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yeah and trp would know the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/14 04:37 AM
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"ideal". I'm not self absorbed you jackass, it just follows a fucking pattern. Telling me why he wants to be distant is fucking needy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/14 04:36 AM
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Yeah, no. See, my bf gets stressed because his father has a lot of health issues, when he's stressed he becomes distant, now, when he FAILS to tell me he's stressed and what's causing it, it stresses me because I think he's upset at me for becoming distant. Then I stop spending time with him, and well, you can see where that will go if there's no communication. I'd much rather be single than deal with this bullshit. However, we figured things out and now he tells me things. Shocker, eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/14 07:02 PM
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Most Koreans I met still lived at home. Unless you move for work, you generally stayed home until you married. Seriously, to combat the stress many resort to a lot of binge drinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/14 06:22 PM
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They're chubby little monsters because they're constantly snacking and not getting enough exercise. They're overworked until they get work. Edit: I'm mean monsters in the nice way, I miss my students.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/14 05:15 PM
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Also, the times they are a changin', the amount of chubby kids I saw while teaching in Korea was pretty alarming (compared to the adults who were mostly fit).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/14 03:45 PM
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"Honey, you don't talk to me about all of your problems at work and with your family the way you used to." "Yeah, nobody likes a complainer. I've been trying not to annoy you as much with my bullshit. Your life's hard enough without me laying all of my problems on you. Besides, I got my stuff handled." "But I like it when we talk!" "Then let's talk. I just don't want to whine to you any more. I may hide it well, but get this...I'm actually a man." Yeah, something like that almost destroyed my re…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/14 03:26 PM
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But the Red Pill way knows the truth about life, and how every single person acts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/14 03:37 AM
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Because it's easier to assume All Women Lie (AWALT) than to consider that all women are different and have varying needs, and gasp don't always have it figured out and don't always know what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/14 03:20 AM
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Then why do you care? You posed the question in relation to TRP's "sluts vs. unicorn virgins worthy of an LTR/marriage", no? I think it would be highly different if TRP were realistic with yes, not everyone you meet you will want to date/marry, but fun could be had in terms of dates and sex. Yay! which is more or less how the women's side presented it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/14 04:02 PM
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I meant those as things I do judge on :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/14 02:44 PM
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None of that is nearly as demeaning as trper's way of putting it in terms of women. Like, while reading the Oprah article, did you feel like a worthless piece of shit that was reduced to your sex organs all because while during your search for "the one" you still wanted to engage in casual sex? Seriously, it's a realistic way to look at dating and relationships, TRP just takes it to whole other level.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/14 04:33 AM
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How they treat others, especially strangers. Tardiness, shit happens, but for those who are chronically late and it "ain't no sweat on their backs", fuck them. Money management and impulsive spending, do they buy higher priced items without consideration? Do they live above their means?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/14 04:24 AM
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Marriage is just an old tradition, now that living together and having children out of wedlock are no longer sinful things, then it doesn't really matter. It's a relic of our past, and it's probably just perpetuated by all those wedding companies that make bank on it. I have no interest in marriage, but I bring companionship to my bf, and do we things as a team to make life easier for both of us... Also space heater.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/14 04:17 AM
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Failure in that you'll never meet someone 100% perfect. Big things like cheating are, well yes, bad behaviours and should be dealt with, but like small things. Imagine you met the perfect girl, but ugh, why does she like to watch the Kardashian shows? You dislike that aspect about her, those shows are pathetic, do you dump her over this one indiscretion? What about leaving dishes in the sink after dinner? Say her habit is to let them sit and relax after dinner, but for you that's a no go. Do you…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/14 05:02 PM
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No one is perfect, you'll set yourself up for failure if you believe in an absolute unicorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/14 04:40 PM
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I never understood this point, since I've seen them rag on girls/women being stupid for believing in "prince charming" and Disney shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/14 04:07 PM
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Most of the ones I know have never cheated. I only really know one person who cheated, and he did it to get out of a relationship. What a tool. I understand having criteria, seems a little excessive, but if someone's late for the first few dates or in the early months of a relationship I will next them so fast. I'm not interested in waiting outside someone's apartment for an hour at 1 in the morning because they forgot what time it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/14 03:39 PM
