smartierthanthou Archive

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3	Lazy/useless men & the 'Why should I? It's my time' mentality. The system only works if we devalue our own time as much as they do. My dad is similar, I do care about him, but he feels entitled to my time and that his needs are more important than mine are. Even though he never took care of himself, I'm somehow supposed to prioritize him over my own well being. A sad alcoholic man baby towards the end of his life, but I'm supposed to do free work for his start up business instead of running my own, already successful one. Honor yourself!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/04/22 01:29 PM
14	Lazy/useless men & the 'Why should I? It's my time' mentality. If it's so important to your father, why doesn't your brother meet all of his needs? I'm sorry for your mom, but hold the line! My dad is starting to feel the consequences of decades of his own bad choices, and it's not my job to make those consequences more comfortable for him.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/22 01:16 PM
240	In defense of being a “square.” My take on “corny” Russell Wilson and Ciara I feel like these men want beautiful and successful women to choose disrespect and chaos instead of peace and security. They want us to feel crazy and gaslit, being constantly on edge and insecure. They feel like they have control then. How many kids with how many women does Future have now, anyway? Oh, no... guess I'm "settling" for the fit, rich, caring NFL quarterback who's a good father and example to his children.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/04/22 11:31 PM
87	Men saying that women go on dates for free food is them admitting that they have nothing else to offer. Where do you go to get coffee where you don't pay first?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/04/22 04:08 PM
13	Scrote wants his mortgage paid off Not to mention that she would be paying taxes, PLUS penalty, for the privilege of paying off his mortgage, all so he doesn't have to pay the bank interest. What people don't consider besides the investments generating growth over time, you always pay less in taxes when you're living off of your investments, so you're paying at a lower rate. Her cashing out of her 401k means that she's losing a third of her net worth (or at least her stock value) before anything else happens. It's outrageously ex…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/03/22 03:20 PM
5	Warning ⚠️ Some red-pill guys have started adopting FDS lingo They do realize that we get to decide what "HVM" means to us, right? Should some one tell them that we vet actions, not words?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/22 02:14 AM
14	No second date, so he wants money "What I was going to suggest instead getting to know each other better, we just use each other for commitment free sex at my house. I definitely felt a physical connection with you." Block and delete.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/22 01:50 AM
25	Negs her, calls her response a meltdown, asks reddit if he is wrong or if she is overreacting. A calm and succinct message, no less!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/01/22 04:14 PM
1	It's official. This is the most HVM I've ever seen I loved this movie as well. The soundtrack is gorgeous!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/01/22 01:10 AM
6	Oxfam charity after being found out protecting MALE woman and child rapists decide to blame women, especially white women for males’ actions. Men’s rights subreddits silent on this subject of course. Oxfam charity supports rape and hates White women. Obviously, it benefits women of color if they don't report their rapists either. Especially if the rapist was also a POC, because it would be their responsibility if the police were violent to them. Basically, reporting rape is the real problem and if feminists could just SHUT UP for a minute, you females could get somewhere on the institutional racism that men built into every level of society that serves them. Also, OxFam has had multiple scandals with sexual assault of vulnerable people of co…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/06/21 03:00 PM
12	Translation: Don’t be offended when I say something rude or mean "I care enough about men's opinions that I perform basic civility, but I do not care about women's, so I expect you to validate my amazing authenticity after I hurt your feelings."	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/06/21 12:34 PM
116	Another woman is not yours to “offer” or “give” 🤮 Nah, she's a groomer and procurer. I seriously doubt she offered to pay her employee for the after-hours show. She's the Ghislaine to his Epstein. She gives him legitimacy and cover. God knows what she gets out of it, but she's definitely willing to coerce a younger woman who they trust enough to watch their children into that kind of situation. You'd better believe that they would throw the younger girl under the bus if she told the neighborhood on them to protect other babysitters from sexual …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 03:27 PM
96	Another woman is not yours to “offer” or “give” 🤮 Younger women exist as menu flavors to entice and stimulate older men and his wife is the sommelier.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 01:08 PM
