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So she is so into you that she's following up on a previous sexual suggestion you made which she didn't want to do back then. What's the problem, exactly? (I mean, besides from the fact that it was stupidly reckless of you to suggest bringing another man into your bedroom in the first place; only bring in women if you want to maintain alpha status in her eyes.)
/r/askMRP13/04/17 10:24 AM
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I doubt she married me in her young prime years and while I am not rich yet because I am the beta bux in her eyes. With her SMV she can easily land a already-rich beta orbiter if she wants to. She preferred you to those already-rich betas on the assumption that you would soon be rich. Now she's losing patience. It's difficult to remain alpha when you don't succeed and continue to be not well off, especially in the eyes of relatively materialistic girls.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 01:17 PM
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You are pretending like you're on top of MRP when really you seem to have very little to show for your 18 months of progress (besides lifting): I'm not going to try to "win" attraction by adding another kid to this mess. And no one here would say you should do that in order to attract her! You're still making reference to her frame like that's the one that defines your marriage. And you wonder why people here are questioning whether you even have a frame, let alone have been able to invite her i…
/r/askMRP31/01/17 07:49 AM
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More context is needed. Is she fucking you? Treating you with respect and affection?
/r/askMRP30/01/17 05:21 PM
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Are you ready to give up on just this marriage or on MRP altogether? I'm asking because to me you seem still stuck in her frame (e.g. describing her unwillingness to have sex with you as "shame issues that aren't going away" rather than "she's not attracted to me") and the build-up to what you call your "Main Event" (but really just seems like the point when you decided you've had enough) is lacking. Why doesn't your FR show any sign that you are actually able to use fogging, A&A, AM rather than…
/r/askMRP30/01/17 08:44 AM
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Oddly restrained trolling if so. I'm inclined to believe he's for real.
/r/askMRP28/01/17 05:22 PM
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"Thanks for the information and advice." You've copy-pasted this generic sentence a bunch of times, including here where you are receiving neither, but rather being ribbed, and hence your reply is not just generic but inappropriate. Can't tell if you are lazy and not making an effort, or just so rigid that you can't loosen up and engage with the feedback you are receiving beyond making sure to submissively thank everyone?
/r/askMRP28/01/17 03:38 PM
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Using the Bible to get sex from your wife. What century is this, 10th ? Yeah, in 2017 it's more like the Koran.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 12:27 PM
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If she's just going to lay there like a limp noodle I'd say reject that. and try to bring her back to the desire concept. Do you believe desire is something a woman can willingly switch on (as opposed to something that is unconsciously elicited in her when a man is attractive enough)? If so, what are you doing in this sub? If not, what are you thinking trying to guilt your wife into pretending to feel a desire for you that she does not feel rather than working on a MAP and increasing your attrac…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 12:25 PM
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So you're saying to use your wife's fear of God to shame and scare her into sleeping with you despite her complete lack of desire to do so? Hell, if she's religious enough it will probably increase your quota of starfishing duty sex (as well as her resentment of and disrespect for a husband who invokes God as a trump card for negotiating sex rather than manning up enough to elicit desire and sex organically from her), but how can you possible expect accolades for that plan from this sub?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 12:04 PM
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are there any western women with minds that have not been brainwashed to be miserable while hating the hands that feed them, when it's easier to just be happy? can vouch for the existence of western women who don't have simmering feminist hatred brewing in them? You sound like you are living in a liberal bubble. There are plenty of women who are inclined to share your politics. Over 50% of white women voted for Trump. If you follow Milo Yiannopoulos on Facebook, you'll see many women voicing ant…
/r/askMRP26/01/17 09:15 AM
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She's mad because she's got cognitive dissonance since she's married to you but you're voting for the candidate her peers are telling her is evil, and you aren't doing anything to lead her to resolve that cognitive dissonance. You need to not STFU every time the subject comes up, but to use fogging to let her realize that it's OK that you voted for Trump. Edit: So basically she hasn't lost respect for you because you voted for Trump but because you haven't proven able to lead her to a place wher…
/r/askMRP24/01/17 12:24 AM
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Is she an extrovert by any chance? I've known a few really extroverted people of both genders whose concept of normal conversation felt tone-deaf to me because they left zero room for other people to collect their thoughts and took the slightest silence as their cue to keep talking. I don't think they meant any disrespect; it's just because they assume everyone functions the way they do and so if they don't jump in it must be because they aren't going to. Probably just as difficult for them to l…
/r/askMRP20/01/17 12:30 AM
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I would suggesting asking your family for specifics they've noticed about your girlfriend and her interaction with you to back up their concern. It's likely that they have noticed red flags that you are oblivious to. Listen with an open mind and don't get defensive; just thank them for their input, even if you think it's worthless or offensive, because they are genuinely doing you a favor by telling you what's behind their criticism. It's unlikely that her background is truly the only thing caus…
/r/askMRP26/12/16 10:52 PM
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How did you come to find MRP and what motivated you to start the sidebar reading?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/16 08:26 PM
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Fair enough; it does sound as if she could do without a provider. Curious though: You're mid-30s but she has two older teenagers and a well-paying job? How old is she?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/16 08:23 PM