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Uhh.. RP is all about having your cake and eating it too. I'm not a special snowflake, and I've never once said that. are the same women who cheat on their LTRs and husbands. You may disagree, but I don't care Do you even have proof? A brief search of the internet yields "emotional" reasons for cheating. Although men who cheat tend to do so for physical reasons and are seemingly happy in their LTR's. Soo....Sooo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/14 02:06 PM
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Another woman chiming in to say that's what happens to me. Sleeping orgasms are weird. Like, good, but weird. Like weird dreams. But apparently because I'm a woman and when I'm not dating someone I shouldn't be able to find a release in casual sex or else be a slut. So thanks TRP. Fanfuckingtastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/14 04:05 AM
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As a woman, when I'm horny and can't have sex, I masturbate. Is it as fulfilling? No, but it's easier and less "risky" and now knowing that if I sleep with anyone other than my "future" husband I'm a dirty slut, I'm not likely to have casual sex again if I'm ever single.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/14 11:54 PM
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No, having casual sex is about experiencing the intimacy and fulfilling the need for sex while not dating someone or in a committed relationship. I don't understand how this is so hard for others to grasp. There's an episode of Sex and the City that kind of plays on this, Carrie hadn't had sex in six months, but it wasn't just the sex she missed, she missed the physical closeness that also comes with it, she actually at one point stated she'd be happy if a man just laid on top of her and no sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/14 01:57 PM
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I don't think you understand the difference between love and the responsibility a parent (mother OR father) have to their children. Yeah, you know what? Children do take "centre stage" more so when they still rely entirely on the parents for food, shelter and safety (from others and themselves). And if protection from the other parent is warranted, despite the first parents' love for them, they still must do the right thing by their children. Also, both Men and Women love conditionally, don't gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/14 08:58 PM
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So... abuse to children is okay? That's pretty fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/14 11:08 PM
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I don't really understand your argument, sometimes people don't show their true colours right away, someone may be fun, endearing and nice to be around but change 180. Generally seems to be the way with abusive or controlling people. That's how it was with the very controlling man I dated for like two months after years of friendship. He was never once controlling before we tried dating, then when he pulled that shit, I left. I mean, don't TRP guys have stories upon stories about "crazy" women w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/14 03:22 AM
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Do you think our culture enforces gender roles too much or not enough. Do you think teaching kids gender specific information is advantageous or wrong? I think for boys at least, it's hard to see them want something, but are't "allowed" because it's girly. It really doesn't make sense to me as an adult, so I can imagine how upsetting for a child to be told no with no "real" reason. I definitely see this more as a problem for boys than girls, as I was allowed "boy" toys like Lego and K'Nex, toys …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/14 04:07 PM
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It's easy to say that when you have no idea how painful having someone jackhammer into your cervix and didn't stop when you started crying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/14 04:54 PM
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I would much rather be an 'incel' than have bad sex. Bad sex for women is not fun, or pleasurable in any measure. I would much rather have a pap than my worst bad sex experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/14 04:13 PM
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freshman sluts are the shit Why are they sluts? Are they not women who like sex? What's wrong with women who like sex? Sluts is a pretty derogatory term to be swinging about. That's part of why your "TRP" shit is so terrible, you make it awful for women to enjoy casual sex by labeling them "sluts".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/14 03:51 PM
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Yeah, the customers who were douchey like you were rough to put up with, the pleasant ones make it a 1000x better though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/14 09:54 PM
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Treating people like people means making them wait for answers according to blue pillers clearly Sorry I did my laundry and cleaned the litter box/had things to do outside of reddit... Get a pt retail job and learn how to interact with strangers, because if you're an ass to any of them you're going to have a bad time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/14 05:24 PM
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Value judgment or male solipsism, it's not bad from your POV because it doesn't concern you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/14 03:34 PM
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Women respond viscerally in their vagina area to unpredictability, mixed signals, danger, and drama in spite of their best efforts to convince themselves otherwise. I can't take this seriously. The times in my past that can be called "dread game" just made my heart hurt. I assume at those points the other person didn't want to be with me, I would emotionally distance myself to keep myself from getting hurt. I'm sure SOME women respond in a different way, but not all. But that's just a different …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/14 03:19 PM
