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Thank you, five-day old account. I’m sure you are interested in genuine discussion on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:26 PM
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Many men are drastically out of shape (in the USA, at least), so revealing more is usually revealing more of their poorly shaped and unflattering body. Most women are out of shape too. However, fitness isn’t as much of a sexual selection criteria for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 02:45 PM
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Now I see why people cheat. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 04:16 AM
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It’s insecurity. 99% of people jerk off, go to sleep, and don’t think anything of it. It’s crazy mofos that have an existential crisis over it. Some people are capable of separating fantasy from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 04:06 AM
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If she wants to wait years and you don’t, just break up lol. Waste of my time and hers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:06 PM
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Tanking their ELO and wondering why they get no matches. 🤔 It’s not because they’re ugly. The app just assumes they’re a bot lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 01:27 PM
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Idk what post OP found. But the one I saw, OP was getting cooked.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 02:05 PM
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Most regular men are wanted though. They just aren’t explicitly demanded by the small cadre of instagram thots and tradwives that populate their social feeds through thirst traps and podcast appearances. And even still when that minority of women speaks on what they actually want, they’re called liars by the hosts. Accused of hypergamy and cheating. Again, this may by true for an extremely small minority of women. One out of every ten thousand women quite literally. Online dating might expose yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 02:56 PM
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The deeply seeded issue of this forum is attributed to the social competitiveness of men: many men want hot girlfriends that other men envy. The average “normie” will simply accept their dealt hand and date someone who finds them attractive, even if they may not be conventionally attractive. The men of this forum leaning red/black pill want other men to crane their necks and question their own choices in mate with the girl on their arm. That’s why the red pill emphasize building wealth and body.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 01:50 PM
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Currently it’s the men that are underqualified because of backslidingn in higher education. That’s why they aren’t getting these jobs. It’s not because of a diverse pool of candidates, it’s because they’re not in the fuckin pool to begin with because they don’t have a degree or the academic credentials.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:26 PM
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I got you. The more you actually hold a man accountable or anything, the more likely he is to kill you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 01:28 PM
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Bro. This mindset is not reality. Be reasonable. Most women date regular dudes. They don’t enjoy being treated poorly. Do some women tolerate it? Absolutely. But that is a small amount of women. I’ve seen all types of men see success. But one common thread is that they were genuinely nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 12:47 PM
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Nah bro. Honeymoon phases of relationships have consisted of my gf trying to grind my dick into a nub 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:13 PM
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It’s not preferential if you don’t want it. Majority of women don’t like context-free sexual hookups. It’s not considered a benefit to them. Men have “none” (online) because of the above plus the compounding issue of dating apps being massively rigged to provide profit: not matches or connections. Their motivation is to give you the barest minimum amount of likes to keep you swiping on their ads. In real life, I believe the dating scene is a lot more favorable to the average guy. It’s just harde…
/r/ExRedPill20/11/23 10:51 PM
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OP has the gall to call the man a chump. He’s banging ur mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:48 PM
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I’m gonna generalize pretty hard here but I’m gonna have a bro-to-bro moment with you: Many women, dare I say, most women don’t feel that way in particular about anyone. As in, there is almost no threshold at which the power of pure horny and pure horny alone can spur them into bed. If you are a man, then this can be considered our “burden” so to speak. You have testosterone in your system. In your eyes, you may not feel like the burning object of desire in a relationship because your desire isn…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 05:16 PM
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It sounds like you have experiences though. You’ve experienced partners. It sounds like you want to feel purely desired on a carnal level.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 02:15 PM
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Quite the opposite, honestly. Many women don’t value sex at that level because it is really easy for them to get. They reserve relationships for the men they actually care about. It’s not a consolation prize—it’s the prize. Have you bonded with partners about sex? There are quite a few women who do like it a lot but prefer having a single partner. Find a woman who likes sex a lot. They could go sleep with any random dude—he could even be pretty hot. But chemistry and compatibility are no guarant…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 01:25 PM
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OP: a relationship will always be infinitely better for exploring your sexuality. Random sex was always awkward and kinda terrible. This is coming from a fuckboi who has retired his ways. It really isn’t nearly as nice as you think. Having a partner you like will always beat out random sex by a long shot.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 01:06 PM
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Ex fuckboi chiming in. The secret ingredient is lying.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 01:02 PM
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Honestly it was a relatively chill debate sub until the explosion of the incel movement. It was kind of a zeitgeist on Reddit: Incels had a whole subreddit, which later became braincels until permanent ban. Blackpill rhetoric was a ton more prevalent here. The discourse at the time had a ton more open and blatant vitriol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:00 PM
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You’re getting a heavily sanitized version of what this place used to be lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 09:32 PM
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Did you ask the girl you were texting out on a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:39 AM
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I prefer solo work 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:16 PM
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Eh I use it to kill time at work. Some people love to argue. Myself included. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 11:42 AM
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I’ve let women shaped like that ruin my life. Multiple times. Was worth it. 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 06:36 PM
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Pretty women have intrinsic value. Other women have neutral to negative value.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:32 PM
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The previous post was narrow—well what the fuck is this? It looks like the only women you see are pornstars and Tiktok thots.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:56 PM
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Worked in a factory. Can confirm, gf loved my “factory arms.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:10 PM
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Will could drop her and date literally anyone on Earth my dude. I think they just got some freaky shit going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:47 PM
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It was overrated. Long term relationships are infinitely better. I legit have felt used for dick sometimes and it’s not as good as you’d think.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 09:06 PM
