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Something I've heard from several trans men is sources of support drying up. For me, it was how resources to deal with abuse were so heavy on assuming male-perpetrator/female-victim, and how a sizeable portion of society was hostile to the concept of other gender dynamics in abuse. This some years back - resources and attitudes have got much better since then, as far as I've seen. I've heard others describe how they found themselves getting less support from others for mental illnesses, disabili…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/01/26 04:54 AM
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Charities and such exist for men/boys, but they're unlikely to use the MRA label. E.g. Here's a list of some UK ones. Note that doesn't include gender-neutral charities, e.g. Campaign Against Living Miserably is a suicide prevention charity that offers support to anyone; it was initially specifically about young men, and it still seems clearly focused on men. It's the equivalent of what you mentioned of the women/feminist orientated charities doing things for men/boys. I think the misogynistic r…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/25 05:42 PM
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I'm sure there's 21 people in existence who you find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 01:49 PM
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This is a generalization, of course, all men are different but look at the way gay men date each other if you want an idea of what the male idealized way of dating would be like. It's basically "Sex and then...I dunno, we'll think about that part later, for now let's just have sex!" Can confirm... Met with a guy yesterday. My profile mentions something about wanting "more than a ONS", his profile mentions something about "casual or serious". As he was leaving he asked if I lived here alone - I s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 04:29 PM
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Absolutely. And I think your marriage shows the point you were making with your initial comment about truthfulness. I assume you two have, despite having different sexual approaches initially, been communicating honestly with one another? So you could actively make that choice to be less adventurous. Similarly if sex-is-a-recreational-activity and sex-is-only-for-intimacy people enter into a relationship. Very, very possibly to work, but not a good start if they don't communicate..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:53 PM
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They can! People can enjoy sex in multiple forms rather than only holding to one. But b0f0s0f is talking from a position of preserving family cultural values about sex and a less permissive approach to sex. Almost certainly, someone with b0f0s0f's approach to sex would not be a good partner for me. He has expectations and points of reference in a restricted approach that I doubt would fit well with my approach. Which is totally legitimate, I'm not meaning to knock his approach, nor anyone else's…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:12 PM
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It's the same with anything, people who are more permissive about something are able to tolerate people who are less permissive about it, but not vice versa. If you like your house cleaner than I do, I'll be able to tolerate you but you won't be able to tolerate me. I disagree there. Virtually everyone prefers a clean house to a dirty one (just have different levels of priority to it, how much time is worthwhile spending on cleaning). But not everyone prefers more restrictions on sex. I wouldn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 12:22 PM
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You misunderstand me! I'm saying that anal is usually done for him and not pleasurable for her. So it's probably something that she'll only be willing to do if she's already having great sex with him. It's like - if the person I had had the best sex of my life with wanted me to dress up like a dinosaur, ya know what, fuck it, I'd put effort into finding a great dinosaur costume for him. I wouldn't get anything from it, but I would be happy to make him happy. If Joe Bloggs who had never bothered …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 05:47 PM
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The fact that most of the replies here are telling men to ask women what they want instead of telling women to just saw what they want is telling. Women aren't asking me what I want, I'm asking for it. Women often having poor communication in sex is a valid criticism; it's like how many women will self-sabotage their own enjoyment by faking orgasms. The trickiness in my mind is the gender dynamics. Men's self-esteem is held in their sexual prowess, and whilst it's not quite "lie back and think o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 12:05 PM
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I had to look up what GGG means. But GGG = good sex looks reasonable! Looks like it means the same as a belief I have that the trick to good sex is putting at least as much effort into the other person's pleasure. If both have that approach, then it's good sex for both. And would lead to much of the list from that article.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 11:22 AM
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“ Women who receive anal have orgasms 94 percent of the time they have sex.” NOPE (for me) Would you agree to anal with a man who you don't usually cum with at all? I'd wager most women wouldn't. But with a man who spends a lot of time going down on you, who goes longer than a quick pump and dump, who acts out your sexual fantasies... If he was to ask you for anal, would you be more likely to agree? Sure, you still may not, but on average I'd say that women who receive what gets them off are mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:51 AM
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Women who reported usually/always orgasming were more likely to: Also include the line in the article that followed the list: If the sexual experience included vaginal intercourse—with orgasm for the woman—then what helped her was deep kissing, manual genital stimulation, and/or oral sex. Seems to fit with "don't just rely on penetration". Many of the listed things about what women do won't be making them cum. Like, a woman probably won't cum from praising her partner, but would be more likely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:43 AM
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Partially yes, but not wholly. I'd ask you if you were actually interested in sex with her at all, and ask you what your interests are. I'd wager that you don't really like blowjobs or penetration much, and that those were what she enjoyed. So my initial assumption would be that she was self-focused, and you were not interested at all and just doing it out of a feeling of obligation. Answer would be for both of you to take an interest in what you enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:12 PM
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Men are typically visual, women are typically more abstract. Obviously that's not 100%, it's just a tendency. Look at porn - "hot person moving about" is what men are typically into, whilst written smut is typically dominated by women. Attracting a woman purely visually is an "almost unattainable standard" because that's not how the average woman's sexuality works. Now add in that many women can't orgasm via penetration, but many men expect them to. Expecting to make women cum via visuals and pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:11 PM
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Totally agree that there's differences in experiences that may make it harder to see eye-to-eye. Just wanted to reply on: They/you chose to be men, we didn't. Medical transition was a necessary medical treatment for my symptoms, so it wasn't a choice. Or rather, I didn't have the choice to continue on as a woman / with a body of fully female sex characteristics.
/r/MensRights11/10/22 02:20 PM
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What's the evidence that trans-men have comparable legal outcomes as men i.e. longer sentences, higher arrest rates, than women for the same crime)? I've never heard of this. I'm just going off anecdotal. The most extreme case I have heard wasn't about courtroom, but still relevant - a trans man talking about how he was subject to a false rape allegation. He was clearly innocent (accused of rape via penis, he did not have a penis), but it still destroyed his life, because people assumed that a m…
/r/MensRights11/10/22 02:03 PM
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The people saying "trans men are men" are different people from those writing the draft laws. Those who wrote these laws are most probably of the opinion that "trans men are women".
/r/MensRights11/10/22 11:59 AM
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Trans men aren't the ones writing the draft laws. I knew a trans man about a decade ago who was in the US military (until someone outed him so he got dismissed, as trans people weren't permitted to be in the US military at the time).
/r/MensRights11/10/22 11:56 AM
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Just a handful of examples off the top of my head. A lesson which can be very shocking for trans men to learn is to not call the police if a girlfriend physically assaults you. I have seen trans men talking about doing that exact thing and being arrested, solely due to the assumption that the man is the aggressor. Court rulings, with any sexist biases from judge or jury (relevant to criminal prosecution, father's rights, and divorce). Trans men who have sex with men being affected by gay men's i…
/r/MensRights11/10/22 11:51 AM
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I think very few would try to claim that trans men share every single experience with cis men. Enough to be relevant to the topic of men's rights, yes. Every single one? No.
/r/MensRights11/10/22 10:40 AM
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Fair - trans people are people also goes the other way, i.e. includes there being insufferable arses!
/r/MensRights11/10/22 10:07 AM
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Am a trans man, but am not from USA. Trans people are affected by a range of male and female issues, depending on factors like transition status, passing ability, outness, etc. E.g. A trans man may be affected by access to abortion and access to resources for abused men. The experience is mixed.
/r/MensRights11/10/22 09:57 AM
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It's probably not the trans movement that decided the draft laws...
/r/MensRights11/10/22 09:40 AM
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About a decade ago, I knew a US trans man who was in the military. He was living stealth (i.e. nobody knew he was trans), and eventually he got outed and dismissed (as at that point, the US military didn't allow trans people). Point being, trans people are just people, inc. ones who actively want to join the military, and probably aren't the ones making the draft laws.
/r/MensRights11/10/22 09:36 AM
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men have higher metabolism so it's that much more unappealing when they can't use their biological advantage to staying un-obese Men likely have higher appetites. I transitioned FtM. Obesity is very common in trans men after going on testosterone (even if healthy weight before), because we grew up on female appetites so just aren't well equipped to handle male ones. It's a hell of a learning curve.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 04:31 PM
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Toronto wasn't allowing men with beards to be in that role regardless of whether they passed public health safety tests. Under-mask beard covers enable the majority of bearded men to get a proper seal and past the mask fit test.
/r/MensRights06/07/22 04:14 PM
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A blanket rule can be discriminatory if a group of people are disproportionately affected without justifiable reason. Some men can pass the fit test for an adequate seal with a beard. Most men with beards will pass if using the ‘Singh Thattha’ method (sort of making a beard turban). So arguably, a strict "no beards" rule is unnecessary. The rule should be, "can you pass the standard set?". It really matters for some religious men, as many Sikh, Jewish and Muslim men can't shave for religious rea…
/r/MensRights06/07/22 03:57 PM
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How can it be, that men-bashing has reached those levels? Election strategist David Canzini has instructed ministers to “find the wedge issues in your department and hammer them”. So they're trying to set fires everywhere, spark off culture wars. It's a distraction technique (aka "dead cat"), and Johnson has been making divisive comments for weeks. It's supposed to get 'stopping all that woke stuff' to the top of people's agendas. Unfortunately for him, it doesn't seem to be working. Conservativ…
/r/MensRights29/06/22 06:28 PM
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Idiocy. I preferred Johnson when he was hiding in a fridge. It's probably not a sex difference, and women aren't brainless kittens. It's a power difference. People who seek political power very often are the types who see themselves as above the 'plebs'. There's a reason why so many British politicians went to Eton... More men are in such a place to go on to pursue that, but a woman in that place is going to be the same. E.g. One of the most infamous prime ministers in British history was a woma…
/r/MensRights29/06/22 06:02 PM
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Holy crap. I'm a Lefty Brit, so have heard plenty of negatives about ole Milk Snatcher, but somehow have never heard this one.
/r/MensRights29/06/22 05:24 PM
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A "sex strike" is an odd idea as a protest to me, and I'm not sure it would achieve much. Especially in the UK??? Abortion is still legal in UK! Whereas it is absolutely sensible for people (both men and women) to not have PIV sex unless one of the following is true: Elective abortion is legal They are trying for a baby One or both people have been sterilised or are otherwise infertile Sterilisation is very hard to get if you're a woman under 30 (see /r/childfree), so that may look like a sex st…
/r/MensRights27/06/22 03:08 PM
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A question to ask there (and I don't know the answer) is why US has such a high abortion rate? Bad education on contraception? Availability of contraception? Availability of sterilisation? Just looking at some stats - abortion rates in USA have gone way down since the 1980s, which I didn't know, so something has been changing. Also, it's mostly black and hispanic women who are getting them. I'll guess that it's something to do with poverty, as USA has such a strong wealth divide by ethnicity? Th…
/r/MensRights25/06/22 03:24 PM
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Sounds more like tradcon than men's rights? Men's rights virtually all boil down to being about societal gender roles, with men getting shafted when they step outside the expected role of being a provider/protector.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 03:13 PM
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Ah, sorry - so many in this thread who genuinely are crowing about this or having a complete lack of empathy for the women affected. Didn't catch the tone, thought you were one of them!
/r/MensRights25/06/22 03:11 PM
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Yes, plenty are short-sighted knobheads. Doesn't mean we have to be as well! Both men and women blaming the other for gendered social problems and near celebrating when the other is defeated, when both sex's social problems are caused by the same damn thing.... Both sides are busy celebrating own goals. The real question I guess is, "Which is more important to you - knocking women down a peg, or resolving social issues for men?"
/r/MensRights25/06/22 03:09 PM
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In the Western world circumcision has been on the retreat, big-time. A wide array of legal changes - not allowed if either one of the parents refuse, no longer provided under national healthcare, no longer allowed without anaesthesia, no longer allowed in national hospitals... Almost got a full-scale ban in Iceland. Socially, doctors are dissuading circumcisions (outside of those medically necessary), and with the exception of Jews and Muslims, virtually no-one is getting circumcised nowadays. C…
/r/MensRights25/06/22 03:04 PM
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The equality I'd be in favour of is for men to be able to sign out of the whole ordeal at the very start - no part of child's life, no child support, if said so immediately or maybe only as a kinda pre-sex pre-nup. The current situation isn't an equal standard. Men aren't having to go through the physical process of pregnancy. Men's bodies are unaffected.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 01:41 PM
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And it should be. If women don't have bodily autonomy, it's gonna be a hell of a lot harder for men to with circumcisions.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 01:38 PM