19	FDS principles lands on a political news channel. A few FDS’ers in the comments defending this woman for setting standards. So many complaining dinner is expensive and she’s a gold digger for the bare minimum. Because it's a fun pastime on the internet to punch down on women living their own lives. It gets great views and perpetuates the patriarchy, plus the only people who will notice and complain are women, and then you can call them Karen's and mock them too.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 12:49 PM
22	What exactly do MRAs think would happen if men started getting custody all the time? I'm just trying to imagine a society with the average man being responsible for raising the next generation.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/05/21 12:34 PM
5	Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!! I'm trying to imagine the military ignoring a mess in the barracks during something really exhausting like basic training. Yeah, NOPE! You're an adult, you clean up after yourself. You certainly don't expect your partner to clean up after you OR live and work in your filth.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/21 07:06 PM
5	Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!! Mind you, he's expecting her to work and study and live around his mess while she's in their home. He's only working outside of the home for a part time job in the morning. Her can't manage to load the dishwasher while he's watching a prerecorded class?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/21 06:54 PM
8	Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!! So, he expects her to live, work, eat, and breathe around his mess even though she's doing three times as much paid labor (full time job + part time job vs. part time physical job that probably doesn't pay as well) and at least twice as much education at a doctoral level vs. his two hour long classes in community college, conveniently AT HOME where you can magically get twice as much done and never be EXHAUSTED. He should look out before she finds a roommate that actually brings something to the…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/21 06:52 PM
10	Defining GF and Wife Benefits I would suggest framing this conversation in terms of what benefits do YOU receive from this boyfriend or husband having that status in your life? Does he improve your wealth, health, happiness, pleasure and safety? Is he trustworthy and kind? Attentive to your needs? If he's not knocking ALL of these out of the park, why would you commit to him? I think of it like you were starting a business with a partner, just to keep your head and heart clear about it. Not because it's strictly a business t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/03/21 01:54 PM
1	To ladies who DO NOT make six figures, don't date for money. A wife is an incredible " asset", right? The whole system is set up to exploit us, presumably to protect your "assets" from the violence of other men. The women in my life, my mom especially, have been the biggest enforcers of the patriarchy. The men are entitled, sure, but mostly oblivious to why the system has made them so comfortable or why women might be upset at the arrangement in exchange for a token of appreciation and a headpat of approval for all our hard work. I've seen how the patriar…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/21 03:45 PM
3	To ladies who DO NOT make six figures, don't date for money. Well, I started thinking about it after learning about barriers to banking and lending for black people (any minority, really. Women couldn't get credit cards or business loans in the US without a male co-signer until '78, I think?) creating most of the fiscal barriers to upward mobility after emancipation. There's obviously a correlation with colonialism and exploiting unpaid labor/resources, but I'm more interested in what could happen for the future if those imbalances are corrected. I would …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/21 03:16 PM
1	To ladies who DO NOT make six figures, don't date for money. Thank you for the rec, it looks right up my alley!❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/21 02:30 PM
3	To ladies who DO NOT make six figures, don't date for money. I would argue that giving women access to capital, as well as using it strategically to build assets is one of the biggest tools you can use to empower them. It's certainly the biggest weapon used to control us systemically. Regardless, we live longer and earn less then men on average, so we have to be more financially literate.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/21 01:59 PM
54	LMAO, Who’s Going to Tell Her? I only believe in feminist men after they've cleaned up the kitchen.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/21 03:05 PM
15	Do not discuss your finances/nest egg with men you are dating! I worked very hard and sacrificed in my 20's to have what I have now. It's hilarious when the sibling who partied and married a LVM chides me for my "privilege" now that I have financial security. Honey, we grew up in the same circumstances with the same parents. The only difference is that I made disciplined decisions, that have compounded for twenty years. She expects other people or "the system" to care more about her life than she does.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/01/21 05:03 PM
