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/r/seduction09/02/26 03:20 AM
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Only point that I’m trying to make is that the casual leagues are very casual and a lot of people don’t even make it thru a full month then you never see them again. I didn’t mean violent or aggressive is the problem. Just that people who show up every week and want to get to know their teammates more than just knowing your name tend to be a bit more serious and not “kick a ball around in a field and flirt” so the “flirt-friendly” people tend to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 06:20 PM
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The “beer league” sports like kickball and cornhole are like 2-3 months per season then few people return. It’s like a thing to do when you first move to a city then find your friend circle. Not many people do beer kickball as their main hobby for months or years. The rec leagues are more organized and social long term. Like flag football, soccer, hockey and volleyball. Those are sports where you actually hone your skills, maybe practice a little with your team, and are interesting and athletic …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 10:34 PM
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I’ve done unisex sports leagues and nobody has fun in the end unless it’s beer league kickball, etc. But in those leagues, people play one season and are done. Successful leagues that you can actually meet and bond with people are always all male or female. The unisex ones like basketball, football, hockey are always a shitshow for obvious reasons. Women don’t get the ball enough, men accidentally bump into a woman and knock her down and everyone fights. Too many men on one team that dominates, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:54 PM
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“Feminine men” aren’t the ones having issues running into women. An average or masculine guy is not welcome at a Pilates class. I’ve talked to multiple women on this exact topic. They already know exactly what the man’s prerogative is when he goes to a place where attractive women gather. They’re automatically closed off to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:50 PM
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Can confirm charcoal helps a lot. Can cause mild constipation.
/r/seduction09/01/26 04:07 AM
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https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/9445-diaphragmatic-breathing This cured years of bloating and flatulence and changed my life so I have to share it with all. If you do it for 1-5 minutes, it’ll send all the built up gas out sort of like using a plunger on a toilet. You’ll have several big airy farts and be good as new for hours. Eventually, you’ll get good at the muscle control and can just do a few breaths and pass big bubbles of gas in the bathroom/etc. and be good in 30 seconds.…
/r/seduction09/01/26 04:07 AM
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Because military service in 99% of countries with conscription is just 2 years of basically summer camp then you go about your life. Ukraine is the only war in many decades with what you describe as “trench warfare” or anything close to it. And that accounts for a tiny fraction of one percent of all conscripted troops in the world. Only 10% of career military personnel ever see “combat” and maybe 10% of that 10% see frontline combat where they see the enemy and shoot at them. Combat also means d…
/r/MensRights28/12/25 05:13 PM
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I’m an introvert who has slept with a lot of women. I’m social and friendly but I don’t like being the life of the party or sucking all the air out of a room. Extrovert doesn’t mean everyone likes you. There are tons of annoying extroverts that quickly alienate themselves in a room of eligible women. A lot of women appreciate reserved men. We are more mysterious, more measured, more reserved, seem less impulsive, less of a social liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 05:03 AM
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Comfort and rapport for the friend zone.
/r/seduction30/10/25 03:57 PM
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The victim doesn’t have the responsibility to be “totally normal”. He’s in his own home. He can be “abnormal” as he wants. She had no reason to peer into the house, go in the house, take photos in the house, or make contact with him in anyway. You can’t even argue any exhibitionism or dance around the issue. He wasn’t near a window or the open door and wasn’t showing off. He was doing nothing and not positioned where where you could incidentally see him. The door being open was alleged by her, n…
/r/PussyPassDenied22/10/25 08:27 PM
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Why not? He’s in the privacy of his home and can have his pants off or on whenever he wants.
/r/PussyPassDenied22/10/25 03:47 PM
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It’s a big jump from “a relationship green flag” to all dating compatibility is “simply a question of pragmatism and realism” and nothing else. I’m sorry about your disability and debt. Some things are beyond your control entirely like a disability or generational financial situation. You do indeed have to process and come to terms with the out of your control differently than what’s in your control.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:33 PM
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A relationship green flag is someone who is pragmatic and realistic with their future in terms of career and finances. I'd say a degree that leads to a degree-related job and salary that allows you to pay off your loans within 5 years is reasonable. Being pragmatic also makes yourself ask - are there scholarships available for this degree because its in demand? Is there work-study available because its in demand? Am I going to a school that has a good tuition:salary ratio or is it because "X is …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 04:07 PM
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A big part is the decision making that went into that debt. You passed several gates of deciding not to go get an overpriced degree. That’s a red flag for men because it aligns with the trope of women behaving illogically and being obstinate when people point it out (eg “I know I’m being crazy but you gotta deal with it, not me!”) Men making equally stupid financial decisions but it’s usually a different flavor - For example, “I dumped a bunch of money into a get rich scheme and now I’m broke”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:07 PM
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Almost every guy has a fuckboy mentality. The ones who act on it and are actual fuckboys are the ones with the attractiveness/persuasiveness/charisma to do so. No surprise those traits are also what most women value in courtship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:40 PM
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95% true. I’ll decline women looking for the type of situationships that would preclude me from pursuing something that could turn into a LTR. I don’t want to manage juggling a clingy woman while going after something serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:36 PM
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I couldn’t have fucked someone hotter that week. You don’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:56 PM
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You missed the point in the first paragraph. Hookup culture isn’t about “having to settle”. It’s about quantity. I have a high sex drive. Men are opportunists. If I have the opportunity to sleep with 4 women a week who are below my dating standards, I will do it. I’d never date or marry any of them. Those reasons might be related to background or personality rather than sexual attraction. If I were hooking up with someone whom I didn’t “have to settle” for, I wouldn’t be hooking up, I’d be pursu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:22 PM
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I think she doesn’t accept it because Silicon Valley is full of fraudsters and near-fraudsters. She’s like, how did I get caught? More than what did I do wrong? They raise money and pump up the value of the company and then hopefully bow out when the company gets acquired. They can lie and cheat as long as they keep winning funding and cash out. She ran out of time before she could safely eject from the business.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/02/25 03:32 PM
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You do know that supermodels are “super” in part because of underlying pedophilia in our culture, right? Adolescent girls have long legs and narrow waist, narrow hips, low body fat. Super models are overwhelmingly young. They’re retired by 30 or younger. They start models at 12 in Russia. The most popular porn is “barely legal”, “just turned 18” etc. It would probably be “just turned 14” if that were legal. There is cougar porn but that’s way, way more niche than teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:32 AM
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Based on what? All single guys in their 30s are retail workers and potheads but guys in their 20s are all doctors and lawyers? I think you have it backward. Also what is a single woman in her 30s based on your logic?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:53 PM
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The men around me - You’re surrounding yourself with low value men. There are CLEARLY high value men in their 30s and they’re not rare but you’re making a blanket statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:43 PM
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Young guys are “skewing older” in their style and lifestyle right now. Fashion - mustache, retro clothes, 20 year olds getting a whole body of tattoos in a year that used to take a decade. Lifestyle - retro music, older interests like investing, grinding, career, less heavy drinking, more individualistic and less “one of the bros”. More people in the trades who have been working since they were 18. More time in the gym, doing run clubs, etc. 10 years ago, young guys would be hard to differentiat…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:35 PM
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You’re totally missing the point. You’re interviewing for the opportunity to even give them an emotional connection. If they won’t swipe, if they won’t share their phone number, if they won’t engage via text or conversation, you don’t even get to share emotionally. That’s what the job interview is. You are truly disconnected from the experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:41 PM
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You’re delulu if you think the average sexual encounter only costs a man a cup of coffee. Multiple dates consisting of drinks, dinner, etc not to mention that a guy is going to strike out with 6-10 women before he sleeps with one for the first time. Easily in the hundreds of dollars to land a first sexual encounter with a new partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 01:21 AM