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Ah yes, men's rights: women should be real women & give birth, men should pay child support to children they didn't want in the first place. ???
/r/MensRights25/06/22 01:33 PM
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Are you now in favour of sex only happening for the purpose of procreation? People have sex for reasons other than making babies, and suggesting that they shouldn't isn't great for that claim of US freedom.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 01:31 PM
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Body autonomy is a major point of men's rights, as it underpins the anti-circumcision argument.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 01:28 PM
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This is something I think more couples should talk about before having sex. I.e. People having sex with people who are in agreement of what to do if there is a pregnancy. What happens sucks for you, majorly. Still doesn't mean you should be able to force her to go through pregnancy.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 01:21 PM
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Women losing abortion rights is a loss to everyone. The enemy isn't women, it's enforced gender roles: women as homely baby-makers, men as providers. Anything that reinforces that is a loss to men's rights.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 01:16 PM
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If that's your attitude, why should anyone care about your problems?
/r/MensRights25/06/22 01:07 PM
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It isn't in most places
/r/MensRights25/02/22 02:10 PM
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You can in Ukraine. It's not easy to get a change in legal documentation there, but it does exist.
/r/MensRights25/02/22 05:36 AM
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I thought it was 30, aka "gay death"
/r/PussyPassDenied05/09/21 01:11 PM
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Yep. People can sleep around if they like, and people can also seek partners who don't.
/r/MensRights18/08/21 07:32 PM
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What's wrong with casual sex? I agree that virginity isn't something that one should be ashamed of, but don't need to flip to the other extreme and think that sex is shameful.
/r/MensRights18/08/21 05:31 PM
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The hard end of MRAs can resemble radical feminists sometimes. At least they're too ideologically opposed to join forces!
/r/MensRights20/05/20 01:38 AM
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You've probably even met quite a few trans people without even realising it. OH! You're just delusional. That answers my question above. Nevermind. Hah, do you really think no trans people pass...
/r/MensRights20/05/20 01:35 AM
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Wait, trans men pre-op would have vaginas
/r/MensRights20/05/20 01:33 AM
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It is fkin nuts. I got the numbers slightly wrong by the way, have just checked and she demanded 83%, he paid 65%. It's a bit lengthy, but if you're interested, lemme just copy paste the relevant section of the script for a little talk I did. If you want to skim-read, just look at the last two paragraphs. My Dad’s journey with fatherhood was difficult, after divorcing her when I was 1. To be in my life, he had to submit to his abuser, the woman who had rammed a comb into his eye, who had control…
/r/MensRights28/04/20 10:31 PM
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For parents who do this... yeah. My Mum demanded 84% of my Dad's salary. She got 60% of it for 2 years, despite being the higher earner for most of that, until he entirely ran out of money and finally renegotiated. At 18, i.e. when the gravy train ended, she kicked me out of home (though full disclosure, this was also because I got insufficient school grades and because she didn't take my coming out well).
/r/MensRights28/04/20 09:31 PM
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Yup, that's precisely what I do (just making the point that it's not always about who's got a penis). People have been using them like that fine for years, then USA had a little freakout over toilets and suddenly it was a talking point. Bit ridiculous.
/r/MensRights26/04/20 08:50 AM
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I'm FtM. If I use the women's toilet, I'll have security called on me.
/r/MensRights26/04/20 08:14 AM
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Yup, that's how I view them! There are lots of good feminists. But if someone says they're a radical feminist, they're likely to start speaking hate for certain groups.
/r/MensRights10/04/20 12:43 PM
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Example of No True Scotsman - the religious side of my family would say that Christianity is necessary for morality, etc., but any examples of immoral Christians - "well, they weren't TRUE Christians". Morality depends on Christianity because Christians are good, and as Christians are good, immoral people are not Christian. Saying that ACTUAL feminists fight for female equality feels similar. That the bad ones aren't 'true' feminists.
/r/MensRights10/04/20 12:17 AM
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That's a bit No True Scotsman. I'd say they are feminists, but they don't represent all of feminism - they're a very specific branch, often in complete opposition to mainstream feminism.
/r/MensRights09/04/20 11:18 PM
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Oh yeah, completely agree that people should be responsible and sort out protection before they have sex.
/r/MensRights09/04/20 11:14 PM
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Gender Critical feminists (known more commonly as TERFs) hate men, trans people, gay men, bisexuals, sex workers.....
/r/MensRights09/04/20 10:34 PM
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Loads of situations where one can end up with a pregnancy, without it just being carelessness. (Even if it is carelessness, forcing careless people to have a child they don't want doesn't sound like a good plan).
/r/MensRights09/04/20 10:30 PM
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What are you talking about? Estrogen blockers are the first step in transitioning. It can be the first thing taken, but in that case one will go off it, and be only on testosterone. It is very often not used at all, i.e. one starts on testosterone and never uses blockers. Testosterone doesn't shut down estrogen production. Jesus... An FtM on testosterone and not on blockers will have their oestrogen levels decrease, and menstruation stop. So now you're also a psychic. Nice. Now you are arguing t…
/r/MensRights22/03/20 05:03 PM
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It's a natural process, but that doesn't mean you can't increase your test level above natural. Yes, but oestrogen goes up too. I'm sure professional bodybuilders want to look more feminine, that's why they take often 10000 mg of anabolic steroids a week. Remember that the goal is different. Bodybuilders aim to get ripped, despite downsides. FtMs aim to increase male sex characteristics and decrease female sex characteristics. Feminisation is an unfortunate side-effect to bodybuilders, but compl…
/r/MensRights22/03/20 04:05 PM
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Excess testosterone will get converted to oestrogen (don't know if that's all men or specific to trans men). It's heavily drilled into trans men that that will happen, and one thing trans men do not want is more oestrogen. It's also heavily drilled in that excess testosterone will not speed up changes - be patient. Medical weed doesn't have precise monitoring of quantity in the body, afaik. Testosterone does. Get a high reading, doctor will give you less.
/r/MensRights22/03/20 03:36 PM
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There's regular blood tests for trans men. If someone goes above normal male ranges, they'll reduce the testosterone given.
/r/MensRights22/03/20 03:09 PM
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Crazy why?
/r/MensRights22/03/20 03:07 PM
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If you're eating so often at restaurants (expensive) that it's single-handedly making you fat, you've got enough money to throw at the problem if you wanted. But even so, there's ways around it. Order a half or a child's portion. Or, order a regular sized meal but eat only half. You could take the other half away with you for later.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 08:03 PM
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What is your limit on "inciting violence"? Does that mean that somebody like Abu Hamza is not allowed to say "go out right now and kill some people", but is allowed to talk more generally about how the infidels deserve certain things to happen to them? Maybe saying that [previous terrorist act] was a good thing for some reasons, maybe a slightly more vague recruiting to action?
/r/MensRights22/03/19 03:46 PM
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Do you support the right of recruiters for Islamic fundamentalism and militancy to preach openly, with no barriers whatsoever to their words?
/r/MensRights22/03/19 03:31 PM
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I don't think it's good for a society's safety to have, for example, someone like Abu Hamza openly preaching a form of fundamentalist militant Islam. Particularly around the time of several high-scale Islamic terrorist acts in UK and countries close by. Speech does incite action, and there is a point where it crosses a line, and society should step in before someone gets the great idea to kill somebody.
/r/MensRights22/03/19 03:23 PM
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No, if the MRM supports legitimate hate speech, then it will give ammunition to those who wish men's issues be silenced. As then it would be a legitimate claim that MRAs are hate-speech adjacent.
/r/MensRights22/03/19 02:32 PM
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Well... I guess that's one way to persuade me that I don't support free speech? Also as people have said, why is it on a men's rights sub?
/r/MensRights22/03/19 01:35 PM
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Well, yeah? It's just that "mental illness" is not an insult, and medical transition is the effective treatment for it.
/r/MensRights28/02/19 08:59 PM
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A lot of suicide attempts are, imo, better characterised as extreme self-harm. It's still a mental health crisis that desperately needs psychiatric attention, but not a 'real' (for lack of a better term) attempt to die.
/r/MensRights28/02/19 08:57 PM
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To fully soothe, yes, but you can resolve the issues to the point that they're no longer clinically significant through our imperfect and partial methods, i.e. get a person to the point that they are not at risk to themselves and are functioning in day to day life. Transition as it stands works for dysphoria (dysmorphia is a different condition), even though the perfect transition you speak of doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 11:44 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:02 PM
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Irresponsible why?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 09:03 AM
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... So?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 01:20 AM
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:throws all the money at you to magically go the rest of the way, complete transition:
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:18 PM
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OP never specified natal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:16 PM
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I've already transitioned, so would I be going back to original, or magical all the rest of the way the direction I've already gone?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:01 PM
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Sorry, realise now I shouldn't have gone personal at all (as you say, you aren't my therapist). Got thinking because of the topic of NPD and aspergers, but I should have kept it general. So I'll respond to what you've said here, but don't feel obliged to continue. still find it within yourself to be such an amazingly generous and caring person I was specifically talking about the differences between what makes my Mum a narcissist and how I behave. This means it's specifically positive. Anyone wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:44 PM
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Compare them with psychopaths and NPDs.... The BPDs having empathy and self-awareness (even if it's not exactly a wonderful amount of it) means that can overcome it if they admit they have BPD, do all the DBT necessary, and active work to overcome it. Psychopaths and NPD's are basically incapable of that afaik.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:07 PM
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I think I'm probably aspergers rather than 'aspergers', because whilst I see things like the emotional oddities and the difficulty with new people can come from my upbringing, I have sensory issues that fit aspergers but make little sense for 'aspergers', as far as I can tell. But it's something I can see can develop - I think I have the kind of grounding of what could have developed into narcissism, if things had been different? I have a lot of self-hatred, and my instinctive internal reaction …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 05:27 PM
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Wait, she has to be an anti-zionist jew, but can't be a follower of abrahamic religions?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 04:50 PM
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BPD has the benefit that it's treatable. Not an easy road, sure, but such people do have empathy and self-awareness and can get it under control. So learning that someone has been diagnosed with BPD isn't necessarily a death sentence for a relationship, if they have got better since diagnosis and aren't exhibiting the symptoms any more. So someone might be willing to go down the journey of helping someone to therapy. Also completely fair to not want to go through that and take the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 04:42 PM
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Ahhh written out fully, this makes a lot more sense. Narcissists using other conditions to shield themselves. Your descriptions of how each would occur are interesting... Although I wouldn't think it was "usually" the case with somebody who claimed BPD or autism. I prodded you for the explanation because it's quite a personal topic to me - narcissistic mother, and I was recently dx with aspergers (so being like my Mum is a large fear of mine). I know my Mum wouldn't do what you described, becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 04:34 PM
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What do you mean by it being a "cover"?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 02:57 PM
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Lol, I had to check the subreddit.
/r/MensRights26/12/18 12:02 PM
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2,544 gun crime offences, with 774,737 total offences. That's not a big number in comparison. And this is the Met Police - almost all of the UK criminal guns are located in London's gangs, so this is the absolute worst of the UK for guns. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_firearm-related_death_rate US homicide by gun rate = 4.62 per 100,000 per year UK homicide by gun rate = 0.06 per 100,000 per year So I think I'm pretty safe from the rooty tooty point-n-shooty
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 07:57 PM
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Or just spend 5 minutes around the Alt Right.
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 07:09 PM
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Neonazis, nazi sympathisers, whatever you want to call them. You knew exactly what I meant. The head mod was inactive for too long, and an /u/Lord_Henry_James (also a mod for an AltRight sub) got in control of the sub, removed all the mods (who moved to /r/PussyPassNeutral ) and set up other AltRight buddies to moderate here. The entire sub became things posted about how Hitler was great, the Jewish problem, heavy racism, etc. etc. If you disagreed, you got banned. Eventually, control of the sub…
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 07:07 PM
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I'm in UK, so if someone tries to rob or murder me I can near guarantee they won't have a gun.
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 05:15 PM
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Not OP, but things the Alt Right post are typically incredibly racist. I mean, just read the first line of Wikipedia: The alt-right, or alternative right, is a loosely-connected and somewhat ill-defined grouping of white supremacists/white nationalists, neo-Nazis, neo-fascists, neo-Confederates, Holocaust deniers, and other far-right fringe hate groups.
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 05:05 PM
3