61	Off... poor thing. I don't think there's enough information to conclude that, frankly. If her self esteem is that low, I doubt she was vetting him, and it might have even been her idea. Plus, he was cooking for her and still looks young enough to still be in school. Regardless, if the story is true, he handled it better than most men would with a girl they were interested in. I think there are very good reasons why a HVW should vet differently if they were going to bother dating a guy, and they should absolutely s…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/01/21 12:22 AM
-6	Off... poor thing. High Value Male	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/01/21 12:06 AM
12	What’s the worst neg you got? "Well... I'd do you."	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/01/21 11:44 PM
-1	HVM examples in fiction and irl? I agree with you. He's had a very long career in public service and seems to support his family immensely and with compassion. There's some questionable positions in his past (Anita Hill), but if the African American community still supports him (compared to other choices) that's good enough for me, at least in this political environment. Tara Reade was thoroughly discredited. Biden had even called into the conference that she claimed he assaulted her at. She lied about her credentials to become…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/01/21 03:53 PM
6	HVM examples in fiction and irl? Chadwick Boseman, Lin Manuel Miranda, Dwayne Johnson, Joe Biden, Nick Offerman, John Mulaney, Stephen Colbert, Hugh Jackman, Pierce Brosnan, Brandon Sanderson, Ronan Farrow, Dan Rather, Anthony Fauci... I don't think anybody is perfect, but these guys seem to be making the world a better place while having good family lives.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/01/21 03:44 PM
47	“yOuR wAy ToO qUiCk To JuDgE” "She's very immature (which I'm clearly attracted to) but even though I'm oh so mature, I abandon my own children into her care, rather then be bothered to raise them properly." "You seem impetuous and judgemental. You have no idea what I have to deal with! "	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/01/21 03:25 PM
34	“yOuR wAy ToO qUiCk To JuDgE” "I'm too immature to deal with the consequences of my actions, so I abandon my children to make my life easier."	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/01/21 03:21 PM
4	When a man asks, "but what's the point of being married?" They basically don't consider you an equal partner in the marriage. Men actually build more wealth being married, they just think that it's "theirs".	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/01/21 02:11 AM
8	When a man asks, "but what's the point of being married?" Is there any other contract that gets this much vitriol? Would you invest your time and energy into a shared business without an Llc? Would you have a child without chosing godparents? A car without insurance? Buy an expensive item without a receipt? These are all contracts. They protect from liabilities and they cover division of labor and assets. The contract part of marriage predates the romantic concept by thousands of years. It was invented by men so that society (other men) didn't have to …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/01/21 02:06 AM
21	Can We Drag Sex Workers For Contributing to Racism, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Incest, and Rape Culture? Why do they think they’re exempt from criticism? It is actually a recruitment. OnlyFans is structured like a Multi Level Marketing scheme where you get a percentage of your downline's sales and a bonus for signing other girls up. It's a pyramid scheme, with most of the money going to the men who own the websites and studios and most of the lobbying done visibly being young, beautiful women that have social media followings. Both industries are incredibly exploitive of desperate and gullible women. You're absolutely right that privileged women …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/12/20 08:51 PM
10	LVM literally are fishing with no bait - I'm dead It's funny how they understand exactly how nature works when they're hunting and "providing", isn't it?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/12/20 06:30 PM
4	The Hypocrisy of Career Men Very smart plan! Invest in yourself and mind what pays you, but also make sure that you keep what you've earned. Having a deliberate budget that leaves room for emergencies and retirement is a great place to start. Figure out what you really enjoy and budget for it, but be frugal with the rest of you can. Or, at least understand that luxuries cost your future self even more than it does for guys because of earning disparities and our longer lifespans. I recommend r/FIREyFemmes for great financia…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/20 07:35 AM
11	The Hypocrisy of Career Men I think for married women the biggest thing is to actively be involved in financial decisions, and make sure you're building assets and that you know where they are/have access to. Know what you spend, build savings and investments and plan your own retirement/have a back up plan.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/20 03:59 AM
5	The entitlement when men want to decide what to do to a pregnant woman’s body and unborn child when it doesn’t benefit them No, no... I am quite sure that women have had complete control over the state since the creation of marriage. They singlehandedly designed this system to exploit men and trap them into committed relationships while perpetuating the species and help the offspring survive childhood. Men had nothing to do with social contracts and property rights because, obviously, only women owned property. A woman could just get her equal paycheck deposited into her private bank and use that to pay for the prope…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/12/20 03:00 PM