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it could be ours if we are desperate enough to need it So you're saying that even though this single mom has not selected you to be her BB, but is marrying you because she is madly attracted to you, you would in fact be a very good provider? How nice for her. How completely coincidental. She may not know exactly how much money you have, but I guarantee you she knows you would be willing to make it all "ours". You positively stink of beta provider.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/16 07:45 PM
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Are you really saying she gets no benefit from marrying you except the pleasure of your company? Could she afford that newly improved house on her own, for instance? Don't you spend any time with her children?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/16 07:36 PM
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No idea if this is going to work or not. Time will tell if it happens again. Something you seem to be shying away from considering is this: Is she behaving well because she is attracted to you or because she is trying to lock you down? She's a single mother; she's pretty much bound to be looking for a BB whose ego she can butter up until marriage and then rely on as a provider. Is that you?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/16 07:20 PM
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I'm working on lifting and SMV improvements almost to the point of OCD. What are these other SMV improvements you speak of? You don't once mention how other women are responding to you. How are you improving your game and abundance mentality besides STFU with your wife? Oneitis. It seems you have it.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 10:37 PM
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Used to be the case that brothers and fathers could advise a young woman on life. Now that they are liberated, they get to screw themselves nicely. Last time I heard someone say this was a Muslim who was asking why Western feminism was so great, exactly. I had to concede that he had a point there (though naturally I disagree with him in a great many other respects).
/r/MGTOW01/09/16 01:35 PM
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OK. I believe that's a bit unusual. Thanks for elaborating.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/16 10:00 PM
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Curious about your stance on monogamy, because to me it doesn't fit with your relatively cynical overall attitude. It's not my personality to want another women in our relationship It sounds like you're envisioning a mistress who would compete for his attention, but what if he simply had one-night stands? Say he went on a trip to another part of the country, met a random woman at a bar, slept with her, and never saw her again or gave her another thought. Let's say he did it once or twice a year.…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 08:34 PM
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Have you seen this video? Being fat = having a nail stuck in your forehead. Don't worry so much about what else you should do besides lose weight or how you should talk to him about your intention to lose weight. Just remove the nail. Just lose weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 08:15 PM
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I suggest waiting until he comments on your weight loss. If he comments on the dietary choices or workout decisions you are making, just shrug it off and say that's what you are in the mood for, because you haven't proven your commitment to losing weight just by making such choices a few times. The proof will be visible results, and when he notices those that's the time to tell him that you are committed to losing weight and looking good for him again, because then he can be truly delighted. If …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 08:08 PM
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Unless you're extremely short, you're kidding yourself that you're only averaging 1,200 calories a day. If you're only losing a few pounds a month, you're certainly averaging more than that. Browse /r/fatlogic to dispel your illusions and speed up your weight gain.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 04:37 PM
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You can lose the weight faster than that. 2 pounds per week is perfectly doable and will have you 54 pounds down by Christmas.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 04:34 PM
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what do you think I should do? I’m going to keep going to the gym, and I’m going to keep dieting, despite the slow weight loss. That's all it sounds like you need to do. It sounds like your biggest problem is accepting the notion that being 60 lbs overweight really can break an otherwise good marriage apart. It's not politically correct, and most people around you would probably try to convince you otherwise (so don't talk about it with them), but the fact is that becoming fat is akin to becomin…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 04:25 PM
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Fear not. I only use my powers for good. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/16 02:25 PM
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I sent them a link to a page on a website which I own. Since it's my site, I have access to its tracking statistics and so I could identify their visit and all the information gathered about them by Statcounter, including their IP address. Statcounter doesn't track all visits, so it's not a sure thing, but it worked in this case.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/16 08:16 PM
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Fake giveaway: Nice. I'll have to remember that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/16 06:42 PM
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I will add: Be careful about which links you follow. In the past I've retrieved the IP address of a malevolent individual by sending them a link that led to a site on which I had Statcounter installed. They followed the link and I got their IP address which confirmed their suspected identity, and consequences ensued. The same method can be used for malicious doxxing.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/16 06:16 PM
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Thank you for clarifying.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 12:37 PM
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Is there a checklist of red flags then? I'd like to delve more into NAWALT breakdowns to understand the differences that are important in picking the right woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 12:32 PM
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I see. Thank you for clarifying.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 11:47 AM