I'm taking a stand against the American need to end sarcasm with /s :P Don't worry, post wasn't serious, I'm making a /r/ShitAmericansSay joke
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 05:00 PM
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I will give that USA has some insane access to guns, so it's very easy for someone to be illegally carrying (whereas with more gun controls, they couldn't be). But there's still a major risk there, which is that if they were stopped for any reason at all and found with a gun, they're immediately jailed for it. Crimes aren't sticking to them? Well, possession will.
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 04:58 PM
-2

It's not long ago that this sub was taken over by Nazis, so I wouldn't be surprised if there's some hard-right interest still around and many of the anti-Nazis haven't come back since the sub was purged of them. The Nazi takeover might've done irreparable damage to the sub?
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 04:42 PM
-1

There's some awful ShitAmericansSay going on in here, about the roving Muslamic rape gangs etc. And it's all about the ethnicity of the perpetrators.
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 04:38 PM
2

why would you not admit the truth, us Brits have been living under shakira law since 11/9
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 04:32 PM
1

Let me guess, you're not British.
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 04:26 PM
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If they could carry, the people carrying out the assaulted might have shot him in the jaw instead.
/r/PussyPass01/10/18 04:23 PM
1

There are an enormous number of people who aren't working towards equality of the sexes, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/18 06:09 PM
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Over the past decade, I've seen a massive rise in acknowledgement of male mental illness and abuse, both in advertisements of resources, and in people's willingness to listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/18 05:36 PM
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One thing I've seen repeatedly said by FtMs is how they feel support (for whatever - mental illness, disability, GNC, abuse, etc.) dried up somewhat as they went post-transition. This isn't just women, this is all of society having a more empathetic stance towards women. It's just standard gender role stuff - e.g. women are seen as dependent, men are seen as independent. A woman is less likely to be taken seriously in her career, a man is less likely to be taken seriously as a victim of abuse. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/18 05:27 PM
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I don't know the answer to your question, but according to the below source, it's cost effective to vaccinate adult men who have sex with men (even though many would have picked up HPV by then anyway), and there's some stats there e.g. oral cancer being more common in men, likely because of HPV. www.independent.co.uk/news/gay-men-hpv-jab-nhs-lgbt-bisexual-sex-human-papilloma-virus-cervical-cancer-a8197271.html
/r/MensRights16/07/18 11:53 PM
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This is all already known and in practice. UK uses the HPV vaccine Gardisil, which protects against HPV types 6, 11, 16, and 18. HPV 16 and 18 cause 70% of cervical cancer cases, and are responsible for the most HPV-induced anal, vulval, vaginal and penile cancer cases. HPV 6 and 11 cause 90% of genital warts cases.
/r/MensRights16/07/18 09:03 PM
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HPV is a very common infection, with 80% of people getting at least one of the kinds at some point. Some of them cause cancer. Cervical cancer is the big and more common one, but the majority of vaginal, vulval, penile, penile and anal cancers are caused by HPV. If you wait until the person is sexually active, too late. If you vaccinate them as a kid before they're sexually active, you can prevent potentially thousands of cancer cases a year. The UK decided to routinely vaccinate all the girls, …
/r/MensRights16/07/18 09:00 PM
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No joke, there was one individual who did this same stunt a few months back, but a younger attractive-enough person. Even the radfems questioned whether a woman with nice enough boobs flashing them to men and acting like, "if you let the trans people have rights, THIS is going to be the new normal" miiiiight not discourage men from supporting trans people.
/r/MensRights29/05/18 06:52 PM
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I don't believe they make much noise over transmen aside from the occasional snide remark about "gender traitors" They don't make much noise at all, but they have gradually changed their tune. It all used to be about how FtMs are gender traitors, but has morphed into FtMs are poor iddle little victims who have succumbed to patriarchy, and lost the light of the sisterhood. It's really patronising.
/r/MensRights29/05/18 10:26 AM
5