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Do you think counselors are the only people with a code of ethics?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:15 AM
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I think you’re conflating actual “toxic masculinity” with the bigger “men bad” trend. Toxic masculinity isn’t really that broad to explain sexual assault and consent etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:09 AM
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Toxic masculinity affects men way more than women. And it’s not how women define it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:06 AM
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Yeah. The balance is totally off on the apps. I’ve dated more attractive and more attentive women IRL. It’s crazy that low quality and apathetic women have pick of the litter on the apps. It’s definitely quantity over quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 09:23 PM
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I have female friends and family members who are the sweetest people but they absolutely strike out when it comes to their romantic relationships and dating. It’s like they flip a switch in terms of kindness, independence, etc. I’ve had them come to me for dating advice and I’m just baffled that they’re struggling with such rudimentary issues considering they could easily navigate that issue in their platonic or work life. I feel like men are much more congruent that way. Trash men have trash re…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:10 PM
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Women put an overwhelming amount of effort into their personalities? I’ve been dating women for 25 years and have yet to see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 02:32 AM
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I also had a friend who I invited to a party once. As I walked in with her, she literally stopped at the threshold of the front door and said no, I’ll just wait here. Like wait on the porch all night while I socialized because she didn’t know how to interact with new people. She wouldn’t come in (but also knew we were going to a social event and agreed to go.) So baffling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 01:07 AM
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I think they fall into two buckets Women who find it chivalrous to be cared for Women who are functionally or socially stunted. I have a shocking number of stories about women who can’t do basic things. I know at least four women who cannot drive a car at all or impose limits to their own driving such as “driving on the interstate scared me so I only drive in the neighborhood”. As in they cannot and will not drive on the interstate even to go to the ER. Or they won’t drive at night, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 01:04 AM
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Ok let’s assume your premise that she’s not interested is true. I wouldn’t have posted this if it was an isolated incident. I’ve experienced it many times and just generally experiencing female apathy. If she’s not interested, then say I changed my mind… or just ghost me, block me. I didn’t know her, there’s no repercussions or a man to come find her and be mean to her. To be clear, I wasn’t pestering her and not getting the message over the course of days. This literally was one exchange over 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 09:41 PM
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Maybe. I probably wouldn’t invite someone to an event where I couldn’t spend some quality time with them due to other obligations.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 06:22 PM
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Yeah we had a few texts throughout a day or so. I limit the endless texting before meeting someone but I’m not a robot just trying to schedule meetups 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 06:21 PM
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I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 03:55 PM
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Yeah they seem to want a very specific behavior in men but aren’t clear what that is. Aren’t clear to the man but also it isn’t clear to themselves. Like choosing a paint at Home Depot for your room. You can look at a paint chip but you don’t really know if you like it til the room is fully painted. And the man is responsible for moving the furniture, putting down the masking tape and painting the whole room in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:21 PM
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She reached out to me first.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:18 PM
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Yeah there’s got to be a leader and a follower. I’m learning that it’s a two way street no matter how the other party wants to frame the roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:18 PM
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I mean in practice that’s where I ended except I just stopped responding. I was more curious to understand the female perspective of what the heck she was doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:16 PM
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Man there’s masculine and feminine ways to approach the world but voicing that you want chicken tenders or a salad is just elementary. How do these people survive on their own everyday for real? The “I want a man to take the lead” trope is seriously infantilizing people. What does one of these indecisive women do if they spend 24 hours alone? They have to eat and drink. They have to find a toilet. We are practically to the point of people convincing the world that they can’t be bothered to look …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 05:42 AM
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You’re right. I posted for the sake of discussion. I’m dating intentionally so when I see this behavior in the wild, I just unmatch but it’s still worth thinking about for the sake of understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 01:22 AM
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Nowhere in my post did I claim or make a blanket statement that all women or any entire subgroup of women do this behavior so I don’t know where you’re getting that. What I did say is that women broadly do hold some responsibility to match effort and energy in order to have a positive dating experience. I never claimed that most or all women exhibit this behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 01:11 AM
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lol you clearly don’t understand the definition of the word “debate”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 01:07 AM
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This is a juvenile take. You can say that about anything. Monogamy? If he doesn’t want to only sleep with one person, he doesn’t have to! Nobody has to do anything but this is tagged as debate to discuss the behavior I described as a social norm or a trend that impacts dating/relationship in the modern era. Don’t interject intentionally obtuse arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 12:41 AM
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What is serfing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 12:32 AM
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I honestly don’t remember matching with her and couldn’t find her in expired matches. Maybe a red flag if she unmatched on the first app before we even chatted 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 12:06 AM
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I think there’s a distinction between clingy and just matching/rewarding effort. Clingy means there is a power imbalance but matching means you are peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 12:05 AM
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Actually I did, she said I’m usually free on Wed and Fri so I suggested Wed at x o clock and that’s when she said 10 min later oh wait I’m not free then. I left that out for brevity, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:51 PM
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I always fall back to visualizing my past positive dating experiences. Setting up the dates was such a breeze. I know the person was no less busy, they just made time for it. I’ve dated doctors, college professors and other people who had to slot me into their busy schedule but they did it with ease every time. Meanwhile, someone who works a normal 9-5 or less can’t find an hour in the next 2 weeks to stop into a coffee shop with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:50 PM
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And just to add, this one anecdote is hardly isolated. I’ve experienced so many times suggesting restaurants to my partner to them saying no I’m not in the mood for that. Then suggest another, then another. They wouldn’t suggest one themselves nor would they even say what kind of cuisine they were jonsing for. Just making me continue to guess ad nauseum. I find that mindset so annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:47 PM
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Yep. She actually opened with “I remember matching with you on a different app” to which I replied, “We should go out on a date then huh” and she seemed solidly in favor. I don’t think it was a “war of attrition” to turn me down hence why I bring up the debate that it is apathy or modern dating behavior. If she just wanted to keep declining because she didn’t want to meet then that would be shitty but a simpler explanation, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:43 PM
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Something must have changed from our initial convo or this is just her usual demeanor. She actually messaged me first saying she remembered matching with me on a different app before. Sadly, this was just one anecdote and I’ve encountered this behavior repeatedly in my protracted dating journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:40 PM
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The 95%-99% and 1% are a bit of a fantasy. Women are not necessarily throwing themselves at the top 5% guys. I've seen it in my own dating life as well as top 5% acquaintances. Being in the top 5% increase your odds greatly but does not mean you are on easy mode or any particular woman is automatically available to you. A top 5% guy is statistically going to do better, sleep with more women and have more women who are receptive. Whereas a top 5% woman can pretty much get attention from anyone. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:12 PM
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Women are exchanging sex with men to get them to marry? That’s a hot take.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:22 PM
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This is absolutely true. They will dump you so fast and preemptively. Like dump you before you dump them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:21 PM