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The fact she has so many examples is part of the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 12:45 PM
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It’s all about perspective. If she does leave: bullet dodged. You’re no longer dating some narcissist, cheating prick. This is a good thing, you know that right? If all it takes is a little attention to betray someone you claim to love, your self worth is just low. It doesn’t matter how hot the other person is. To devalue your partner is to admit you that don’t value yourself to begin with. The person who did this to me had extremely low self worth. I would try and encourage her to speak more ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:49 PM
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Honestly, going about my life as normal seems to work. She’s the one with the weird problems and insecurities—not me. I’m good. The revenge stuff gets old after a certain age and you never really feel good about hurting anyone. Even if they did “deserve it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 03:16 PM
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I went to school with old money. Most of the women (even the very attractive women) choose to work, pursue post secondary education and achievement. Why? Because they have the opportunity to do so. Their parents instilled in them the desire to seek their own success. The idea that a single person should provide is mostly perpetuated by lower income folks. The old money kids are working and trying to get on their parents levels at the very least. They’re savvy to the change in economics and are a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 03:39 PM
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OP discovers the degeneracy of men. When I say our gender will fuck anything, I mean anything. There is literally no inanimate object or creature that some desperate human male hasn’t tried to fuck. Key word is fuck. Not date. Women 99.999999999% of the time do not want to just fuck random men. No matter how attractive. They. Do. Not. Like. Sex. With. Random. Men. It is not fulfilling to them. Sex is often less pleasurable in general. Many women would prefer a partner with whom they connect with…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 06:50 PM
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Lol. No. Dinner is the easiest play. Source: reformed fuckboi
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 06:26 PM
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No it doesn’t. It’s just sex. I’ve been having is since I was 16 (not bragging, trying to make a point). The physical sensation literally doesn’t feel any different with a virgin than it does someone experienced. In fact, someone experienced will know what to do in order to make it feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:22 AM
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Nursing. I could fucking never. When you consider the fact that you will see every type of fluid or excretion—nope nope nope. Teaching. Specifically elementary education. Kids are shits. Childcare workers. Screaming kids is your 9-5. A lot of jobs requiring care seem to have a higher representation of women. Friend of mine works in a halfway house and cares for the disabled. Imagine some old 65 year old lady screaming like a banshee for hours for no discernible reason. I simply could never.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:53 PM
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Imagine I date a girl who is…just not smart. Same age, caring personality, and even compatible but just kinda ditzy. Is that exploitative? The potential for manipulation is there, is it not? I could potentially comfortably lie and manipulate. I most likely have a higher income. People are more likely to believe me at my word than her. Let’s say I own our domicile. If most of the chips are stacked in my favor, would this relationship be exploitative?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:55 PM
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Nah bro, they exist. You gotta stay looking for em. Side effect is usually a bit of instability, tho. Relationship could be turbulent.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 08:08 AM
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Ex best friend (don’t fucking do this) 25-26 We fucked like rabbits, dated, and it got awkward afterwards. Never the same. We’re cordial but you can tell damage was done. Could be me, could be her. Either way—case closed and lesson learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 08:05 AM
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They are also more likely to be murdered. Not saying you or I would do it but those are the facts. You underestimate how much stronger men are, on average. That counts for more than you’d think.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 07:59 AM
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My guy, I’ve been actively talking to women 6’0+ for years. You can believe what you want—plenty of short men have plenty of partners. I’ve seen a brokeass 5’4 dude slay all throughout college. Inexplicably girls would gravitate to him. Some people fall upwards lmao. 🤷🏾‍♂️ Not saying it isn’t a bit harder difficulty but many adjust and many succeed. Not everyone is that damn superficial—that’s why I think RP is projecting male mate selection criterion onto women. You see the women you want datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 09:37 PM
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Unless you live in the Netherlands, I doubt this is the case. Every other short guy I know is either long term or married for years at this point and I’m in my late 20’s. You’re selectively paying attention to couples with a taller man, most likely. I see all types of men with all types of women. Do some men garner more superficial attention? Sure. But that attention is usually fleeting—not the overwhelming biological impetus that RP makes it out to be. I’ve had exes date chiseled, tall men afte…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 07:34 PM
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They’re all over my dude. Gotta touch grass. Go outside. Walk at the park. Go out to the bar. Life is too short for fucks to be given away for free. The moment you break free from the chains of seeking validation from others the better off you’ll be.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 06:43 PM
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I will say this again and again: the women who fixate on height are most likely not the ones you want to date anyways. Normal people do not give nearly as much of a fuck about it as these social media lunatics.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 06:30 PM
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If she asked, I’d say I did. I mean tbh that whole “experimental” phase only just reinforced that I am painfully straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 07:11 PM
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Not even bro. I’ve had two partners cheat. The guy was objectively uglier in both situations. One guy was an unemployed abuser. And I’m not a shallow man. It stemmed from the absolutely pummeled self esteem and mental health issues. Back before I treated my bipolar disorder I participated in hellish amounts of self sabotage and philandering. Blamed it on the recent trauma of the time. My self esteem was rock bottom and I tried to bury it in meaningless hookups to feed my validation. Guess what? …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 05:49 PM
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Not at all. Many of us are struggling to get into relationships with people we find attractive though, lol. Big time. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:23 PM
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If she doesn’t wanna smash on a regular basis, she is the wrong one for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:52 PM
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If I like her and she feels comfortable enough to get naked, I don’t think it matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:08 PM
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Seconded, I have some coworkers with families. (Mostly women). None of them are beauty queens and their husbands are always around the same level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 06:00 PM
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The most disheartening thing is how fuckin BLAND the profiles are. Hunting, fishing—next. Country music, beer—next. Christ comes first—god, no. I know I’m in the South but goddamn it feels like swiping on the same profile 20 million times.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:58 PM
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The projects are socioeconomic hell lmao. Our city recently demolished them because of the absolute shitshow they were. Nowadays they rent local apartments and mingle the socioeconomically disadvantaged with the more advantaged. That way they can have more stability and safety. An impoverished mindset is a thing. And projects create a culture of poverty. It’s a complex social dilemma but the new housing system seems to break more families out of the cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:45 PM