A 'joke'? How?
/r/MensRights28/05/18 06:48 AM
2

I've been here a while, and have transitioned FtM. Trans people get an odd mixture of gendered issues depending on specific circumstances, so FtMs can be affected by male issues.
/r/MensRights14/02/18 08:13 AM
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I'm on mobile so difficult to link it, but the CDC study on this has a publication split by sexual orientation.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 08:58 AM
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You're overweight, so you're overconsuming for the amount of energy you use. (I don't have any problem with this - some would rather be overweight so that they can eat/drink more nice things)
/r/MensRights08/10/17 02:48 PM
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150lb at 5'11 is a BMI of 20.9. Healthy BMI is 18.5-24.9. For 5'11, a healthy weight is 133lb - 178lb.
/r/MensRights08/10/17 02:48 PM
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Thanks for posting this, hopefully people upvote it to the top.
/r/MensRights24/09/17 10:15 PM
1

So how would you solve the problem?
/r/MensRights08/09/17 06:54 PM
1

That's great and all, unless you have severe gender dysphoria before you are 18.
/r/MensRights08/09/17 06:49 PM
1

It's a bit disappointing, as this sub has been supportive of trans people whenever I've seen the topic raised in the past. Now it looks the same as radical feminists.
/r/MensRights08/09/17 06:48 PM
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Hi there - ask and ye shall receive :) https://www.erudit.org/fr/revues/ss/2013-v59-n1-ss0746/1017478ar/ 27% of those planning to transition attempted suicide in the past year. 18% of those currently transitioning attempted suicide in the past year. 1% of those who have transitioned attempted suicide in the past year. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19816764 "86% were assessed by clinicians at follow-up as stable or improved in global functioning." http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/…
/r/MensRights08/09/17 06:46 PM
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It's not an ideal situation, but in some cases treating someone at a young age rather than waiting is necessary to prevent self-injury and suicide whilst waiting to be old enough to be helped.
/r/MensRights08/09/17 06:41 PM
1

This doesn't contradict /u/VoicelessFeather . Post-transition transsexuals have a lower suicide rate than pre-transition transsexuals, and a higher suicide rate than the general population.
/r/MensRights08/09/17 06:39 PM
1

Except for the fact that sex reassignment WORKS. You have a very small part of the population who cannot be effectively treated through other means.
/r/MensRights08/09/17 06:37 PM
1

If the risk of self-injury or suicide outweighs the risk of changing their mind about sex reassignment, I'd say that it's a fair deal. At the very least, one can take hormone blockers to prevent puberty (fully reversible).
/r/MensRights08/09/17 06:35 PM
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The best evidence we have is that it's effective, across multiple studies, even if those studies aren't perfect. Yes, the suicide rate is still higher than average post-transition. This'll be true for schizophrenics on antipsychotics too, does that mean they're ineffective? How about if I have an infection and get antibiotics? I might still die of the infection, does that mean we should stop using antibiotics?
/r/PussyPassDenied03/09/17 08:20 AM
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You can nitpick the study and say what you will The study is good, no nitpicking necessary. However, you have misunderstood the study. The paragraph I quoted, and particularly the sentence I bolded, is the authors saying explicitly that they do not show what you claimed they did. or you can prove evidence of the contrary. Sure thing. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19816764 "86% were assessed by clinicians at follow-up as stable or improved in global functioning." http://onlinelibrary.wiley.…
/r/PussyPassDenied02/09/17 07:43 PM
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Then why does the suicide rate remain the same (way above average) after transitioning? Do you have a source of this claim? For sex reassignment being effective: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19816764 "86% were assessed by clinicians at follow-up as stable or improved in global functioning." http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jsm.12363/abstract "A marked reduction in psychopathology occurs during the process of sex reassignment therapy, especially after the initiation of hormone th…
/r/PussyPassDenied02/09/17 10:21 AM
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False. That study did not compare post-transition with pre-transition, and therefore makes no claim about whether suicidality increases or decreases after transition. It looked at how much more likely post-transition transsexuals were to die than non-transsexuals. It's no surprise that transsexuals die more than transsexuals, given the difficulty of transition and trauma of dysphoria, the fact that transition is only a partial treatment, and discrimination and prejudice experienced. So the autho…
/r/PussyPassDenied02/09/17 10:19 AM
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Someone who's in need of hormones and intending to go on them is in a very different situation than someone who wants to put on a dress sometimes.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/17 11:04 PM
3

Regardless of what anyone thinks of that - clearly a person who is 100% biologically male is not the exact same as someone who's taken treatment to change aspects of their biology.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/17 10:18 PM
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Sources? I have sources that sex reassignment is an effective treatment, if you would like them.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/17 10:17 PM
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Biologically speaking, stuff like sex hormones affects biology. And the people are different, in that crossdressers don't literally want to be women. They want to be men in women's clothing. Clothes don't actually affect anything biologically.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/17 04:41 PM
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There's a difference between trans people and crossdressers.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/17 04:34 PM
2

I think you may have misread.
/r/MensRights21/08/17 09:24 AM
0

'Support gay rights' are we still doing that about trump...
/r/MensRights21/08/17 09:23 AM
1

You might want to specify if you're using an alternative definition. If you said that Webb was a regressive leftist or something, I would just have asks for sources (which I would like anyway!).
/r/MensRights20/08/17 04:12 PM
1

Leftist means a person with left-wing views, right? Left =/= Regressive left. Also, I like his comedy so I'm interested in what he's like as a person behind it - what dodgy things has he said?
/r/MensRights20/08/17 12:58 PM
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May be true for him. But as a lefty, left =/= anti-MRM. Someone being left shouldn't, by itself, be something to judge one on, and the MRM shouldn't position itself as any right/left political alignment.
/r/MensRights20/08/17 11:30 AM
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it should be noted he it's a staunch leftist What does his political alignment have anything to do with anything?
/r/MensRights20/08/17 08:52 AM
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I'm guessing that it's​ true if you have a low threshold for what 'counts'. If sleeping around or going on multiple dates, it's not unexpected to bump into someone who doesn't respect boundaries.
/r/MensRights18/08/17 11:15 AM
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Oh, that's sneaky. I would expect that the boys who drop out before they get to that stage are averagely going to be the ones doing worse. A straight A student is less likely to drop out than the student getting E's.
/r/MensRights18/08/17 10:59 AM
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It is such delicious cancer though. How deep down the rabbit hole does one have to go before they start thinking that men hate women so much that they become women just to invade their spaces and harass them? And people from both subs appear to have a belief that men are terrible lumbering beasts who are uncivil and mean. Saw a discussion this week where people on both sides talked about how men are shit, and if you get 2 men in a from they're practically incapable of being decent people.
/r/MensRights18/08/17 12:29 AM
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I'm assuming they are some brand of feminist over there. They're trans exclusionary radical feminists. There's an anti-sub against them called /r/gendercynical . Not claiming that's a perfect sub by any means, but they collect a lot of the crazy from /r/gendercritical .
/r/MensRights17/08/17 07:04 PM
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Yes, that's the method I chose (but fixed the life problem before I carried it out, fortunately). Though to be fair, would have been with a drop to hopefully break my neck, instead of the less pleasant strangle. There's no pleasant way to die. What suicide method one chooses is very individual based on which pros/cons matter to them, and what's available. Hanging is something that's well known, private, and easily accessible. I absolutely don't doubt that people choose it as a way to die, not ju…
/r/MensRights15/08/17 04:00 PM
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Last year - no. Didn't comment on anything either on the doodle topic, as I don't think it's that major. This year - yes. It would be nice in terms of visibility and acceptability, and this year's theme is the one they are most likely to approve of. If there's any year to push it more publicly, it's this one.
/r/MensRights15/08/17 08:49 AM
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I may have missed a lot, apologies if so. I'm just remembering this subreddit specifically - didn't see a great deal about the doodle before 2016's IMD, then there was a sizeable thread and a lot of people annoyed after IMD. I felt at the time that people's concern here for the doodle would have been better placed before IMD - like you described in your comment.
/r/MensRights14/08/17 01:48 PM
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but such activism is not supported by the liked of Elam/AVfM. He didn't even want to support and Multinational Call to Google with support from US, UK, Ireland, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa, Sweden, Norway, Germany, France, Spain, Portugal, Romania, India, Malaysia..... And all in THEIR OWN LANGUAGES! I'm very out of the loop on Paul Elam and avfm. Can you fill me in on what/why he was objecting?
/r/MensRights14/08/17 01:46 PM
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That's why there's a big overlap in members. But "advocating for men's issues" isn't the same as "being critical of feminism". I've seen people in here supporting the MRM who also describe themselves as feminists.
/r/MensRights14/08/17 11:00 AM
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I like this plan. Last year I didn't see much before, but people unhappy afterwards when there was no doodle.
/r/MensRights14/08/17 09:54 AM
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I'll agree with you that this sub can feel more like an antifeminism sub than a mensrights sub at times. Those things are very different (whilst members are likely to crossover a lot!). It's tricky though, because people in the MRM have certain groups of people who get very angry at the existence of the MRM. Those are what gets labelled as SJW (you know the kinds of people meant by that, the Tumblrish brigade), feminism (who won't allow the existence of male issues that aren't, ultimately, femal…
/r/MensRights13/08/17 06:15 PM
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Seeing as there's a couple of men's issues that are felt solely or most by certain demographics - like black men in court, gay men in homophobic countries (both of these issues being featured repeatedly in this subreddit) - yeah. I particularly love how the people claiming to care about racism and homophobia are quite happy to stop men experiencing those from discussing and dealing with those issues (like, say, how lesbians can use feminist spaces to tackle their side of things). Stopping MRAs >…
/r/MensRights13/08/17 06:08 PM
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I've seen the white supremacists enter /r/MensRights . I've seen the mods kick them back out.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 06:02 PM
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I'm not sure I've understood yours either now, haha. Mine is that a non-transitioned trans person shouldn't get into a single-sex space based purely on identity, and that this isn't going to happen anyway. Pushing for that to happen wouldn't do anyone any good.
/r/MensRights23/07/17 09:09 PM
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There already enough fun with radical feminists, don't need the growth of equivalent radical MRAs!
/r/MensRights23/07/17 08:24 PM
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Almost nobody. I've seen a case on reddit where a guy was put into a foster home after it was discovered that his delusional mother was raising him as a girl (and he didn't realise he wasn't one). Not quite trans-related, but close enough. But these kind of insane situations are few and far between. Generally the parents are trying to push a genuine trans kid out of being trans, rather than pushing a kid into it!
/r/MensRights23/07/17 07:02 PM
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Generally what adolescents get (if anything) is hormone blockers. This just delays puberty, and gives them more time. It means that if the parents are pushing them into something they don't want, it'll allow them to mature a bit and break out of their parents' control. Alternatively, if they are actually trans it'll mean that their body won't have already undergone permanent changes.
/r/MensRights23/07/17 06:45 PM
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Thanks for taking the time on that response, A+
/r/MensRights23/07/17 06:43 PM
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There are some spaces that are male-only and some that are female-only. There are times when it's relevant - toilets, changing rooms, places relating to sexual assault and such, sexual places, etc. Anywhere that it's a bit intimate. I don't see that this is a problem, and think it should be defended, both for male-only and female-only spaces.
/r/MensRights23/07/17 06:35 PM
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There's a lot I learnt second hand, from being let into other people's experiences, both from cis and trans men. Let me know if you'd be interested in any of that - the below is a lot of "believe" and "think", but it's the pattern of people's experiences that has led me to the MRM. Purely my own though - I was raised by an abusive mother. Despite being female during most of that experience, I am now in the position of a male with that history. I am far more cautious of saying things, and if I do…
/r/MensRights23/07/17 06:19 PM
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[On the specific points in the OP, rather than MRM and trans people in general.] It's a bit of a tricky claim to make. Trans people are in a complicated position. A trans woman who has transitioned and is living as a woman is more appropriate to be in female spaces than male. That's already the case in the UK. If someone self-identifies as female whilst not transitioning to female, they should not be allowed in female spaces. There really aren't many people advocating for this, and it's mainly r…
/r/MensRights23/07/17 03:05 PM
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I'm on the other side of things. Lived 16 years as a woman, switched over, and found that there were a whole host of male issues that I was previously blind to.
/r/MensRights23/07/17 02:56 PM
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Agreed. An ideology is not neutral, and can push a person into bad things when they aren't already bad. Germany wasn't a country of bad people. Just when there's cases that are out of the ordinary, like in the OP, that it's the combination of something like "I am convinced that she had equal parts bipolar disorder and chronic narcissism" and the ideology to direct it.
/r/MensRights22/07/17 02:21 PM
1