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LOL. I do think hot dudes get benefit of the doubt but not like that. More like hot dude: “I’ll give him 100% attention if he looks like he wants a relationship, 60% attention to hook up.” And ugly dude: “5% chance he checks all the other boxes and I just happen to fall for him and 0% to hook up.”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:20 PM
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Being a celebrity upends all of that. Brad Pitt can lock down a woman to be monogamous with him if he wants. Jim Carrey (not an objectively bad looking man to begin with but I’ll ignore that for now) can land unlimited women. Even David Letterman was sleeping with everyone in his office. A less attractive, non-famous man is not going to land tons of women. A big D doesn’t help you attract women generally. They need to sleep with you to know how big it is unless people are gossiping but that’s no…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:12 PM
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Yeah I will totally help friends when the situation is appropriate. I bent over backward for people during grad school because we were all broke and stressed. Sure I’ll help you move. I know you really don’t have $300 to blow on movers. It’s different when the women all repeatedly ignore invites for happy hour in the group chat but when they need your truck it’s “heyyyy, wyd Saturday??”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:46 PM
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Literally none of those is a matter of skill. Watching her dog is a matter of skill? Driving her to the tow yard? Borrowing a truck??? 🤡🤡🤡 edit: besides, asking someone to utilize their skill looks like “hey I know you are a pharmacist, my doc gave me this rx but I’m unsure about it, could I get your opinion?” It’s not “I know you work in IT so come set my WiFi up for me at my convenience, teehee”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 01:14 AM
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Carrying a 60 lb bag of dog food to their apartment, using your truck to move, lifting heavy shit during said move, talking to the service desk at the car dealer about repairs, hanging curtains, watching their dog last minute (for free), setting up their WiFi, setting up and operating the grill, escorting them to a sketchy tow yard when their car gets towed, asking for a rather large loan so their friend could get emergency dental work. All those are first hand requests that people have asked of…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:49 PM
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Ok here’s the fallacy. You are implying that the opportunities are a zero sum game. That women are displacing men. Here’s the issue - the western world is more economically productive than ever. We are building more and more complex products and services than ever before. It’s why you need a masters when 40 years ago you could enter the workforce with a HS diploma. You simply have more people working high paying jobs and in ever growing industries than ever before. The opportunities above $80k (…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 10:26 PM
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Men are better at lifting therefore women are better at cooking? As if there’s some secret why men are stronger that we haven’t explained scientifically thousands of times over. Men have more muscle mass, more anabolic hormones, stronger skeletal systems. Does that mean women have arms better designed to flip a pancake or use a spatula? Makes no sense if you apply literally any 1st grade rigor to your theory. Maybe if you said women can swim better (in theory for this example) because they have …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 07:21 PM
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I would understand if it was repeatedly or even if I couldn’t get it up the rest of the night. It just blew my mind that going soft = instant walking out. None of these women even let me explain or wait a few minutes. Literally up and getting dressed within a minute or two. As if a hard on is something a guy can just command to happen like raising your arm.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 09:59 PM
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What does that even mean
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 06:08 PM
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Honestly shocked that multiple women in this thread have never had a man even go slightly soft for one moment during their entire sex lives. Like I’m talking I could still have sex but it wasn’t rock hard and they were unhappy about it. Meanwhile we had been having good sex for 15+ min
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 05:26 PM
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Incredibly simplistic way of looking at it. How can a guy get a hard on with someone he’s not very attracted to? Because that happens all the time too. So the reverse happens too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 05:18 PM
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A guy is just expected to be rock hard for an hour or more? The human body doesn’t even work that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 05:16 PM
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30s
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 05:13 PM
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Troll
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 05:13 PM
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Goes back to illusion of choice. It’s like going to the beer store. There are 200 kinds of beer but for me, there are maybe 4-5 broad categories of beer that I would select from, not 200 totally unique flavors. Most any cold lager or Pilsner would be delicious on a hot day. If you give in to the marketing, you may think you must narrow it down from 200 beers but in the end, I’m going to be pretty happy to just order one and go enjoy it with my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:01 PM
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I like how multiple times you speak for all women that they have nothing to gain and it only stimulates “prostrates”. (Also, it’s called a prostate not “prostrate”)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 07:32 PM
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Respect them violating the terms of use for the app? It’s not a hooker app period. It’s like a person setting up a taco stand inside a grocery store. It’s not your place to do business without permission, go somewhere else.
/r/seduction08/08/24 02:10 AM
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Look at some of the anti age gap groups 😂 They get pissy over 2-3 years. Just can’t please some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:17 PM
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Two things at play here: Most women are invisible compared to their social media savvy counterparts. I've met great women who just don't have any public presence. I would have never come across them had I not met them organically. No IG stories, maybe 50-200 followers or FB friends, rarely post anything. Theres a whole subculture called "real life" that does not show up in your IG feed. On the other hand, I don't think I need to explain why the social media girls who have their life on blast ten…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/24 04:36 PM
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Really the only guys who don’t have a rotation are the ones who can’t get it. They can’t get it because of their low attractiveness. Or the guy is temporarily sick of juggling multiple situationships but then he’s back in the game eventually. It’s rare to find a guy who won’t sleep with more than one woman strictly out of morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 06:00 PM
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Many women don’t enjoy it but they hop in the rotation and pretend there isn’t a rotation until it’s untenable. That kind of woman doesn’t want to get with the type of guy that can’t get a rotation going. Yeah so, he won’t hang out with you three days in a row because he has 4 other chicks to fit in this week, it’s not because he’s working late, hun. Both sexes float around in that grey area. She doesn’t call him out for dating others and he doesn’t offer it up either. Elephant in the room until…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:58 PM
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I think it’s actually the opposite. Sure there are Chads that do well with women but there are way more losers that strike out over and over in completely preventable fashion. Way more idiots who have sent 300 women running for the hills than Chads who have 300 body counts. Most normal/well adjusted men partake in the courtship process. Dating in HS, losing your virginity somewhere in HS or early college, etc. They have normal romances and a series of GFs/hookups. Even shy/social awkward guys en…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:08 PM
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All those guys were fucking their slaves, their wives sisters, their own cousins, everyone. I’d be okay with step kids if I had sexual freedom out of my relationship. Otherwise you are sort of a cuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 10:10 PM
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It’s a lot different for rich people. They’re not personally dealing with the stress of raising a kid. They have nannies and helpers out the wazoo. Missing the gym and getting flabby because I am driving some other man’s kid to soccer twice a week is pathetic. Being woken up at 2am on a weeknight because some other man’s kid is having a tantrum in my home is pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 10:08 PM
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For every TikTok vid berating a single mom, there are ten thousand men calmly swiping left on them and not putting one more second of thought into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:35 PM
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I tend to agree. I think they know men immediately put them into “might be a fun fuck but no future” category. So if they catch a whiff that you aren’t a relationship person, they get pissy much faster than a childless woman. With non-moms, there’s a feeling out process on both sides whether you are there for FWB or relationship. With a mom, it’s pretty black and white from the get go.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:33 PM
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You wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:06 AM
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lol what kind of “debate” post is this? You submit no facts, hypothesis, key points, nothing. Just a rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 03:55 PM
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Classic pedophile aka she’s not a male pedophile. Imagine if a male, any male for any reason were to be described as less of a threat because they weren’t a “classic pedophile”.
