smallbonesofcourage Archive

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1	Do women get more unconditional Love than men ? From whom would women get unconditional love? I see that men get exempted from conditions by sayings like "thats just men" when they do something crappy plus all that himpathy. Himparthy is empathy specifically given to men for being a man, whereas if it's been a women going through the same shit it would not have been given. Like struggling with a child, empathy would flood to the man for expressing his feelings and for trying so hard.	/r/ExRedPill	28/11/23 10:05 AM
12	Why do I think that talking to women is giving them attention?(Disclaimer what I will say might be offensive) They see you as s human being worthy to talk to and include in social activities. Not all is about sex and relationships and seeing people as resources, that's why they talk with you. They see beyond that.	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/23 07:46 PM
5	Lonely Single Men It's interesting what you say that men hav created these laws, seems they go hand in hand with Madonna whore divide of women.	/r/ExRedPill	01/11/23 09:34 AM
5	“Women lose value as they get older” Yes, it's also based on presumptions that women know less and should know less and can only be enlightened by the man, and that gives value to the man. Boosts his ego. Women having knowledge on their own is something men have feared for a very very long time.	/r/ExRedPill	29/10/23 08:19 AM
6	“Women lose value as they get older” Mm it's like we should all be treated and seen as goods to trade and up eachother with. Our survival doesn't depend on a high value partner.	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/23 10:46 PM
2	“Women lose value as they get older” It will, it's just rocky during so many changes our world is experiencing. It will zigzag a bit bit eventually progress.	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/23 10:43 PM
5	“Women lose value as they get older” Mm, I would like to find some man that can show me the world. But also not in a patronising way.	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/23 10:41 PM
7	When men and women have high body counts, it doesn't make them any better. Having had some relationships is valuable to me when finding a partner. Having been through that type of responsibility in sharing a home and all that that entails is very helpful. Self awareness in who you are in the bedroom and your expectations is definitely useful. I dated recently a virgin middle age person that didn't know much about dislikes and likes and having thought of expectations.	/r/ExRedPill	29/09/23 08:52 AM
2	My redpill content watching boyfriend broke up with me after 8 years That is good that you handle it with more nuance and stability even though it's hard. From reading your post it felt like you weren't in the midst of the insane emotional war that's tearing you apart, but more grounded. It's great you have the perspective of time and looks ahead. I don't have BPD but have emotional dysregulation I have had to heal.	/r/ExRedPill	24/09/23 09:24 PM
6	My redpill content watching boyfriend broke up with me after 8 years It's usually because a connection to someone feels better than the absence of it with BPD. Changing that pattern can be done but it's hard. Finding ways to bond with yourself soothingly and lovingly helps a long way to prevent that bonding.	/r/ExRedPill	24/09/23 08:47 PM
0	“She’s not yours, it’s just your turn...” yeah... and I’m going to enjoy my turn. There is a loyalty aspect to this statement. That women don't do loyalty at all. That's problematic. Loyalty isn't given just because, but healthily it is something that grows in a relationship. And loyalty is about what the people involved agrees on being their type of relationship. Loyalty to each relationship can be different. Also poly relationships have, if they are good, loyalty in different forms.	/r/ExRedPill	22/09/23 12:01 PM
1	“She’s not yours, it’s just your turn...” yeah... and I’m going to enjoy my turn. Does anyone know the origin of this statement?	/r/ExRedPill	22/09/23 11:50 AM
1	“She’s not yours, it’s just your turn...” yeah... and I’m going to enjoy my turn. Wow I'm gonna remember that women don't own men either.... that makes it so starkly clear what is the problem.	/r/ExRedPill	22/09/23 11:48 AM
2	What do men want from women? Maybe you matured from relating from a "lack of" to you both being whole people. If you don't miss something you need the other to embody, the dynamic isn't focused on dependency.	/r/ExRedPill	27/08/23 09:05 AM
3	If incels are aware of how they look why do they want ”stayce”? To better yourself through getting a better social level through a partner. They can't better themselves if they settle, or choose someone comparable to their own looks. The whole idea is that they are miserable because they are unwanted by more beautiful women and that only by stepping up that ladder will they feel good in life. To realize that often love transcends those ideas and levels would rupture the belief. Most populistic beliefs uses an explanation model to people's misery and dissatis…	/r/ExRedPill	24/08/23 07:43 AM
1	How do I cope with the fact that I've never gotten any compliment from women in my entire life? Compliments without genuine wamth and nurturing will do very little I believe.	/r/ExRedPill	19/08/23 02:32 PM
1	How do I cope with the fact that I've never gotten any compliment from women in my entire life? It's been multiple things. It's like healing has stages. I'd say it's part finding nurturing responses to negative beliefs. So, pouring understanding and compassion into it. Not forcing it or attempting to change the emotion into something positive. And I didn't expect things to change because I knew this is a very very slow mechanism to change. I knew when habit takes over it can make big change later on. But you know, feeling warmth in itself can't be conjured up easily. My capacity to feel wa…	/r/ExRedPill	19/08/23 02:27 PM
6	How do I cope with the fact that I've never gotten any compliment from women in my entire life? The upbringing you mention most surely makes the pain tenfold of not getting compliments. Healing that could help, finding a good therapist for example. I grew up with severe lack of love from parents and I realised as an adult that people who have had that, they naturally have an inner soundboard of good vibes about themselves. It's so built in they don't notice it as part of their inner self. I practiced this inner feedback loop for years to compensate for it and it has healed a lot of that pa…	/r/ExRedPill	18/08/23 07:07 PM
2	Problem with red pill / manosphere. Which kinds of issues isn't talked about? If it's ok to ask, I'd like to understand a little more.	/r/ExRedPill	14/08/23 06:52 PM
6	Scrote Logic: Tax Childless Women But we already have a population that is too large to have a sustainable life with the ecosystems and impacting the environment in hideous ways. I wouldn't want to make that more desirable to have children. We have to figure out other ways to deal with tax income issues to fund pensions and others than resolve it by having a large working population in comparison to the non-working.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/08/22 07:58 PM
1	Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfish One basic thing is that we can't make a relationship a game and get a healthy relationship. To get the sex I deserve I will tick all these boxes, and then I should get that, because culture or a book or a speaker said so. If you look at the relationship as an entity and something that needs good care to thrive, can this help finding new ways for you? Each moment is a new moment in a relationship, a new context. How do you create connection in that moment with your wife? What does she needs to fe…	/r/askMRP	10/08/22 09:00 PM