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That’s the best description of it. They kinda want to sit back a bit and let you make all of their life decisions. But you want someone to walk side by side.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 09:46 PM
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Having a job is a good cure for this. Look around you: normal looking folks. Nobody is a supermodel, more than likely. People aren’t evaluated on their looks at work—but their professionalism and execution. These regular folks are living their lives. Many even have families and are not even aware that red pill/black pill/any of this shit even exists. Folks just living their lives. It’s best sometimes to take a page and just allow yourself to life free without the mental shackles of these toxic i…
/r/ExRedPill22/12/22 03:13 PM
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Attractiveness is a very narrow definition. Some of the hottest people from my youth grew to be some of the most unattractive. Once generics kick in, once age kicks in, stuff can change.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/22 12:43 PM
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Men act as if they can’t easily get laid either. And honestly after 25 the question is irrelevant. People have dated around and tried different things. The only people who really care all that much are high school/college aged bracket.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 03:59 PM
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Here’s how non monogamy went for me. She wanted to be open. Fine. Gauntlet is cast. She hooks up with her guy she wanted for whatever. I meet a girl after a couple of weeks and open up a can of long term monogamy. Become exclusive. Ex’s hookup guy ghosts after a few weeks. I lowkey take new girl on all the dates my ex wanted. Post cute updates on socials. Pics together. Trips together. Cook for her etc. I move on with my new, hotter gf. Happy ending!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 04:06 AM
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I’ve dated 3 girls over 6 feet bro. If it’s an evolution thing then they wouldn’t have even looked my way now would they? It’s not that all girls care about height. The shallow hoes you want do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:56 AM
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Universal? Nah man. I crushed on this girl who picked the 5’4 nerdy hobbit looking guy. I think the inclination for tall guys is more social than anything. We’ve portrayed tall men as “heroic” and full of positive traits. Recently we’ve become more culturally aware but there’s definitely invisible biases that were embedded into western culture and media. I don’t think evolution has anything to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:57 PM
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It’s not even a question of appearance. Some people like different flavors of people. That goth girl probably wants the tattoo artist rather than the corporate accountant. The outdoorsy guy probably doesn’t want the gamer girl. Outside factors matter as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 02:01 PM
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This question is loaded. My brother—I see many men of all appearances getting the ass thrown at them. My ex fell for a 5’5 dude. He wasn’t an Adonis or rich. He like Kingdom Hearts. She was obsessed. Average af. Compatibility is just not a thing in Red Pill is it? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 12:26 PM
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Most relationships with massive age gaps are predicated on appearances, money, and power dynamics. All three of these ruin relationships the hardest and in the worst ways: leaving the door open for abuse and manipulation. So why would women assume men who are willing to participate in these have good intentions? It definitely casts a negative projection of his value system.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 04:44 PM
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Real talk: it can be awkward after a breakup. We kinda drifted apart after it all. But the sex was insane tho. Absolutely worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:23 PM
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Nah. It isn’t just sex. Realistically, many men can acquire it from women: it just may not be the women you want or were trained to want. The reality of Red Pill is that it is about men wanting the top 10% of women. That blonde, curvy, IG model. Think of how many RedPill guys shit on unattractive women. Kevin Samuels made a living off that shit. It’s an ideal perpetuated by men. Be muscular, be successful, bang hot women. And suddenly life is solved. It’s complete bullshit. You’re letting some d…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:25 PM
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I think men need to get out of these weird extreme niche spaces. My extreme leftist groups made me depressed. My roommate browsing 4Chan made him depressed. The common threads? Nihilism and extremism. Despair is a shockingly seductive drug. That’s why the black pill took off—it takes no cost to start but you can get high on it all day. LDAR wasn’t invented by the incels nor is it an exclusive practice. I’ve done it and it feels good to feel bad. My problem with the RP approach to galvanize men i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 04:42 PM
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The hyperangry dudes bemoaning wokeness are usually the socially stunted outliers who spend far too much time on the internet. They worship a world of old that would’ve likely chewed them up and spit them out. The 90’s were conservative: Democrats ran on stronger jail sentences and restricting immigration, for example. Some Democrats even openly used homophobic rhetoric. In that decade, convening in chat rooms about how you can’t get laid would make you even more of a loser than you are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:54 PM
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Capitalism
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:18 PM
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For you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 12:42 PM
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I mean—I kinda get it. Imagine having to trawl through a bunch of profiles of people only interested because tall. Is it any different from a girl with large boobs getting interest because of a single physical feature? Relationships based on shallow premises are almost always doomed. “Oh but he has options to fuck.” Casual sex is a lot less of the magic pill RP claims it to be. It never cured my social anxiety or depression. Therapy, diet, and a proper sleep schedule went a lot further than chas…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:28 PM
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It was a joke. I forget to use /s.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:47 PM
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Spotted the non American. Sorry you live in a civilized country lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 01:23 PM
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Girl friends I’ve talked to say Tinder is dead. Don’t bother bc they’re not using it, basically. Hinge is the new wave.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 11:07 AM
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How am I sleeping if I had already been there with her? As if my dick was just stationary during the years long relationship. Do guys here think that a relationship puts your dick into stasis? To top it all off, she was the one that approached me to begin the relationship. I’m wide awake dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:43 PM
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Hot racist/sexist/whatever women would probably lap him a thousand times over, though. The numbers on the apps are majorly skewed and have been for a long time. My ex dated this hot, ripped military dude after we decided on a mutual split. Absolutely jacked, tall, etc. I was much more insecure at the time and asked her why she’d even date me to begin with if that’s what she wanted. She said that she liked me because I am me. New guy was hot but she said it felt empty in comparison to someone she…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:14 PM
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That dudes are more capable of molding their image than they think. Looks play a factor but a decent hygienic routine, a decent haircut, and fashion sense are a larger factor than dudes here seem to think. When I look like I smell good: women pay attention. When I look like I just rolled out of bed and my routine has been lacking: no attention. I’ve even been approached at bars by women. Not all want to smash but receiving a compliment on your fit can gas you up for a hot minute.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:39 PM
