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In part, yes. A man's true competition is a woman's free time. Any man, incel or not, has to make her time with him more rewarding than what she would otherwise doing if she were alone. I'm not talking spending a lot of money or going on fancy dates. But he at least has to be more interesting/funny/entertaining/etc. than whatever lifestyle she has outside of work. The same works in reverse. Arguably guys desperate for sex and not much else to offer have a lower bar than successful men. But succe…
/r/ExRedPill31/07/26 11:10 PM
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Well, he is facing 59 combined criminal charges including rape, assault, and sex trafficking. Not one charge. Not two. This misogynist bastard is facing 59.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/26 12:29 AM
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The manosphere teaches men how to play power games like this, and this guy is following the textbook. You're lucky his mask dropped early. Either block him or text him and tell him "game over".
/r/ExRedPill30/07/26 11:53 PM
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Thanks for sharing your story. I wish you continued success on the exit ramp. Stay out of the manosphere and stay off dating apps. Stick with your sports and continue building an enjoyable life. You'll eventually start to feel human again. Women will notice. At 18, you have a lot of time. Go to college or at least take a class or two. That's where a lot of women will be until they're 22.
/r/ExRedPill29/07/26 08:15 PM
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Red pull guys watch videos on power games in a relationship. Frankly, you'll be doing all women a favor if you dump this guy and teach him that games aren't the way to go in a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 12:06 PM
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You are red pilled at the very least. In the other answer I told you a woman was bringing a six figure salary to the relationship and you still asked what she is giving the man, suggesting she make him breakfast and give him a massage. Like he can't pour his own cereal. Must women do everything???
/r/ExRedPill21/07/26 02:38 PM
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There is a difference between drinking alcohol responsibly and addiction. These women are not asking for anything they don't have to offer themselves. Presumably their partner is an adult and can make his own damn breakfast. These women are not looking to be bang mommies to grown men. Whatever massaging they do in private is their business. Yes, he will get peace of mind because she is expecting the same from him. Yes, trust is one of the baseline qualities. Being trustworthy is a choice, not so…
/r/ExRedPill21/07/26 01:33 AM
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You're right, of course. Incels do think that both men and women think in terms of looks only. By his own admission, that's not what the podcast host said. It is obviously more complicated than looks.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 03:38 PM
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I can see why you think women have high standards. Yours are low. Honesty, integrity, respect and transparency are baseline expectations. These women should expect someone with at least a trade school degree or higher, the ability to hold a job with a salary +/- 25% of their own, accountability, maturity, fiscal responsibility, no addictions to gaming/porn/alcohol/drugs/gambling, a willingness to share half the housework and child care, someone who supports her goals as she'll support his, someo…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 03:07 PM
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You didn't answer the question: what standards should these women have? What should they expect their dates to bring to the table? I am genuinely curious. Men generalize that women have high standards but they aren't specific except as far as looksmatching goes. These women are not extreme examples either as they're all based on my daughter's friends and are otherwise fairly ordinary women who have just graduated undergraduate. There are tens of thousands very similar, maybe not making six figur…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 02:13 PM
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OP, let's talk standards. You (and a lot of men who can't get girlfriends) say that women have impossibly high standards. So tell me... what standards should these women have: BACHELORETTE #1: is better than average looking, but not a supermodel. Let's say she has a STEM degree, is extremely smart, her (lucky her) starting salary out of college hit six figures, and she has no debt. She's frugal, worked in college, and managed to save quite a bit. A man's height is irrelevant to her. She has no i…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 01:22 PM
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Extremely well said. Thank you. (Married woman of a dating age daughter)
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 11:57 AM
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There are more-or-less equal numbers of both genders born, so dating isn't any harder on men than it is for women. It appears women just handle being alone better. We're all preconditioned for that both because women have more closer friendships AND have historically outlived men on the whole. So widowhood, at some point, is almost expected. Most women support men's issues and mental health insofar as joint custody of children after divorce or the impacts of the dearth of deep male/male friendsh…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/26 11:28 PM
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Yes, you are going to feel lighter when you don't consume red pill content. Women don't find misogynist depressives very sexy at all. They give off a creepy aura. Women don't care that guys can't get their dick's wet. There are effective and functional sex toys for both on the market. Women care about partnering with a guy who is mature, responsible, accountable, who supports her goals, who will help with the housework and child rearing, and not leave us destitute in retirement. They don't parti…
/r/ExRedPill17/07/26 04:38 PM
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Go to Walmart on a Saturday and observe all the couples. That ought to supply you with proof you don't have to be in any social hierarchy.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 11:25 PM
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That's why "Come here often?" is a ancient and still common pickup line. It tells you if you might have a chance of running into her there again. I am not saying use it, but in some way, try to get that answer. So you can play the long game by talking to her now, and having a second conversation on your next visit (showing her you are a no pressure kind of guy by waiting to ask her out). Use bars for speed dating if you can, not cold approaching. Have actual conversations, don't just go around a…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 09:07 PM