Oh no, I meant that a massive amount of progress has been made on recognising forms of male-on-female partner abuse. When very little has been made anywhere else!
/r/MensRights22/07/17 02:18 PM
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I just think society has a massive blind spot when it comes to abusive mothers, and feminism only makes it worse due to the Duluth model and their man-hating philosophy in general. It's very sad and bizarre. Within the community of adults abused in childhood, it appears to be quite understood that anyone can be an abuser. A quick glance at /r/raisedbynarcissists will confirm that. I suspect it's because when emotional abuse is included, the majority appear to be women with abusive mothers, so it…
/r/MensRights22/07/17 01:42 PM
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I see things like this with feminism like I do with religion (and yes, the MRM can used be the same way) - It's not the ideology that usually makes a person do bad things. But a person who is already bad can latch onto an ideology to direct and deepen their badness. My Dad has told me about how my mother's feminism influenced her thinking that men and women were the same in all regards... including the amount one needs to eat. Controlled the food until my Dad became clinically underweight. Her w…
/r/MensRights22/07/17 01:36 PM
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And a society that completely pushes female victims of female perpetrators under the rug. Well done to OP for adding to it.
/r/MensRights22/07/17 10:04 AM
2

There's been quite a few posts up here about issues of gay men (given that things that happen specifically to a demographic within men is a male issue). So much homophobia /s
/r/MensRights22/07/17 10:02 AM
1

Chill dude, chill.
/r/MensRights08/07/17 11:50 PM
1

Agreeing with what's already been said: Just in general, people of minority groups or women are much more likely to be listened to by outsiders, because it goes against their assumptions that it's just a whole big thing by privileged people wanting to oppress others. You must have seen how much people talk about how the MRM apparently doesn't care about [insert minority group/women here]. And trans people are the only ones, generally, who have experience of both, so can make comparisons in a way…
/r/MensRights08/07/17 11:40 PM
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I suspect that men in crisis don't seek/receive help. What's needed is for society to be more willing to accept men in situations of vulnerability. It shouldn't be a fight to get help.
/r/MensRights08/07/17 11:28 PM
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I hate the way that deaths get sidelined. "Men have a problem of dying from suicide a tonne", "well, women attempt more". So? Do men now not have a death problem?
/r/MensRights01/07/17 08:49 PM
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Yes, this. Cries for help ARE still incredibly serious. They are doing it because they desperately need that help. One thing I find interesting is that in UK, young women are the most likely demographic to have attempted suicide, but the least likely demographic to have completed suicide. That's not a percentage of the attempts, that's a percentage of the population whole. This would indicate to me that there's two separate phenomenon here of parasuicide as a call for help, and suicide as an int…
/r/MensRights01/07/17 11:04 AM
3

Wtf, you've been in cuffs/at gunpoint for being with your own kids?
/r/MensRights28/06/17 05:34 AM
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There's a lot of people who are kind of low-key feminists, who don't subscribe to all the tenets of feminism. If you bump into some random person who calls themselves a feminist (because they are pro-women's rights), they are likely not a feminist in the same way as someone actually active within feminism. Someone of that mindset who gets more involved in feminism may then decide to try and push feminism in a more egalitarian direction. Christina Hoff Summers being the obvious example. Can someo…
/r/MensRights27/06/17 02:49 PM
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There was a trans male who wanted to wrestle with the men, I believe. Wasn't allowed, had to compete in the women's, because born a woman yadda yadda yadda. Testosterone is testosterone. He flattened them. Won Texas state championship.
/r/MensRights26/06/17 08:23 PM
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Personally, I don't think you're giving the MRM enough credit. I am trans. The MRM, so far in my experience, has dealt with trans issues exactly right. By caring simply about male issues, then with some side-understanding of how it applies to certain groups, or how people are affected differently by male issues. I do hear acknowledgement of things you mentioned - I hear all the time that black men in USA are disproportionately affected. It's just that the ethnicity part isn't owned by the MRM.
/r/MensRights26/06/17 04:59 PM
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Many low-key feminists are not misandric. The 'leaders' are very often less reasonable, but if the scene under them changes they can be churned out. In an ideal world, feminism is egalitarian.
/r/MensRights26/06/17 04:45 PM
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More do. The talk has increased, and that's great, but now need to be doing things. Separate out the MRM and anti-feminism. They are not the same thing. One can be pro-MRM & pro-feminism, or anti-MRM & anti-feminism. I'm not saying don't criticise feminism, just that the MRM shouldn't risk defining itself by it.
/r/MensRights26/06/17 04:41 PM
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Fun fact. This sub, along with Tumblr in action, have been the most accepting of trans people I've seen on Reddit. Regardless of political views, they welcome them with open arms. The strange thing I've found is how anti-MRAs claim that the MRM is a transphobic nest, when most of the people involved with the MRM who I've come across have been really good on trans issues. I've seen both MtFs and FtMs featured on this subreddit, for example, as trans people can end up experiencing the issues of bo…
/r/MensRights25/06/17 07:06 PM
1

Welcome, fellow 'truscum'.
/r/MensRights25/06/17 07:00 PM
1

Just let kids wear what they like
/r/MensRights25/06/17 02:44 PM
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Thanks for the heads up - it looks positive and something the MRM absolutely needs, but I guess time will tell if it actually kicks off.
/r/MensRights25/06/17 12:37 PM
0

That was a joy and a half with /r/pussypass. What happened with the attempted takeover here before?
/r/MensRights24/06/17 12:43 PM
1

If that's accurate, then having it in the title is the biggest bullshit and you're right to call it out.
/r/MensRights24/06/17 12:33 PM
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Turn it around, imagine if someone said in a feminist subreddit on the subject of suicide, "There are times I just can't muster any compassion at all for the males of our species." Even if accurate (compassion is an emotion and you can't make someone feel), do you think that it's a statement that should go entirely unchallenged?
/r/MensRights24/06/17 10:22 AM
2

That's sick - anyone can abuse and be violent against anyone. If people had recognised that, he might still be alive.
/r/MensRights24/06/17 10:10 AM
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I haven't heard the phrase before. Is it something that is used in multiple ways - like, I might tell a non-black person that they're acting like an ape, but I'm not going to say it to a black person because of the racist connotations that would be assumed. Or is it a phrase specifically created and still used pretty much solely by white supremacists with racist intent?
/r/MensRights24/06/17 10:07 AM
1