3	It’s time for: Spot 👏 The 👏 Flag! 👏 🚩 🚩 AKA profiles that made me give up on OLD. I secretly think it's because they are siphoning emotional labor from more women.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/20 10:39 PM
2	Romantic Relationships with men are poor investments of time, energy and money for women I don't think kids should be responsible for running a house or raising their siblings or anything, but I think it's crucial that they have responsibilities. Equally distributed by sex and be appropriate for their ages, but teenagers should be doing their own laundry and contributing to the household, IMO. I consider that an important part of raising children who grow into high value citizens.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/12/20 06:21 PM
9	Feminine "hygiene" I loved that movie!! It was so bitterly funny!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/11/20 03:31 PM
1	if that ain’t the truth. we need to start looking at cheating as the man’s defect and not what the woman was lacking. The bro code is really just protecting shitty men from the consequences of their shitty behavior, usually at the expense of a deceived woman who they have no loyalty or respect for. Even if she's done nothing wrong. The "code" is that the same courtesy would be extended to the other bro when needed. It's a race to the bottom of the ethics barrel. These are the guys who don't consider women people until they have "their" daughter, or something happens to "their" wife or sister. The humanity is de…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/11/20 02:52 PM
16	Dating in 2020 when you live in a red state... Not my idea of foreplay, bro. I don't sleep with men who think their spermitized fetus has more rights to bodily autonomy than I do.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/11/20 12:47 AM
55	Female Spaces It's almost like nobody wants to deal with the actual problem, which is male violence. You know, the reason why we had sex segregated bathrooms in the first place.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/11/20 11:41 PM
4	Why women must appear vulnerable? Check out Adrienne Everheart on YouTube! She's got it down and is pretty FDS friendly:)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/11/20 07:20 PM
10	Why women must appear vulnerable? It's something to behold, isn't it? My first reaction was a bit "I'm not like the other girls!" about it, but then I saw as these Northern guys tripping over themselves to take care of her and I realized there was something here to learn if I wanted to. She wasn't manipulative or needy at all, just expected the best for herself, and if a guy misbehaved, she would freeze him out so fast! It was like watching the sun go behind a cloud, and men definitely wanted to be near her.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/11/20 05:48 PM
7	Why women must appear vulnerable? It's something to behold, isn't it? My first reaction was a bit "I'm not like the other girls!" about it, but then I saw as these Northern guys tripping over themselves to take care of her and I realized there was something here to learn if I wanted to. She wasn't manipulative or needy at all, just expected the best for herself, and if a guy misbehaved, she would freeze him out so fast! It was like watching the sun go behind a cloud, and men definitely wanted to be near her.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/11/20 05:48 PM
13	Why women must appear vulnerable? I don't think you should orient your emotional state around men at all. That being said, if you are interested in dating men, having a warm and receptive vibe is more successful in my experience. Both LVM and HVM want to "earn" a HVW's time and attention. Honestly, if you're leveled up and living a wonderful life, it's really natural to feel happy and good natured, it's healthy. It's also more strategic and gives you a broader range of experiences to really flesh out the character of the person …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/11/20 04:26 PM
9	Men with an impossibly long list of "preferences" don't actually require a potential girlfriend to meet every single one, they just want the opportunity to devalue any woman who might date them, and an excuse to always keep one foot out the door looking for someone better "I identity as a Communist, but do no labor. Naturally, I consider myself an elite, although I refuse to compete. My limited capital is solely for my own consumption. Out of the magnanimity of my shriveled heart, you may service my penis now. You're welcome."	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/20 05:30 PM
28	Men with an impossibly long list of "preferences" don't actually require a potential girlfriend to meet every single one, they just want the opportunity to devalue any woman who might date them, and an excuse to always keep one foot out the door looking for someone better Into communism, but it's all his money, none for you! 🙄🙄	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/20 12:08 PM
40	When men mean when they “tease” you about being “boring” and not “adventurous” enough: car sex Not to mention when it is safe for me! Premeditated rape with a coercive scote is not a fun adventure!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/10/20 02:07 PM