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The two top comments in this thread seem contradictory to me. One interprets the disrespect as AWALT; whereas the one you are replying to suggests that NAWALT and so OP should move on to a better woman. I understand that AWALT is not to be taken literally, but is there a checklist of behaviors or traits that make a woman LTR material or not LTR material?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 08:37 AM
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That's a good comment. However, I struggle to see how OP could have applied the same approach in this case. In your case, you were able to point out a serious flaw in the other man which she also recognized (him being unable to form a coherent sentence). In OP's case, he tried to do the same thing but the best he could come up with was that the other man worked for a less prestigious company than OP, which is probably not something OP's LTR recognizes as a serious flaw. I do see how OP could hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 08:30 AM
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Thank you for these excellent posts, and kudos on your timing with yesterday's post whetting our appetite and then meeting (and exceeding) expectations today!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 09:54 PM
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You're welcome. Good on you for not shying away from the cold reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 03:34 PM
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probably because I'm still so enamored with her Or maybe because the fact of it being a comparison of the same woman at two different ages makes you feel like you are so close to being with a hot 25-year-old that it's almost like the universe has cheated you of getting to meet her at age 25. It's nice to think that it's cosmic fate that's standing between you and a sex goddess in her prime. It's not nearly as nice to realize that what's holding you back is simply your SMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 03:01 PM
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Here's the hard truth you don't seem to want to wrap your mind around: If she were still in her prime, she wouldn't be with you! You get to be with her because she has aged and lost value. Your situation is no different than if you were dating a less attractive 25-year-old and pining for the super hot 25-year-olds out there. And the answer is the same: If you want to date super hot 25-year-olds, work on increasing your SMV until you can. There is absolute no use pining for the woman you are with…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 02:22 PM
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Very well-written. Looking forward to the follow-up.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 06:44 PM
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You are the epitome of what a father should be. Thank you for the update.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/16 06:44 PM
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/u/irateMD is on the money and I'm going to quote this for emphasis: [You could have] reaffirmed your thoughts about abortion in an honest but non-pressuring way and invite a larger discussion. You were more concerned with avoiding accountability for impacting her decision than with steering you both through this decision as a team. It sounds like she was not seriously considering not getting the abortion, but predictably was having qualms, as many women do when faced with an unwanted pregnancy.…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 12:15 PM
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chances are you just had poor quality of practice. Or a poor time investment in practice. I've heard so many people say, "I tried meditation but it didn't do anything for me," and it turns out what they tried was less than 10 hours in total. When I got into Zen meditation, I joined a group that meditated for 2 hours and 20 minutes one night a week. After the first time I was asked how I felt and I replied, "Like I've been sitting still doing nothing for a couple of hours," and they laughed and t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/16 10:50 AM
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This was hilariously well-written, thanks for the laugh.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/16 10:30 AM
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OI stands for Outcome Independence. When someone uses an acronym that you want to look up but that seems too short or generic to yield fruitful google hits out of context, just google the acronym along with "redpill" (i.e. google "oi redpill") and it'll show up.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/16 09:54 AM
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Sure, but let's say that someone's arranged marriage was as lackluster from the beginning as yours was. Do you think if the husband had said "FM or FU" to his wife, and she had no other option than to fuck him, that she would have done so willingly and enjoyed it? Or would she have gritted her teeth and forced herself to do it? Your wife didn't because she had the option of divorce and preferred that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 12:06 PM
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In that case I think it's worth seeing your case as an example, not of the marriage not surviving the pill, but of the pill bringing to light that the marriage was not built on the proper foundation of romantic attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 11:41 AM
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OP, why do you think your wife married you in the first place? Was she ever attracted to you and excited to be with you, or was she as ambivalent about settling down with you as you were about settling down with her? I ask because I think it's helpful to distinguish between the case where the role of RP is to rekindle an attraction that was once there or to create an attraction that was never really there. Did she ever love fucking you, or was she always just pretending to like it so she could m…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 10:53 AM
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If a photographer who knows how to take impressive pictures offers to shoot you for free, why not go for it?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 04:38 PM
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awats All women are the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 07:16 PM
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Regarding whether life with 2+ small children is Insane mode or not, it's worth noting that children are not all the same. Two energetic and competitive children with a natural skepticism for authority are definitely Insane mode, whereas two calm and cooperative children with a natural deference to authority are much easier to deal with, particularly when the oldest enjoys taking care of the younger one.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 09:19 AM
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