UK school uniforms can be pretty crappy all round. By the sounds of it, this school was already one of the more lax ones!
/r/MensRights24/06/17 09:53 AM
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There are times I just can't muster any compassion at all for the females of our species. Society is shit for not caring about issues until it affects girls, but that shouldn't mean that you shouldn't care about the girls who are affected. The fundamental issue is that we should be caring for all those affected by an issue, not picking the sex that seems most acceptable for one to care about.
/r/MensRights24/06/17 09:47 AM
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Those 90%+ stats (at least the ones I've seen) are for rape, and by defining rape as penetration only. For example, here in UK it's not rape if a woman has sex with a man against his consent. As far as I understand it, the <10% female perpetrators are those who have penetrated with fingers or toys against consent. Men are defined out of victimhood, and women are defined out of perpetration.
/r/MensRights22/06/17 05:17 AM
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That title isn't helping anyone, though. Come on guys.
/r/MensRights21/06/17 03:49 PM
2

Look at the upvotes of the people supporting you, and the downvotes of the naysayer :)
/r/MensRights16/06/17 04:05 PM
2

She's a literal abuse apologist. That's awful.
/r/MensRights13/06/17 05:14 PM
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Access to abortions and shit, which is one-sided because of biology.
/r/MensRights13/06/17 05:12 PM
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I agree that this shouldn't all be about shit-flinging and we should all be supporting each other against sexism etc. etc. But there is a problem in feminism. My two big social issues I talk about are firstly transsexuals, and secondly male abuse victims. Feminism is the biggest stumbling block I've experienced for both. Women's issues are real and important, but there is an unfortunate truth that those who are most active in feminism tend to steamroll over other groups.
/r/MensRights03/06/17 10:10 AM
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Yeah, the focus on shit-flinging (from both sides) doesn't help anybody. Gendered issues are, in my mind, two sides of the same coin. If we want to change anything, both sides need to be tackled, and both should be working together. I do think in general MR tends to come out on top. Most of the other side will not even entertain MRAs, but I was kinda delighted by one thread that happened here in /r/MensRights. Somebody made a thread saying that she was a woman and women have no real sexism issue…
/r/MensRights03/06/17 10:01 AM
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Why do men make up most of the work-related injuries - is it by choice, or by disadvantage? To me that figure is relevant when there's things like claiming that the average salary of men and women should be the same (and it's only one factor to bring up then). The danger in a job should come with a price tag. I know I would rather not risk my neck, that's why I work in an office. Men have a higher tolerance of risk, so are probably always going to be the ones who choose dangerous jobs. It's very…
/r/MensRights03/06/17 09:55 AM
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Here in UK, women are 35% more likely to go to uni. Or 52% if we just look at those of economically disadvantaged backgrounds.
/r/MensRights03/06/17 09:43 AM
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What the fuck. stabbed her then-boyfriend in the leg after punching him in the face. She then hurled a laptop, glass and jam jar at him during the attack That's not even just a little violent.
/r/PussyPass16/05/17 09:10 PM
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Good job!
/r/PussyPass01/05/17 12:50 PM
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It does a much better job at fixing it than just saying how crazy one is.
/r/MensRights21/03/17 05:52 AM
4

You're saying that Hitler was an ok dude, then complaining about being called a Nazi?
/r/PussyPass02/03/17 06:34 PM
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No.
/r/PussyPass28/02/17 06:15 AM
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It is your fault that you are specifically pointing out Jewish names, not "people destroying white civilisation".
/r/PussyPass27/02/17 05:55 PM
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Premise 1: antisemitism is bad Premise 2: echoes are antisemitic Conclusion: Bad.
/r/PussyPass27/02/17 05:32 PM
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Yeah, I've seen things on the ACP about being pro conversion therapy. However, there's more people here on reddit who would be against claims on gay children than there are against the exact same claims about trans children. If Schveen is unable to distinguish between saying we musn't normalise homosexuality or transsexualism, they either have to discredit OP's source, or alienate a large percentage of people reading this conversation.
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 10:02 PM
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Again, I don't see what the harm to the kid is, if they have requested it?
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 07:52 PM
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Lol wow, you guys really are just seeing how far you can push this Nazi shit.
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 07:38 PM
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How so? They are quite capable of self-injury, and treating them like that if they request it.. Well, you can stop treating them like that if they request that too. My friend's brother asked to wear a dress as a preschooler. He was allowed to (even in public). He's now a straight non-crossdressing man. Don't see how it's the end of the world to let kids wear what they like.
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 07:29 PM
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Toddlers and preschoolers aren't going to be getting hormone blockers. Puberty doesn't happen until adolescence. In adolescence, hormone blockers are supposed to 'hinder proper growth'. It's temporary, and puberty will carry on as normal if stopped. It's only a short-term measure just to give a bit more time.
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 06:57 PM
2