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Same experience here, man. I have been consistently introverted and broke as shit but somehow I’m not doing half bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:04 PM
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Selection bias: I feel like most women would sniff out that he’s a bot/fake profile, imo. The interactions we see are the type of people that would get fooled by bots/fake profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:57 PM
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Honestly, it’s because a lot of dialogue is unspoken. Body language is part of that unspoken dialogue and the inability to properly read others and yourself can create an awkward dissonance that can be off-putting to those unaware of your neurological state. Not merely body language but the tone or even the cadence of your speech can communicate infinitely more quickly than the actual words you produce.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:06 PM
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It was actually so much better, lol. I definitely think all these perceived issues are literally just the ratio of men to women on the apps now. Probably close to 9-1 on Tinder factoring in the bots/scams/IG follower fishing. Think about it: by the time Tinder hit the general public (outside of college campuses), the well had already been poisoned by dudes flinging dick pics every which way. On top of that, you get this wave of bummy-ass men just hearing about a hookup app and flooding it. Male …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:44 PM
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The problem is men, imo. This is coming from one. I’ve always had more women friends because of the absolute stupidity and social ineptitude of most men. A lot of men lack higher education. Guess what an increasing amount of women have? Women don’t want to date a dumbfuck. Yes, even a hot dumbfuck. I’ve seen athletes get rejected—championship ring on and all. I went to a big football school. This is coming from one of your own: I’m not at all shocked y’all are having it rough. Sucks to suck. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 07:33 PM
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Grass is greener. Women get sex but typically want a relationship. Men get relationships but want NSA sex. Guys here need to realize that’s a powerful place. Relationships have always been infinitely better than random sex. They don’t listen and wanna chase Tinder thots. 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:26 PM
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Famous women could date any tall, hot man they wanted. Red and black pills both consider hypergamy a major facet of average women—so it applies to famous women, surely. So why Pete? He’s a rebound, sure. But they could load up IG and answer any one of the literal million of DMs they get. Many probably from rich, jacked, gigachad looking dudes. But they date the nerdy comedian. Why do you suppose that is? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:48 AM
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My dude. I am broke as shit and built like a beanpole. My job is ok. My bank account is doing nothing to any panties. My jawline was described as “weak” by an ex. My car is a crappy Toyota. So what do you think the secret is?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:39 AM
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I am 5’6, with awful cystic acne that often creates large pustules on my face that bleed and leave permanent scarring. If I can convince a girl to date, then I have faith in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:55 AM
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Are you assuming celebrity women don’t have access to other huge cocks attached to objectively hot 7 foot tall athletes? They have access to pretty much whoever they want. Kim K is a billionaire and is widely considered physically attractive. She could date 10 dudes simultaneously if she wanted. The draw has to be something else besides purely physical traits. Think of hot people as perfectly cooked chicken. Personality is the seasoning. Without seasoning, the chicken isn’t even half as great as…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:13 AM
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Pete Davidson is tall but the guy isn’t a gigachad by any means. Sure, he does comedy but still—something draws beautiful ladies in. You don’t think arianna Grande couldn’t date someone else? Kim K could probably buy herself a hot guy at this point—so what else is there left in the equation? Confidence. He’s got style. He’s got self awareness. There are many more factors than just appearance. Take time from the apps—they are nigh useless for almost everyone. I’ll use myself: I have horrid, cysti…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:04 AM
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I believe that we blame things on each other (gender-wise) rather than the death by a thousand cuts caused by social media, online dating, an ailing global economy and the further stratification of partnerships. “Pick better” is just pragmatic advice for anyone pursuing romance under these conditions. People talk about dating being a market—well, market conditions are rough right now. I think the issue is that people don’t want to feel left out—if they have access to potentially willing partners…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:21 AM
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Nah dude. I have somewhat extensive experience. I am 5’8. Dated 3 girls that were 5’11+. They really don’t care as much as you’d think. I’ve gone on dates with a surprising amount of tall ladies—they seem more open than shorter women lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:06 AM
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I like the one that just says “7th street.”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:11 PM
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Two of these literally say psych ward. One says AA. The fuck you expect? The first chick has tiktok videos of her in a 2 inch long top that says “Come on Daddy.” Are you expecting fervent celibacy???
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:03 PM
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I KNOW RIGHT?!? Not enough questions here
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 11:39 AM
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I prefer time to myself. The whole needing someone else there for gratification is something I cared about more when I was 19-25 and insecure af. Back then my solution was simple: ABC. Always be cheating. If you want to preserve your perceived “sexual value” and immediately drown in someone else? Cheat. Line people up. Never stop flirting. Now I see how fucked it is for all parties and genuinely enjoy taking time for myself. I feel healthier overall and my mental state has drastically improved t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:12 AM
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You don’t like the same type of people when you’re 20 versus when you’re 30. People usually fuck around when they’re young and go for more serious partners when they’re older. There ain’t much more to it than that. The biological clock scenario still means she wants to pass your genes and not the hot guy’s. “Oh no! She wants to be with me and carry my child for 9 months because she sees safety, compassion, and stability instead of raw sexual attraction. 😭” If you’re in that position and swinging…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:27 PM
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Bro. This is dumb shit. Genuinely. Say you have any slight basis in reality—she used to date “hot” and now she doesn’t want that anymore. That’s called growing up. But this doesn’t discount the fact that a shitload of women—even promiscuous women—go for regular looking dudes. This sub always assumes casual sex with hot men is like some kind of drug that women are frothing over with instant immediate access because of apps like Tinder. Most women I know hate that app. Tons would choose personalit…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:49 AM
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Most men aren’t attracted to most women either. Think of the lunch lady, cashier, janitors, or all the women you literally have forgotten about the moment you look away from them. You fixate on a pretty girl because that is a RARE experience. There are probably 100 women you literally don’t look or think anything about for every one cute-ass girl. Of course it depends on your location but I guarantee—your eyes will fixate on one out of probably 10 or 20 women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:19 PM
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Critical hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:05 PM
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The girls he obsesses over have that many followers. He’s talking about the hottest girl in school as if he had a realistic chance. Shallow people are shallow. Nothing new here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 11:48 PM
2