/r/PussyPassDenied07/07/24 09:03 PM
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You’re an idiot. You just validated my post without even noticing. Your argument was they “claim the entire sidewalk” and intentionally enforcing “street etiquette”. But you just agreed with me in your reply saying that “they need to be more aware of their surroundings”. Aware of their surroundings… because they are oblivious, not waging war with you. You’re just pissed off at them but you don’t even have a cogent argument. Come back when you at least have a coherent thought.
/r/PussyPassDenied19/06/24 01:15 AM
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I have no doubt that women are entitled but I think 99% of them are just fucking oblivious in public. Women just aren’t as aware of their surroundings of men. I’ve seen women bump into people which could be seen as entitled but I’ve also seen them drop an entire drink carrier of iced coffees by tripping over an incredibly obvious curb and walk into glass doors while staring at their phones. Especially bad when they’re in a group and nobody is paying attention. I don’t really think you can chalk …
/r/PussyPassDenied19/06/24 12:57 AM
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Yeah I am not disagreeing with OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 02:40 PM
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I stopped taking your post seriously when you started with “don’t know a single man…” First of all if you read my post, I said “most”. You can make an anecdotal argument that “I know a guy who did x” and substitute x for anything. I had a friend whose uncle murdered his entire extended family and kids. One example doesn’t mean anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:18 PM
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Multilevel marketing. The people, usually women, who say they are entrepreneurs but are just selling fitness shakes, candles, cleaning products. The business model is basically a scam where nobody makes money except the company itself. They pay into it for a period of time then bounce to something else because they spent all their savings on a bad business idea. It’s really rampant to the point there are multiple subreddits on the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:32 PM
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Yeah totally agree with you and that anecdote. Sounds like both parents sort of suck at some level and there are shades of gray.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:30 PM
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Women often make it so untenable for men to stay. Fight tooth and nail against any sort of visitation, spread lies and rumors to the courts, mutual friends, and of course the kids themselves, just sabotaging the man’s life for years until he just gives up and decides to keep his distance. I don’t believe the narrative that most men just disappear. Maybe if it was an unwanted pregnancy from a ONS or affair. If the family was together at some point, the dad usually wants to be involved. Maybe he d…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 03:30 AM
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They don’t abandon but sometimes abandoning them would be the better option than exposing them to addiction, abuse, neglect for years on end.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 03:24 AM
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There are DEFINITELY dead beat moms out there. Plenty of women who lose custody of their kids or put their kids in terrible environments. Or you see a sibling or grandparent quietly step up. It’s just not as visible because it happens behind closed doors. the “kids are with grandma” this week but behind the scenes they went to grandmas because mom is in the in-patient mental hospital again or just got her second DUI. At least dead beat dads are mostly just not in the picture. Definitely a shit s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 03:22 AM
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Women probably deserve the loser title more than men. I know more women who consistently make stupid choices than men. multiple kids w multiple dads falling for douchebags and keep going back to them bouncing from one MLM to another never financially secure. Always relying on a guy to keep her afloat can’t stay steadily employed for one reason or another like said above, just “train wreck” women constantly the center of drama hobbies revolve around drinking often nursing at least a mild drug pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 03:11 AM
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lol These two things are not comparable at all. A body count of 5 vs 50 doesn’t affect your psyche or outlook on life like having sex for the first time or first few times. Starting your sexually active life is a whole new chapter in your life. You look at life differently and understand that primal urge in your body in a much more nuanced way. The 40 Year Old Virgin isn’t a documentary but there’s definitely some truth in understanding why men like boobs and they don’t feel like “a bag of sand”…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:11 AM
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I totally relate to that. I’ve struggled with mental health issues since I was a teen. Friends and family were largely helpful with pragmatic things. Driving me to therapy, helping me figure out insurance questions for meds, whatever. When it came to me actually opening up, even my most trusted inner circle would always slowly back away. Nobody wanted to grab a drink or see how I was actually doing. It was always “everything alright?” with the strong expectation to say “yeah” or have a specific …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:58 AM
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Porn isn’t interacting with men. They’re just watching it. It’s not skewing how an average person is perceived anymore than movies and TV which also has good looking people. Women are receiving followers, comments, likes, etc. as well as actual human interaction in the case of hookups. They’re getting false validation from people and probably a lot of straight up fake accounts or people only trying to promote or sell stuff. I’d say this has a much stronger function than a guy passively consuming…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 01:18 AM
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That means men are breadwinners in 84% That’s like those studies that say “x” substance will triple your cancer risks. From 0.001% to 0.003%
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 12:51 AM
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Men used to maintain whole ass families in different cities. They used have many mistresses and multiple children with them going back to ancient times up until maybe 30-40 years ago when we started to be highly connected in the Information age and people started to travel regularly further than their own hometowns. You don’t see nearly as much of that now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 01:46 PM
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Men are more virtuous and handsome than ever before. Men spend much more time on their appearance than in the past. Think about the “metrosexual” movement. More men are working out, taking care of their skin, eat right than ever before.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:05 PM
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You’re painting this with really broad strokes. Masturbating certainly desensitizes you but it pretty much comes back to normal if you don’t keep masturbating and use sex for orgasm (when sex is available of course). The idea that it “shapes your whole sexuality” or the idea that men are constantly pestering women to do things they don’t want is largely untrue. Having actual sex with a real person is much more stimulating than watching porn. It’s like watching a sitcom or TV drama and then sayin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:16 AM
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What is the truth
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:05 AM
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The world is absolutely run by late bloomer STEMlords. Seems like they’re doing just fine. Tech CEOs, renowned doctors, researchers, finance quants, economists, hedge fund managers are often late bloomers, autistic or otherwise not well balanced individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:25 PM
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Bro when you’re 19, you get laid because your parents bought you a base 3 series, a mustang or you have a puppy that they can hang out with. You don’t really have a foothold in your career, education or personal wealth in your early to mid-20s because it just takes time to get that flywheel moving. It’s not because guys in their 20s have a lightbulb moment and there’s a Rocky montage of them working out, studying and getting promotions at work. It just a gradual process that starts to pay off in…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:18 AM
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The risk of Down Syndrome for a 40 yo is about 50x higher than for a 20 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:49 AM
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I have no expectation of it. They aren’t obligated to hang out with me but I just want to understand this common theme. The women I’ve dated who make it clear they are interested in me never have an excuse, take equal initiative in planning and make themselves available. Just trying to understand why the lukewarm ones tend to have headaches, allergies, car problems, the list goes on. People seemed to gravitate to the migraine in my post but the reasons from the women run the gamut.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:31 PM
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Valid perspective!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:28 PM
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Pretty much true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:23 PM
