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smartywrapper/r/RedPillWives28/05/20 11:16 PM
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smartywrapper/r/RedPillWives16/06/20 11:24 PM
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This isn't helpful at all. Even by OP's description this doesn't fit her husband. No need to paint a picture of him for her that isn't true.
/r/RedPillWives20/01/22 10:38 PM
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Lol I feel ya.. but it's worth it! It's definitely a great filter when looking for the right guy. Seeing how they respond to your decision to wait. Personally if I was OP I'd be looking long and hard at the reaction she's getting from him. But if he's great in every other aspect I think it's worth it to give him a chance to prove he can wait. If he can't then if I were OP the relationship would be over.
/r/RedPillWives19/12/21 02:10 AM
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That's strange he would say your choice to stay a virgin is selfish and is not being considerate to your husband.. as a Christian myself I see the opposite as true. I gave myself to my husband for the first time after we were married and it was something I was honored and proud to do. If staying a virgin is important to you (and as a Christian it should be) then stay a virgin. Your husband should respect your relationship with God. It's only a few more months. Both of you will be happier to have…
/r/RedPillWives18/12/21 09:49 PM
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Honestly I feel really flattered when my husband asks for something specific like that so I can't imagine denying it. That doesn't mean you must feel that way too. But I can honestly say there has never been a time I felt inclined to deny him sex ever. Sure there have been times I didn't feel especially enthusiastic at first but I didn't feel opposed to it so I got into it by choice. I actually probably have a higher libido than he does which contributes to that. Short answer no, I wouldn't deny…
/r/RedPillWives18/12/21 08:57 PM
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Stay away from him. Completely away. No contact. Whatever that takes.
/r/RedPillWives07/10/21 05:39 AM
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It makes sense to me. They want a space that doesn't include woman. So they disallow woman voices. It's not that illogical. Nor do I find anything offensive about it. Lurking there I gain lots of insight. But I also realize I really don't fit in at all. If they want a woman's insight they can go out and ask for it. Just like this man here did.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 09:16 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with men having a men's only space where woman don't have a voice. I lurk in the sub all the time and quite frankly I can see I don't fit in there. But it does give me some tremendous insight. If men want a woman's insight they can go out and find it the way I did to get insight on men. That doesn't mean I need a voice in their space. I'm not saying it's a problem that you are here in 'a woman's space'. I'm guessing those of us here don't mind at all. Which i…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 09:14 PM
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Can I still add to this 9 days later? This will be my first time 25, Married, Husband 38, 3 kids. DS is 4, DD is 2, DS is 1, DD on the way expected to arrive in November. Work from home for the last 2 month until school starts again next week. I'm an elementary school music teacher. ​ Physical: I'm extremely underweight. And have been most of my marriage. I've struggled in all of my pregnancies because of it. I just had a small scare yesturday. I easily overdo it because I have very little reser…
/r/RedPillWives28/07/21 10:10 PM
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In my observation this sub is just accepting in general of any woman that wants to be a better wife to their husband. And because men are men and woman are woman regardless of what they believe there are going to be "universal truths" of how to be a better wife to a man. In Christianity a woman has the responsibility of submitting to her husband and being a good wife and help mate to him. Being a good helpmate to a man has a specific formula. Whether you believe being a good wife helps you get t…
/r/RedPillWives28/07/21 09:45 PM
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As others have said the right one is more important than what age you get there. Me and my husband are 14 years apart. We married when I was fairly young. We've been married for 6 years now so still a fairly new relationship. We have 3 kids, 4th on the way coming this December. It's been a dream. He's everything I ever wanted. I didn't really "date" the way it's done these days but I definitely got to know what I wanted and what I didn't want. I too was abstinent. I'm sorry but I don't agree wit…
/r/RedPillWives28/07/21 09:34 PM
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I guess I'll get the ball rolling.. I've been thinking about how things have been in the world and in my own life lately (I promise it's not going to get too political or heavy) and to me it feels like I'm waiting. Waiting until the housing market goes down. Waiting until my baby is born in December. Waiting until I start my new job. Waiting until I build up enough of - well - lots of things. A savings, my marriage, my family, my own confidence and resume (I'm 25, been married for 6 years this A…
/r/RedPillWives28/07/21 09:23 PM
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Ask for his advice and/or help in areas you know he's really good at. And tell him that's why you are asking. Example: "Hey can you look over this budget with me? You're really good with numbers and finances. I need some good advice." That way he gets compliments and he gets to take action. Men love taking action. Obviously only do this if you actually value his advice enough to follow it. He will get irritated if you are "just saying it".