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I was under the impression she was saving herself for marriage, not sure if she slept with any of her exes or not. However, I agree with your statement, that she's too clingy and probably dives deep into a relationship at first, considering none of them have been particularly long...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/14 10:02 PM
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I don't..really understand what you mean by "good customer" service, is it a male virtue to treat someone awful and still make the sale?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/14 04:16 AM
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I assume it depends on requests, the one you gave is kind of ridiculous all around and I would hope no one takes it seriously... What I normally think of in terms of "requests" would be like when my boyfriend didn't take my request for advil seriously until I started crying on Saturday, I...am still less than impressed and less likely to spend time at his now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/14 03:22 AM
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I laughed. So hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/14 10:43 PM
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Honestly, I think guys should be more cautious in terms of finances, I really dislike the idea of men always paying for stuff. Women work and are more than capable for picking up their fair share. The cheating and emotional stuff is par for the course and happens with both men and women. While TRP doesn't care that men do it, it just ends up really one sided and then they claim "AWALT" instead of "SPDT" - "shitty people do this".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/14 10:17 PM
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if I were single I know I'd be able to have casual sex with a new dude every day I think this is a pretty extreme exaggeration and really isn't helping anyone, yes women can get sex easier, but it really isn't as easy as some would think. I'm attractive and all that jazz, and I never found it that easy, (those nights where I'd go out to get laid because it had been awhile). The only exception was that time I lived next to a US Air Force base in Asia, I was drowning in men. A lot of them just wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/14 09:00 PM
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He may have anxiety about cleanliness when others do them, my friends' husband is like that. When I lived with them he would re-do all my cleaning because he didn't 'trust' the way I cleaned.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/14 08:13 PM
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Isn't like, RP all about gender roles and hyper masculinity? Just talk it out with your friends, that's all I did, they let me wallow in self-pity for a weekend with them then that was it. Move on with your life, c'est la vie. Focus on yourself, the things that make you happy, I can't imagine going online to a forum and complaining about men when I was still hurting about it, can't be very healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/14 03:17 PM
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If they were so far from desperate, why even create a movement called MGTOW? Why not just shrug, say, "Relationships are not for me," and move on with their life? I went my own way, I was burned badly by a man, actually a few in a row, and decided dating, men and all that shit wasn't for me. You know what I didn't do? Bitch about them, I didn't even bitch about the men who hurt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/14 12:04 AM
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On average men don't go see doctors as much, probably leading them to also not use hospital services as much. Maybe men should learn to go see a doctor when something is wrong and not wait until it's too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 07:05 PM
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TRP's generalizations are a bit too sweeping though, take party girls for example, rp seems to showcase them all as promiscuous young women who sleep around every weekend, but my experiences were very different (as a young woman who went out with other young women, and always went home together with those young women to make sure we all made it home safely). Kinda like the sweeping generalization you just did about TRP-members? That you guys make sweeping generalizations? But trp does, do they n…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/14 04:25 PM
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You can have your fucking preferences, I have them, but I'm not yelling them from the rooftop and stomping my feet around like a child to make sure everyone knows. It doesn't help that within your sub, there's blatant hypocrisy that comes out of many of the trpers "errr I want to bang as many sluts as possibly hurr hurr hurr I'm a man, but when I settle down I want a sweet virginal girl because other dicks in women are gross". (not saying YOU exactly, but I've seen that sentiment). Also, men sle…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/14 04:01 PM
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Probably because you/TRP make sweeping generalizations about all women based on your experiences, yes some suck, but I'm not a lying cheating harpy by association, and believing all women are won't really get you anywhere, just angry and bitter. And no one likes the angry and bitter person. How would you feel if I steadfastly believed "All men are like that" and label all men rapists and murderers based on an experience I was unfortunately subjected to when I was 18? Or all men are lying asshole…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/14 03:48 PM
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Maybe it's too far extreme the other way, but traditionally guys have SO MUCH emotion invested in the outcome of the situation. A little off topic, but women are also emotionally invested in meeting someone while out (think probably like, bar or party, social event). So it's kind of interesting to see both sides of the coin, the downside is when mutual attraction isn't there, and two people go home alone. And from my experiences, it's the nights out where I wasn't emotionally invested in meeting…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 05:42 AM