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Yeah that’s the thing, I’ve observed this same trend with multiple women multiple times so that’s why I’m asking if there’s some common thread besides everyone having headaches or being busy all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:11 PM
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The problem is that you’re asking men to compensate for a problem with the current state of app dating, not their own standards. Mens standards on attractiveness are not delulu. I’ve dated much, much higher quality women IRL than I typically match with online. In fact, I used to match and date with quite beautiful women in the earlier days of the apps like 5 years ago. The skewed gender ratios on the apps and “swipeyness” of the apps encourage artificial and extreme pickiness. The choice is neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 01:58 PM
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lol 100% My views mainly inform my actions and boundaries with women. I rarely have any reason to share them out loud with anyone. Like if a woman I’m interested in starts asking for significant favors like helping them move and I can sense they are a “use ‘em and lose ‘em” type of person, I just decline without explanation. Been burnt too many times for going out of my way for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:22 PM
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So if I pick you up for the date then it used up 100% of my $50k car and you should pay for it? You definitely didn’t take an accounting class in school covering inventory and supply use.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:34 AM
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A lot of famous people are insufferable, unintelligent and/or dull. You see them at a club partying and think that’s part of a bigger, luxurious lifestyle 24/7. In reality, that’s it. There’s nothing under the surface. It’s just bottle service and superficial hangers-on. Look at some minor celebs leaked texts like Mac Miller’s last few weeks. Hanging around by themselves, doing drugs, lonely, hiring hookers, trying to get friends to come over.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:07 AM
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Yeah if you are an athlete or musician you can get laid. Look closer at who the groupies are. Usually >25 yo women with no education, life experience or anything to add to the convo. They look good in a bikini and get likes on your gram. If you are actually high status, as in, educated, successful, intellectual, you tend to gravitate toward high status women. Yes, they are out there. Beautiful, educated, interesting. Social media makes it seem like every high status guy is with a load of bikini …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:02 AM
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I did date one for a while but I ended up moving 1000 miles away for my job vs 3 hrs away. Now that I live far away it would be a bit contrived to pick a small town to set my dating app 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 08:14 PM
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Gay
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:14 PM
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You sound like you don’t know what DV is. Is wrestling DV? Going to a kickboxing class? That is hitting and fighting. Sure looks like DV according to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:10 PM
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I know a few. That specific case not common but there are lots of stories of people who level up. I know people who have lost 200 lbs, people who started as truck mechanics in the Air Force and became fighter pilots, phlebotomists who went to med school, a hair dresser to went back to school at 30 and is a NASA engineer. I grew up in a rather poor area. The deck was stacked against us there but there are people who will succeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:03 PM
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Losing weight and conversely, skinny guys gaining muscle changes your whole face shape. Trust me. Your neck thickens, your jawline tightens. Look at football players. Why do they so often look like square jaw men. Some just have strong face genetics but a lot is the fact they are heavily musculed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:53 PM
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Self improvement isn’t hair vs no hair or getting fashion tips from Reddit. People aren’t willing to do the hard work that really changes your life. Lifting weights and changing your body, getting a formal education and having high ambitions in career, moving to a place with opportunities and high salaries, saving money to travel and become cultured, protecting your skin from your 20s onwards from smoking and the sun. That’s what sets high status people apart from an average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:51 PM
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Guess what, self improvement elevates your status to the upper middle class. Guy with a GED gets his shit together in his 20s or 30s, gets his BS and a masters, gets a 6-fig job. Not doing backbreaking GED level job now so he gets in shape and is less beat up. Buys a nice house in the doctors neighborhood and gets with a college educated white collar woman. That’s marrying out of your league. Happens all the time and you don’t even know it because you can’t see the ones who level up because they…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:47 PM
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I think many many boomers and older are parents because of no birth control. My Catholic grandmother really had little interest in being a mother but had 4 kids anyway, just like everyone else did.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 12:04 AM
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lol I can personally count dozens of men including my dad who definitely didn’t have an “entire heart and mindset change”. They want little to nothing to do with their kids even when they were little. What gives there?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:49 PM
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It’s funny what comes out of them when they’re comfortable to just let their thoughts flow. My ex is a feminist and modern, educated woman but she admitted she loves being catcalled and is sad when she doesn’t get attention from construction workers and random creeps. Of course if her friends were complaining about it, she’d also be like omg that’s awful, I hate it. She also said she liked thuggish behavior. She said she liked when boyfriends would fight guys who came onto her or otherwise neede…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:18 AM
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Most people don’t just stand there and make a scene… it usually happens in a matter of seconds. Like they pause for you to open then if you don’t they will open it themselves but definitely take note. Sort of like when the bill comes and the woman slow motion start to open their wallet to give you a chance to say you are paying for them. But of course they will take their card out eventually to break the awkwardness.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:50 PM
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To clarify, holding the door means a woman you are with approaches the door first, doesn’t attempt reach the door handle then you step forward and open it for her to allow her to walk in first. If I’m going thru a door and someone is following me, of course I keep it open so they can come through to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:31 PM
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So you think men benefit more from sex and relationship thus… women need to extract free meals and attention to compensate? What’s your angle here
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:24 PM
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This is flaired as “debate”. Sure you don’t have to do anything, it’s a free country. The point of a debate is to discuss the pros/cons and test the theories presented. It’s like bringing up a political topic and you immediately chime in, “you don’t have to vote, why are you talking about this?” 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:23 PM
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Your take is fine. I’m arguing that elevating “chivalrous men” as I defined it (e.g. antiquated gestures) is pointless. Whether or not a man pays for your dinner initially has low correlation to whether he is actually a good provider, thoughtful, etc. A similar situation I’ve encountered: I’ve met women who reject extremely eligible men because they don’t fit the molds they expect. Like successful business execs who wear “dad jeans” and a polo vs. a slick wardrobe and other common superficial st…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:17 PM
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lol it feels nice when the cashier gives me 20% off for no reason even though I make enough money that I didn’t even care about getting a discount.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:04 PM
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There you go, I don’t see sex and relationship as a reward or exceptional treatment. Two people pairing off and sharing something mutually enjoyable isn’t transactional to me but you clearly see it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:22 PM
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You can see the actual practical acts men take for women sometimes and it’s so much less contrived and manipulative than modern dating practices. Like when women dress up, sometimes men will help them zip up a dress, support them physically when walking on treacherous terrain in heels, or pull the car close so they don’t have to get their dress dirty or ruin their makeup in the rain. None of those activities are seen as an overt gesture trying to win a woman’s favor. It’s just a pragmatic and pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:18 PM
