because I told him before it’ll be “On Sight” if I ever see him lol I know I won’t really cause a scene but I’m glad he …
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 08:17 PM
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It's just another day.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 07:13 PM
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Sorry you're going through this and thanks for sharing your story. Continue to protect that 50/50 Custody. Later down the line, she'll probably would want to move miles away that may disrupt that agreement. They will always try to chase happiness and move and get into new relationships, etc. but when in reality, they already had that, but they don't have accountability to admit it. We often try to build, rebuild and fix things but you can't fix them especially when they checked out. Continue bui…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 07:07 PM
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Sorry you are going through this and for sharing your story. Sometimes these forums and writing things out really helps, especially when we have no one else to express what we are feeling and what we are going through. I have a similar situation. The same time I found out I have Chronic Myeloid Leukemia, was the same time I found out she was cheating. Had so much mixed emotions that I bottled up during that time. I felt like I went through hospital visits and treatments all by myself too. I don'…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 12:05 AM
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I use to be the biggest playboy in my younger years, socially drank with friends and had a good time. Then I got married, moved away from my hometown, now I only keep in touch with one friend, I manned up and I just love being a Father to 2 of my kids. Nothing else really matters for me. I just want to imprint enough of myself onto my son and daughter, and I want to be there for them till they could stand on their own and beyond. And I'm juggling all this while being diagnosed with Chronic Myelo…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 08:12 AM
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Use that energy to get in the best shape of your life. Recently, I found out there's an underground Fight Club that pops up in my area, I saw it on Youtube and Social Media. Fight Club USA, Fight Club Mexico, Fight Club San Diego on Youtubes. It's pretty much boxing. Anyway, I wanted to check one out just to watch it in person but then I thought to myself, what if I participate in one! I want to watch one live in person first and then find the courage to participate in one, I've only been in rum…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 06:03 AM
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Did you have experience with showing how flexible work was when it comes to child custody before? We have had 50/50 Custody already for like 6 years now but the ex wants to move from CA to TX for her work, real estate. We have Mediation at the end of this month. I do not consent in the move nor change the 50/50 Custody. She lied and buttered up a bunch of stuff in her Declaration and I have evidence. I could show these evidence during Mediation right? And my work have been so flexible with me th…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 08:57 AM
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Remain calm and silent, gather evidence and speak to lawyer. Continue to be there for your children, shield them by trying to make their lives as normal as possible just by focusing on their schooling and childhood. I’m assuming exit plan is getting custody of the kids and moving from the other parent? Lawyer time
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 02:30 AM
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Gather the evidence and put those people that tried to harm you in jail or something
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 11:53 PM
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I'm keeping mines. I do have a few pixxx of other females I've messed with from before too. I'm able to separate my emotion from these pixxx, they're just pixxx to me. I mean I wish I've taken pixxx of this one chick from before, because I'm not not gonna lie, I remember rubbing one out or a few times just by reminiscing doggy styling her lol Oh snap, I just remembered I have voice recording of this other chick moaning and groaning while we were doing it on cassette tape lol I remember I use to …
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 11:44 PM
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I loved my ex and cared for her but I don’t think I was ever in love with her. I was so crappy for years even before marriage, but we always or she always came back to me. But the thing that made me lose respect for her even more, is when she left our sick child with me at home while she continued her affair. Her mom and brothers were staying over our place too and witnessed the mess. I just stuck and focused with the kids. We were married for 14 years but maybe together for like 20. No matter h…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 01:14 AM
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