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I'm sure it's similar, I've only ever had the Quebec stuff though!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 10:49 PM
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I could probably procure it for myself. I read my friend's husbands father's memoir, goes into detail on how to do it, and he did it not too far from where the bf lives. But, lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 10:44 PM
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I'm all about the Quebec maple syrup....mmmm so good.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 10:17 PM
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Things like birth control & condoms also dictate that women should be incredibly liberal and easy going about who they sleep with - they shouldn't be hypergamous and try to get the best deal all the time. What about attraction? I mean the hottest guy at the bar is the hottest guy despite his bank account. I've never asked for a bank balance before having sex with someone. And for the record, I think anyone who gets into a relationship with someone who has shitty financial habits is making a bad …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 02:33 AM
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It's much in the same vein that men will label a woman as crazy for being interested in them. It happened to me, and guys wonder why women won't ask out men, after being labelled crazy I have no intention to pursue, it's been made a negative for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 05:24 PM
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And you can't see why TRP is ridiculous to others? It's just like how extreme tumblr SJW's are ridiculous to average people (myself included). Frankly, women have to be careful whom they sleep with because vaginas are not like penises. It's much easier for women to catch diseases. In fact, HPV is just about impossible to stop, and can give cause cervical cancer. Additionally, a lot diseases are left inside vaginas, and are asymptomatic. Plus, children are always a risk for sex. It's hard to see …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 06:02 AM
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Umm people still shame women for having sex (your entire sub), feminism is fighting against slut shaming and the double standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 05:23 AM
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is a problem for TRP because it's the opposite of TRP, and for simplicity doesn't fit in their mantra. You realize without feminism you wouldn't be getting as much casual sex? Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 05:04 AM
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If you, ladies, have the right to have irrational preferences around, say, a man's height or confidence Men have told me I'm too tall for them (I'm just under 5'9). But I will agree, it's annoying when shorter women want a man over 6'0. Also the second one is more of a trait to get one noticed, like, someone with little confidence, who doesn't put themselves out there isn't going to meet anyone. Women say they like confidence because that generally equates to a man who is more or less social. I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 05:02 AM
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I'm interested in seeing the answers also, this is the biggest disconnect that TRP has that really bothers me. I understand past biological imperatives to have a woman with few or no previous partners, but with things like birth control, condoms, health checks and paternity tests, that idea doesn't hold much water. Stop with your slut shaming, gees. At least now you can get laid without having to marry her first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/14 10:09 PM
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I've only really used creepy when guys continue to hound me when I've made it clear I'm not interested, they 'creep' me out and make me feel unsafe.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/14 06:40 PM
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I like confidence. I also like it when they can admit they're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/14 06:47 AM
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Well your first priority is making yourself attractive (be fit, dress nice, hygiene, hair, etc). Second find hobbies, sports, clubs you enjoy. Join those. Meet people. Interact. You have to put yourself out there. There's no magic cure, just put yourself out there, be confident. Clubs are good for initial interaction, everyone's happy and probably drunk, just be charming and confident. Work from there to sober situations (clubs, hobbies, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/14 06:45 AM
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What do you currently do to try and get sex? You can't really get advice without describing more about your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/14 03:39 AM
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Ugh only eight years ago my nephews grandfather had a fit when he was two and wanted Dora socks which happened to be pink. My nephew could not understand at all that he wasn't allowed them because they were 'girly'.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/14 12:27 AM
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Then explain, using a concrete example, otherwise it just sounds like you want to be selfish and disregard any potential children because it gets in the way of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/14 08:23 PM
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It sounded like you said that, when you say they 'decide' to be fathers. Are you upset that the law recognizes that men play a role in the creation of a child and that by either physical or financial ways, the man is then 'forced' to take responsibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/14 08:16 PM
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So you think it's okay for men to leave their children with nothing? That it should be okay for a man to wake up one morning, decides he doesn't want a family or children and just leave them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/14 08:00 PM
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So men want to choose to be involved or not? They want the choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/14 07:54 PM