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Totally agree. They want the “trad wife” life or some light version where the man takes all the initiative. Look, some women in the 50s lived that life but they also weren’t allowed to make a single purchase besides groceries without their husband, they were beaten, not allowed to hold jobs or go to school and had zero input in household decisions. Do you want that part of the life too?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:10 PM
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I equate this with the antiquated behavior of tipping for everything. It used to be that you tipped extra money for service that was above and extra what is included in the bill for your meal or service. Now people expect tips for pouring some coffee into a paper cup which you are already paying $5 for. What was the $5 for in the first place, the cost of coffee and a paper cup is like $0.30.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:08 PM
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Uhm do you not know the term “subset”… or just addition and subtraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:22 PM
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Except a lot of women don’t realize they are creating scenarios in which to judge or they create them not realizing how glaringly obvious it is that they’re “testing” their partner and their partner just rolls their eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 03:35 PM
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The overwhelming majority of high net worth people I know are living very unremarkable lives. You wouldn’t know they were rich until you see their business operations and realize they solely own 400 rental units or 25 Five Guys restaurants, etc. Then you can put 2+2 together. They’re not usually partying on yachts or making podcasts about closing deals or whatever BS you see online. Most of the women seeking a handsome rich dude would be bored to tears dating one of these guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 02:27 AM
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It’s almost always drugs. Either a woman is nursing an actual addiction to harder stuff or she’s just in a party/festival scene. The guy deals or has access to friends with drugs so the hot women tend to stay close.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:21 PM
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Women have no clue the degree that men are rejected. Like 50:1 in terms of numbers. And women are so much more dismissive and humiliating than men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 03:32 AM
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“trebolone” is definitely not TRT though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 09:37 PM
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This post is such a joke. Women are prolific consumers of passive pastimes. Social media, fashion, trash tv, astrology, “girls night” (read wine and movies or going out). If you go to a gym, sports league, climbing gym, martial arts studio, rock concert, investing meetup, skate park… Literally all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 03:22 PM
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Oh give me a break. I need to learn about the history, subculture, silhouettes/texture of my clothing? Get off your subreddits and touch some grass. The next girl will be into dogs and I’ll have to know the breed standards and current training methodologies of pure bred German Shepherds. Another girl will be into vintage Vespas and I’ll have to know all about those.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 03:07 PM
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You’re never going to be surrounded by the number of age appropriate single people with almost everything in common with you like you are in college. You make think there’s a rift between men and women or different majors, etc but if you look back on it, you’re all so very similar in your place in life vs when you’re in your 30s or beyond.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:48 PM
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It’s 100% around a Reddit demographic. Less than 40% of people have a college degree and less than 20% of people make over $100k. If you look at certain communities like rural white or church-going minorities like Hispanic concentrated communities, you’ll see lots of people married in their early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:46 PM
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I’ve had ulterior motives with attractive female friends until I get to know the romantic aspects of their personality and how they treat potential lovers. At that point I am happy to relegate them to friendship only 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 09:49 PM
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I do not envy women who are still average or below average despite being fit and taking care of themselves. It’s hard to fix a bad body type (e.g. naturally holds some flubber, wide mid-section with narrow hips, no ass) or a bad face (e.g. cabbage patch face, big forehead or masculine jaw)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:12 AM
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The average man is overweight, borderline obese. That guy is above average on that criteria alone. Plus he has hair, clear skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:08 PM
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Your criteria is completely arbitrary and not objective at all. Your take is very centered on a middle career IT guy with a desk job and maybe a bachelors degree who works 40 hrs and has time and money to go to the gym and have hobbies or trips. * The average guy is not in the gym every other day 😂 *The average American is more than a little pudgy. Only 30% of Americans are a healthy weight, 70% are overweight or obese with 40% being obese. Those people are not at the gym 4 days a week. * Averag…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:32 PM
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It’s definitely quantity over quality. I’ve gotten laid from dating apps so many times but they range from uggo to average. When I met people organically it was rare but so much hotter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:13 PM
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10000 years ago most babies died or were miscarried. Probably the last 150 years is when we saw women getting stuck with a 15 year commitment as you say thanks to lower infant mortality. And not surprisingly, 50 years ago is when we came together and rushed to the development of birth control and legalization of abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 04:10 PM
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lol you think the NFL exhibits men with planning, precision and execution? Cmon now, those players are scouted and identified by jr high as top 1% physical specimens. Some of the top talents make it to the NFL despite their best efforts to wash out i.e., going to jail, drugs, carrying around guns illegally, failing out of school, hanging out with the wrong crowds. I can’t even decipher what your point is. A “glow up” isn’t about peak physical performance. Plus, the reason people retire by 30 in …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:10 PM
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It’s largely cosplay and fantasizing about the pretty parts of a bygone era. You can’t have 3 kids, a stay at home mom a dad who comes home at 5 to a freshly cooked dinner in modern times. You’ll find that out soon enough. There are so many unsavory parts of the “trad wife” era. Invasive religious ideals that force their ways into your life like your pastor counseling you on who to marry and how to behave as a wife. No financial insight or autonomy. You wouldn’t have a credit card or access mone…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:30 AM
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Too bad the other person doesn’t always feel that way. You’re dating them as a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:07 PM
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What the heck 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:55 AM
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Its narcissism and delusion through and through. I've never met a happily married or serious couple espousing 'divine femininity'. They're pragmatic and practical in their interaction. The relationship is a team effort where they are taking on challenges and working through them as they come. This 'divine femininity' stuff just sounds like a romance novel. Day dreaming about a man who will take away all your worries and obligations and sweep you off your feet. What about apply for a mortgage, go…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:52 AM
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A lot of younger women will date an older man because it guarantees they can keep emotions out of it and keep it casual. They know they’re going to end up with someone closer to their age for their life partner so this much older guy allows them to let their hair down and just live the lifestyle that he affords her.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/24 04:32 AM
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I don’t think the issue is trying to convince yourself of desire on the next guy that comes around but rather do self reflection and have better awareness of your own social and romantic status. Then you’ll have genuine attraction to those people rather than people out of your league.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:40 PM
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Sure he was right if you read their agreement like a legal document. But women sometimes just need some emotional reassurance that they aren’t just a fuckhole, even if you point to the agreement screaming “it says you agreed to be a fuckhole right here!”. They don’t usually want that front of mind for NSA sex. If they don’t care then that’s great but rare. I’m sure sex was on the table until he fumbled the bag. She didn’t want to renegotiate the terms of the deal, just wanted to communicate. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:08 PM