/r/RedPillWives28/07/21 09:18 PM
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My biggest advice is don't try to keep up with the Joneses. What I mean is realize that if you scrimp and save and say no to wants now you will be in a much better place in the future. For me it was really hard to feel like I was "missing out" when I compared us to some of my friends either because they were in a better financial situation than us or they were in a different phase of life than us. But it's easier to say "No" to something that you might really want now if you tell yourself you ar…
/r/RedPillWives27/03/21 02:22 AM
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I think you should ask him if you guys can talk about what happened. Explain that you don't really feel it was "just" for him to react the way he did. If he's one to be honest and real then it would just be a matter of getting down to what was really going on. Maybe he was taking a really bad day at work out on you. Not an excuse for bad behavior but as the wife that's not really productive to focus on anyways. But it would hopefully give you some reassurance that it wasn't all that personal and…
/r/RedPillWives27/03/21 12:43 AM
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Lol you made me laugh ..
/r/RedPillWives11/10/20 09:32 PM
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Well.. he doesn't want to even think of marring you until you are almost 40 anyways.. what if by the time you are 40 you have already been happily married two years? That scenario is only possible if you ditch this guy and increase your value to start attracting the high value man you want. I'd say deserve because I feel like you absolutely deserve better. But only you know that. (If you can be honest with yourself.)
/r/RedPillWives11/10/20 09:03 PM
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First of all, it's perfectly fine to feel disappointed about anything. That's just a natural result of our expectations not matching reality. It's good that you recognize it as disappointment. Many people try to hide disappointment behind anger and resentment. You are simply disappointed. All you need to do is examine your expectations. Are they reasonable? (For example: are you expecting him to read your mind to know when you are hoping/expecting something?) I personally think the thing you lai…
/r/RedPillWives11/10/20 08:55 PM
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That does sound a little familiar. He's been an absolute sweetheart lately. Getting the newborn when he's crying and I'm making dinner without being asked. Feeding the 1 yr old. House projects he usually needs me to point out. He's away from home a lot for work so he's not always aware of the projects I need done. Everytime he comes home lately he rescues me. But I find myself getting resentful of that too. I don't want to be constantly rescued. He has work and other responsibilities and I know …
/r/RedPillWives22/06/20 06:18 PM
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Thanks. I think this is my exact problem. Self care. i feel very out of control of my life and environment. And I crave the feeling of control (So in the past I'd try to control him). It also doesn't help that I'm extremely self conscious about my body and looks right now. I really do need to do a better job of taking care of myself. Thanks for the words on forgiveness and the recommended reading. I'll get started. :)
/r/RedPillWives17/06/20 02:14 AM
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i hope so.. Right now i go back and forth between, "I still have work to do if i'm patient and keep at it I'll have the relationship and life I'm after" and self sabotaging the whole relationship and going back to challenging everything he did and arguing about it because at least I had some illusion of control over my life (by having it over him). Back when things were bad we both would try to work through each others issues. It felt like we were progressing. Now that things are much better the…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/20 02:10 AM
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I agree with some of it. "All mothers want to work." I agree. All humans want to work and contribute to their society in a meaningful way that also enriches and add to their home life. I don't agree with the assumption that it's somehow a political statement.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/20 11:56 PM
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