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So men are upset that they're forced into taking responsibility instead of "wanting to"?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/14 07:34 PM
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Here's the history of skinny jeans for men. For context, women didn't start wearing jeans regularly until the 1960s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/14 05:05 PM
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Seems a little excessive to call her a dumb cunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/14 04:39 PM
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I'd be interested in that as well :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/14 02:14 AM
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I think it's because the 'drama' stereotype is over played, because I don't have experiences with one either. I mean, I know of train wrecks, but I only associated with them because I had to (ugh, work).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 05:49 AM
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Shall I grow old, being forever dumped and eventually hit the wall and die an old cat lady? No, just focus on your school, your career and your current bf, and of course yourself. Just because you don't follow the rp model doesn't mean you'll die alone with a menagerie of cats. Don't lose hope!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 05:44 AM
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Okay, like most people do this with social cues and don't make a huge deal of it, mostly subconscious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 12:51 AM
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I don't really follow the 'value' part, I know I 'size' someone up on whether I'm attracted to them within the first minute of meeting them, also basing it on inter-personal communication with them. But if there's no 'connection' then, yeah they become a friend and someone I'm not romantically interested in. Exceptions are when I'm in a relationship or they are (automatic no).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/14 11:57 PM
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Okay, I think we're more or less almost on the same page. The problem with your earlier assertion that you don't care why they leave is kind of confusing. I think understanding why would give way to more ways in which to work to improve future relationships. Taking the thread I linked earlier back into consideration, many of the women said that the first hint of violence was enough to get them to run, shouldn't that be a good thing for TRP to consider and run with? Women don't want to be around …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/14 03:27 AM
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Okay, just curious because you seem to drive that home a lot. I'm sure some women want to marry up, or whatever. I don't really think it's representative of a majority of divorces though. I think women probably file for divorce more because they either see the relationship failing or feel insecure with that person. I think that's one of the rp things, women want someone they feel protects them and that they can feel secure with. If you look in the thread I linked, many women left at the start of…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/14 02:42 AM
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So, you don't care what their reasons are, you're going to believe that it's their hypergamous nature? Okay.... So if I tell you I left someone because they were shitty with their money and mine, it's because of my hypergamous nature? .... Edit: words
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/14 02:22 AM
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Possibly because men can be assholes who they don't want to be with. You really stick with this point, but unless you've been involved in every single one of those divorces you really have no idea. It's easy to look at numbers and go "oh women start divorces more than men, they must be bitches who want to take them for all their money and fuck alpha's", instead of, maybe, considering that men could be playing a part. There's an interesting askwomen thread about why they left a marriage, maybe pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/14 01:46 AM
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Which part? Because all of that comes from TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/14 01:28 AM
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They aren't doing a very good job of it, the players they so desperately want to be are generally nice people and they care about those around them. They just happen to be naturally very outgoing and the type of person people flock to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/14 01:23 AM
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Every time I've been 'corrected' by someone from trp, I've been given a different load of bullshit each time. I don't discount the 'science' but at the same time, I'm able to reason and use logic* to consider my options in life and don't fuck it up because of what was used as an evolutionary tool millions of years ago. *despite what trp would say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/14 06:19 PM
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TBP isn't a movement, we're just sitting here with our popcorn laughing at FRs and whining about how terrible women are because they won't sex them, yet they say such terrible things about how women are sluts and terrible inferior humans. You're thinking of radical or extreme feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/14 05:56 PM
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So much this, they just change their thoughts and opinions. And then when you point out their fallacies they stop responding. How's that for big boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/14 05:52 PM
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The boys at my daycare were instigators, would cause shit for me, pants me even and I was expected to grow a thick skin. It's just an anecdotal experience, but I can't be the only little girl who was told "boys will be boys" when they're little assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/14 08:37 PM
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It's not that, it's the looking at me and shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/14 06:11 AM