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Have you ever been to a bar, concert or been to a resort on vacation? Women oogle over the tattooed guy playing guitar at open mic, tanned surf bum or Latino lover bar back all the time. Then they go back to their real life and they’re like oh that was a one-time thing with Enrique or Todd the surfer. Go to Latin America, a cougar and young local guy is as common as an old guy with an Asian girlfriend in Thailand. Women aren’t looking to hookup on a random Tuesday in the suburbs on bumble but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 08:04 PM
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Yeah that literally happens constantly when women look for LTR. If she’s looking for a hookup then they’ll let it slide
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:22 PM
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That’s the whole point of the 80/20. Nothing you said disproves the theory. Men are willing to date at or above their level. Women are only willing to date above their level. Men are regularly dating people who are dating their match in attractiveness and status, sometimes down even. Men don’t care about career path, financial status. Women aren’t going for guys who are uglier, with less status or worse jobs than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:03 AM
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You’re right. It doesn’t have to be viewed super cynically though. For example, I am highly attracted to some early 20s tanned sorority girls at the beach but when I think LTR, I want someone roughly my attraction level who is kind, honest, reliable, actually sexy and compatible in bed. What pill does that fall under? I don’t know if the women I spoke of are “sexually attracted” to these guys, but they do seem fully committed to them and in it for the long haul. I don’t see them wanting to cheat…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:19 AM
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Yeah I assumed they misused “conducted by” and meant “sourced from”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:47 AM
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I’m at the age where I’ve seen the full arc of these women though. They are the ones that are overly picky, want princess treatment and swiped left on tons of totally decent men while saying “ick, he’s under 6’3”, etc. They either stay perpetually single (while their market value tanks as they age) or they absolutely do settle down and marry someone well within their own attractiveness. I’ve seen it dozens of times. The system is working whether we know it or not. You’ll see a 5 going on a date …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:45 AM
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Chasing is maybe the wrong word but 80% are certainly open and aware of the top tier of men. If those men approached them or “shoot their shot” so to speak, it would be like shooting fish in a barrel. Whether the woman is pursuing is a different story, but maybe not an important distinction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:38 AM
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The $100k jobs where you work 30-40 hrs exist but are few and far between or the 30-40 hr part doesn’t last long. Usually requires some combination of luck, lots of skill/experience in some very useful field and good networking. If you don’t have any of those then good luck. If you do, you probably already make $100k+
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:07 AM
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What do you do for a living?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:05 AM
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Nothing at all in your post mentions anything about companionship, being a team/partner, romance or love. You only talk about education, career and material things (“everything you own”). Is that what a man means to you? Simply a stepping stone for you to achieve personal and financial ambitions?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:53 PM
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This is what I’m observing. The blue collar people I’m talking about tend to swap jobs often, if someone makes them mad they just quit. Teachers can’t do that. They have a pension, contract, career and school leadership to answer to so they tend to understand complex interpersonal relationships and navigate carefully. Doctors understand how to navigate this kind of thing but have egos because they are often in a position of power. Their tune changes really fast when they’re on their best behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 12:04 AM
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I worked retail at that age and can tell you if I just stayed in that job I would be emotionally stunted now in my 30s. You just emotionally shut off when customers have temper tantrums or coworkers act like idiots. You never learn any sort of relationship management or working through complex interpersonal issues like in a career oriented job where you want to keep good working relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:49 PM
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You sound like a misogynist yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 12:28 PM
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There’s plenty of women on women allegations and domestic violence. Ask anyone that works a DV hotline. I get your point though in regards to approaches and courtship phases though
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:43 PM
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I mean it’s like being at a steak house and the options are steak chicken or vegan wrap. You know which option is getting picked all the time even if they’re all available.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 12:23 AM
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Men are in the desert, women are at a brewery. They might not like wine better but there’s plenty of options and you won’t be thirsty.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 12:20 AM
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Men in their 20s and 30s are sooo rarely millionaires or highly successful unless they come from wealth. My background allows me to rub shoulders with entrepreneurs, investors, successful business people. They’re always late 40s/early 50s and rarely playing the field. A lot of times have surprisingly unremarkable spouses. There’s something else at play here. The IG fitness influencer is probably not really that wealthy or jet setting every weekend. It’s largely a facade aimed specifically at get…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 01:28 AM
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I think what matters here are there are many types of female attraction, they don’t all want 6 packs, fitness girls or girls who aspire to be a fitness girl want that. They do want a guy that confers some status to them. Artsy girls want a lanky artist/musician or trendy promoter that can get her backstage. Sporty girls want a guy who works in a pro sports front office and can get her box seats for free. So on and so forth.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 01:22 AM
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I think it’s an exaggeration but only because it’s focusing on physical attraction. I see lots of hot women with goofy looking guys. But goofy guy is tall. Or goofy guy is a musician, or goofy guy is from a wealthy family, or goofy guy has access to party drugs. The “Chad” factor isn’t just square jaw athletes but these guys have some “it” factor that the women are aspiring up to despite their lack of matching attractiveness, achievements, status, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 01:18 AM
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Bruh women talk about sex acts way more explicitly and in detail than men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 03:55 PM
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“Working at a brewery is not a privilege. Yeah you have unlimited free beer but the hangovers are terrible, you have to pee all the time and it’s not even the kind of beer I like. It’s all IPAs and I like sours.” Meanwhile men are dying of thirst in the desert.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:51 PM
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Every guy wants a relationship. Just not with you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:02 PM
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Oh man #2. Women love calling whatever attention their getting from a man a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:16 PM
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What makes you think someone will have “lots of sex” at 30 if they had issues having any sex in their teens or 20s. They’re still dealing with the root issue of awkwardness, inexperience, lack of compatibility and lack of willing partners. Popping their cherry doesn’t magically fix anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 11:29 PM
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I don’t mean to be pedantic but women dress to project an image in public but not for impressing people individually. Its not about dressing for other groups specifically (e.g men or women or people at the restaurant you are going to be at) as much as it is how they care about their self-image on display. It’s like a musician playing their songs, they’re not necessarily trying to impress the audience. Some people just don’t like that genre but they’re trying to put out the best performance they …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 10:51 PM
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That’s a high salary but not always what people think of as high status. A CIA agent, Navy SEAL and many politicians make sub-$100k but are considered high status.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 09:57 PM
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😂I read loose literally and jumped to the conclusion that your “unfortunate circumstance” was having a megapenis that prevented you from having sex with normal women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 09:54 PM