Who do you think most men here have within their social groups? And even when I was with more mainstream-calibrated men (i was in a fraternity, for example) I still did a lot less than when I was solo. We had cute girls over but I don’t mesh well with the average sorority girl, so it wasn’t particularly fruitful in that regard. I’m more of a tattoos and punk rock kinda guy. I feel like a large portion of dudes are socially awkward by default tbh. I’ve struggled talking to men because of how stup…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:01 PM
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❗️(but forreal that’s hilarious.)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:17 AM
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People say social circles and friends are a good opportunity to meet people to date but I beg to differ: I feel like I didn’t get anything but shit from my friends whenever I tried to connect with people. Whereas when I finally broke off, starting using apps and rolling solo, I had success. College especially. Without the shackles of a bunch of socially awkward doofuses, I actually got somewhere. If your friends are weird and awkward, they will do you more harm than good in a lot of cases. Anyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:39 AM
1

He catfished and you still followed through?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:12 AM
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I’m not huge on astrology myself. But I’d humor a partner that was into it because it gives her a bit of joy. I mean nobody I’ve known took it horribly seriously. I mean—gives you another topic of conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:42 PM
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Man I am aggressively average. 5’7. Black. Skinny af. Never had a problem talking to girls after puberty. My observation: the issue is dudes are socially morons. Most of my friends have been women because most men can barely string together an engaging conversation. Example, I play video games. I’ve joined random LFG (looking for groups) and many of the men there will sit there silent, maybe mutter a couple words. They create no rapport with a squad. Trying to spark friendship is like trying to …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:50 PM
3