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Why are you making fun of me?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/14 06:00 AM
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It's Friday night, what do you expect? I just finished baking and now to the post baking beers. Bon soiree!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/14 02:39 AM
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Not married, don't want to get married. Probably more of the actually wedding that upsets me (anxiety problems).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/14 02:38 AM
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Oh, it is. My friend/classmate was on the council who passed this, the next morning in class I turned to him and just 'wtf were you thinking'.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/14 07:31 PM
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I noticed her master story changing! I think in this thread she mentions that he "acquired" her, but in another, she met him and introduced him to this lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/14 05:50 AM
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To be fair, I hated all those extreme SJW types at my university. The student council was atrocious for this (example from my final year).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/14 06:02 PM
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They are not able to deal with the reality that men can be abuse victims and that women can be abusers, manipulators and liars. I don't reject this notion, thanks though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/14 05:47 PM
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even any sex act done while I was being abused is his to take if he decides he wants that because technically I did give it to somebody else Someone took it from you, you didn't give it to them, they took without your consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/14 06:56 PM
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I meant that if you aren't willing to change your prejudice against her. Your lady friend defied those prejudices and you believed her instead of continuing to believe yout past prejudices. It's fine to have prejudices, that's how we perceive the world based on past experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/14 10:37 PM
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I'd say something like equal but that gets taken too literally by the trp and rpw group, but balanced, where each party gives as much as they take. So for example, I'm a pretty awful cook, my bf does most of it for us, but I help in whatever ways I can and do the dishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/14 08:04 PM
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Yes and a lot of TRP says is shitty behaviour, give her 2/3rds what she gives you. That's one way to develop resentment within a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/14 07:55 PM
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I've been pretty forward in the past. One guy kind of ruined that for me. Now I play the 'ole waiting game. I don't particularly care for it, but it's more to protect myself and not come off as a crazy woman who gasps responds to messages when she sees them. Or tries to make plans earlier than that night, apparently that's what crazy forward women do (you do notice that guys can be fucking shitty too, right?)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/14 06:48 PM
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You mean ask people what they do for a living or study because I like to get to know people? Sure I guess so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/14 06:22 PM
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Not entirely, from what I've seen, TRP consistently says awalt regardless of how she acts, and if she seems genuine and not a shitty person it's just a shit-test.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/14 06:12 PM
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can you define exactly what the group TRP is being prejudice toward AWALT? The idea that all women are the same comes to mind. That's pretty judgmental of a group of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/14 05:40 PM
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Everyone prejudges based on experiences, but it's what you do with that that causes problems, if you let it cloud your judgment upon getting to know the person then yes, it will be destructive. So if, say a man were to prejudge every women as a spoiled princess, and still think that after he meets one who isn't but is just playing a 'shit-test', then yeah, both his and her experience together are probably going to be terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/14 05:29 PM
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I think he just keeps using it to show that women are more likely to leave, but there's no context. What if a majority of those women file because their spouse cheated? What if their spouse ran them into debt (finances are one of the leading causes of divorce). We just don't know and so it becomes meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/14 06:24 PM
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That's what lust means. Intense sexual desire, or am I mixing it up with something else? Yeah, there needs to be attraction for both parties, I don't understand how that means women can't 'love', or as you put it, men love and women lust. When I see my SO I feel more than 'tingles' in my gina.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/14 05:42 PM
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My love for my bf isn't based on just 'intense' sexual desire. Thanks though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/14 04:55 PM
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I bet many of those the man has cheated or something but still he did not want a divorce, he just couldn't keep it in his pants He may not want it, but he deserved it if he's going to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/14 04:20 PM
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Not entirely sure if I believe the second one, most people go to a "DVD Bang" or a "Love Motel" for a ONS in Seoul. Anecdotal, but from experience of myself and my social circle while living there.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/14 11:27 PM