Well they're not going to be given anything irreversible anyway, no-one is suggesting that they are??
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 05:35 PM
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I'm not sure I understood you, can you clarify? Young children do injure themselves. Hormone blockers are all that they are going to get, which delays puberty until they are old enough to make those decisions. The ones who don't get blockers and go through puberty are at great risk to themselves.
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 04:36 PM
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Teenagers are the ones more often injuring themselves, sure, but younger children do as well. I read an account by a mother of an MtF who said that around age 7, her then-son had got hold of a kitchen knife and threatened to cut off their penis. How about this 10 year old, who hanged themselves? http://www.thestar.co.uk/whats-on/out-and-about/gender-torment-of-10-year-old-cameron-1-233708 I'd wager that one of the major reasons that teenagers are more at risk is because of puberty. For example, …
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 03:16 PM
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Post content is worse. There's lots of uses of echos, Holocaust denial, etc.
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 10:10 AM
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Post content is worse. There's lots of uses of echos, Holocaust denial, etc.
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 10:10 AM
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Almost no children go through anything irreversible (with the exception of puberty). Kids may socially transition (change their clothes and name), and may get hormone blockers (delays puberty, fully reversible). I also don't believe that children should just have sex reassignment thrown at them, no questions asked. But the other extreme, to not allow anything, even just a wardrobe update? Children kill themselves. Children injure themselves. What can be labelled abusive is what Leelah Alcorn's p…
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 10:09 AM
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Oops bad typo. Hormone blockers are fully reversible.
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 10:02 AM
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1 The norm for human design is to be conceived either male or female. Human sexuality is binary by design [...] Individuals with DSDs (also referred to as “intersex”) do not constitute a third sex. Most trans people are binary, and are not claiming to be of a "third sex". 2 No one is born with a gender. Everyone is born with a biological sex. Gender (an awareness and sense of oneself as male or female) is a sociological and psychological concept; not an objective biological one. No one is born w…
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 12:17 AM
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It's virtually unheard of for children to get hormones or surgery. What's more common is hormone blockers, which just temporarily delay puberty and are fully reversible. Puberty, on the other hand, is irreversible.
/r/PussyPass26/02/17 12:00 AM
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Makes it easier when they don't pretend to not be a bunch of Nazis.
/r/PussyPass23/02/17 10:41 PM
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Might as well get some popcorn and watch the ship burn down.
/r/PussyPass22/02/17 08:25 PM
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I get why you need enough sample size - but I realise now that I may have misread/misunderstood what ColdBlackCage was getting at. It looked to me that they were claiming that the percentage of a smaller group would be non-useful, when they could have been meaning that the sample size may have been small enough for random variance to become a problem. In which case.... I don't know how the studies conducted their research, but lesbians aren't exactly unheard of, so they should have been able to …
/r/MensRights07/01/17 03:28 PM
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Why would you be more concerned about the number of instances of abuse in a group than the percentage of abuse, when comparing groups of different sizes?
/r/MensRights07/01/17 02:49 PM
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Join LibDems :)
/r/MensRights04/01/17 05:47 PM
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There's some groups and organisations that are open on the fact that anyone can be abusive, and anyone can be abused. I'd recommend taking a look at /r/raisedbynarcissists, which has a focus on self-centred, manipulative abusers. There, the most common relationship is a woman who was abused by her mother, but they get people of either gender with abusive mothers and/or fathers (or others). If you're in UK (or anyone else in a similar situation reading this is), this is a charity for adults who w…
/r/MensRights02/01/17 09:41 AM
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They then proceeded to democratically elect the Nazis and the Communists. Just like men did, too? Wikipedia states, "In terms of voting patterns however, a higher proportion of male voters supported the Nazi party compared to female voters."
/r/MensRights01/01/17 12:12 PM
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Staying with them isn't a smart decision, and I get the tough love of saying "no, that's a fucking terrible idea, she doesn't love or respect you, and what so often happens is people just stay with them and lose everything!". But saying that he deserves it, if he remains, for being stupid? Men who remain with abusive wives are usually neither stupid, nor deserve it.
/r/MensRights31/12/16 07:41 PM
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If not, you deserve it for being stupid. Abuse isn't as simple as many would like to think. Abuse is a gradual process where your empathy is turned against you, and you are slowly brainwashed so you can't even see what is happening. Victimisation does not mean stupidity. It's not like those Nigerian prince email scammers, which just target the internet-inept; abuse makes use of normal human responses and relationships. Everyone is vulnerable (except perhaps sociopaths?). This is doubly true for …
/r/MensRights31/12/16 07:10 PM
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For real, don't do that, but I do have an amusing tale. My Dad used to be in a very similar situation to OP, although my Mum would hit him around the face 'playfully'. He'd tell her not to. One time, she was doing it repeatedly, and every time he'd say "no", "please stop", "that hurts", etc. Eventually he hit back - once. She immediately broke down into tears about terrible wifebeaters etc.
/r/MensRights31/12/16 07:01 PM
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Inability to take responsibility... Sorry, but this doesn't look good. Of course I do not know your full situation, and I could be reading this the completely wrong way. like I shouldnt be telling her not to hit me Like you're the one in the wrong for being hit. like my feelings dont matter Self-centred, not seeing things from your perspective Like it's totally fine for her to behave the way she is. Not even seeing that it's a problem. Then she says why I made her mad and basically it's my fault…
/r/MensRights31/12/16 04:29 PM
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How and where do I get her therapy? How/where to get theray depends on where you live, what you can afford etc., so I don't know. How do I even get her to agree that she needs to do it? You can't force her to change. Change comes from within - she will only change if she wants to. I think what you may need to do next is figure her out, work out in your own head what her position is. It may be that she's just got this one issue, she's willing to work on it, and it all gets sorted out. However, yo…
/r/MensRights31/12/16 03:23 PM
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but I guess it's not that easy to stop the bad habit. There is one thing I read about domestic violence that stays with me. This was from a case where a husband was beating his wife. He said that he didn't mean to flip out - he lost control, and he was trying not to. He was then asked why he didn't do something like stamp on her face when she was down. Oh no, he replies, he would never dream of doing such a thing! So, he did in fact have control. He considered stamping on her face to be complete…
/r/MensRights31/12/16 02:39 PM
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Clothes don't protect the glans, they do the exact opposite - rub on it, so that it hardens over and becomes desensitised.
/r/MensRights31/12/16 01:08 PM
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It's just simply that men here don't like the idea of slicing off functional genital anatomy at birth for no reason. I'm from UK, where circumcision isn't common, and I cannot understand how USA just mutilates most boys. It's kind of horrifying.
/r/MensRights31/12/16 07:47 AM
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men infected with human papillomavirus are five times more likely to develop cancer than women Wait, then why are only girls getting the HPV vaccine? Have I misunderstood something?
/r/MensRights30/12/16 08:51 PM
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Mohring called for companies to offer women more flexible working and better career security and progression. Except, theguardian, under UK law that would be sex discrimination, and illegal. Yes, employers have been taken to court and lost because of things like this. One, if I remember rightly, was an employer who gave women more flexibility as they assumed women needed it more for childcare etc. They lost.
/r/MensRights30/12/16 08:46 PM
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Also remember that even if you're talking to someone who will not listen, the people watching the discussion might. There's a fair number of people who aren't set in their views, and will form them as they watch discussions.
/r/MensRights30/12/16 08:41 PM
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Slicing off functional parts of genital anatomy for no reason increases risk of a physical issue of one's genital anatomy, who'd have thunk it.
/r/MensRights30/12/16 08:33 PM
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Of course you are responsible for yourself. However, it is also manipulative for anyone to try and find ways to undermine your non-consent. Imagine your girlfriend asked to use your credit card to buy herself a swanky new car. You say no, use your own money. She later breaks out the alcohol, pretending to drink it herself whilst pushing more on you. When you're well drunk, she then asks again. You slur back "yeahhhh", and she grabs your wallet and goes. In that scenario, it's your responsibility…
/r/MensRights30/12/16 03:50 AM
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It's supposed to mean "don't take advantage of people". If you, say, got someone drunk with the intention of lowering inhibitions, then being able to persuade them into acts that you know they would otherwise not consent to, that's bad.
/r/MensRights29/12/16 10:53 PM
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YES IT IS!
/r/MensRights29/12/16 01:08 PM
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That's horrific
/r/MensRights26/12/16 01:26 PM
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You need to do it a couple of times to see how you tend to do. 13 scenarios with so many factors will show how people as a whole are voting, but waaay too few for you to find out anything about yourself. I've just done it twice, and got 100% female preference on the first, 100% male on the second. I'm doing it not taking gender into account, but it just so happens that what I am voting it on doesn't have equal genders either side.
/r/MensRights20/12/16 09:04 PM
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My favourite was the scenario where the car contained 2 cats. No people, just cats.
/r/MensRights20/12/16 09:02 PM
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Bait.
/r/MensRights19/12/16 07:21 PM
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You have no evidence for transexuality, you can't point to anything in the brain that proves it. Other than a couple of rudimentary experiments showing a couple of differences where trans people's brains are the way you'd expect for the opposite sex (not affected by sexuality), and the fact that it exists across demographics and cultures, no, there is no proof of transsexuality. And for that reason, I am absolutely aware that whilst current evidence indicates that it's most likely that it is, it…
/r/MensRights19/12/16 04:12 PM
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I'm bisexual. In my experience, gay men have been the most easily outspoken, regardless of their experiences. In straight men, it seems to be the people with personal experience. Though that could just have been my own experience and not the case in reality. I think it's worth bringing up how I've come across several 'gay' men - too many - who were technically bi, but had had a traumatising experience with a woman that obviously wasn't worked through with society's understanding... so turned ful…
/r/MensRights19/12/16 06:50 AM
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Seeing as it's in the DSM, that isn't true.
/r/MensRights19/12/16 06:05 AM
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You cannot draw that conclusion. Quoted from the study: It is therefore important to note that the current study is only informative with respect to transsexuals persons health after sex reassignment; no inferences can be drawn as to the effectiveness of sex reassignment as a treatment for transsexualism. In other words, the results should not be interpreted such as sex reassignment per se increases morbidity and mortality. Things might have been even worse without sex reassignment. As an analog…
/r/MensRights18/12/16 05:48 PM
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I don't see what that has to do with Charles Manson, but all right. There is no viable mechanism for someone to be 'worm-kin'. Most of them are no different from how people believe in religious and spiritual things, but if we just look at the mentally ill varieties... If they 'transitioned' to worm somehow, it wouldn't solve their problem. If you cater to those with distorted views of reality, nothing actually changes, because you haven't addressed their distorted view of reality. If you start c…
/r/MensRights18/12/16 05:46 PM
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... Your point being?
/r/MensRights18/12/16 04:57 PM
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Yeah, the opinion that transsexuality is a mental disorder (an opinion I hold myself) doesn't immediately make one a prick. What does is if someone is using "mental disorder" as an insult, to mean "you are crazy and delusional and illegitimate", stigmatising both trans people and the mentally ill.
/r/MensRights18/12/16 02:47 PM
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Thank you for your willingness to explore men's issues. It's really interesting to me that there are more and more transgender individuals who are drifting into men's rights and asking really good questions. It's because we've had personal experience of both sides, so it's no longer a case of "he said, she said". Plus it helps that the MRM is fairly open towards trans people currently, in my experience - people will collect around those who treat them well (that's why detransitioners cluster aro…
/r/MensRights18/12/16 02:29 PM
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Wait, I think there may have been a miscommunication... I wasn't saying that one's a bigot if they don't say 'they', I was saying that where I'm from singular 'they' is normal (completely separate from trans things). But there's other approaches to ambiguous sex. Some say "he or she". Some say just "he" as the default in ambiguous circumstances. I was just interested in how you would say things; this conversation was just about language differences for me. The only one I've got an opinion on is …
/r/MensRights15/12/16 12:17 AM
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I would just make it clear by context in that. Your sentence is when I don't know if it's singular or plural. If I do know, then "someone left their books behind" or "some people left their books behind". I just find it interesting that I'm going, "wut, that's normal", and you're going, "wut, that's bizarre". I'm from England; I think it's considered normal throughout here, but I may be wrong as I've never even questioned it. 'It' is socially seen as dehumanising (not just for trans people), so …