Being…tall? What you talking about bruh?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 11:53 AM
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My friend is living with her uncle, who is recently divorced. He is an alcoholic, fat, aggressive, and an asshole overall. If I told you how many times he left pots cooking on the stove overnight, never fucking does the dishes, or contributes in any meaningful way other than barging into my friends room at 9PM and asking her to do it (she goes to sleep at like 8 so she can hit the gym early, so he disregards her space and time as well), you’d understand that there are millions of complacent, unc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 01:23 PM
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My ex was devastated that I took another girl on a date when we did the whole poly thing. She fucked another guy—I gotta just deal. But take another girl to ice cream and it’s Armageddon.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:10 PM
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Yes. It sucks. Don’t do it. Granted, I was actually more successful than my ex gf, who preferred to take it slow. But I determined that I enjoy investing my efforts into one person. Monogamy is my jam.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:07 PM
2

Yes dude. Get off that shit ASAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:33 AM
3

I just quit vaping this past weekend man. It’s actually easier than you think. Slap on a nicotine patch, buy yourself some peppermints. I’ve even been hitting the gym for good measure. It ain’t all lost. You got this 💪🏿
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 03:08 PM
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This was a very good post. And it perfectly illustrates the disconnect a lot of dudes have. They want to be first. As in the first choice, if not the only choice. But who is to say that she wants to date that Captain America dude or anyone like that again? If she wanted to date some tall handsome buff dude again, she could hop on tinder and make it happen again, almost certainly. She did it before, no? I’ve had exes that have done it post breakup. Gone after super tall hot dudes and it really is…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:27 PM
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Wait wait wait. Have you gone outside tho bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:46 PM
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Dudes do this then complain about not getting laid tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 02:06 PM
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That’s literally just nightclubs lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 12:56 PM
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The average dude in this sub could probably date and be in a relationship. But that’s not what you want—you want the girl that makes everyone’s head turn. You want other men to be envious of you. This isn’t about the woman in the equation at all—it is about how we implicitly link achievement and social status to the appearance of the women we date. This post by OP is the latest in the subsequent lamentations of men who feel left out of dating a beautiful woman™️. If you think shelling out hundre…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 12:57 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:10 PM
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Asked a friend if I could bang her friend. She asked and the girl said “yeah.” My friend even hung out with us and drank until we felt comfortable. My friend was a real one, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:56 AM
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You provided no evidence of your own as counterexamples. Find me a billionaire that didn’t begin within the millionaire class and shake the self righteous posturing. That doesn’t function as an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:45 PM
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You want to talk about the apex fallacy in this sub? You still haven’t given me a fuckin crumb of anything worth reading. You have to simp for billionaires? I’m not even sure what your purpose here is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:20 PM
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So I should now find an exception to the counter examples I provided? My word.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 10:52 PM
0

