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I apologize for taking so long to get back to you. Summer holidays, eh? I am no expert, as I am still growing in femininity myself, but here are a few things I've experienced. 1) Reflect. If you aren't a journal writer, it might seem cheesy at first, but it is worth a try. Write to reflect on where you think these things that pop into your mind and heart are coming from in your life. Another strategy is to think about what advice you might give to someone who was in a very similar situation to y…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 02:01 AM
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Hey- not a teenager myself, but I teach a bunch of them every day! A couple of things I have noticed in the females I teach who display femininity: -The thing that honestly stands out the most is your heart. Your actions flow from your heart, to actualization through what you do everyday. Grow your heart for nurturing. This might start small with taking care of your living space, maybe the way you care for a pet, a garden, etc. The most dominant thing I have noticed in feminine teens is that it’…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/20 04:50 AM
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He has to do the hard work himself. This path is going to be hard for him, from what I understand from other addicts. Finding a possible resource is the easiest part, if you ask me. Also, addiction is a family illness. It effects way more than just the addict. So this post is also advocating for resources for me so I can better understand and support my man as he leads to recovery.
/r/RPChristians15/07/20 02:15 AM
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He has told me that he’s looked multiple times for resources before, but hasn’t found any. I checked to see if this was accurate, and I agreed with him. My google search wasn’t pulling up anything Godly either. Then I happened to listen to videos and podcasts which mentioned resources for these issues. I guess I just didn’t see the harm in making a post about it when I was understanding how the internet searches were frustrating.
/r/RPChristians15/07/20 02:12 AM
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I respect him greatly, thanks. I don’t think ‘not liking the porn addiciton, but also understanding addiction due to other addicts of various kinds in my life’, and ‘deep respect for my boyfriend’ are mutually exclusive.
/r/RPChristians15/07/20 02:04 AM
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I really love this advice. Thank you for suggesting this, especially the discipling aspect. I am not afraid to be lead, discipled, instructed by my husband. I know he’s not my husband yet, but I think you see the dynamic. This is the Biblical way. I appreciate all the alternative view points regarding if this is actually an addiction or not. I’m still convinced it is, just due to his past use. However, I will continue to research this and see what I come up regarding addictions/ habits. I will a…
/r/RPChristians15/07/20 02:02 AM
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We DO desire to be free. In the deepest way. This has been such a deep and difficult struggle, one I’m sure you are aware of in your own life. I would like to pray for you if that’s alright. We want to live for God as much as possible. Please pray for my boyfriend. We are also fighting a spiritual battle which began for him 11 years ago, long before he was a Christian.
/r/RPChristians14/07/20 01:47 AM
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Fortunately, that’s not something I struggle with personally. I used to read some erotica before I was a Christian, but I don’t struggle with temptation to it.
/r/RPChristians14/07/20 01:40 AM
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This is the hard truth I needed to hear. Thank you for this. I’d love to believe we can just get married and go on and everything will all get better, but I’m pretty sure that’s not how it works. Please pray for us.
/r/RPChristians14/07/20 01:38 AM
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Thanks for your thoughtfulness. As a couple we are chaste, and total chastity being the goal. We have been trying to work to find the trigger. He thinks it may partially be his overconfidence on the matter. He gets too comfortable, feels that he has it all under control and that’s when it all falls apart.
/r/RPChristians14/07/20 01:33 AM
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Thank you! I will have to give this a read. The support on this post alone has honestly helped me feel that this healing is possible.
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 08:59 PM
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Thanks so much! I’ve heard of people having luck with xxxchurch. Pathback recovery is a new one I haven’t heard of. I’m also considering pursuing Christian counselling for us as a couple.
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 08:58 PM
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Even though we are chaste as a dating couple we both have high sex drives so I’m sure that won’t be an issue. I have heard many others however that say that even when they got married, the addiction got worse, and not better. So I’m not sure if I see eye to eye with you there.
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 08:56 PM
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This is solid advice. I’d say though that he’s at the point in his struggle that it happens every 4-6 months, so I’m not sure how to replace that at that rate. But I agree with your motivation.
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 08:54 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 07:21 PM
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He has a porn blocker on his phone, but that's failed before. He doesn't have his own router because due to his job he is transitory between different places and he never owns the router. He doesn't have cellular data for this very reason.
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 07:21 PM
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I’m relatively new here! Please humour me and explain what stats mean.
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 07:09 PM
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Effort on your behalf, or his? If you are doing your best job of loving him, and taking a genuine interest of his whole person, hopes, dreams, etc, then I'm not sure how else that can improve there. With his effort improving? There is a chance for the relationship getting better. But that's contingent on something out of your control. If he doesn't see the issue with your relationship, and doesn't want to change insisting that things are fine, then he might not want to put more effort in. Also, …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/20 07:13 PM
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It sounds like he doesn’t want to end it. But if you find this frustrating/ disheartening now, unfortunately that’s only going to grow stronger in time if you two can’t come to some sort of understanding. You’re right, you should be with someone who you love to bits and pieces.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 04:42 AM
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Hey there. I've totally been there. I dated a guy who barely ever wanted to get into a deep conversation, or really take an interest in my life beyond the surface for nearly three years. I was younger then (20-22), but in hindsight I have no idea how long I managed to stay that long. It could be a sign that he is emotionally immature. How does he handle conflict? Is he communicative about other areas of his life? Does he have a major interest/ obsession that he's really into, and not much else? …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 11:27 PM
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This guy wants to end it but doesn't have the balls to do it, so instead he will act like a jerk and force you to end it because he's too wussy. I think that's what's going on here. After being with a guy like this, I was shocked to find out that more mature, communicative men actually exist. I've seen this happen to some friends. It demonstrates a low level of emotional maturity, and just maturity in general.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/20 04:07 PM
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My advice is to not discount older women as friends! You may find many who are 10-30 years older than you, but if they are awesome and you have mutual ground then why not? I had to have the age mind set shift because I live in a small town of "newlyweds and nearly deads" - not a lot of early 20 somethings. But it's been great! Even though they're older they treat me well, they're funny, fun, and knowledgeable. Also, through hanging out with older women they may very well introduce you to their y…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/20 03:54 PM
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I think this depends on what the goals of your relationship are. If you want to be with this man long term, or potentially marry him, then you are going to want to agree on core opinions and values in my opinion. Love will change, and may very well become less romantic over time, but if you agree on the same foundational beliefs and values then you will always have that as a foundation. It might be hard to break it off now if that's what you decide, but it's not any better to break it off when y…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 08:18 PM
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I think this depends on what the goals of your relationship are. If you want to be with this man long term, or potentially marry him, then you are going to want to agree on core opinions and values in my opinion. Love will change, and may very well become less romantic over time, but if you agree on the same foundational beliefs and values then you will always have that as a foundation. It might be hard to break it off now if that's what you decide, but it's not any better to break it off when y…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 04:52 AM
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