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Try looking at it from a woman's point of view. Give it deep thought. Are you making her feel safe? How can you show - show without words - that you are not going to stalk her or be too clingy? That you won't react negatively to rejection? It is pretty hard to do isn't it? But it gets easier with a character reference from someone already in her orbit and/or several meetings and conversations outside and ahead of a dating scenario. Getting those is possible with time and patience. But if you are…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 08:44 PM
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Because women don't prefer it. They don't know if you are safe or if you're a stalker, or clingy, or a creep. Two thirds of women have been called names after turning down a date request. "Whore" "I was doing you a favor." "OH well, you're ugly anyway." "Stuck up b---h." Two out of every three women. So, is it any wonder they don't love to be approached by strangers? Men can't get away with that immature reaction if they're asking out a fellow volunteer or club member, because the other members …
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 08:34 PM
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Who said they met "a few times"? They were both members of a civic organization. I don't know how long they were members before meeting and starting to date. But yes, either way there was some familiarity before the first date. Most importantly, she felt she knew him enough that she'd be safe with him. Look, being desperate is a turn off. Do activities you enjoy for you, not to get a girlfriend. Just get out and about somehow. Even doing meet-ups with more men than women will help you expand you…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 08:21 PM
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But there are not "more guys overall". If a women begins a relationship with a desirable guy, they both are out of the dating pool, at least temporarily. It doesn't change the 1:1 ratio for anyone else. As for finding gender neutral activities, keep looking. We have an active and vibrant Jay Cee club in our town, filled with young people of both genders. I know a couple that met volunteering at their events.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 05:12 PM
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Keep in mind two facts: There are a more-or-less even number of men and women in the world. If you are outnumbered, you're simply looking in the wrong places. It should be obvious, but people fail to see the forest through the trees. Men who exclusively use dating apps are the loudest complainers about this, but you reap what you sow. You are actually not competing with other men. You are competing with however a woman would be spending her free time if she wasn't with you. Hopefully, a differen…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 02:42 PM
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Women don't necessarily want to go on numerous coffee dates with strangers because the more of those she attends, the greater her chances of running into a stalker, a creep, or obsessive/clingy guy who makes her feel uncomfortable or unsafe. Smart women would rather screen those guys out early, before giving them one to one attention, which tends to send the wrong signal in many men.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 01:57 PM
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What you see as a numbers game, women see as a time suck. Why should she date/interview 100 men she doesn't know to find Mr. Right when she can get to know them ahead of dating while doing a sport or activity she enjoys and whittle that 100 down to three men she know are "safe", compatible, and everything else she is looking for? Sure, it takes longer, but many women would rather take it slow than sit through a date after date with incompatible. If a man is looking for a long term romantic relat…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 12:35 PM
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Well, it can be assault if it isn't consent. Is it so hard to say, "I want to kiss you" and give her the option of saying "no"?
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 12:28 PM
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Give the woman your number and ask her to text you. Don't ask for hers. It comes across more respectful because you are demanding anything from her or putting her on the spot. She doesn't want a bunch of creeps calling her number, so show her you aren't a creep.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 12:24 PM
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No. Women do not find dating easy or easier. But they are, on the whole, not quite as lust driven, have more close friends, and are thus more content with being single than men are. Dating apps these days are for lazy people, hookups and incels. That why women can't be bothered using them anymore. It is nonsensical for a guy to use ONE dating app that is something like 70%-80% men and 20%-30% women, and conclude that women have it easier over ALL dating methods. Let's talk college... roughly 60%…
/r/ExRedPill11/07/26 01:48 AM
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Dating apps these days are for lazy people, hookups and incels. That why women can't be bothered using them anymore. Which is why you shouldn't let lack of success on those apps determine your self esteem. In-person meets is where it's at now. When I tell guys that, they make excuses why they HAVE to use the apps. Well then, congratulations... you're the type of guy women are trying to avoid by staying off dating apps. At least in-person you can get to know them briefly before you ask them out, …
/r/ExRedPill10/07/26 09:20 PM
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She can, but she wants a true partner, not be a replacement mommy to a grown man.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/26 12:58 PM
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You're correct. I had to keep my response somewhat general for brevity. Women aren't completely immune to beauty influences. Tween and teen girls get constant reminders to be cautious of comparison and living up to impossible standards. Celebrities have stylists, hair and makeup artists who spend hours and hours preparing them for certain public appearances. They don't. A lot of young boys fall into the manosphere because of their social media feeds. A 14YO innocently looking up "what to say to …
/r/ExRedPill29/06/26 12:10 PM
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"Kind" doesn't help a gal pay the bills, build a retirement, or send the kids to college. It isn't superficial to want those things for your family. "Kind" is not mutually exclusive to being educated and employed either. NEETS are just undatable because they don't bring anything useful to the table. Let's face it, they can't even offer a private place for a hookup.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/26 11:47 AM