The American dream was Hollywood propagandist bullshit to distract the masses from the fact that the reason there was a surplus in affordability was because they were essentially extracting free labor from women and minorities. Now the modern era is about seeing the wheels fall off of the decrepit machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:23 PM
1

Zuckerberg’s family was well off enough to own property in New York and send their kids to Harvard Law. Bezos’s parents lended him multiple $100K loans.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:20 PM
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Bill Gates’ mom was on the Board of Directors at IBM. Apple never falls far.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:17 PM
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Nah—average dudes need to stop thinking they’ll get a 10/10 privileged-ass beauty queen for being the protagonist of their lives. Most average girls know their range and don’t even bother with hot fuckboys, despite what RP says. “Unremarkable 5’9” is the most likely candidate for smashing her to sleep tonight.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:43 AM
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I felt the lowest I ever felt during that period of time. Present day, I haven’t gotten laid in about a year. However, I’ve felt the most confident that I’ve ever felt in my entire adult life. It’s about just taking time to care for and respect yourself. Getting enough sleep. Eating healthy. I feel damn good compared to then.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:39 PM
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That’s why I consider myself closer to blue on the “pilled” spectrum. To me, red pill seems to apply men’s internal, ruthless sexual framework onto women. I’ve found a lot of women just don’t operate like that. Even though they could have miles of hot guy dick: they wind up with some goofy ass looking dude and love him. I’ve dated legit head-turning women that didn’t believe that Chad attention was good attention. It wasn’t the attention they wanted. The women wanted to feel genuinely loved and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:32 PM
3

Rigorously screen your partners. However, keep this in mind: it wasn’t necessarily a secret. Dating culture at my university was an absolute travesty. It was a party school, so cheating (and alcohol) was every fucking where you looked. Not just men and not just straight folks either. Where there’s parties—there’s cheating. It was the most brutal dating scene you could ever imagine. You could watch your girlfriend of years literally being stolen from you and watch the other guy be given props for…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:14 PM
0