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Plus with life experience you see behind the curtain. I grew up in a medical family so the allure of a rich and brilliant doctor is pretty much spoiled. And I’ve dated a few drop dead gorgeous women and no longer see them as more appealing than a slightly less attractive women who is more normal socially and ego-wise 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:25 PM
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If you actually hang out in these circles, the reality is immediately apparent. Most male models are pretty but struggling. Trying to find gigs, not getting paid much, not using their brains, trying to be influencers or selling fitness plans to make ends meet. Sure the top male models are rich and get high SMV but it falls off fast after the top 10 people. If you grab a random top 50-percentile doctor, they’re probably doing quite well, quite smart and hard working. Top 50-percentile male models…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:51 PM
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When I was in grad school, I ran around with other people in other “high prestige” grad programs including med school and law school since it was a college town. There are definitely females honing in on people in these demographics. They don’t care if it’s lawyer, doctor, MBA. Just that the person is ambitious, has earning potential and a high caliber career path. They weren’t hanging out at the auto body school, ya know?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:46 PM
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Idk if I call a district manager a high status career. Usually a guy who’s worked retail and worked their way up to a mid level job after decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:42 PM
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Successful men also tend to be intellectually driven men who want mental stimulation and someone who can match them (and complement them) in terms of ambition and career. They can demand beauty and brains. Maybe not equal because two surgeons married to each other aren’t ever going to see each other due to working 100 hrs a week, but you still don’t see a surgeon marrying an 18 year old HS grad smoke show usually. Of course you have successful men who aren’t academically or intellectually high c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:41 PM
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I think the difference is that, in real life, the scenario isn’t a “barely legal” woman. It’s like 25 and 40-45. There’s often a world of difference between early and mid-20s. Especially if that 25 year old is on an adult path of being done with school and settled into their (early) career path.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:17 PM
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That’s false. They may be portrayed that way in social media but let’s get back to reality and the point of the whole debate. Average and below average women (eg overweight, single moms, entitled, bad lifestyles, boring, uneducated) are still being pursued, having sex and getting into relationships. Average men, even moderately above average men, hell even some top men by the sheer randomness and unpredictability of female attraction are not getting any of the above action.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:48 PM
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The Chad New Deal
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:23 PM
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Why is the expectations to be ”really impressed”? Men seek women who they are compatible with and complement their lives. A man can have his life together in a way that is not “impressive”. Average car not a Ferrari, normal BMI but no six pack, steady career but not a CEO. Feel free to use whatever metric you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 07:49 PM
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It just boils down to the average man is not that attractive. Women’s attraction for men is not symmetrical to men’s attraction for women. This is the entire argument. The average man should be attractive to the average woman when considering physical, societal, etc factors. I promise that the attractiveness of men and women are both bell curves and there are roughly the same number of men and women in the world (and the heterosexual dating pool). Fact is that 90% of men are not ugly losers whil…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 07:43 PM
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That’s the thing, it’s selection bias. Women pursue and believe they deserve a top 10% man no matter what they bring to the table. Eventually some women get tired and pair off, ending up with someone at their same attraction and social level. Those are the ones you are referring to. A staggering number remain single and continue the futile chase for men out of their league, clogging up the dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 07:35 PM
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Uhhh, women are awarded custody in almost all parenting scenarios and men often have little to not visitation. I don’t know how parenting classes help. This is a problem created by women or at least in the intent to “help” women. Also women initiate most divorces and thus the fatherless scenario. That leaves the strictest definition of deadbeat dad who is completely absent/left town/one night stand/etc. No amount of parenting classes or grassroots support is going to bring those guys back into t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:30 PM
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Agree, don't give too much credit to men and 'sincere efforts'. We're picking the easiest path above all. We've already established that the absolute hottest women are highly unavailable (since we've proven that even mediocre women are getting overwhelming male attention) so we might throw our hat in the ring occasionally for them but usually put our mental resources towards higher probability targets.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:08 PM
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There’s an entire subreddit of people who were “sextorted” by having their naked videos leaked. All men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:43 PM
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It’ll ruin a man’s just as much. We acknowledge that a woman was likely victimized if her nude pics are released. People assume a partner shared them or took them without permission. We blame men if their nudes are out there. Either assume it was an unsolicited dick pic or we mock the man for doing something unsavory such as masturbating or even having a homosexual encounter, etc. without even looking into how the content was made public to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:42 PM
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I’ve met plenty of 30 year old women who are barely better off than a 21 year old (ok maybe 22yo) with an entry level job.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:33 AM
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I went out w someone who ended up running for state office and winning. Her social media is so active now of her volunteering, campaigning and doing speeches everywhere. So glad I am not involved with that. I am a very private person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:41 PM
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There are plenty of below average men that have above average amounts of sex. Below average men don’t pursue higher ed, don’t pursue demanding careers. They spend less time studying and climbing the corporate ladder and spend more time doing things that will actively get them in sexual situations like going to bars, partying, doing drugs. Sure, they can choose to stay in their parents basement but at least they have the choice to do activities compatible with getting laid. Above average men tend…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 03:27 AM
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Well it’s an average. I bet there are lots of people in the 0-2 range and I know for certain there are many people, sometimes surprising people 😂 who are 100+
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 03:14 AM
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With appearance yes but I’m always amazed how many black folks die in their 50s-60s while still looking great on the outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:59 AM
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Bro what are you talking about. Most older women completely give up. They get a low maintenance lesbian/Bieber haircut, wear Crocs, capri leggings and patterned baggy shirts. They have 1-2 kids and gain 15 lbs per kid that they never seem to lose. If you look closely, you’ll see probably 30% of women over 40 have female pattern baldness. I’d say the differentiator after 35-40 is genetics. The hottest older women I know look almost as good as they did at 25 and barely workout or do anything extre…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:58 AM
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It hurts to think that someone values you as a person and to learn that they were only interested in you because you have a truck and can help them move/fix their dryer/take them out on a boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:37 PM
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Eventually you see on social media who those people who harp on unrealistic requirements actually settle with. They can want the top 10% but in the end, many of them settle with someone of their same attractiveness and economic class.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:49 PM
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Lol the median income in Saudi Arabia is like $2500 a year but I get your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:46 PM
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Bro it’s not lifestyle creep. The home price to median income ratio has skyrocketed since the 80s. Our parents and grandparents were living quite well on one blue collar salary. House, not 2 br apt, two cars not taking the bus, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:43 PM
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