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skewed my view of sex negatively and that had to be undone Curious about this, just a bit, is that it wasn't good? I'll be honest, my first experience was with my first love. Magical really... Its not that having more partners will make men more attractive or any of that. Cool, I think this is an aspect TRP misses, I've never sought out men who've had high partner counts and have never been led to believe others have done so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/14 11:20 PM
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Is this specific to men or women? TRP would dictate to women only, I'm just curious. I will go with my experiences and believe that it just reaffirms the awesomeness of ltr sex however. I don't talk much about sex with my friends, but those who were similar to me in my youth also sought out relationships may be an indication to the same feelings towards it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/14 10:50 PM
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What are the consequences? My ltr has been successful despite me 'riding the cock carousel' in my youth. I don't doubt that some men may be uncomfortable with my past, but then I don't want to be with them either. (for context, most of them were from 'dates' and potential relationships)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/14 10:47 PM
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you lack the amount of foresight to understand that fucking 100 people makes sex meaningless for you. When sex in a LTR should be an emotional thing as well. Some people can differentiate between the sex act with someone who means nothing to them, and a relationship. I know my emotions are different when I sleep with someone I love and a random ons. Doesn't change my views of sex in a relationship. Actually it just reaffirms that all I want is sex in a relationship and those emotions that swing …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/14 10:36 PM
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They don't care, they're just sluts whose sole purpose is to have random sex with men. They aren't good for an ltr, let alone a marriage. God what an awful belief.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/14 03:50 AM
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Apparently he does.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/14 03:40 AM
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Okay, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/14 10:53 PM
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Judging by your past comments, I wouldn't put it past you to be that asshole. But maybe you're aware of it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/14 10:36 PM
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My experiences are biased somewhat because of injury/illness. Had a nervous breakdown, I'd have problems with anxiety in the past, but it all kind crashed around me at one point. I was put on some anti-depressants, but it took awhile to get back to where I was 'me' again. I don't think he really pressed the issue of sex since he knew I was struggling so much. Sex went back to normal once I was feeling better. Broke my foot, had to have surgery. We tried sex but nothing really worked. It didn't h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/14 05:20 PM
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I assume so.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/14 04:21 PM
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A unicorn is their idea of the perfect ltr/wife. They have extremely unrealistic expectations and so, this 'person' doesn't exist and they call her a unicorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/14 03:45 PM
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I'm having a hard time following this, who is shaming men for using condoms in a relationship? With my personal experiences, the man has always wanted to go condomless first. But maybe I'm more paranoid than the 'average' woman about an unwanted pregnancy...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/13 10:54 PM
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Are you fucking joking? Do you know anything about those two cultures? Do you know why suicide is so high? Women in Korea are not the doormats trp would like to believe and suicide rates are more in line with confucionism and the fact that it's not a fucking taboo there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/13 01:58 AM
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This is the biggest load of crap I've ever read, and I tried to read Twilight...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/13 01:39 AM
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Yeah, for sure, but it generally has to come from someone with it, in attempts to make it light hearted. I make fun of my anxiety problems, makes it less if a defining feature about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/13 06:25 PM
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It doesn't help with TRP continuously claiming women are sluts if they have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/13 09:20 PM
3

So you agree that some men (not you in this case) and some women (myself in this case) are capable of compassion for others? Please clear that up in TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/13 08:49 PM
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Right and rp claims men are the compassionate ones and women are selfish evil harpies who don't care about others...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/13 05:52 AM
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So you think mental health issues are funny? Thats... quite pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/13 05:09 AM
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Possibly because eating disorders are no laughing matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/13 04:50 AM
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Yeah, basically they're just hamstering. Run around that wheel boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/13 01:37 AM
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I'm not particularly fond of gift giving, I prefer to spend time with people, maybe pick up the tab for dinner or something. But I'll generally ask for something they want. I did get my bf spice jar things because his cupboard is a mess and if wants me to cook with him that needs to be cleaned up and organized or else I'll probably put the wrong thing in...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/13 05:33 PM