/r/MensRights14/12/16 11:45 PM
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Genuinely curious, because that first sentence looks fine to me - How would you say a sentence where the sex is unknown? Like in "someone left their scarf behind!!"
/r/MensRights14/12/16 06:17 AM
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Honestly, most trans students would find it stupid or offensive anyway
/r/MensRights13/12/16 11:48 PM
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"Someone left their scarf behind!!" I don't think anyone would blink at that? I've been using "they" as singular my entire life. Unless it's a regional language difference?
/r/MensRights13/12/16 11:40 PM
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FtM here, and yeah, I would say that MtFs have the worse time socially (though I certainly do not mean that FtMs are well-treated). It does have a lot to do with passing though, and I'm also not convinced on the argument of it being about value. Though "as if male sexuality is "fraudulently" infiltrating" does ring true for how many radfems see it. I do think though a sizeable argument can be made that transphobic people often see MtFs as men, and men are more likely to be 'punished' for strayin…
/r/MensRights28/11/16 08:08 PM
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Can go further than that. With the male issue of gender bias in court sentencing, which men are most affected? Black men, because there's also a race bias. I can list ways that men experience sexism or have issues that are unaddressed when they are better addressed for women. I can't for white people. The only thing I can possibly say is that here in UK, working class white boys have the lowest academic attainment. This white pride thing looks like a "privileged people not liking things to be eq…
/r/MensRights28/11/16 05:28 AM
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Uhh this rubs me the wrong way with the white pride sounding bullshit.
/r/MensRights28/11/16 05:20 AM
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The issue is simplified black-and-white thinking, in my opinion. If you explain cases of misogyny as, "women are an oppressed group, men have all the power and oppress women, society is made by and for men", then it skews your thinking entirely. You'll downplay misandry, and downplay the effect of women who have power over men, because it makes no sense in that worldview. I think it requires one to see the world as greyer and more complicated, and to focus more on people's actual living circumst…
/r/MensRights27/11/16 03:34 PM
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There are downsides to men in certain scenarios. A common mistake I see is the men in a good life situation going "well, men don't really have any issues, because I don't". Trouble is... Men with mental health problems, men with abusive partners, men who are divorced fathers, men who are being sentenced, are all examples of men who do experience downsides due to being men.
/r/MensRights27/11/16 03:27 PM
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We know that men can also be victims of violence and abuse but this international campaign is specifically encouraging men to think about how they can help end violence against women and girls. That's why there's similar campaigns calling for women to pledge never to abuse men and boys - oh wait.
/r/MensRights27/11/16 02:20 PM
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Do guys not shit at music events?
/r/MensRights27/11/16 09:43 AM
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A pile behind the toilet? You mean, they could miss the toilet entirely?
/r/MensRights27/11/16 09:41 AM
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What I don't understand is how they care so little that they actually mess everything up. You're right above the toilet. Pee straight down, and you're golden. The only way they mess it up is if they want to save 3 seconds, and push it out forcefully so that it sprays everywhere (including risking their trousers). Who does that?!?!
/r/MensRights27/11/16 09:39 AM
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Are any of these the case? A men's toilet is just out of shot There's just as many men's toilets as women's, but the one here is located at another area of the building This image is located in a single-sex female building so men are unlikely to be passing through If none of them are, then it's absolutely ridiculous. But without further info, I'm guessing that one of the above is most likely.
/r/MensRights20/11/16 09:15 PM
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I'm in the UK, and be careful here too. My Dad divorced my Mum (he was in what was, to my understanding, an abusive relationship, but didn't understand that at the time). He was instructed to continue to pay enough for her to live in the same house, which was now way out of budget as separated people. One hell of a legal battle, and his lawyer only got shit together when realising "shit, his account is about to hit £0, which means I won't get paid". My Dad was then living with his mother for a b…
/r/MensRights29/10/16 02:52 PM
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Hah, that's not the definition of gender neutral. I'm guessing there's the same thing on the men's loo about trans people, so probably not a men's rights issue. Just some dumbfucks who don't know what 'gender neutral' means.
/r/MensRights04/09/16 02:25 PM
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+1 to this. You can both support someone and not accuse them of lying, and retain healthy scepticism and not cut off the accused when you don't know the full story.
/r/MensRights08/08/16 09:40 PM
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If you fight for girls to wear skirts in your school in court, you'll win, because legally I believe there cannot be different rules for girls and boys. But many schools have separate rules for girls and boys uniform anyway, I guess because nobody has really contested it. There was one boy at my old school who wore an earring. I assume he'd threatened to take the school to court, as girls were allowed to wear earrings, so they just let him wear it.
/r/MensRights23/07/16 10:45 AM
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Depends on that school specifically. Many schools don't allow girls to wear trousers.
/r/MensRights23/07/16 10:41 AM
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The reality is that in the past girls had to wear skirts and weren't allowed to wear trousers (and vice versa for boys) which is obviously sexist which is why it has been changed. This is often still the case in school uniforms, rather than being in the past, unfortunately.
/r/MensRights23/07/16 10:41 AM
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Aye that was the case at mine. Boys boiled in summer, girls froze in winter. Girls weren't allowed to wear leggings either, only tights (which really don't keep the cold out at all). When there was nowhere to stay inside at lunch, the teachers never worked out why they were constantly kicking out girls who hung out in the toilets.
/r/MensRights23/07/16 10:34 AM
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For the life of me I do not understand men who engage in sex, you're already in an unfair liability situation with foreplay and you want to double down on that? You're just asking to be accused of rape by some headcase special snowflake who feels like you slighted her or didn't give her what she wanted. I.e. You can't expect men to stop having kinky sex with women for the same reason you can't expect men to stop having sex with women. Humanity just likes doing it too much, so people are going to…
/r/MensRights21/07/16 05:34 PM
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Ah - someone called Paul McHugh became a director John Hopkins, and he has a thing against sex reassignment surgery. Joined intending to put a stop to it, and did. So it wasn't the original people changing their minds, just a changing of hands of the institution. Key part in the study you linked: Persons with transsexualism, after sex reassignment, have considerably higher risks for mortality, suicidal behaviour, and psychiatric morbidity than the general population. This is not surprising. Peop…
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 09:39 PM
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What if they were just in a play and was dressed as their character? I can play stupid logic 101 too. There's a difference between someone dressing up, and someone having changed some physical aspects and full of testosterone. And someone who is "aha just in costume, you see!", and someone who can't actually take it off, and appears to be a standard male in the bathroom. Women aren't suddenly going to be made comfortable by "oh, he used to have titties, oh that's ok then!" Because you are stupid…
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 09:29 PM
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So you want someone who looks very much like a man, could have a huge beard, could have a penis, who nobody knows used to be any other way... To go into the women's bathroom. Aren't women going to be made uncomfortable by that? Isn't that going to put the trans individual at risk, as now he has to out himself? I cannot see who is helped by such a rule.
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 09:09 PM
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Homosexuality is not maladaptive, i.e. it doesn't cause distress/impairment in one's life, and isn't something that requires treatment. Transsexuality is and does. Mental illnesses usually have biological factors, not just environmental.
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 08:41 PM
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One difference - if you give alcoholics more drink, or tell a delusional person that their hallucinations are real, they'll become more dysfunctional (the problem and symptoms will increase, less able to function in work/socially/etc., higher risk of death or injury). Who are you referring to here? There's multiple pioneers, so I don't know which one you're meaning. Saying "wouldn't it be good if we had a better way of treating these individuals" is very sensible. But whilst trying to find a bet…
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 08:33 PM
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^ Agreed. "Mental illness" is not an insult, and should never have been used as such above.
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 07:03 PM
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That'd be great, if it existed. With the exception of informed consent clinics in USA, most places have months or years with the patient first - most people who have transitioned have already had a lot of ineffective therapy (and speaking of self mutilation, there's plenty of self-harm going on). If you can find a medical treatment that doesn't involve scalpels, these people would be willing to give you a tall pile of money.
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 07:00 PM
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Jeeeesus what. Surely this should have been sorted out in the lawbooks a long time ago. Singapore is the place where everything is illegal, like chewing gun, yet this isn't? Sounds from the article that it is being tackled, though: Justice Kan said the "better course" was to leave it to the legislature to amend the provision to make it clear that A includes a woman, if that was indeed the intention.
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 06:07 PM
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What do you do with the people with the mental disorder that is gender dysphoria? You've only told me what you think we shouldn't do.
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 05:50 PM
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What do you suggest instead?
/r/PussyPass12/04/16 05:45 PM
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Wait, I may have confused it with another. It may be the one I saw one year ago.
/r/MensRights03/02/16 09:34 AM
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Haha, upvoted.
/r/MensRights03/02/16 09:33 AM
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I don't remember, to be honest. Was a while ago, and I no longer have the lecture slides from when I was shown the figures. I should really try to re-find the source at some point.
/r/MensRights03/02/16 09:31 AM
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I believe that there's two different phenomena (both are serious, but they are not the same). A person experiencing extreme distress can end up doing damaging behaviours, one of which is self-harm. To an extreme extent, this can become life-threatening and be labelled a suicide attempt if the person takes a trip to A&E, even though death was not really the intent and the risk of death was relatively low. There are also 'suicide attempts' that are calls for help. For a clear example, a person ove…
/r/MensRights02/02/16 07:37 PM
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I spotted one of these in my birthtown ~3 years ago. Good to see the campaign is still running.
/r/MensRights02/02/16 07:21 PM
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I still feel like a sham for calling her abusive. It goes against every message I know. Women aren't abusers. Women are victims. Mothers aren't abusers. Mothers always do things out of love. Emotional abuse isn't real abuse. Only physical, sexual, and neglect is real abuse. Certainly doesn't help when trying to unpack it all.
/r/MensRights18/01/16 05:09 AM
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I think your comment is very balanced and objective, I like it. IMO, male abusers count on their victims being too emotionally traumatized to leave. Female abusers count on there being no recourse for their actions in addition to emotionally traumatizing their victims. Makes me think of a minor incident between my parents... My mother is 'playfully' slapping my Dad in the face in front of mutual friends, each time he says something like: "Please stop hitting me", "That hurts", etc. Eventually he…
/r/MensRights17/01/16 09:27 AM
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It's a scale thing. Just like that it's reasonable to poke somebody, but not to strangle them. It's reasonable to not want a partner being in contact with their ex. It's not reasonable to make someone have no outside contact (think of how cults operate in cutting people off). It's reasonable to lie. It's not reasonable to deny factual events, repeatedly, in order to gain control over the other individual, so that they don't trust their own perceptions. Gaslighting is particularly used as a cover…
/r/MensRights16/01/16 03:55 PM
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I think we're probably just talking about different things when we say "abusive", and may quite possibly agree fundamentally? I don't think being a bit mean to somebody should be considered high enough to gain the "abuse". In the same way that if I repeatedly poke somebody in the arm, I'm an annoying twat, but I'm not physically abusive. I'm only considering a higher level of things abusive. There's more things than threats. For example: Gaslighting is a technique whereby false information is fe…
/r/MensRights16/01/16 02:22 PM
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"so if i hurt someone by unintentionally falling over & stepping on their foot...i can go to jail for that?" Genuine verbal/emotional/psychological abuse isn't 'saying something mean' by accident. (Note that I don't believe it's possible to accurately criminalise it, because it would just be a case of "he said, she said").
/r/MensRights16/01/16 12:36 PM
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IvyLeagueBro probably has this many downvotes because this is a story about an FtM who is transitioned physically and socially as male, and now appears to have taken on everything (including the bad parts) of what being male in society means - he's part of what matters in Men's Rights. Taking the opportunity to get a jab in at an individual who is currently suffering due to sexism against men, as well as being a jab against every other trans person here, is a bit iffy. I guess we could get into …
/r/MensRights23/07/15 11:00 PM
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It's a shame that any reasonable point is buried beneath a pile of slurs and scaremongering. I particularly disliked the line: We’re just starting to see the results of letting gay couples bring up children.
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