Could be that she doesn’t like having sex that often. If she is the proverbial girl of your dreams widowed by Chad dick, then she has a low n count, yes? With Chad being the exception. If you want someone who prioritizes sex and will put out first date, you’ll need to date someone who likes sex. Experienced women. Also waiting isn’t always bad. One thing a girl can do is let you know that they want to bang you but not tonight. Best of both worlds. They get to move a bit more carefully while lett…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:49 PM
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Nah man. Blue dudes already know. Who do you think slaps a high n-count woman with a relationship? In my experience, sex always happened early and we continued from there. Idk where y’all find these elusive women who hide their number. Most have told me out the gate, you all just don’t speak the language of degenerates.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:29 PM
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I’m gonna go against the grain—I used to cheat nearly every single relationship back when I first became active in relationships. (Probably around ages 17-22). I genuinely had no concept of how much it hurt others because I reasoned that their pain could never amount to my personal pain (lost very close family in that time period), so I felt it was justified back then. I never considered how much it fucked up me, my exes, or even my friendships. I was addicted to the validation, my newfound luck…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:38 PM
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Reagan
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:16 PM
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Tax rate used to be 70% for ultra wealthy and somehow we climbed out of the Great Depression. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:06 PM
2

I knew a college freshman that hit that in literally two months. (One dude a day for MONTHS—then multiple men a day.) Shes been triple digits before turning 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 01:55 PM
2

Cut his hair. Wear lighter colors so his paleness doesn’t show. Shave his chin—the hair rounding at the bottom does him no favors. Then maybe a diet—but some girls are into chubbier dudes so it depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:37 PM
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You don’t think any guys fall in the “Chad”/top 20% category? I’m curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:51 AM
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The whole “tinder oh wow I can fuck whoever I want” thing gets old. At least with regards to my own friends. If you value sex, then find someone that values sex. I’ve mostly kept female friends through gaming/school/etc mostly because they’re more chill and less socially weird. Male social circles that I’ve hung with always seem to exclude every girl present with unquestionably weird-ass energy. Be they nerds or jocks—soooooo many dudes are fucking oblivious to social cues and nonverbal communic…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 11:51 PM
2

Also the open mouth smile is just not appealing. That’s not soy—that’s just dudes trying to look less threatening.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:55 PM
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You gotta remember that a lot of old video of the armed forces were selected BECAUSE THEY WERE GOOD LOOKING. You think Germany was gonna show their most raggedy looking troops in the throes of battle or fatigue? Hell no. The point was to associate the army with being Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:54 PM
1

Your parents are 100% correct. Never abide by violence. I think the Red Pill is mainly reactionary. A lot of dudes feel disgruntled about dating and how it’s moving towards much more shallow and appearance-based mediums. I get that but the problem I see with it is the sweeping generalizations. Do girls have an easier time with getting raw quantities of matches? Absolutely. That doesn’t make every single girl on there a whore/slut/whatever. That doesn’t make women’s behavior completely monolithic…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:32 AM
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I feel like I’ve been setting bundles of sticks all over this sub. I’ve openly claimed to prefer high n-count women and didn’t get nearly as much pushback as I thought I would. These folks seem a lot more chill than you’d think.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:41 PM
2

This man is unstoppable. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:15 PM
3

I might run this alt as my main on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:03 PM
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Too much dark red/blackpill. Y’all need to hop off that shit—it’s not productive. You can get laid—she may not be a movie star but neither are you. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:37 PM
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I mean—I have dated high N count and it wasn’t much different. It literally is compatibility. Degenerates wanting degenerates. I have experience, I’d prefer her to have experience. I don’t want someone that’s a noob at sex to save my ego. I’m also into doing more non vanilla shit—which is selected for usually with dating higher count folks. Can the girls get around? Sure. But I have too—and I have the ability to take it further than that. Full blown relationships are where the real shit goes dow…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:39 PM
1

Guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:13 PM
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Idk dude. My gf is short af. I’ve asked her about it and she literally doesn’t give a shit. I’m 5’6. I’ve dated and hooked up with girls 6’+.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:08 PM
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This is why you don’t date redditors lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 06:10 PM
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