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Incel men are hyper focused on looks. A lot of them won't even date their own looksmatch, but they all think they can at least get (and deserve) a Stacy. Incels can take their shot, but when women do it, they are being superficial, hypergamy in action. A woman, however, one who has earned a degree, has a great job and no debt is not going to "settle" (long term) for a NEET living in his parents' basement, no matter what either looks like. That's not being superficial. Their values are just too f…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/26 12:42 AM
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If a collective group of men say it exists, then it probably exists. They're bringing a lot of it on themselves, though, making it just as much an epidemic of male consequences. Hating on women may get women's attention, but it won't endear them to the cause or rally any sympathy. To someone feeling invisible, negative attention feels better than none at all, even if it doesn't cure loneliness long term. I believe there was a perfect storm of reasons this came about: Feminism offered a clear roa…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/26 12:26 AM
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This. Hardly any men can actually tell if a young woman is a virgin or not. Maybe after childbirth. For generations, a women could take chicken or beef blood to their wedding night if she needed to, when it actually mattered. Men don't like hearing that at all, but that's history for you. Some women don't bleed. The hymen is just a small arc of tissue, nothing more. I think today's virgin women remain so for themselves, not to potentially please a man. For some there is a religious component. Ot…
/r/ExRedPill27/06/26 03:21 PM
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I would go in the other direction. It is more honest. On the first date, mention you are not into RP guys at all. Ask him directly if he is into the manosphere and look for signs someone is lying. Talk about your career plans. Ask about his past and present job and his future plans. RP guys want multiple children. Talk about that if it interests you. Watch how he reacts if you say you don't want kids or only want one. Ask about hobbies, etc. If they don't have any to speak of, they're probably o…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/26 07:13 PM
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I didn't want to exclude any brainwashed religious fundamentalists. But I'm sure those women have their doubts, too.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/26 12:54 PM
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I'm not sure I understand the question. People have very different "fight or flight" instincts (when that's an option - and it isn't if the target is extremely drunk or drugged). One woman may be paralyzed into submitting and another fights her way out. I have taken a few self defense seminars and in each one, the advice was to fight with everything you have. People actually do escape this way. The downside is that you can get hurt, but you have no chance of escaping by submitting. When fear and…
/r/ExRedPill24/06/26 10:07 PM
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Few women want RP anyway. Those relationships don't last long. If you want to date, you almost always have to leave the manosphere. Thus, r/exredpill.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/26 11:35 AM
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Personally, I would avoid a red-pill guy. If you get married, though, make sure you have a good prenup. If you don't work outside the home at his request, he should be paying into your IRA an equal amount as he is putting in his own retirement, for example. You should get a discretionary spending account. Get your own lawyer.
/r/ExRedPill16/06/26 09:16 PM
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The early 20s is too young to marry. Statistically, early marriages are more likely to end in divorce. I understand wanting a girlfriend. Nothing wrong with that. But don't rush into marriage idea for at least four or five years. If you have had hookups, you have what it takes to get a girlfriend. I believe in you. I don't know what you want in a woman, but a lot of quality women, after eight+ years of hard work and academic pressure, now graduate college at 22-24. Their priority might be to wor…
/r/ExRedPill16/06/26 02:11 PM
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You say you are a feminist, but then you say you are red-pilled, don't trust women, women are shallow, etc. That means you really aren't "ex red pill". Maybe you want to be, but you have work to do. Get a therapist to handle your depression and mental health. Talk about the red pill, too. Get a male therapist if it makes you more comfortable. A girlfriend is not a therapist. Having one won't help you in the long term. Fix yourself first. Your pheromones, aura, vibe, whatever are not attractive t…
/r/ExRedPill05/06/26 04:22 PM
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Go for it. He deserves it.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/26 03:07 PM
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I just had this conversation on another sub. Many consider it rude to compliment someone on their basic looks. It is safer to compliment them on their choices (e.g. clothing or new hair style, nail polish, weight loss). Those are things over which they have control. Expecting validation on your looks in general might be something you desire, but don't expect to get it. That's not really how social interactions go. You might (or might not) get that inside a relationship more than you will from th…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/26 01:59 PM
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Arguably, having a girlfriend does not guarantee happiness either. It is scary how many celebate men think that a woman is all they need to make them happy and turn their lives around. That's assigning her a job that she doesn't know she has. They gloss over the possibility that the relationship could be toxic. It is best to love oneself and build a satisfying life. Find a partner who compliments and increases that happiness, but isn't 100% of it.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/26 01:00 AM
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Women are not a monolith or a hive mind. We're all looking for different thing, but here's my take: You should be well groomed, showering daily (or more if you smell). Neat, clean clothes and a flattering haircut don't cost a lot. Hint: don't wear tee shirts with words or logos. Save them for concerts/related events, yardwork or the gym. Mental health. No matter your issues, you should not be dating if you feel the need to have a girlfriend in order to be happy. That's giving her a job she is no…
/r/ExRedPill27/05/26 12:54 PM
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