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To me, someone who doesn't play games.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/13 01:23 AM
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What do you think is a respectable woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/13 08:57 PM
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Then understand that not all women you ask want an emotionless sexual experience with you. I understand that with my ons'.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/13 03:54 PM
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I think it's terrible that mens centres have had such problems. I really dont condone violence and understand they need an outlet from it (honeslty dont know why some women think its okay). As far as abusive relationships? I've been there, very manipulative and controlling asshole, very trpesque. Anyways, I did leave. After a friend begged me to. I had gotten to the point of extreme unhappiness because I never knew if he'd be happy or mad at me. Obviously everyone experiences things differently …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/13 07:18 AM
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1) Yes, it is, what does it have bearing on this discussion? That for whatever reason some guys realized women want to be with attractive men? 2) When I want to have sex, because I'm a human and have needs and am not in a relationship, yes, I'd prefer a ONS. I don't need to complicate my friendships with sex. 3) I really don't understand this. I simply stated that if men want to just have sex with women, they should be very clear about it and not lead women on with the belief that they like her,…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/13 06:40 AM
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About the friendzones storys i didnt said it was noble, i think it is life, i only think that woman tend to take sex to much seriously and have a very bad reaction to that topic. i didnt said i did it with all that asked me for it. Understand that for some women it's more personal of an experience. On the same vein, women aren't going to sleep around the more you call them sluts and worthless otherwise. Get that through your brain, you cannot have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/13 05:55 AM
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No problem, I'm sorry it was a bit confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/13 04:20 AM
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I meant more in terms, why aren't other men not helping their fellow brothers who are in abusive relationships and need resources/centres/shelters. The women's centre at my university to help with rape and abuse victims didn't come about because of women complaining about not having it, they actively worked to get one. I've been in controlling/manipulative and abusive relationships, not unlike the ones the Red Pill would advocate, I know it's hard. But it's possible to leave. Find friends to bac…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/13 03:56 AM
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Reposting this from the blue pill thread. Dont women rate men by their looks? Yes, but so do men. I don't know where men seriously get this impression personality was everything, for fuck's sake I had teen heart 'throb' pictures plastered on my walls when I was a tween. I've stated this before and I'll state it again, personality is now equally as important to looks because women are no longer expected to marry the first guy to show interest in her. Dont women like to fuck? I love sex, but it de…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/13 02:27 AM
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Certainly there are some things you feel can be assumed? Assume that not everyone I meet wants to fuck me or be with me. Other than that, learn to be a social person who can navigate those scary social waters. Refer back to the above statement. I know this sounds vague, but it's really hard to convey things online, how did I become more social? Just put myself out there, find a community you can relate to, join and go to events. I used to be painfully shy and awkward. I was teased mercilessly by…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/13 12:01 AM
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Aren't you just hamstering yourself when you rationalize that some women have been 'bad' to you, so all women must be 'bad' and that they will all lie, cheat, 'divorce rape', etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/13 11:18 PM
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Same here, they aren't the norm though and they actually think of women better than the online rpers.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/13 03:03 PM
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Poorly phrased, my bad, the idea that everyone is out spinning plates and those that aren't feel left behind or they aren't doing something right, that's at least my perspective of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/13 05:35 PM
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It's hard to give specific advice because I don't know you, tell me more about your "beta" ways. Also, keep in mind, most people aren't having 'as much sex' as you think. So the idea of 'spinning plates' isn't really a thing, and as a lady, when I'm single, I'm not out fucking everything that walks 'because I can'.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/13 04:43 PM
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Because you all over did it on porn at one point? This sounds like porn, don't deny it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/13 03:27 PM
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1) Don't be friends solely with someone because you want to 'get with them'. 2) Leave or work through it, don't be a doormat. 3) Some people are weird, and are social justice warriors, maybe one day they'll realize they can't save the world. 4) I don't entirely understand this point, people go to clubs to have fun, maybe meet someone and maybe get some action. Girls aren't sluts for doing the EXACT same thing men do. 5) Do you have a reason to believe she's cheating? If so, confront or dump. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/13 03:25 PM
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