10	I laughed out loud. How ludicrous men can be!! "Only I get to decide what's right for you, anything else would require me seeing you as a human with the right to make informed decisions"	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/10/20 01:36 PM
8	Men tell us to have zero expectations, yet they expect sex from us...and usually right off the bat. Story below. I am happy. I don't expect anything from anyone, unless given a reason to. Ergo, no one is entitled to any of my time, body, emotional resources, finances, or approval.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/10/20 11:54 AM
-1	Based on a Facebook post of the paying half debate... I definitely respect the FDS principal on the topic, but it can be negotiated. The most important thing is that women are financially informed and empowering themselves, independent of their relationships. Understanding finance and contracts is a critical life skill and you cannot expect a man to look out for your own best interest better than you can. For example, I'll use a recently divorced associate. She moved in with her ex about 10 years ago, they got married 3 years into that time period.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/10/20 03:15 PM
1	Dating Profile Translations and jokes, a field guide and PSA. Not to my knowledge. There's usually some codependance, but there's plenty of people who aren't mentally well who aren't diagnosed or seeking treatment. You still have to live your life.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/09/20 01:45 AM
2	Dating Profile Translations and jokes, a field guide and PSA. Distance helps, pleasant dissociation? I kinda follow the gray rock protocol (Google it) to avoid notice. Basically be healthy and boring, keep your space.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/09/20 01:07 AM
4	Dating Profile Translations and jokes, a field guide and PSA. I work in a therapeutic environment, and the self declared "empaths" are always the most entangled and dramatic people. I know many empathetic and kind people, but the ones who announce it very soon upon meeting are always in the center of any conflict, they live for it and then burn themselves out, or start emotional vampiring everybody to make up for it. Even if there is such a thing, a healthy "empath" wouldn't go around announcing it as a personality trait, but recognize how it's especially …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/09/20 02:05 PM
5	And I'd rather shit in my hands and then clap than be in the same room as a dude like this. I'm a small business owner! I want to own my own business and go to conventions and make lots of money. I don't want to file LLC paperwork or make a business plan or take out a loan for capital. I don't have any contacts or a network or skills. It's a partnership based on trust and growth, huge growth potential! You show up in the morning, pay the taxes, rent and furnish our offices, bring your own computer and lunch, pay for benefits and unemployment insurance, build a network, design a prototy…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/09/20 12:50 PM
2	Who are your favourite Youtubers? Not for advice/dating specifically but women who have a good attitude to life and love. I love Angel Lately 🌹 I really like Adrienne Everheart. I've learned so much about communication and my own energy. I find her videos to be both soothing and thought provoking.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/20 04:34 PM
29	Dear Reddit LibFems: Nobody died and made your self important asses the gatekeepers of feminism. We're not "fake feminists" because you don't agree with us, nor are you as inclusive and non-judgmental of women's choices as you pretend you are. I'm so sick of seeing this crap about J.K. Rowling, especially from "feminist" sources. She's a bitch because she articulates concern about male violence towards females? I've read everything she's written on the "topic that must not be named" and she goes way out of her way to specify male violence, and include and support gay/trans people. Funny thing about women's "rights" if they can be taken away with a couple new legal definitions...it doesn't even require your informed consent, it was dec…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/09/20 01:32 PM
38	Famous women who left LVMs and thrived (examples) I always think of Jennifer Aniston. I don't think she's with Justin Theroux anymore, but she looks amazing and has a really great, healthy life now.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/09/20 03:55 AM
10	Guy from OLD gets angry because I didn’t have sex with him after 2 weeks and 4 dates of knowing him. Do you feel more comfortable after I ignored you for two weeks? Have I confirmed my entitlement and reinforced the need for your caution yet? Have you noticed my sulking? I bet you're really regretting waiting on this one, he cares about you! You could have a rELaTiOnSHip wIth A hiGhLY InVeSTed mAN rIGht NOw!🤡🤡🤡	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/08/20 01:27 PM
15	What it is about women-only spaces that energize me and calm me at the same time? I've come to believe that it's finally feeling heard by someone who understands. I want a lifetime membership to this gym! Wait, so he was allowed in the gym, but no other guys?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/20 02:24 PM
11	2️⃣🙅🏻‍♀️1️⃣🤦🏻‍♀️3️⃣🙎🏻‍♀️😂😂😂 Send back a bigger one. "Nah, brah... This is what I like. Know anybody like this?"	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/07/20 02:05 AM